SOS

Please note that you are under no obligation or force to help.I needed to share this because it is a cry for help and really broke my heart.

THIS STORY HAS BEEN SENT IN BY A WOMAN WHOSE KIDS ARE BEING ABUSED BY A MAN THEY CALL 'FATHER'...PLEASE READ BEFORE COMMENTING.

SHE JUST SENT THIS IN...

Hello Stella,

Please I am on my knees begging you to publish the story I sent you yesterday. Please I need to find help fast, this morning he poured cold water straight from the fridge on my children for forgetting to remove their books from the dinning 

table after reading late in the night. Imagine in this cold wether, by 4.30am in the morning. Some people will say I am second wife, that its another woman's home, please ask for my details I will send them, he has been divorced for 8 years before I met him, his ex wife has even remarried then with a child in her new home. Please I want to find us( me and my children) a new place to live, I can't do this without money, please give me an opportunity to get help from BVs, God will bless anyone that can help me with a job. have been a BV for the past 2 years though I comment sometimes under Anonymous. PLEASE help me I beg you.

Thank you.

SHE SENT THIS YESTERDAY

''Please help me, your blog has been my escape during days it got too much. I will forever be grateful to you if I can escape this hell with your help. I am praying that God will enable someone that can help see my cry and be moved to touch our lives. At 36+ my hair is half gray and half white, If you see my hair now you won't believe that just last year I had no single gray hair, the rate at which my hair changed makes me fear that worry will give me a serious sickness soon if I don't run away from this environment. May God bless and keep you.

Please please find time to go through my story, I know you get tons of mail daily, I have made it as small as possible. Please read, thank you. My name is *****************. Do you remember me? I wrote to you early this year about my re-marriage and my children staying with my mother in the village because my husband ( their stepfather)says he can't afford to pay their school fees. I was asking you then to write the story, so as to get other BVS opinion on what to do. Let me tell u briefly to refresh your memory:

 I have 2 kids a boy and girl before my husband died. My last child was barely 2 then, because my husband was sick for a long time before he died, there was no money left but because he was a journalist the state govt helped us out with some money for burial, though the money they promised to give me to assist with starting life again was not given. Soon after I got a job with a communication company in Lagos and moved down to lagos and after settling down and getting a place, my children came over from d village where they had been with my mum. 

I was working and we were getting by, some years later I met a divorcee who was interested in marrying me. He also had 2 kids from his marriage, we introduced the children to each other and they blended. I have been married to him for 3 yrs now. 

My company (CDMA - land line phone) started having financial problems as our marriage was approaching, during the long term holidays when we married, my children had gone to the east on holidays, they were to begin new classes in a new school wen they came back because I have moved to where my husband lives. my company by then had been owing us salaries of more than 5 months, and because earlier on there was nothing left to save as me and my kids just managed to live from month to month on my salary. I didn't have any savings, then my new husband suggested they just start that new term in the village since he's not so buoyant at the moment to register them in school in Lagos at the moment.By this time the company has retrenched the 2nd batch, and I was affected.

 So with no money, I grudgingly agreed telling my kids they will come back by 2nd term. He has refused to start any biz for me or allow me do anything saying that a woman that is trying to get pregnant does not need stress at all, dat I should stay at home and rest, dat my mom is taking care of my kids well, dat I should relax, though by the side I have been seriously job hunting, I instinctively knew that he pretended to like them to get me initially, how can u seprate a woman from her kids and they cry over the phone every time I call home and you tell me to relax , they're being taken care of. Stella till the time I wrote to you in April this year, my children were still in the village. I wrote then asking you to publish it wether its not better for me to leave him and go and suffer with them there, but you didn't publish it then. I have looked for job so as to be able to cater for them myself but I have not been successful. 

This past long holidays they came to Lagos on holiday, and I refused to allow them go back, I begged everyone I know and with the contributions and loans in some cases I put my son in school. Mu daughter wrote federal common entrance and got posted to her first choice which was Queens College,Yaba- Lagos and my husband who can afford to send his son to University in Ghana told me he has no money for her school fees. My husband is not a poor man by God's grace infact he is rich but I don't know why he's so wicked to my kids. 

When he buys things for his kids, they now give to my children because they are friends. Anything concerning my children is done with so much grumbling. It is not my fault that I have not been able to have a child for him, I got pregnant and had a miscarriage, the doctor that did the cleaning I honestly don't know what happened but for almost a year, I did not get a period and when it eventually came back, it was no longer as heavy as it was before and since then I have not conceived again.

 He is angry about it but its not my fault. I have been at the receiving end of all manners of cruelty but his wickedness to my children Is what is killing me slowly, imagine a child that calls you daddy calling to tell you something and you coldly tell the child to get out of your sight with a long hiss, he treats my children like servants. In a house they are supposed to be free. They can never do anything right in his eyes and for that reason I want to leave him.

My daughter's admission almost passed the deadline before I was able to gather the amount required for registration and register her. She started school today. I collected all the gold I have and sold them. I have paid my daughter's school fees. I am still in debt and I have January school fees on the way. 

Please my appeal to anyone who can is to please help me, I can work anywhere in Nigeria as long as I will be able to pay my children's school fees and get a one room accommodation where we can live away from the terror our lives has become. Stella please post this, you will be saving me and my children, if you want my children's names, my name and address, even their school names so as to verify the story, I will send everything so u can independently investigate. In as much as I need money, its a job that is most important to me, my children are very intelligent children, please help me to bring them up to be useful. I want to take them out of the hostile house that I have brought them into, let trauma from what we're facing not scar them for life.

 When a child is repeatedly called useless, senseless and stupid over any little thing, it destroys that child. Please help me, I don't want my children to be damaged from constant abuse. He has told me to be careful so the snake that bit the first person does not bite me. I have prayed, I have fasted but no pregnancy. I don't want to die because I couldn't get pregnant, at the hospital all the tests HSG and sono something, I can't remember the name exactly now, he'll keep saying later that let's wait it might just happen and we won't spend money for it, ok allow me to have some peace, no way.The last time we went to the village, my MIL was discussing something, and I made a suggestion, everybody just looked at me like I was one mad woman, like who is this one, just to make me feel worthless though they later used that my suggestion.

 My stepsons told me that my MIL and her daughters were asking them how I treat them, whether I give them meat, whether I am wicked to them, they said they told them no that I treat them well , they asked them to go.

*please don't use my real name please, let someone that knows him not show him and he throws us out before we have anywhere to go to. But if anyone wants to assist us, please forward my detail to the person, Please all mistakes, I apologise for them, some parts were written with tears blurring my vision

*JESUS IS LORD!