Too many nagging housewives these days crying foul when they are the ones responsible for their marital woes?
what you are about to read is thought provoking and ya'all should have a selah moment on this before you respond or dare to cuss out.
Hi Stella,
I'm a regular reader of your blog though I rarely comment. I've seen that young wives regard your blog as their bibles so biko help me advice them. I can't understand why it's so difficult for women to cook for their husbands these days.
The career women I can understand to some extent, but the house wives I don't get. I'm female and I have at least 3 male friends who have been married for less than 5 years, have jobs that are very demanding and at the end of the day, they get home to meet clean kitchens.
The wives don't even put in efforts to at least wake up early and fix breakfast for their men before they leave for work. These women just stay at home, take their husbands ATM cards to go shopping when they need and watch big brother. What kind of uselessness is that?
How can you be sleeping till 10am as a married woman? When the guy meets one girl that can feed his stomach and starts following her, they will come here and start saying they have jazzed their husbands. How won't they jazz him when you can't do the basic things you should do as a woman.
Please women, forget E and the reality series that you have watched that have confused you and remember how your mothers raised you. And if your mama didn't raise you right please you are an adult now, go and learn because I will stop feeling sorry for women who don't do what they are supposed to do and come here to cry fowl.
Feed your man, keep your homes and maids in check. Make him happy to come home so that if tomorrow he starts to fool around then it's on his head and his conscience. Leave makeup and fashion because once you marry the man sees past your beauty to the bad character you have and he will so leave you for a less attractive but homely and good woman.
Men don't have time to read and complain on blogs but I'm certain if they did, we would hear tons of stories like this. Women please change for the better.
Thanks Stella, do have a wonderful day and I really hope you publish this without my mail id of course. Lol.
*Hmm,this is deep.which married woman sleeps till 10am when she is not sick or in labour?lol
Anyways this memo is for the wise to read and understand.If however you disagree with her,please state your case!
Are you sleeping with someone else's husband who lied to you it's because his wife is not feeding him? How you take know say them nor dey feed their husbands? Na wa oh! A man that will cheat will cheat, if you like feed him until he looks like a stuffed turkey!
ReplyDeleteIt's even good to starve him, that way he won't have energy to 'bang' another woman.
A million likes. Though I'm not in support of wives that don't cook for their husbands but poster, why u con carry d matter for head like gala? A man that was hitherto satisfied with d way his home was would henceforth begin to find faults.
DeleteDear poster, face ur work!
U no read d part where she said "Feed your man, keep your homes and maids in check. Make him happy to come home so that if tomorrow he starts to fool around then it's on his head and his conscience"?....Smh
DeletePls ask her. How she take know? If not that they are her lovers. Some married men can lie so they can get btw your legs. 3 married friends who tell u their wives don't cook. Akuko. Do you know what they did to their wives 2 warrant this. Although this isn't enough reason. But come o! Who sleeps till 10am. Who go come prep children 4 school?
DeleteAnty jayem u cn like to fall hand with ur comment sometimes sha
Deletejayem,,,u ar soo right,she is a side chic
Deletemen will just give u guyz one stupid reason to feel special,hahaaaahaaaa
a man dat luv his home will correct his wife
we av sooo many reasons to cheat on our husbands,but we ar loyal
Jayem nwannem iji okwu, carry go jare.
Delete@poster, I see some biase angle from ur voice. Well, I don't know u n I don't know what ur intention for sending in ds mail really is!!! U might be telling d truth about having male friends that their wives are housewives n yet do not cook for their husbands. And this is happening to three of your male friends @d same time? U might be lying or saying d truth, I don't know. But all I know is that it's only a useless, stupid n an irresponsible woman that will be @home from morning till night with money @her disposal n won't cook for her husband that has been @work since morning!!!! What is her excuse? Even if she is pregnant! Her husbands meals should come first. Even a responsible career woman should know how to balance her time @home n @work, how much more a woman that doesn't work. I really find ds ur story hard to believe. I have friends as a married woman, both working n those that are full time housewives. I have never heard any of my friend's husband's complaining about food not being in d house, I have only heard of those who complain about their wives loosing touch with their looks, n not looking as fabulous as they use to look, but in terms of food, nay. Dear poster u sound pained about something, go fix it, that's my advice 4 u. And woman, who calls herself a wife n can't take care of her husband's stomach atleast, u re not yet ready for marriage. In d area about being @home watching TV, I prefer a housewife being @home watching TV than making unnecessary friends n joining all these yeye clubs married women join in town these days. If u re a house wife ration ur time n take care of ur husband n kids, simple as that. I can't expect my hubby leaving home @7am, coming back @7pm to an empty pot!!! For what? God forbid, when it is not as if he is a bachelor n I'm not sick n bedridden. @poster, I wonder where these ur friends met their wives? Are they sisters, brought up by d same mother, with d same orientation? I find it hard to believe, 3 of ur friends abi na colleague s married to 3 different women with d same character, happening all @once?Lmao.
DeleteAbeg this your comment no make am
Delete@Mz Zee, Jayem is not being stupid apart from the last paragraph of her write-up, I think she made sense!
DeleteI still doubt if any sane woman would act this way to her hubby on a good day!..
JayeEm,I like Ur thinking jare...
DeleteOverfeeding is actually their problem....very soon,a lot of them wont be able to see their blockus.
Going offline jare...
dis jayem can like b commentin rubbish,i just pity ur female frnds dat wil come 2 u 4 advice,u advice wit a mean mind,
DeleteJayem u ave a point there cos when my hubby is so stuffed with food he's so happy and will want to hang out and u know what they do in their hanging out. Mtchew!!!
DeleteEwu! Ewu! Ewu!
Delete@jayem, your comment is so funny. However I just want to say a woman should try her best to feed her husband, play her part to ensure the home is comfortable for her husband.
DeleteANGELRAY SAID
ReplyDeleteStella there's no case to state, most women are the cause of d wahala in their marriage, some even deny their hubby sex, some cuss me out that I support men who cheat but is not true, am just been Frank in my judgement.
You again?
DeleteEwu! Ewu! Ewu!
DeleteI totally agree with her.
ReplyDeleteNice write up.
