NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
TALKING DOWN ON PEOPLE...
Good day my dearest S to D D...I decided to share this with you after i read Mrs D's comment some months back as how she felt belittled at work.
I am a young lady in her late 20s. I lost my dad in my final year and thus the major responsibility as par taking care of my mom and younger bro fell on me.Immediately after service i got a job but since it was contract it soon ended.With my savings i registered for a professional course in accounting and i passed the first three diets.
Then one of my mom's friend offered that i should come see her as she would employ me.she did this and my family termed her as our "heaven sent helper".
however the work being a one man business took 6days of the week and most times Sundays..thus my professional course (with just 2 papers remaining)suffered as i couldn't attend lectures again and even reading on my own wasnt helping as i virtually had little/no time.
At work i ensured i put in my best and helped to introduce relevant control measures where i deemed necessary.However no matter how hard i worked,the woman seemed to dislike me all of a sudden.She would always tell all that cared to listen that i was a good for nothing fellow and that the minute she laid her eyes on me she didnt want to take me in but that she just had to as she saw that my family really needed the money.
The day i decided to tell my mom all i experience at work she almost had a heart attack.My mother couldnt believe it as this same woman would always tell her how happy she was to have me work for her.I decided i was going to endure all (and stop complaining to my mom)cos i needed the money(though little) to pay for my exams.
Months turned into a year and then the second year and i still kept writing the same 2 papers again and again (that's 4 attempts) infact at the fourth attempt i had begged to be given time off work to enable me prepare but lo and behold she told my immediate boss not to approve it.
The ridiculing continued virtually all the time,then came last week,she called a meeting and in the presence of everybody labelled me all sort of names and that she was just doing me and my family a favour.
Stella I cried so so much that day.I cried to the extent that my entire body went numb.If tears could blind one, i would have been blind by now.I just sat in a corner and did a flash on my life.it took the grace of God for me to remember who i really was- a brilliant young lady who was very good at her chosen field.
I refused to let my self esteem go to zero and there and then i wiped my tears and told myself i was gonna walk away from it all this December ending.
fellow blog visitors as 2014 comes to an end next week I am gonna walk away.Do i have anything in mind to do? No!!
Is anybody promising me anything? No!! But do i stay on where i have remained stagnant and under constant ridicule day in day out? Never!!
I am believing that before mid year 2015 i will be back with a fantastic miracle and of course my exams would have been scaled successfully.I need you guys to encourage me becos that would go a long way. believe me i have witnessed the things that make people go into depression....
Please put on your walking shoes and walk away from that poisonous environment...And please believe in yourself and what you can do.Some people are so pathetic that talking down on others they are better than is the only way they can boost their self esteem.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
BREAKING UP BECAUSE THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE...
Stella, my heart is broken into numerous pieces. My boyfriend of three years broke up with me and is with someone else less than a week later. I don't know how to deal with this. What did she give him that I couldn't? I loved him, still love him. He says he loves this girl, how? He still told me he loved me a couple of weeks ago. I'm just so confused.
Everyone says I should move on and that I deserve better but it's easier said than done o. I am crushed, sometimes it feels like I can't breathe and all I do is cry.
Please lovely SDKers, I just need your common sense and good advice. How do I move on?
Most ladies have been down this road,just get back on your feet and get busy so that when he runs into you,he will wish he hadnt dumped you
He didnt just meet her,you were probably a side chick or she was a side chick turned main chick
A lot of mails came in of Ladies crying that their men took a walk out on them this Xmas.
Good luck
Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteMerry christmas Patt!
DeleteWhere have you been?
Ladies we all try and empower ourselves..never let no one belittle u..
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DeletePatt merryxmas to u n ur fam
DeleteBLOG ANALYSER: very sad stories! It is well ladies
DeleteHmmm!
DeleteThis time last year, I had no job. My former boss made my life a living hell!! I think I was hallucinating and saw myself going to HR to submit resignation after I cried one Monday morning during an office meeting, she accused me off ALL SORTS and sent a memo to HR. Ass. HR manager called me before copying the head of HR. She had to ask me what the issue was, because she knew me personally. If not I would hv BN frustrated out, for what I know nothing off. I just had to resign, this is a multinational company and people thought I had a problem. But I resigned. Today, that lady herself was disgraced out of the company and within one year, I hv changed two jobs and I'm earning 3times what I was earning in that company, with benefits.
DeleteMy dear, LEAVE!! Challenge God. Make that move. Oh! You would be amazed at what will come your way. Take time out to write your exams, bear the financial difficulty for now. When you qualify you will get better opportunities. *e hugs* Its well. I feel as if I'm you, right now. So sorry my love, but you will be better off leaving that job. Plsss, No matter what anyone takes from you, don't allow them steal your self confidence. Lest, you become a loser.
I align with Chikito. Very brave move. Poster 1 please move on. There's a saying that goes thus, that if u haven't explored the field you'll limit yourself and assume that where u are hooked presently is the only way out and the best that u will ever get. BIG LIE!
DeleteLike Chikito, take a leap of faith. Even if the next job will offer u less salary, my dear take it and manage. At least your sanity will be intact while u expect more miracles. Explore and do not restrain yourself. She is not God, God pass am. All the best.
Poster 2. Abeg waka comot. What am I even saying, he broke up with u already. So move on and take a breather. It'll be hard but you'll get over him. Good luck
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ReplyDeleteI can't read b4 network vanish road trip to ohafia .
DeleteBwahahahaha Patt oo you no go kill me with this your comment. You've made my day. Epic!
Delete1] Just take a walk dear..i'm sure God will surprise u in no time.
Delete2] Dear stop crying already, wipe ur eyes nd move on. I'm sure he will regret breaking up wit u nd wen he comes crawling...make sure u bash his head with something sharp msheww. E-hugs
Am watching also. Very lovely something. Back to the stories, narrative 1 pls take a long walk, God will open doors for you this coming year,it shall be double glory for ur shame. Its well. And for Narrative 2 my dear brace up, shit happens. God will heal ur heart, pray to him.
DeletePoster1, take a walk,better days are close by darl, poster2- many ladies have been tru this before and will still go tru it, it's normal , so just dust ursef up nd b happy biko
DeleteEveryone is saying poster 1 walk...walk to where sef? Poster 1 endure it becuz you don't want to join the band wagons of beggars. Keep applying to other places and make out time to study. God will see you through.
DeletePoster 1 please run as fast as you can.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 go out with friends and meet new people. No dating yet, just have fun and stop brooding pls. He's not worth it
poster nos 2.i walked down dis same road last dec.my bf did his trad wedding with smoda chic nd posted pictures on fb.i never knew oh cos i am really nt into fb.a friend drew my attention to the trad pictures.so my dear wipe ur tears nd be strong abeg.let him go.pray to God for smone else.nd abeg 3yrs?wetin una dey date biko.
DeletePoster one I'm glad you finally saw the light. The same light this woman has been trying so hard to put out. She has probably seen your star and how bright your future is that's why she's trying so hard to stifle it.
Deletep.s Stop referring to her as your mom's friend cos she isn't. I actually think your mom should avoid her like a plague. It's the envy she feels towards your mom,for having such a bright and hardworking child, that was taking out on you.
