WOW!....NA WAH OH!
MARRIED TO A HIGH CLASS PIMP
I am a faithful blog visitor. I got married early this year to a man I dated for seven months, we lived and worked in different cities so we saw when we were free and decided to marry. After marriage I joined him and got the shock of my life,he is a pimp that arranges girls for men and get money!!!.
Meanwhile he has a very good oil company job, when he's back from offshore he pimps girls, different girls call him at any time of the day, he goes out every evening and comes back 6am the next day with condoms and there are different chats from girls on his phone arguing about abortion.
He is on all socIal medIa getting numbers from girls, he drinks and smokes Indian hemp .I'm already expecting our baby and jobless please I'm really tired what do you advice I do?
Wow,let me sit back and read comments,i dont know what to say but it looks like you are married to voicemail.
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WHISTLE BLOWING ON A SPOUSE WHO HAS A HARD ON FOR THE MAID
Good morning Stella,
*Sigh* i really dont know what to do.
My friend and I were in the kitchen gisting when we heard the familiar voices, we soon realised they were the maids of the landlord and my neighbour, who is very nice and friendly.
*Sigh* i really dont know what to do.
My friend and I were in the kitchen gisting when we heard the familiar voices, we soon realised they were the maids of the landlord and my neighbour, who is very nice and friendly.
My friend and i hushed our voices to hear what they were saying because one sounded so upset and as usual what came to mind first was- "are these maid at it again, maybe stealing and keeping things with each other, you know".
Alas what did we hear, it was my friend that stopped me from screaming and going ask Maid 1 questions o.
She said her boss' husband has been sneaking into her room, to try to have sex with her, promising her gifts and all, that she threatens him by saying she will scream in the dead of the night and madam and we other neighbours will hear and he will leave.
That this had worked well for her 4 times but that last night, she woke up seeing him pressing her breast so hard, she said it was weird because she is not a deep sleeper and wondered how she didn't wake up immediately he entered her room and he seemed comfy and probably had been smooching her for some minutes without her knowing. She was confused and wondered why she didn't know early, like did he drug her.
She said he had not done the deed, this was the farthest he had gone, but that she is now very scared, if he drugged her, and rapes her what will she do, she has a boyfriend in her village and is not interested.
My people, i almost fainted, it felt so surreal, like yoruba movies, i cant deal. My friend and i are confused, should we keep quiet or tell this mutual friend of ours?
This guy is a friend of my husband, not to close, just neighbourly and once in a while hanging out in the compound gisting, make he no go teach DH nonsense.
This guy is a friend of my husband, not to close, just neighbourly and once in a while hanging out in the compound gisting, make he no go teach DH nonsense.
He is a banker, very okay, and good looking. I just wonder what could be the CAUSER of men looking and wanting househelps.
This thing has been disturbing me since yesterday.
This thing has been disturbing me since yesterday.
His wife na chic and i know she gives it to him well because i always hear the bed, like say na fight, e be like say he likes it rough.
Abeg no cussing because you guys can like to cuss for Africa, just matured advice. Will you tell your friend her hus is trying to do the help? Or just tell her to send the help away?
*Sorry for any typos, in a hurry*.
*Sorry for any typos, in a hurry*.
*This is really dicey.if i was you oh,I would just mind my business and face my husband and pretend like I didnt hear anything.
The wife will eventually get to know.
If you squeal and both the maid and the man denies it,what will that make you look like?....too dicey abeg!....or you tell the man you know and will tell his wife if he doesnt stop.
Blog visitors what do you think?
what kind of house is that sef that y'all can hear what each other is saying or doing?
I still don't know why men can't stick their d***s into their pants abi na boxers..... I just don't gerrit.......
ReplyDeleteMEN..no matter how beautiful or hotor how crazy their wife is in bed...they still cheat and with maids!!!!hian
DeleteDias one house-help in my area,almost every guy (single or married) want to gbensh her...I wonder ao d madam of dat aos will hire a girl dat fine,curvy n neat as a house-help...I can't believe I can see a house-help as 'hot'
Delete@Sexy boocalher, it'll have been nice not to attack u back cos today's ur bday but nah, u do not deserve it. Isn't it much better to look like a slate board than look like a bag of garri soaked in d river overnight to swell? Oh dear. It'll have been beta if u sent in just one of ur pics so we see how bloated u look. Ur size isn't even on d weighing scale. Develop some self esteem before u talk trash. Am sure d pic on ur profile is ur best and yet it looks nothing to write home about. Keep on hating. Uld purge on ur own bile and hatred.
DeleteMind u, u have NEVER and will NEVER go anonymous to curse out or defend myself. Am much bigger than that 'shiiiit. Moreover, no one here is a masquerade I should be afraid of
#1.. I don't have any advice cos am not married and don't know how it feels but if it was to be my bf eh, that will be the end but I guess is different when you are married.
Delete#2... Please mind ur business oo, unless you know the lady well enough to know what her reaction will be.
Bitchplis, you want to gbensh a househelp. Simples!
DeleteOnibaara n b'ole boo.
Don't rope in all the other men in biko.
Miss Gemini,calm down for Jesus!!
DeleteIt is well!
Una don vex Miss Gemini for dis blog
DeleteShe just dey attack everybody...
Nne just relax...don't take anything too personal on this blog
Gemini elenu yanmayanma, see my response on to your initial madness on Governor Obiano's post:
DeleteGoldscent DiamondNovember 6, 2014 at 4:15 PM
Gemini, do you have post wedding madness?
Are you frustrated already?
Does your husband need onion/honey solution or what is the causer of your malady?
I never insulted you or your razz wedding but I'm going to start now.
Your Aba wedding gown more expensive than my exotic island beach wedding? You must be high on semen!
My annual income? Find out what the salary of a bank SM was five years ago in Nigeria, maybe you can begin to comprehend. I don't want to throw you into depression by giving you my present dollar-denominated figure.
See this small fry o. So because you have started twerking on a banana legitimately, you think you have arrived? You can insult Toke but you can't take the heat?
Egbere lasan lasan. You want to use me to address issues that were thrown at you. What's my business if you wear rainbow shoes. Go and check those that wasted their comments on an Mgbeke like you, ain't got time for such frivolity.
May God punish that your maggot-infested mouth you used to mention my husband and kids. Go and have 3 healthy boys first before you grow wings. Were alaso!