DeleteWhoever this applies to should take correction. Negative influence may have caused some ladies to fall behind in their wifely duties.
Ladies, we should do all in our power to protect our homes and marriage.
Don't say a man that will cheat will cheat. Do what is right so you will be blameless before God.
Madam poster, u didn't state if u're married or not. Well ur advice is encouraging nd it will help a lot.
ReplyDeleteTell them o
ReplyDeleteSometimes we are the 'causer' of our problems.
ReplyDeleteWaiting to read comments.
Did someone say something....I could ve sworn I heard someone groan.
DeleteGood write-up. I had to also copy an important quote. Men don't enjoy complaining; we act. Also, it is not about food alone. Women these days lack respect. They do not respect their man/husband. They want to be equals or house-mate. Why should I put up with a disrespectful, ungrateful and disgruntled woman?
ReplyDelete"Men don't have time to read and complain on blogs but I'm certain if they did, we would hear tons of stories like this. Women please change for the better"
Eeyah!!
DeleteI guess U are one of those men that need their ego" massaged and stroked...d one that fully knows he is a dog but wants his tell him he is a lion...d one that cant get it up and wants his wife to praise his sexual prowess...d one that drops 200 for soup and expects his wife to perform magic.
Oga,Ur wife is already much for U,so take her complaints and every other thing in ur strides.
It is well with ur soul.
How can dey complain when they are busy looking for dirty holes to penetrate?
DeleteEzenwayi!!! God bless you.
DeleteI no som of lazy haus wives on dis blog..if permitted, I wil name names
ReplyDeletePermission granted...lol
DeleteIphie dearie
DeleteGeneral's wife
Genny baby
Sweet mother
Oil money
Viva ciara
Linda eze
Ezenwanyi
Do you need permission to do so..
DeleteAnon 3:15 Fear God o, do you know this women anywhere? The kind of bile in some of una belly though, I really wonder what your own lives are all about.
DeleteAnon3:15 u dey fear to put ur name, I can't wait for d replies, *microwaves popcorn & watches*
DeleteAbeg tell them o! Thank God its not coming from a man both a woman. I can't marry a woman that can't cook, Mbanu!
ReplyDeleteBut really wives must also be praised, they are really doing a great job at home, its not easy being a wife, tending the husband, kids and the home also, and still go to work to earn a living and support their husbands. Men can't do half the work they do. God bless and strengthen all the women
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Alloy, are you still holding on to that mindset of eating only fresh soups n stews?
DeleteBwahahahaha!!!!!
DeleteIt's only a poor man that needs tending cos a need that knows his onions doesn't need any of that.
My hubby needs me to be sexually ready,vibrant and confident and not to come back to smell onions and knorr chicken on me.
Great advice.
ReplyDeleteThanks poster.
My hubby can never complain about food because cooking is one of my hobbies.
I'm an excellent cook, I'm not boasting.
My dear hubby doesn't eat out since we married unless it's inevitable.
He likes inviting his friends over sometimes just for them to have a taste of my delicacies. I took after my mum in cooking.
You guys need to taste my food and confirm, hehehehe!
You talk too much, as if you are the only married woman in this blog. Bored housewife faking marital bliss.
DeleteBut kike you people like attacking married women on this blog. Na,wetin? Do u know them in real life? If they brag too much then let them be. Shuuuu! If its not Genny baby, its Generals wife or Ezewanyi. Not like I try to coo any of them but not to be insulting them when they talk about their marriages. Its unethical.
DeleteBuhahahaha !
DeleteBitter baby mama Kike!
I have noticed you.
Sorry, I understand it pains to be a side chic.
In your next life, make sure he "wifes" you before you born for him ok.
Even if it's 10th wife that reach you, it's better than being an ordinary baby mama.
Oya bring your plastic plate lemme dish fresh fish pepper soup for you.
Ntoor!!!
Shataway u! Nasty kike be reasoning like yansh! Who made u judge? Oya fake ur own na let's hear! Olori maalu!
DeleteMy dear Stella, thanks for posting this. My friend leaves home at 9am and on at least 3 occasions when I've asked I've been told the wife is sleeping. I'm a single girl and I wake up at 5.30am!! Truly how can a married woman sleep till 10am? And then these women push their husbands to get involved in loans and all sorts of stressful things. You want to go to America 3 times a year and you are not working o!! It's the Nigeria we live in that people can get 10million naira overnight, that's why ladies think money is easy to get and you have unrealistic demands. How can a man spend up to 5m to marry you and small cook you can't cook for the man. Tufiakwa
ReplyDeleteIt's the men who marry such women I blame. Every man should find a woman who would help him CUT his CLOTH according to his MATERIAL (not size-that old school).
DeleteAlso, some use money hook them babes, so how them babes' mouths no go elongate?
Are you married? she sleeps till 10.00am so what if she was up almost all through the night ? A woman should die because she is a wife, don't go and mind your damned business, be asking a married man if he has eaten or not.
DeleteFoolish men, instead of them to sit their wives down and register their displeasure on what she is doing wrong, they will go bad mouthing their wives on their equally foolish gfs lap.
Which housewife will want to go on vacation 3 times a year? liar! Don't go and face your issues.
Abosidawapo aka anon 2; 16...
DeleteD man might ve fucked d poor woman till day break,or might ve forced her to do midnight for financial breakthrough(yinmu)...anyway,other men that sponsor their wives trips all year round,do they have 3 heads????Ohh!so bcos ge spent a paltry 5m,I should turn myself to a cook?????anon ur mindset is faulty and I hope for ur sake u ain't fucking that man already.
If she pushes her husband to get loan na ur business? Na u go pay back d loan? If she wants to go to america 1million times e concern u? Stop allowing dat married man u are shagging to feed u with lies about his wife..Ur pity will not make him leave his wife and marry u..
DeleteGo and find ur own husband,get married first before talking shit.
Ezenwanyi, buhahahahaha, chai,you is cray babe!
DeleteEzenwanyi it seem to me that the post is about you because I can see the pain in you about lousy women and housewives like you. Your husband was not born with golden spoon so shut it pls with you talk about poor men. Take cue from the message madam know it all.
