She sent this in and called me...her voice was sweet and scared...i read her narrative and decided to post.....I didnt know we have stalkers in Nigeria ooooh.
Stella,
Good Evening,
Please share my story. I have been mortified all through the holidays, i want to know if i should have done something that i didn’t do and know this came to me. Also for all those who thinks a guy loves them, he might just be obsessed.
i will like to be anonymous please
MY STORY! NO ATTRACTION, LIES AND NOW A CUP OF CRAZY
My story goes like this......
i met this guy in Nigeria and i didn’t like him at all but everyone told me i am crazy to let him go that he was doing well, responsible home, educated etc. So i said yes to him and started dating him, i didn’t have any attraction to him at all. I complained to my family members but they said i was being too picky. I decided to give a serious try and be very commited to him and over look anything that irks me like his pot belly and how slow he is to walk and talk.
I was at trying ooh for like 1 year and then when i was about to leave for my Masters he proposed but i rejected the ring because i was still not there with the attraction and at that point i had a heart to heart with him and told him the reason i am rejecting the ring is because i am not attracted to him and I’m constantly struggling to spend any time with him yet alone get married.
He said he know but that it will come i need a little time to open up my heart. I left for my Masters and i was sort of relieved as God should have it, while i was there i discovered from his family friend in the USA that the guy lied about his status, jobs and some family background. I was so upset with myself and my family members because it was time wasted for me and how he tried to deceive me to marry him knowing all the lies he told to me.
Anyways we broke up after a year of dating, he kept on trying to contact me and send email, calls etc. I blocked his calls and emails and just forgot everything. I was doing my thing for two years (finished school and got a Job) and in the third year this same guy pestered my sister in Nigeria to please give him my number that he just wants to have closure and beg me for forgiveness. My sister called me to tell me he has been to her house and made calls to her pestering for the number and her husband is beginning to get irritated.
My sister said NO, but he kept calling she blocked his number but he always found a new number to call. Finally, my sister gave into the pressure and gave him my number and she called me and explained that we both need closure. I decided it is cool so we get the closure done so he can move on. The next thing like 3 months after she gave him the number this guy calls me and says in New Jersey let us see. I was like i will see you close of work tomorrow. After work we saw at a restaurant and he came clean about all the lies. I asked him WHY he said it was because of my family background he lied. Ooh well not to dwell on the matter i forgave him and we ate and i left.
I came back to Nigeria last year, he saw me at a party and started his pursuit again, i told him i am not interested he says it will come that i am just angry he lied. I told him point blank that i am not interested because i have no attraction towards him. He has refused to listen and still calls and begs we give it a try. i have blocked all 6 of his numbers and he keeps using new ones to call, he send me flowers to my office and home as if we are still together, he send me names of our kids in messages and some really crazy things.
My mum saw his mum at a wedding and she hugged my mum and said that thank God our kids decided to work things out. My mum was shocked cos it sounded foreign to her. She came back and asked me and i was like very shocked that he is so delusional to think we are in any sort of relationship. I was so mad that i called him to ask him why he is messing with my life and telling people we are an item, he says because he knows we are i just need time to come around and he will wait for me. At that point i decided that i will just totally ignore.
Now the scary part on 25th of December this guy had the guts to wait at my church and when church was over he embarrassed the heck out of me, (people will know me from this part of the story) when i went to get into my car at the parking lot, i saw this guy kneeling down at my car with flowers one hand and a ring in another. I ran away from my car and was crying and i called my mum on the phone and my sisters and he came walking towards me and i was running. People even started running with me because they were confused to why i was running, they later led me into church and restrained him from getting in.
Finally my sisters and parents showed and told him to respect himself that i do not want. He said he was taking a leap of faith. My dad warned him sternly and told him in his exact words “MY FRIEND ACT LIKE A MAN, MY DAUGHTER SAID NO”. finally he left and i was too shaken to drive so my mum got off dads car and drove my car with me in it. Getting home my mum called his mother and told her what happened she kept on apologising and saying that they didn’t know about it, they only knew he said we have worked on our issues but they wondered why i didn’t come to visit them. He kept telling them i travelled or I’m on a job assignment etc. So they never knew we are not even an item.
As I speak to you my parents are so scared, that we agreed that i go back to the USA that he might not be so well. So come Feb I’m moving back, i hope this will be the end of my ordeal. Please trust your instincts always it is a guiding force.
*ORIEGWU!
Woooooow!!! Obsession !!!!!!
ReplyDeleteThis obsession isn't normal though,
Ahahahhahahahaahhahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahah, can someone please help to stop laughing...ahahahahhahahahahahahahahah..kneel, one hand with flower, other with ring..running things..chasing things..ahahahahahahahhahahahahah..what out for that scene in my next movie..aahahahahhaha, I can't stop laughing oooo...egbami oooo..#theprisonmovie
DeleteSon of Solomon
Singing @Maria Carey song to @Eminem
Delete"Why are u so obsesses with me"
Ds toriment na wa wa ooo
It is well dear...don't mind him
@Galore
This is terrible , he needs prayer
DeleteDoes hanging around hopin U can get to see a gal yet no courage to even greet her counts as stalking?
DeleteMy two cent:
DeleteI think this is an issue of "society wedding fever". He want to marry an upper class babe like some of his friends (maybe). So that he can show off. #ThrophyWifeThings. After marriage, he will have hordes of gf to meet his need why the wife is just for show.
Also, because he is mentally unstable, he couldn't handle the rejection.
Have you/ your family gone to the police? If not pls do, Nig police can't do anything but just to have it on record.
Have you thought about being aggresive to him? Most of this type will crawl to their shell when the see proper "craze". Get into his space, tell everyone that cares to listen to tell him to leave you alone.
Maybe, just maybe. This will work and shame won't allow him close to you.
Finally, when you leave Nigeria, look for someone that will be codedly monitoring him here. To know his every movement.
*drops mic*
Rotfl
DeleteI had to laugh.
See by fire, by force proposal
So what if your family did not have money to send you abroad kwanu?
