What would you do if she spends every night in the bedroom alone with your hubby every time she visits?...Yes,you got it right,I am referring to Mother in law dearest.
Excuse me?Cheating is our genes and that is why it is occurring and re-occurrng? what-da-heck!
Chronicle of Narratives....here we got space,bring your ish!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WIFE VERSUS HUSBAND AND MOTHER IN LAW
Dear aunty Stella,I am only winking,it seems sweat dey enter eye.I just finished having a hot argument with my hubby,we have three bed rooms.one for hubby and I ,second for the kids when they start coming and one for visitors.
This is the second time my mother in law is repeating this act.I overlooked the first but this time around.Once she visits the house she moves straight to our room and sleeps on my matrimonial bed with her son. while I sleep in the visitors room.
For complete two weeks I didn't say a word,since its just two months we got married.I didn't want any wahala.She visited this afternoon and went straight to our room.I quietly carried her things to the visitors room.She raised her voice at me and I told her that's my matrimonial bed and she doesn't have to share it with my hubby.
Aunty stella what do you think?.Both mother and son has not said a word to me since then.They even went out to eat abandoning the food I served them.I am just worried.I pray SDK readers will lash my mother in law and the son.My husband frequents your blog almost everyday.Thank you aunty Stella.
This is the second time my mother in law is repeating this act.I overlooked the first but this time around.Once she visits the house she moves straight to our room and sleeps on my matrimonial bed with her son. while I sleep in the visitors room.
For complete two weeks I didn't say a word,since its just two months we got married.I didn't want any wahala.She visited this afternoon and went straight to our room.I quietly carried her things to the visitors room.She raised her voice at me and I told her that's my matrimonial bed and she doesn't have to share it with my hubby.
Aunty stella what do you think?.Both mother and son has not said a word to me since then.They even went out to eat abandoning the food I served them.I am just worried.I pray SDK readers will lash my mother in law and the son.My husband frequents your blog almost everyday.Thank you aunty Stella.
*stammering* Errrrrrrm, is she his real mother or a sugar mummy in disguise?
do they lock the room?do you eavesdrop?OMG,your hubby has an unhealthy relationship with his mother and they both need deliverance ASAP.
I am afraid to even mention this but I pray to God and forbid on your behalf that you hubby isn't mating with his mother?...Sounds so!
Stand your ground and do not break under pressure.
Most importantly,maybe this is a journey to finding out the kinda man you married...Be of strong mind oh.
On the other hand,this could be nothing but i doubt it.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
REF: WIFE CAUGHT RED HANDED GETS A THOUGHT PROVOKING RESPONSE.
CHEATING IS IN OUR GENES?
Good day Stella,
I have been following your blog for some time now and have even commented a few times. I have just been reading (I had a very busy day so couldnt visit much earlier) about the man who saw his wife with another man at a bar. I can imagine it must have been quite a shock to the guy and in the company of his friends!! The comments from your BVs are something else, plenty of 'cheating' this or that all over the place.
My view is that ' cheating' is in our genes - numerous studies by researchers/scientists have even confirmed this. The problem comes from our false belief that God ordained one man to be with one woman forever. This idea (monogamy) was introduced into the church by the (pagan worshipping) Romans. Even then, though they preached monogamy, they had scores of mistresses and regularly abused their servants and slaves. Prior to this, the idea of one man, one wife was very strange (as the Old Testament of the Bible clearly shows). So all this talk of 'cheating', as far as I am concerned are acquired and only leads to plenty of unnecessary heartache. The number of people who can remain faithful to one partner in a relationship are very few and are in the minority. To those I say good for them. Just like there are people who like being with people of the same sex (homosexuals). They are there, but they are in the minority too. I can only believe that all these must be part of the Grand plan. Otherwise homosexuality has always been frowned upon but has never disappeared. Homosexuals are children of 'normal' parents. Homosexuals don't produce children, so its not a question of 'like father, like son'. Why would God allow normal parents to produce 'abnormal' ones if it is not meant to be?
I think people would live happier lives if they reconciled to some of these things instead of focusing on some hurt just because some one 'cheated' on them. Maybe the other person could not help it because its in his/her genes!
Thank you.
Esien.
*I need time to digest this info and see if it really applies...Cheating is in our genes?hmmmmm!...Blog visitors,what is your take on this?
