This is not funny at all......
''Hello Stella, Please I need your help and the house advice. I Am 22, an undergraduate, studying law and in my 4th year. I am in a relationship with a guy I love so much. He is yoruba and an only child and I am Igbo.
We've been dating for 6months now. Recently, he started talking about the fact that his parents might object to our union due to the fact that I am Igbo and that his family has an issue with Igbo people. My problem now is that I just found out yesterday that am pregnant for him and he wants me to keep it but he won't tell his parents about it.
I Am scared of how my parents would react about me being pregnant. They might disown me and I am not sure my boyfriend in question would marry me. Please I need helpful advice on how to go about it, I Know what I did is bad and I feel like the most terrible person on earth''.
*Well you have laid your bed and so must lie on it.Do not abort that baby.
If your parents disown you,you will not die.Sit them down and tell them your situation,they are the only ones that can help you right now,that your boyfriend na ONE CHANCE....
After you birth this child,stay off sex or use a condom.
Talk to your parents.
There are six things the Lord hates,
ReplyDeleteseven that are detestable to him:
17haughty eyes,
a lying tongue,
HANDS THAT SHED INNOCENT BLOOD 18a heart that devises wicked schemes,
feet that are quick to rush into evil, Proverbs 6
don't shed that innocent blood; the blood of that innocent child; you will not be able to bear the consequences. Call upon Jesus and he will save you!
Beautiful. Am so excited for u.
DeleteU went and got preggy especially when u ain't married nor engaged nor have hope that d mufu will do d needful. Am so excited.
So what should we do now?
Open a trust fund for your baby?
Oriegwu
I was in ur shoes 11 years ago. Was pregnant at 21, although I was a graduate. My parent disowned me. His parent did the same.
DeleteWe are here today. Really proud of our wonderful twins.
Although our parent has accepted us back o. That was last xmas. Its a big struggle but not the end of the world. I wouldn't trade my twins for anything in the world.
Pray and pls keep the baby.
The Lord is ur strength. My story is for another day.
Pls just keep the baby. At the end of it all, u will look back and be thankful u didn't abort d child.
DeleteBeing pregnant is not the end of the world dear...You've made d mistake and there's nofn u can do. leave the guy and face ur studies. Pray to God before u speak with your parents to soften their heart. Pele dear. Next tym, use condom.
How can u stoop so low to get pregnant by a yoruba guy??? All my baby daddies are igbos, one agbor guy and a dannish guy....dont do dat again
DeleteWell, keep yourself, una no go hear. Why are you afraid of the pregnancy? Do where you afraid if the sex. Oya na. Inter tribal wahala? At this stage. No marriage come join am. Nne m keep the baby and lie on your bed exactly the way you've made it. Don't touch that baby...Btw, the baby no go gree leave. God's grace love. Just keep it.
DeleteParents go send una go school, instead of concentrating on your studies mbanu, una go say no na prick better pass. You don see am abi?? Whoever told you a yoruba man will marry you an igbo, was just deceiving you. Yorubas marry their own, even if he disobeys his parents and marries you 2moro, give him another 5 to 10yrs he will marry a yoruba girl. They are polygamous in nature and they prefer their own. I Wonder why you igbo girls don't learn. See how you want to ruin the efforts of your parents in sending you to school. What are your chances of going back to school after having the baby in the next 2yrs?? Plus igbo men don't marry an after one except for a divorcee or someone looking for a second wife. Morning , afternoon, night, una go dey chew prick like chewing stick, you don see wetin you dey find abi?? Amu adi atuzi umu aka kitaa egwu chaa chaa.
DeleteWicked and hrtless stellar I thought u would ask her to update u in future so to know if her parents finally disown her so to know how to help her but u can't cos u'r very stingy,anyways maybe u made that story up as usually.
DeleteI hate abortion but in ur case u hav to abort Becos u r still a student, no job, no business, boyfriend one chance, u still collect pocket money. Pls don't bring dat baby to dis world to come and suffer ooo
DeleteEyah! Stop crying dear! Being pregnant is a blessing from God, so be happy and rejoice. Congratulobia to you on your pregnancy! God will see you through and you'll have a safe delivery.
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Dat igbo girl, ALL your baby daddies r igbo? And u dare insult another tribe? U r less than scum!
DeleteAnon 10:32pm Stella na mother christmas?
DeleteCongra girl we're both xpectin babies!motherhood rocks bt am 3yrs olda dan u incase u dn't knw sha. Am so hapy 4 us n it's my birthday 2mrw. Pls wish me well evn if u hate me as I add anoda year 17th of oct. I dn't av d liver 2 send pics as I worwor no b small wt k legs bt sexy in d game.
ReplyDeleteAre you not the girl that Waka pass artist was treating anyhow? The one that's always lying? So you are pregnant? Can't remember that part of the gist. Hope it's not for that guy sha
DeleteM fucking mate...u no get shame. attention seeker. No one cares about u anymore after ur disappointing story..
DeleteHappy birthday in advance darling. God bless the little miracle growing in you
DeleteLol you are psychotic you know. So ur pregnant for that razz boy. Ok o
DeleteAbiginwa, I didn't read her story, pls I need update on m fucking mate. Na wa, dis kind tori wey dey pass me by.
DeleteJenny A u didn't miss much trust me. The story was so dry I wept. After all d hype. She was shagging one local naija artist mudina or mugabe can't remember n the guy treated her bad n took her money. 5k or something like that. She now said she is on a revenge mission. Big yawn. Trust BVs, we cussed her out.
DeleteShebi everytime xoxo mystery go dey preach am for this house sex is not food ,ngwa na that you have turn sex to food and you don belle ful ,better keep that child .your parents won't disown ,don't tell them anything either ,until belle show ,tell them you are having the baby q..e.d
ReplyDeleteThis is a tough one.
