NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
FALLING IN LOVE AND CROSSING BOUNDARIES
Hi Stella,
I love your blog. Please share my dilemma with your readers so I can get advice.
I studied in the United States, in one of the so-called 'Party Schools'. So at school, I did a lot of crazy sexual stuff with a lot of female students- Gangbangs, orgies, etc. Real crazy stuff.
At school, I met a fellow Nigerian dude and we kinda hit it off and became closest friends during our 4-year undergraduate programme. When we finished school, we returned back to Nigeria where we started a business together. That business has become very successful today. My friend knows about my crazy past in school and he even used to preach to me about sexual purity, abstinence, etc even back in the day.
About some time last year, my friend and business partner, hired his younger sister (who had just graduated from a University in Europe) to join our company. Thing is, this girl is amazing. She is beautiful- she's a good girl, fears God, has a kind heart and is very intelligent. Bottomline - I'm in love with this lady. Madly in love with her. She is a few years younger than myself, and when I dream, I see her as my wife. But I fear to approach her in that way because of my relationship with her brother.
I am no longer the sex-crazed adolescent I was back in college. I'm a different guy now- mature, responsible and God-fearing. I'm actually quite active in my church and so I abstain from sexual immorality. But my friend 9at the back of his mind) still sees me as this crazy person.
I'm in love with this girl. How do I make it known to my best friend that I'm in love with his baby sister (whom he is so protective over), without ruining our friendship or jeopardizing the business we've taken years to build.
I'm in love with this girl. How do I make it known to my best friend that I'm in love with his baby sister (whom he is so protective over), without ruining our friendship or jeopardizing the business we've taken years to build.
Help a brother!
*Hmmm This is really dicey,I would have told you to take your eyes somewhere else to find love because you are about to pull off the string off a time bomb by attempting this but then what do i know? sometimes the best love stories come from taking risks.
Does she return your feelings?
Is she in love with you?If your intentions are pure then be a man and tell your BFF.
Make i siddon look abeg
Hmm mm. ....like Stella said, if ur feelings are true then man up nd tell ur friend but before then make ur intentions known to the babe nd c if the feeling is mutual. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteHmm dude Holla at me... I'd like to get to know you ;-)
DeleteLwkm! Hahahahaha. The statue though! I Cnt stop laffing @ dis pic. Stella u re something else
DeleteGo for what you heart wants, if the feelings are true...
DeleteBut, your friend should know you have changed because, you do business together...
If truly you have, it should be visible enough for him to know.
Well, I wish you well.
Stella your seats r just crazy...rotfl
DeleteWhere do u get them for crying out loud?
Poster numero uno...if you are a repentant casanova your friend will know by now, so nothing to worry about if u love his sister. but if otherwise, then maybe that is why u do not have the confidence to tell ur friend that u want his sister.
DeleteTruth is, friends would rather allow their siblings be with a friend they can vouch for. And such friends wouldn't want to hurt a friend's sister if he has a conscience. So if u won't hurt her, please go ahead. But u haven't told us if the feeling is mutual anyway.
More comments pleases
DeleteThis what my mum use to say,dont ever use your today to spoil your tomorrow!
DeleteHummmmm wat about if she's seeing someone else someone dat she truly love and want to settle down with? Hummm throw it to your friend as joke his reply will make u decide on d step to follow.....#goodluck
ReplyDeletePoster Na Sidon dey look I dey o. Chick loving this ur new dp.
DeleteChyAda tnx dear.
DeleteAsk for God's guidance and wisdom, then as Stellz said, you can take the risk.
ReplyDeleteMake ur feelings known to the lady involved, tell her about your past. It's either she accepts or rejects, nobody will die.
ReplyDeleteThe brother will object at first but he will come around if he sees you as a positive influence in his sister's life.
If ur intentions are puré And d babe loves u back,i see no problems.just go to d brother n let him know....
ReplyDeleteBuh shey u know d guy wil be on d sidelines watching.watching u like à Hawk.and any nonsense from u,he wil treat ur Fuck-up! LMAO!
8 billion people and it's his friend's sister he saw?
DeleteOriegwu
Poster cast your net elsewhere.
Even if u never had a sordid past I would give u d same advice.
Yes if ur intentions are pure, and no boyfriend and girlfriend things, and u want to marry her straight, why not, if not, just tell d brother about ur feeling for his sister, b4 then, make sure dat d feeling u are having for her, dat she reciprocate back, or else u are on ur own. I wish u well
DeleteGuys are usually over protective when it comes to their younger sisters and their friends dating. If your intentions are genuine and you've truly changed (which should be obvious to your friend) plus, if the feeling is mutual between you and the lady, I'll suggest you talk to your friend about it first and get his approval before telling the lady so as not to affect your relationship and business with your friend.
Delete@TGW: I like your dp.
Its gona be hard for you to convince him.I suggest you tell him nothwitstanding...
ReplyDeleteGoodluck
Don't tell your friend you want to date his sister. Make up your mind if you really want to marry her then discuss it with her first and if she feels the same way for you , then tell your friend you like and want to marry his sister.
DeleteMind you, if you try any use and dump tricks with his sister it will completely ruin your friendship and business. If indeed he is your friend then he should know that you are now a changed guy and won't make any trouble out of your noble intentions.
All the best.
Well I think you should try and know if the lady in question is in love with you as well. Even if she's not badly in love but at least be sure that she also feels something for you before telling your friend. Pray about it and let God do His will.
