THE SUGAR MUMMY CONNECTION
My husband lost his job about 4 years ago, needless to say it was the most trying time for us. Last year, things got very bad, then he started trying to get a job in Abuja (we live in Lagos), this warranted his travelling to Abuja very often, luckily he got a job to work with a known friend of his(so he said then). Things began to look up again, new cars, enough money, better schools for the kids.
He was staying in Abuja, coming home twice monthly, he said cost of living was too high in Abuja so I had to adjust to the arrangement, it soon became once a month, I didn't complain but I started getting suspicious when he became distant each time we had sex.
I decided to scoop on his phone, it took me a while to get his password but I did and my heart broke to pieces. My husband had another woman in Abuja. I confronted him and what he told me just killed me. He said "she's the one responsible for the good life you've been living, I can't leave her, at least not now "
I decided to scoop on his phone, it took me a while to get his password but I did and my heart broke to pieces. My husband had another woman in Abuja. I confronted him and what he told me just killed me. He said "she's the one responsible for the good life you've been living, I can't leave her, at least not now "
I jumped on him, tore his shirt, cried and cried but the situation remains the same. He's gone back now but I'm just in a daze.
What do I do?
ah!!!!
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Tor!!!
ReplyDeletePoster, pray your husband out of that bandage. Take it to God cus he is the solution to everything.
DeleteI feel his telling lies go and find out where he lives in abj u would find out so many things when u get there .He might even be In to some other shady deals and may have had another wife .forget all that sugar mummy story
DeletePoster, u may or may not have any control over the situation but NOTE you have all the control in the world over how you respond to it
DeleteLife happens!
Whatever you go thru in life, it always get better if you expect it to but in God's timing. At this point I will want you to totally submit to God, don't despair, trust God with ur whole heart and see how he reverses all in ur favour!
Ahnnnn! Nawa*
DeletePoster, this is tough! When ur hubby came home that things hv changed, what did u do? U just sat down and started enjoying money???
Women! Women! Women! Please, stop this una *oriaku o**... learn to ask questions. u ought to know the source of any wealth u are consuming to avoid outcomes like this.
Poster, d deed has been done! It's time to calm down and thinnnnnkkkkk***. Weigh all ur options before taking a step. If u sure want to remain with that man, it' time to activate ur female wisdom to the fullest. Combine it with serious prayers and better suggestions for a divert for him... play it cool, trust me u will win. All d best*
Ps: the resentment that will follow after u have won won't be a small something ooo... so strategies well on how to let go of some hurtful memories when u re done!
Strategise*
DeleteNa real Tor! Sad stuff! Madam, abuja babes ain't smiling. ...at least he still comes back home....It is heart breaking but pray about it! Na wa
DeleteI don't know oh dear poster,I'll just read comments
ReplyDeleteBtw,my test was wonderful
**lululiscious**
I'm in shock! It's always better for a man to deny what you already know he's doing but this one he's talking to you like this! I hope he doesn't reduce it to once in 3months. Take it to God in prayer. I'll just sit back and read comments.
DeleteAbeg whc test?
DeleteHiv/AIdS???
sorry madam!it is well
ReplyDeleteI don't think it is well ooh.
DeletePoster grab what you can and leave that man.I think your husband loves you but he will only realize himself and come back fully to you if you leave him for a while. Mind you he might not come back to you if greed has blinded him . It's a dicey situation so be careful and choose wisely.
OMG, i'm speechless.What a wicked man,put him in prayers and watch God do wonders.It is well with you
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmm,shocker!!!..this is a huge shock.
ReplyDeleteWill patiently wait for comments.
Sorry poster,that's all I can say for now.
Speechless. Pray Woman, Pray!!! #shiloh 2014
ReplyDeleteForce him to leave d woman...den withdraw ur children from school n send em to a public school n ur struggle of 4 years will start all over again...@least ur hubby dey make money by cheating not d other way round...na d sacrifice he dey do for d family be dat,maybe u shld see it dat way
ReplyDeleteSacrifice?? To his ancestors bah? What happened to working hard? If it was the other way round we'll all be screaming "prostitute"! Please stop spewing rubbish.
DeleteOxygen Magnesium!!Your case isn't new, it's like nigerian women knowing their husbands have Oyibo wife and keep mute...I will read comments!
ReplyDeleteWomen beware, expecially married women....never u allow ur husband travel to ABUJA alone....The same thing with Calabar.... The festival is here again.... Married women be careful.....keep your beautiful home
ReplyDeleteSorry blog analyser..... It is well with You.......
ABUJA...Phc women can like to devour married men....make dem go marry.mbanu....na lesbian dem go dey do and fuck big big men..if age don come run leave them..dem go dey carry their eagle eyes dey find person happy home to break
@Galore
LMAO....
DeleteNa wa o, lost for words to say.
ReplyDeleteMe sef lost for words,even Stella wey lik to advice say ahh!! Lol
DeleteSerious ahhhh!!!!! I have heard how married men who live in Abuja pose like they are bachelors, just because their family don't reside there with them.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart I'm sorry, hmm I honestly don't know how you will handle this, considering the woman in question is responsible for your financial buoyancy. Atleast hubby told you the truth
I shall sit my ass, and read advice from other blog visitors
Hmmmm...this one hard me o!
ReplyDeletePoster, this situation of your's is a tough one oh.