DeleteThinking, thinking ........ Brb
LOLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ U NASTY!
DeleteStella i really missed uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu yesterday. What in God's name were you thinking trying to move to wordpress? I bah to u ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! I greet una oooo.
In my own opinion, I strongly dont think you should keep the baby because you have to consider so many things. Pushing ur pregnancy all over campus, money to take care of the baby when he or she arrives, if your boyfriend is up to task, is he employed and ur education as well, dont forget you still have law school and consider your mum too. But if you av all sorted out, you can keep the baby. I wish you luck dear
DeleteWhen you were opening legs and collecting dick you didn't know that ihe na ato uto na egbu egbu...
ReplyDeleteWelcome to motherhood and no your parents will not disown you..instead of you to face your studies and you were busy chopping food mearnt for adults...
Your own don finished cos Igbo men don't marry minus 1..
Oriegwu!!..
Choi
Delete*chopping food meant 4adults* Loool...u sure kill me wv ur comments
DeleteThis is what happens when you follow "the Queen's Advice #Team Raw F**c**G.
DeleteIf he can't sweat for you, don't allow him sweat ontop of you.
Thank u for saying it as it is..
DeleteNa real Oriegwu
22 dat forgot herself all for d pleasures that last for a few moments.
Shut up ur dirty mouth! Who re u to speak for Igbo men? Instead of u to encourage her not to abort the baby, u re here makin insensitive comments that'll make her commit murder. My dear poster, d deed is done. Don't ever abort that baby and dnt tell ur parents anyth yet. Wen ur bump grows, they'll see it nd u can then tell them wat happened else they might force u to abort. Ur life has not ended. Wen u giv birth to that child, u wil be grateful to God that u didn't remove it. As for ur boyfriend, I bet u he wil com back nd possibly marry u wen he sees how strong u are. Just pray to God. U might b surprised as to how thns can turn around nd his parents wil end up acceptin u. Dnt go around wt inferiority complex and dnt tell ur friends anyth abt the situation. Wear a cheerful face and before u kno it, nine months wil be over. Wat matters now is the life u start living after givin birth. Close ur legs and believ me, u wil meet good men askin for ur hand in marriage. U re stil young ok.
DeleteAm from kogi state n a single mother too n am married to an Igbo man(a very wonderful one at that). So u are wrong to say that Igbo men don't marry an after 1.
DeleteNwanyi lokoja. U used jazz
DeleteDear poster, harken to Stella's advice please.
ReplyDeleteU r defined stuck between a rock and a hard place. That notwithstanding you need courage.
ReplyDelete1. DO NOT ABORT
2. Your parents wont disown you.. na mouth dem dey.. but prepare to receive lashes verbally.
3. Dat boy according to SDK na one chance o.
4. Most importantly continue your education oooooo.
Belive me its only gonna get difficult from here. But after 9 months wen dat child pops out u ll know u did gud. Theres no feeling like it trust me.
the Lord is ur strength
TOO MANY PPLE GOING TRU CRISIS IN THIER LIVES BUT NOT ME. WHN EVER I'M IN DISTRESS OF ANY KIND, I JES GO TO THE GARDEN, COVER MYSELF WITH SOME EARTH AND PRETEND TO BE A CARROT! @PRENGNANT POSTER, TRY IT AND YOU'D BE FINE.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm......most times ots baffles me why kids cant go to where they are NEEDED. Only six months and you guys were already indulged in sex and an unprotected one at that.Well smallie, the deed has already been done. Sit ur parent down and talk and them. I pray God touches their hearts because it will be a very difficult moment for them. But DONT abort that baby. Give it a chance to live. All the best
ReplyDeleteKids these days will be playing with dicks and toh-tohs like it's the new toy in town, when I was 22 my toys were my books.
ReplyDeleteOkay now you're pregnant, what do you want us to do?
Go and born and send us pictures of your baby so that BVs can start tapping. BVs wey like to tap, make una tap this one oh!
Nne sorry.
ReplyDeleteU don put leg for aboki shit.
Dust yaself and start buying things for ya unborn child.
You will survive.
Wetin yOu no fit chop why you go dey smell am! My sis thy Lord we direct you on what to do oh
ReplyDeleteWho told you ibo men don't marry minus one ??!!! They even marry minus four sef .
ReplyDeleteBut make una start dey follow guys with __________ oooo.
ReplyDeleteMy sister I dout if your boyfriend will be able to stand by you oh I don't think he is serous about your relationship after all. What had happend has happend and who know your parents might just stand up for you, wish you good luck and safe delivery please no matter what do not drop out of school.
ReplyDeleteplz i beg u under God.kip dat baby..u best support system ryt nw are ur parents.esp ur mum..dat guy na one chance o.so jst tel ur parents wen e strt to shw buh for nw strt makn som serios csh demands frm dem so dat u go gt ur own savings....God ll c u throug...........culled by JENNY
ReplyDeleteDon't knw y,but i exceptionally don't feel sorry 4any young girl dat gets pregnant out of wedlock...like seriously wot wer u finking,ts been barely 6months u started dating and if u ain't scared of pregnancy itself,wot bout oda sexually transmitted diseases...well being a doctor,i don't encourage abortion but den who are we kidding!!! if ur bf doesn't end up marrying u *which is likely* truth b told it would b difficult in ds part of our world 2find a man who would b ready 2marry a single mum or hitherto father some1elses child...many people on here will tell u 2keep d baby but den u alone know wots best 4u...And yes abortion is a sin,so is evryoda,no matter how petty!!!...if d pregnancy is barely a wk or 2,gf I'd advice u abort n save urself 4rm regret in d nearest future...ps...nxtym dnt b stupid,use a condom,habaa is dt so difficult...Na waa o ;if u cnt use a condom den makesure u take an emergency contraceptives wen done
ReplyDeleteU took it out of my mouth pls if the pregnacy is less than a month pls do the needful and next use a condom please no matter the pressure from any man don't compromise your standard pls. HIV is real and spreading like wild fire biko zip up
DeleteAbeg don't o. Those of us that have done it are stil living in fear. Coz we don't know what d future holds and na marriage dey knock for door so. I'm scared as hell. Dunno if it's d nollywood tins dat is affecting my thinking or dats how it is true true. Born ur baby peacefully. Nothing go happen
ReplyDeleteMost times i cnt help but feel for women , "shebi d omonile yoruba "owo mida" of d supposed impregnator has unceremoniously gone AWOL leaving this young "Ada Igbo "...in dis pitiable Ά̲̣̥πϑ bastardized state ?