ReplyDeleteDnt know but I just feel things will turn out really bad..dude ur friends knows about ur past nd u think he wil let you wife his sister knowing fully well that you may go back to it someday even if you never get to but that's what will be going through his head when you tell him..take it frm me..find someone neutral just to be on the safe side
DeleteWell I think you should try and know if the lady in question is in love with you as well. Even if she's not badly in love but at least be sure that she also feels something for you before telling your friend. Pray about it and let God do His will.
ReplyDeleteI believe that our past belongs somewhere and that's behind us, everyone had a past that's including your friend. Please, don't deny yourself the opportunity to be happy, talk to your friend, tell him how you feel about his sister. Find out from the Lady if she's interested (she might be hooked you know) then pray.... Talk to God, and follow your heart. I wish you all the best
ReplyDeleteNice one...
DeleteCos u don't know her past too even dou she's now a born again',the reason her bros has an edge over u to judge u is cos he knows ur past!what if he doesn't know?so IMO,he shouldn't be too hard on u if he is a matured and civilised guy.
Ask him confidently since u said ur intentions are pure,hmmm but I hope they are really pure dou#scratches hair#to avoid ur brains from being blown out.lol!
*has*
DeleteLove is a beautiful thing
ReplyDeleteIf you both feel same way abt each other, tell the brother. But words will not b enough to convince him that you hv changed. Actions speak louder than words.
All d best
Me, I still dey find love
Sdk you & this your sit eeeh.If you sure you havve really change just tell the brother.Avoid long dating oooo. May God bless the beautiful heart sealed with Gold for me.
ReplyDeletePoster is the feeling you have for the lady mutual? If it is talk to your friend about it and am sure he'll reason with you that's if you haven't given him any reason to doubt your new character since you came back to Naija. All the best
ReplyDeletelol stella,dat your statue na one in town, abeg mk i siddon small too
ReplyDeletePls look elsewhere and don't complicate issues. Business is businesses!
ReplyDeleteSdk you & this your sit eeeh.If you sure you havve really change just tell the brother.Avoid long dating oooo. May God bless the beautiful heart sealed with Gold for me.
ReplyDeleteBe a man and Tell her jare if you know you really love her before you do that you have to convince ur friend that you are a change person like when the two of you are busy just look at your watch and said oh I have to go to church there is a programme or try inviting him just convince him with any other things. Say beautiful thing s about her sister in front of him and see his reaction
ReplyDeleteinvite her 2 service,so she will know ur comitment 2 God.after sometime propose to her,those things u did are your past.euery christain nows dat 'old things have passed away behold all things have become new.and there is no condemnation 2 them who are in christ jesus'.
ReplyDeleteNne ds ur Sidon look mode/picture cracked me open walahi, oga poster sort yourself out Eni small thing wey worry una straight to sdk blog 4 solution hian all ds advice no be free'oo, we gats begin dey charge 4 free counseling Lool!
ReplyDeleteNne ds ur Sidon look mode/picture cracked me open walahi, oga poster sort yourself out Eni small thing wey worry una straight to sdk blog 4 solution hian all ds advice no be free'oo, we gats begin dey charge 4 free counseling Lool!
ReplyDeleteEeyah, I think u should explain to d babe first about ur past so dat her bother will not be d 1st to spill it.
ReplyDeleteLet her know it was ur past and u are a changed person now.
Tell ur friend, then if it is God's will 4 u to be together, it will surely be no matter d hurdles.
Goodluck!
What will be will definitely be........
ReplyDeleteMake a move......
Y are u scared if u hav truly changed??
D brother would have noticed a positive change in u,so what are u waiting for again......
Try by making d girl look ur way or even fall in love with you.
First where stella dey see all these ancient chairs?
ReplyDeletePoster,if you are a changed guy like you claim,it should be seen all over you and your friend should also know .i don't blame him though cos he might believe you are only pretending. And probably the terrible things you did to people then is really taking its toll on you. Please I don't wanna imagine .But if your friend won't let you,look for a neutral person biko allow the good girl meet a good guy
Good. The poster shd take chill pill .after molesting and gang raping a lot of girls out there,he now intends to settle down with a good girl.Mba
DeleteHe shd locate the girls he did terrible things to..change my foot
Emm...anon,i dont remember reading that he gang-raped or molested anybody. you can look up some of the words in that post
DeleteOk what's the meaning of Gang Bang???School me @banku
DeleteHmmm... dis matter get as e be o, first of all u av 2 b sure she at least likes u too, den I think u av to man up and tell ur frnd hw u truly feel abt his sister jst d way u've told us here... God help u!
ReplyDeleteHahaha... Stella just has to put up a statute sitting down looking... Like Stella said man up about your feelings to your friend that is if his sister is in love with you too. We all have a past, some worse than others, thank God for God. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteHahaha... Stella just has to put up a statute sitting down looking... Like Stella said man up about your feelings to your friend that is if his sister is in love with you too. We all have a past, some worse than others, thank God for God. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteChronicles at this ungodly hour. #yawns
ReplyDeleteSdk abeg i no wan laff dis nyt o. Now ur not sitting on one of ur seats, na Sidon look u dey. Me follow you sidon dey look oh.
#Na sleep sure pass o'jare#
*Drags d seat*.. Stella,abeg try shift for me make I manage this small space nah.