Hmmm
I thank God for your life
Please ladies, lets not date out of pity or under pressure. Love is not forced. And untop, the guy lied.
Abeg!
Sweety, pray o. And command him to stop following you.
He can even find you in that America.
Y does this story sound like Wole Aboderin and Oyin Adenuga's story???
ReplyDeleteLol
Delete.@Galore
Is it that the said Oyin cannot express herself in English? Poster you can't write to save your life. My 6yr old niece can do better than this walahi
DeleteLwkmd. Ezenwanyi so u know that their gist too? Ahah the boy's issue was delusion of grandeur raised to the power of infinity. By force pairing Ahah. So tey the Adenugas had to issue a press release ontop the guy head say dem no sabi am. You go fear disclaimer o. Shame
Delete@ Poster. I laughed when u said people in church joined u to run..lmaoo see disgrace o. Is it by force? Heck I can't stand passive guys. They irritate me...Haba!
A guy that won't keep me up my toes was a no no for me in time past. I cannot stand a guy that I'll tell to jump and he'll ask how high? Ahn. People will now say I don give am tohtoh water mixed with efo.. Abeg no way.
Is he that ugly and hopeless that he cannot find another woman? Is he twisted? Any physical impediment? I think I agree with you that he is mentally twisted. See person pikin and future husband stalking female up and down while some females are fighting over one man o. Person wey get cap don misplace head, and vice versa.
You should introduce him to SDK singles mingles for a chance date. Only I pity who'll fall victim. Not the best at all mehn.
That was the first thing that came to my mind too.
DeleteGood morning Ezenwanyi ibilibi ogada. I Love you:have you ever been with a woman?
Madam you kind of made him think you like him, when it comes to matter's like this always follow your heart never allow people make you date a man you don't want to date! A whole year with a man you have no attraction for??!! That is too much nah! Get yourself a new number. Always let your no be no and this goes to all girls.
ReplyDeleteYeah when I read d part of dating him for a whole year, and not been able to collect his proposal ring, I felt u had a little fault dere. But seems dis guy has been on ur case for almost four years now, and from ur story u don't seem to have been in any oda relationship since den. Well don't play with pple's emotions next time. And run as far as u can from dis guy, seems he has some self esteem issues. Wish u all d best
Delete@ Moi, easier said dan done... Oriegwu!!!
DeleteMOI you must be high on a cheap drink when u typed this, didn't you read where she said her family kept pestering her to give the fellings time to come? Get a new number? Do you think that will stop him when travelling out for two years, blocking his mails and several numbers didn't?
DeleteHian!!!
ReplyDeletePsychia case!
TL DR: The poster got pressured into dating a psycho
ReplyDeleteI think the dude is just a love sick puppy or a desperate gold digger.lol
ReplyDeleteI can imagine how you picked race and people started running without knowing you were running from your suitor! You must detest this guy...
I just pray he doesn't lose his mind like I have seen on Crime Tv..
Don't be scared dear. From your story you have family willing to listen,comfort and even confront the guy if need be..you will be fine!
Very funny and scary. Love isn't by force, maybe he is having issues with moving on hence the obsession. Your decision to go back to the USA is a good one. I pray he does not trace you there.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm it is well
ReplyDeleteLmaoo Ajebo things.
DeleteDon't worry poster he will get over you it's only a matter of time.
Feb ke YOU NEED TO MOVE BACK ASAP o
ReplyDelete@ jojo,, pls if u don't have any reasonable thing to say, don't come and waste commenting space here. To comment no b by force. Did you even read d poster's story??
DeleteMy thots exactly. Before he kills you and himself. Go now and get a restraining order. Mail it to him that if he comes near you again, you will make sure he doesnt enter the US again because you will mail everything to the embassy. Make sure you notify all his siblings , friends and colleagues so he knows you mean business. No time
Delete*Eyes wide open* in this Nigeria? The man is delusional. Or maybe he sees you as his forever meal ticket. What kind of obsession should I call this one cos its definitely not love. He found u out in New Jersey and will surely locate you again.
ReplyDeleteThe only remedy is to get married to another man. Am sure he will finally let you be by then.
Hian! And the more he chases you Obsessively the more you simply abhor him..lol
ReplyDeleteVery correct.
DeleteI once had someone like this at the university.
His was not so terrible as to be labelled a stalker.
Dude was tall and handsome.
Everyone else thought he was quite the catch but I couldn't raise any feeling for him.
I cringed when he touched me with his soft, sweaty palms.
Always going on about what his parents bought him/would buy him.
Real mama's boy.
The more he chased, the more I detested him.
After some time, I couldn't take it anymore.
I connived with my tough friend to pretend he was a cultist and scare him off.
Poster needs to "man up"
Go gangster on him.
He knows you are too "ajebutterish" to do anything serious about his case.
Will you call your family to fight your battles for life?
At the ill-fated proposal, I would have walked straight to my car, stared through him and zoomed off while pretending to hit him. Even given the flowers a flying kick to send the message home permanently.
Oriegwu indeed! (Wonder whereLinda is). This one na real gobe o. Poster, i'll advice you to hasten up your relocation plans cos this man sounds likea time bomb.
ReplyDeleteClick my name for all your celebration cakes and cupcakes, cheers
I tire I really do miss @linda Eze. Stella please where is Linda Eze?
DeleteAbeg that relocating because of him no follow jare. Say who die? I'll so deal with him that he will be the one to relocate.
DeleteWhy would I leave town cos I no want a guy and he wants me? So if she had no means of going abroad she will relocate to their village? Nonsense.