ReplyDelete..ladies too , with small rhymes Ά̲̣̥πϑ small shawarma ..most of them become so volatile Ά̲̣̥πϑ vulnerable to Men's acrimonious deciet...
#Ada mmadu , NNE dibe , were ya Ka ur cross ..Buru ya Ka- jesu siri Buru obe nke ya ,
Uwa di difficult
Igbo kwenu!!! Anna mehnnn don't I just love ur rhymes....
DeleteConfirm nwa af'igbo
As ur mate in sch wat dey did in such situation, na stella giv u de belle? Abi wen u b dey fire u tell stella! Hang ur leg 4 fan
ReplyDeleteAll dis small gals cn follow prick like sey dem de gv trophy.....nw wey e don land u fr 9months leave,wetin u want mak we do?shey d jamin swt?still use dat swt eye tell ur parents den wen dem dsown u......tell us so we go send baby finz..... Rubbish! Bt na God go punish dat boi cos em kw finish still fuck d babe wifout....al dis osho free small boiz can land pesin fr wahala
Delete~@iamjbankz SA to President Jonathan 2015~
'Recently,he started talking about his parents objecting...' Haven't u been Igbo the whole 6months abi u be do change of tribe??lol Dude never had any intentions of marrying you dear,na 'chop and run' type. Too bad anyway,the deed is done already...DO NOT ABORT as Stella has said o,don't expect him to be supportive also,let your parents be aware,of course they would be mad,let's hope they don't stay angry for too long.All the best!
ReplyDeleteHummmm I don't think I can count d things I ve learnt from madam stellina blog.....is like some people jst come in here read and that's all....wat do u expect us to advise u on now? U knew right from d beginning dat d relationship ain't gonna work then u still go ahead and sex without condoms.... chai see d family wey u wan bring in dat innocent soul...family dat is filled with racist. ..follow ur heart!
ReplyDeleteYou met your sin partner six months ago and allowed him to put u in a family way. It has happened,carry your cross.
ReplyDelete#teamsingleladies*
ReplyDeletesex is not food
ReplyDeletesex is not food
sex is not food
sex is not food
sex is not food
una no go hear word.
poster your parents won't disown
you. mark my words. even if your
dad brings down the roof, ur
momma is gonna calm him down
eventually. No mother will turn
her back on her own child and
grandchild. mistake or not.
Your mum is only going to be
angry and disappointed in you cos
it would
look like she didn't raise you
well, but e don happen be say e
don happen. eventually the
rejected child will become the
corner child. DO NOT ABORT.
after this make sure you memorize
the song.
sex is not food
sex is not food
furky furky is not good.
fuck with caution
Keep the baby, no body knows tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteGoing through the comments and I felt for these lady,kai u guys fit make person commit suicide with your comment! When ever you don't have any reasonable advice pls just move to the next post,we all make mistakes and none is perfect! Just hold on to God and he will see you through. Please don't let some crazy comments here get at you!
DeleteI wonder how people who don't want kids keep getting pregnant...? Even contemplating abortion! Lord please shower this pregnancy blessing on me, let me rejoice like my fellow married women, amen!
ReplyDeleteU will IJN
DeleteBrace up and tell your parents.
ReplyDeleteThat's the best option you have.
They won't kill you.
Yes they will be mad,embarrassed, disgusted etc but they will come around sometime.
Whatever they dish out to you,take it in good faith because na you take your hand do yourself.
No parent will hug you or congratulate you for this.
SMH
Young girls will never hear.
See where 5 minutes of ikwa iko has landed you.
I'm not here to judge you anyways.
I just hope someone learns from this.
It's going to be tough, very tough, but you will survive at the end.
Wishing you safe delivery when you are due.
All the best.
When will some girls listen to the good advices dished out on this blog regularly? Stella talks about this regularly. I tire o! Poster open up to ur parents. They will not kill u.
ReplyDeleteGOD give us grace not to run faster than our shadow.
Delete1 baby out of wedlock na mistake ,2 na gross foolishness
3 is apology. Be wise don't abort, find a strong person your father respects go together to your parents. Put your head down, you MUST finish school! Reset your standards forget the lies of this world if you don't have sex till you marry you are normal and it's perfectly OK!
Don't forget you are not alone, GOD is there when nobody is there with you. Draw close to HIM and HE will draw close to you. Call upon HIM ask for forgiveness , move on with your life. Forgive yourself and move on.
WHAT DOES NOT KILL YOU MAKES YOU STRONGER. For support mail maryjaneoriakwu@gmail.com
Tell her the truth guys..she is only ruining her life n future by keeping that baby.u will regret it babe! None of these advisers r in ur shoes so dey will talk.u made a mistake but its not 2late to correct it biko...he wont even tell his parents? r u kidding me!
