You are still mourning being dumped by the man you gave it all to and had numerous abortions for right?He dumped you and married someone out of the blues right?
Let me share this with you.....
They were so in love back then and this babe gave him everything and part of giving everything included being driven to the Doctor's every two months for a 'Flush out'.
The abortions went on for years,every two months I think..He was rich and suave,the talk of town and everybody expected them to get married.
After dating for years,they broke up and he took a walk and married a Christian sister almost immediately.His kids are almost through with their University Education and live abroad.She has been married for as long as I can remember but is yet to conceive.
She has been everywhere,done all the tests and is in her 50's already...
Years later they ,et and because she wanted closure she asked him why he had dumped her so fast when they were in love....his reply which she told me a few days ago was shocking.
He told her he was scared she would not be able to have babies later because of the frequent abortions so when he was ready to marry,he tabled his fears before his close friends and they planned the 'break up'.
The same thing is happening to a lot of women...giving in to unsafe sex when they are in love and paying the consequences of abortions alone.
If they end up marrying you,whilst you wait and cry on God,they try their luck with some other woman....that is why most of you have co-wives you know nothing about and side chicks who have been promised heaven on earth if they can birth babies for hubby DEAREST.
If you must have sex with someone who has not put a ring on it,then protect yourself babe,If the sex results in Pregnancy,PLEASE KEEP IT.
Abortion?Am I a saint?Hell no,I have been there and I know the pain and emptiness thereafter but I have made peace with my self and God and I am not ashamed to talk about it.
Some of you will never talk about yours because it happens 5-10times every year!!!
Some of you would rather die than tell your abortion stories to anyone else
The moral of this post? Stop abusing your body and damaging your womb all in the name of love.
And please know that whether he dumps or marries you,the consequences of the 'flushings' fall back on you!.....you pay the price alone woman!
BE WISE!
Stella, so true and i am not a saint myself. I made a pact with my God and i didnt knw any better.... It is well With us women, after all said and done, dey ll wanna look for a woman wif a 'clean slate' after soiling anoda. God dey.........princess
ReplyDeleteI am proud to say I have never aborted before. Neither do I have a child. Everything will happen under my husband roof. I am very proud.
DeleteAm so guilty as well.I had 13 abortions between 1997-2005.fortunately for me,I married the same guy...we waited for 6years with no child...i do get pregnant;but my womb was just too weak to hold anything.I had so many miscarriages...I was in Nigeria few years ago, i went to RCCG camp all I asked God for was just mercy.I didn't ask for any other thing. I got pregnant the next month..and gave birth to the most precious gift... God says he will have mercy on who he will have mercy on...Am a product of God's mercy. He didn't pay me back in my own coin. Am not saying this,like am proud of i did...i was so naive then.i got pregnant the first month I got disvirgined. By the way,my husband has a son out of wedlock. He got himself a plan B.i was so dumb and stupid. I regret my actions every day. Just like Stella said, I have made peace with my God and myself.
DeleteSDK come close hugs *squeeeeeeeze* love the part of making peace with yourself and God . people listen more to someone with the experience, you are BOLD*squezeeeeeesquezeeeeee.
DeleteYou don't have to be ashamed of yourself, God mercies is sufficient for us. God bless you
DeleteWow@anon!
DeleteThey will not hear oh. Someone will still bring a stupid chronicle here. The idiot will convince you to 'do' without protection, and you being the mumu will hang legs, forgetting that it's not only pregnancy that is the ish here oh. God forbid that I soil my hands because of any guy. If I no close legs, come carry belle, we don become parents be that.
@Anon. It's thankful you should be and not "proud".
DeleteOmg @so ashamed! 13???.. Well, God is ever merciful n u v confirmed it.....bless u
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DeleteI have had over 10 abortions b4 getting married.am just 2 fertile,I even ovulate2wice a month.well thank God for forgiving me and giving me peace,I had it for same guy who disvirgined me for 9 years and now we are married wt a dota,thank u lord for not turning your back on me.I love u lord.
DeleteI never had any abortions too neither did i ever take any contraceptive as a spinster. Even though i had friends who laughed at me that i was "old school",, at least i am happy i stood firm with my decision.
DeleteAnon 2:50pm thank God for his mercies in ur life and to think that same man u did all for still went behind you to find an alternative.....hmmm,what a life. Thank God for you once again.
Uhm I've bn there, done it more than 3 times.. I don't even do abortion anymore, I just use drugs whenever I miss my period so I lost count now... Early 2012 I was going on the road and I met this man who says why have I been doing abortion that it will be hard for me to conceive, I rejected it immediately and I felt bad.. blog visitors I went to revivals and I go to church to confess to God and I asked for forgiveness which I know he has forgiven me, but ever since then I've been trying to get pregnant but no luck... I know the plans of God for me are of good and I pray all my aborted children should forgive me and let me be a mother cos no one is barren in my family... Blog visitors please do not cuss me out, pray for me for my womb to resurrect so I'd be able to conceive also.. I regret all my actions way back with my Ex.. He moved on with his life already but yet to have a child of his own also... Abortion is really a bad thing... I feel so relieved now as this is my first time of saying ds out, I hope someone learn from this..
DeleteThem no dey hear oooo jare....ladies please stop having unprotected SEX! Sex ain't food!
ReplyDeleteGod bless whoever wrote this abortion should never be an option except if the womans life is at risk.
DeleteAnother moral lesson please stop giving yourself so cheap to men, having sex with a man doesn't guarantee he will marry you, ladies be wise. Talking about being wise as a lady, so you're not used as a trash, read here www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2014/11/five-mistakes-women-make-must-read.html?m=1
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Who said its not food? Best food for Men. Energize, Vitamin and Mineral. Lmao
DeleteSmart write-up.
ReplyDeleteConcise and precise.
Its also happen to me oh, during my sch days, I had 3 abortions 4 my sch bf den, bt after d 3rd one d holy spirit open my eyes.m na so I stop oh, I did nt hv sex with anybody 4 three yrs, I kept my body and serve d Lord with all of my bbody n soul, pray for forgiveness, got married and nw hav my own baby without delay. If u r doing it just pray n stop
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ReplyDeleteIt's call weather for two, pregnancy for one!