Poster two, I dey come, make I go read your narrative.
NewBie!
U were a side chick bae
ReplyDeleteP1, i love ur spirit. P2, move on.
Delete#2.. U can cry n let it all out,d truth is most ppl,male n female have gone thru it @ one time or d oda in their live...move on baby,I know it's hard but u have to
DeleteIts all this breakup story that scares me abt relationship,I dnt have strength to go down that road again,so much on my plate,poster 2 sorry o,just move on and don't accept him when he comes crawling dats if you kno your worth(that's how my ex told me am nt his level bcos I dnt have a job)NATE don't worry shame go catch you !!!,poster 1 please that's the best thing you just did for yourself,dnt worry the lord will see us thru.
DeleteIts all this breakup story that scares me abt relationship,I dnt have strength to go down that road again,so much on my plate,poster 2 sorry o,just move on and don't accept him when he comes crawling dats if you kno your worth(that's how my ex told me am nt his level bcos I dnt have a job)NATE don't worry shame go catch you !!!,poster 1 please that's the best thing you just did for yourself,dnt worry the lord will see us thru.
DeleteHmmm, life is so unfair.. Its well
ReplyDeleteSDK please sort out the many viruses on your blog. Very annoying.
ReplyDeleteHow do you want her to go about it? Take a chill pill...
DeleteU cried bcos she called U a good for nothing fellow???????
ReplyDeleteBwahahahaha........
How do U know U wont see worst where U are going???????
U better stay put there cos once U start running from little issues,U continue running for d rest of Ur life.
I don't believe it! Please sleep, wake up, apply anointing oil then re-read this your advise then feel free to do the needful.
DeleteEzeanwanyi,if she was even giving her sometime to go for her exams lectures,it would be bearable..but she is just stagnated there!
DeleteYea most organisations,no matter how big and well-paying they are can have one of those "demons" dear poster... usually one develops thick skin to it and just achieve their aim in these companies..but this particular one is just dragging you back especially with your prof course which am guessing is ICAN. So just focus on passing it,doors are open for you..hard work still pays...you will land a well paying job dear.
Ezenwanyi no nau,I think its better she leaves,she is stagnant,little pay,and no respect,she has pratically lost her self esteem @wrk,which is not healthy,and on a second tot mayb you were taking advantage of the fact that you kno yur boss and became reluctant well if am wrong am sorry.
DeleteEzenwanyi u are just a nitwit living a lie on sdk blog, just shut it sometimes ok? U talk too much bitch
Delete@P1, I applaud your decision to leave that toxic environment. However, as bad as things are, I suggest you get something else doing b4 u leave. The only time leaving will make sense is if u have an alternative source of income and when she least expects it. The Lord is ur backbone inugo.
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DeleteNooooo way Ezenwanyi, I disagree with u on this one. Why won't she cry when someone whom she reveres, and who isn't even an outsider o, their family friend she said, would talk down at her and make jest of her family situation like she's their only messiah and they will go hungry without her lousy job? Haba... if it were an outsider one can understand. Not from one who's considered family. It can be heart breaking abeg. I suggest she leaves and find a job elsewhere. Who the woman think say she be? I resent people who talk down the destiny of others just because they work under them. If u can't respect the young lady at least respect her mother na. Or if she don tire for the girl she should fire her.
DeleteI am an employer of labour,and most Nigerian workers are lazy to d core.
DeleteImagine someone using d company's wifi to watch her church program during work hour or d onr that ask for permission cos of shiloh and ehen U decline they call U a devil.
I used to think and reason like U lots before until my hubby opened my ears to reality.
My husband put himself through school(unilag)while apprenticing
Under a man (clearing &forwarding) and he us(myself and kids)that it wasn't easy at all and there were times he trekked to work...did his master abuse him???yes he did....did he stopped going???hell to d NO!!....This generation just dont want to be stressed....I'm explaining all these because of Iphie and Shugarbabie.
My husband owns one of d most successful shipping line in this country of course there is comet owned by Danjuma obviously that enjoys Government " support".......
His master whom he still holds in high esteem,works for us and is in charge of operations....though old,he is very thorough and my husband has always expressed fear of whom to replace him with when he retires.
An average Nigerian is not employable and U can see it in their responses,leave d job,speak to God about it,God will provide bla bla bla.......
They just want to sit in d office and enjoy d air condition,watch Dstv and gossip.
They will tell U I want office work with good pay...Bwahahahaha.....meanwhile they are Olodo oo....
I had d misfortune of asking our Hr to log into to Sdk to see if they could employ some of them and he did,infact I specifically told him to watch out for one cos she is a regular here and he contacted her and was asking if she knew about marketing but d old fox thought it's those kinda job U carry items and hawk and immediately she rejected d job and said she doesn't want to work on commission bla bla bla untill our Hr educated and told her d job entails then she became apologetic..well he said he would get back to her...he came to me and I asked him what he thought,he said...................................................
U know Urself and if U come under anon to blab rubbish I will expose U!!!
Poster,if we call Ur madam and ask,what she will tell us about U might even make us to lynch U.
Too long huh?
Just kept typing..typing and typing and I still feel like typing and typing .........
I feel you Ezenwanyi but what do we do with this lazy generation? Do we throw them away? It is true most young people want it the easiest way but some employers too can be a real pain to deal with. In the girl's case I think her boss is trying to settle a personal score which is why I advice her to leave so she can re-orientate herself.
DeleteI agree with Ezewanyis second post about Nigerians not being employable. I remember a post that a BV sent in few weeks ago about interviewed bvs not being employable and some of us wanted to eat her raw for saying the truth. Nigerians hv it all wrong. And I really blame the education system, cos its a joke from secondary school, in uni, ppl pay to get results.
Deletein 100L, I had 7 missing papers, all incomplete. Cos they claimed they didn't find my assessment and exams scores. I applied to the VC's office sef, for wia. I barely missed a probation that year. My cgpa was still above 1.5 with all the missing papers. I had to rewrite those courses as carry over courses and had a spill in my final year, its by His grace I came out with a good 2:2. Why did they keep my results? Cos ppl sorted and they needed to transfer results so the score sheet would seem balanced. Ofcourse I was a victim - one of the unfortunate few. My mother came down to my faculty, after I packed my things and left school one day, I was frustrated. When she got to the dean, no answers.till today.
so tell me, what will such graduates who pay for results be able to do when they graduate?? They would play and not even know what the certificate value is.
However, when an environment is becoming toxic to your mental health, in Human Resources, it is advised u take a break. In developed countries, with human rights, ppl use mental instability to take time off work. If the poster can withstand the pressure, fine. If she can't she better leave. Cos if her confidence is destroyed its of no benefit to her.
Because A vast majority of Nigerians are unemployable, that gives employers the right to become animals? I 100 percent do not agree. I run a recruitment firm and see all sorts daily, that doesn't stop me from treating people fairly and rewarding good work. I take nothing personal. If you're good at your job fine, if you're not, there's the exit sign. I've had sociopaths for bosses and overambitious Narcisists as colleagues but how does it help anyone if I allow any of them turn me into a bully? No one has the right to abuse anyone because you hired someone to do a job. They are not doing you a favour. Put in place robust HR systems to reward performers and fire under performers. That's my opinion and one I advocate for employers who wish to play in the international market and build a legacy.