ReplyDeleteYou FCK the FCK, pls pay d price. I'm sorry this happen but u can't keep ur parents out ta this.
ReplyDelete@poster,hope u r not my classmate cos a friend tld me very soon part4 student go dey carry belle up nd down cos its d norm.loooool....pls hook me up if u wwnt to sew maternity dress
ReplyDeleteWell that is what happens when we have sex without protection.. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteA child is a gift frim God..talk to ur mum..she is in a beta position to understand hw you feel...dnt abort dat child plz....you neva know wot he or she will become 2moro...nd he or she might be ur only child..you neva can tell wot d future holds for you.....
ReplyDeleteFace ur bookkkkk
ReplyDeleteMy dear there is nothing to be afraid about
ReplyDeleteYou just need to make a choice
Because its your decision to keep the baby or not,regardless of what anybody thinks, and regardless of if it's a sin or not,because we all sin and make mistakes.
So back to the question
Do u want to keep the baby or not?
If you want to keep the baby....
Brace yourself
It's not the end of the world,there is always a way as long as that's what you want,everything will work out,a child is always a blessing
If you don't want to keep it
Tell your boyfriends about your fears and why you don't want the baby
Go to a very good hospital for the evacuation, trust me it might seem like a big deal but it's not.
Think about what's best for you and for the baby
You can't miss what u never had, if u remove the child it would just be a memory,a painful one but a memory still, and you can move on with your life and learn from your mistakes
So make your choice.
Yoruba guys and skin to skin
ReplyDeleteNa so 1 yoruba corper I served with last year will be f***ing any gurl dat opens leg 4 him, without any form of protection.
This is what you get when u let a man get into ur punnani in d name of love
dear poster please don't abort that baby cos the wrath of your parents is nothing compared to that of God.keep the baby and he will see you through for doing the right thing.ask him for mercy.
ReplyDeleteI know u are so scared right now but stella said the plain truth, that guy aint gonna marry u, asking u to keep it is no biggie cos yorubas love children and I also see ur side as per ur paarents, igbo parents can be very unreasonable in such situation(before anyone call me names, abum onye igbo o) but u are stuck btw the option of either going to ur parents or aborting the child and aborting the child is a strict NO. It is a sin against God, against yourself, against ur helpless unborn child and u can't afford to err. Your parents won't throw u away, u will survive either way, atworst u lose a year in school but it'll be worth it. Children are blessings from God, and will be the source of ur hapiness tomorrow. Many single mothers were once in ur current shoes but none of them regrets keeping their babies, trust me. It won't be easy, truthfully but it can be done. 2yrs from now, u won't remember this mess, it will turn to a huge source of hapiness.
ReplyDeleteP.S....that guy does not love u one bit, forget the family tribal issue nonsense, he wouldn't even try. COWARD
Did it take that clown 6months to find out u are an igbo? Or did his family suddenly dislike igbos? He dated u for 6months and suddenly it dawned on him that u are igbo and his family will not approve. That guy is serious ONE CHANCE like Stella said.
ReplyDelete@ Poster, its not the end of the world. Do as Stellahipsy rightly advised.
ReplyDeleteSince I flashed my phone, I find it so difficult to comment thru google. Couldn't also comment with Opera Mini. Having a problem to publish comment with my blog id.
Someone shd help ooo. *crying*
MANNA BEE.
My dear keep the baby.your parents will not disown u.its well with you
ReplyDeleteSorry BV, every child is a blessing. Kip d pregnancy no matter what. Meanwhile, my first love, d guy I was going crazy for in those days is my neighbour, we were on and off from 2003-2007 till he finally went abroad and I had my ppeace. I have stupidly told my hubby abt him didn't know our parts will ever cross talkless of he being my next door neighbour. He is newly wedded and I have a kid. How will I cope? BV I hope I don't fuck him some day cos seeing him everyday reminds me of those days. To make things worse, all his friends from way back are still his friends so they come around. What do I do? Infact let me describe what I mean by next door neighbour( we live in a block of 4 flats, we occupy d top flats, so we share same gate, our parts must cross. A.L.pp
ReplyDelete*singing* when trouble sleep, yanga go wake am. Wetin he dey find? Palava e dey find, Palava e go get ooooo. *singing* e be like say u want your home to be history
DeleteOloshi be allowing the devil to build mansions in your heart eh! Then bring your sob: had-i-known stories to sdk blog u hear!
Deleteallow yourself be used unto disgrace and disrepute.
Meanwhile I'll just tie my legs and pretend I'm a mermaid. Hehehehehehehe
First off...I put it to you that you are already having naughty thoughts about him...
DeleteSecondly, have you told your DH that this your new neighbor is that your first love you told him about?
If you have, he should understand that it's time to move house...shikena...
when me am praying for a child. oh lord pls
ReplyDeleteSorry dear, the guy is just looking for excuse not to marry you by saying His family has issue with igbos. My dear , ask God for forgiveness.
ReplyDeletePoster are you new on this blog?We have been preaching abstinence here..you people are so lucky you have strangers that dish out advice for free online unlike those days without blogs like Stella's
ReplyDeleteA responsible man will know not to take advantage of a young girl like you since he knows his folks dislikes your tribe...He should have known better! If this man truly loves you,marriage will not be a bad idea but if both of you were just having fun,or he seems detached,please beware! Some men are deadly! Be careful! He might want to drug your food or drink to get rid of that baby thereby putting your life at risk..i don't know why I do not trust this man! How old is he poster? Tell your parents this night..they will guide you..please do not abort the baby,only cowards get rid of their babies to save face around their friends and families...only cowards get rid of their babies because they are afraid of the future! You can do it honey! You do not need to drop out of school.... If this man's feelings are genuine,you can settle down with him..but if he feels reluctant .my dear,do not beg this dude or use emotional blackmail on him..marriage is tough enough,you don't need to contend with hateful inlaws and a man that feels forced to end up with you...