ReplyDeleteYoung man its not about telling him, what about the sister in the picture, have you started dating her? does she love you also? Or you are still living in fantasy land thinking if the brother agrees she'll agree? Forget about your friend and business partner for now, your ultimate goal should be trying to win the heart of the young woman, once you are able to do that, your job has been made easier. If you can't win her heart, don't even bother telling your friend because you might just be wasting valuable time.
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Exactly, cos he dnt mention if d lady loves him back, she never gree for u, u de talk of her brother, u r on a very long tin
DeleteSometimes when we are asked to refrain from crazy things, it is not only because of present consequences. You can talk to your business partner, try complimenting her to him and see what his reaction will be. Yes, she is an adult but her family consent is important. I sincerely wish you the best, if bros no gree other girls dey. When you marry, keep your head in one place. At the end of the day, no man holy pass.
ReplyDeleteDats a no go area poster..u re trying to xhibit ur playboy attitude again by even thinking about ur friend sis..let it go bro,u don't love d girl..#sipMoetnChandon#
ReplyDeleteThank you
DeleteAs if girls no boku this country na him friend sis e see
Approach the lady first.no use taking the risk of messing up the friendship between her brother and you over something that might not work.if your feelings are really genuine and she is receptive,then you both can figure out a way to tell her brother.Together,you stand a bigger chance of getting him to give his blessings
ReplyDelete*KARMAisabitch
Na wah oh.Please talk to your friend first.
ReplyDeleteLife is all about taking risks. Take a bold step and see how it goes. And if it doesn't go well and he warns you to stay away from his sister. Pls do. There's no harm in trying. I wish you well. This is what happens when you have a shitty past.
ReplyDeleteThere is harm.
DeleteBig harm.
And life is not about taking senseless and useless risk
Y does he want to ruin a great friendship and business because he doesn't want to cast his fishing net afar?
See we are not Jesus..we don't kno how to wipe the slate clean ad forget your past. We always look at u now with the old eye. He has said his friend still looks at him with dat eye so y e wan find trouble?
Approach the lady first.there is no use messing up the friendship between her brother and you over something that might not work.if your feelings are really genuine and she is receptive,you both can then figure out the best way to tell her brother(And I hope its marriage you are proposing).Together,you stand a better chance at getting him to give his blessings.
ReplyDelete*KARMAisabitch
Hmmmmm. Past come calling. Sit ur BFF down n tell him that ur intensions r genuine. Abi u no know how to rub sugar for mouth take talk?
ReplyDeleteThis is a serious one o.. A beg Stella borrow me chair wey get attiku blokos abeg...waiting for comments
ReplyDeleteBros just watch and pray
ReplyDeleteThe fact that he is protective of her doesn't mean he can't trust u to cate for her. Just tell him you have feelings for her so it would be known. Trust me he might be thinking u r the best for his sister sef
ReplyDeleteIf I hear.
DeleteStory for the gods
Best ni. Best ko.
Oriegwu
Bianca coolie down lol, ur blood dey hot for this chronicle lol
DeleteWell said, Stella. If your intentions are Pure but the funniest thing is that it may just be LUST, like d case in 2 SAMUEL 13vs 1-17. Pray about it nd discuss with ur friend. May God help you. CherishD.
ReplyDeletelove cant be hidden.
ReplyDeletemaybe the brother/best friend already knows and is waiting for u to man up.
the lady in question might have same feelings and wishes but would have to be a lady and wait for u.
i say give it a shot sir.
speak to her brother first, tell him wat u want, he should be able to tell if u are skimming or not then speak to her.
i wish u the best.
but i hope its not lust u feel for her though, this one that u r already dreaming of her.
Stella its so right
ReplyDeletelove cant be hidden.
ReplyDeletemaybe the brother/best friend already knows and is waiting for u to man up.
the lady in question might have same feelings and wishes but would have to be a lady and wait for u.
i say give it a shot sir.
speak to her brother first, tell him wat u want, he should be able to tell if u are skimming or not then speak to her.
i wish u the best.
but i hope its not lust u feel for her though, this one that u r already dreaming of her.
@poster there is nothing to be scared of here so long as your intentions towards the girl is pure before God and man...
ReplyDeleteHere is my 2cent;why not talk to the girl and get to know if she has feelings for you just as you do;if on the run long everything works out between you two;you can then tell your friend about what it is you both share and how you want to wife this lady in question...truth is he will still have your past escapades in mind and might prove to be stubborn at first towards you intention;but all you need to do is prove to him you aint the same person you use to be as of then..and you can easily do that by talking marriage plans with him and how you wanna go see his family soo as to complete marriage rites and then spend your lifetime with this young lady...
But whatever it us you are doing;make sure your intention towards this girl are pure!! Cos if you ever venture into your old lifestyle with this girl and dump her later;you will not only lose your friendship with this guy but also your business partnership and everything you two have worked for...
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Madam Stella I no get wetin to say buh all this your artifact them, no be here ooooo
ReplyDeletedicey indeed
ReplyDeleteSitting ryt next to u stella.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha, forget the poster's dilemma. That picture just cracked the hell outta me and I can't stop laughing. I shall also sit and await comments.....
ReplyDeleteThere's no harm in trying... Just be sure you are gonna be serious with her...
ReplyDeletecome for me, i am so availabe ooo
ReplyDeleteThe narratives took forever! I've refreshed endlessly..... i'll just read comments
ReplyDeleteBut if u don't send in narratives she can't post na..
DeleteAbi?