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Na wa ooo...2day's chronicles can dampened my mood.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: pls quit working for that "demon"..Yes she's a demon frm d pit of hell...Y wd smone make a lady lik her depressed 2ds extent?Is she God?...pls pick ur self esteem wia she tossed it and run biko...dt woman is "bad luck",she's evil...kai,i cnt deal menh!!!
Poster 2:
Any man who is nt destined for u will neva stay...Quote me.
The dude left u cos probably he isn't d "ONE". I kn it hurts badly buh gurl he lost.He's a LOSER and a "COWARD"..U deserve better.
Cry if u have to,allow ur tear ducts do its work...den look urself in the mirror and speak to ur inner mind.."I deserve better"
Go out,have fun,change ur hair-do,make new friends,...make urself happy and forget dat "BINGO".
Gurl,go get ur groove back...!!
Life is hard. It will get better dearies.
ReplyDeleteAeegurl...
Na wa ooo...2day's chronicles dampened my mood.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: pls quit working for that "demon"..Yes she's a demon frm d pit of hell...Y wd smone make a lady lik her depressed 2ds extent?Is she God?...pls pick ur self esteem wia she tossed it and run biko...dt woman is "bad luck",she's evil...kai,i cnt deal menh!!!
Poster 2:
Any man who is nt destined for u will neva stay...Quote me.
The dude left u cos probably he isn't d "ONE". I kn it hurts badly buh gurl he lost.He's a LOSER and a "COWARD"..U deserve better.
Cry if u have to,allow ur tear ducts do its work...den look urself in the mirror and speak to ur inner mind.."I deserve better"
Go out,have fun,change ur hair-do,make new friends,...make urself happy and forget dat "BINGO".
Gurl,go get ur groove back...!!
Na wa ooo...2day's chronicles dampened my mood.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: pls quit working for that "demon"..Yes she's a demon frm d pit of hell...Y wd smone make a lady lik her depressed 2ds extent?Is she God?...pls pick ur self esteem wia she tossed it and run biko...dt woman is "bad luck",she's evil...kai,i cnt deal menh!!!
Poster 2:
Any man who is nt destined for u will neva stay...Quote me.
The dude left u cos probably he isn't d "ONE". I kn it hurts badly buh gurl he lost.He's a LOSER and a "COWARD"..U deserve better.
Cry if u have to,allow ur tear ducts do its work...den look urself in the mirror and speak to ur inner mind.."I deserve better"
Go out,have fun,change ur hair-do,make new friends,...make urself happy and forget dat "BINGO".
Gurl,go get ur groove back...!!
poster 1- you sound like a very intelligent, determined and easy lady.
ReplyDeleteI am very happy with your decision to take a walk. you do not need negative energy around you at all.
sometimes we cling to things thinking it will help u rather it drowns us.
you took a bold big step, you do not know what the future holds but trust me, you just took a walk into favour and blessings you will find too good to be true.
all the best. tough times never last, but tough people do!
poster 2- cry your eyes out, dust yourself up and move on. what is your is yours, what isn't, isn't.
Typo error
ReplyDeletePls remove the "can" in my comment,twas an error.
After u have posted d comment 10x....lol
DeleteU dont know how to deal with heartbreak?????????
ReplyDeleteBwahahahaha.........
What were U thinking dating a man for three years????????
What else is there to explore?????
He has seen and done it all with ya...
It's not d end of d world,get right back into d horse riding thing....hook a man..do exact opposite of what U did in d other relationship.
Congratulations in advance!
Poster 1..thy lord will continue to strengthen and open doors for u..poster 2 forget abt d idiot he isn't urs
DeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteE be like say water plenty for ur eye.
Na Wetin dey mk u cry?
U made a big mistake oo, as soon as u new u were going to leave dat job, u shld av started looking for anoda, so all u wld av to do is switch.
I pray u find a job sooner, n I hope d pay wld be better dan d previous.
Av come to realise smthg in life, if smthg I dd my best at, doesn't work out well, I always av d feeling smthg better awaits me. I no dey do mario on top anytin.
I have nothing to say to poster 2.
On point!!!!!
Deleteits well . Na wa.
ReplyDeleteU dont know how to deal with heartbreak?????????
ReplyDeleteBwahahahaha.........
What were U thinking dating a man for three years????????
What else is there to explore?????
He has seen and done it all with ya...
It's not d end of d world,get right back into d horse riding thing....hook a man..do exact opposite of what U did in d other relationship.
Congratulations in advance!
now this is Ezewanyi! I concurr.
DeleteSpot on Ezenwanyi!
DeletePoster 1: The best thing to do is to walk away nd forget the place. Go on your kneels and cry to God for help, believe me the woman will see u later and regret all she's done to you. Just believe in yourself nd trust me it'll all end in praise.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Guy's leaving their gf for a side chick since 1800 AD. Shit happens my dear, forget d guy nd move on with ur life. Hang out with friends nd dnt stay depressed. Shallom.
NArrative 1- God will strengthen you..please leave that poisonous environment.. You are a brilliant young woman ..and you deserve better .. Narrative 2- ..move on with your life ,you deserve better
ReplyDeletePoster 1: she wld not let u go. She is behaving like that cos she knows u have no where to go. Once u tell her u want to leave, she will sit up. She taking advantage of ur situation
ReplyDeleteExactly that's very true, she's taking advantage of her, some ppl are lik that, once they know u are dependent on them, they will mk ur life miserable
DeleteSomehow,i don't want poster to leave immediately as d woman would be expecting it. Y don't u leave end of January when u must have found a better place. And without giving her notice, don't just show up for work the next day. Things like dat dey sweet ooo. Chei!
DeleteI hope she gets a better place asap..
DeletePoster 1: you are a strong and phenomenal woman, and your story gladdens the heart. It's nice to know that there are people who can still stand up for what they deserve .. Cheers and I wish you the very best
ReplyDeletePoster 2: your story is one of many, take heart , you'll eventually get over it.
Yes!! People don't know how to stand up for what they deserve. So true!! When I talk, they say I have superiority complex and I am lucky but I just laugh, cos they don't know the daily battles I fight everyday. I know my worth and I don't settle, cos my life is tied to God and no one else. Dear poster, look to God not man. Oya move!!
DeletePoster 2: I don't know what advice to give u, cos I am too impatient for lengthy relationships. I've told God to bring my husband one time. Straight to the point. Cos I don't hv free Congo to be giving anybody to shine, mbanu! So take heart. Just move on, biko.
N1, you must leave that job. God will make a way. N2, such is life, he did not just meet that girl. He has told you he loves her abi? do you want to love a man that doesn't love you?
ReplyDeletep1 i think u are taking d right path and may God crown ur efforts. P2 we have all been down dat road, shed as many tears as u like, join ur friends in raining curses on him, u will soon get over it.
ReplyDeleteIt's well
ReplyDeleteSide chick for 3yrs??Naaahh, I doubt...shake it off babe and move on!!