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DeleteStella u are so on point, ladies should stop nacking naked wire when the boo is not ready to father a child.
Hmmm....true talk...ladies will never learn...Siddon dere be claiming "I love him tori torun"......Mtcheeeee
ReplyDeleteNever u abort for anyman...If he is not ready....keep ur child....dont abort...face the disgrace and keep ur baby
The woman sef try....she for go T junction go swear give am...he too will never have a child with any woman
@Galore
That kind of swear does not work especially when the man has made peace with God, so at the end of the day...the woman bears the weight and pays the price. Swear ko, oath ni. It doesn't work like that anymore except the lady goes diabolical which is even worse....using one wrong to correct another.
DeleteMy dear GALORE you are so correct. I got pregnant and the maga said I should remove it. I refused. 2 years down the line na 'my son this' my son that. He loves the boy die! And trust me to always chip it in that if I had aborted like he asked me to, will he see son to be loving up and down.
DeleteDo you see a child as a disgrace? Unfortunately abortion no dey show for face so people think it is the way out because of people like you that call a child a disgrace. Correct yourself biko. #onelove
DeleteInstead of Abort, Face the disgrace, rejection whatever but keep the child. it could onli be the child for u for eternity. The Child could be one of the influential in the World. I had a Child while in Uni. I wasn't ashamed went to classes came out with best result no extra yr. Still while in School met this wonderful Man who is now my Hubby.I have 3 Children now and my First Child I had with another Man lives with me goes to same school with my hubsband Biological Children. Say No Abortion
DeleteAnonymous I pity you.... No need to go diabolical but u think u just make peace with God and everything disappears? Some brothers r in church suffering childless cos of what they did? U make peace with God wil u force him to answer in your own time? Men and women be careful, don't keep making a girl abort for you cos u think u are a Man U can make peace with God or go and married another girl.....whatever u sow you must reap..... Women close your legs, sex is not a measure of love...
DeleteAnon 2:29 the curse dey work die. even if the person makes peace with God, he still has to seek forgiveness from the woman.dont be deceived ooo.
DeleteYou nailed it dear, you couldn't have said it any better.
ReplyDeleteBiko, where do i send my kiSses aunty stel?
*Perfect Advice, Perfect Reference, Perfect Moral Lesson....all at the right time.
Let's Say;
No to Premarital Sex!
No to Abortion!!
....There is more to relationship than sex!!!
#YourLegacyLivesOnProfDoraAkunyili*7/6/14
*Prayer For Nigeria in Distress x10 Daily*
Oga Legacy and pray for Nigeria 100000 times......
DeleteI dey always laugh if i see ur signature.....kip it up....@Dora don go rest @Oga bouncer
@Galore
Welcome back swit. *shines teeth*
DeleteSdk bouncer my personal person..e don tey ooooo...welcome bae!!
DeleteSDK bouncer my Person! Nne how far?
DeleteHey, welikom back my personal person @sdkbcer. Kedu?
DeleteSdk bouncer where v u been. V missed u
DeleteSdk bouncer where v u been. V missed u
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Delete@MartinsBoy... Thanks Sugar#Kisses!
@PinkyB... Hottie'm, adi'm all Blessed ooo, daalu#Hugs!
@Cdiva.... Nne oku adigo ova finally.....tho still on the recuperation level#Daalu_Sweet!
@QueenAmy.. Been around Bae, real life hustle only got hotter that's all#Kisses+Hugs!
#YourLegacyLivesOnProfDoraAkunyili*7/6/14
*Prayer For Nigeria in Distress x10 Daily*
OMG women are really suffering oooo, gals pls b wise.
ReplyDeleteWord they say is enough for the wise.. Ladies hope una don hear
ReplyDeleteDon't do abortion because of a guy...don't even.take pills because of a guy..
If you must have sex...have it within your safe period with a guy willing to condomise and if you still get pregnant keep it....the worst that can.happen if you keep it is that he would go ahead and marry someone whomhe cherishes more than you...but the up side is you won't be running around looking for the fruit of the womb if something bad happens.
Whatever makes you feel you are matured enough to have sex should also hint you that you are matured enough to keep a baby..
I detest abortion and I can never render that service to any one..
One love peeps
Peace
Hey orela,pls check your mail(mayukudorealero@gmail.com) I've sent you a mail but no reply,pls check its urgent thanks..
DeleteSorry dear i checked my mailbox and couldn't find a mail from anyone new please kindly send another.I would check back in an hours time and reply you..
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Deletestella...ive never aborted before...but this post is soo inspiring.... I love u and u can never ever do wrong in my eyes...u just found urself a permanent subbie...or maybe bloggie...I loveu sooo much
ReplyDeleteWho still does abortion in this era of condom, withdrawal, after morning pills et al...
ReplyDeletePeople, get educated on safe sex pls!!!
And who told u u re 100% safe with Condom and withdrawal. My first pregnancy he wore a condom how I got pregnant is a question u shd ans me
DeleteI don't understand why relationship between a man and woman in this side of d world seems doomed....if only our society will stop with their unneccessary pressure...I'm drained presently...after 9yrs,he finally started talking about seeing my parents but I just feel something isn't right....he won't communicate....I talk sotey I turn to nag...he is self centre,dude will find it difficult to drop money for feeding wen I visit but he doesn't miss eating in d office everyday,he's cheating...with no kobo on my phone,he buys airtime for another lady but me...and oh,she's a mother of one.....I snooped and I saw they talk well on fone as in ehn,dude will leave me in d room and go to call this chic on d fone outside d compound,I understand when I'm not around but he does it full time wen I'm in town...I'm drained confused and tired...I confronted him during my last visit...I had to call d chic to confirm if I was just imagining tins...and alas it was indeed a female....I had bin monitoring dat particular number...he didn't say a word wen I confronted him...I left and we haven't spoken for close to 2weeks now...just some hello hello on bbm,I want to leave but to where?I'm not d same age I was 9yrs ago,is it so hard to see a man dat will appreciate a woman who isn't a burden?sorry I had to rant!maybe I will feel better with myself
ReplyDeleteLeave him. Get a job or start a business
DeleteIf u love yourself run from him. 9 wasted years yes I know it is hard and painful but it is better than allowing yourself go through a life time of pain. Just leave him, cry all the tears u need to but my dear sister u will definitely find a new love. Just get something doing
It is well. God bless u.