Ya'll should send in your stories. Stella won't formulate stories for your enzoyment
if you are truly in love with her like u claim, then I'll advice you to man-up and tell her bro...but you must also be quite sure that the girl has same feelings for you..God be with you!
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, make your intentions known to the girl first and your friend. Above all, put it in prayers first and good luck in your pursuit. xxx....Cold Steel
ReplyDeletelet me sit down and read comment
ReplyDeleteThis is a case of ones past affecting his future. This is why one should live a decent life at all times just so it doesn't come to bite u in d future. I have done somethings in d past that when I think about them, I'm forced to tell myself 'Eka I'm disappointed in u'
ReplyDeleteMy dear it's well
DeleteThe past is the past.
Even me sef am dissapointed in u Eka...so dat makes two of us
Delete:p
Haa
DeleteLol. It is well dear eka
Deletestella abeg shit for me...
ReplyDelete*ehen i don balance*
so poster..is the girl interested in you? if your sure she is..seek consent from her brother..brothers are very overprotective when it comes to there sisters..and your his friend..trust be it wont be easy..
Lol face ur fears lik a man, if she loves u den go for her n show ur intentions to her brother, Na yes or no, e no pass so but mk sure u r serious nd not infatuation
ReplyDeleteJust like I luv u..nd you re going to say yes to me when the time is right though..*wink*
DeleteMake a move by discussing it with your friend. Your pasts shouldn't define your future. #3 days to Christmas#
ReplyDeleteHahahaha, Stella I couldn't help laughing at the picture of the statue.
ReplyDeleteHmm Stella today's chronicle is coming so late ooh lol
ReplyDeleteBros u sound romantic nd in love...I like
Anyways if truly what u feel for this lady is love then the first thing u have to do is find out if the girl in question feels the same way about you. Cos u have a better chance at winning ur friend over if she's madly in love with u too. Just take the risk nd i hope it works out for u...am a sucker for romantic stories lol.
hmm......Stella i go follow u siddon oooo. First to comment and first time i'm commenting on your blog which i love, btw. Well my bro u need to come clean with your friend. Tell him your intentions for his sister i.e. how you feel and where you think the relationship will go. U need to be honest with him and show him u don't want to play games with his sister, that ur in for real. So first of all search your conscience and make sure this lady is someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with. Take him out to a nice lunch and tell him with all seriousness how you feel. For both of you to be running a buisness together it means he already has some level of trust for you. Your lifestyle by now should've shown him those things are all in the past. Also test yourself for STD's and make sure you are clean ooo before you infect the poor innocent girl. I have said my own...shikena!!!
ReplyDeleteLove or biz
ReplyDeleteBiz or love
Ngwanurr
Waiting for comments...brb
ReplyDeleteOga,there s no harm in tryng..let ur friend know ur intentions first. Besides,he won't be d one to tell his grown up sister whom to marry. Meanwhile,stella this ur siddon look cracked me up. Na arusi be dat o!
ReplyDeleteA leopard can never change its spots.
ReplyDelete#Fact!
So after indulging in gang bangs, orgies and probably home sexuality, you now want to marry a good, beautiful and God fearing lady?
Hahahahahahaha!
I laugh in Efik.
What an irony.
Common shift joor!
Who will marry those girls you messed with while in school l, eh? They are not your speck anymore I guess?
Or have you suddenly stopped being sex crazy?
Bros, go to Allen Avenue by 2am this night, your better half will be there waiting patiently for you.
Your narrative is disgusting!
Trying my best not to vomit on you.
You haven't even repented fully from what I gathered.
Give your life fully to Christ first. Your past is too dirty that I can perceive the stench from here.
*Spits*
Tufia!
I pity that lady if she ever agrees to marry you. It will just be a matter of time before you'll get bored and go back to your former life style. I know your type, you hardly change.
If I were that your friend, I won't allow you near my sister, Never!
You are with many stains that can never be washed away from the minds of those who know you back them.
You are what we call "Bad Market"
You don't deserve any "good", God fearing girl. You deserve a retired ashawo.
Imagine this man!
After messing up in the past, you now want to settle down with a good girl.
Selfishness at its peak!
Love my ass!
RME
Better leave that girl alone so that a better man with a clean past will come and marry her. Don't be a destiny killer.
BTW, Hope you have checked to know if you are at least STD free?
May your type never cross my sisters, daughters and friends path, Amen!
BITE ME!
DUH!
Genny baby,calm down..people change naa. Everyone deserves a 2nd chance.
DeleteSo after indulging in gang bangs, orgies and probably home sexuality, you now want to marry a good, beautiful and God fearing lady?
DeleteHahaha a haha haha @GENNY BABY make I join u laugh in BLOG LORD voice kikikikikikikikikikiki I graduated dis ur comment die.
CHiCK Felix
Everybody deserves a 2nd chance, YES! I absolutely agree.
DeleteThat's why I'm telling the poster to go for one of those girls he had orgies with in the past, or any retired Prostitute, afterall everyone deserves a 2nd chance right?
Poster should leave that good lady already, she is still enjoying her 1st chance. Don't come and stain her with your 2nd chance!
Lol awww miss genny baby cool down now haba.... he could have truly changed. I really think it's up to the girl to make the decision. She's obviously not a child so he should come clean lay it all out to her and she then can make her choice. It's really not rocket science
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DeleteJesus! Omo this lady(Genny baby) you can judge for eternity! Anyway you're still very young and life has not taught you many things. Listen Genny baby, take this from somebody who is older and has seen more, yes people do change #fact# for better or for worse, people change. I think what you are trying to say deep down is that he wants to avert the consequences of his past by marrying a good girl who he should leave for a good man and that doesn't cut it for you, not that he can't change.