ReplyDeleteAs yoruba people would say: ona ofun, ona orun. Meaning when it comes to keeping body and soul together, it's a matter of life and death.
I don't even know what to advice right now 'cos your livelihood is tied to this woman.
I'll suggest you be patient and prayerful (unless you can go it all alone).
Also, start requesting for money from your husband and start saving like there's no tomorrow, incase push comes to shove.
In the mean time, remain calm and pleasant, whole planning your next move. All the best.
Click my name for all your celebration cakes and cupcakes, cheers
Hmmmmm!
ReplyDeleteU see ur life y u even scoop sef? Now u know he's with another lady SAD. I love ur husband cos he still care for his family, please enjoy d good life jare afterall na sugar mummy! ....
ReplyDeleteMy dear just put everything in prayer for ur peace of mind. Pls BVs I have a cheap and affordable truck for sale contact me on Pearlon24@yahoo.com. For more info.
ReplyDeleteI advice u go down on ur knees and pray to God. it won't be easy bt u jst have to endure him hoping that one day he wil realise his mistakes. take solace in ur beautiful kids.
ReplyDeleteGobe! I can't even comprehend.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm sister this one hard o. I'l leave it for d experts to handle
ReplyDelete*lips sealed*... i'll wait for the married women in the house to comment. Genny B, General's wife, Fab mum, Eze nwayi, Mrs Irene B and Co, over to you
ReplyDeleteOMG! Speechless....its well
ReplyDeleteIt's well ooo
ReplyDeleteOMG this is heartbreaking......speechless
ReplyDeleteOmo..this is sad to say the least o, Kai experienced married women should advice you because if you need my blunt advise hmmm. Will you start using you tongue to count your teeth, start strategising on how to end that your marriage. That husband of yours is a lazy unrepentant dog, what pissed me off is the fact that he isn't even sorry, he is using another woman's sweat to feed you. Na gigolo be that o, please get a job or get something doing so you can fend for yourself and kids. How do women stay as house wives? He has been jobless for 4years and you didn't try to get a job or trade. If he is not ready to leave that woman and struggle like a man, walk out of that marriage, he will only bring you shame and heartbreak...to forewarned is to be ??? PH GAL
ReplyDeletehmmm like a nollywood story line.you might end up losing ur husband
ReplyDelete#teamDec14
Hmmm things re really happening....
ReplyDeleteIs either u stay and enjoy the money or u divorce him... either way is ur choice cos your husband isn't about changing his line of business
ReplyDeleteThere is really nothing u can do. Focus on ur kids, keep busy i.e get a job, and take everything to God in prayers. My advice, stop sex with him to avoid stories that touch.
ReplyDeleteOuch! That must've gone so deep! Don't even know what to say. All, all is well....
ReplyDeletePlease how did you get his password? i am more interested in that. Btw, get a job to cater for you and your kids and stop depending on another woman's money at the expense of sharing your husband.
ReplyDeletemy sister i can feel ur heartbroken. I don't knw what to say but i pray God heals ur heart. Amen
ReplyDeleteAhhh madam, this is serious o. I don't even know what to say, this one is beyond me because money sweet oooo.
ReplyDeleteSorry dear.
ReplyDeleteAunt Stells,am waiting ooo.
Aeegurl...
Serious gobe...... And at this stage its not gonna be easy to leave the Sugar Mummy. She sef no go wan invest ontop the man in vain
ReplyDeleteChoi dis one pass me oooo. Let me wait for comment.
ReplyDeleteEeeeewww
ReplyDeleteChai! This is a tough one oh!
I dnt evn knw what to advice. Na wa ooh!
Ife neme
Wow I'm shocked..let me just read comments..onyem onu okwu
ReplyDeleteGet on your knees and pray! Its not the time to cry! Imagine urself as a soldier, wil u cry at the battlefront where bullets are fighting left, right and center? Read and meditate on Phillipians 4:6 if you are a christian. Ask God to give ur husband a better source of income and free him from that affair! it is well!
ReplyDeleteDear poster, please take your case to God in fasting and prayers. It is well with you.
ReplyDeletewoman i dnt tink dias anytin u can do nw if nt 2 go to God in prayer.
ReplyDeleteMy dear u it seems you don't have a job yet so u have this options to choose from....
ReplyDelete1. Let him be and enjoy the money with him, since he can respect you enough to hide it, had it been he threw you out of the house coz of the woman the worst u can do is cry and seek for divorce. He will move on and live a better life while you start your suffer head alone.
2. Move out of the house and divorce him which I don't advice you to do. coz u don't have the capacity and capability to take care of yourself and your kids if you get custody of them.
The ultimate advice is try and pretend you are cool with it and save money as hard as you can, advice him to invest too coz soon its either he will push you out or the other woman will stop supplying. .. it can't be like this forever
no heartbreak as this. Please be strong and look for a something doing to keep you busy and pray more.
ReplyDeleteThis is why I encourage women to "update" themselves as at when due*shines teeth*
ReplyDeleteYou see how you would have slept on bike not knowing that there is fire on the mountain??
Oh well,i will always prefer a temporary downtime and then gradually build our lives back to this situation!
Personally,i will not live in this mess....id rather go to the village and break palm kernel than expose myself to diseases,uncertainties,danger and orishirishi...Madam,you know yourself..i will not blame you by asking why you never visited,when these things happen....you refuse to listen to your instinct!! Some men are not smiling...