Iyalode, don't beg her.
DeleteWhy should she calm down when she has already started seeing reasons why she should not have done her bush wedding?
Gemini, write in your lamentation chronicles and stop breathing hot air all over the place like a bitch in heat.
Miss gemini drop this mindset. Stop taking what u read here to heart, silent sometimes doesn't mean u can't strike back, it simply defines maturity. So chill! These period of ur life 'HM', should be 1 of ur best.
DeleteMiss gemini drop this mindset. Stop taking what u read here to heart, silent sometimes doesn't mean u can't strike back, it simply defines maturity. So chill! These period of ur life 'HM', should be 1 of ur best.
Delete@Goldscent....choi,,u get mouth.i have never seen you cuss out like this. abeg pity this new bride ooo. these ur utterances....hmmm...o gidi gaan. let peace reign.
DeleteMiss Gemini,,dis is no time for u to start all these. haba....U should be in a very happy mood now and whatever anyone says should not get to u that much. U shouldnt have sent in ur pictures since u cant take d bashing, but then,that was what you wanted. Whatever it is,,let peace reign. You should be in the moon now getting a lot of honey for urself.
Bitchplis...are u sure u are not one of the guys who want to "gbensh" dis house help??? hehehehe....i ask ni o cos dis one u sef notice d babe ,,hmmmmmm ,#lipsealed
Anon 11:49 n goldscent,make I no lie I fit gbensh her o cos d girl fine,neat n hot but I can't imagine stooping so low to dat level,it's not dat bad(my ex still dey bring am since her fiance no dey dine on d southern cuisine)
DeleteChoi....Bitchplissssssssss,u be baaaaddd boy gaaann ni....lol...U still dey "gbensh" ur ex and u know say she don get anoda "le boo"....dia ris God ooo.....anyway na she carry her market reach ya side..hmmm,,some babes be forming "ex" when dem still dey go answer "present sir" for d same guy.
DeleteLmao Lwkmd @goldscent Diamond small small na. Lol. Miss Gemini you sef calm down. You shouldn't be taking everything personal,everybody's view is different. You also do insult people and lash em wella and in return they paid you well better seat down and enjoy the show and laughter it off. That is life. Above all I wishing you a blissful and happy marital union.
DeleteHahaahahahahaha, the house na face me i slap you...lol
ReplyDeleteJust confront the man, and ask him to stop lest you tell his wife, dont say nothing to his wife ooo...
It is actually a normal 4 bedroom building, with all rooms ensuite, but pple that stay on the ground floor know, and hear a lot, cos people just assume you are not there and talk near your window and stuff
DeleteBLOG ANALYSER: Stella, the second story has been on social media pages for the past three years. @ first, endure, pray nd concentrate. Don't abadon your young marriage. Give it time to see how everything goes.
DeleteNsogbu haba
Delete@face me I slap u.
Lmao
Naija woman response, endure and pray.
Deletejust tell the woman to try and catch them herself
Delete@ onyi asa, i am the poster, this happened yesterday 5th Nov 2014.
DeleteThis is not a story. I have respect for this lady cos she abandoned her career to take care of the home front all for what.
I cant get the picture out of my head sef, him n the maid Tah
Narrative 1:ur hubby works with an oil company, y not save as if ur life depends on it, dats if u see d money den u also start looking for a job n then find ur square root.......try n talk 2 him abt it cos is not like he doesn't hv a gud job,wonder y she still pimp babe's!! narrative 2:if am in ur shoes,i will codedly tell my neighbour!! I miss ewu love ooooh ewu ewu ewu lolz
ReplyDeleteThe only time Ewu comments is when it loads #100 MTN and given free 10MB or haven't you noticed? Very sooin it will load its phone for free MB and you will see its comments. Ewu = Goat = Animal = IT
DeletePls where is she? She has been calm for sometime now! May be stella don clip her wings...ewu ewu ewu lol
DeleteI wonder why any one will miss such razz comments! I love U Stella for not posting ewu's comments.
DeleteMadam amebo face yaaaaa hooome
ReplyDeleteDont live ur puff puff and go and fry groundnut for anoda person
SDK said it all listen to her advice
Yes Sdk sed my mind but Sdk can gbagaun 4 africa. Choi! "If I was u" Smh. "Both d maid n d man denies it" Smh again. Nicely correct urself n dnt cme justifying ur gbagauns. u kn u dnt like to be corrected. Mrs ITK since 1929
DeleteStella and co, what do you mean by poster No 2 shld face her work? Did u not read where the maid said the man is trying to sleep with her? Isn't that equal to rape? Are you all supporting rape because it is not the poster's business?
DeleteOverlook the amebo ish and face the maid because she needs help.
Dear poster #1: find a way to let the wife know asap so that the maid can be sent away or the husband put in check.
Use elder's wisdom biko before that man rapes the poor girl.
#thankyouverymuch
Stella and co, what do you mean by poster No 2 shld face her work? Did u not read where the maid said the man is trying to sleep with her? Isn't that equal to rape? Are you all supporting rape because it is not the poster's business?
DeleteOverlook the amebo ish and face the maid because she needs help.
Dear poster #1: find a way to let the wife know asap so that the maid can be sent away or the husband put in check.
Use elder's wisdom biko before that man rapes the poor girl.
#thankyouverymuch
Stella and co, what do you mean by poster No 2 shld face her work? Did u not read where the maid said the man is trying to sleep with her? Isn't that equal to rape? Are you all supporting rape because it is not the poster's business?
DeleteOverlook the amebo ish and face the maid because she needs help.
Dear poster #1: find a way to let the wife know asap so that the maid can be sent away or the husband put in check.
Use elder's wisdom biko before that man rapes the poor girl.
#thankyouverymuch
Ok! Sugar rush, post it one more time
DeleteBut what if the maid denies it because she still wants to keep her job? Is she had wanted to leave after the 4th attempt, she would have been long gone. If she's still there, it's because she doesn't want to leave. So she's likely to deny it if confronted o. And Madame poster, hope it will not jeopardise your own marriage? Have u sought ur husband's opinion? Be careful
DeleteBut Stella she has to do something or the poor housemaid will soon be raped. If she was our child or relative would we not want someone to intervene. Poster pls send the wife an anonymous message or something. Your conscience will be seriously pricked if you see that girl pregnant or hurt. Being poor
DeleteMy apologies, it wasn't going through from my end not knowing it had posted.