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
REF: WIFE CAUGHT RED HANDED GETS A THOUGHT PROVOKING RESPONSE.
CHEATING IS IN OUR GENES?
Good day Stella,
I have been following your blog for some time now and have even commented a few times. I have just been reading (I had a very busy day so couldnt visit much earlier) about the man who saw his wife with another man at a bar. I can imagine it must have been quite a shock to the guy and in the company of his friends!! The comments from your BVs are something else, plenty of 'cheating' this or that all over the place.
My view is that ' cheating' is in our genes - numerous studies by researchers/scientists have even confirmed this. The problem comes from our false belief that God ordained one man to be with one woman forever. This idea (monogamy) was introduced into the church by the (pagan worshipping) Romans. Even then, though they preached monogamy, they had scores of mistresses and regularly abused their servants and slaves. Prior to this, the idea of one man, one wife was very strange (as the Old Testament of the Bible clearly shows). So all this talk of 'cheating', as far as I am concerned are acquired and only leads to plenty of unnecessary heartache. The number of people who can remain faithful to one partner in a relationship are very few and are in the minority. To those I say good for them. Just like there are people who like being with people of the same sex (homosexuals). They are there, but they are in the minority too. I can only believe that all these must be part of the Grand plan. Otherwise homosexuality has always been frowned upon but has never disappeared. Homosexuals are children of 'normal' parents. Homosexuals don't produce children, so its not a question of 'like father, like son'. Why would God allow normal parents to produce 'abnormal' ones if it is not meant to be?
I think people would live happier lives if they reconciled to some of these things instead of focusing on some hurt just because some one 'cheated' on them. Maybe the other person could not help it because its in his/her genes!
Thank you.
Esien.
*I need time to digest this info and see if it really applies...Cheating is in our genes?hmmmmm!...Blog visitors,what is your take on this?
Tell that to your maker on judgment day
ReplyDeleteN1...What??? (picking my dropped jaw from the floor). Kindly walk your hubby through the scripture that says "A MAN would leave his father and MOTHER and cling to his wife". Stand your ground on this one and do not budge tonight. She either sleeps in the guest room or you leave and go stay with your parents for as long as you want because my dear there is nothing natural about this situation. (i'm still dumbfounded..is this a script or real kokoro story Stella?)
DeleteN2) Cheating is a choice and trust me it pays not. In the long run of course cos the thrill whilst doing it,the adrenaline rush is out of this world. There's this cleanliness that comes from being content,it gives you the right to demand anything from God and expect it to be granted. Iv been on both sides and I can tell you there's nothing that beats being faithful and content.
2nd narrative: woman you are very foolish...i am a woman cheating is not in my gene...you do not have the fear of God in you....i pity the man that married you...he made the biggest mistake of his life....we don't have ruth or esther of our time anymore..all bunches of delilah and jezeebel...feel free to come and reply here hornet aka whore
Delete2nd narrative: woman you are very foolish...i am a woman cheating is not in my gene...you do not have the fear of God in you....i pity the man that married you...he made the biggest mistake of his life....we don't have ruth or esther of our time anymore..all bunches of delilah and jezeebel...feel free to come and reply here hornet aka whore
DeleteNarrative No1
DeleteYour husband has three leg, two belongs to him, and they are the longest, he uses that to walk, while the third which is the shortest belongs to you, he uses that to transport you to cloud nine. And I sorry to tell you that your husband and taking the third leg that belongs to you and has given it to his mother your mother-in-law. Because as a young couple if your mother-in-law has visited twice within a short space and is sharing your matrimonial bed with your hubby and they are locking you out in a guest room, it simply means Dem dey do kerewa!
Narrative No2
You have sold your senses and soul to the devil. Cheating is not in our gene, cheating simply means to act dishonestly or unfairly, To deceive by trickery, It is generally used for the breaking of rules to gain unfair advantage. So looking at this defination, cheating is premeditated and planned. When something is in ones gene, you don't plan it, it happens natural. Just like every emotions like love, anger, feelings are in our genes, it happens and occur in its natural form.
The only thing that's in our gene is sexual arousal, the inability to control this arousal coupled with selfishness result in marital or sexual cheating as the case maybe.