DeleteAnonymous 2:16pm, do you.know if she is pregnant or nursing a baby or had sex with him before leaving for work by 9am? Please don't crucify SAHM on the words of some men.
Delete@ poster ....are you married? If not keep your advise to yourself. A bad man is a bad man, no matter how good the woman is. I'm sure you are mistress
ReplyDeleteC how some of you reason? so because a bad man will always be a bad man, u shouldn't take care of d house and other things n play ur part abi?
DeleteAbeg, the poster has a point jare!
DeleteTnk u! U said it al o. Mallam na mallam evn if u writam 4rm baq! A cheat z a cheat evn if u pampa him lyk dia z no 2mao!
DeleteTnk u! U said it al o. Mallam na mallam evn if u writam 4rm baq! A cheat z a cheat evn if u pampa him lyk dia z no 2mao!
DeleteTell her. Mtchewww
DeleteDont mind her jare. ..
DeleteThey think it's easy..
And i am sure u r guilty of this.
DeleteShe s a mistress dts y she s giving u tips dt wl make ur randy dog of a husband run back to u. Instand of u to say thank God dt at least ur hub mistress has agreed to let go u r here asking silly question
She is a shameless mistress..I dont know her business pokenosing into her sugar daddies marital affairs...She wan take over..
DeleteLmao @ mallam na mallam. Nne its true. Spelling it backwards still gives the same thing. Thanks for my new proverb!!!
DeletePoster if ure not married pls keep ur advice to urself biko. Woman shall not kill herself.
DeleteDon't mind d husband snatcher of a poster. I am sure the married man she is dating is deceiving her that the wife doesn't cook for him just to gain her sympathy and warm his way into her bed. Poster,u better leave people's husbands alone. Na only u get 3 friends whose wives no dey cook for them. Take am easy dey lie o! Husband snatcher!
Deleteu can do beta dan dat..olodo..ure one of does dat make men call dere wives lazy abi...continue ohh.we will see where it will end..VAN DAM
ReplyDeleteShe has a point! Take it or leave it.
DeleteShe dey shag those men daz why she is ranting..Dey will eat her food and punani finish and still go back to their lovely wives.
DeleteHahahahahahaha
DeleteVan Dam and ChizonChizoba u two. O well
LMAO @ eat her food and go back to their lovely wives...Chai
hahahaha
This is soooTrue some house wives just sleep eat and watch movies ...........maid does everything at home sometimes they don't do the cooking well .forcing the man to eat outside,
ReplyDeleteAbeg Wendy, what happened to your commas?
DeleteHian!!!
DeleteU dont want outside people to sell market???
Let's allow d maid to do that which she is being paid for.
D man no get hand to cook his own food? Wives are not slaves joor.
DeleteIm not married but i get kinda angry when bf comes in and be like-babe,i dey hungry die,especially when im not in the cooking mood(i dont tell him sha o),i just ask what he wants.Cooking can be tiring when u are forced to do it jare but i must do it!
ReplyDeletePlease ma'am get the message. Yeah, it's that important.
DeleteGOD BLESS NIGERIA.
Babe,don't ever do it again.
DeleteNext time he comes in with his big head,point to d kitchen and tell him to make for two.
Cook ke??
This is d time to Mumufy him oo.....
Keep cooking for him...dey dia dey give him wife benefits...When he is ready for marriage he will go and marry dat chic wey no dey gree enter kitchen!
DeleteYou are still cooking for bf in 21st century? Honey I'm shocked!!!
DeleteSoon true
ReplyDeleteSoon true
ReplyDeleteStella,there is no marries woman that will sleep till 10am. Not when you have kids.. I am free Saturdays and Sundays and I don't wake up 10am. Your kids will even wake you up before 6. And you don't have a choice but to do the needful.. Then for those who are full time house wives,if they have kids won't they help they help their maids to prepare the kids for school? Even if they don't do anything,won't thru give instructions? I don't think a wife would let her husband go to work hungry? Or would they?
ReplyDeleteI don't know again jor. But I know women try their best to see that their men are well taken care of because no one wants the husband to have someone else doing that for them.
So poster,are you marries,side chick or what to come up with this post?
U said it al!
DeleteExactly, she is a side chick!
DeleteA colleague of mine was lamenting about his wife always tying wrappers round her chest in the house and he hated it, i asked him, have you told her? He said No, so you find it more convenient to come and discuss your issues with a stranger in the office when you haven't even talked to your wife? He was stuttering!
That you are a wife doesn't mean you will always get it right.Even the sit at home mums am sure go through a lot.
@ Poster let your colleague address his issues with his wife and stop looking for flimsy excuses to cheat.If he wants breakfast everyday, he should tell her,she can always make sandwiches, toasts etc.
People be making a mountain out of a molehill so for every wrong a man does the woman should consider rushing into another's man's arms? It is well.
Help prepare kids for school?????
DeleteY am I then paying top dollars to my servants???Bwahahahaha!!!!
No mind d sufferhead poster...what does she know???
Qutie marries,how u dey?
DeleteExactly! No married woman with kids wakes up by 10:am...Dont mimd d poster..D married men she is shagging are deceiving her with those stupid lines..They will end up using her as a cook and fuckmate..By d time they are done eating her watery punani and tasteless food,they will go back to their wives.
DeleteWow, see gbagaun @ cutie. Short of words mehn
DeleteI have 2 babies to take care of, plenty sleepless nights so hubby's breakfast is not sure as he gets that at work but no matter what, I always squeeze the time out to prepare a sizzling lunch. I cannot come and kee myself nau, odin easy? When the new baby is older, It will get better by GOD'S Grace as I do not have any help.
DeleteI agree with you Whirlwind.
DeleteThe letter S and D are close.. Its always a mistake.. And I never proof read because on most occasions,I am trying to comment and get back to what I am doing..
DeleteWould put in efforts from henceforth to proof read
Married..****
buahahahhahahaa JayEm.
ReplyDeleteposter on point. she hit the nail at the very head.
you are very correct.
this post calls many to order.
I agree to an extent, but its very few housewives that can wake very early to make breakfast...
ReplyDeleteMake breakfast for who????