DeleteCos she is a maid abi Wey no get family or she is poor so irrelevant.... Poster call your friend and tell her.... Be mature about it am sure she probably Knows her huby is randy...... Let her not intimidate the poor girl if not if she is wicked she will sleep with him..... She should just dash her money and ask her to leave so huby wiil not have who to harass..... Useless man
DeleteNa wa oo..I am very wary of some kind things oo,how can dem maids be discussing something of that nature and their voices can be heard like that. Well I will tell the woman to call her maid and ask her what she was telling the other maid earlier..if the maid refuses to tell,no b for my mouth she go hear am fullstop.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Na face me I face u house u they stay? How come u dey hear the sound of their love making? Na question I ask o!
ReplyDeleteAnswer- Have you had neighbours living in the flat above that use bed that move alot and sound?
DeleteNot face me i slap you.
Narr1) gimme his number so I can call to give him my best advice!
ReplyDelete2) lmao dat house na face me I slap u ni... anyway madam mind ur business biko
Are you into runs?? Just a harmless question.
DeleteChick Felix what do u mean by this advice, does it mean dat u need his number so dat he can connect u too? So u be runz babe eh bwahahahaha
Delete...Hmmm
Chai you too dey find who go pimp you abi?.. fear god oo
DeleteJust say you are interested and wished to be pimp out.
Deleteposter 1:
ReplyDeleteyou had no clues that this husband of yours pimps women before now? you didn't ask questions? you never snooped while dating knowing fully well you see him once a while?
what are you gonna do now?
*am afraid all I have for you are questions and more questions..no answers.*
Poster two.
look for ways to let your friend know her husband is looking the way of his househelp. nothing hurts than knowing on the long run that everyone knew of a situation except you. it is killing cos it makes it look like you've been a big fool.
look for ways to let her know. maybe call on the help, get her to trust you and tell you what her boss has been up to with her. you can plan with her to set a trap for the 'oga' where he will be caught red handed.
all the best!
Poster 1: the disadvantage of long distance relationship. If I say leave the marriage it will seem like I want to break a home. Nne, stay and endure oo. Better still pray he will change or do sdk style of advice, sit him down and talk.
Delete1. Jisos! Nne your husband must also be sleeping with those girls. This is the height of irresponsibility!
ReplyDelete2. I no know what I can say in this matter. If it was me,if the girl is willing to leave the house I'll give her tfare OR, tell her madam if you both have a nice rapport
Lmao @ voicemail husband. Now 1 poster, pls pack ur things and leave the house for sometime, maybe ur hubby will change and come back to u. But I doubt. No2 poster, pls mind ur biz. The wife might even be aware for ur information.
ReplyDeleteO Chim o! Make I grab one of stella's chairs.
ReplyDeleteSdk,I remember when u dey grow up 4 dat face me I wiper ya face near mammy market 4 oshodi
DeleteYe of humble beginnings
Poster 1: I feel so pity for you, u are married to a boy in a man's body, even most boys don't engage in such act, summary is ur hubby is irresponsible.
ReplyDelete2. Pls mind ur viz and stop eavesdropping.
Poster 1 . Iv heard ur gist, lol, you live in abuja and i used to know you. The person that told me really wanted to tell you, i told her to mind her business lest you call her a hater cos every one knows you are very competitive. May God strengthen you sha.
DeletePoster2 u be proper aproko! Gossip! Wetin concern u? Anyway it's not good to have live-in maids...let dem come n go in d evenings...some men don't have self respect. Poster 1...there's no way u would tell me u didn't notice all these snoop dogg traits while dating, abi u thought u can change him? manage d pimp as u don't have a job or u look for a job n vamoose before he infects u with gonococus.
ReplyDeleteThe one that married a pimp i will say O.Y.O. You for shine your eye before you marry. The second poster, you have no proof so i will advice you zip it, again do you have maids? Do you know what DH is doing with your maid?
ReplyDeleteNo mind d bisi bosimilorun funra ra e!
DeleteI'll speak to the maid like a sister and tell to quietly pack her things and leave. No need telling any of the couple. Cos they might become aggressive.
ReplyDeleteOyibo
Gaddammit! Madam whistle blower,don't listen to Stellz oh! Blow that whistle into randy bankers face & threaten him with ur knowledge but don't tell his wife cos d info will certainly demolish her morale. He may succeed in raping d maid next time so please do not pretend you didn't hear anything, d maid is innocent n she's somebody's daughter. Stellz sef,if d maid na ur sister u go keep quiet???
ReplyDeleteOr she fit buy sim card text the woman sef. But then again the poor maid would be in trouble cos she'll assume she's fucking the man already. And by then her confession would be too late and watery. **sigh**
Delete1: Abeg, I join to tire for these marriage tales of woe. What can anybody here do for you? Your husband has all there vices and you never knew until after marriage? Adonbilivit.
ReplyDelete2: This kind of communal living where you all hear one another's bedroom noises, na wa!
The best you can do is advise the maid to tell herself Madam. Don't go and tell her yourself o.
Bwahahahaha.........
DeleteDaft comments... It's not everything your spouse did u at aware off.... How is it only communal living that makes u here your neighbours ? Every thing depends on how the apartments are structured. Nothing wrong in her telling mada herself.
DeleteMadam pimp, sorry oh, but you don enter one chance! I don't think you can stop this his behavior cos it is already in his blood! I'm sure he sleeps with most of the girls he arranges for his clients, chei! Sorry oh.
ReplyDeleteN2: like Stella said mind your business, cos if the thing causes serious wahala Na you go carry am for head! To you, you might just be trying to be a good neighbor and looking out for your fellow woman but the woman might not take it in good faith and think you are jealous and trying to destroy her marriage. You don't know the lies her hubby will tell her when she askes him, and you will become the villain! So please face your work!
As for post 2: Stella u shldnt have advise her not to do something... my only concern is for the poor maid, from the gist, she wasnt interested,seems like a good girl dat wants to work hard and make a living for herself,u cant just watch/fold your hands and see a girl gets rape especially someone without a say,is either u tell d wife or u confront the oga himself,u just have to do something..Rape is rape irrespective of the victim...that she's a maid doesnt mean u shldnt help...