You know what you want to do ma...
Life is never fair oooo..
ReplyDelete@poster;there is two things you can do here;
1)call him on phone and tell him you need to have an urgent discussion with him in person,if he is able to come;ask him what his plans is with the other woman..does he want to wife her?? Does he wants to divorce you?? From his answers you can then know if you two are still gonna remain a couple or not..
Also i 'd like to ask if he still takes proper care of you with no form of abuse since the past few months when he has found his lost "silver spoon" cos thats another ishh too..
2)put everything in prayers..and also know that what must be;must be!!
Note:you can never force love on a man.if he trully loves you;he would return to you when his sense's are back to default..#best of luck
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ReplyDeleteAm speechless.
Hmmm
Pray for him. This is bad, really bad.
Money is a mammon, can make people throw their morals to the bin.
He might even be telling the SM that he's single.
This is one reason why I don't want to be a SAHM. I'd rather be a WAHM.
Financial empowerment o women. Single ladies save up(not to be wasted on weddings and handbags) but to establish yourself tomorrow.
Marriage is sweet till the rainy day comes which only the survivors will experience the sweeter side of it.
The answer to ur question is nothing, atleast u and ur kids are enjoying the money, if u leave him now he will quietly marry the other woman, just look for a sugar boy that will help shine ur Congo period.
ReplyDeleteShuuu!dont know why people take this life very serious.why people carry marriage matter on top head like gala.you said new cars,money etc then you cry again for the source.why don't u enjoy the good life and gather as much as you can while at it?this ur husband is not ready to leave that woman anytime soon so let that sink into ur skull.a cheating husband is like a disease,it will torment you and eat you off.tell him to start something for u and save and leave when you 've gotten enough!!!the truth is bitter to swallow.mo sentiments Biko.men are not worth the stress and trauma .conc on ur kids
ReplyDeletePoster get your kness,God will make everything right for you ok
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster lemme nt lie to you dere is nuttin u can do Shishi! Nd u av to be careful too, at least he sends money home takes care of u ppl, it's the same as your husband taking another wife and most as soon as they get another woman will 4get their 1st wife so my dear start praying pray for God to open doors for him so that he wuld nt need to continue feeding 4rm dat women hence feeling dat she's entitled to him. 2, pray dat God will part them lyk the red sea so ur husband will only have eyes for u. 3, nd most importantly my dear save save nd save be wise o, start up a biz if u dn't av a job start stocking nd building up ur worth ooo nd prepare because anytin can happen, lyk the boys scout motto: be prepared! In the meanwhile nne jisike o! Ogadiginma
ReplyDeleteLike Stella Ahhhhh!!!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear make i siddon read other people comments....
Madam
ReplyDeleteYou can't lose your husband to money na
If your a Christian do this:
First of all relax. The situation is not irreversible. God can do anything
Be joyful
And then start midnight prayers
Read proverbs 5: 17-21
Read Isaiah 54:17
Call back your hubby
And break the hold of the devil and that strange woman upon him
Decree enmity between them
Madam... don't stop till your hubby comes back to you.
God answers prayers
Am a living testimony
Come and share your testimony soon.
*hugs.
Be strong okay?
We at SDK love you.
Okay?
Chei
ReplyDeleteMadam,u must be a housewife. housewives doesn't have say in most marriages.No respect too.look for something and start doing to earn money.Men of this days hate liabilities for a wife.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy the good life nd invest.... he has gone to meet his new lov in abuja. shikenna
ReplyDeletePoster sorry for your heart break oooo...i will wait to read what the wise ones say...
ReplyDeleteThis is normal all men cheat my dear so says my mother in law . Prayer is key in Marriage . Just Pray
ReplyDeleteGabz
This is normal all men cheat my dear so says my mother in law . Prayer is key in Marriage . Just Pray
ReplyDeleteGabz
Your MIL lied boo. She's protecting her son. Men who have no respect for themselves and their women cheat. There has got to be at least one faithful man on earth. Where is he? That I don't know.
DeleteWow!
ReplyDeleteSugar mummy things.
She must be freaking rich.
Oriegwu
U should start investing d money he brings in a business of your own and use condom with him. And pray as well
In this situation, prayer is the key, keep praying, and this is not the time to fight with him o,if not u lld loose him patapata, Pls be prayerful.
ReplyDeleteHaaa...if u leave, where will u start from since u have no job? U go manage n pray d sugar mummy doesn't find out abt u else she might whack ur husband. Or u wanna pack out? Pack out naa.,or brave the storm.
ReplyDeleteFrankly I'm speechless. I'm so sorry. This country can make people commit atrocities. I can play the self righteous card and say how dare he, but the pressure to provide for his family must have overwhelmed him. Lets see what Bloglord will say.
ReplyDeleteThat's Abuja for you. Poster, follow him to Abuja. Naked the lady. Disgrace her in public. Then go back to Lagos. Sit on a sofa and monitor your husband on cctv.
ReplyDeleteWoman, if I were u, I will act like noting as happen ni o. Job na job sugar mummy job and office work na d same
ReplyDeletehmmm...
ReplyDeleteBeing poor isnt enough reason to cheat on your wife or turn into a jigolo..
I know things where bad then financially but still stop making excuses for him..