God be with you!
When I have nothing to say, then you know say water don pass garri...
ReplyDeleteOh Poster I forgot to add that our mothers lied to us about morning sickness! It should be called; MorningAfternooneveningAnytime sickness! Lol
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#OkBye
Congrats! I'm genuinely happy for you.. The deed has already been done so don't judge yourself..You are not too young to be a mother. The best thing for you to do is to go to your parents with your boyfriend and talk to them.. They will be angry but they won't kill you.. You can still continue with your education if you are determined..
ReplyDeleteI've been married for over a year and I've been TTC.. I'm hopeful and I know God will answer my prayers but it's not easy waiting.. Anytime my period comes, I shed tears..
People are already asking questions and indirectly mocking us. The in laws are not helping matters either but God pass them.. I could do anything for a positive pregnancy test now so don't you dare abort that pregnancy.. You don't know what people are going through so don't be selfish.. All the best..
Just 1 year? You better relax. 1 year !
DeleteWhen u were hanging ur legs at d burglary proof collecting prick, did u invite us n am so shocked this happened this year after listening to good advices here. Do not remove dt child, tell ur parent the truth n face ur shame afterall is just for a while.
ReplyDeleteSex is food, body no be firewood, man must quash, sex is the sweetesttn in the whole world blablabla CGFOH
Ehe another exciting news, am so happy my gf just told me she is pregnant after two yrs of trying, God v answered our prayers, overjoy is an understatement.
My ijebu mom go say "we ready wom redi" meaning you are not ready for responsibilities but you were having sex. The thing dey sweet you then when you were doing it? Well, summon courage and tell your parents. Some people are looking for kids and don't have. Goodluck.
ReplyDelete'Summon courage' kwa? How will she summon courage? Na incantation?
DeleteBwahahahaha.....
Ok..I'm sorry...
The proper thing is 'sum up courage'
Sum up ke. Is courage two numbers? Don't correct what is not wrong biko.
DeleteAs an only child, trust me, your parents won't disown you. They will bring up the child for you so you can finish your education. But first things first, you need to tell them. Go on your knees and beg for forgiveness from them and from God.
ReplyDeleteAll the best.
She didn't say she's an only child, it's d guy dat impregnated her dat s an only child!
DeleteAll of u are hypocrites, including stella. It is very wrong to talk about how she is stupid or bad for having sex n getting pregnant. It happens to the wisest of people. So u all should shut up. It's so unfair. My dear, my advice for you is to sit down and think about your life. Weight your options. And don't apologize to anyone for your mistakes. I don't advice you to abort but it's your choice coz you wear the shoe and you know where it hurts. I understand you because I have been through what ur going through. If you need someone to talk to, u can mail me on leeann4vr@yahoo.com.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, please abort that pregnancy and move on with your life.
ReplyDeleteExactly o, im not judging you, cos iv been in your shoes. Go to a reputable hospital, get an mva done, take your antibiotics religiously , stay off sex for at least 6 months so you can heal properly and you will be just fine. Cos the truth is that a child outside wedlock will make your life alot more complicated and life is hard enough as it is. Also ask God for forgiveness and dump your bf cos if you remain with him you will have more abortions. So just face your studies and try not to make the same mistake. Iv been in your shoes before with a cowardly boyfriend as well, only I didn't learn from my mistakes and of course, had more abortions. Now I thank God I know better. Just move on with your life and strive for excellence after the abortion. Take care
DeleteOh well
ReplyDeleteYou have to bear the consequences of having unprotected sex
Keep collecting pricks while your mates are busy collecting their degrees.
That boy wont marry you#fact
U better go and remove that baby. You know say u be ovbi Igbo! They wii nor marry you o. E go hard u. You can have the baby and give him up for adoption. Otherwise, go climb table.
ReplyDeleteThis your blog name really cracked me up.brought back memories.na there buses dey reach wen flood don close tomline.lol.from there na to pass anigboro street link all the corners till you reach house.hahaha.
DeleteKeep the baby and I can assure u ur parents heart will soften even IF they disown u now
ReplyDeleteHow could u not use protective?
Worse u cul have ended up with deadly diseases,
Well the deed is done
Nurse ur pregancy and prepare for single motherhood
Not gonna be easy at all
I must warn
Wish u safe delivery
Hello dear....I am pro choice...if you are not ready to take care of a baby, pls abort it. No one should go all hypocritical on me. Yes God hates abortion and he also hates fornication, lying, cheating, lesbianism etc...let's leave it to God to do the judging. I think it's rather unfair to bring a child into the world when you are not ready or mentally prepared. Think about what you really want and let no one mislead lead you. It's your choice
ReplyDeleteDon't I just love your comment?
DeleteThe key phrase here, leave it to "God to do the judging"
I don't get why you all are quick to judge someone and quote verses then conveniently leave out the part where the Bible says judge not.
How exactly does calling her names n stuff solve her dilemma?
My dear @poster, please forgive those who have trespassed against you.
Think about a decision to take.
On one hand, if you abort the life in your womb... it's a cross you'll have to bear all your life. D trauma really never leaves. A d&c is a really invasive procedure and it leaves u with a sour taste on your tongue for ur eternity.
On the other hand, u decide to keep the child and you'll go thru 9 months of re-occurring bouts of regret and pain. U will also be stigmatised, maybe even by your parents too.
After 9 months, u'll still have a life time to cater to d needs of this child
Either way, the decision is a really tough 1. So, weigh ur chances n act accordingly.
