As you read through the narratives and offer your best advice or solutions to the posters,please do not forget to always tell yourself the truth no matter the situation that you find yourself in....Hey,its Friday and its time to unwind!.....Oops i forgot I am a mother!...LOL
Enjoy the Narratives...
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHEN YOUR BEST IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH
Hello Aunty Stella, I am currently going through depressing as a result of my mum comparing me with my siblings as regards financial status. I presently earn a little and that does not stop me from giving my mum over 10% of my salary every month. But that is not enough for her.
She feels I am stingy because my elder sister drops like 4 times what I drop (I can confirm I earn more than my sister). I am not here to talk bad of my sister but I am 90% sure she has different men that gives her money (I can not confirm if she sleeps with them in exchange) ….my mum works and earn a salary too, so it is not that she is poor and can not live without us, but she feels it is our right to give her monthly income (which is very okay by me) but why frustrate me?
It is really depressing , she feels I am lazy and i do not know how to source for other income, how do I explain to her that I am working hard for a second means of income (like a business, or if I can get little contracts). It’s bad enough that I have gotten to a marriageable age and I am yet to be married, dealing with this pressure is sickening. One thing I will never do is to do illegal stuff/things that is not of God , just because I want to please my mum. Has anyone ever experienced this, what did you do?
Or is my mum just different? I really want to secure a small apartment somewhere (trying to raise money), its like I have over stayed my welcome in the house, and sometimes staying too long in ones parents’ house can make you experience a lot of shits. *Sobs*
*Just move out and look for your own quiet corner,maybe she will appreciate you when you are out,maybe not.
She might mean well but may not be going about it the right way.Just try to show her all the love you can and leave the rest for Baba God.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
GOOD DAUGHTER IN LAW VERSUS BAD MOTHER IN LAW
I have been doing good daughter-in-law for sometime now and I think I'm tired so I need the input of BVs on how to retain my sanity.
DH is my best friend and I am glad I married him, however my mother in law and of recent, my sisters in law are like a thorn in my flesh. It started off with the fact that they wanted him to marry another lady because she is quieter and easy to manipulate (DH’s words). DH is however attracted to strong-willed women hence his choice of me.
From day 1, his mum never made it a secret that she expects me to be a bad person though I buy her gifts, call her at least twice every two weeks, convince DH to send them money, help the daughters financially, e.t.c. I even convene family gathering during Xmas and other celebrations, make food and invite them all to my house so they can spend time with DH.
My only sin is that I married her son and that I visit rarely (I have a very demanding job, the little time I have, I spend with DH and rest. So I visit her once a month)
DH has called her to order a couple of times and they ended up having issues, of cause she said I was the “causer” of the fight even when I beg DH on her behalf at home.
Now she goes around reporting me to people that I am bad to her, that I don’t allow DH take care of her, whenever I ask her if there are issues she will deny, yet she complains to lots of people even in church. Of recent, she told hubby that my siblings always visit me, meanwhile I beg her and her daughters to visit, yet they rarely come. They always say that they are busy. I can go on and on about the things she tells people and the way she behaves towards me.
Though DH is solidly behind me always, I don’t like what is going on. I have always wish to have a wonderful relationship with my mum-in-law but she is not forthcoming.
My fear is that she may just turn DH against me one day so what do I do to make sure this doesn’t happen? Can I ever win her over?
*Be careful how you handle this otherwise you might either end up tearing the whole family apart or lose your husband to the antics of his mum.just continue playing the fool with Solomon's wisdom embedded in it.I don't really know how to advise further because na person when wear shoe know where e dey pain am.I really cannot place why mothers in law poke nose so much in their male children's marriage but do everything to make sure their daughters marriages stay intact....she could be jealous.....be wise!
I'm tired of swallowing postinor 2. All d pharmacies for my area don sabi me finish.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha, omg
DeleteYoung girl be careful what you're putting yourself into. I bet you've not read the damaging effect of Postinor dependence. You'll wish to be a mother someday o, be careful.
DeleteNo. 1. Your mum is being insensitive. My grannie has such attitude and one day she accused me so and I had taken it to my very throat so I lashed out. I had no job at the time as and I clearly told her to her face that I shall not sleep with a man to raise money and give you in order to become a old girl like your other grands. She was shocked and said erm didn't know you had no job, hello!
