Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
STINGY BEYOND BELIEF

Stella, there is something eating me up here. My husband is so stingy and he uses any opportunity to give an excuse. If he want to pay house rent, nothing for us that period until when it is over. Even after paying, he should be making advances of that, that he just paid the rent, that I shouldn't ask for money. Just  days to Christmas, hubby has not done anything for the kids as I am not talking about myself again. 

This morning I asked him for money that I should go and get clothes and shoes for my 2 children, as usual, he referred me that he has to pay for house rent come January and so nothing for us. That we have rice at home now is courtesy of my friend that came to visit my new born.

This is a guy that stopped me from working. He always complained coming back late and leaving too early not taking care of my kids. It is true my baby was sick then, and my employer could not consider me, I used to drop him in a daycare, but when the heat was much for me, I decided to obey, not for any other thing, but for the life of my child.

 Though the pay was not much but it provides for myself and the children since he always complain of not having.This morning, I saw 2 shirts he bought for himself for this Christmas but nothing for us. Am tired, please what should I do?

Is it that he doesnt want to give you or that he doesnt have and is not telling you because of the pressure you put on him?

I dont know what to advice you here because i have never allowed anyone stingy stay in my life for more than five minutes...Stingy people are dream killers!

NB- Why do you keep saying ''my child''?..why not Our child?

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
SNOOP DOGGY BABE

Hello Mrs. Stella. 

Abeg help me post this,abeg I really need dear BVs advice. This might seem cliche but me I am confused and I cannot tell direct friends or family.

Here it goes...

I am Currently in the UK studying for my masters. I left Nigeria September, that's four months ago. My boyfriend came visiting this month and i snooped, yes i did!!!

 I saw messages he sent to several ladies but four of these caught my attention. There was one where he was angry with a girl, the scenario is like this, they met somewhere, I suspect it's his house because he was like you that came and didn't allow me touch you and she was like it won't happen again,she is sorry. Then they talked about sex and all that.

 The second girl, he told that he wants a relationship with her and she was like she can't date him but he kept insisting, she took her laundry to his house to wash sometime ago and he took them back to her,folded and ironed,she commented on that. The third, he asked out also but she was like he is still with his girlfriend(me).He told her that if she agrees to date him, he will break up with me. The fourth girl, he kept inviting her over to his place but she refused, I don't know if she eventually did go. There is another one that told him to buy her lingerie,he asked her what size and she told him. 

I was pissed, you know why? Cos I could swear on my life that this guy will NEVER do these things. Infact, I had boasted to all who cared to listen and all my friends and family know him.

I confronted him by 3am, that's the time I was reading the messages. I was so angry that I stoned his phone on the floor and it hit the wall. I'm not proud of my anger, I'm not one to get angry. I was a mixture of angry and disappointment and disgust. 

He knelt down begging that they are 'harmless' messages and he was just having fun, the next excuse was that he felt I was detached and he felt insecure. In the morning, he took me shopping and told me to pick anything i want but I wasn't even in the mood.

Anyway, a part of me Is still trying to make excuses for him while this other part keeps telling me this isn't right. I called off the relationship because obviously, he can't cope with the distance but he begged and I am confused. I'm not stupid, just confused. Please I just need to see people's opinions so I will know how to channel my thoughts. I never imagined I'd find myself in the position. I am really in shock. We've been together for almost 2 years. 

Does your phone come to equity with clean hands?

...Anyways,your team snoop members should be able to tell you what to do.I think it is wrong to snoop on someones phone..this is my two cents.