DeleteFrom your comments, I deduce that you're a very principled lady, God-fearing and you have a good head on your shoulders and to a very large extent a good life with the wonderful husband and I must say very beautiful girls added with a very supportive extended family, I pray your household would continue to smile by God's grace. You should also remember that not everybody grew up with good advice and upbringing by God-fearing parents. If you grew in some environments you probably might have done worse. Easy on your judgment and condemnations. Life doesn't treat everybody equal and not everybody can be like you. Please before you critique a particular person or situation explore different perspectives. Your comments sometimes depicts you as a proud person and I don't think you are or intend to. I'm just telling you my observations, feel free to correct me.
Genny baby u don't know the girls past too.
DeleteShe might even be a retired prostitute, who knows ?
The most important thing is change.
20000 kisses Genny baby.
DeleteFinally someone that sees my view
@Genny baby, too judgemental!
DeleteHaba! Are you God that sees the heart?
Why condemn your fellow human being this far because he confessed his sins in the open?
Do you know the girl's past?
Leave judgement to He that is without sin 'God'.
Don't forget that those little things you do wrongly is as equal as this grievous sin you condemn him of.
Cool down madam...he didn't mess up anybody,dos girls in his past wanted to live dat way n he was dia to perform his own role in dia lives...it's now time to take up d role of a good husband to a good wife.
DeleteBwahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahaaaaa
DeleteThank you Genny, I was reading comments and was thinking 'am I the only who thinks this guy doesn't deserve this 'good' girl'? Everything you wrote were just my thoughts!
DeletePeople do really stupid things and later they claim it's 'their past'. Shut the hell up people! Be good, be reasonable, be responsible! Don't be stupid and expect everyone to understand you were young and blah blah! Were your mates not in church when you were having orgies? You made a choice, reap the fruits!
Poster, abeg go club go find wife, nonsense!
Genny baby and co. Were you virgins before you got married? To the single ones, are you still a virgin? Is that girl in question a virgin? What makes her that gooooood girl? Who knows the girl's life style very well? Answers pls before we continue with this sick judgement. Saint sinners!
DeleteJEEZ!!!!! I am utterly gobsmacked!
DeleteAda nnewi how many times have society given women with such pasts a chance??
DeleteHow many times have they frowned at a young lady that did "runs" in school to survive? He is even worse than such ladies!! Such perversion!!
How many men can comfortably marry a single mom?? Don't they judge them harshly even when they are raped!!! Do they not look at them like they were promiscuous meanwhile most of them lost their virginity in such incidence??
I will not be as harsh as Genny cos I know this guy deserves a second chance...but going through people's comments..nobody has actually pointed out somethings to this poster!
It is not by the grammar they use to present this narratives like Mr Ade or the fact that we are already perceiving him as "cool" in our heads!! Truth must be told!
Young man,i hope is not your blokos that is scratching you...most of you see a pretty innocent girl and want her by all means!! you score and realise she is not a wife material after all...
Give your life to Christ first..lines will fall in pleasant places for you....if you still fear that your friend might revolt,that means there is something wrong!
Thank you Iphie dearie, if it was a girl that came out this way they will judge her to her 5th generation. Those of u saying he should b given a second chance, I hope wen ur husbands gfs come later to marry your sons u will be kind enuf to give dem a second chance if they av repented. nonsense and ingredients
DeleteGenny baby chop kiss jorrrr! They neva change. My own neva change. After promising my cousin he would. Story!!!!! Since I entered dis marriage no money. He lavished money on women now no money. From january 2 december not evn 5k. Over 4yrs of marriage. And I stood by him thru it all. Only 4 me 2 find out dat he still hasn't changed. Come see messages from diff women. Even d ones he sent. And d idiot hasn't evn completed schl fees. Pursue sotey him jam my friend 4 tango. I know he his giving me small face cos of his financial stress. He even said it sometime ago after a huge quarell. No wahala. Its all good. I go do am strong thing frm now on. Any money I gather 4rm my small biz I use on myself and children and also save too. No more spending in d house. I no longer trust d morafucker. I'm done bn a good wife.
DeleteHmmm... Well I think you should tell your friend first and hear what he will say before you approach his younger sister.
ReplyDeletei would ask the same question that stella is asking. does she feel the same way towards you? i wouldn't want you to ruin the friendship you have built over the years with your friend. if you have really changed from your old ways and have genuine feelings for the girl, then you can tell your friend about it. i don;t think he would judge you with your past.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha...
ReplyDeleteStells I like this your sculpture...
Siddon look na dog name...
Off to bed..
Well, luv shdn't be for the faint heart! No risks, no reward. I'm sure u weren't certain ur business would blossom as it is now abi...yet u still took the gamble & it's paying dividends abi? Same way bro, man up. & take the risks! Remember, no effort is waste !!! My 7 cedis on this...ghanaman signing out!!!
ReplyDeleteIf you have truly changed and you are sure you will treat her right then go for her. but you didn't even tell us how she feels about you? if she feels the same way about you then i suggest you both let her brother know ( as a sign of respect ) but please propose asap, no long dating.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, you should find out if the girl has feelings for you too. Then talk to her about your past and let her know you are a changed person. Together you guys can then approach her brother.
ReplyDeleteabeg look anothwer direction.