Babe, how old are you? 40? Cos I have seen ladies that got married to amazing men @40. Do you wanna shackle yourself to misery for the rest of your life? Its worse if your man doesn't give a damn about you in marriage, you know. The earlier you move on, the better. Leave him, better yourself, be happy and single and if you believe in God like me, He will send you the right man sooner that you imagine! First thing is that you need to be HAPPY! How can only him be stingy and a cheat? Don't know if he loves you anymore, 9 yrs is a long time. Don't look @ your age, focus on happiness and God. All the best!
Delete@anon 2:14,Sorry dear.
DeleteRemember that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
Act wisely.
Don't allow the fear of the unknown lead you into a life of misery.
If it doesn't feel right anymore, then it's not right.
God blessed all women with intuition.
Our gut feelings is always true.
Sadly a lot of us ignore it and jump into fire.
Take that bold step and do the needful. Be courageous sister.
You deserve better and you know it.
Love yourself first if you want to be loved by another.
A word is enough...
May God guide your actions/ decisions, may he send the right man your way soon.
The hand writing is on the wall....take a walk now dear. your own man will come your way sooner. All the best
DeleteNon of the above comments are false.pls peace of mind is upmost
Deleteyyou will look back in the nearest future and be glad you did the right thing.. .but before I stop pls be close to God and commit everything to Him, God bless you dear.
My dear unknown... It may be that he fathered that child...it aint easy dear..but if your mind doesn't go with it..please step out of that situation ship
DeleteCheers
sweetheart, leave him. Gather the very last strength in you and leave the douche bag....9 yrs???...u waited too long...my husband says a serious guy makes up his mind about a lady within the 1st 6months of dating, that man's behavior after 6 months of dating will determine if there is a future or not.
DeleteDont worry abt your age, there is a man out there that has been admiring you but u have allowed urself to be unlawfully cleaved to this time-waster.
There are only 2 possible futures to this situation that u are in;
1. He leaves u high n dry and go marry someone else
2. He marries you and make your life a living hell.
Either of the above is not good for u. Read the handwriting on the wall, a guy that loves u will want to spend time with u especially if you both to see often, i mean, think about it, you leave in different towns and you go to spend the weekend with u, he shld be all over u, trying to make up fod the times he missed u...not sneaking around picking up calls...leave now with you head high, walk away with your pride while the ovation is loudest...dont let it be that the new chic will be the one to tell u to leave....
You cant marry this bad news of a guy oo...i have been married for 8yrs, i can tell u that marriage comes with its own challenges..normal and natural issues, to add infidelity that u could have avoided to it.
I dated a guy for 7yrs, we were so in love and i was sure he was the one. The first time he cheated on me with a gal in my school and was seen around with her...he didnt have d respect to tell me he was done with me..the gal had to tell me herself..i was begging for death to come n kill my enemy (not me...see my stupidity then), it was my penultimate year in the university, of course i failed woefully that year and ended up having extra year. He came begging me and a few of his friends begged me..i still loved him and we got back today...he was a very suave guy, tall, dark and handsome...incredible sense of romance...
We continued where we stopped, d gal was out of the picture...but an older male friend of mine told me then, "if u go back to this guy he will do it again"...of course i didnt listen, i thot he loves him, he just made a mistake and we will work this out...
Did i tell everybody in his family knew me and his mom would even send me food at school (my own mama no send me cooked food o), the woman made sure i wore the family asoebi when dey had family functions...i felt like an iyawo already...
After 2 yrs of coming back, his sister got married and he had a few female guests, i was even going around to make sure his friends ate..he said d gals came with his friends but these gals acted strange and he was acting weird that weekend and i confronted him and it became a big fight that night...to cut the story short, i discovered he was dating one of the gals....again, i called his fone one day and d call ppickd it up and told me to take a bounce and that cant i understand he was done with me...
Thank God for the parents i had...i was already planning my suicide cause of the pain n shame...
6 months after, i met a wonderful guy, he was just coming out a relationship too, d lady dealt with him...we met, we became friends, shared each others stories, wept together and comforted each other...11yrs of knowing each other and 8yrs of marriage, 2 kids ...we are still crazy abt each other...he has kept every promise he made to me, loves me and the kids like his life depends on us....
Morale of my story: there is always someone better out there if only u can take a step out of your current location...God bless you....
Pls, do not make the same mistake others have made in the past that they are ever regretting
DeleteThe right person to enjoy the rest of your with will locate you..
Pls don't make urslf available as his breakfast bcos of the long relatnshp. It is clear he longer wants you, dust urslf up and move on already!
It is well even inside the well!
Chim o!.nine kini?abeg just go with with him or end it all.don't even know what to say to you cus I feel your pain
DeleteAnnon 3:34! God bless u for this write up!! @ Annon 2:41! If u dont take any other person's advice plz take this one! She said it exactly the way it is unfurtunately she went tru d same situation u are into..
DeleteGod bless u Anno 3:38.
Well said at Anon 3:34Pm similar experience
DeleteGod bless you all indeed this is more than a family gathering you are all with a pure heart am glad there are sisters who still care am glad and happy. Its been a busy week for me so tay I no fit comment choi e pain me o but I hope next week will be much better.
DeleteAnonymousNovember 28, 2014 at 3:34 PM that's a totally uplifting story right there!
DeleteLook at what African society is doing to its women. All these sad stories because women are raised to aspire to marriage.
DeleteI'm divorced and to marry again no dey too hungry me. The wahala of an unsuitable husband is not worth all the good sex romance or companionship.