DeleteA poor man I guess...u hate poor men,their rules and regulations are outta this world,always eating and complaining. ..Tufiakwa!!!
Una wey marry poormen dey try ooo......upon say dem eat d whole fool oo.....dem still no sabi fuck.
Ezemwanyi I'm assuming your posts are jokes abi?
DeleteHahahahhahaha
DeleteEzenwanyi Oooo....
LMAO @ una wey marry poor men dey try,upon say dem eat the whole food oo....dem stil no sabi "do"
Hahahahahahaha
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ReplyDeletethings wey my ear dey hear for this blog eh!
ReplyDelete"unpossible"
Which side are U on???
Deleteany married woman that disagrees with this writeup is a failed wife. yes I said so!
ReplyDeleteYou are so looking for troubleeeee!
DeleteTrue.
DeleteYou are not far from the truth. All them Telemundo wives will soon rise in defense. Some wake up by 12noon sef and na straight to Telemundo. 10am na small thing sef.
DeleteSee bloglord calling people failed wife o. How is that your husband? Yes the one that is fucking that your minder?
DeleteI support your view Bloglord, any married woman that do not take this message in good faith is a failed wife.
DeleteShe is right and i agree with her judgement, some women are the causer of their marrital woes. Sdk i read of a lady who has been denying her hubby sex for months now, simply bc he has been delaying the promise of starting up a business for her. Their marriage is just 2yrs now tell me if she wis not building her woe already?? The poster is ryt even thou its not all women.
ReplyDeleteShe is not causing anything jhor....
DeleteShe must be so good in bed that her husband even complained to U and she will get her wish.
These men need to be tamed biko.
Starve him of food,attention,sex till U get him to tow d line.
Wetin sef!!!
I remember when my kids were 3 and 1year old, my partner neglected me sexually and with time I became used to it. Thanks to masturbation and good imagination. Now my shape has come back to how I used to be in my school days, perfect hour glass. Have got 13inches different my waist and hips now he begs me for sex but I don't admire him again.Sometimes I see his chats with other girls in Facebook but I don't feel jealous that time has gone. I give him sex once in a while because I want peace in the house, his touch on my nipples irritates me and I pray for him to release on time.
DeleteJayhem u amaze me with ur notion. Men will cheat if they want to, I agree but it shouldn't be that women won't play their roles in d house. Besides stop seeing it that all men cheat. Sometimes those that cheat do so becos of d lazy, nagging n dirty woman they married. Cuss me all u want, na back to sender 1 million times.
ReplyDeleteHian!!!
DeleteMen cheat bcos they can get away with it!!!!!!!
Do U know some men like it when their wives nag,lazy and dirty.....it turns them on if in doubt ask those women whose husband's sleep with their dirty house helps.
Bwahahahaha........
DeleteI disagree biko!!!
It's not easy biko!!
Come and see my friend that lost her husband just 2 months ago how fresh she's looking....these stupid husbands make someone look old.
imagine coming home whenever I choose to,cooking when I like,get fat,not wear makeup........they should go and sit their ass down jare.
Cynthia iyede, u sound pained, u must be d poster, Lol.
Delete#word!
ReplyDeleteevery woman is expected to take care of a man..but everything still dies down to understanding..no woman is a slave..
ReplyDeletevisit my blog
www.glowysofiscated.blogspot.com
She has a point though, women are quick to complain and rant but forget most times they might have done something wrong too to get that reaction from a man.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sleeping with anybody's husband who is lying to me but women biko let's call a spade a spade. The bible says we are to be helpmeets. What are you helping? The sooner you stop seeing men as cash machines and understand that you are both in the marriage to help each other, the happier you will be in your homes. Like I said, do your part and leave him to his conscience. And nobody should come here to hate if you are lazy, you are lazy. Full stop
ReplyDeleteThis poster should shut up. If someone wants to cheat, if u like open tfc in your bedroom, he/she will still cheat. There are no two ways about it. When a man wants to kpansh u, he will start listing all the things his wife " isn't doing". So kpanshing you will put food in his stomok or make his wife wake up at 5am? A beg clear out! Stop saying what you don't know.
ReplyDeleteOriegwu over to dem married women. ..#teamsingleladies
ReplyDeletei sleep till 10am on Saturdays most times. I am a working mother with two kids, during weekdays,i have to wake up by latest 5am to cook n prep. plus I drop off d kids at school and pick them off.
ReplyDeleteSometimes i don't even sleep well at night with the little baby. With this, i believe my husband should give me time to rest well on sat morns, I didn't even ask him for permission, it was something i decided on my own to wake up between 9-10am on Saturdays.
Even when he comes to wake me up that he is hungry, I beg him to please rustle up something or take cereal till I am fully awake cos m tired and so far, its working fine I guess.
So understanding matters, you from the outside may come in seeing my husband taking tea and he says i am sleeping, you would think 'kai this woman cannot cook', but that is how it is.
So do not judge from the outside
Thank you
P.S- Although i agree some women are actually lazy for no just cause, but some laziness are actually justifiable, like mine
:-)
Thank you jare
DeleteAsk for permission to sleep whoaaaa
DeleteMy dear, if you don't rest, God forbid you collapse or anything happens to you, the man will remarry ASAP.
Deletebefore l got married,to see something to eat na war(POVERTY IS NOT MY PORTION AGAIN).now that GOD has blessed me and l eat what l like and not what l see.is it to cook that will now be a problem? GOD forbids.#mykitchen,myoffice#
ReplyDeleteAwwww...... God bless your home
DeleteAbeg I don tire for husband andwife matter. If ur husband dey cheat u too should cheat oooo jare ....
ReplyDeletePoster sound pained
ReplyDeleteWhat's your rationale behind this write up?
Pls face your work.
Tell them o,somebody should tell Dstv to scrap lifetime network channel 131(I think)na suya and beer I dey take do night food since dance moms start.i don tire
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, are you married or single? Are you a side chick feeding a married man? I just say make i ask as you did not state that in your post. Now to the matter, you are right if you are married and you feed your hubby well, It pains MOI a lot when i see married men going to feed in bukkas, as for MOI, i am a great cook, hubby and children hate to eat out, he even boasts about my cooking to family and friends. Dear married women please cook for your hubbies, even if you are a working class lady you can still cook and keep in the freezer. Every good meal taken at home keep's the heart at home. In my house i make different snacks and almost every evening we have our party for two, we just relax drink and gist. try it it works.