ReplyDeleteKarma is a bitch and ur sins have caught up with u.
ul always be a bad boy to ur friend no matter how much u try except u open a church and become a pastor( even if u do might not work).
Its not gonna work man! I wont give out my younger one to a keziah like u,Go do HIV ist ssef to make sure u are clean.Infact forget about her,u will get a sound slap if u tell him whats on ur mind.
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DeletePoster u don hear ba?
Na sound slap u go get cos na sound slap u dey find o
Thank you! Who knows the incurable diseases this poster may have...
DeleteAnd you are without sin, smh. Devil must be laughing real hard by now seeing all these birds of same feather claiming holy.
DeleteSome of u have done worse things, but that's none of my B. Kermiiiiiiit! Where's the bomb azz tea? This weather is chilling mehn!
DeleteAnd you are without sin, smh. Devil must be laughing real hard by now seeing all these birds of same feather claiming holy.
Deleteaunty stella of life, everly active.
ReplyDeleteWell poster, if this guy is really your bff, and you r truly who you say you are ryt now, you wouldnt say he still thinks you are the college boy he used to know. so if he still sees you that way, it means you have not really changed or you guys are not really bff but just biz partners. Anyway, since you claim what you feel now is actually love n not otherwise, i buy aunty stella's idea, talk to ur bff nd get to know what the lady thinks as well. hope everything works out well for you
Stella abeg make I follow u siddon look
ReplyDeletePoster, tell your friend about your feelings for his sister, if he approves then you can let her know how you feel towards her. Do not jump her brother(your friend), that might cause trouble between the two of you.
ReplyDeleteIf she's truly for u...God will have his way...things may be rough @ d start though
ReplyDeleteI suggest u take a step my dear, your past is your past make your friend understand that.
ReplyDeleteMust importantly make him understand your feelings towards this her sister.
Like you said here,u wanna marry her.
Take a step.
Stella, abeg adjust, let me follow you sitdon.....
ReplyDeleteIf you really love her,then be bold to let her know.If she has some feelings for you,the answer may be a yes,though she may take her time in giving a positive response.So in this situation,you will need to exercise a lot of patience.
ReplyDeleteThe worst that can happen is for her to tell you she's not interested which is not a big deal.Try talking to your friend as well and ensure you convince him you are a better person now.Above all,pray to God to confirm your dream.All the best lover boy!!
Be a man, pull d string. If d lady loves u d rest is trivia. But if truly u hv changed as u claimed, ur friend shd know from ur actions, speech and conduct and he may not find it difficult to let go of his sister for u.
ReplyDeleteU did gangbang abi...just tell me why ur past wudnt gangbang u back..just tell me.........
ReplyDeleteI hv one important advice for u...see when it rains most of the birds head for shelter,it's only the eagle dah flys above the cloud inoda to avoid the rain..wah am I saying in essence..think like an eagle..fly over ur friend and be careful not to shit on his head..ok...mtchewwwwww free dah babe u orgie expert she is in for the job nt some lovey dovey affair,mind u ,I read minds and I tell u dah babe has nottin buh a feeling of a bosslike nature towards u..so fly out like an eagle ,she's mine hehehehehe.
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DeleteFirst find out d girl's stand,if she's with u,it will be a lot easier, then u can approach ur bff
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with u genny baby! U took the words outta my mouth. Shameless man with a disgusting past looking for a good gal...mscheeww! Go back and pick one of those gals u used.
ReplyDeleteDo u know the girls past ?
DeleteA lot of people has ugly past, the most important thing is change.
You could tell your friend, but I can assure you he won't accept the relationship. ...Please, on no account should you start a relationship behind him, no hide and seek. lay your cards on the table before making a move on his sis....If you go behind him, make preparation to split the income of your joint venture, cos that will be the beginning of the end. Men are overly protective of their sisters, and would rather see them married to a stranger than a friend....
ReplyDeleteSpecial greetings to BlogLord. ..hi boo!
Poster do u want to hear the truth? Its a failed dream already. Ur friend/ biz partner won't take it and even if u try and won d girl's heart,her bro will play all ur dirty tape to her and she will never see u in d same light again.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm de av said all, first make sure u re not lying abt been in love wt dis gal bc it won't end well for u. Secondly, make sure d gal in question knows ur pasts n still feels d same way wt u n lastly. Both of u should now tell her brother together, he is also a man n will give his blessings if he sees her sister happy wt u n truly no dt u av changed too. So man up n goodluck wt dt.
ReplyDeleteAlthough our past should be past if we have actually changed but the truth is that some past can be injurious to our future and that's what is happening to you. If you really love her, ask for your friend consent saying it jokingly @ ist 2 see his reaction and if there is a green light, ask d girl and see if she have any iota of feelings 4 u because she might not even like you than being her boss.
ReplyDeleteGENNY BABY I DONT EXPECT THIS COMING FROM YOU ,WAAOOOH ,YOU SHOCKED ME ,ARE YOU FOR REAL,EVEN AS SPOLT AND EXPOSED AS AM ,I STILL FIND TIME TO READ MY BIBLE ,2 Corinthians 5:17,Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.Isaiah 43:18
ReplyDelete"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.
Ezekiel 36:26
I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.I WILL STOP HERE ,IF YOU WANT MORE I WILL GIVE YOU ,MY DEAR POSTER FIRST ASK THE BABE ,IF SHE ACCEPT ,THEN TELL THE BROTHER .TELL THEM SEX AFTER MARRIAGE.BUT I KNOW FOR SURE NO BROTHER WANTS HIS FRIEND NEAR THEIR SISTERS.