Stella I love you too much for your honesty. Me I have had 10 abortions in my life over the course of 14years. All my life I have lived in darkness so I vowed to God that no more. I miraculously got pregnant again (miraculous because I used protection so I must be carrying hercules) and I didn't go against my vow. I am having a boy due in a few months.
ReplyDeleteThen why not just leave sex till your married? Eh?
DeleteI ve had about 10 too (plus or minus one cos i lost count) between 1999-2013. I am not proud of it. I ve promised God it won't happen again. Am in my early 30's now and if I can turn back d hands of the time,I won't make such mistakes. I know God in his infinite mercy have forgiven me. I ve never told this to anyone else apart frm God but now that I wrote it here,I am relieved once again.
Delete10 what! Haba, God will grant you safe delivery
DeleteChineke! Kai over 10? If God has forgiven you,who am I to ask all these questions in my mind,Abeg ask God to help you stay off sex too oh till marriage. Thanking God for my life
DeleteMy dear God be praised in your life....I have never had an abortion, I have never being pregnant but I'm hoping and believing God for the fruit of the womb when I eventually get married...I haven't seen my period for the past 7 years and I choose not to dwell on doctors report..
DeleteIt's well with my soul
Amen
Delete@mma cee he without sin cast the first stone. God has forgiven me so who are you to judge?
Delete@josephine this is my first time ever saying it out too and it is liberating.
Thank you all for your supporting words. I am not perfect. God is still working on me and I will let Him
Jijos!
Delete10 waaaat?
God is merciful oooo
Thk God u made peace with ur God
Please try as much as possible to abstain frm sex...ah wat am I even saying here
I mean sex off sex wen u re not in ur save period if u can't use protection
Wishing you safe delivery. Congratulations .
Delete@ Anon 3:35 pm God is ur strenght. He will do a miracle in ur life when u are married with or out Period. New technology sef u can for Ivf and carry belly and bone.
DeleteHow do you guys do this? 10 abortions? Why, how, for what? well thank God for your life now...
DeleteI am without sin oh! I go cast stone! Jesus! 10?! 10?!!
DeleteYou people are wicked! Not 1 or 3 but 10 children? Jesus!
I'm proud, never had an abortion. Yes!
Sex education is the way to go.
Jesus! 10?
My heart literally dropped reading this. Women are always at the receiving end,we take in toomany things. We are strong willed and always ready to move on! S/O to all the women in the house,may we all have the last laugh.
ReplyDeleteAmen Darling
Deletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Aunty stella yu don fuck up, why yu go talk say yu don do abortion that stuff should like remain a secret..... Women be wise, condom is not that expensive.....
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she only said the truth to encourage others.
DeleteI beg your pardon, ed dreams or whatever ur name. Please shove ur judgemental opinion up ur ass. Amu Rubber like you. Stella didn't fuck up contrary to ur unwarranted opinion she is a super woman. Monkey Cyber bully
DeleteYou clearly need three things: to learn how to spell, learn proper grammar and most importantly, grow up!
Deletethis edreamz is soo foolish. ..im appalled at ur stupidity. ...save us d trouble of replying or insulting u...I wan talk I wan talk...mumu
Delete@ ed Dreamz! You are buh a child. Grow up! And grow up very fast!!!! Msheeewwww.
Delete@edreamz you are a child. This thread is for adults only. Wait for threads that are for kids like you and stop commenting on PG20 threads
DeleteEd Dream or imagination save ur self with a nightmare weekend. U r big Fool. its ur type woman get preggy for and u end up denying its not u which will end up with the topic of Abortion. Saying of her past has not made a Low Life but made her a Role Model, Motivator, it took a big relief out of her. Its not easy to come to say Such. Cyclo like u
DeleteI must talk syndrome dry worry this guy
Deleteed dreamz,people on planet earth share their stories so that others can learn from it and on earth,we believe there's nothing new under the sun.
DeleteYou are in jupiter where everthing should be kept as a secret. so dont bother urself about what's going on on earth.
Wonderful write-up sis Stella. Word they say is enough for the wise
ReplyDeleteThey never listen, if he loves you like he claims, he would want ur best interest@heart
ReplyDeleteIt takes a strong woman to come out and own her mistakes on social media. Stella if I liked you before, now I love and adore you. So many young ladies will relate to you. It is okay to preach but if the person preaching was once a culprit then people will take the advice.
ReplyDeleteStella you are more than a woman, you are a super woman.
I have also flushed but made my peace with God. Guess what? I have been blessed immensely.
Just like me. Done once but neva told any one. I raise my Yansh for Stella. u r a Motivator, Role Model, Super Woman etc
Deletewoooooow Stella,kudos dear. Ladies take responsibility of ur actions n choices,don't loose ur bright future that God has destined for u cos of a 5-15mins pleasure.TAKE CHARGE!!!
ReplyDeleteWord! This got me thinking
ReplyDeleteA word is enough for the wise
ReplyDeleteSo sad, so many women are in deep shit cos of this.
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ReplyDeleteSigh, did you drink, Oya read what you typed out.
Delete@Mrs Oreo, hahahahahshshshaha @Oya read what you typed, lol,
DeleteHmmmmmmmm. Good write up. I think lessons like this should be thought in an early stage of life. I pray Good forgive me my sins of abortion and make me fertile. Amen. Thank you my Lord.
ReplyDeleteThis Chiamaka. My Baddest Babe. I no u dey vex for me for Bbm
DeleteIf u hav aborted b4 and you come here to deny it bcos nobody ask u,may amadioha....u know d rest
ReplyDeleteU dey Vex oo. Haba easy Dear
DeleteLol hehehe! well no sin goes unpunished as long as this life is concerned! Even the man that sponsors an abortion wud still face the wrath of God! No one is exempted!
Deletewell said stella, @orela i like ur comment biko and what makes them think that the next woman they are about to marry have not done abortion before or her womb is intact...... pls ladies becareful. dont be carried away by love mbok.