Not saying you should do that but please gently move out and don't overdo your capacity. Hope you're paying yourself a 10% of your income? It should be non negotiable o to avoid touch stories.
No. 2.
Your strong will should be for your hubby since he likes it, better mellow down for your in laws. A male child never forsakes his family for a wife at the long run not to talk of in Nigeria where culture overrides common sense.
I'd advice you go and apologise even tho you're right. By all means just try and make peace. Also learn the power of your knees too. If you have kids you can always take them along to your in laws. Children have a way to wetting such dried tracks
Choi why not use a condom steady or better still visit a general hospital and find out more information about a long term suitable l contraception. Be careful dear cos God forbid if u have any challenges tomorrow, these men or man MAY NOT BE THERE TO HOLD YOUR HAND AND WALK WITH YOU.
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DeleteSo aunty 4;09 na 'nekede' u dey do?
DeleteU don't like ursef oo(ur menses must be so messed up rite now)
U beta stop it, dia r complications dat comes wit abusing oral contraceptives.
So aunty 4;09 na 'nekede' u dey do?
DeleteU don't like ursef oo(ur menses must be so messed up rite now)
U beta stop it, dia r complications dat comes wit abusing oral contraceptives.
Ashewo!
DeleteIf u are married get an IUCD.. If you are single pls use a condom or say no to premarital sex!
DeleteUse Condom or contraceptives! Don't kill yourself.
DeletePostinor dey gve etopic pregnancy, careful bae
DeleteThey quit having sex without protection naa! When you have the urge, just tie your legs together and pretend to be a mermaid! Culled from the great one
DeleteThe person u often swallow pos 2 for would not marry.. babes learn from us, we hav seen it all.. a word is enof for the wise.. POSTER 1, mothers can be funny at tyms, u can hardly do enof for them, they hav a way of making one feel as if he owns his or her entire life to them.. pray and move out of ur mothers house.. she would appreciate u beta.. neva insult or fight her, they can be tempting.. rather walk away than say words u would regret.. I pray u get a good man soon, tht would appreciate and love u. POSTER 2 keep on playing the fool and pray without season MIL can be terrible.. I don't know if it Becos of my baby, of a truth the birth of children changes so many thing.. mine has bin acting nice, dunno if she truly likes me, but I rili don't care.. I was properly warned befor I coming into the family.. am prepared for them, physically, spiritually and oda wise. here is the point keep ur over sabi for u and ur hubby.. wen it comes to ur his family, be wise as a serpent both gentle as a dove... after all u don't live under the same roof.. act vulnerable wen eva u around them, forget ur gragra for house.. God will see us thru.. amen.
DeleteLMAO!!! First comment u r a joker! Oya gaan by the whole carton! Lol! Yeye girl!
DeleteProstinor 2 = ectopic pregnancy = premature menopause
DeleteI am a living witness
Omg
ReplyDeleteI Feel for u poster 2
Follow SDK's advice
I'm so happy for my family
My mil is the best any gal can wish for
Am so blessed n grateful n happy.
My dear since she wants you to be bad then be bad!!! Or start ignoring her.
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ReplyDeleteYour own beta say u dey even work. Me wey no get work, my mama eye dey chook for my small money like say tomoro no dey. Them dey even time my allowee money come november. Mtcheew
@ first post: your mother Is something else. I second the opinion to get out of the house for a while. Tried it couple of times and it works like charm
ReplyDelete@ 2nd post: forget that woman exists because if u keep worrying about how to please her saggy old bossom you might end up going down the wrong way. Give her the blank treatment but in a polite way. Remove her from your thoughts. What u owe her is respect and it must not be overrated. Think of her only when she's around and STOP TRYING HARD TO PLEASE HER!! Capische?
That is it!!!!exacting what I am giving my own MIL now I live in peace in my house
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ReplyDeletePoster 2, pray for ur mother in law to die, end of discussion.
Poster 1 move out of ur mother's house cos I think u ve over stayed ur welcome there.
May another person pray for ur mother to die ,and when your own son gets married may ur daughter inlaw kill you before u eat anything from ur son.onuku odeku
DeleteAre you for real??? You are wishing for the death of somebody's mom! Haba naaa, try and fear God a bit, I know its HARD but just try!
DeleteHaba @Angelray that was so mean... Why advise her to pray for her MIL's death?
DeleteC'mon...
N1
ReplyDeleteIf you can afford to pay for a one room self contain, and can cope with living alone, then its time to move out.