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ReplyDeleteCAN ANYBODY GIVE ME AN EXAMPLE OF A GOOD GIRL ,DOES ANYBODY KNOW HER OWN DEMONS,SHE STUDIED IN EUROPE DO YOU KNOW THE THINGS SHE MUST HAVE DONE SHE ISNT PROUD OF ,LOTS OF PEOPLE HAVE DON THINGS IN THE PAST THAT THEY ARENT PROUD OF ,IMAGINE SUNDAY INHOUSE NEWS ,SOMEBODY SAYS ,SHE CANT BELIVE HER BOSS SUCKED HER PUSSY AND GAVE HER THE BEST OF TIME ,MY DEAR BELIVE IT OR NOT LOTS OF PEOPLE DO LOTS OF THINGS ,SOME PEOPLE CALL IT BAD ,SOME PEOPLE CALL IT FUN ,.SO DONT BE QUICK TO JUDGE .
ReplyDeleteWHEN I WAS IN JSS 3 ,MY BESTIE THEN ,FROM AS IN DEEPER LIFE HOUSE ,THIS GIRL CAN WEED FOR AFRICA FROM JSS 3 AND AT HOME SHE IS HOLIER THAN THOU,WHEN SHE GOT ADMISSION IN UNILAG ,LEFT FOR SCHOOL COME SEE MATTER ,EVEN ME THAT IS NOT FROM DEEPER LIFE HOME BETTER THAN HER ,AND IF SHE IS GOING BACK HOME SEE PACKAGING ,IN HER AREA SHE IS A DEEPER LIFE ,GOOD GIRL .HER HEAD IS ALWAYS COVERD ,ABEG MAKE UNA LEAVE THAT THING ,MAKE I NO BRING STORY ENTER THIS BLOG .
ReplyDeleteOuch dis is one bad situation nd I rili do feel for him. Jst pray first den talk to ur bff buh make sure d girl feels d same nd can forgive ur past no matter how crazy it must av bin. emerald.
ReplyDeleteNever a good idea to mix business and pleasure. You may be feeling this way cos u guys work in such close proximity but I don't think u would like it either if the tables are turned and your "supposed" bad friend is unto ur sister.
ReplyDeleteSo my own advice? Let it go don't force it if it serai, it will definitely sera lol
Meanwhile are you guys hiring? I wouldn't mind to send in my resume.
Remember your friend is your brother and such treat his sister like your own sister.
ReplyDeleteNow because you got feelings for the girl you will obviously have dreams about her.
The first point of contact is to know the will of God in this situation.
Are you ready for marriage. To desire it's easy to be ready is another ball game. She could just be an untouchable quest for your hunting spirit.
Ask God to reveal to you His answer ready for marriage and if she is the one. God knows what both of you can handle. And His will is for you all to live a prosperous life. God will reveal personally to you. Dreams or prophecies will only agree.
There isn't a perfect choice for anyone. God has abundance but there is the right choice.
God knows the future and what you can both handle.
Seriosly we all have a bit of our past dt comes bk to hunt us.. Let d lady know ur true feelings n after dt if she feels d same way u cn tell her abt ur ugly past cus dt is d only thing her bro cn use against u bt wen she already knows, der won't b a problem.. Good luck anywayz..
ReplyDeleteIf you are real and changed is no big deal. Take it step by step. First be friends with her, discuss your past life and new life in Christ, make it clear to her that you have totally given up on past life. Chip it to her "what if your kind of person approaches her for marriage what would be her genuine response". Take it from there.
ReplyDeleteI think u feel u love her because u see her everyday and she is within ur comfort zone.U ve to be sure that its genuine and Godly
ReplyDeleteFirstly,give it time,try to see if its actually love or infatuation.within that period u would know if she loves u in return or if she's in love with someone else
Also jokingly chip it into ur discussion with ur friend,his reaction to that will determine how u will proceed
Pray about it and be sure God has given u the go ahead
May God see u through
**lululiscious**
I think u feel u love her because u see her everyday and she is within ur comfort zone.U ve to be sure that its genuine and Godly
ReplyDeleteFirstly,give it time,try to see if its actually love or infatuation.within that period u would know if she loves u in return or if she's in love with someone else
Also jokingly chip it into ur discussion with ur friend,his reaction to that will determine how u will proceed
Pray about it and be sure God has given u the go ahead
May God see u through
**lululiscious**
Try your luck. Life is about risk but make sure she feels the same way about you too before going further
ReplyDeleteAda nnewi how many times have society given women with such pasts a chance??
ReplyDeleteHow many times have they frowned at a young lady that did "runs" in school to survive? He is even worse than such ladies!! Such perversion!!
How many men can comfortably marry a single mom?? Don't they judge them harshly even when they are raped!!! Do they not look at them like they were promiscuous meanwhile most of them lost their virginity in such incidence??
I will not be as harsh as Genny cos I know this guy deserves a second chance...but going through people's comments..nobody has actually pointed out somethings to this poster!
It is not by the grammar they use to present this narratives like Mr Ade or the fact that we are already perceiving him as "cool" in our heads!! Truth must be told!
Young man,i hope is not your blokos that is scratching you...most of you see a pretty innocent girl and want her by all means!! you score and realise she is not a wife material after all...