Get a restraining order against his ass. Oops this is Nigeria. Just go to their house and call his family to warn him, disgrace him in his territory by issuing him a sound note of warning in the presence of his parents. Trust they'll deal with him if they have any iota of shame too.
loooool..homie is crazyyy for sure, this is a pure case of obsession in the highest order, baby girl am glad you followed your heart on this, always trust your instinct at times,..bottomline, that homie definitly has some loose screws upstairs, really cracked me up with THE LEAP OF FAITH shit..lol
ReplyDeleteloooool..homie is crazyyy for sure, this is a pure case of obsession in the highest order, baby girl am glad you followed your heart on this, always trust your instinct at times,..bottomline, that homie definitly has some loose screws upstairs, really cracked me up with THE LEAP OF FAITH shit..lol
ReplyDeletePoster, I kept on looking back as I was reading your story.....this is somme serious Shit. please ur mum should keep away from his mum. I strongly believe the guy is mentally imbalanced and they know but they are hiding it. They want the son to get married and have children b4 the madness will overtake him. I've actually witnessed a similar incident, however in this case, the lady was unfortunate enough to marry the guy. After some time, she started noticing that he was not very alright,lol... she took off the day the guy almost killed her for coming back late or sth of the sort.
ReplyDeleteMake sure he dosent get hold of your numbers,address or what have u. I don't know if the US will be safer for u since he comes over. Oyibo wey dey like mind their business. Na so person die inside house, six years nobody know. Be careful, next time u see him around you, pls report to the appropriate authorities and get a restraining order.
But most importantly just be careful, sometimes people who suffer from schizophrenia are not deterred by anything. They are ready to kill the object of their desire and kill themselves join.
Hope I have put enuf fear of God in u. BE CAREFUL...pls tell ur mum to cut off all ties with his mum, his family are very wicked ooo. they wanted to rope u in. Those are not friends but devils. Abi dem wan take say dem no know say their son they craze. Oriegwu.
"Abi dem wan talk say dem no know say their son dey craze " Hahahahahaha
DeleteBabe Pele, but seriously I don't think relocation is the solution here. What if he comes to d US? Will this guy make u go on a world tour before he leaves u alone. What I think ur parents should do is to get a restraining order from the police and also make him sign an undertaking that no harm will come to u. Goodluck in whatever u decide tho.
DeleteBibi my dear sister
DeleteThey know say their son dey craze.
If he is schizophrenic, then ermm....sister you then have to go spiritual. so he doesn't hurt you.
He is sick!!
Bibi...why are you scaring her like this na?!? eh?
On 2nd thought poster, the next time this happens, u need to make sure he gets arrested by the police. but u need to explain to the police that he sshudnt be placed in a cell but taken to the psychiatric hospital. That's wat they usually do to people like that. When he gets to the hospital, the docs will ask him some questions and his replies will determine wat next to do. I'm telling u his parents know of his condition.
DeleteOriegwu no b smal one. Mtcheeew!! I dnt even understand dis novel she wrote sef! Stay there and b talking nonsense very soon u wil start looking for who to snatch her hubby! Rubbish!!!
ReplyDeleteHaba...u obviously look unhappy or pained or even both...guessing some1 must av snatched ur hubby in da past cos i wander y ud make such silly utterances...Nwayz wch ever it is,d poster is not d causer of ur frustration,so deal with it
DeleteSo she should marry him? Your comment is worrying.
DeleteHahahahahahaha Lmaoo ooohh! Funny you james juliet.
DeleteThis is the first time I'm commenting on this blog after more than 2 years of being a reader. I was so moved by your STUPIDITY. May u be stalked or have an obsessed lover make your life miserable, then you'll understand. I always wonder why people insult strangers on blogs, in your own case, u deserve a good slap to reset your brain. Probably then you'll understand what she's talking about.
Delete@ James Juliet, are u d sister or brother to dis psychopath hounding d poster?. If not, I wonder oo. Bcos for you not to understand dis post, it's either u didn't finish from school or School finished you
DeleteAturu! Read Juliet..read comprehend assimilate and understand issues before taking off! Life doesnt revolve around snatchers and snatchees Ishhh
DeleteWho is this idiot? Smh so she should say yes to a man she doesn't love just to have a man so that she won't snatch someone else husband?
DeleteMtscheew
You should have drank garri with dettol before typing this or you might just be very ignorant or plain.. lemme just cool down
DeleteSo you want her to marry a psycho just to be a Mrs. ?
You did not even bother reading it?
I have nothing to say to you.
It's your type that would advise girls to jump into a wedding gown and get married to just any man so as not to remain a miss!
Hmm
Na wa o! And maybe one girl will be killing herself over same guy but yet he's busy being obsessed with another! Please be very careful, cos people like this can kill, if he gets close to you in anyway,arrest him! I no want,na by force?
ReplyDeleteHian!!! Na real oriegwu o!!!!
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm.Let me sit down and read comments. I just wish that GEJ would stalk me like this.*sobs*
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteMe too *wails*
DeleteThis one na real wa o. Only watch such on TV never believed such could happen in Naija. Nothing is as good as a superb instinct. It is well
ReplyDeletePele!!!
ReplyDeleteBlog analyser: hehehehe! This funny and strange. The truth is that he is obssessed with u. It might take a while before he forgets u. I really don't know y u don't like him. Any its a crazy situation coz one he might just harm u and call it love. Ur idea is just the best. Leave and come back later
ReplyDeleteThis one na real see me see GOBE..... But holy water and sprinkle on him he will become normal . Ok bye
ReplyDeleteThis guy you are running from,some girls will accept him..dnt come and cry later that you are lookin for husband
ReplyDeleteNot everyone is desperate abeg shift
DeleteSo she should settle for a lunatic? Naija mentality is seriously warped.
Delete@ Efe Kevin, u talk like someone dat has no choice. Are you suffering from low self esteem?
DeleteSo she should marry craze man because girls are looking for husband?
DeleteAre you even up to 12years old because your comments r too immature
I don't blame you men. You think marriage validates a lady. God punish all of una
Bullshit! I had a similar experience. Not this bad tho. But he would insult any guy he saw me with. He would park near my office n wait to see me then run after me. It even made me detest him. My sister called me one day n heard him shouting and crying at d background and she said to me "if you are not careful, that guy will kill you". That was my wake up call. I moved (luckily, my rent had expired) and stopped driving. I closed at odd hours, either too early or too late. I stopped going out unnecesarily. I changed my number n closed all my social media pages. I warned my siblings n they understood.Guess what? I am happilly married to sm1 else
DeleteSee fish brain! Smh
DeletePoster please drop the guys details so kelvin can link His sister to the guy
DeleteThe way insensible things just roll off some people's tongues is just amazing!