Your mum is working and very healthy. Why is she struggling your small salary with you? Isn't she supposed to be advising you on how to save money?
Some mothers sha!
N2
Wisdom wisdom wisdom is all you need. Try to involve less in your mother in-law and sisters-inlaw's affairs. Keep a little distance.
N1
ReplyDeleteIf you can afford to pay for a one room self contain, and can cope with living alone, then its time to move out.
Your mum is working and very healthy. Why is she struggling your small salary with you? Isn't she supposed to be advising you on how to save money?
Some mothers sha!
N2
Wisdom wisdom wisdom is all you need. Try to involve less in your mother in-law and sisters-inlaw's affairs. Keep a little distance.
Mother inlaws & there wahala, my mil do me setey I tear eye for am. Na aunty she de call me now, kikikikiki.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahah I can't laugh atimes you need to let them know there's a butnut missing in ur head
DeleteTo the the 2 posters, I'd say do the best u can and let the two mothers keep talking and reporting. Poster one, yea, d earlier u move out of d house d better or try to talk to ur mum abt being more understanding of ur situation. Poster 2 just also try to make sure ur husband realises that you are doing the best u can.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what to advise, am very down bin indoor all day. @posters its well.
ReplyDelete1: Don't move out. Keep saving. She's your mum. Befriend her by force. Give her what you can afford and keep striving to improve yourself. I think you are frustrated about your single status and the fact that your siblings are doing better. Quit worrying. Make yourself happy and be cheerful always.
ReplyDelete2: If your MIL says she has no problem with you and your husband is treating you well, why are you looking for trouble by listening to hearsay? Do your best and leave the rest. You can't force people to like you o.
You're d best. Move out advisers tire me out! It's a selfish move. Marriage will come and you'll be out. You'll be exposed and open to men and exploitation out there. But the idea and glory of a parent covers u in d house
DeleteFirst narrative;
ReplyDeleteSome mothers are like that...just get an apartment and leave the house for her...
Stop giving her money for now since she does not appreciate..
2nd narrative;
Follow Stella's advise..
No 1, it's best u move out. Once you r of marriageable nd u still staying with dem u become a thorn in d flesh, buh I'll command respect wen u visit once in a while. Although dat won't stop her from calling u on fone to rant, buh at least it won't be like before nd u won't av to wake up seeing her everyday. My biggest advice to you is for u nt to allow frustration push u to do wat u r nt supposed to do. Dnt get tempted to sleep with men for money, bcos at d end of the day u r d one who'll bear the consequences.
ReplyDeleteNo 2. As aunty stella has said u should be careful. Apply wisdom in everything you do
No. ..abeg do as Stella said. ..just move out and give her space, stop aiding her financially for a while, maybe she'll start appreciating your efforts then, no matter how little. Does she expect you to whore out yourself just to please her? Nawa o
ReplyDeleteNo my dear you can't kill yourself for her, just continue being nice to her, but please stop trying too hard to please her, do the necessary things and leave the rest to God. ..keep praying for God to intervene.Some MILs sef
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ReplyDeleteIs that real tattoo on your shoulder? WOW WOW WOW GBAM GBAM GBAM!
DeleteNarrative one, some mothers can be greedy. She works, collects money from your other siblings and still expects much from you. Na wa o. Maybe you dey carry women up and down the house, she feels you spend so much on then hence needs her share. Its well. Just get your own place soon.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2. Honestly don't have any advice for you. God will grant you wisdom.
Stella, please I still dey wait make you post my chronicle narrative, I have summarized as requested. Guess you saw it. Regards to all.
1, Yes, some daughters and children do have them. Its like she had always liked your sister than you from the onset and now that she's giving her more the love trippled. Things like that brings in siblings rivalry. Do as you are planning just get a place and move out. But continue to do your bit or even better. 2, Go to the Lord in prayer on her case, its obvious the battle is not yours but the most high. Just give them the (SLS)siddon look syndrome
ReplyDeletePoster num 1
ReplyDeleteWake your mom up around 3am,look her straight in the eyes,eye ball to eye ball,and ask her if she thinks you should go into prostitution so you can give her more money...that you just need her sincere opinion on this because really you want to be able to give her more..but the only way you can do it is to either join armed robbers or stand on the streets..but you wanted her opinion first..when your done talking..silently wait for her to say something! If she is wise,she will manage the one your bringing home..