Give your life to Christ first..lines will fall in pleasant places for you....if you still fear that your friend might revolt,that means there is something wrong!
Exactly! If he's truly repented, his friend will not even remember his past again talkless of still seeing him as the same ol' guy!
DeleteSomething is not right with this dude abeg.
This is one of the reasons why people should learn to keep their dirty secrets to themselves. If u hadnt opened up to your friend, you would have made your good intentions known to his sister whom you say you realy love .How are you sure that your friend didnt do worse things than you back then? Are you really sure that his little sister is even a saint? Naija girls can package for Africa!Pls talk to your friend about your genuine feelings for his sister but if refuses,try his sister who knows if she dey wait for you to come toast her? lol.if she rejects you, pls forget about her and move on.People should learn to be secretive about their dirty past!
ReplyDeleteExactly, if he hadn't told his friend, d guy won't know, Iwnt judge u cos lots of ppl have done worse but will come here n start saying trash but if u have changed, u can approach d girl n make her know ur intentions, tell her abt ur past n if she no want, my guy, Na ahead ahead things oo, but if she gree, tell her brother
DeleteMost neva change. Its happening 2 me now. Hubby was into alota women before marriage. His very handsome so women no dey gree am rest. Him sef no dey give dem chance. Promised my cousin that he wouldn't go back 2 his old ways. Story 4 d gods! We've been married 4 over 4yrs. Womanizing still dem him blood. Sotey him go tango pursue my friend unknown 2 both of dem. D problem it caused I'm still yet 2 recover frm it.
DeletePoster abeg comot ur eye 4 dat babe side and find ur type. U still haven't changed. U tink u have but u haven't. Dat bad spirit of orgies and groupies will spring up later in life. Mark my words
Guy, forget that babe oh...
ReplyDeleteI see ur interest in her breaking ur bond of friendship with her brother(ur business partner)
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hmmm... wonders, they say, shall never cease. Smh
ReplyDeletehmmm...
ReplyDeletethis is a case of the past haunting you. i hardly ever changes my first impression about a person until i test you severally.if were the girls brother i won't concur
ReplyDeleteOld bad boy want good girl now..lol. Life sure is full of irony.
ReplyDeleteWhy should this girls settle for you? You who have mixed body juices with everything in skirt. Don't you think she deserves better, a man with a clean past, a man whose past may not embarrass her one day? It always amuses me with you men who want to do and have everything, but at the end of it feel deserving of good girls. There are men out there who have been keeping themselves pure and with an untarnished history, this is the man that she deserves to share her life with. You can go find yourself a woman with a similar history to your own.
Anonymous 8:55am, you have spoken my mind. Do not mind the yeye guy.
DeleteAbeg, leave the poor girl alone, cassanova.
ReplyDeleteI dont blame this poster for dumping those girls after using them for his crazy sexual experiments.Dont be surprised that some girls you find in brothels, clubs and streets (ashewos) can make better wives than some demons who parade themselves in churches as saints.I dont judge runz girls for going to churches and forming holy just to get husbands because Nigerian men judge ladies based on their appearance and carriage! Ladies, pls package yourselves well!
ReplyDeletePeople change! If your intentions are pure, speak with your friend.
ReplyDeleteanonymous.December 22, 2014 at 4:27 AM gbam gbamest for your comment.lots of runs ,girls ,lots of prostitutes have good parents and upbringing.some pastors cant even handle their kids demons .i have plenty to say but no strenght to type.
ReplyDeletebia young man; if your intensions are not genuine; pls leave that girl alone because if you do hurt her in any way; you will never find a good girl as a wife. only a Pervert like you.yes I said it.
ReplyDeletebut if you really know that you have changed; then go ahead and check if the feeling is mutual.pls have a heart to heart talk with your friend immediately. and also know; playing Mr nice doesn't end here.you have to carry it into the marriage if the girl agrees. make sure you don't make her shed a single tear if she marries you maka mmadu akuwa GI isi.because I know; once a play boy;always a play boy.
If truly u ar nw a changed man dia shud b physical evidence.ur fruits shud tell so.go to God in prayer to if she is ur ryt missing rib,den if GOD givs u d go ahead order den go ahead nd make ur intentions known to both.to d lady first den ur friend afterall bible says 'old tins ar passed away if truly u ar a changed man
ReplyDeleteHave you really changed? There's a different between lust and love, check yourself properly and pray to God.
ReplyDeleteY don't u playfully find out if d babe is in a serious relationship as that will determine d next step u 'll take.
ReplyDeleteIf u'r sure and with pure heart, go ahead and pray.
ReplyDeleteIf you've truly changed, your friend will know, he will even be the one to notice and give God thanks. It will be effortless to prove anything. Your new self will radiate. I think you just wanna play your friend sister ad you are desperate to get her and you are bringing your story here so she can read it and give in. I hope she does not give in. Go look for your kind.
ReplyDeleteIf you've truly changed, your friend will know, he will even be the one to notice and give God thanks. It will be effortless to prove anything. Your new self will radiate. I think you just wanna play your friend sister ad you are desperate to get her and you are bringing your story here so she can read it and give in. I hope she does not give in. Go look for your kind.
ReplyDeleteI feel sorry for the poster because he may have truly changed , but I'm 101% sure that his friend would not want him near his sis. You all know the story about how a leopard never changes its spots.
ReplyDeleteIn life, we should note that every action has a reaction (consequence) which could be positive or negative. Strive for holiness at all times. You never know who is watching.
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