ReplyDeleteThe lady with the pimp as an husband should just sit him down and have a heart to heart talk with him. So far he has a job that is paying him well, he should be able to leave the pimping bizness. You also should try to get a job as a backup in case things don't work out.
ReplyDeleteSecond narrator, pls don't tell the wife o cos they can turn things around and heap the blame on u cos u were eavesdropping without proof. Just as Stella said, pretend as if you don't know and see how things unfold.
You people and heart to heart, did one naija movie use the term that you guys beat it to death. If someone comes on here to seek help, it is because all other avenues are not working.
DeleteExactly, everytime have a heart to heart talk, na wah before he reach here the person d talk tiya!
DeleteThe lady with the pimp as an husband should just sit him down and have a heart to heart talk with him. So far he has a job that is paying him well, he should be able to leave the pimping bizness. You also should try to get a job as a backup in case things don't work out.
ReplyDeleteSecond narrator, pls don't tell the wife o cos they can turn things around and heap the blame on u cos u were eavesdropping without proof. Just as Stella said, pretend as if you don't know and see how things unfold.
Did U say heart to heart talk?????
DeleteOnce a pimp,always a pimp!!
Amebo neighbour abeg park well and face your traffic o, except you want community disgrace..
ReplyDeleteLmao@ community disgrace. I don die ooo
DeleteShut up, what is community disgrace? U must be a wicked person, that's a very irresponsible thing to say..society is better when ple look out for each other.... So cos it's A made then she should be ignored..... I pray u find one of your own in such a situation then you will know well to be responsible
DeletePoster 1, i dont know what to say sincerely
ReplyDeletePoster 2, mind your biz pls, let it not be heard that "na u say bla bla bla"
Btw, my Aunty n her husband always suspects me of having sumtin to do with their housemaids so i ve stopped visiting them oo, or is it bcos i get friendly with any pretty one but rarely talks with any of the maids that my discriminatory mind feel is ugly?
A Nite with the king...pls dont miss it at any Living faith branch
Stop ashawo things you this guy.
DeleteN1, its strange that he works in an oil company and still pimps babes! Is he a security or office boy there? If hes around from offshore he goes out in the night and comes back in the morning. Babe I don't think you know what your hubby does for a living. 2, neighbour onise abeg face your work o
ReplyDeleteBuy a new sim card, send the wife a text . Go anonymous
ReplyDeleteGbam!!!
DeleteBest reply ever! Exactly what I would do. I no fit shout o!
DeletePastor 1..me nd Stella de read comments 2geda
ReplyDeleteWhat of Bishop 2? #straightface
DeletePoster1.... pls be prayerful and use protection when your hubby is sleeping with u.... cos std/hiv is real.
ReplyDeletePoster2.... if u warn the hubby and threaten to tell his wife 'ur friend' he can as well turn the story around that you are toasting him
If u tell the wife she might not believe you and the maid if she is stupid in love
Best thing is to tell the maid to lock her room at night... if the door doesnt have a lock she sld put a weapon close to her and scream at the top of her voice when next he comes.....
All the best to the both posters
Amebo mind ur biznes..who send u message?
ReplyDeleteEvery one is saying she should mind her biz, are you thinking of the help he wants to rape? She is human, if she is your sister will you ask her to mind her biz? Later stella will come here asking them to send in their story. Please tell the wife and let her send the girl back to her people rather than her husband harassing the poor girl.
ReplyDeleteIf the help feels threatened she should leave their house na. She's not a kid Abeg
DeletePoster 1- I feel for you. 7 months after dating or meeting him? I can't even blame you cos really you can't figure ppl out and some are so good at pretending. You should have seen signs though. Sorry about that. Have u tried getting a job? You need to relax and not think about it so you can be in good health for your baby, you can talk to him since he has money, to setup something for you. You will be fine. Just be careful of your sexual relations to avoid stds. I wish you the best.
ReplyDelete2nd poster- I will mind my business o, na face me I face you, u dey live? Lol! Just face your own, cos you can't be sure the wife doesn't even know about her hubby's escapades. A word is enuf.
Poster 1,you obviously didn't get to know your man before walkin the aisle..All the rush rush marriage sef,na wa..some men sha..
ReplyDelete...Compound houses and people not minding their own business!
ReplyDeleteThat is eh!!
DeleteI am married also and my husband also goes round different social sites registering with different names hooking up with girls and He keeps denying that He is cheating Men!Do they need many ladies to validate them and when He is blasting christianity ( TALK,PRAYER SONGS ETC)I just SMH.havent slept with him in a long while without protection i dont trust him.people are wondering why we wont have more kids but they cant guess what i am scared about.
ReplyDeleteYou are a smart woman. Do not have anymore kids with him and do not sleep with him without barrier. God help you
DeleteMy husband was sleeping with my maid, a girl I brought when she was 13 yrs old, he started sleeping with her, when she clock 17, dis is a girl dat cared and carried my 2 daughters, dis is a girl dat I took like my 1st daughter. Dis is a girl dat I loved so much, when she come back from sch, I will always ask her what happened in school today, I trusted her with my life and my secrets, I told her everything, because I have no sister. I started noticing some changes in her, disrespecting my husband in front of me, she was begin to have odour in her private part, because d man she is fucking, has big iron rod, even I d wife don't fuck all d time, he is too rough in bed, I think she got tired of d whole fucking scenario. She just told me dat someone is always coming to touch her @nite, see as I mumu reach, I told her dat it is spirit husband and she will go for deliverance, so that I can help her in prayer, I just saw d look on her face and I got suspicious, .and I ask her if it was my husband and she said no. So later dat evening I went to bed, and didn't sleep too deep, my phone rang about 2am, I saw dat it was my maids no dat was calling me, it was plugged, so I got up to pick it, I saw my husband rushing in from d parlour, to pick my phone, and I asked him what he wanted to do, he said he did not want d phone to wake me up,I asked where he was coming from, he said he was watching TV, so I decided to go and wee, I saw my maid and she finally told me dat it was her brother dat have been touching her, I went to d room, I started screaming, my husband was quiet, he started begging. My pple I was shout dat he wants to sleep with my maid, not knowing dat he had already slept with her several times, in short for close to 1yr and d girl wants out and dat she is tired of d whole sex thing, he made d fucking, every now and then. Finally my mom and my Aunt came and d girl told them everything. So my mom finally sent her packing back to d village, I wanted out of d marriage, but then I was pregnant, wanted to go for abortion, because I already have 2girls, my mom pleaded, my husband was begging also, I decided to stay, I still have everything in my mind, I forgave him, but I can never forget it in yrs to come, @times I look at my husband with hatred. Finally I put to bed in June 2014, a baby boy, @ times I feel like walking away from dis marriage, but since then my husband has turn a new leaf, trying to make me happy, if I offend him, he begs, if I ask for anything, he gives. Atimes I think about d whole thing and I have learnt my lesson, never to trust any man. So (2) poster, buy a new sim and text d woman d whole detail, it will save her from d heart break on time and she will know how to go about it. Less I forget. My husband is a banker also.