ReplyDeletePoster 1 : u said it already 2015 has prospects so take a walk....God will send you more helpers in Jesus Name
No2: please don't stop crying *it helps * cry yourself to sleep * don't add self pity, that is when you start feeling useless,worthless and the rest* just cry because you feel like crying, cry like they do in the movies, that heart shattering, heart breaking tears. Then. I hope you are strong enough to wake up one day with tears in your eyes and realise you have headache, your eyes are red like that of chameleon and the idiot you are crying for sef has moved on. Then just maybe you will get your life together. Take heart.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahaha Mrs Oreo you got me laughing so hard sweetheart.
DeletePoster 1: leave d job. God will provide.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: get ur ass up. He is not the one for you. Cry and get over it. Wish u d best
Poster2 almost all girls have bin tru heartbreak bfor, no b new tin nd there's no advice to give than to tell you to move on
DeleteSad stories like this makes me wonder if people think God is asleep concerning the oppressed.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, pls leave that job and don't worry, God will surprise you soon. Just buy something that you think your mum likes with your pay even if its small, give it to your mum and ask her to bless you. I tell you, things will change sooner than you expected. Stop crying ok. E-hugs
Poster 2, get busy with yourself and improve on yourself. Things will get better. Pelee
Yes! Parental blessing :)
DeletePoster 1:the Lord is ur strength,Pray fervently and am sure it is all going to end in praise. Poster 2:Get up,Get busy,Go out and av fun,he doesn't deserve u!Guys ehn!hian
ReplyDeleteNarr2) luck yourself indoor CRY cry like a baby cry as if u lost someone....d more u pretend not to cry d more d pains keep coming. After crying den get yourself busy with anything......u talking about 3years? hahahahaha does his family call u wifey by name? Do dey accuse u of being d one not ready to settle down?Wat about his friends?una don do family introduction? Are u both afraid to tell ur parents dat it cannot work? #wipetears!My dear PLEASE jst move on. Some people are in deep shit.move on one day you will understand dat MEN DO NOT WORTH d tears.....
ReplyDelete@poster1 I had these feeling during my industrial training late lastyear and early this year,too bad how people you could almost call your family treat you like a piece of shit,and spread all manners of nonsense talk about you,abeg don't want to send my mind back! 2015 will be an outstanding year for you just trust God
ReplyDeletePlease poster 1, am sure there are better things out there for you so just leave with pride...
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ReplyDeletePoster 1, please leave that job, one man business is a no no for me. I took up a job with a training firm immediately after my service year, it was also owned by a man. I learnt alot of lesson with the short time I worked for him, he would give me close to half a million naira to pay into his account while he was owing me 2 months salary. Meanwhile, he was paying me 15k per month and he would make advances at me all the time, demean me at every given opportunity. All his staff left because they couldn't cope but I stayed back because I knew I needed the working experience on my cv, I brought in more money than every other member of staff each month despite the pressure. I prayed for a better job, the very month I made up my mind to resign, God opened doors for me and I got a better paying job and the working environment is healthy. His business packed up less than a month after I left, I learnt he moved back to ekiti to lick his wounds.
ReplyDeleteIn all ,pray and pray. Trust me God listens and he would meet you at every point of your need.
Useless man!!! Good for him.
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ReplyDeleteI think you just made the best decision of your life, it May seem scary but I assure you something better wil come up. Just believe and work hard,everything will be fine with time.
Number 2
I am currently heart broken too. My mistake was he left me the first time for someone else and I loved him so much and patiently waited and fought for him. He came back to me but ofcourse it dint work, because I forced him to love me again. I didn't mind that he cheated,I just wamted him back when I should have been mad and forget cause he deserve me and I deserved better. My point is move on, even if he comes back he will respect you. Keep ur dignity, he doesn't deserve you.
Mail 1: Dearie, help is on your way. Take a walk and don't look back.
ReplyDeleteMail 2: Life isn't a smooth journey; you encounter bumps on the way. This is one of the bumps. Go out and have FUN. Never let your happiness be dependent on another. You will overcome.
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteAm sorry you lost your dad.you are in your late 20s and you are old enough to have a boyfriend, abi dont you have one? If you do, pls let him support you in your current situation.your younger brother shouldn't stay idle and wait for you to feed him.your mum shouldn't be idle either.As for that lady who pretends to be your mum's friend, she feels threatened by you.There is something about you that makes her jealous of you thats why she feels good by bullying you.pls run away from her and dont look back.God will get you something better.
Poster 2
You dated a guy for three years and you didnt see any signs of his main chick? What happened to "snooping"? Na wah for you oh. He has dumped you ,because he is tired of managing you, move on and get busy.Everyone is telling you to move on and you are asking how? Why dont you ask your boyfriend how he managed to move on without you.Ode! !
Not everyone must hv a bf pls, some ladies want to make on their own. Nothing wrong,
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ReplyDeletePoster 1 determination is key. Look on the bright side u have working experience shut that door for good. Many other doors will open for you in 2015 in Jesus Name Ame
ReplyDeletePoster 1 toxic environments are very dangerous to your overall health, it's affects you physiologically emotionally mentally and every other way you could ever think of. We as human beings always chose to major on money but people fail to realise that a very healthy self confidence and image can attract money, influence, power self and I can guarantee you that once you walk you will pass your two papers with ease.
ReplyDeleteYou are special in the sight of God so don't make anyone make you feel otherwise
Poster 2 like Stella everyone Don get heart break at one time or the other three important thing is don't let it break you, spends lots of time with your family members who genuinely love you, involve yourself in outdoor activities, write out the kind of man you want God to give pray about it, plan to develop yourself, travel, just let your hair down forget your ex, look forward to 2015 with joy. God's blessings babe...
N 1: the Lord is your strength, He will do a new thing in your life that your soon to be former boss will see you and tremble. Wicked woman
ReplyDeleteAwwwww
ReplyDeleteHugs to the 2 posters.
My dearies, this too shall pass ok.
Time heals.
Just dust yourselves up and move on.
Better days ahead.
Shit happens.
Such is life.
#E-bearhugs
Genny!!! Did u type this ? Haa no epistle?v
DeleteLol @Sabongida. Genny is probably going through something herself. I'm wild guessing though.
DeleteNewBie!