ReplyDeleteThey will never hear word, ladies if you like do 360 on the bed, do him like a pornstar, even have spare key to his family house, know his pastor, his hommies and be his mother's best friend. If the nigga will not marry you. He will not. I always say it that the reason most girls cry, fall sick and curse after break up is not really because of the love they have for the guy but because of all the rubbish they did while they were with him. GIRLS una better chill
ReplyDeleteBuhahahaha, you are so on point! Btw, I like your blog name
DeleteThank you.
DeleteMrs Oreo,reply me about shiloh stuff I asked you earlier
DeleteYou've said it all Mrs Oreo
DeleteTrue Talk Mrs Oreo
DeleteMr Daniel, I have replied you
DeleteStella, I really appreciate ur honesty and the genuineness of ur person but pls, some thns re better left unsaid. I know its easy for u to bare it all cos u re married to a white, but don't forget that our naija ppl never forget thns. Tomorro u wil read somewhere dt SDK admitted to committing abortions in the past, under different headings
ReplyDeleteAs for abortion, its the cruelest thn to do and the easiest way satan has made many ppl murderers wtout them knowing it. Ppl don't know that its the exact same thn as murder cos it also cuts a human life short. Its pure evil!
My dear no matter what gets written, it doesn't remove anything from her rather sane people will even applaud her for using her own story to help others.
DeleteShut your stupid mouth u judgemental idiot..... That's y we don't move forward as a nation....if u like stamp in it your useless brain and remind her in 100 years we don't give a hoot.... Fake hypocrite..... Did Stella say abortion is good? Y the lecture? Go and give the lecture to your daughters not us...go and publish a newspaper and say she committed abortion.... Oversabi amebo
Delete@ Arianna Loves I always love ur post. So mature minded.
DeleteTrue that. When we know better we do better.
ReplyDeleteSoooooooooo true...i have a friend who thinks abortion is d only way out,i just pray God touches her cos in the end,its d girl who bears it all
ReplyDeleteI ve had several abortions even for my present DH. We got married, 6months down the line, I wanted to get pregnant like kilode! One day , we travelled, in our hotel room, there was a bible beside the bed. I took it, started reading it and started crying, prayed and asked God for forgiveness for all my abortions.. He gave me his word and mercy. Forgave me, gave me an intelligent son and now am pregnant again for my second baby!!! Am so grateful to God!!! Ask him for forgiveness cos only him can give u that happiness and peace!! He forgives once u r sincere about it!
DeleteOMG! The reason i got my self blog ID with above inscription. Stellz a day without this blog is empty for me. Bring it on. You might not know how many lives you just saved with this post.
ReplyDeleteMay God inspire n strengthen you the more.
You rock Stellz.
More blessings. Mwaah!
please even if you use condom.. please some men are ritualist... that take away your virginity or use you as a slave spiritually even if you have sex with condom.
ReplyDeletePray to God for His will and let Him feel you with His love oh. I pray you find the right one get married. One that will honour you.
Mschew life is such a risk.... better save than never...
Urrrrm, it is better safe than sorry and better late than never
DeleteAdvice needed,i'll be 23 nxt year,final exams by january, a virgin but iv done things im not really proud of.But the thing is iv bn dating bf 4 over 3years n we've not done IT,iv not done it cos of my religious values but ds days ehhh,i think 'it',dream 'it' sef, bf says he's ready when i am but then,i'd love the wedding night first sex thing but my body is just so not cooperating.What do i do?
ReplyDeletePS:iv tried really hard to get sex off my mind but it has just decided to make my heart its abode
Stop being in compromising positions with him if you plan not to have sex.
DeleteGet urself vewi busy bae;ur body system wont think of any other thing but sleep after the days work...sex is just a thing of the mind and needs maximum concentration before ur body system thinks of getting horny or soo..soo if u dont give ur mind that time it needs to respond to ir feelings;it can never act up...Goodluck!!
Delete@MARTINS ABOY
My dear dnt do it. Was just like you, dated him for three years n swore to be a virgin till marriage but one thing led to the other n it happened.though he is a nice guy but we v broken up n regret not keeping it. I v been celibate for two years now n keeping it for the right one but assuming I knew wot I now know, my dear I wdnt. The choice is urs dear to make, sex is not food
DeleteI made a lot of mistakes too, but God of second chance has saved me I got married some months back and have been blessed with the fruit of the womb. I have done several abortions in the past just 1 for my present husband against his will cus then I was indecisive I had lots of suitors then. I just want to say I wish I never aborted all the while,i wish I never had pre marital sex I just want to thank God for grace unlimited, we can't all have it like this. Some women re lucky some are not. I am blessed I married my best friend. Ladies you are precious before God let's keep our body holy it's God's temple.
ReplyDeleteAbstain from premarital sex!
ReplyDeleteThat's the best!
If you must fornicate, make sure he wears condom and be very observant so you know when he mischievously removes it.
Any guy who insists he must have sex with you to prove that he loves you does not actually love you.
Love does not blackmail.
Love does not destroy.
Love is patient and understanding.
A man truly loves you can never dump you because you refused to give him premarital sex.
Sex is complicated enough for married people who have no choice. Why not enjoy your sanity and peace as a single woman without having to worry about STDS, unwanted pregnancies, and heartaches that comes when you later find out the person you gave all to isn't worth it after all.
At the end of the day, it's you the woman that will bear the consequences ALONE.
Ladies, you are a price to be won,you are precious, you are indispensable. Any man who wants to enjoy your goodies should do the right thing and put a ring on it!
It's that simple.
Stop selling yourself cheap to these men!
Stop confusing lust for love!
Stop playing the role of a wife to a man you are not even sure will even marry you.
Protect and preserve your dignity for God not for any man on earth.
Premarital sex with every bf you have reduces your value in the sight of God. It makes you filthy, believe it or not.
It makes you endure rubbish from those so called bfs. Because you know you will be the one to lose if he leaves. That's why we have more women fighting over men. It's suppose to be the other way round!
It's easier to walk out on a man who hasn't seen your pants when he messes up in a relationship.
So far as there are girls willing to give their bodies to these men, women will continue telling sob stories till thy kingdom come. Men will continue to disrespect and belittle women.