He has committed adultery and according to my bible you have every right to divorce him...
If you where the one sleeping with a man for money your ass would have been on the street by now..
You didn't say if you are working or not but from your write up i can tell that you are not..
Please get something doing and leave that dying man to his fate..sorry to say..
May God see you through
Water don pass garri ooooh, hmmm like play like play u dey look ur hubby dey slip out of ur hand so
ReplyDeleteSIT DOWN AND WATCH!
ReplyDeletehmmm...things are happening....God will save ur marriage poster
ReplyDeleteHaaaaa!!!!!…Madam i really feel your pain..Ha! Let MOI go and think,,I don't know what to tell you right now…Ha!
ReplyDeleteMove on! Or find a man to sponsor your government
ReplyDeleteWhich government? Lol god abeg oo o
DeleteHis lying which woman go do all those things na lie oooo except she be senator find out her identity and we're your husband lives in abj .those his neighbour's would tel u the truth
ReplyDeletePoster I know how u feel ,try n talk him out of d sugar mummy but if u think u cnt withstand d smoke better storm out of d kitchen,it's as simple as dat,but if u can put up with such crab then stay n enjoy d money n d drama dat unfolds,but note dat since he acts distant while making luv to u,it means he is no longer into u but d sugar mummy,so it's up to u to decide what u want
ReplyDeleteI feel your pain young woman. Don't fight rather make him understand in a family is love. If theres no love with all the money then peace in the home will be like a mirage.
ReplyDeletecut him off completely, don't accept money from him again or allow him take responsibility of anything that has to do with you. let him know clearly that you rather die in poverty than be loyal than an adulterer or partake in such arrangement. If you don"t denounce him and his ways, then you will partake in the curse. Pray for him.
Dats serious.wish I cld advice u.let me chill for other comments
ReplyDeleteSee gobe!!!!!
ReplyDeleteAs bad as it may sound..u av no choice unless u av another job for him.let him be since he's taking good care of d family.he still got his senses dhou cos some never will not even care about d family.#sipsMoetnChandon#
ReplyDeleteBest comments from moy dot....
DeleteGaddammit!!!
ReplyDeletePoster I have no words to comfort you
I too am in a daze
Damn!
~AbadaBeeDee~
Get a job and divorce that leech you call a husband
ReplyDeleteWHAT THE F**k....girl, communication matters in marriage. the next time your husband come back, call him and tell him how you feel. if i where you i will stick with my man coz to me marriage is a life time thing and of cause that is why i am shinning my little black eyes now..heheheh..and if he still insist on going on with the oda lady, focus on yourself girl and your kids (if any)....if he do do, e go tire, regret then come back begging.
ReplyDeleteand please cry very well if it will hopefully make you happy. pray and please start using protection with his sorry a**.
God bless you.
Why will one woman give another this type of advice? Of course he will come back after he do taya. Cos he knows she will foolishly accept him each and every time. Women, have self respect. If u want to continue accepting crap for the rest of your marriage, keep enabling him. OK? Mmmmsshhheesws
DeleteHmm. This one pass me oh cos you follow although unknowingly, de chop the fruit of his labour. Better things of life, but with a price. Chai! And some for don de tap enter ya blessing. May he not end up impregnanting the woman or leave you. Better start saving from the rendezvous money now in case of incasity. If the truth be told.
ReplyDeleteAs in... Save all the money you can. Start a business to occupy yourself.
DeleteStella I follow u say Ahh!!!! Make I sitdon dey wait for comments, dis one pass me
ReplyDeleteNne, there's nothing to do.
ReplyDeleteI think your husband is a good man,
Just pray for 3 things,
That he ll agree to use condom with you, find a better thing to do and you getting a job.
Note: This is a time to saveeeeeeee!
So instead of her to focus her prayers on her kids and their future...she is here praying for condom?chai!!
DeleteSpeechless
ReplyDeleteStella I follow you shout ahhh! Short of words to say. Would just wait and read comments. Poster it's well
ReplyDeleteaaargh...ehn...hmmm..errrmmm...madam i don't know what to say...let me sef jump on him, tear his clothes and cry...hmmm...tueh
ReplyDeleteHmmmm, ipo yi o ka ju! One thing I can say is madam never share your man and do not do anything whatsoever to encourage it! God help you. I will wait for BVs who are experienced and yeah no more love making! I would have said you should leave but I don't think you can leave your kids with him and without any source of income ATM, who will take care of them. Okay, I think you should start something doing ASAP and start saving up for youself and investigate this woman and see if she knows what's up.Please dont get HBP because of this, its not worth it oo.If you die, freedom for them and think of your children please.This is really complicated! I can't imagine how you feel now.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm! This is serious o. Poster, just commit it to Gods's hand cos u can't do anything for now.
ReplyDelete#Thisondobabesays# Sense kobo you no get , you should use her to better your life , start a business , go get a nice car and even sef be her friend and be thanking her for the love . The work on your husband as unna suffer before eh sweet you . Be wise if you fight him he will only get closer to her and you'd lose him , so show some love be very romantic and prayerful and be wise .
ReplyDeleteMe too, i'm in a daze.
ReplyDeleteMake I follow Stella ah!
Lol.