*lowers voice * kelvin go and read that post again. Not only did he lie, he proposes without invitation!
The guy is obsessed with you. Such obsession can be fatal. Stay away! Never disclose your location to him henceforth. Your family members shouldn't as well. Report the matter to the police when you(not naija police oh! Those ones are useless)
ReplyDeleteNa wa! I tag this your disturbing story "Fatal Obsession"
Naija police are not entirely useless especially wen u give them "small thing"
DeleteNa Lof sha ...Seemz D poster iz really going to be a Hot chick ...Dz 1 wey d guy dosent want to let go
ReplyDeleteIfot
ReplyDeletetang akpaniko eyen eka mi
DeleteHahahahahaha I laugh cause am in same situation now, tot I was d only one going thru this, plz run for ur dear life cause some guys are crazy and their family does not know.
ReplyDeleteBlood of America!!!?!?
ReplyDeleteOxygen and Magnesium
Which one is blood of America again now? Lol
DeleteI cnt wait to read how bloggers wil insult u, EWU gambia! No b today we see sumbody lyk u. Very soon u wil start goin frm one church to anoda looking for anyhow husband by den u wil said u dnt mind being a 5th wife. Mtcheeeew!
ReplyDeleteYou are one of those desperados. You think SDK BVs are desperate women. Please go to where you will find your type
DeleteShift and while at it get slapped on your mouth, you will feel better
DeleteKeep reading. So far it's just u dats on his side. It's people like u dat will push their sister into a killers arms.
DeleteYou're an idiot people like you always settle for less
DeleteDo you have a problem reading??
DeleteHow do you spew such bullshit?see get it in your numb skull she's running away for her life not chasing a man away(that's if we can call him a man)
@ James Juliet, are u sure ure normal? I'm sure ure suffering from d same brain disorder dis delusional psycho dat is stalking d poster is suffering from
DeleteHave seen your mad comments up there.
DeleteIf u r guy no wonder. Cos you reason like the mad fellow.. only fools like you will insult her. Read thru all the comments and see that sensible people understood her story but craze man like you is blaming her.
I have been stalked by a mad man and I know what it feels like
Na you stupid pass. Nobody insulted her and nobody will. Thats not how we roll on this blog. Instead na you we go insult. Fool. Better go and polish your english first. 'You will said". Said what? Not every one is desperate like some of you. Afterall, the poster is even at risk of getting suitors (those who genuinely like her and those who may not but just want her for her background). So please your advice is for you. Marry your own stalker to avoid being 5th wife. Ewu gambia
Deletenoone will insult her one track minded Juliet!
Deletearrrrrghhhh open your mind !
Stalkers exist dont be such a down-trodden-ive-got-self-esteem-issues-sounding-chica!
Chill Juliet ..look before you leap don't marry a psycho in your desperation
desperado!
DeleteBiakwa oo, I di alright nwa. U wrote the first rubbish,e no do u, u come right the next one. Not everybody is as desperate to marry as the female members of ur family. Y don't u introduce the guy to them. Olodo. Tufiakwa gi.
Deletefeb is too far,the guy might be mentally unstable, just watch your back
ReplyDeleteposter I'm assuming you r probably in ur mid 20s,dont you have a bf yet cos like u said ts been over a year u broke up with this your stalker of a bf...if u do hav a bf,den tell him to go warn that foolish goat of a stalker maybe he'd listen...cos it seems d stalker dude is obsessed with u,n u knw all ds obsessed being are mostly sick upstairs and they have tendencies to commit murder;biko stay away from him if possible sef,change ur numb again or go report him to d police and mk him sign an undertaking that if anything happens to you,he would be responsible and that he would be arrested if he comes close to you
ReplyDeleteStory that touches...
ReplyDeletePlease, if u don't have any reasonable thing to say,,, STFU!!
DeleteHummmm could dis b love? Lolz wahala dey oooo
ReplyDeleteThis is serious!
ReplyDeleteLooool @ running n church running with u!
ReplyDeleteI couldn't stop laughing #dead
Crazy crazy crazy
ReplyDeleteSDK! I tire for you and your people matter.God help us
ReplyDeleteFunny thing is that I've seen worse... And yes, in Nigeria! The dude is doing fine and I still want to know why he just wants this. ONE girl... Don't want to go into details but I inclusive have posed as this girls new man and threatened the guy countless times, yet, it falls on deaf ears... Imagine when this guy gives this girl over 1000 missed call some days... Really crazy jerk!
ReplyDeleteThey pose as boyfriend ooo.. dem neva beat the living daylights out of you before
DeleteGosh I'm scared reading your comment. And some low self esteem girls will marry that kind of guy.
DeleteHmmmm dis one is by force love.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmm.
ReplyDeleteLol @ running and people were running with me ...seems he is a retard !!! Really scary ,u ain't safe as well as ur family..I think u should report this case to the police fast
ReplyDeletehmm are you sure you arnt chasing away your future hubby,this one he is chasing you with flower and ring,i hope in ten years to come you wunt be the one chasing him with shiloh,mountain of fire,14days prayer,21days prayer and fasting,oppression taketh it by force prayer crusade.babes check am well oh,my sister married an ugly man oh and my other sisters that married six packs,tall and handsome arnt pampered, like her oh.from your description this particular man loves and cherished you because he sees you as a gold and can equally become a good husband as i de see am.na my opinion oh
ReplyDeleteFuture husband that is a liar. Mark my words any man that trails u like this is an obsessive psycho and if u fall for him u will be back talking about he is abusive etc
DeleteEverybody that begs a woman is not her husband abeg
DeleteI wish you a man like that.