Sex is highly overrated believe me.
It's not worth all the hassles that come out of it.
Zip up ladies!
Genny baby how do you do it? How do you always do this thing? How do you always type novel on top of a very small matter? Your comments are always more than the posts and wayyyyy boring. It's always same 'ol same. Na wa for waec
DeleteLol, una dey fight before
Deleteepic reply.buhahahahahahahaha!!! my dear the babe dey write novel....
DeleteLOL
DeleteAnon 3:43.
If my comment is that boring to you, why did you read it and even commented under.
You see your life? You should have just skipped it.
I know you are annoyed because my comment struck you.
I guess you are angry and frustrated that Stella did this post advising ladies.
Are you scared your girlfriend will stop giving you free sex after reading this post and my comment?
Hahahahaha!
Conji go kee you soon, you'll see.
You didn't even have the courage to call me out with your ID, you had to hide under anonymous.
Chicken!
LMAO!
Prepare for more "novels" from me. I'm just getting started.
And you know what? You must read them to the very end, like you always and will always do.
That's an order!
Jesu Genny. I di egwu babe. No hating i, but chei you dey write man. Every single topic, you have a lengthy response. I no go lie, I dey scroll down to see if you don respond.
Delete@Anonymous azinnnn,u are soooo on point! Ur reply is divine. Seriously Genny baby,life ain't ds hard take a cue from Iphie dearie and TGW, loosen up a little and be more practical and 'stop my mum and dad,my husband,was a virgin,my husband can't cheat bla bla bla'. See,I'm a pharmacist and I married as a Virgin and I av a baby boy but u know what? We all can't be virgins and yes people make mistakes cos no one's life is perfect! Be more Objective to life
DeleteThis got me Rotfl #epicreply #dead
DeleteIts not boring. She shd be a literature student or did literature. Essay writtjng tinz
DeleteSorry for commenting here,I couldn't comment on th "deflowered @ last..............my story is similar to @troubled estranged housewife,our story is almost the same just dat,my own was a bf I met in the university ,I lost my virginity to him and he claimed I was not a virgin becos dere was no blood,I cried out my eyes dat nite cos have never had sex with any guy before,he was my first and only guy.He traveled outside the country and he never looked back. May God forgive me for breaking the convenant I had with him,am helpless and filled with heavy heart.
ReplyDeletesorry Ehn, guys can be childish at times cause I have heard of cases where nothing or just body fluid came out. So I believe you
DeleteHmmmmmmmm. Good write up. I think lessons like this should be thought in an early stage of life. I pray Good forgive me my sins of abortion and make me fertile. Amen. Thank you Lord.
ReplyDeleteThis is my confession ,I change my mind,I no confess again,stella I love you scatter
ReplyDeletehahahaha...u no serious. y d sudden change of mind nah?
Deletestella thnks fr this post.im inspired.let ladies out there know that they hv to b in charge of thier bodies and not be desperate wen it comes to man matter.the man that will respect u will come.u dont have to do sth against ur will and then end up suffering the consequences alone.men too sha! nawa!!!
ReplyDeleteLike Stella said, it's not easy to talk about your abortion mistake. I had one in the past for someone I don't ever want to remember, I have asked God for forgiveness, married now with a hubby that adores me but sometimes I wish I kept the baby, there is always this empty feeling when I think about it sometimes.
ReplyDeleteHmmm. So true Stellahipsy. So so true.
ReplyDeleteSOME men are not worth one's price. You can imagine his excuse. Heartless being.
Dear Ma'm, please try adopt some kids and go on with life. Be strong. It is well. It sure is well.
Stella, i've also been in d same scenario b4. mine was 3 times, it was d third one that caused d problem cos i insisted we keep it but he kept saying he wasn't ready for marriage. i had to abort and made peace with my God while i broke up with d idiot. Today am married to my soulmate and blessed with an angel.
ReplyDeleteNote: it took time b4 i got preggy,it was a through prophecy by an unknown guy dat opened my eyes to Karma. My sister, Karma is indeed a bitch. d guy said d blood of the innocent children i spilled is what is causing delay, i have to reconcile again and buy gift for children. Thank God today am a living testimony. My sisters in d house, no man is worth this stress, it is better to face this shame than face karma.
Why you not posting my comments is what I don't no!.it hurts sometimes when someone would take his or her time and mb to type something and you will not post them..it hurts Stella it does
ReplyDeleteBuhahahahaha, you sound really pained.
DeleteHian this guy, please get busy o. Ah ah.
DeleteLmao!
DeleteTell us Stella
ReplyDeleteMe wey kip my own nko? Who go feed am 4me? As i don beg sdk tire she nor gree,may b i go see helper 4here
ReplyDeleteFind a job..haba
DeleteExactly find a job stop blaming people for your actions please,did you keep it for SDK to take responsibility?.
DeleteShameless beggar. Is dat how to ask for help? U sound lyk a very lazy person, I cant even help ur type.
DeleteWithout SDK wont your survive? Havent you been surviving? Goodness gracious some people are just insensitive!
DeleteIf u are allergic to latex and don't wanna take pills, withdrawal method is da ish. Make sure the boo has self control and is std free sha.
ReplyDeleteI hate to think of the number of times I walked through this evil path. May God forgive me.
ReplyDeleteAmen
DeleteAmen
DeleteIt is the most horrendous experience ever and it haunts you forever that of your own free will you killed your child(ren).
ReplyDeleteYou never forget. It hangs in that little dark corner and you make penance and trust God to forgive you and heal you. But it would have been better if you never did it at all.
Better for you conscience, better for your body, better for soul and better for the child(ren).
When you preach abstinence or at least safe sex, they give you sneering she's-acting-all-holier-than-thou looks but you've been there and you know better.
Even the gift of another child(ren) never ever takes the plague of what was done.
Poor woman! And poor everyone of us who have been there.
Good one, SDK... tis why I love here. Real life... most of the time.
Nice write up.
DeleteGood one
DeleteHonestly I don't understand when pple say they ve had 10 abortions. Really????