Btw, marry a rich man, rich in millions...avoid future stories that will finger our aveoli.
poverty na bastard ,hmm ,this is serious gobe ,,
ReplyDeletei dey groove ,make i await comments from the wise one
You don't need to watch africa magic channel before you see my magic in africa....my sis hold on to your God and gently talk it out with him...
ReplyDeleteSon of Solomon
O ga o... pray pray pray
ReplyDeleteI really feel for u e hug dear,ask God for wisdom nd sit ur hubby down nd have a heart talk wit him,make him understand dat u really appreciate his effort for u nd d kids but u dnt like d way at which he is going abt it.pls be gentle abt ur approach make him see reasons dat the family he luvs so much nd he is ready to do any thing for is abt to hit d rock by his actions.
ReplyDeleteUnless you plan on leaving him, which I am not sure that is your plan. Just find a way to make yourself happy outside of him.. I know a lot of people will come here now and say focus on your kids, find something to keep you busy and all that.. all that will help but more importantly if you choose to stay in the marriage, the man don tell you his position, you need to find your own happiness, something that makes you happy which will soften the blow and ease the pain you are currently going through. Look no marriage is perfect we all just find the best way to navigate through the rough patches. All marriages go through these patches at some point, it doesn't have to be infidelity but there will sha be something that seriously rocks the smooth sailing boat... It is how we overcome these challenges that matters. All the best dear.
ReplyDeleteE. Pope
First, be sure hussy has not infected you.
ReplyDeletesave up n brace up. (start something to help the family)
go to MFM n pray....
God would give him a decent job n bring him back home.
no need fighting him.
stay. Blessed
Y are U complaining naa.....
ReplyDeleteUr husband is a very resourceful man and U should be very proud of him.
U ve Ur kids and U're very comfortable,what else are U looking for?????
D only snag here is U knowing and confronting him...very easy to wife her now and unfortunately there is nothing U can do about it.
She is rich,highly connected and U,a nobody.
U don't confront a man in love,a gigolo and a drug addict.
U can either divorce him,stay put,but bear in mind that U ain't d only one in this situation if in doubt go to Lekki that's where U will see artificial big men.
Sorry o....
Exactly the second paragraph got me
DeleteSpot on.
Deleteexcellently written ezenwanyi.
Dear Lord, don't give me load I cannot carry o....Thank you Lord Jesus!
ReplyDeleteThe man is a sorry excuse for a husband. He leaves off another woman. Peeps, am so excited, for the first time ever, I won something. I am getting a free ticket to watch the 'gods are not to blame'. Courtesy SD blog. God bless you all.
ReplyDeleteLives
DeleteHa! Pls shiloh is still on going, cone and cry to God and if u are a Muslim get Ur rosery and get on d mat now
ReplyDeleteYour huby is a married Gigolo,just pray very very well oooo,hmmm prayoooo, so that what happened in 19Dc will not repeat itself.before ihe madu aburu nke onye ozo by power of Udele Ajadu.God will restore your man & his source of income by only praises & prayer Amen
ReplyDeleteYour huby is a married Gigolo,just pray very very well oooo,hmmm prayoooo, so that what happened in 19Dc will not repeat itself.before ihe madu aburu nke onye ozo by power of Udele Ajadu.God will restore your man & his source of income by only praises & prayer Amen
ReplyDeleteThis is serious. Please go on your knees at mid-night, if possible be nude before your maker, pour out your heart to Him. God will bring him back home. Don't relent in prayers dear because this is the only potent and effective weapon you can use to restore sanity into your husband. Don't call the woman on phone in other to threaten her o. This might make your hubby remain with her for a long time. Its well
ReplyDeletePray for him. Pray for a new job for him and the hold of that strange woman would be cut off. Pray, pray and pray without ceasing.
ReplyDeleteStella my shocker! My lecturer colleague in office just said she wants to browse on my laptop the next thing she asked me do I visit SDK I was shocked, she said that's what she want to check that she as not visited SDK today and she is not herself. Stella I am repping from far, Ishiagu Ebonyi state.I thought am the only SDKer here oh. Until now.
ReplyDeleteLol @ repping from far.
DeleteYou are close, Dear.
hello Fellow BV, all hope is not lost. I will advice that before he comes visiting again, have some money with you for transport both for yourself and the children, on the day of his departure back your bag alongside your children's own and return to Abuja with him. But make sure you don't give him a pre-information that you would travel back with him, otherwise he will have plan B and your plan will fail. You are the only one who has the legal right to fight for him because he is your sole possession. Also remember to pray my dear, but wisdom of course is profitable to direct my dear, I hope to hear your testimony of restoration. Be strong my darling.
ReplyDeleteDon't follow these advice expect you want to lose your husband finally,what will do when you get there,dont allow the rich woman to snap your neck stay @ home and save more than enough because the reason for all tis insult is money which you don't have and your hubby won't be leave the good things of life for you,and if you ruin his so called chance of of enriching himself you will really suffer for it and you will have another narrative to stella on how inhuman your husband is,ignore your husband and save money since you don't have job
DeleteA very sad situation...Hmmmm..I really don't know what to say
ReplyDeletePrayer is the key!
ReplyDeletePrayer is the master Key!!
I really hate reading about marriage woes,God please help me oh.
ReplyDeleteHian, this one is strong, you cannot do anything as long as. There is distance between you both. Infact I am coming back!
ReplyDeleteLobatan!!!