Then please work on moving out!
Poster num 2
Your mother inlaw is just looking for trouble where there is none! She is just fortunate that she got a good daughter inlaw who she wants to turn into a badass DIL...na she go run ooh
Oh well,i will still encourage you to continue doing good..you are even trying to visit,maybe the distance is not much then..try not to get into a fight with her because her daughters will gang up against you! She wants to constantly poke until she eventually wears down your loving hubby.....
Just do the one you can do as a human being please...voice out when you don't like something so they don't kill you silently..and make sure you hold your family secrets close to your heart..God be with you!
*turn you into*
DeleteSeconded....sound advice
DeleteWhich one be eyeball to eyeball for this matter now?my dear no need for all that,save some more money and move out of the house,then she will respect u...she's ur mum so u can't have grudges against her,shey u know?its normal when u get to a certain age they must start acting up...In due time,God will bring ur life partner.
DeleteGbam! Seconded even though i didn't read it because it's too long.
DeleteI like your comment wela!
DeleteMy dear don't be a bad DIL hence they would declear war against u, either the drive u out or the kill u.. u don't know their level of spirituality... u only know urs..
Delete@ poster 2 your spouse is meant to marry another woman but you snatched him. Now deal with the consequences.
ReplyDeleteYawnnnnnnnn.....any1 wanting to hook up in abk dis evening? Its friday mehnn
ReplyDelete1st. Poster...u can't kill ursef jes 2 please Ur mum..she's too demanding and am nt too happy wiv dat...leave d house fast biko n pray ur God given partner locates u
ReplyDelete2nd poster: Some mother-in laws r nice while some r not...However,if ur mother-in. law prefers quiet women, it maybe cos she feels dt outspoken women r too troublesome...Find a balance and make her understand u love her despite her reservations about u.Kip showing her love..Trust me,one day,she'll come around..be Patient my dear
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1st poster, try and gather money and move out of the family house, try to make your mum undertsand that you are gathering money to start a business, meanwhile increase the money you give her to 15%...
ReplyDelete2nd poster, you really need to apply wisdom and prayer...try and remain good to ur MIL and SIL's, dont let her come between you and DH...goodluck to u
BLOG ANALYSER: @ narr 1.pls move out so that you can have ur sanity back or be alittle more patient so that u can leave wen u want to settle down
ReplyDeleteSome MILs destroying marriages since 1900. Issorai
ReplyDeleteNarr 1 - you are jealous of your sister fa. She earns less than you do. Biko how did you know? Na you dey pay am abi na you dey collect her pay slip ni? You better concentrate on making your mum understand how much of your best you are doing instead of badmouthing your own sister.
ReplyDeleteNarr 2 - you made the mistake of marrying into that family. In igbo land, we don't marry only the guy, we marry the whole family. Just concentrate on making the mum your best friend. If you do, everything will fall into place. Bribe her with money, gifts and calls.
Let me go back to my job, Stella its not only you that has a life you know.
I don't know U, but I honestly don't like ur tone... There's something bitter about U. Please take a chill pill, no one forced u to comment!
DeleteI don't know U, but I honestly don't like ur tone... There's something bitter about U. Please take a chill pill, no one forced u to comment!
DeleteNN1 - Sounds like my story, i am the first daughter but never good enough for mum, she says i don't know my duty as "Ada", this frustrated me in the past to the extent that i cry like every night. What i do now is
ReplyDeleteignore her whenever she nags. I just do my little best and leave the rest. "I can't fit die at time young bright age na".
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Poster 2..... I am going through the same thing presently. but u know what, I don't give a fuck about her, I do my things d way I like, hubby is perfectly behind me. It got to a point I told hubby I am tired of trying to please his mum and sister, the more I try to please them, the more it gets worse. The worst thing is that, Mother inlaw actually leaves in the same house and her daughter. Hubby is based abroad and comes to nigeria 3times yearly. At this junction, I don't even see them, if I wear new clothe, they will gossip and the thing is, they just can't confront me. My Sister rest ur head, u can't please this people just hand them over to God.
ReplyDeleteSDK FOR YOUR EARS ONLY:
ReplyDeleteU R A BITCH!!!!
LWKMD!!!
ONE LOVE
Ur mother,sisters,aunties,girlfriend and wife are not only bitches but prostitute!