DeleteWow!
DeleteSo sorry anon 7:45
E-hugs
Y are U blaming Ur husband????
DeleteU said he like rough sex,didn't U guys date???U said U dont fuck that much,were U starving him????if U were,were was he to go????
U owe ur hubby an apology gor pushing him into d hand of Ur maid....advising that busybody to tell d wife,has she checked her own husband,he might even be sleeping with one of d maids.
No need to abuse me....Ezenwanyi U are insensitive,lunatic,failed human being,ugly,bla bla bla........
Oriegwu!
@anon 7:45 sorry dear, you really went through a lot, I pity the poor maid, just a kid being sexually molested by her Oga. Na wa! #OneLove#
DeleteWow anon so sorry you went through this oo. So painful
DeleteAnon 7:45 I'm so sorry. But I admire you for facing the truth. Some women will blame the maid and leave their husbands. Pls don't forget the girl like that. If you can keep in touch and help her in anyway pls do. She's just a young girl and frankly she really cared about you. I say so because in your write up you never mentioned she was rude to you,only your husband. She was in a tight situation. It's well. Hugs
DeleteEzewanyi total idiot, your mother must have been a prostitute..... Idiot, always vomiting rubbish.....so she must like rough axe and give him 3 times a day.... Not every body has used their husband for juju like yours.... A man who is dog is a dog so women cannot kill themselves cos of a man.....
DeleteAnon 9; 44,U need to calm d fucck down!!
DeleteEwo ni ti epe??? Kini mama alasho nta to yo egba dani???
Bwahahahaha..........
Oloshi oloriburuku!!
Odeson oloorun!!
Ezenwanyi, u think I don't know my husband, well I no him too well, I know he likes fucking single ladies, but not d baby girl, we both brought from d village, when she was even 12, or 13, she is too damn small for him, I never starved him of sex, I know he likes it rough, but not everyday my sis. He can fuck like everyday, after d whole chores in d hus. U feel sex will be like my food, if he wanted to have sex, he would have gone outside, not my maid, I feell so bad becos, he took advantage of d poor girl, making d girl not finish her secondary sch, forgetting he has his own daughters, I feel so bad dat I had to let dat girl go, I loved the young woman with all my heart, she was there when I had my two girls, she loves them with passion, just don't want to reopen d wound dat is healing with time. So Ezenwanyi pls don't say what u don't know, if d 2 poster don't want to tell her friend, it is left for her, just giving my piece of advice, and Ezenwanyi I didn't ask for ur advice, so pls be matured when talking to pple here. Thanks
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DeleteI am d only one telling U truth but obviously U do not like it and that's Ur headache.
U do not love Ur maid,U are only sad cos U lost Ur help.
Grow Urself some brain and whenever U push d publish button,d comments are no longer Urs.
Matured when talking to people ???go and sit Ur ass down!
Poster 2: I know a family currently in a similar situation that perfectly fits the characters you just described. The name of the gentleman.. is it L the banker?
ReplyDelete@Fiery Ray, no he is K.... the banker, he just clocked 40 and the wife put so much love and effort. Its a pity women that love selflessly have to suffer like this.
DeleteLol at face me i slap u. No it is a normal 4 flat building
All these 40 years old men having mid life crisis..
DeleteLol@second poster...I think you should just mind your biz and let her find out herself.even if you will let her know,find a way to go anonymous so it won't be obvious it came from you.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 This is terribly bad.i wonder how you dint see any of this characters when you were dating..too bad...but at this stage,you are in it and preggy so just take things easy for yourself and you also need to start doing something.You need to be able to fend for yourself just incase
Poster 2 abeg na from London your bricklayer wey build your house come from? NNa London Houses you go dey hear wetin your neighbour dey do . Very thin walls.
ReplyDeleteNa wa!
#1: Its a pity you found out late. Honestly, I don't know what I would have done if I were in your shoes.
ReplyDelete#2: Please find an anonymous way to call the man himself. Tell him if he does not stop, you will expose him not only to his wife, but to his neighbours, church, and workplace. Rose
poster 1. ur mata dey God hand.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. hmmnn , the thing is if i was the man's wife and he is doing something like that i would like to be in the know (at least to plan my revenge strategy Lolz ) so i suggest you look for a way to tell the wife this same story as u ve told us without letting her know it is from you. eg a note and put it where she alone will see it or just try and be innovative. Then the decision is hers to make. that way u would ve cleared ur conscience and it wont backfire on u as being the whistle blower.
#Timeless#
Poster 2:please find a way to tell the woman or ask the maid if she will confide in you and willing to leave?if she wants to leave and don't have transport fare please send me a mail @louisarockymountain@gmail.com and I will gladly provide money for her.To those saying poster should mind her business,because she is a maid doesn't mean she should be raped by an animal.If she had told him to stop 4 times,yet he keeps going back to her room and you want someone not to bust his bubbles?This world will be a better place if we start looking out for one another,the maid in question is someone's daughter,sister,friend,future wife and mother.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for this jare!
DeleteN1-it is well wiv you,@la always look b4 you leap.N2-women dnt believe themselves,leave them,Mind yur business.sdkers how una dey?
ReplyDeletePoster one.He comes home at 6am? Sit down and hear me.Divorce should be your first option. I won't deceive you by advising you to pray. Listen to my 'shakespearean' reason :A pimp does not a good husband make! Number 2: write your neighbour an anonymous note and find a way to get it across to her.
ReplyDeleteLol see fake Shakespeare
DeletePoster 2...hian,,u dey put ear for wall ni abi how u take hear the sound of their bed that even made u conclude the guy likes it rough? U don kill me with laugh finish. Choi.
ReplyDeleteOn a more serious note,i think u should mind ur bizness. One day,,it will be exposed to d wife.