Wish you luck in ur choice. *e hugs*
Signed
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DeleteThank God for technology, jo doctor will perform a dc and c on you. Its alot safer and might not even be invasive at all.
DeleteNne na real one chance u enter. Soon u will give birth to 'my mama say I be Igbo'. Its a pity. May God help u cos 9 months no be 1 day.
ReplyDeleteNa wa for you! @ my mama say I be Igbo. Already discriminating on the child before it arrives. May God have mercy on you
DeleteI was in a similar situation to you - used to have casual sex with a girl (no strings attached and we don't agreed beforehand).
ReplyDeleteAnyway first time we had sex she got pregnant and we aborted. We carried on with casual sex after that using protection but she fell pregnant again and aborted.
I thought then that she was the wrong person for me and I didn't want a child with someone I wouldn't marry. Anyway years later I now really regret my actions - I was exceptionally selfish and now have a lot of respect for women/ couples who keep their babies.
A lot of women/ men look fine on the outside but have shed innocent blood such as myself. Whereas the more righteous women who do not abort are looked down on in society.
This is very wrong... My sister please do not abort, keep the baby/ babies. The shame or stigma you may face now doesn't compare with the guilt you would carry later in life at what you have done.
Am very ashamed of myself now and though people on the outside look at me as being all together/ progressive etc I know deep down my wrong.
God would see you through and the child would appreciate you in the future. Please put the child first before yourself and take the necessary walk even if your friend walks away.
Please tell your parents or someone close and if they wouldn't support you then please get in touch through Stella. I'll do the little I can to support you so you don't repeat my mistake.
It's well with you!!!
First he told u his family has issues with igbos n u stayed. Secondly u didn't know when u re safe to have sex and u did it without using a condom. Girl u called for it,so u have it.
ReplyDeleteHmmm.... But bros knew his family had issues with your tribe and went ahead to date you to the point of direct entry? If you don't see a future with him why did you even go ahead? Una can baffle person sometimes sha! Whatever you do, DON'T ABORT that child. Your parents may disown you, but they won't kill you..... Life still holds a lot of goodies for you.
ReplyDeleteAbort that child and face God's wrath!
ReplyDeleteU were already collecting prick from a Guy u met 6 months ago?!!
A Guy that hinted to u dat his folks wont approve him marrying an Igbo....Dat is plainly telling u he wont marry u
Buh stil desperado....u cunningly took in expecting him to be blackmailed into marrying u cos of d baby
Babe,u dey brainless aswear!
Hahahha,u wanted to play him buh got played!
Hehehehehhehe
U put d S in stupid.
DeleteLmao @anon 8:41. I concur. All these self righteous married women I wish we could play ur tapes b4 marriage. Pray ur children don't find themselves in these sort of predicaments.
DeleteI thought this General 's wife is an old woman o. What kinda immature comment is this biko?!
DeleteSo with all d play safe campaign Stella have been dishing out jokingly and seriously u still open leg without making him wear raincoat', to crown it u still didn't take contraceptives,u should ve at least taken white quinine!haba lawyer?
ReplyDeleteWell Sh#t has happened,just pray to God to forgive u ur sins,.!#lipSealed #
Okbye
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ReplyDeleteMy dear @22 you are not to young to be a mother so brace up and stop whining. When you were enjoying the kabuki dance,we didn't hear of it so enjoy the outcome as well. Stella keep preaching about safe sex and warning people to use bolonbolo even use banana as example to put the bolonbolo yet you no listen wetin you want make we do now? Let your parents kill you if they will you were sent to school to study and be useful not to get knocked up by an effing tribalistic he goat.
*Stella kept preaching* not keep
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ReplyDeleteMy dear @22 you are not to young to be a mother so brace up and stop whining. When you were enjoying the kabuki dance,we didn't hear of it so enjoy the outcome as well. Stella keep preaching about safe sex and warning people to use bolonbolo even use banana as example to put the bolonbolo yet you no listen wetin you want make we do now? Let your parents kill you if they will you were sent to school to study and be useful not to get knocked up by an effing tribalistic he goat.
Chai!!!!! This reminds me of me five years ago! Only that then I was 16.Anyways my dear friend do not abort that child!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please don't! I did it and till date I have not recovered, biko don't remove that baby.Go with an elder and one that your parents respect so much to break the news to them.Tell your boyfriend that whether he marries you or not, he is a dad now and he has to face his responsibilities as one.If you're worried about being a single mother and not marrying again, forget that side.You will still get your life on track after this, you hear.DONT ABORT BIKO!!!!
ReplyDeleteHello Darling (bitchplis), where are you, I'm missing you like crazy, muahhhh AKA kisses.
At 21,u dey flirt follow faceless bitchplis,hmmm,pele o
DeleteU don hit my car oyinbo rekpete!
ReplyDeleteAs u don bash my car gbese rekpete!
God bless Tony T abeg.
If nor b 4 am i 4 nor gt wetin 2 tlk sef.
Dear poster,ur own go b,
u don get bele sisi rekpete
as ur bele don set owo rekpete!
Feels good to be back
So both of you no no before Una dey shag?...sort urself out...
ReplyDelete!!omu Iya dun!!
Darling the deed has been done, Please do not abort that child or you will regret it for the rest of your life. I know a few people that it is hunting at the moment. Even if your parents disown you, God will not and he will always make a way. Concentrate on your studies and have the baby. Children come with blessings. it wont be an easy ride so Hold unto God it will get easier
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400 level @ 22!!! The only child????!!!!!
ReplyDeleteHonestly I really don't feel for you but your parents!!!
Abortion shouldn't be an option. Just make sure you go back to school after delivery. No amount of mistake can stop you from becoming that which God wants you to be.