ReplyDeleteWell, there are some good wives and bad wives. But before u call a woman a bad wife, try n walk in her shoes first.
ReplyDeleteMost women are the ones pushing their husbands outside.mine is a typical example; she only agree to sex whenever she want and she will even make jest of me when she sees im vexed...guess what,i found my groove and she's been wondering why im not asking her for sex again,she now nags like kilode and keep accusing me of have side chica..lool. She has never caught me once oooo,i dont password my phones and she has access to my social media handles.she just knew something is up,she just cant pinpoint..lool
ReplyDeleteIf she send u a memo regarding her hubby affair, u and ur other feminists would have crucify me b4 u hear my side of gist.women r the worst enemy of their marriage.it takes more than lust for a man to marry in the first instace,how cld he turn to something else over night?
PS: this my wife cld fuck me for africa when we were dating oooo..she never turn me down and we fuck like kilode.we marry finish,she change tune..lol
Lmao!!! In your mind now you are smart abi? Ok!
DeletePlease tell them o.Since Dstv brought out lifetime network,I no dey chop night food again.Dance moms has taken over.Somebody should tell flo that one agbaenu girl Ora soup na die o.Deliver your Pikin O Lord.
ReplyDeleteNice write up poster,,u are sooo on point..
ReplyDeleteI have been married for almost 35 years and I can tell that my experience with men is that a man will stray if he wants to stray even if his wife is Mother Theresa. I know of wives who you can consider "perfect" in all ramifications and yet their husbands still strayed. Married women should just do their bit and leave the rest to God.
ReplyDeletePoster if u are married then I would agree with u stating that position. But if u are not then just shush. I am a working lady and wake up at 4am to prepare lunch for my kids and DH, leave for work at 5h30. Come from work at 16h00 pick up the kids from school and start preparing supper everyday since I got married 10years ago. My husband leaves for work at 8am. Moreover I earn more than hubby and have a higher paying job but still take responsibility of my family. If u may talk of housewives u think it is an easy job being a housewife. Do u know what time they finish there household duties which make them sleep till 10pm. Please if u want to become a writer express ur opinions on other issues that concern ur well being than writing about issues based on assumptions.
ReplyDeleteI like your comment @ 3:06pm
DeleteCorrect
ReplyDeleteI love this write up
ReplyDeleteThis is so true...
ReplyDeleteTo be a woman sef no easy,not to talk of being married..No time to Rest,unless u wnt to rest in peace forever
I'm sorry Stella but you should know that when a woman is in love and treated well she'll do ANYTHING to make her man happy. But men can be veeery ungrateful and treat their woman like maids. So some women can't be bothered anymore. Most of the time. I cook well(just grace) but when I'm with a man that makes me happy I can cook for Africa but when I'm with a twit cant be bothered. I even make them cook for me,shio.
ReplyDeletelie lie lie ,sleep till 10 am ,abeg na lie joo
ReplyDeletewhat of my hubby dat.doesnt like eating in d morning,,and come on,no married woman sleeps till ten,,a man dat doesnt wana cheat will lovingly correct his wife
ReplyDeleteas for d makeup and.fashion,oh phlxxzz we soooo need it,,else dey will complain we now look old.and unkemt
men matter is annoying,if u slim,dey go for a fat one,,if u tush dey go for local etc
This is very true. One of the big men I know eats out as early as 9am. He is in his early 50s but married to a lady in her mid 30s. This man eats breakfast, lunch and dinner outside and the wife isnt complaining . Most time he will call me to prepare food 4 him, if I tell him am busy, he will beg me. Am still trying to sum up courage to ask him why he doesnt eat his wife's food. Need I also say that they have 5 maids. 3 ladies and two young men.
ReplyDeleteStop fucking dat man..Husband snatcher!
DeleteLol. U be the man babe?
DeleteSee this one ,what an blog name so u also want Akpabio to give u cash with ur blog name. Odikwa risky.
DeleteNice write up.
ReplyDeleteWhoever this applies to should take correction. Negative influence may have caused some ladies to fall behind in their wifely duties.
Ladies, we should do all in our power to protect our homes and marriage.
Don't say a man that will cheat will cheat. Do what is right so you will be blameless before God.
So because someone has come to speak against something that is bad- she has to be married and if not, then she is a side chick. I hail una o.
ReplyDeleteThere are some women that don't cook for their husbands, they leave everything for the house help even on weekends. I know a particular family where the wife is a working woman, leaves the house as early as 5.30am and comes back at nights, weekends when she is free- she spends a very large portion in church and the other portion resting. No time for cooking and no time to tend to the husband or the kids. Husband visits kids' schools, goes for PTA, takes kids to the hospital- monitors the help, minor things a woman should do. He is working as well. If he goes out now, she will cry foul.
If you know you take care of your man and you are not in this category- then thank God for you, if you are in this category, please learn from it. As someone said, play your own part as a wife so that if your husband decides to cheat, it will be on his head and his conscience.
Well said
DeleteI sleep to 10am, because house work wants to kill me, breastfeed around 12am, 3, then 5 am, run off to prepare food for d big girls to carry to school, wake them up, bath them, dish there food b4 6 am, wait for school bus, take them downstairs, allow d maid to finish d cleaning, Oga does not eat in d morning, then go back to sleep b4 d little baby wakes up again, so d little time I have, I sleep, b4 I break down, now if I break down, who will now do d cooking, cleaning and washing. @times dis men will have to help a little, but for where, instead they will say they are bring money to d house, so u should kill ur self with house work. So pls don't judge d women atimes, u can imaging d woman washing for d whole family, husband, herself, and d children, no washing machine, no be die b dat. @ time consider dis women, they are human being also, so poster get ur facts right or be married first, b4 u judge.
ReplyDeleteSome women sha.....
ReplyDeletewhat is wrong in sleeping till 10am????
Y are most career women jealous of full time housewives???
If a man wants piping hot meals,get a cook!
....well laundered clothings...try d clearners!!
