Wife Number 2 Loading For 44 Year Old Married Nigerian Man.

As you make your bed,so you will lie on it.....have all the fun you want but regret is the worst thing that will happen to anyone.This blog visitor is about to do something that is equal to committing suicide.I decided to make his a different post and not put it in the narratives because he is about to propose to his girlfriend and your opinion is needed now...The narratives will come up later.Thank you!.

''Stella,

I am forty four years old. I am happily married with three children – all boys. I actually married quite late (I was 36) as my last boy is just one. Ever since I got married sex has always been like a chore- a task I must carry out. To be honest with you, I was never really in love with my wife but I had to get married as the pressure was just too much. 

Before I got married, I was actually very promiscuous sincerely. I mean I never had a relationship as in dating a girl. To me it was just sex and no emotions and unfortunately I carried that into my marriage and my life style never changed. My wife can’t understand the ‘monster’ she married but that’s just me. 

Now the challenge is when am with my wife it takes me about thirty minutes to get an erection. I mean 30 minutes of all manners of foreplay etc. 30 minutes of great effort. And when I eventually get one, sex doesn’t last five minutes. 

Recently, I met this young medical doctor who is about half my age and boom from nowhere I get an instant erection and actually lasted almost one hour with her the first time. 

Stella, I could not believe it that me an old man could perform that. And to be honest I have NEVER MY ENTIRE LIFE gone that long before even during my undergraduate days. No drugs no nothing. 

To be convinced I took the medical doctor on a business trip and same thing happened. She actually confessed that she has never found a man so active as I am in her whole life and am like “girl, do you know how old I am?” I am at a loss now because what was just sex is now turning to a relationship. 

And i have had her for about 10 times now and all have seen me out-perform my expectations. The girl is bright and respectful from a very good Christian / affluent background and am seeing more to her than just sex. As I write I can’t explain what’s happening to me body. 

She knows i am married and tells me everything about her life: no holds barred. she is also respectful and truthful. can it be pretence when all i give her is perhaps 20k? and her dad buys her flight tickets.I verified this. I am considering paying her bride price but I have not told her yet''

*I feel like posting your full name to alert your wife but this is really none of my business.you want advice right?Cos if you were so convinced you wouldn't be asking.PLEASE DO NOT DO IT.

Sex is not the reason anyone should get married,leave that young Doctor alone and face your wife and kids.At this stage you should be making plans,solid plans with the wifey concerning your kids,going on holidays together and looking for ways to up your libido.

Perhaps your wife needs to improve her appearance or hygiene?tak to her about it and teach her what she doesnt know or isnt doing properly.Marry a second wife and in a few years your finger will never leave your mouth from biting it in regret.selah!

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