ReplyDeleteDon't be judgemental. Beht I also don't understand, is it every month?
Deletelmao..dont be judgemental bitches...
DeleteIts weakening but it happens .I wonder what these guys tell women. To make them get to that point.
DeleteLol. Its not every month.
DeleteSuch large numbers usually occur in long term relationships.
I think it's the first one that sort of hardens you. Next thing you foolishly forget to use condom and you are pregnant again. And once you have agreed to the first one,then you agree to the second,third and fourth. Except you are very wise and say NO.
There are so many women who are fertile, just one drop of sperm na belly while some vice versa. U even see plenty pple with the 1M Abortions imm married pikin will be every where while some innocent pple that has not done will be unfavored. that scripture in the Bible that says God will have mercy to who he will. sometimes it gives me concern But God will continue to help us all by doing it right
DeleteNo civilised doctor would agree to perform an abortion on someone who has done it up to 3 times.
DeleteStill a virgin after one...nottalking
ReplyDeleteStella please post my comment...cant wait for the minute i will see my comment published
ReplyDeleteAyahhhh, so touchy. But some people ate just so funny. Lmao.
DeleteI can relate, been there also...the though of it haunts you even if you try to forgive yourself...I have asked God to forgive me, the last one i did which was 2011 had to be done twice kos it didnt go out completely, so you can actually imagine...worst part it was for a married man, and i really paid dearly kos i had to be operated...couldnt stop bleeding after 5months....May God forgive me, alongside any woman i have hurt dating her husband...i really wish to have my child now i have a hubby...
ReplyDeleteMay God forgive you darling. It is well.
DeleteGod will ans ur prayers
DeleteGod will give you your baby. He is a God of second Chance.
DeleteI had an abortion once, I regret taking that step till today.I had broken up with my ex then before I discovered I was pregnant, I wasn't ready to go back to him because of a baby. I was depressed for months after the abortion, I cried for months.I know God in his infinite mercy will forgive.sober reflection
ReplyDeleteIts good to play safe and sex education is good.
ReplyDeleteHmmm abortion?that's really a biggie 4 me infact its a huggie,am not even a sex kinda person buh am proud of u aunty stella u came clean n God has blessed u indeed u hv 2 beautiful boys,ur a fulfilled woman,ur a super mum n am still ur princess any time any day bsides most of our celebs hv had countless so!!!!!sdk princess
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing dat follows a person than abortion.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm me wey no green abort cos I was scared of dieing n I luv children too much to nt v 1 myself, nw I b single mother with my bukata who wan marry a single mother, am in my mid 20's, I dey do part tym n I stil get extra yr cos wen I v to b in sch no1 to takea of him for me only me I can only read SDK @ dis tym cos dis is d tym I can see my frds phone to borrow cos dis blog realy kips me gong, Hmmm is nt easy @ all @ all life tire me no b for here,is bt easy @ all to take of a child al by ursef dts jt it.
ReplyDelete@ anon 3.51, person go marry you, better person sef. I was dumped with pregnancy, kept it, today, kid is 3 yrs old, got another addition for DH, I was also 25 when I got pregnant. I'm fulfilled. It's very very very tough being a single mum, but you would love the child when he\S walks up to you to hug you when you go for school pick up. It's tough at d beginning, but at the end you will be glad u did. God is your strength. E hugs
DeleteGod is ur strenght. Mr Right will locate u and marry u for who u are. God is ur Muscle
DeleteWow! A lot to download.#Truth
ReplyDeleteanonymous 2:52....you really need a psychiatrist
ReplyDeleteThis post is too close to home. I aborted a priceless treasure in 2007, out of fear of family pressure, I was sure my family will disown me, I was too ashamed and I did it without my bf's knowledge, told him I had a miscarriage(he was relieved, I guess)....silly me, The guilt hardly leaves, truth is that thru out the subsequent yrs, I see a kid that should have been my baby's mate if I didn't abort, and the blame game starts within myself, I see a 7yr old and am thinking, 'I would have a 7yr old this smart if I wasn't so stupid then', it goes on and on. The most shameful thing that has made it so hard for me to get over is the fact that my mother had me as a single girl, she bore the shame and all but I couldn't do that for my own child, I wasn't that brave. Sometimes I feel like the biggest coward on earth, the emptiness is draining. It's been 7yrs but it feels like yesterday. Though I have long made peace wit my God and currently pregnant for hubby (never told him about my past) and I know it is solely out of God's mercy and am so grateful to God.
ReplyDeletePls if u are single and reading this, avoid premarital sex and if u ever get pregnant, KEEP UR BABY, it will be the best thing u've ever done, might not look like it now but it will eventually turn out great. This guilt we are talking about on this post is REAL and HAUNTING, trust me, u don't want to live with it. It doesn't matter if u have 10kids in the future, u will never get past wondering about 'what would have been'.
WHEN U ABORT, U KILL A CHILD AND YOU ALSO KILL A PART OF YOURSELF TOO, the child of course goes back to God, u are the one that never recovers. NO MAN IS WORTH IT.
#myregrets
And for those of you that has carried mat and pillow to sleep on this post looking for who to judge and count the number of their mistakes, 10 times or 20 times.....una welldone o, Keep judging, I didn't know God was hiring....una don turn to God's paralegals abi? You have not right to judge anyone. One thing u don't know is 1 abortion is as bad as 10 abortions. We all have things we've done that we aint proud of.
ReplyDeleteWonderful piece. Experience they say is d best teacher especially wen u don't learn wt Urs but others. Howeva a word they say is Enuf for d wise. Ladies pls tk dis seriously.