So,after farming,fetching water and d rest,I get married,start giving birth.....U still want me to enter kitchen????..and I dont,U start fucking outside abi???scoffs#shebi if I release ur prick naa......
My fellow housewives,if U must sleep till 12noon,pls do...or U wanna watch africa magic oo...porn ooo....gossip ooo....pls do cos a woman's job is never really done.
brb
"Remember how their mother raise them kee" none remember. If our mothers were acting the way they act nowadays we won't have life. Every problem happening in our society now are things we watch on western TV. Is good for a woman to be independent but you have to balance home and family because as time changes we move with time no one said you should be housewives and do noting. Some women push their men to do things they do outside only to come here and cry. Poster thanks for this post, at least is coming out from a woman. Most of them here think all Nigerian men are useless but none seem to get it. The once that married for money/greed/family pressure when they fall out of love they write scaring stories that make single once scared of commitment. Ask your self how many men comment here daily? If men tell you stories about their wives and girlfriends as we read about men I don't think the blog will contain other news.
ReplyDeletehi all, please lets not be quick to judge. Nice advise. Lets not forget that in advising, lets consider doing it in love. No one is perfect and we all learn everyday.
ReplyDeleteAs for the Men, do not let anyone's inadequacies push you to do bad. Advise and help each other don't go looking for another babe. same goes to women don't go looking for another man.
If your wife slept till 10am maybe she was awake till late to care for the baby. let married people communicate and work together to achieve a better home with Gods help.
God help us all.
I'm not married though but I know wen I eventually do,my husband first,my present bf even knows dat department na my ministry so if i hear say my hubby would eat outside wen I'm married,I trust myself,they had better change,awon oniranu iyawo dede.yetinde.
ReplyDeleteMy auntie is a full time house wife yet she does nothing!!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm not married though but I know wen I eventually do,my husband first,my present bf even knows dat department na my ministry so if i hear say my hubby would eat outside wen I'm married,I trust myself,they had better change,awon oniranu iyawo dede.yetinde.
ReplyDeleteYou cant be wrong, so true poster.
ReplyDeleteMy husband refuses to eat breakfast @ home
ReplyDeleteSo true.,ok bye
ReplyDeleteSo true.,ok bye
ReplyDeleteTrue talk. Well said ma'am. Its nt that easy to keep d home goin tho. May God hlp we women
ReplyDeleteNice memo coming from a single girl.
ReplyDeleteI was working sonewhere, this dude was always complaining about his wife. She did this, did that. She can't wake up early, she can't do that, no food. I was pitying him but I didn't know he was eyeing me
Who wouldn't eye me?
I am stunning (car crasher kinda girl) but forgive me for being modest.
Anywho...this afo mmiri ukwa carried his tales of woles to me, telling me how much he loved me bla bla bla
I am so much better
He belittled that woman greatly
He would have married me if he weren't married (just like they tell all girls).
He was breathing down on my neck for a marriage not relationship
He totally forgot to ask vital questions in his quest for a punani.
Do I love to wake up early? Do I love to rush to kitchen to cook for a pot bellied man? Am I a nag?
What does he know about me in those few times that made him think I am better?
He thought as usual as all men think, that the grass is greener cos I am younger.
I had the opportunity to meet the wife one day, I met the most gentle soul ever. She was practically waiting on the pot bellied man. He will tell her...bring this, she will run and bring it.
On further investigations (flying gossip), I found out that man is the thorn on the wife's flesh. He was having affairs openly and will tell the wife that he is an African man and he is entitled to many wives.
She will cook food for him and he will leave it in his car, during lunch break...he will drive somewhere and eat it then clean mouth. Come back and start criticising the wife.
I know a particular one, his wife will cook and he will give the food to the Secretary out of pity.
I just came to a conclusion
There are useless men and there is a useless man.
Afo mmiri ukwa is a useless man.
Single girls, there is no excuse for you to date a married man.
Stop justifying waywardness. Wait , till you marry that man.
XOXO MYSTERY
XOXO best comments! U said it all men most cheat! No matter wat except d God fearing once.
DeleteKisssssssssssses! 50000 likes single girls be talking Shit wait till you marry! Mtschew that being said lemme not lie I'm a victim of the breakfast thing but that's because I'm preggy ang hubby just toasts bread and makes tea but he always comes home for lunch to a good meal and dinner too sometimes he prepares dinner sef we have no maid I clean and do every by myself we share the work during weekends. In my own opinion any man that complains about he's wife to another woman is a bad man!
DeleteGod bless u XoXo.
DeleteI love the way you write! Your wording is everything and your stories are addicting to listen to!
DeleteI like your objective analysis xoxo mystery!
DeleteGbam! U see what I am talking about??? Am sure the poster has met one of these useless men and she has based her stupid write up on his story. All these single babes feeling special cos u are cooking for one stupid married man and he is eating ur food and saying rubbish about his wife,just know that ur punani is what he wants. Once,he is tired,he moves on to d next girl and start another tale of woe. Do not be deceived!
Deletei am not married o,but anytime i stay with ma man(dating over 7years)i make sure i wakeup immediately he does or sumtimes sef before him,and i make sure breakfast is ready as soon as he gets to the living room.and immediately he tells me he is on his way home dinner is served as soon as he showers.i really dont know what d big deal is in taking care of ur man.thas d least u can do cos trust me men really do try.
ReplyDeleteWell, lets hope you won't mail Stella soon.
DeleteThat's why he has been dating you for 7 years and he hasn't married you. Dey there and be wasting your youth cooking for a man that you're not even sure will marry you. Yeye dey smell.
DeleteU have been dating for 7 years , free toto free food u must be lord of the rings . Bobo no go marry you so pls stop doing wife work make he go pay ur bride price
DeleteAnd here comes another permanent girlfriend!! Dating for 7yrs indeed!
DeleteMen will always be men my dear! if you like fuck am three times a day, 93times a month, give am all the monkey style + Ebola style, dem go still be MEN!
ReplyDeleteMy hussy handsome too much, but I am happy because even if he does those "kurukere' moves with babes, he respects me, takes very good care of his family,performs his "duties", etc. I do like say I no know wetin dey happen with him runs with babes. What do I do? I still give him that amicable home ambiance to come back to after work! Wetin make I do na? Dem go go tire for the runs someday, and na u the wife dem go still retire with for house!