ReplyDeleteOmg! Why do I have such a wild and active imagination! I can't imagine,oh God forbid! I don't even know what to say. God forbid.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteEach day with its challenges, my dear sister am not in the best position to say do this or that but I think you should take the case to God in prayers.With what your hubby has said he is not ready to leave her, ask God to separate them.Thats all that I can say for now. Hmmmmmnnnnn, what a woman sees in marriage it's better imagined
ReplyDeleteAm gigolo with a lot of dough. . In r kelly ' s voice... lol.. pray for him
ReplyDeleteThis is complicated oh..will just wait to read comments.
ReplyDeleteThelma enemuwe said....
ReplyDeleteSpeechless....your hubby is so insensitive
Madam kindly pack your bags and dat of ur kids and heads straight 2 abuja where your hubby lives
With the way this is turning into,ure gonna loss your hubby finally to this rich sugar mummy...
I feel so sorry for ur hubby as he has lost himself into a strange womans bossom..
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
Thelma enemuwe said....
ReplyDeleteSpeechless....your hubby is so insensitive
Madam kindly pack your bags and dat of ur kids and heads straight 2 abuja where your hubby lives
With the way this is turning into,ure gonna loss your hubby finally to this rich sugar mummy...
I feel so sorry for ur hubby as he has lost himself into a strange womans bossom..
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
I'll just wait 4 comments
ReplyDeleteNa wa... I stay in abuja and can tell how sugar daddies/mummies mess up pple's homes. Poster God'll help u
ReplyDeleteAah,this is serious o...I just have to wait for comments!
ReplyDeleteJesus! Madam I feel ur pain o, but at this time I'll just read comments.
ReplyDeleteJeeez,wat a chronicle,sorry maam,u need 2 thread on this issue carefully.think,plan,act. Cos seems ur hubby is loving every bit of it.
ReplyDeleteHaa, this one pass me ooh
ReplyDeleteI can feel your pain madam, what a pity
I don't know what to say.
People with experience should advise her biko
Wow, let me read comments...
ReplyDeleteUr hubby is just an irresponsible man
ReplyDeleteMxcheew
If he didn't agree to date d woman n still jobless,unable to provide for his family u'l still call him irresponsible man
DeleteI can only imagine how u feel,that's terrible of him.prayer is all I can say u shld do. So he is not even remorseful of what he is doing,tell God to break that chain the woman used in tying him down cos ds is beyond woman power o.is he that desperate for a better life that he wl jeopardise the hapiness and love of his family?
ReplyDeleteDon't even know what to type anymore
This is serious oo!
ReplyDeleteHmmm, sorry madam, your husband does not have an excuse for adultery. Only a lazy man would take a short cut to success. Just pray to God to cause confusion between them bcos I can't tell you to leave your marriage. Believe me, the prayer of a virtuous woman works.And it seems you're not working hence totaly dependent on him, pls try and get a job, though it's not easy especially if you have kids bcos since I had my baby, getting a job has been so difficult, but keep trying until you get one, that's what I'm doing and I know luck will shine on me oneday. Pray for your husband. God cannot bless your family through an adulterous woman. So pls pray for God's blessings on your family.
ReplyDelete@ poster go on ur knees & hand every thing to God in prayr,,d Good Lord is ur strength..pls be faithful to him no matter what,, with ur prayr he must come back to u...
ReplyDeleteMadam pretend ur ok wif it n start savin moni bigtym cos 1dai he might leav u fr her...... Be wise n pack d moni cos he won't stop.
ReplyDelete~@iamjbankz SA to President Jonathan 2015~
True talk o...dont let dat affect you cos your husband is not ready to leave dat woman and it will kip bringing up fites. Act like dere s no problem, get money from him and also try getting a job 4 ursef .
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DeleteHmmmm this one pass me o.
ReplyDeleteHaaa, Lobatan. U nid 2 b more prayerful now
ReplyDeleteLeave him for God. It is his responsibility to provide for you and the kids so anywhere he wants to get the provision from is his cup of tea. At least heaven knows you kicked against that particular "provision store".
ReplyDeleteLeave him for God. It is his responsibility to provide for you and the kids so anywhere he wants to get the provision from is his cup of tea. At least heaven knows you kicked against that particular "provision store".
ReplyDeleteWell, the sugar mummy is the reason for your survival. Kindly advise your DH to use a condom so as not to infect you at the long run. Seems like his sugar mummy has come to stay.
ReplyDeleteExactly. ....
DeleteWhat do you do?
ReplyDeleteLeave him for the sugar mummy?
I think you should have a very long talk with him.
Sincerely, I am confused for you!
Give him an ultimatum. You or your benefactor.
ReplyDeleteIf he chooses you, be ready for another trying time. I take it you don't work and bring nothing to the table.
I don't want you to feel bad more than you are feeling; but my dear; there is a way someone you are living with will be spending money; which Will raise eyebrow and become suspicious. when the goodies you see is not the equivalent of your partners job.but I guess you were carried away by the luxury. Is only a materialistic person that will fall for that because I know the hand writing and loop holes were there for you to read.where this kind of surprise you got comes in; is when there was wealth before you married him.So if your husband is broke and all of a sudden starts making blood money; are you telling me you will not notice.Pls try and make your husband know that you are ready to live low instead of this dirty way and pray to God to favour you people. I know it will not be easy but is better he quits now than sink deeper. do it in a loving way and may the holyspirit fill you with wisdom as you talk with him.believe me leaving that woman Will not be easy.most of this sugar mummys are deadly.so you have to be tactful.cheers and all the best.