GOD BLESS NIGERIA.
Congrats poster, like flavor said_ in 9 months time we'd com visiting hopefully t greet d ejimas *wink* but wait wen will we ladies eva wisen up, sex no b foodddd oooooo. if u can't fork wtout protection, kindly zip up. A man u r nt married to isn't worth d gbenshing wtout condom. #teamnosexb4marriage.
ReplyDeleteStella you are so on point. Poster all will be well in the end. Pls don't harm the baby.
ReplyDeleteBlessings comes from God. Every child is a blessing, u r not young to be blessed, r u? So, don't abort that blessing/ blessings, u might never see it again. God works in mysterious ways. Ist time to comment tho.
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Is not that condom is too expensive..... Hbd in advance though
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People are just hypocrites! Dear, @ 22, ure no longer a kid! By now, u shud set ur priorities straight and how u want ur life to be! In as much as children are blessings from God, u don't want to bring an innocent child to suffer.. bfor u decide on whether to tell ur parents or not, sit down and and ask urself what exactly u want and how u wud get them.. U av two options- keep ur baby or abort.. are u mentally ready to be a mom? Or is it safe for an abortion? Ure not a kid anymore dear! 22 is a long ass years on earth.. Make ur own decisions or see a counselor in ur school! Goodluck
ReplyDeleteAYAKATA! Girls never learn ooo. Just keep opening ur legs oo forgeting that the guy has nothing to u... He can't get PREGNANT.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, ok you made a mistake, the baby coming is innocent. Pls pls dont abort this baby. The baby will bring you joy. Yoyr parents will be mad naturally. Pray that they will show you mercy & compassion when you break the news. A friend who got pregnant like you is getting married this December. So God will bring you a man who will love you. God bless.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, the deed has already been done so the way forward is the next step.
ReplyDeleteI have been in your shoes and trust me it wasn't easy but I kept the baby after my then boyfriend demanded I terminate it and my father practically disowned me.
Today my son is 12 years old and my parents' favourite grandchild.
Do NOT worsen the situation by terminating your pregnancy, Stella send me her number let me speak with her.
As for your boyfriend, he needs to get his acts together and make up his mind to also inform his own parents.
Hopefully by the time we get to speak, you will feel a bit better
My dear, being at peace with man is temporary, being at peace with God is eternal, do not do what will bother your conscience for life!
Trust me when I say it is not the end of the world, been there so I speak from experience!
My dear, the deed has already been done so the way forward is the next step.
ReplyDeleteI have been in your shoes and trust me it wasn't easy but I kept the baby after my then boyfriend demanded I terminate it and my father practically disowned me.
Today my son is 12 years old and my parents' favourite grandchild.
Do NOT worsen the situation by terminating your pregnancy, Stella send me her number let me speak with her.
As for your boyfriend, he needs to get his acts together and make up his mind to also inform his own parents.
Hopefully by the time we get to speak, you will feel a bit better
My dear, being at peace with man is temporary, being at peace with God is eternal, do not do what will bother your conscience for life!
Trust me when I say it is not the end of the world, been there so I speak from experience!
I beg no mind all those condemning you here like they didn't shine their kongo before getting married. The important thing is that you have learnt your lesson. Weigh ur options. I have had an abortion and am now married with kids. Think about what is best for you - school, money, support and all. I would advise you to tell your mum (mothers are usually more reasonable). Whatever decision you make, this is not the time for self pity, but be strong and pray. God is a merciful father. Jesus died for sinners like me n you. Finish your education and become a very important person. I beg don't believe the lie that no one will marry u with a child (children are blessings from God) and pls don't settle for less. It is well!
ReplyDeletei can assure u it wont be easy but the best u can do is to keep it. Please dont abort it may be the only one u will ever have.
ReplyDeleteD best tin is to tell ur parent!!den let dem take it 4rm there u don't have to stop skool, it's university u can still be going 4 ur classes 4get what people will say bcos they must talk!!! Infact let d boys parent know that you are expecting their grandchild!! Am talking 4rm experience bcos it happened to me an today am a graduate an my baby is 4yrs!! I was even taking her to my classes my friends would also help expecially during my xam we both graduated an by God's grace going to camp dis nov.kip ur baby!open up to ur parent an take it 4rm there,its not going to b easy at all oh!but u need to b strong! An draw close to God more!!good luck an enjoy D feeling of baby growing inside you
ReplyDeleteHmmm, I can imagine how scared u are rite now. Don't listen to those bashing u, most of them do worse and their only way to feel good is to climb u when u fall. Anyway back to ur matter, girlfriend u av to be strong now. Do not terminate the pregnancy. I know it's easy to say but I am talking from experience. I was also pregnant at 22 and had an abortion now I am 33 and just praying to get pregnant. Besides, ur parents won't disown u cos u are an only child and u are in ur final year in skol.I know it won't be easy but by His Grace u will survive this phase. And as for the baby daddy, I don't know wot u should do about him but God will guide u.Believe me. He loves u and will always do. Take care love, let me go anonymous on this.
ReplyDeleteEvery disappointmet is a blessing. Also you never can tell what the future holds for you or your unborn child. However there is a reason for every experience we go through, so my advice to you is to reflect on what lesson(s) this has taught you, learn from it and then move on with your life. Having a child is not a crime,you are an adult, we all make mistakes and may still make more mistakes at some point in our lives. The only reasonable advice I will give you, is not to despair about your present predicament, talk to yur parents, beg for their forgiveness (they will be angry and disappointed but they will not disown you). Learn from your mistakes, ensure it doesn't happen again (always use protection if you must indulge . . .), start loving your unborn child, strive to complete your studies no matter what,have and nuture your child and if the guy really loves you he will be back and do the right thing by you, but if he does not move on with your life, you are still very young and always remember the sky is your limit. Congratulations in advance my dear. Some of us wish we were wiser in the past . . .