DeleteThe issue has passed the guys looks na. Abi u can't read that he is a future wife killer.
DeleteHe's obsessed. If you can afford DSTV premium bouquet, watch Stalked on channels 170 and 171. You won't comment like this next time.
DeletePeople like you make me wonder if seriously your brain is highly functioning
DeleteUjunwa, everybody can't be desperate like you. If you choose to have low self esteem,,, your biz
DeleteAnd your opinion is worthless as you are. You must be a male from your useless comments. I hate fools who specialize in telling women that they will run from pillar to post looking for husband.
DeleteAre you God?
Ujunwa..your opinion not the posters opinion..freewill..she no want ehhhhhh
DeleteHappy new year SDK. Na me be Atlanta USA based Olofofo that will be bringing in alot of ist class fofo to you and your fans.tighten up your seatbelt as our 2015 gosip will b taxing now,ready to go airborne. One love everyone!dont get it twisted
ReplyDeleteAtlanta... aka Lagos headquarters. Smh, first time at d airport in Georgia. I'm like wtf is this. Am I in lagos. Pidgin, ibo, Yoruba everywhere. God I love Canada before you even see 9ja u go waka small.
DeleteHmmmmm......what won't one hear. my dear u made the right choice cos he could be planning worse. Many have experienced acid bath cos of this. Pls limit ur outing until u live the country thou it still won't guarantee your safety cos have heard of stories where after several years the lunatic still killed the lady's family so she could marry him. The lord is your strength so don't forget to commit into God's hands
ReplyDeletei hope the bobo no dey read SDK blog to know your next move.
ReplyDeleteMaybe Stella will help you edit the last part of your story to keep it from him. Becareful with who you disclose your information to. Stalking is a serious matter. It seems he has means to get what he wants which makes it more dangerous.
It is well
Sensible comment!! I concur
Deletelol...i can imagine.
ReplyDeleteStellz im also in a similar shit as dis and its so frustrating. Sometimes i wonder how i ever got involved in the whole shit.
Continue to ignore him oo, the worst tin dat can happen to any woman is to marry out of pity, you will so regret it. Imagine waking up to dat pot belly nd his snaily manners all d years of your life.Just pray to God to help u.
Lol @ snaily manners
DeleteThe guy is suffering from schizophrenia it is a kind of mental disorder the makes the sufferer delusional and not in touch with reality. They believe things that are not as if they were. Some everyday people has this illness and they call it "over-confidence". My advice to the poster "run", when you wake up the next day keep "running". Keep as much distance as you can, this guy is not in total control of his senses, he won't be blamed when he kills you, because that is what he is planning next.
ReplyDeleteHaHahahahahaha Jenny!
DeleteYou don diagnose the guy now now?
Schizophrenia is more serious and deadly.
I don't think sufferers can function normally.
They are the ones beheading people and then going ahead to eat an icecream over the body.
Woah!
ReplyDelete*Ayah Shehu*
Abeg move away. I know people here will brush it off but guys like him are psychos.
ReplyDeleteLOLZ at you running and the church folks running with you as well. LOLZ.
ReplyDeleteSome dey find husband others dey run from the husband.
Just cos a man proposes does not make him her husband.
DeleteDats life for u
DeleteThis your own is still fair. in d final quarter of last year 1 dude was begging we date. Nice and cool but I wasn't interested. Foolish me gave him my number and felt we could just be friends. I saw he'll! He would call me so much that I began to hate having my phone around me. I had to buy a nokia phone and activated 'number screening'. I even told him I have added his number to my number screening but dude kept calling. You'll see 21 missed calls within 15 mins. When I'm passing by he will chill in the street knowing I will soon pass. Always begging and trying to convince me against my will. Dude was crowding my space badly! He even told his friends and they joined in asking me to consider. No matter how rude or insulting I was he'll stomach it all. One day he met me and began to cry! Infact until these things happen to you, you'll never understand this post. I guess he resolved to stop in 2015 because I'm yet to receive any since 1st of this year, hallelujah!
ReplyDeletePls abeg guys like that are dangerous. I know girls will say awww he loves u...na lie
Delete21missed calls? You never see 79missed calls before?
DeleteI swear wirh everything i'd become.
My battery don.enter red by the time i woke up. Phone was on silent.
If not that i made a vow not to speak ill.of him after we broke.up, i for send my story too.
Someone that sent me a text announcing his own death and burial arrangements.
Or is it the day he kept his slippers under his armpit and was walking barefooted. Come see begging. I cried my eyes out. Had to call a friend to come and talk to him. On the road oh. At night.
He would text me that he was on.his way to.Chicago that he would miss me and i'd see him around again.
He would tell me he just took Sniper, come to my place, threaten to drink hypo, stab his wrist, form imbecile etc.
Being faint hearted, me didnt know.it was all in a bid to make us come back.
Yet he was the one that cheated and was spreading shit me.
Olorun maje ka pade werey.
I had one like that. Who didn't pose as my boyfriend? Even had my dad answer his calls and he begged my dad to help him beg me! He would buy new sims to call. I'd save each new number Olodo 1, Olodo 2 etc. He would call till my battery ran down. Thank God he didn't know my house. The texts nko. Had just one line then. I had to take out the sim and buy a glo. I didn't use that line for over a year. Best believe that the day after I inserted that sim, homeboy started calling. Had me speak with a girl who pretended to be his fiancée so I'd wake up?! Even his brother would call to beg. Finally, my Hausa cousin pretended the number had been reassigned. He tried a few more times and I always gave my cousin the phone till he stopped. I can laugh now but it was scary and creepy then.
Delete1st of this year was just yesterday. Give it time. I'm sure the psycho is cooking up new ways to lure you.
DeleteStill be very careful biko...men like that ehn probably watching you from afar and waiting to mess u up at any slight opportunity
DeletePraise the Lord!
DeleteAm happy with you.
Creepy stuff, be very careful and alert poster, I've seen lots of stuff like this in movies, guys like this are dangerously dangerous . Be really careful
ReplyDeleteLmao,sorry I had to laugh!!!The "brother" is in love....