Poster 1....i dont know what to say oo. Didnt u visit him at all when u were dating?If u did,was he not making/receiving calls,going out in d evenings or u just chose to ignore? Let ur hubby know u are not comfortable with his line of bizness. U dont need to fight him but let him know he's hurting u badly.
Mehnnnnnnnnn at marriage don enter voice mail. Are you really 100% sure the oil company job is real???? Its obvious he is very insincere. Hope his own rig is not relocating elsewhere to be very free with his pimping job.???? Nne you don enter one chanceoooo.. pls open up to ur parents about the occurrences in your marriage.
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Delete4 d 1st poster I suggest u either live wit dat or find ur way out cos even if u talk 2 him abt it he is nt goin 2 change anytime soon so use ur head 2nd poster mind ur business
ReplyDeletePoster 2-pls, pls...get a new sim, send d wife a detailed sms, nd den brk d sim so nobody wld trace it back 2 u...chikena
ReplyDeletepls do dis 4 d sake of dt innocent, godly househelp. Cos if na anoda maid im 4 don oblige oga in d name of choping wetin madam dey chop
Poster 2: if I were in ur shoes, I'd tell the man what I know and tell him I have proof and dt if he doesn't stop, u'd let his wife know... Or better stl, I'd tell the wife to keep a close eye on her hubby and maid and dt u aren't a home breaker but u want d best for her. People are different and react to such matters in different ways. But even if she sends the help away, d hubby wud hit on d new help. She needs to know. Or maybe give her an anonymous call (hide ur number) tell her what her husband is doing. If she's a wise woman, she'd investigate d matter.. I think option 3 is best.
ReplyDeletePoster 2-pls, pls...get a new sim, send d wife a detailed sms, nd den brk d sim so nobody wld trace it back 2 u...chikena
ReplyDeletepls do dis 4 d sake of dt innocent, godly househelp. Cos if na anoda maid im 4 don oblige oga in d name of choping wetin madam dey chop
1] U need to save as much as u can nd once u have enuf money with u, leave nd go look for a job. Dat oil company job he has is what he got he got as a gift from his ogas dat he arranges girl for...so he myt not be able to stop pimping girls for dem,else he myt lose his job/life..either way ur not safe there!!
ReplyDelete2] I find it so hard believing ur story cos its a product of eavesdropping. Lol Busybody nd ameboism just dey worry u too much, if not why would u stop everything ur doing just to listen to 2 maids talk nd if u don't share d same flat den how on earth were u able to hear two couples having sex...no matter how rough it was or how close u live to them!! My bet is either d wife who's ur friend told u all these things nd doesn't know wat to do OR dis is actually ur story nd u need advice, but ur here forming its for my "friend". Either way I say to u continue snooping until u find what ur looking for ok!!
Gbam!!!!
Delete200 likes!
Shut your stupid mouth ifvu have nothing to say.
Delete#2; say nothing, because it might boomerang on you.
ReplyDeleteNarrator 1, did you go about snooping? How did you know your husband is on all the social networks & even get to see contents of his private chats with these girls? Of you weren't snooping on him before you both got married, why now? There are other 'holes' in your story but what you requested for is advice. Before you get 'tired', have you spoken to him about the things you noticed coz you didn't say, If yes, what was his reaction? If you haven't, try talk to him when he's sober & in the mood; you do know how to read your husband's mood, yes? Great! Let him realise you both are gonna be parents soon & you need him to be there as a father & husband. Let him realise you're willing to forgive his mistakes & support him as long as he's willing to change for the better. Don't be confrontational or judgmental about it; just talk with love & concern. Don't forget to pray for your husband and yourself too; God is still in the business of bringing back the 'lost sheep' home.
ReplyDeleteNarrator 2: I'll just say, find a cup of lipton, grab a seat and pretend you're Kermit the frog. Don't say nothing to anybody; infact, pretend you never heard what the house help said. But if e do you like say you must talk, then, turn to your husband; let him be the one to do the talking. Men know how to talk to themselves better about these sort of things. Don't confront somebody else's husband with an unsubstantiated allegation. Wisdom is profitable to direct!
2. So u eavesdrop on people spanking at night? Concentrate more with your own dick so you will be carried away and not hearing the sound of bed. Lol
ReplyDelete1. I won't say you shud sit him down n talk cos I don't know how long you have been sitting and talking with the dude. So pls stand him up and talk. Like stella said...voicemail horseband.
***HEALING-RAIN***
ReplyDeletePoster2
How long do you think she will resist that dog? What if he is really drugging her?
Don't wait till he rapes and impregnate her
Confront the housegirl,tell her you know about her and her oga,threaten her and she will sing like a canary,if she open up,make her tell the madam herself.
Poster1
Your hubby may not only be a pimp but a fag
Leaving won't make much difference,guy is deep into pimping biz so don't think you are irreplacible,better have a heart to heart talk with him. Singles make una shine eye well well to avoid daggers in the heart abeg.
Best comment. Please make her confess to you. Record it if possible. You never know what might happen later. Then encourage to tell her madam in your presence. Before that animal rapes and gets her preggers
Delete1;U didnt notice d trait before saying I do???...anyway, to be truly liberated,one must recognise d need to fight against poverty and self destruct....U are expecting a baby,broke and dejected...what do U want bvs to do forU???
ReplyDeleteIyalode, mo juba.
DeleteAsk her o.
Bwahahahaha.......Omo,e bad gan oo....anu obirin ye n se mi sha..
DeleteChoi!e buru o....
2. If you are close to the lady, give her a hint and watch to see her reaction. If she is naive, just tell her that keeping house girls in the house with virile men is dangerous and let her start watching the girl!!
ReplyDelete2,I guess U live in face me I slap,I dont waste my time with Ur likes.
ReplyDeleteEzewanyi, i was actually looking forward 2 ur advice cos i used to think you were wise. Well 2 bad.
DeleteI am very very sure i live in a better house than you.
I am a very comfortable woman.
To the pple saying i eavesdropped, well we all have house helps in the 4 flats, e no easy biko.
And this year we all had issues with diff helps from stealing, to flirting with the guard, so we all decided to watch the maids more, cos one stole a lot of my neighbours stuff and ran away in Jan. That is the only reason i took my time to listen... i thought they stole something and were colluding to do something bad. It was shocking to hear all i did.