ReplyDeleteHmm,this shout out goes to that young lady who has allowed my hubby sleep with her and is telling everyone she aborted for him....hmm my dear sister why do u kip allowing urself to be used?i have 2 kids(both sex) I'm married to this guy u are bragging about in court,why are u allowing him decieve u?me I don close work oh,na u never resume.wise up and stop sending me texts boasting about how u and MY HUBBY love each other.hahahhahahahhahah
ReplyDeleteI went, i saw and i conquered ONCE and i promise God to give the grace to abstain from it and he has been keeping his word.....SDKers....Its nt by anyone's power. Some people wants to stop but u know that quote (the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak)is sometimes happening. i have made my peace...I still cry wen i remember wat i passed thru dat time and i believes God has forgiven for he is a merciful God. I am in my Mid twenties and believing God for a beta tmrw...Alwayz ask God for his grace...He is able
ReplyDeleteN.b:- Stella- This is officially launching my Blog ID "SDK Rep"
Stella, I love you so much for this. *e hugs*
ReplyDeleteNow.... I want to give one gist, related to this narrative. Will code.
A was an island big boy. Nice house and cars. Met B abroad when she was dating a certain guy. A was so in love that he chased B around town and they were the talk of the place. Bs bf got to know and chased B out of their apartment. B moved in with A not knowing she was preg for ex bf. Anyhoo, when she realised she had to abort. With an angry womb, she moved on. A promised he will always be there. More abortions until B almost lost own life. On Doctors advice, Durex is remembered.
Anyhoo, A and B move back to naija. A opens a boutique for B on mainland. Life goes on. They date for 11 yrs, during which time B tries to tk in to make A marry her... for wia! Finally lands at one fake pastor on the mainland. Fake pastor is mixing concoctions that make Bs tummy swell. Claims of pregnancy, but instructions not to go for scan. ''Spiritual Baby'' A buys ticket for B to give birth. On arrival, tummy is empty and swollen with concoctions. B is devastated. A claims miscarriage here in naija. B comes home to friends in an air filled with apologies - ignorant apologies.
A is tired. His mum is tired. A and B knocking 40. A young 22 yr old is arranged, A sends B to Europe on shopping spree, while wedding takes place. B finds out. Very devastated, doesn't come home for years. Moves on from Europe.
A is feeling sharp. Dishes apologies to B much later. ''Devil's work.... Story story.... Confusion.... '' Small compensation affair.... Apartment and car and cash to start life again..... Fizzles out.
Eventually, B meets loving Nigerian guy - younger though. With patience and in mid-forties, through IVF and all, B births a child after marriage and money spent on enough body repairs.
A nko?!! marriage crashes after 11 years. Wife is akata for island ppl. Wife births one girl and seals womb without anyone's knowledge. A is praying for son... not knowing that akata no wan loose shape. Market dey na!
Disgrace is everywhere, A can't stomach. A sends wife out.
Two days later wife is spotted at 5-star hotel in Lagos, by A and friends. A is furious. The woman no send!! Higher we go..... LOL
A regrets ever leaving B. "I should have been patient to work things out"
END OF STORY.
This is a real story by the way.
Now, I hope this man gets his reward just like A. I can blame the woman but some men though....
Anyway, I keep telling God I don't want long relationship before marriage. Because when the heart melts, one may become foolish.
Abortions will always happen, even married women have abortions. So the having of the abortion is not the issue, but it is those having multiple abortions and using it as a form of birth control. What should be stressed is the used of contraception with every sexual interaction. Abortions should NOT be used as a form of birth control ever, two abortions is enough in one human lifetime, anything more than that and you are placing yourself at risk for many things.
ReplyDeleteI pray God forgive me of the 4 abortions i had now married and make me fertile. Amen. Forgive me little ones Thank you my Lord.
ReplyDeleteBut I dnt blame sme girls dey see abortion as their only way of escape of the shame..
ReplyDeleteMy hugs and kisses goes to all ladies who have gone through this path. I didnt go through this part before I got married but I know its the grace and mercy of God that keeps one from doing wrong. I would like to encourage every lady on this blog, if you have asked God for forgiveness then its gone. You are forgiven. Ps. 103:12. As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions. Forgive yourself and when the devil reminds you of your past show him the RED card. The blood of Jesus. As for those who are proud that they are virgins & never had abortions, it is not by power or by might...
ReplyDeleteLady T,I am with u on dis..
DeleteWell-said Bae!
SDK, may the Lord bless you and cause His face to shine upon you. Because you have a platform where people can open up and get closure/healings of different issues, you will never lack for help. God will raise help for you at every turn. God bless.
ReplyDeleteStella, I love you tori torun... You always find a way to inspire people. Ladies, you've heard this, be careful
ReplyDeletePlease this link
ReplyDeletehttp://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2014/11/five-mistakes-women-make-must-read.html?m=1
Is not working, I would certainly like to read.
Thanks
I can't read again! This abortion story telling and sharing is giving me headache!
ReplyDeleteU've just grabbed d bull by the horn. I like the advise bcz it's now talk of d town. I'm not married buh I wanna have a baby boy, can't see reason why someone would not only terminate a life buh keeps doing every 365 days. God's watching ooooo...
ReplyDeleteElla the Enchanted said:
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella, you are 1 in a million. This post will indeed inspire millions!!!
But then, yea abortion is bad and God as a lovely Father will always forgive us when we genuinely repent.
Some say use condom to avoid the unwanted pregnancy, that's not good. The way abortion can lead one to hell is same way fornication does.
You curse someone who is a homo or les while you are a fornicator what's the difference???
Fellow SDKerz, a sin is a sin and hell is hell no two ways about that fact.
So if you are single what you need is ABSTINANCE not condom, pills etc. If you are married STAY FAITHFUL to ya partner. Shikena!!!
@Anonymous November 28 @ 3;34 pm
ReplyDeleteWhoever you are God bless you.
God bless you
God bless you.
For the first time since a terrible and confusing break up where i have thought that at 36 maybe i should just go back to that relationship that didn't serve me for 1 day,that did nothing but paid me back with hurt and tears and pain.
I came on here to just read comments,i read yours and burst into tears.
You wont understand why.
But i have hope that my man will find me. Your comment gave me hope.
Thank you for letting your story on here.
Tonight i was going to write my goodbye letters and take my own life,
Thank you.
Thank you.
Ps
Stella,i promise to tell my story,once i am okay.
And i hope someone learns from it