ReplyDeleteWow! This is obsession and not love. I had an experience like this b4...very scary! Good ur family members are aware, obsessive people are highly delusional and dangerous! *shivers*
ReplyDeleteLol sounds like a nice movie. Glad you are leaving the country. But don't think that will stop him
ReplyDeleteNa wa ohh d guy is in lust or maybe love u never can tell. Very funny story
ReplyDeleteToo long a sad tale.
ReplyDeleteWho wan read this one this new year?
I hope u have new year resolutions ...if u talk like d way u write stuff here ...then I think u need to be reborn so u can have proper home training ...appears to me u r a street girl ..just talks nonsense all d time ..never makes sense..psheeeew
DeleteWho wants to read ur nonsense this year about ur imaginary white man u fucking junkie? Dirty Benin gutter snipe. Pig! Ashawo one kobo
DeleteODE!!!!
DeleteOdinno ezigbote egwu.
ReplyDeleteThis is pure obsession, I fear guys that are obsessed, they are capable of killing (as evidenced by psychopath/sociopath novels we I don read). Good you are moving back to the States, far from him. His family should get him some help and if it persists, see if you can get a restraining order so that when next he comes too close, you can have the police pick him up
ReplyDeleteLWKM
ReplyDeleteWerey rey oh.
That running part, typical Nigerians
Pele bae.
Madam Irene, i saw your reply under my comment.
It wasnt my tooth afterall. It was a gum infection.
I'm taking anti-biotics now and i feel better.
Thanks a lot.
Hia! R u sure the guy is mentally okay? Or maybe he sees u as his meal ticket!
ReplyDeleteOMG!!! Dts some scary ish...
ReplyDeleteStalkers really exist... Had my heart in my mouth yle reading...
I can only imagine d xmas day drama... lol... D guy is crazy.
Dts how one stalker was dusturbn my rummie in skl.
He ws always @ d hostel seeking her... Cums wif gifts sumtyms bt i never accepted t on her behalf. Never let him into d room.. Always told hm my rummie wsnt arnd...
After sumtym, he resorted to letter writing n trust me, dose letters were scary. Statn how much he loved her, how he cud kill cos of her, how he had schizophrenia n psycho ish n how his doctor told him dt he needed love to get better...
Thank God he ddnt av her fone no..
Was always scared of bin in d room alone, make dem no con kill me ontop anoda person case...
We later reported him to security personnels in d hostel b4 he stpd cumn.
My dear!
DeleteAnd some BVs are telling d girl to marry him so she doesn't remain single in the next 10 years.
Is it marriage or happiness bikonu?
This man can kill!!
Poster drop his number so all d desperados can contact him.
Woah.... Lord have mercy
ReplyDeleteI know a guy that was so obsessed with my friend, he would call me to call her severely, kept threatening her that he would kill himself and the funny thing is, he was the one that cheated on her n treated her like shit...
ReplyDeleteThey are always like that
DeleteIm here just to read comments!
ReplyDeleteYou have to block any unknown caller or simply dont pick any unusual or unfamiliar number on your phone. May God protect you from your stalker.
ReplyDeleteIm here just to read comments, since stella and her goon, correcter-whats-her-name always swallows my comments!
ReplyDeleteHmmmm...best way outta this is to just find you a better guy, get married and have kids.I'm pretty sure, that way he'll calm down.
ReplyDeleteAnd who told you dat will calm him down? Its like you don't know d meaning of obsession
DeleteNah wah o. Stalking in Nigeria that's strange. The guy must see you as a meal ticket. Abeg borrow leg and run from him oh before he does something stupid.
ReplyDeleteHaba! That guy cannot be a Nigerian man!
ReplyDeleteNig man obsessed about a woman? Oriegwu!
That one na yaba left patient
The guy is sick. Abeg, run as fast as you can. All the best.
ReplyDeleteNa wah.
ReplyDeletePoster please have him arrested the next time he tries to embarrass you.
Hian!
Love na by force?
What am I even saying sef?
Arrange some correct agbero boys to reset his brain for him.
LOL
#Kidding
You can be sure that this guy has done this kind of thing before. His family know that he's a bit of a psycho. That's why I always say that naija families will always lie about their sons just so someone can marry them. Imagine the mum playing potential in law with your mum. My dear, shut this down now please so we don't hear about you on the news.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm,very serious matter.I had one that always found a way to follow me up on all social medias,even if I block him,he'll lay low for some months and resurface with full force
ReplyDeletethis life us funny sha those u want don't care,those u don't want wouldn't let u be how ironic
**lululiscious**
Ewwwwww! I got goose bumps just reading this. What a messed up fella...... I don't know if leaving the country will help tho. Cos the creep has the means of travelling too..... only God can save you from this kinda menace.
ReplyDeleteWow! Oriegwu indeed!
ReplyDeleteScary
ReplyDeleteThis one pass soultie weh I deh hear for church. Bros love you no be small. Somebody have to slap him into reality. And i think you should get married asap to someone else maybe he would go away.
ReplyDeleteHmm, oriegwu indeed!
ReplyDeletelmao
ReplyDeleteI had to laugh@ people started running with you. You should move as soon as possible, the young man is obsessed with you and he can do something dangerous.
Story for d gods...*in olamide's voice**
ReplyDeleteITS OBSESSION, NOT LOVE. MAYBE HE DOES LIKE YOU- BUT IN A DANGEROUS WAY, NOT A WARM, MATURE AND UNDERSTANDING WAY. BE VERY VERY CAREFUL WITH PEOPLE LIKE THAT. HE CAN HATE YOU FOR NOT LOVING HIM BACK AND COME AFTER YOUR LIFE OR WISH/CAUSE YOU MISERY. AVOID CONTACT OF ANY KIND WITH HIM. YOUR FAMILY TOO NEEDS TO BE CAREFUL. PEOPLE LIKE THIS- OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE LOVERS- CAN KILL THE WOMAN THEY LOVE AND WEEP BITTERLY AFTERWARDS, EVEN WORSHIPPING HER MEMORY. THEIR LOVE TURNS TO DEEP HATRED WHEN NOT RETURNED. THEY ARE EASILY JEALOUS AND BITTER IN RELATIONSHIPS. ITS A SAD THING. TOO BAD U CANT GET LEGAL RESTRICTION ORDERS IN NIGERIA.