N yes, the bed and even the parties are loud. I sleep late so.....
Evry1 h8n, na your biz.
I am just worried about the poor maid n even the wife, std , HiV wise
My reply still stands...I dont play with Ur kind.
DeleteEze money that's pretty harsh, I was also looking forward to your motherly advice to her.
DeleteLisa sweetie,since when has ibilibi ogada ever given motherly advise?????
DeleteAnyway,U know I am a very principled and spiritual woman so I comment as d spirit leads me...
The only spirit in you is insanity. Tah This week your comments have been stupid. I wonder why the person even replied you.
DeleteI wonder too...but Y are U here replying too????
DeleteUr madness no get part 2 oo.....
Poster2, tell d maid to tell oga dat "a neighbour"s found out n is planning to inform madam.⚫
ReplyDeleteN1, I'm sorry you didn't do your homework well before marriage. I don't know what to advise you honestly. Seek God's wisdom before you act.
ReplyDeleteN 2, Please don't tell your friend directly if you must. Look for ways to tell her without her knowing you are behind it. Maybe anonymous call or letter.
Your friend needs to know what is going on in her home. But please don't get involved directly. If you do,1 of these things will happen;
A) It might backfire and they will use you to settle
B) Their marriage might crash and you will labeled the "causer".
C) The man/ maid might deny it and you will be seen as an enemy of their marriage.
Anyways, that lady needs to send those maids away asap and she needs to let the man know his game is up!
Husband and wife case are always handled with wisdom to avoid landing yourself in trouble in the process of trying to help.
Some men are dogs, Tufiakwa!
I concur! Posters Genny has said it all.
DeleteNwunye Okeke
I still don't understand why some Posters have to start off with 'I am a faithful blog visitor'- as if it saves you from the bad mouth of BVs or wins you more credibility. Please just send your stories without the 'Faithful and loyal BV' leave that for the blog owner abeg...
ReplyDeletePoster 1: I don't want to come and start saying why dint you try to know your husband very well before marriage because, 1, some men can pretend for Africa, 2 some ladies will know and still marry him. My two cents- you need to leave the house for sometime and go some place so you can have your baby in peace- maybe a relative's,family or a friend. Try saving some money to sustain yourself for the period, you can ask your husband for money with wisdom-and while you are at it, please stay off his phones and his affairs to avoid premature labour.
Poster 2- Please paddle your own canoe!! Yes, your husband is friends with the irresponsible man, but your husband is an adult and doesn't have to learn what he doesn't want to learn...just mind your business
post 1. u have to endure first and pray about it since u re pregnant and u re jobless, if u live him now! how will u cop with pregnancy and child bearing u knw say no be moi moi. i have a friend that got married to a long time relationship (9ys) eventually the man change and started sleeping outside, he come back in the morning just to come and dressing up and go to work they have 2 beautiful children the man doesn't care about the welfare of his children, to make the matter worst the wife no dey work ohhh. wetin the lady do? she only go and imbrase God, na every time my friends dey for church infact she be worker for church, now church dey take care of her and her children with the little way they can. she said she doesn't want to live her matrimonial home for any woman becos they told her that her husband is seeing another woman at side, it got to a point the husband even park his cloths and live there matrimonial home and went to live with another woman outside it was the prayer wey the wife pray o na him bring him back but still yet he still sleep outside sometimes. so my dear i will advice u pray about it o. divorce is never an option now becos of ur condition and ur unborn child.
ReplyDeleteAre some you dense? Your husband is messing around, you went to God He gave you and your kids an out via the Church. Ok na, please be there waiting for your horseband. Ah ah Naija women and stupidity.
DeleteIs that a good life. Nawa o. Women dey see o.
DeletePretty Pee,ur friend is suffering and smiling.She's married but single. Imagine her and d kids being a liability to d church when she's not a widow. This.ur advise no follow at all...All of a sudden,ur friend has become a less privileged all bcis she wants to bear d title "MRS" at all cost.....
DeletePoster 1: No be small voice mail you marry oh! See the importance of knowing who you want to tie yourself to (although some people can pretend die!) Have your baby first, tie your legs together & pray for a change
ReplyDeletePoster 2: ask yourself if the tables were turned if you'll appreciate been told? Codedly tell the woman, for your own good don't put it straight to her. We women can be funny & you can't really tell how she'll react.
#1. I feel so sorry for u, how i wish u arent preggy yet(no ill feeling) but that would ve been so easy for u to port. But now ur in. I wish i know the best advice for u now. Does he know u are aware? He might even be taking turns with those girls too.. Y dont u get a responsible person he respects to talk to him.
ReplyDelete#2! Get the maids b4 dia madam an make her tell her with her mouth,No be ur mouth she go hear am mk dem no go deny.
@People saying na face me i face u she dey stay, i ddnt really understand it dat way, i feel its a literal way of saying the couple arent "dull" in d show
at N1: Don't act as if you didn't know his type before you married him.
ReplyDeleteat N2: It's better you leave yourself out of it.
1st one: Sorry oh, that's why I love long courtship. Even though I dated my hubby for 7 years before saying I do- I still found out somethings I never did when we were dating. You are married to him so it's for better for worse,he does not hit you physically so you have to stay, Ignore his activities, concentrate on yourself and your child. Safe delivery.
ReplyDelete2nd 1: Hmnnnn amebo na you and that your friend be, if I were you like Stella said I will mind my business, let them sort out their family issues themselves.
Some men nor get dignity@all, they think from their eririamu
Christmas is in the air, just take a deep breathe and perceive it *shines teeth*
Poster 2...please do not keep quiet and allow a girl to suffer rape. Rape and molestation is not frowned upon because women are quick to say keep quiet. So what if the neighbor will get angry and say she is destroying her marriage. When you face God, your hands will be clean. Selfish women, you prefer to answer Mrs at the expense of the innocent. I pray none of your daughters fall in the hands of such men and the people that can help will not say "Uche face your work".
ReplyDeletePoster 1-I would not stay in that environment. Do your parents have space to accommodate you? You can not bring your child into a den of filth. Please give your husband space cause he does not realize he is married yet. He is sleeping with atleast one of those his clients. You better be using protection because the girls sleep with all sorts and then you might pick up something. That husband of yours will abandon your child somewhere if you are killed due to some disease. So please use your brain o. Sit and talk no dey this matter again.