ReplyDeleteNne jide obi gi aka
ReplyDeleteJust pray for your hubby, let the evil hand holding him loose it's grip.
Locate any shiloh Viewing Center closest to you. Pray your heart out, God still answers prayer.
It Is Well !
That`s what you get for snooping! This is not saying what he`s doing is right, but like he said, `that`s how things are going to remain for now`. I suggest you be patient. You don "testimony" (tested-the-money)..
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm.this is serious,i think you should steal patient it obvious t women want good things and men will do everything to please applicable to men too,just calm down and talk to your husband,maybe if you are willing to stay poor he can leave the woman
ReplyDeleteAbeg I don't know what else to say joor,the love for money and material things is the cause of this
Jeeeeeeeeeez Tayan
DeleteYour gbagaun/errors nowadays is on another level..
Why na??
Always proof read before you hit "Publish" button, alright?
Yes, you're welcome. Lol
Thanks I will
DeleteRemain in your daze, or pack yourself and your kids. Go meet him there so that the other woman will know he's got a family. If this didn't work, leave them and get use to taking care of your kids alone.
ReplyDeleteYou sound jobless. You need a job ASAP madam, it's clear you married a stupid man who's living off a woman.
Close your legs whenever he's around, don't joke with your life. Your kids need you alive.
Do not fight either of them if they refuse to stop but you can course them sha.
lol and later they would say its only women that can loose their sanity because of money.
ReplyDeletefirst, madam do you work? if no, get a job. secondly ask your husband for his cv and also try getting another job for him in lagos. Thirdly, make sure you take this in prayer to GOD and rebrand yourself because trust me if there is no means to another money option, your husband wont leave that woman and the more he continues with her, the more she would have an edge and hold him to ransom except God intervenes. look for a solution and stop crying... goodluck.
Wow! This is serious. I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through.
ReplyDeleteIt is left for you to determine whether or not you can live with your husband staying with another woman. So think about it well and hard before deciding. But what I can't deal with is why he spends most of his time in abuja and only visits you once a month? Seems to me he prefers staying with the other lady than with you,I maybe wrong though.
All the best.
Things are really happening. Does he mean he doesn't earn salary or the woman is her boss or something? your hubby is cunning and deceitful. So he expects you to pretend like everything is cool knowing fully well that he's over there screwing another woman? am so confused and sad for you.
ReplyDeleteNawa o.he couldn't even try to shield her from it. He had to say 'i can't leave her'. I'm too shocked for words sef. May God give poster the strength and wisdom to handle the situation and may peace be restored to her home.
ReplyDeleteKai dis broke my heart...poster u nid tonnes of patience right nw...i'l advice u to be patient and go on ur knees in prayers.
ReplyDeleteMost Abuja sugar mummies use jazz so dis battle ain't ordinary...Go on a fast and pray fervently...chai,ur husband allowed a strange woman to take undue advantage of his bad financial situation...God will fight it out for u
Ihe nke a dikwa very serious!!!...bikonu fellow BV's, advice dis woman more
Will come back and read comments frm y'all...chai..oriegwu ooo..MEN!!!
Kai dis broke my heart...poster u nid tonnes of patience right nw...i'l advice u to be patient and go on ur knees in prayers.
ReplyDeleteMost Abuja sugar mummies use jazz so dis battle ain't ordinary...Go on a fast and pray fervently...chai,ur husband allowed a strange woman to take undue advantage of his bad financial situation...God will fight it out for u
Ihe nke a dikwa very serious!!!...bikonu fellow BV's, advice dis woman more
Will come back and read comments frm y'all...chai..oriegwu ooo..MEN!!!
Now you know pls always protect your self during sex if @ all you want that to happen. Fast and pray that God blinds this other woman n other women where your husband is. Does it mean one can't do another a favor for free?
ReplyDeleteOne sad story after another each passing day. God will deliver his people n pls don't go diabolical, that will worsen the situation n pls don't call this other woman cos it ain't necessary. Sort out things amicably with your husband.
Madam pls hold unto prayer,God must interven
ReplyDeleteThat's what u get for being too nosy
ReplyDeleteToo harsh @Joyce
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My dear ehhn, save, save, save and pray,@least talking to the supreme being eases up stress. In the process of saving, start to Google up business ideas that you would start with your capital and start something no matter how small. Marriage is not a bed of roses so I would not advice you to leave him, rather shower him with so much love that he would forget his name whenever he z back to Lagos. At least with what you said he must have been really depressed seeing the situation of his family. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm. Am not married but I can feel wat u re going tru, pls try and hold yourself. And put it in my prayer.
ReplyDeleteWish I have a good advice but really I don't just pray about it
ReplyDeleteMadam please don't make the mistake of confronting that sugar mummy, why? they can be very very deadly please stay safe for the sake of your children. That dick she is enjoying now i don't think she will let go without a fight.