@ poster1
ReplyDeleteU said all,my dear do not let any1 relegate u to d background,flee frrm dat job,and I knw even b4 mid 2015 u will come back and testify inj,amen
Poster2
My very gud frnd experienced similar tin,inshort d guy didn't call her for 4 straight months,I even called him,d guy has be dodging me,he no longer pick my call,later he said he is no longer interested,dat he is nw a minister,only for my frnd to break into his fb acct and saw diffrnt chat wit gurls,begging for relationship,as in gigolo kind of tin,my dear,my mouth open as stella own open wen she met d transgender,to cut d long story short,I wanna tell u wat I ve been telling her,he isn't worth a single drop of ur tears,if he can live without u,u can live without him,or is dat d kind of man u wanna spend remaining ur life with? No! So cheer up sister,its not d end of d world
****LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*****
Poster1 sorry about it.but I think u need to concentrate wit ur studies n yes u wil fine something more fulfilling to do.i v neva worked n I don't know what it feels like to b ridiculed at wrk n God wil see u tru. Poster 2 let mi also use dis medium to tell my story.i Knw I remembered writing in dis our precious blog hw I borrowed my BF my hard earned 100k n we v bin dating since may n I never looked at another man or had anyone's attention cos I was satisfied only for him to stop picking my calls n up til now he hasn't spoken n all he said was dat it was a trying period for him,dere is guy on my str that has been eyeing for my attention n I didn't really have his time,so wen my bf misbehaved I tot I could use d guy's company for d xmas n it turned out it was d worst mistake of my life.one of those period I went to see him I slpt ovr n one thng led to another n sex was involved n it was really long so I let go.fastforwad to xmas day I was cing a movie wit my gal n dere is a gal I was owing so I asked her to come get her money dere n guess who she came wit my neighbour I slpt wit.i didn't evn Knw cos she collected my fone to mk a call n lo n behold it's d same guy.i didn't know if I should laugh or cry,n u Knw wat makes it worst,me n d gal r in d same unit in church n not only that all 3 of us attend the same church.n wen d gal confronted him guess what he told d gal dat what does d gal think he wants to use a fat girl lik me to do,that am his friend's gal that had a 1night stand wit his friend,n that he sells stuffs to me, n that was d worst day of my life n I cried n died n resurrected n I just took a decision that no more sex n I wil keep it for my husband.n I v bin fasting n praying for God to hlp me forgive him,only for him to call me today n say we need to talk.my dear brace up urslf cos dis one too shall pass.i v learnt n trust me tru d hard way.
ReplyDeleteCan I preach honey?
DeleteWe all make mistakes..
Dust yourself up.
Remember..never ever succumb to random sex again..imagine if the dude was a brother to someone that just proposed? You would have lost a good man over indiscriminate sex....close your legs dear..the right guy will stroll along! 2015 will be better...
Don't cry and stop beating yourself what has happened has happened next time don't date any body in your area let alone your street. The mistake has already been done, move on with your self dignity and don't look back God will fight your fight. It is well
DeleteGod has forgiven you.
DeleteBut I don't get : church, seeking God and fornication.
Oh, well...I believe it's a thing of the past
Errrr..... Ok!! *side eye*
DeletePlease walk away,the right guy will find you soonest,all u need do is go down on ur knees and pray to God,tell him what u want and believe me honey,u will see d right guy,,,and for u who's being maltreated u need to leave such environment prove to her that u can survive without her!
ReplyDeletePoster 1: I'm glad you are have a strong personality and you believe in yourself, guess what sweetheart that's all you need!! Now talk several steps out of that place.
ReplyDeletePoster two: cliche, but true, time if you apply yourself, gradually heals all wounds, not the time to start analyzing what you did wrong !! Babe it's not your fault ok, 3yrs no joke, but time passes like the wind blowing from east to west!! Be active!! Engage yourself , explore!! Be innovative ! Someone great will find you in the process . Hugs darling
Poster 1,
ReplyDeleteRun if you can ,take a walk Abeg ,some people are just joy killers.
Poster2
You will get over it .lots of people have walked that lane before
Side chick tins.......2
ReplyDeleteY stay 4 long??hmmmmm u tried oooh.......1
Poster 1 please leave that job before you go in to depression, I know it would be easy to manage but at least you will be free with peace of mind.
ReplyDeletePlease click on my name to get % 100 raw virgin human hair. No shredding and no tangling. Thanks
Its well oh. Your best is yet to come dear.
ReplyDeleteU are one brave Lady!
ReplyDeleteTake a Walk dear.Our good God is with u.
U stayed too Long in dat toXic place sef...
Good luck hun!
Póster 2,Lemme tell u how to get Over him.
i wil try...
U loved him
He Said he loved u
Buh he lied ....he Ended up with someone else
Nne cant u see dis guy doesnt send u?
And wot do u do wen someone doesnt send u?
Walk away with ur Head help up high like a Beautiful Peacock.....
OR:
Stay There like a Rain-soaked Dog with that pitiful hungry look and do all sorts of self-pitying Ish and cry oversome who at dis moment is prolly having mind-blowing sex wit his Boo and wen dey are done And ur story comes up,they laugh their asses off.
It Might be hard to u buh once u cross off that dude from ur Mind,u wil wonder wot u even Saw in him in d first place....
Sweetie,dust urself n enjoy life .....Its Beautiful!
And dere are plenty,plenty of eligible young guys waiting to meet d woman of deir dreams.
Make that Woman YOU!
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
One, just follow stella advice... """Please put on your walking shoes and walk away from that poisonous environment...And please believe in yourself and what you can do.Some people are so pathetic that talking down on others they are better than is the only way they can boost their self esteem."""
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Two: just walkout frm the whole bulshit abeg......
*GLO BRING 3G TO KONTAGORA*
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Poster one: follow Stella's advice..just walk away cuz if u remain dere u will neva achieve ur goals
ReplyDeletePoster two: just put ursef together and tank God he left u now dan lata...just have it in mind dat u deserve a better man dat is y he left
Poster1: nice decision.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: sad situation. Time heals so cry it out and give your heart time to heal. Love abounds and will surely catch up with you. Stay busy too and share your pain with God cuz he always gives peace that's beyond human understanding.
Life issues. Poster1 pls run as fast as u can before u totally loose yourself esteem.
ReplyDeletePoster2, just go and have fun with ur friends and forget about guys for now.
No 1 , That's her lost .
ReplyDeleteLike Stella said WALK , but please hang in there a little while till you secure another job.You said your family burden is on you ? How will you manage if you leave without putting things in order .
Let her words motivate you to seek for another job, then resign and have the last laugh . Forget about the name calling because it shows she is highly frustrated .Those that know you really well can see through her anger & the names she gave you. You what , I think she feels intimidated by you and is trying to reduce you to shame .
DON'T WALK YET, SOME HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR JOB FOR THE PAST 5 YEARS WITHOUT HOPE . Walk when all things are balanced. Desperation from doing nothing my dear is dangerous .
No 2, sorry o .
I feel you dear. His gone, cement that in your head .Maybe he was IN LUST WITH YOU NOT LOVE .
Listen, If you can't read me, pls don't be the rebound girl if he comes back .
Believe in yourself, you're more than what he makes of you. Someone , somewhere is dying for your love & attention . Get busy, pick a foreign Lang to study to keep your mind of him, avoid places you go together, delete his contact and don't stalk his social life, meet people and make friends . REVENGE IS BEST SERVE HOT !
So make yourself real hot and be happy . Life has no duplicate .
Hey , you're too good for him .
Exercise and dive in music .
Nnenna wishes you the best .
Poster 1.....Be strong n courageous.God has not forsaken you.All these will be part of ur history very soon.Cheer up,ur future is brighter than u expect.
ReplyDeletePls employers or ogas on this blog,help this sister with a job.
Poster 2....Never let ur life depend on any man but on God.I know its not easy , but pls get busy n forget the looser!!