Deleteill mannered child!
I spit on ur decomposed body!
Tueh!
Anuofia!
N1, seriously wen a lady is of age and is not married, too many insults come in, I was. Experiencing same wit my dad dat I had to move out,no the respect is there wen I show up in his house one in a while
ReplyDeleteGod forbid one should have a mother in law like Ezenwanyi, you won't have peace for a day, they will be all up in your faces forgetting they have daughters.
ReplyDeleteTry your best and leave the test to God.
Lmao!
DeleteE ne cho okwu.
Anony always lookin 4 trouble wia dia is none.
Lmao!
DeleteE ne cho okwu.
Anony always lookin 4 trouble wia dia is none.
Poster 2 hmmmm mother-in-laws can be so over protective of their son...You are just unlucky,but bet there are mother in laws like that. Hopefully,she will outgrow the attitude...He has already married you so there is nothing she can do,she shld just accept you....Put her in your prayers that she has to like you by force and you should be careful as well cos with the way she is going,she won't mind disrupting your marriage and I pray she never succeeds
ReplyDeletePoster 1,i feel your pains,i also wish I can do more for my mum as well though she is not disturbing me about it but considering the fact that she has been advised to stop her business and stop working,i need to do more for her..In your case,the frustration is much for you and before you do something crazy,save enough and leave the house. You will have rest of mind....
N1, Some women don't know how to be a mother, always after what they can get from their children. That said, Please continue to be respectful to her and don't you ever allow her push you into crime, what is important is that God Almighty sees your heart. Hurry up and move out. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteN2, No matter what you should continue to show your MIL love and respect, don't give up. In most cases those of you that complain about MILs become worst when it is your turn. Let MILs enjoy their sons please!
ReplyDeleteFirs poster, pray, pray, pray. when I was single I got to a point where I decided I wont let anyone put me under pressure and I wont be disrespectful. Give your mum what you can(remember God loves a cheerful giver) don't give because you want her to be impressed. Take your decisions and stand by them. Maybe you should move out. I tried moving out as I was over 40, my mistake however, I was telling my mum who is very prayerful, for prayer support. but she always prayed that I wont move out but will marry from the house. well different strokes for different folks. Thankfully even the man I married was praying that his wife will still live with the parents. so it was just as well. But for you pray and let God lead you. Do what you can but let your heart lead you. Do the right thing. When you give your mother money tell her this is what you can afford. IF its monthly its good if you have it fixed. So it doesn't keep fluctuating and she keeps expecting more.
ReplyDeleteAnd don't be too worried that you are not yet married, just keep doing the things you need to do, don't be bitter that you are not married, it will come. I got married at 43. God has different plans for everyone. So don't compare yourself with married friends etc. You were born alone. Live and enjoy yourself. Until he shows up.
2nd Poster, Pray, pray,pray. Pray about your relationship with your husby, your inlaws etc. However don't stop being good to them. Just do what you can and do right thing. Your good will always speak for you. The bible says if your ways pleases the Lord, he will make his enemies your footstool. You seem to be a good person, let God give you wisdom and show you what steps to take. You may have to use wisdom to talk to your MIL but be led think through it. Don't forget she will always look for things to discredit you but God is on your side. All the best.
Wow! U got married at 43? There's hope for me at 34 then!
DeleteWow! U married at 43, I thank God for ur life and His eternal faithfulness.
DeleteI think U need to tell us ur story to inspire women who r facing pressures of marriage. I wonder at the things U may have passed thru' b4 ur marriage. I recently got married at 34 and I can't even begin to put into words what I passed thru' frm society, parents, guys, etc. Especially as I am a very comfortable lady financially. A lot was said, but thank God he blessed me with the man of my dreams. Please SDK family help me praise this our ever faithful GOD!!!
Your mum is a bad mother and doesn't mean well.it is wrong to ever compare your children cos it might cause sibling rivalry that could end in tragedy.......look for a place and continue to give her what u can afford.....that is honoring her and God will give u your reward.....don't let her pressure you about marriage cos it's her type who will still abuse you when things go wrong.....I might sound harsh but not all mothers get it right....just continue to be your good self, one day she will see her mistake....
ReplyDeleteNo be only tragedy, trago-comedy nko.
DeleteNa film?
Tk it izy wit english oo.
You just described my mother. At her age she is still clueless about motherhood.