ReplyDeleteRemove the pregnancy and move on with your life. All these hypocrites won't be there during your shattered life if you don't.
ReplyDeleteStella, I'm not too happy about your response. This is a distressed person that tried to reach our and a comforting words to console her. What happened to her could happen to any lady. Infact I've been there and I know how it feels when it seems the sky is about to fall.
ReplyDeleteMy advice is that you keep the pregnancy irrespective of whether the guy wants to marry you or not. Having a child out of wedlock or when you are not ready is not the end of the world. I had my child when I was in sec school and today I'm a chartered accountants working with one of the big four accounting firms
Hmmmm igbo men and their rules! When he was sleeping with you he didn't know his parents would object right?! Wise up!! It's an excuse for him to leave!!
ReplyDeleteRead my blog guys. Just wrote something about women that think they can change men who aren't willing to commit
http://brebrechats.blogspot.co.uk
Okpolo eyes no be open eyes. Where did u see that the guy is ibo?
DeleteI would advise you to abort the pregnancy as soon as possible and move on with your life.(Break up wit ur bf as well cos its obvious he doesn't luv u tat much) Truth is, majority of BV's would condemn you & tell you to keep d pregnancy but the final choice is yours. Hav being in ur shoes & we aborted the pregnancy..
ReplyDeleteI don't regret the decision cos her education would hav being badly affected if we didn't. She's married now & expecting soon..
Dino
I would advise you to abort the pregnancy as soon as possible b4 it kips growing. Truth is, majority of BV's would condemn you & tell you to keep d pregnancy but the final choice is yours. Hav being in ur shoes & we aborted the pregnancy..
ReplyDeleteI don't regret the decision cos her education would hav being badly affected if we didn't. She's married now & expecting soon..
Dino
Don't touch the dial...
ReplyDeleteIt's a big lesson sweetheart but not the end of the world. This baby I can assure you will bring you joy. Making children is not what marriage is all about or else the rate of divorce will not be voluminous. Keep your child and focus positively on your future. It's your life and no one lives it for you. All the best.
ReplyDeletewhen you dey blow the guy you didn't invite us to come and have a taste of your shawarma. why are you disturbing our peace?
ReplyDeletecommon sense you nor get. as you dey blow you forgot to take precaution instead you allowed him to blow and also come inside you. yeye dey smell.
weda you like you keep the baby or abort am thats your cup of tea and a product of your personal enjoyment.
that's all
when you dey blow the guy you didn't invite us to come and have a taste of your shawarma. why are you disturbing our peace?
ReplyDeletecommon sense you nor get. as you dey blow you forgot to take precaution instead you allowed him to blow and also come inside you. yeye dey smell.
weda you like you keep the baby or abort am thats your cup of tea and a product of your personal enjoyment.
that's all
No point being on your case for having unprotected sex.
ReplyDeleteKEEP THE BABY!! It is NOT the end of the world! A fam friend had twins at 14! Today she is a successful lawyer! Married too!
Another had a baby at 16! She later married, has a PhD, and other kids with her husband. That baby is now grown and even has a masters degree!
Yes your parents will be sad and disappointed but they will get over it. I am not sure what your relationship is with them. I am Igbo and if that had happened, my parents would have bent over backwards to help me.
It is ok if the child's father walks away, that is NOT the worst thing. What is bad is making a mistake that will cost you life and your peace! If you have any human conscience you will never forget this act! I am also a doctor and I can tell you that you put your fertility at risk by agreeing to have an abortion!
Saying this as a mother of a child. One who lost a preg before my child, and saw what even at 8 wks, what a fetus looks like. Features were already forming even at 8 wks!! Please don't kill it!! Biko m na-ayo gi o! I nugo? Biko biko
@anon 12:59.she is marid abi?nt we r marid..una c life?grls shud gt smal sense..wot if God was nt on her side n she cudnt concieve..nw i guess u r marid to one tear rubber...men.una mata tire me.
ReplyDeleteDear pregnant poster,
ReplyDeleteLet me hug you first because you are in an emotional state.
Who am i to bash you?
Please my dear...keep the baby.
Babies bring blessings.
That baby will one day be the happiest person in your parents life.
Keep the baby
Even if your boyfriend walks away, you will marry another man.
Don't you ever have the mentality that you will not marry as a single mother.
What you believe is what will happen to you.
Right now, you have to renew your mind.
My relative married a woman with twins, now they have four more children...he is ibo.He has never been married before.
Another relative i know married a woman with a child and they adopted another child...he is ibo.
All are ibos and grew up in ibo land, never lived outside ibo land,they have never been married before.
Who says you must marry an ibo man?
Who says you must marry a Nigerian?
There are so many men that will marry you if marriage is the problem.
Keep your child,
Complete your education, strive and complete it.
You will be so blessed if you keep that baby.
God will send help to you.
Talk to Jesus
XOXO MYSTERY
It's so stupidly annoying and immature when people come here and insult posters for mistakes already made.......all the rubbish u idiots type u think they don't know? If u have no advice shut your guts....
ReplyDeletePoster don't abort the baby....tell your parents and move on, if the guy sticks with you fine if he doesn't that's his loss......won't be easy but time always heals......u don't know if this is the only child you are destined to have, what if u try to abort and something goes wrong or u never have another? Ain't easy I know but don't let anyone look down on you or make u feel cheap.....a lot of girls sleep around but cos they don't get pregnant they feel like good girls......all the best
So called generals wife you are a bloody immature fool.....a true generals wife who has class won't vomit the rubbish you just said......classless idiot......local fool.....
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