Poster 1 hope in God he will lead n give u a more better job, poster 2, some guys are so haerthated that some tym we wish to me on our own cos of being hartbroken over n over again but like the saying tym heals. Just stop thinking abt him amt tell God to help u move on he will give u the man dat deserv u
ReplyDeleteLadies dont pity or fall in love with men...pls allow dem do the falling in love nd all by dat,its ok! I learnt d hard way with a baby boy nw,,am the only one running up nd down nw...he is with anoda woman rite nw
ReplyDeleteHian!! N1 - ur boss is a wolf in a sheep's clothing, ur helper will locate u dearie. N2- I comment my reserve.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 -U took d right decision. God will show up 4 U.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 -cry all U can , then dust Urself nd be strong. Pursue Ur goals , be Ur best. The right guy will find U. Stay strong okay ?.
Pls who knws any remedies (available in Nigeria) for perimenopausal hot flushes. Google didn't help much , pls I 'll really appreciate Ur input. Thanks people.
After christmas is a new year,with new beginnings and letting go of negative pasts.
ReplyDeleteTo the singles out there,if you were sacked this christmas,new year should not meet you mourning,time waits for nobody,dry your tears and move on to a better life.But this time,choose wisely.
Ezenwanyi,you talk like somebody i knew back then,Nwammy are u the one???merry xmas though.
Poster 1, I was in your shoes years back and I can relate to your story. D other twist from my own story was that my elder sister was the one that spoiled my image before my big boss and bcos of that I was treated like a no body . Nothing good comes out from this lady's mouth. You are strong for staying up till a year, me I think 2 months after experiencing hell working with her I walked out of the job. I can remember that I went to work on Saturday and never went back again .The lady told my elder sister and family that I will use a bottle of good wine to beg her because I have insulted her personality. As at then she is the wife of a popular doctor in lagos and her family are well known. My dear, till today I didn't apologize and in fact God has lifted me up beyond their imagination. I am a living witness to God's favour
ReplyDeleteDancing shoki for you!!
DeleteN 1 reminds me of an ex - boss. I'm a profesnal n I graduated wit 2'1 but dis man saw nutin good in me. He said I dnt luk like some1 who could work hard and dat I was always sleeping at work,so he decided to boycott me. He neva gave me any sensible work to do in d office and he dnt even pay me! So I took a good look at myself and said to myself dat I desrved more,so I left his firm.
ReplyDeleteThere was a day he said ''u see,a friend wl just call u up for a case one day but u wl say u can't handle d job,but I dnt pray dat shd hapun to u." Can u imagine dat rubbish? Me I've promised myself neva eva to hang around pple who talk me down tho!
....And there goes the last Saturday of 2014...and I am still not married. *whew*
ReplyDeleteStay calm...
Delete@ poster1, take a bold step of faith nd u ll see dt ur 2015 is gonna be full of testimonies, God is d father to d fatherless nd helper in times of need, he ll see u tru. @ poster 2, pls forget him nd move on with ur life, he gat no regards 4 u datz y he left u, jus learn to love urself nd pick up d broken pieces of ur heart nd mend 2geda 4 ur God ordained man. Loads of hugs 4 poster 1nd2
ReplyDelete#1, take a leave if u r sure u will be able 2 cope without a job 4 the moment
ReplyDelete#1, take a leave if u r sure u will be able 2 cope without a job 4 the moment
ReplyDeleteEeiya....but why are boyfriends dumping their girlfriends this season...maybe its trying to pass a message to the ladies....please be celibate.
ReplyDeleteN1 God will make a way for us all looking for better opportunities.
Poster 2 u were a side chick. Sorry for ur loss.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2..time heals wound..its not going to be easy but u'll eventually get over it. Looks like he wasn't into u and he was just fooling u all the while..if he truly love u like he claimed,he wouldn't av left u fr sme1 else...just try to forget abt d guy and move on with ur life..its nt easy tho but u av no choice else u'l hurt urself..
ReplyDeletePoster 1- Set goals for yourself and don't decide to go for any job that's comes ur way, its best u deside what you want and work on improving urself to ensure u are d best in the field of ur choice.
ReplyDeleteAfterwards look good always and don't wait around at home go out and make new friends neva forgetting ur goals and motives.
Above all Pray and ask the holy spirit for directions.
U are God's best Neva let anybody tell u odawise.
Poster 2: its neva easy to get over a break up...try to be around people. And stay away from love songs..if u must listen to music try Rap.
Patt Ogar ur jst annoying, trust me.. So d only tyn u cud say ws hmmmm and calabar carnival on point. I tot ds ur stupidity has stopped. Mtchewww
ReplyDeleteI.Leave as soon as possible because when one door closes another opens. 2.Get busy,get happy ,look your best & pray to God.He is not mend for you.let him be one of your new year resolutions that you will drop like a bad habit. Abeg someone with excess airtime MTN should transfer to me oooo.just add @gmail.com after my name.may God bless una wella.hahaha in the spirit of xmas.
ReplyDelete@poster 1 I rilly feel ur pain,move,walk,run as fast as u can away frm that evil woman called ur mom's friend, I guess her evil ways is part of wats blocking ur God's given destiny. U ought not to be dere,u deserve better,bigger dan dis. See u at d top cm 2015. God bless u.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm! Life is so unfair. Sometimes I wonder if some people were created special. It is well. 2015 will be a better for us all IJN AMEN
ReplyDelete@ poster 1. I believe in God n I know sooner u will definitely hv a good laugh
ReplyDeleteAnty stella nailed it. Some people talk down on others to boost their battered and shattered self esteem, abeg poster one, take a work n with your zeal am sure ur miracle job is next turn. Poster two, get busy and let him enjoy the ride, he'll soon do same to her or her to him, its a chain.
ReplyDeleteN1, life is full. Of such people. I remember those days my manager used to do such. I would have said you should stick it till you get a better paying job but then, you need to pass your exams to get the dream job. So resign. To concentrate on passing your exams. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteN2; what do you mean by how do you move on, you just move on noni.
Your God given man is by the corner. Good luck too.
Poster 1, that boss of yours will someday soon, work for you....as in, you will be her boss.
ReplyDeleteOne way or the other.
God has seen your tears.
You will share your testimony sooner than you can say 'Jesus'.
Poster 2, dust yourself up and do all u can to make yourself happy.
No one is worth ur tears o.
Believe me, when that nigga sees u happy, he'll come after you again.
Then u can give him dog shit to chop.
All the best!
Poster 1,I feel ur pain becos I had once been in dat shoes(even shared my story here too),I also walked away becos it was affecting me physically,mentally,and emotionally..but I pray u get work very fast..becos 9mnths after, no job,its not been easy,my savings is zero now. but I pray God will see u thru. My advise,jst hang on a little until u secure anoda job first..before u walk away. I beg u,hang on a little if dem no have intention to sack..do ur own and leave dem to God..becos not having mony to spend is anoda headache..it is well with u. SDKLASTBORN
ReplyDeletePoster 1: the lord is your strenght, be prayerful and he will show you the way.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: abeg no kill yourself for him jare. Though don't wish him ill luck cos he is probably doing you a favor. Move on and be happy
1: Dear sorry for what u re passin thru. Jst walk away frm dt woman she s a dream killer my God will locate u with a good job in 2015.