ReplyDeleteME TOO AM ABROAD. I HAVE SOME FORMER CHYKERS WHO STALK ME EVERYWHERE- FB, LINKEDIN, TWITTER, INSTAGRAM. ONE EVEN SAID HE IS PRAYING EARNESTLY FOR MY RETURN- WHEN I DINT ASK ANYBODY TO PRAY ANYTHING FOR ME. IT JUST BAFFLES ME HOW PEOPLE PRAY NEGATIVELY FOR YOU JUST FOR IT TO SUIT THEM- WHEN IT MIGHT NOT EVEN BE IN LINE WITH UR DREAMS. ITS SELFISH, NOT LOVE, NEVER LOVE. I DONT THINK U SHOULD PRAY FOR A PARTICULAR BEING TO LOVE YOU- I DONT THINK GOD WILL MAGICALLY FORCE ANYONE TO LOVE ANYONE. PRAY FOR GUIDANCE IN THE CHOICE OF A LIFE PARTNER, PREPARE URSELF RIGHT AND LET GOD WORK D WONDERS OF HIS WILL.
Na wa O
ReplyDeletePlease pray! Pray! Pray! This isn't normal
ReplyDeletePray! Pray! Pray! This isn't normal
ReplyDelete@poster babes are you absolutely sure you are going to be save in the U.S? if you ask me I think you need to be under the watchful eyes of your family you come across as really vulnerable and I don't mean to be derogatory if he comes bothering you again I suggest you do something that would shock him to his bones a move that would make him realize that this is over I mean why do you even have to run away in the first place? you are not the fugitive in this story.
ReplyDeleteMasters degree with all these bad grammar
ReplyDeleteBaba obsession leleyi o .
ReplyDeleteThe running part got me laughing hard,lol.
D babe name money bag.free meal ticket. The boy name social ladder climber.name to reach the highest echelon the babe name the easiest passport.no be psycho case. The parents name part of the game.
ReplyDeleteGold digger and lazy bone...
ReplyDeleteSaid: Abu Zamani
Poster u said he lied about his status, which status? Marital or HIV
ReplyDeleteposter abeg pack your load and kaya and run ,i have walked that lane before ,run and dont look back.If you like arrest him ,if you like call agbero ,he wont stop ,better he doesnt smell you around,so run abeg ,i wonder what you doing till february .
ReplyDeleteHmmmm! Babe abeg flee! Dis is real psycho case! Leave d country asap nd u nd ur family shud change all ur numbers. Call d police asap if u notice him around! Hez insane. Love bakwa oku! Kuruum
ReplyDeleteI believe you should have waited until AFTER you travel to send this in. Won't he find out about your departure and try to do domething stupid?
ReplyDeleteGet him arrested
ReplyDeleteSame tin happened to a friend of mine some years ago, d guy would call a millions times, she won't pick his calls, she had to change her phone no at some point, he will come to her house crying and begging her to date him, came to her office to create a show! She had to relocate, and change all her details b4 she could breathe! Pls poster run as far as u can....pyschos every where!
ReplyDeleteHmmmmn na wa oo
ReplyDeleteJust be carefull my dear
Haba as in...This guy is a disgrace to manhood.Is she the only girl on earth?And you girl u made the big mistake of leading him on b4.Folo your heart anyway and let your No be No.That guy fall my hand o.U no see oda girls every wia....!shoooooo.
ReplyDeleteMajority of Nigerian men are like this. Stella I'm surprised you are shocked we have stalkers. They can never take no for an answer and think you are playing hard to get. At least she dated this one so I can understand why he has small hope; my sister met her stalker at a work training and he got her number somehow but not through her. He calls her up to 10 times a day with text messages inbetween. She never picks his calls nor replies to his messages since she discovered he was a lunatic but that hasn't stopped him. Nigerian men change your ways, it's not an attractive quality at all.
ReplyDeleteBetter relocate cos he will never stop.
ReplyDeleteMy stalker gave me hell,this is a guy that saw me somewhere,traced me and started writing letters.I didn't know he was a stalker so I was okay talking with him at first,then he visited me once while in school,bought me Mary kay eyeshadows.This was way back in 2004.After the visit,I lost interest and told him I'm okay with being just friends but he didn't agree.This man would call so much that my phone batteries died,eryday 100 missed calls.
There's nothing I didn't do.I begged,insulted,ignored.NOTHING.His friends and family started calling me telling me to consider. He starte calling my parents and siblings who at first were tolerant and even chiding me for being rude.That's until they understood what I was dealing with especially when they witnessed his incessant calls.Even if u answer the phone and leave it on,if his credit finished,he'd reload and call back.They asked him to leave me alone,they shouted on him,threatened him,it didn't work.I got my friends to threaten him,it didn't work.
At a point I began to lose sleep and became very fearful as he was calling me more and more,I'd change number and he'd find out.Always sending credit to me and my siblings and friends for no reason. I had to leave Nigeria,I thought this would mean freedom but he found my number and started calling again.I had to send fb messages to all my contacts to warn them not to give my number out again.
When he couldn't get my number,he stole my pictures on fb,pasted them on his wall and was writing poems,he also awnt friend requests to every fb friend on my page.I reported him to fb authorities,and asked all my fb friends to block him but he kept opening new fb pages with new names.
This was still happening till 2011 when I got married.While in Nigeia for my wedding,he sent someone to block my househelp telling her that she should tell me my fiancé (ie him the stalker) is waiting for me.I was so scared on my wedding day,my heart was in my mouth and I kept looking around fearing this man would show up and do something.