DeleteDon't bother pleasing her anymore, she is not your mother and will never love you like her child.......when u start ignoring her she will know what she is missing.....there are no awards for being close to mother in law...reduce your visits heaven will not fall...if u like kill yourself she will never love u like her children....
ReplyDelete@1 poster just do ur best for ur mum but don't allow her words get into cos it can be depressing. @2 poster have a clean heart towards ur MIL,do ur best for her n her daughters and most importantly pray pray pray for her cos the bible said the heart of a king is in God's hand,He can twist it anyway He want. Stay bless
ReplyDeleteThanks for all your advise o, been praying about it buh as Stella and some BVs said, wisdom will be my new watch word. God will do the rest. I can't put all she has done in my heart, else I won't ever forgive her. It's all well.
ReplyDeletehmmm @lady T, married at 43, oriegwu
ReplyDeleteShut up Mimi. Are you God. Do you know your own future?
DeletePoster #1: Get a place for yourself. She will surely appreciate you more. Maybe she feels she needs to push you more so that you can be a better person.
ReplyDeletePoster #2: In-laws wahala na wisdom person dey take follow am. If your mother inlaw is Yoruba, have it at the back of your mind that 'a Yoruba elder is never wrong' Continue to pray and play mugu until the day God touches her. May God give you the wisdom to conquer. Rose
The best way to enjoy ones marriage is to keep the in-laws at arms length, be it mother or sisters in law no matter how good you are to them they will still show you that your are not part of them am talking from experience, talk less around them and don't ever let them know how you are running your home when you see them smile with them and nothing more.God help and preserve our homes
ReplyDeletePerfect response. I don't encourage unnecessary talk and keep to myself most times. Cos will always misunderstand especially from different tribes
DeleteBiko I wanna offer my gratitude to God for my wonderful MIL, even since my DH married me, she calls me every week, MUST! When I had my baby 7months ago, she came in full swing! Gave me 20k and a gold set. And yes she keeps calling me evEry week, anD I try to be a good DIL by respecting and loving her. We live in same city but I rarely visit her, just our normal phone call. I love her and I'm blessed she's my MIL
ReplyDeleteLove your inlaws but set boundaries, maintain your distance and be very diplomatic with them. That's d only way to roll with them in peace and harmony
ReplyDeletePoster no 2, Call holy ghost fire on your mother in law. During prayer, call all her names and ask God to give her some jobs to do so that she won't have time for you.
ReplyDelete@ poster 2....im also going thru the same, infact my own MIL has gone spiritual with me, the last time she came visiting, we live in different countries, she started her wahala again but this time, I prayed earnestly and God opened hubby's eyes to see her carftiness to the extent he does not even want to have anything to do with her, im the one begging him now....she stole my underwear and was telling hubby all sorts abt me....this is a woman that I try so much to please....but u know wat im using to win over her....PRAYERS.....girl I pray now....MFM type o...becus she told my nanny she wants hubby to marry another wife...even hubby asked me if I ever did anything to her, I said NO but that the issue between his mama n I is more of spiritual not physical at all...we operate from 2 different worlds and each of us fighting for supremacy but who has the final say....JEHOVAH has the final say....
ReplyDeleteSo my dear, stop trying to please her, do the needful- respect her and be cordial....keep them at arms length, there is nothing you can do to please them...pray Isaiah 41 : 10-13...they will be ashamed and disgraced...Jer 20:11...their disgrace will not be forgotten. Dont pray these prayers when hubby is there ooo....Love your husband, be a supportive n respective wife....and see how God will fight your battle....the bible says, they that God has joined together, let no one put asunder...if anyone wants to put asunder, Jehovah will put asunder into their lives in Jesus name....
Goldscent diamond I totally agree with you, if you run from your own mother, that means you will run when you get married, it can be annoying sha, just try to form a brick wall to her words and keep on loving her
ReplyDeleteWake her up one day and talk to her. Ask her questions - whether if she wants you to doing any illegal thing to raise more money for her and hear what she'll say. Also try raise money n pack out of that house. My friend encountered this kind of thing, she later left the house to her Aunty's place and her mum started begging her to come back home, well she did and they stopped the 'wahala' small but I thank God she later got a job with a bank and she became d favourite daughter tho eldest.
ReplyDeleteYour mum will change one day, but still be praying for her.
#Your MIL na case o. Create a boundary and always do your best, and pray for your DH.
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