ReplyDelete2:Babe cry wetin, dust urself up and move on. I ve dat same experince not long ago bt i ve moved on cos i know dt God ll soon give me someone better than him d same tin with u. What is man dt u will be cryin as if ur life depend on him? Pls allow God to do his own thing .
@ poster two. Wipe ur tears. Life goes on jare.
ReplyDeletePoster one. Pls walk away, I'm sure d mony she is even paying go b peanuts self.
Poster1 leave that place before you become stagnant
ReplyDeletePoster 2 you where a side chick to him and I think he's ready to wife that girl now,sorry take heart almost all girls have walked that road,me right now I don't even have a heart
Poster No1, Is good you've decided to take a walk, you don't need to be in such environment, life is too short to be sad and at a youn age. I pray that God will bring you help from above, God will bless you unexpectedly and richly. stay focused.
ReplyDeletePoster No2, You have to pick yourself up again and keep reminding yourself that you are better than this. Try and find something new to do, take up e.g swimming lesson or some other hobbies if you can afford them, go out with friends to places you've been dying to go, visit old friends in another city, the lists go on. Anytime you're feeling lonely or sad, please put on nice music and dance, crying is also allowed, don't bottle it all up, we are human after all. I pray that God will send you your own happiness. Stay blessed.
Anon B
NYDP- New York Delta Pikin
ReplyDeletePoster#1, E-hugs, I can relate with you, but will tell you to stay strong. Some People don't care how their words affect others
Please be strong and positive. It will get better, it can only get better dear. Stay focus and lean on God.
Poster#2, you were either the side chick or he's been cheating on you and now promoted the side chick to main chick. Cry if you must but not too long ( take a day and cry), then Wipe your tears, go out, have fun. It not easy though but it's possible. So stay strong and do what makes you happy. E- hugs.
NYDP.
N2, it happens, my ex broke up wit me for no reason, 2months later I saw pics of him proposing to a girl, what will be will be, like Stella said keep ur head high and get back on ur feet so dat wen exes see u dey will knw it's their loss.one love
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1,take heart n move on.If nt for d work u would hav pass ur exam n d certificate would hav get u a beta job,is nt too late.Narrative 2 dont mind stella n oda dt kip tellin u dt u are a side chick,u are nt a side chick at all bt wot happend to d guy is fresh luv he luv d gal nw bcuz he just met her bt he wil com back to his senses bt i would advise u to move on.
ReplyDelete@ poster 1: leave that job as Stella said. You cannot thrive in that kind of hostile environment. God sees your heart and He who created you will give you that which is best for you. Good luck in your exams!
ReplyDelete@ poster 2: pick up your life and be the best you can be. Stop thinking about what you did or didn't do. That guy does not deserve you. Forget about him and put your trust in God.
Narr 1; that woman is using your star
ReplyDeleteLol,no b only star,na irawo u go see
DeletePoster 1 dats the right tin u abt 2 do. God will surprise you. When one door closes another will open.
ReplyDelete2 please move on. Its not easy bt do so, go out n keep urself busy.
*Rmn blessed*
Hmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteHmmm; @poster no 1 I had such experience too I was so depressed that I had to cry every single min of the day. But I had the courage to walk away from that job. And that was the best decision I took. @ poster no2 pls he is not worth ur tears biko.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: When one door closes another one opens.Pick up yourself and take a walk from that job and see your life change for the better. That woman is not and can never be your God.I wish you all the best.
ReplyDeletePoster2:Get up dust yourself and start living again. Meet new people and make new friends your own man will locate you at God's appointed time.
Some have it very easy sha!!!!its difficult but u hv to move on @poster2
ReplyDeletePoster no 1 Please move away from that place. You deserve a better job and I pray the Lord helps you to get one soonest.
ReplyDeletePoster no 2 Please dont stay indoors, mingle, find new friends and make yourself happy. I wish you well.
Poster 1.
ReplyDeleteI can totally relate. I took a leap of faith a few months back. My health, my self esteem, personal growth and above all my faith were suffering.
If you have never been in those shoes...well I pray you never will. I pray God leads you poster to a job beyond your expectation. I think sometimes things like this happen to lead us to where we really should be.
I choose to see this period of waiting for another job as a time to groom myself even further.
If you see yourself as an asset and project yourself as such, I'm sure in the end, it will end in praise.
Stay strong.
Poster 2: : Honey, the pain doesn't feel like you dodged a bullet does it? If he left you it's simply because he wasn't the one for you. You can choose to hunger and thirst for your ex or ask God for yours; the one who will truly satisfy/complete you. Most of us have suffered heartbreak. Hugs dear, you will be fine.
HALEEMAH
@ anony 4.01pm....
ReplyDeletehow dare you insult patt ogar?
He hs bin bere longer dn ur ancestors.
I don't think the issue is about being a side or main chick here. I think it is hard to walk out on anyone, harder than staying on when you feel something is missing. This man could have played games but chose to make a clean cut. Many guys want to leave but feel trapped by what people (women) will think and so forth. I miss when it was easy to break up with someone without that person running to the blogs.
ReplyDeleteDear Miss Heartbroken, if it didn't work out, then it didn't work out. Draw strength where you can draw strength from, your friends, your family, God etc. Don't make any man, woman or thing the custodian of your happiness.
Tks for this, even me as a married woman,idnt center my happiness around hubby.. Mk ursef happy by looking for other tins dt Wud mk u happy instead of making someone d only reason y u shd b hapi
DeletePoster 2 there are people who smile at you and kill you behind.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 I pray for divine favor on you. I also pray you find a job.
I don't like to accuse people but ever since over a decade ago. That I slept with a guy things have not been moving. I left because the guy could lie for Africa and crafty disrespectful. I then experienced redundancy, moved from a toxic home, toxic job up till today. I have been to all types of prayer. Even encountered fake pastors. I had to mark this because this guy told me recently that I deserve it.
I don't think this is the only enemy I have. There's a weird connection that does not only meet the naked eye.
I resigned from job (turnover of staff high and also toxic).
I recently got interviewed they were so pleasant and asked for my reference. I provided the reference. They informed me that they spoke to my referee. Till today I haven't heard from them. Meanwhile all colleagues that have moved on have good jobs.
I have papers and experience. this is over a decade, i have prayed fasted vigil met exploitative pastors. Please help if you are genuine Christian please pray for me. E
Stop praying, change your mindset. Work on renewing your mind. Drop the victim and 'somebody is doing me mentality'.
DeleteTake responsibility for how your life has turned out,find out what u can do to change it. You destiny is in your hands.
The question is- are your hands clean?
NewBie!
Change your mindset. Renew your mind,
DeleteSecondly, do u give? Tithe and seeds? May not be to a particular pastor only ( before you say they will use your money to buy private jet) give alms to ppl in need around u - widows, orphans in church, poor pastors who have children to feed. It may be used clothes or even food items. I think,sometimes, when God blesses us and we get selfish, it shuts the windows of heaven. Get into a habit of giving and sharing in 2015, nothing is too small. You will see changes,
Temi n Verde Phillips have a cute new yr
ReplyDeleteThings re happening....may God mend ur broken hrts. Its well.