So far, this style ROCKS MY BOAT for me.ooooo!#C'est tout#
Olobe loko :)
ReplyDeleteVery well scripted poster. I agree with you.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm
ReplyDeleteodikwa egwu really!
I am a born cook and dats being modest...lol
My problem is dat I am "tired" of cooking cos from Jan to December,I am in d kitchen.
D General is Soo traditional that I set his table n clear it maself...
I only take a breather wen one of ma cousins come around(she is a good cook too)
Buh even at dat,she is only limited to making pasta n the likes.not something serious like soups and stew and special delicasies.
The General as a matter of fact doesn't eat soup elsewhere buh home....#swelling head things#
He wil proudly tell whoever cares to listen...my wife is d best cook....Hehhebehe
I am glad I am a genius in d kitchen buh it has it's own downsides...I never stop entertaining...on short notice too.
weekends in ma house is busyyyy
Dats why I dread Villa @ Xmas...
Not joking buh I start receiving guests as early as 10 am and na for kitchen I wil til say 10pm...by den my feet are tingling.
Many peeps know dis and have adviced I get professional cooks to help me wit the plenty guests cos it's not something me and one or two of General's coz can do on our own.
Buh seriously,I wonder wot woman sleeps till 10am.
Oriegwu!
ReplyDeleteStory! Men are always looking for reasons to cheat.. Who told u we don't feed our men????? Mtchewwww!
ReplyDeleteThe problem with some people is, they are almost always on "defence mode" so they attack any advice without bothering to check it's veracity and credibility.
ReplyDeleteA lady posts an advice and the 1st thing that comes to some of your minds is her marital status? How is that relevant when, clearly, it's one of the fundamental duties of a wife? So if a 12 year old advises you to brush twice a day, you'll ignore because he isn't a dentist? No wonder marriage crisis are on a colossal high these days.
Being a wife is much more than strutting your stuff round town with a gigantic "bling" on your finger or lording the "superiority air" of a married woman over the single ladies. You have to earn your stripes by your actions. You have to take very good care of your man and run your home the way a captain runs his ship.
As for the excuse of a man who wants to cheat will always cheat, true, but as a wife of a cheating hubby, starving him will only compound the already ugly situation. That's why we are women, we either suck it up and mann our homes or we throw in the towel and move on to greener or greyer pastures. Honey, you don't stop being this best woman you can be because your hubby doesn't deserve it. I know it can be so painful and discouraging to bend over backwards for a spouse who doesn't even stay around long enough to notice the efforts or when they manage to stay home, their minds are somewhere else. Do it because you are a strong woman who will be the best she can be to satisfy her conscience and make sure she contributed nothing to the degradation of her home. Marriage is not for the faint hearted, a true General doesn't show his troops that they are fighting an already lost battle, they keep on fighting and go down swinging if it comes to that. Sometimes, marriages are like battle fields. You can not control what gets thrown at you but you can decide how to fight.
The painful truth is that a lot of women cause the marital woes they face. A loving and caring wife can bring out the best in her man unless she has the misfortune of marrying a sociopath. Ladies, time to man up and take back the little powers some random side chic has over your man. There isn't any fool proof manual on how to stop a man from cheating but I assure you, there are ways to make your man always want to rush back home to your arms, or in this case, your kitchen. Lol!
Ps: Jazz not applicable .
Ella the Enchanted said...
ReplyDeleteTrue talk. Just like Aunty Stella rightly said this is for the wise to read and understand. So if anyone in this family is guilty of this abeg buckle-up. Me no wan hear story that touches the heart later. Biko!
Shikena!!!
**Ella's Haven**
Its nt easy to wake up at 4am every mornin to mak breakfast for ur hubby wen he leaves d house at 5..a housewife has no time to rest..specially wen u hav kids.so cant a man mak ordinary tea for himself?of course he gets a free lunch in d office.a woman has to wake up early nd prepare d kids for sch..take dem to sch.com bak to clean nd wash..pik dem up.feed dem.wash deir uniforms..mak dinner..do deir homework nd wait for dem to sleep be4 she can sleep..haba
ReplyDeleteNo, the man is handicapped so his wife must make the tea and give him bread to go with it.
DeletePoster are u married? If u are not pls get married first before talking shit...Wives are not slaves..Getting up early and fixing children up for school is enough...adding a grown ass man'a breakfast is a no no for me except he will eat what was prepared for d kids..
ReplyDeleteHe did not marry just to turn his wife to cook...There is more to Marriage than food.
As for those side chics and husband snatchers preparing breakfast for a married man,they should channel their energy into finding their own husband..U desperate girls like sleeping with people's husband and giving them out of dis world care just to make him feel u are bettet than his wife...By d time he marries u,u will turn out worse!.
Poster stop sleeping with people's husband...Stop asking those shameless men about their marital affairs..3 male friends my arse...who do u think u are lying to?Aunty agbaya...Bizzybody!
Chiluba u want to tell me u never slept with someone's husband before? Pls pack well when others are forming dont join them.
Deletemost women are so guilty this, like the one am dealing with. and theres this feeling when they annoyingly make your meal.
ReplyDeleteYou re correct. Some men re going through hell in their homes
ReplyDeleteit's easy to come here and post your own side "mistress" but as a wife and a stay home mum I tell you that it is the hardest job in the world. so when she has kids to prepare for school she should be making breakfast at 5am? (most ppl in Nigeria go to work by or before 6am). Whats the big deal if he fixes himself something in the morning.Also how dare you say leave make up? is it all about him? what of yourself? so a woman should no longer look good after marriage? girl, shut up!!!
ReplyDeleteI wake up at 5am everyday, even though my hubby isnt a breakfast person. As I fix myself for work, I fix him too, shirts, pants, singlet, boxers, everything......including handing him his phone. I am on vacation now and I still wake up at 5am cos like the child we are still believing God for, I have to fix him for work.
ReplyDeleteIs ur husband disabled?