ReplyDeleteMadam keep praying
ReplyDeleteYou married a lazy man. Now, you have 2 options. You prayerfully ask him to resign and you can do this by involving his parents. This matter is one that can rip your home apart. That sugar mummy has your husband in the palm of her hands and what he is sending your way is a pittance compared to what he is gaining from her. So, you can either get serious and get him out of there or you get ready to share,your husband. Your prayers are a bit watered down because you can not be praying against a strange woman and knowingly chop her money. God is not Nigerian. I would not taste a kobo from him but then again you might not be employed.
ReplyDeleteMadam pray for your husband and get something doing ASAP.The lord is your strength oh! What makes him think the sugar mummy will be ready to let go some day?
ReplyDeleteOmg! All i can tell u is take it God in prayers, i can't even begin to imagine how u feel.I bet the woman over there doesn't even know he is married.I pray God appears suddenly in ur case.It's just not fair!
ReplyDeleteHOW NIGERIAN POVERTY CAUSED BY OUR WICKED POLITICIANS CREEP INTO EVERYTHING, INCLUDING MARRIAGE. SO MUCH THAT AFTER PESIN GIVE YOU SHIT, YOU SAY THANK YOU, SIR!. COS OF MONEY-WORSHIP. THE SHIT NIGERIAN MEN TRY WITH THEIR WIVES THEY CANT DARE IT WITH THEIR OYIBO WIVES.
ReplyDeleteSORRY BOO U HAVE LOST YOUR HUBBY. TO THAT WOMAN, AND TO MONEY. HE HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOU, ABSOLUTELY NONE- I DONT CARE HOW DEEP UR ECONOMIC MESS IS, HE SHULD HAVE SOUGHT ANOTHER WAY-THAN CHEATING TO YOUR FACE! RUBBISH. YOU MUST TRY TO WIN HIM BACK BEFORE HE COMPLETELY MOVES OUT. HOW WILL U DO THAT? I DONT KNOW, I DONT HAVE THE ANSWERS.
there is no kind of marital crises story i wont read on SDK. i'm heartbroken for u ma'am. i can only imagine how helpless u feel right now. do u wanna divorce him? if yes, pls go right ahead. ur husband is all shades of low. u deserve better. but as a sharp lady, i'll advise u to hold on just a bit, save as much as u can from his ashawo work then move. plenty hugs darling. be strong.
ReplyDeletePoster, I feel the pain in ur heart atm, but it's only God dat can turn wats sweet 4 him now sour Ãήϑ make a new way.
ReplyDeleteSome comments here though, God hv mercy
*Rmn blessed*
Sorry ooo poster but you have to go and stay with your husband wherever he is or less in his next visit he might come back with a bigger gift call STD
ReplyDeleteTalking from experience, leaving ur husband is not advisable, no 1' u need to be prayerful and fast. 2, don't change ur attitude towards ur husband, even give him more affections more than you've been doing, though is had to do try it, with God on ur side he will come back to his sense. It maybe hard to leave d other woman bcos that is where he fend for d family. God will give u victory.
ReplyDeletehii, poster. i will go straight to the point. No lovemaking is cheap, especially when marriage is involved. Your husband is a b*stard. So frm now henceforth, try to find a 'clean' and 'legitimate' way to cater for yourself.It will be hard at first but it will be worth it. Stay away from him, in terms of sex and all. He will realize his mistakes soonest. Above all, put it to God in prayer and seek God's power over the situation. He will NEVER fail you. Do this, and there must be a difference in the situation in your life.
ReplyDeleteAre u ok. Hp u r nt married yet......smh 4 u
ReplyDeleteMy dear, there's nuttin u can do than play along, am married too, if u decide to fight d woman , u would lose, I Wud have said pray, but u de eat the woman money, do idnt know how the prayer go work, just play along and save cos u r gradually losing ur hubby,if u fight him or mk an attempt to call d woman, he wud choose her over u Nd u Dnt av a job, if he stops paying ur kids sch fees wat will u do?..betters accept ur fate nd save up. Every marriage has challenges, if u fight him, u wnt be able to save for ur kids Nd do business, if eventually he wud leave u, y not save up? Dnt let him sleep with u or protect ursef during sex, if u stress him, he wud go to her finally cos as it is he isn't gaining anything from u,, men are selfish so b wise, I de draw my ear de tell u, save n stop crying
ReplyDeletePoster I know it is not easy and I pray for God to heal you. I must conmend him for not totally ignoring you n the family (not an excuse for his behaviour) but some men will not send you o. What I deduct from your story is that you depend on this man financially. Call him, text him and beg him to come visit. When he comes, as much as it hurts don't fight him but prayerfully ask him to set you up business wise so that you can also support him. Believe me no woman wants to share her husband but you are somehow @ a lost due to the financial situation. Equip urself for the sake of your children n ur future. After securing yourself, prayerfully pray your husband back. Be wise and not emaotional @ this stage. It is well!
ReplyDeleteO how my heart weep for you.
ReplyDeleteMy fear is that the sugar mummy does not decide to hook him down forever.
If I were you, I will keep my cool and start looking for how to save furiously.
That's the only way out of this logjam.
I wish you luck.
Poster, please PERSEVERE. Ur husband isn't foolish, at least he's caring enough to provide for u n d kids, he visits too. What more do u want? No go take too much gragra lose ur hubby o! Just be prayerful n mind ur business, get busy too. Rest assured, it'll end in praise. -D Power of Alchemy
ReplyDeleteNawa oo. I don't even knw what to advice. Madam pls talk to God in prayer. He maketh all things possible.
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