ReplyDeleteThings re happning...may d gud Lord mend ur broken hrts. Its well.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, trust me u made d right decision. This was me 3 years back, it was so bad that I almost became a walking corpse. I woke up every day, going to work and yet I felt I was a nobody. I just knew that wasn't my life and even though people around me encouraged me to endure, I took a walk without looking back. 2 months after I did I landed a very hot job. The boss in question came to drop her proposal at my place of work some months back and was shocked to see me way better than the Last time she saw me, I was even heavily pregnant with my son self. I was so happy that day that I immediately called my hubby. One man business is a big no for me, I wouldn't even wish my enemies such fate.
ReplyDeletePoster 1; cheer up, some people are like that. Over familiarity is also d major issue here. I was once in your shoe, Na resignation straight. Am not regretting either. Best of luck in 2015.
ReplyDeleteEvening everyone am the poster1,read all the comments so far and I say thank you to everybody.@General's wife..thank u m'aam.am trying to be brave@sabongida where do i send your kisses to @ ezenwanyi U never fail to comment hilariously.thanks all the same @bloglord and cynthia iyede yes i will be strong @sweetie my mom has a small biz and my bro just finished school also.
ReplyDeleteYinmu**
DeleteSoftie mmuo.
Alubosa**
Bwahahahaha.......
Please send your CV to me. I run an accounting and tax consulting firm. SDK will give you my email address.
DeleteThank you @anon 7:33. Pls assist. God bless
DeleteHmm...walk away God will mske a way
ReplyDeletePls kindly spend d rest of your life in jail.UWA DI OMIMI....AMA NDI ANA EZE.
ReplyDeleteDear Anonymous E, you said you slept with a guy over a decade ago and things have not being well with you since then. He exchanged your glory with his. If you live in Abuja, Look for Pastor Peter Balogun, of the Redeemed church Jikwoyi or Pastor Paul Enenche of Dunamis. You need to pray with someone who will break what has being done to you in the spirit.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, read Isaiah 54:2-4. Thank God you are walking away. don't let anyone talk you into staying. you will end up being depressed.
Poster 2, Heart breaks are not funny, but don't worry, you will heal. Make up your mind to forgive and forget. Tell yourself you wont be bitter, its hard but you can do it. Look to the bright side. A nice guy is coming for you, watch out and all the best.
Poster one if you need help to stay away from that job .holla here we will assist whichever way we can just concentrate on passing ur exams . If I may ask what's ur full name ? .
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ReplyDeleteI feel the need to tell my story. I have been married to this guy for 6 years now. This weekend I made up my mind to file for a divorce after a serious fight when he almost strangled me to death. Ask me what happened, I found out by sneaking to read his phone that he had been dating a girl named Fatima. I confronted him and he says to me that he has a right to cheat. This guy also told me that Fatima is better than me that I am disgusting. It became clear to me that there is no point wasting my time with him. What do u advise though.
Send the story as blog visitor narrative to Stella's email and we shall take it from there, pele dear.
DeleteThe fact that you're still seeking for advice shows that you are actually not ready to leave.
DeleteYou will leave when you are convinced you've had enough.
All the best!
NewBie!
Is Ur husband ba Northerner????
DeleteIs there any particular reason you are asking if the husband is from the north.
DeleteFor the both posters: make hay while the sun shines. ... no time!
ReplyDeleteBlogvisitors who can afford should help poster1 with a job.poster2 u will be fine.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Quit that job without giving her notice.You will get a good job by God's grace.poster 2:though it won't be easy but you have to move on with your life.
ReplyDeleteChai...
ReplyDeleteLady T thanks for the advice. I am not based in Nigeria but UK precisely London.
ReplyDeleteSome fake pastors have even tried to extort me money others initiate me. Making problems worse. So that's why am skeptical.
My draw back is that I have been to pentecostal churches time and time again. Only graduating to being condemn and condemn.
What you are saying is true. Bc every place I want to work or desire for a good job. This guy has it. Sometimes even call me and laugh at me at the things am thinking without me tellx him. Why do I keep in touch it's by His grace I cut off from him physically. Like a weird force keeps pulling me to him. I had to put two and two together that am a slave for him spiritually. No pastor has confirm this why up to now this hasn't been broken?
I fight to get to the next level and still at an entry level job with a degree smart person like me had to fight to pass.
I am praying and fasting oh. Please any genuine Christian just like Peter and Paul who didn't have money but had the name of Jesus Christ please pray for me. Let my glory be restored and break any evil covenant In Jesus Name.
Thanks E
Poster 1, Please run for your life! leave that toxic job! God will surely give you a better job with better pay IJN, Amen. i'm a living proof that miracles occur. My ex boss was a nice lady till she found out that i was leaving the country to study outside the country, she changed towards me! i left the company and behold, my ex boss speaks well of me at meetings treating other of my ex colleagues bad. My ex colleagues will contact me and tell me and i would start laughing. At times some people forget that they are just men and not God. We are been placed on this earth to help one another not hurt one another!
ReplyDeleteDon't mind them!! They want to squeeze u because of little help. Wicked world! Nobody should be squeezed, when u get to the top, leave a rope for people to climb. Don't cut it off!!
DeleteThank God for SDK blog where people can air their problems.
ReplyDeleteThe truth shall set one free. When the truth is exposed it's exposed.
manipulating and controlling spirits have commenced to react.
When the Lord wants to reveal the root of anything He will.
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Anon 7.33,can I also send my cv,read accounting and already qualified. Need a job badly..SL
ReplyDeletePoster one I love your spirit, my Christmas wish for you is Gods favor and miracle, you ve a family that loves you and a fighting spirit trust your maker, Happy New Year and waiting to celebrate you here before June 2015 ...Amen
ReplyDeletethank u Stella ,u just made me laugh. my husband upsets me deeply today. untop of that, he slammed the door and left house since morning. hmm women only God knows what we go through in marriage. thanks for this laughs. " wipe tears"
ReplyDeleteAnon looking for church to go . Go to vpa church in barking London that spirit go leave you . Watch believe tv . Pastor Alex omokudu .
ReplyDeleteAnonymous E, pls if you are reading this, ask SDK for my email address, I will leave my number with her and my e-add. You"ve being on my mind. Let me talk to one or two people I have prayed with and see if its ok for you to call them.
ReplyDeleteI hope you come back to read this.
Hello everyone, I am the second poster. I can't thank you all enough for your positive comments and advice, wish I could give you all cyber hugs. You have no idea how much you've helped me come out of the pit of depression I was slowly slipping into. I'm moving on with my life and believing God that a wonderful man will come my way but until then I'm working on ME.
ReplyDelete*hugs and kisses*
Lady T
ReplyDeletethanks for the response. I have seen some of your comments on another post. This encouraged me to respond to this email
Let me be honest, I am scared and skeptical to pray with anyone. My experience.
I believe distance is no boundary for God. Maybe in the course of wholeness I will have the courage to contact you.
Thanks in advance
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