Delete#True Talk Jawee
ReplyDelete#fact
ReplyDeleteposter is right to an extent but it is also important to note that some women would give the world and still be cheated on..men would always remain men.just pray for a God fearing man and rest your case..if u carry man /cheating matter for your head as a wife u would die for nothing..my advice to married women do whatever makes u happy and live life to the fullest..
ReplyDeleteGod bless you Alloy for that post of yours.
ReplyDeleteHuman beings, smh and lol. You people hate to hear the truth but my dear call a spade a spade. I'm not a side chick or mistress, while my relationship status has no bearing on this post, I'll just state that I work and keep my home to the best of my ability. I'm not perfect but I try. I haven't said you should become a slave as a woman but the women I'm talking about who are backlashing have maids and are too lazy to even oversee their duties. I never said that any of these men is a cheat or is having affairs, if they are that's their issue not mine. my own grievance is that "modern "day women according to Una are loosing the basic values of keeping a home and it's the truth. If you like take it,if you don't like leave it. So you can curse me out or like Stella advised, be an adult, ponder on where you are wrong and correct yourself. I've said my piece
ReplyDeleteEnough of all this pandemonium and hullabaloo
ReplyDeleteWe the association of single ladies say " come all yee who are labored and heavily laddened ,,, we will give you rest " thus I beseech thee ... All yee married married women that are under d anointing of my msg please please please STOP COOKING for your husbands.... Lead them unto temptations so that we can be serving them EGBELE-EKONKONMIYAN.. Your eyes go clear. Sippin my cocktails.....Origin laced with yin yan roots mixed with maca and Spanish fly.
Dear poster,
ReplyDeleteI strongly disagree with your write up. I was getting angry as I read, but cautioned myself when I realized you simply believed what the married men told you, and you are yet to board the marriage-ship, so I would take time to enlighten you, with the hope that you would become objective rather than bias in your thinking.
I am a SAHM to 5 children, and I wake up early to prepare the children for school. My hubby is a light and late eater. So eating early or taking food flask to work is out of it!
Shopping? Like really? A man that foots all the bills at home would still give his credit card to his wife for personal spree shopping? Or you meant housekeeping shopping? Let me believe that is what you are referring to. And won't a SAHM wear clothes again to look good for herself and her husband before your type would cuss her out again? #there is no pleasing you people fa!#
Watching E and reality shows? Everybody knows what and how to entertain themselves. You read blogs right? Your 3 married friends watch football and probably pornography right? So SAHM should blindfold their eyes after doing the chores or be staring at the wall, so that people like your type would not cuss her out for watching TV or you want them to lie that they were reading? Oh yes...reading SDK blog! :D
Meet a clean kitchen? Like seriously poster! Won't she and the children eat dinner? Or the relatives that might be staying with them? Why do some men lie for Africa ehn? Maybe they did not drop chop money for her or they were quarreling and he refused to eat her food! Or they don't like the food she prepared!
Poster, please don't be deceived. Some men can sell sob stories just to get between the legs of any female they are lusting after. They use simple reversed psychology on females like you, because they know we are our own worst enemy!
I hope with this veryyyy long comment of mine, I am able to convince and not confuse you that those 3 married friends of yours have hidden agenda and motive for all the lies they are feeding you. :)
Now off to read all the comments.
It's impossible for a married woman to wake up by 10 weather you have children or not especially BV'S because they have to visit blogs
ReplyDeleteBut poster made a lot of sense in what she said
If you re a woman weather single or married. This is the time for u to check yourself
Please let's stop being defensive and do what is right
I agree with poster but what happens to women who work so hard,fend for the home and the man adds nothing to the upkeep of the home.Do you still expect that woman to cook for such a man,respect him and appear happy?howwww?tell me o
ReplyDeletePoster marry your own man and cook for him 5x a day if you choose. I agree with Chizoba. How did you know this? What are you poke nosing for? Most men I know don't even like to eat in the morning. I don't, my husband doesn't, my brother in laws don't either so You never talk true. Stop the cheap talk and find yourself a single man.
ReplyDeleteWhere in this planet does a woman sleep till 10pm. Won't her children go to school?
ReplyDeleteIf we truly have such women, they really need to sit up!
Rose
The question of if the poster is married or a side chick is immaterial. Let's call a spade, a spade. If you are guilty and this pill is too bitter to swallow, gently shove it through your butt crack. Prov ch 31 still remains a standard we should all try to attain. All ye married liberalized, independent and open minded women, whether working or not, if you like, don't be wise. We shall all console you when Stella shares your 'narrative'... and no, am not married.
ReplyDeleteLOOOL this is some preacher. I’d like to point out that most ladies, married or single (myself inclusive) do not use MAKEUP TO MAKE THEIR MEN FEEL GOOD, OR TO ATTRACT A MAN! So madam, you saying the wife should ‘leave makeup’ because her husband sees past her physical beauty is quite an annoying statement. How about dressing and looking good to boost your own confidence and feel good about yourself? I really don’t care if I meet my future husband on a day I have no makeup on. Lool this just takes me back to a meme I came across on twitter, with a picture of nicely fixed nails, I must say, captioned ‘ladies, we guys do not find this attractive’ LOOOOL who told you I fix my nails to look attractive to you uncle? Some ladies (myself inclusive) use makeup and other beauty accessories to feel good about ourselves, if you want to feel good about yourself everyday, then by all means beat that face of yours everyday, if you want to look good on some days, then by all means do that ladies. Don’t let any man tell you when and when not to look good please. Again, I say, this statement is on behalf of women who do not dress up to attract men but to feel good and confident. AAAANNNDD did you marry me or my food? looool please, if you want to cheat on your wife, look for an alternative reason. Her not cooking food or waking up at 10am is NOT a reason to cheat bruh, definitely NOT. Since Nigerians have made cooking 3 times a day a womans responsibility regardless of if she works same hours and earns same amount as her husband, what if she can't cook?? would you then say that a woman should cheat on her man if he can not afford to pay the childrens fees (since its a mans responsibility in Nigeria) ?? Hmm, yeah, think.
ReplyDeleteSo many proud people on this blog, after they will start sending stories that touch to SDK, instead of humbly taking correction, a word is more than enough for the wise
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