I am abroad with my husband,I still fear anytime I'm in Nigeria.He hasn't called me again but a friend told me he contacted her and told her he's my fiancé but lost my number.She immediately told him off.I have since left all social media and deleted all traces of me.
Stalking is not a joke.And there is no support for people who suffer this in naija.If someone hasn't gone through this,they won't understand.
Poster please relocate.He will never stop.
Sorry for the typos and if I'm incomprehensible.
This is so serious, this is what we call big trouble in little China.
ReplyDeleteI can't believe people are saying she should just accept him, that he's her husband. Is that how desperate and low some of you can stoop? Later they will come and post tear-jerkers for us to read when the root cause is self-esteem, desperation and narrow-mindedness. Poster, the Lord is your strength. Go and buy pepper spray.
ReplyDeleteSorry...
ReplyDeleteMy dear yours is better, mine was a lady.Stella so this pretty lady walked into my office in april 2014 and I was asked to attend to her which I did, I was friiendly, always smiling and all that and she complimented me cus am so beautiful and when she was leaving she said she sells human hair, clothes and all that so pls can she add me on bb and I gave her my
ReplyDeletepin.Hmmmmmmmm(,my nightmare) I wont call her name cus shes so popular in abj but I didnt know because am more of an indoor person after work. We started chattiing,
became bb close friends, sent mee pixs of hairs tho I didnt like most of the hairs (she doesnt even sell hairs that was her strategy of getting my pin) so one friday she invited me out for a friends get 2gether and we went from there to club , we had fun , drank, mixed up with people and ended up sleeping at my place, and we had sex(Yes we did). Am not a lesbian but I was horny and it happened and I taught it was same for her, just a wild night.
Men she was into me , she tormented my life, calls me every now and then to check me up, who am withand all that, she drives pass my house just to ask my gate man questions .God, I was so pissed and it went on and on and I apologized for that night but she wouldn't let go. I get off work and Isee flowers, perfumes, cards on my car and my office gateman tells me some lady brought it and said is from my bf (Lies) Oh sorry did I
tell u I met an old friend at the party who called me much later that week and said, So P are u now a lesbian? I was so embrassed and I said NO and
he said the girl you came with is a known gay girl ( stella thiis lady is gorgeous,shes not a
tomboy kind of lesbian, shes beautiful,u cant tell) I was shocked and he told me pple were staring at us like how come this hot girls are into themselves .she told her friends at the party thats her gf(I felt ashamed) . So I confronted her that day , told her to drive pass mine and I explained that night was a mistake, pls forgive me, forget it ever happened and she begged nd begged nd begged, cried her eyes out and iit got worse, she started putting my pics up on bb, whatsapp, told her friends to cal me, I will c 100missed calls in 30mins.her fellow gay girls werecalling me and begging (chai, I hear am ) she started threatening my gfs, neighbours .There was a day a friend came to mine .We chilled , and I was driving out to drop my friend at her place and she was jst drving pass my house, I acted like I didnt see her o, we drove off I never knew this fool followed us to my
friends place and she was harrassiing my friend(am in love with P, if I dont have her nobody will ever have her) my friend insulted her as I came to put mouth , this girl slapped me oand I was mad (gave her d beating of her lifetime with my friend) I had to open up to my bf, got her brother s number thru the form she filled in my office (nxt of kin) this girl took me to police , kept me for like 2hrs but my bf sorted it out because she called her ex gf who came to testify that is was a girl issue (hello, girl issue????? Hmmmm) we for go jail 14yrs. And my bf decided we go c her in d hospital, we got there and she was apologizing( I love you, I want tomarry you, ii cant do without you, your priceless bullshit) infront of my boyfriend. I was hell lastyear with that girl up until lastweek she will send 50txt in a week and says she will never bug me again and the next this another message, I actually prayed cus it was a problem for me but I thank God since this yr she hasnt called or txted me cus shes off my bb. This stalkers are real.ive learnt the hard way because I hate hurting peoples emotions but in 2015 my No is my No.
Wow. This is serious. I have a female friend who had such experience but I don't think it was as serious as this.
ReplyDeleteI wish the man well tho.
This reminds me of 'stalkers in crime channels, watch ur back always poster n dnt stay alone, have cctv arnd too
ReplyDeleteThere is something definitely wrong with him!
ReplyDeleteSince you will be going abroad, you can go to the police if he persist. Best of luck.
Nitty.
www.thenitty-gritty.com
No bv saw this in church? wow! since he found you in jersey, he'll find you again....you should try and resolve it here and now...So scary... many are mad, but few are roaming. ..
ReplyDeleteYou are lucky to still be alive. Let's hope that your moving back to USA will help.
ReplyDeleteI can imagine how u take tear that race, Lol.
ReplyDeletefor a guy to be that desperate, he get agenda.
he reminds of one psycho that asked my best friend out, just like Ur case,this guy has doctorate degree in pestering,he went as far as kneeling in the rain with bottle in his hand,saying words like 'take me back or I die' (hoping to break the bottle and probably stab himself) lol
so such psycho are more than one in the globe.
#i see dead people#
Your family has to come up with something serious for his family. Warning,written verbal or otherwise. Hope you know it's not love. Its pure obsession. I just pray you stay far far away from him.
ReplyDeleteSorry dear. Please watch out for yourself more. Its a lifetime ish hope you know, so come up with something serious. Goodluck run far far away. Change numbers too.
You will type long message to send and it will just disappear. Very annoying.
ReplyDeleteBefore I read comments, lemme post mine. Hope you see this poster. From what I can understand here, the guy is also from a comfortable home. Pls don't do police things, nah. Do Antirobbery or Army. Arrange for them to pick him up. Running won't sort it. Let them torture him. He won't dare come close to you. Running will only ginger his swagger. And pls, never underestimate the power of prayers.
ReplyDelete#NahMe
Please allow him die quickly so that we can eat burial rice, damn, kill himself? What arrant nonsense
ReplyDeleteWeldone ...girl go get a life in d USA...let him keep fooling himself lair lik him
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