How can anyone even advice Poster 2 to keep quite....Stella, i am really disappointed at your advice , with all the knowledge n western world exposure that u have.....the lady should keep quite?????
ReplyDeleteEvil thrives when good pple do nothing. Have u thot of the following scenarios :
1. There must have been a reason God allowed the poster to hear that gist......if u do nothing with it, how well will u live with yourself.
2. The maid is someone's daughter, her mother gave birth to her just the same way our mothers gave birth to us.....na condition make her crayfish bend oooo.....so does that mean she has vexed the gods that she has to be punished by rape??????
3. This is a gal that has a boyfriend in d village, shes probably sexually active with d guy who is also sexually active with Sikira and Mercy n Halima in the village while shes in lagos working....have u thought abt dis maid having STD/HIV....if oga succeed at raping her, d madam u are all trying to protect is in bigger trouble....
Poster 2, i will advise u to pray n ask the Holy Spirit for direction n what God wants u to do with this info. 2. tell your husband....he might also tell u to mind ur business ooo....but talk to him n let him reason with u. Get a fresh sim card like pple advised. Talk sincerely to the maid n let her confide in u....secretly record her confession. Keep all of these and im sure God will teach what n how to use them.....pls counsel that maid properly n godly....
All you BVs that will b writing long epistle all in the name of advice....if its not a story of personal experience u r writing, then pls try to make your advice as brief as possible....haba!
DeletePretty pee...what is the "causer" of all these gbagauns???
ReplyDeleteLol @ startn d post with I'm a faithful bv!Nkem ur funny sha!sdk princess
ReplyDeleteLook for a discreet way to let d wife know. Am sure if d tables were turned d women advising keep quiet would wana knw too..
ReplyDeleteIf my man was going to ma maids room under ma nose to drug n rape her id like to know
So i can do sumtin about it.
If ur a woman and u advised d 2nd poster to be quiet, shame on you!!!!!. I hope ur daughters are someday nt in dis position, cos d people who are to help will definitely keep quiet about it.
Sdk housewives..taking d cowards way out since 1908!
Fr d pimp's wife plz go get a job bfr ur hubby pimp u out 1dai..... D maid case,plz madam mind ya biznx bfr u put yasef fr wahala...I go like stay dat huse sha so I go de hear fuckin sound jo
ReplyDelete~@iamjbankz SA to President Jonathan 2015~
Anon 7.45, this must be 'banker syndrome'
ReplyDeletei'll die of shame and anger if my hubby sleeps with the maid....the pain...i feel so sorry for the lady that her hubby cheated on her with a help she took care of...the pain will never go away, but it gets better with time!
ReplyDeleteEze nwanyi....ur comment comes from an ignorant angle...what happened to just ignoring it? who are you? who is ur father? what do u do? ur likes have suffered poverty and come from gutters...
Poster 2, the new sim card/sms is the best bet.
poster 1, speak to ur hubby about it, and then your family...dont keep it bottled up, so you dont harm ur unborn child....TC
Who am I???????
DeleteI am High priestess Ezenwanyi ibilibi ogada Nwanonukpo Eze Ochiagha 1 of d World.
My father has kicked d bucket..and pls dont feel sad about it cos I don't.
Gutters???I take it U ve heard my story......scoffs##big deal...d point now is that I am a billionaire's wife and mind U it's in dollars.
Bwahahahaha!!!!!
Dear Anon Ezeshit is sick. Ignore her pls. I wish her what that poor woman went thru.
DeleteI feel her billionaire is alrdy sleeping with maids and mad women that is why she is sounding so stupid.
Eeyah.....
DeleteWhat did d poor woman go through????Bwahahahaha......when has ordinary fucking ever hurt anybody??????
Poor people sef!
Advise d maid to tell her madam.wetin wan happen make e happen.
ReplyDeleteWhen d husband throws her out,I hope U will accommodate her.
DeleteTo answer many questions if it is a face me or face you type of setting, definitely not. For peeps who live in Abraham Adesanya Estate, most are familiar with bedroom noise or talk. You have to be very careful when at it, unless your neighbour will hear everything. No secret at at all. Most times it's like you are present in your neighbour's room. Well the mistake with the walls, 'cos of the low cost building.
ReplyDeleteNarrator, let me tell you something, you might think you are doing good by going to intervene but you would be surprised when the table will be turned against you! Don't listen to peeps telling you to go ahead, because when gbege happen, na only you go carry the matter for head like gala seller! Even your husband go cuss you! Neighbors go call you amebo! homebreaker! no be today, fowl yansh dey for back!
ReplyDeleteYOU SHOULD CALL THE MAID AND TELL HER BEFORE SHE SLEEPS, SHE SHOULD PUT A BUCKET OF WATER BEHIND THE DOOR TO WEDGE IT, SO WHEN HE WANTS TO OPEN THE DOOR, IT WOULD MAKE NOISE OR TIE EMPTY CANS TO THE KNOB, SO THAT WHEN HE OPENS THE DOOR, THEY WOULD FALL AND MAKE CLANGING NOISE! OR SEND AN ANONYMOUS TEXT TO YOUR NEIGHBOR, BUT IT MIGHT BACKFIRE, BECAUSE MADAME CAN TURN AROUND TO ACCUSE THE MAID, YOU KNOW MEN CAN LIE FOR AFRICA WHEN CAUGHT!
Useless he-goat of a man, that cannot be satisfied with his wife's pussy! Be careful also, because others might be listening to you and yours banging!
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DeleteDear SDKs, it would really be nice if you all can give candid and mature advise without resorting to insults and demeaning words. Always remember that inasmuch as we can not verify the authenticity of these stories, most of them are actually true and are posted for the essence of picking advise from you. E jo.
1... Pray and let the Spirit of God guide you. Talk to the extended family members about it but better if your husband has a Spiritual Authority who mentors him.
2. I am aware that this might backfire but please do not keep quiet. You seem like one with a good heart by being worried. I think you should call the maid, ask her to get in touch with her people to come and take her away and maybe give her money for transportation. We need to learn to look out for one another, being a maid does not mean she should be condermed; it's a situation she can not help. Do the best you can for her, give her an escape route. Telling the woman would either make her insult you or she blames the girl as the third option (her believing the maid) is highly unlikely.
I hope you have the Divine discernment to be able to do that which is right.