So the same God that placed this sexual arousal or libido in our gene, also gave us the ability of discipline and self control. Just like love, anger, feelings this are also emotions, and if we lack self control, we will abuse it, you can not say you will beat anybody and everybody everytime you get angry, same goes for love, same should be applied to sexual arousal or libido, remember "its not what goes into a man that makes him a sinner or dirty, its what comes out of him" so if any emotion gets aroused in a person at any moment, it's not important, its what he does with it, how he/she acts on it that's important.
And mind you all this emotions are really important for human existence, we can't do without them, so to check its excess, we have self control or self discipline. You devil has a way of bringing stupid taughts to our mind to justify our sin, that's exactly what's happening to you, and if cheating on a partner is not bad, guilty. conscience, envy, and jealous wouldn't have flowed natural from such cases.
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Mr second narrator..I don't think you are not possess..please don't ever in your life post this kind of nonsense and senseless post again..now hear me..evil were not born but made, heaven and hell is a choice, if God really wanted man or woman to have more than a partner, I think He can removed more than one bone from Adam's ribs and created 2-3 help mate for him, and moreso if you read your bible very well..which I doubt you even have one (bible), talk-less of read..muumuu!! Genesis. Chapter 2 verses 24, said, a man shall leave his father and mother, and cleave unto his wife..is not 2-3 man should cleave!!..dummy..so if cheat is in your Gene, don't ever think we are idiot and senseless human like you, here ok?..eweee!!..I don't want to talk to much because I don't even think that your mosquito little brain can even carry little have said..so next time get you fact right before posting, we are not drop-out student like you, here..ok? Nonsense!!...abeg lemme enjoy my garri-ijebu with mbawuku groundnut jaweee..happy new month stella
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Poster 1. D arrangement btw ur husband and MIL is obviously wrong but I advise u not 2jump into conclusion of believing that dere is more to it. I also wished u handled d issue differently both from unset nd now. U didn't nid to throw ur MIL's tinz out jst like dat. U would av had a serious discussion wif ur hubby instead discussing ur disapproval nd suggesting dt if he actually respects nd adores his mom so much(as I do) he should move into d visitors room with u weneva she has to sleep there. BTW ur marriage is too young for frequent MIL visits. Table dat also. Try ur best to win ur man to ur side b4 u pick a fight with his mom if not my sis U WILL LOOSE!!!!
DeleteThe way and manner Aunty Stella dishes her funny advice leaves me with no options than to bliv she smoke sk... wtf mating his mum... plsss there r other reason... the lady in question should pray hard.. duo my mother inlaw doesn't slp on my bed but they do worst... he's got a mother, sisters and brothers tht frequently intrude into our affairs.. God will see us thru..
DeleteI believe there is actually something fishy,the fact they pass the whole night together without wifey makes it really disturbing!what are dey discussing?and it didn't happen just one nite,but nite comes and goes for two whole weeks!madam u are really patient sef.its like a rival wife's turn to be with hubby,but this one is his mother?its strange!
DeletePoster there are a lot of secrets you are yet to find out abt them,now this is time!don't let this issue die,involve ur family let a meeting be set up,make it a big deal cos this is unheard of even amongst d elders!#still shocked#
We live in a strange and crazy world dou!smh
Isn't if the same maker that we call on now....the same maker that the Europeans used to enslave us.......isn't it the same maker that is being used by boko haram to kill people. ...isn't it the same maker used to discriminate against homosexuals and ignore fornicators, isn't it the same maker that politicians used to steal from us......food for thought.....our beliefs were forced on us by europeans
DeleteN1 -Sigh, i feel your husband is weak, he should be able to let his mom down in a soft manner he knows her better. It is his responsibility.
DeleteDid u discuss with him how uncomfy you were the last time she came and did this. If u really poured out your feelings, he should be the one telling you in front of her that you should take her stuff to the guest room.
Some men are still connected bt an invisible umbilical cord sha.
If he was matured you wont have needed to take her things urself which caused friction
With men like this, you need a lot of patience, and reverse psychology oo.
I saw and sensed the spirit of no-boundaries in my mil right before my wedding when she asked her son if we have started having sex?!! I let her enjoy the house we paid for before the wedding but once I moved in, I laid down rules. No visitors or guests on our own floor come rain or shine. No mother son tete a tetes in my house. No cooking her own stew in my kitchen. Blew her off when she started timing my uterus and telling me SHE is ready for babies even if we're not so we should hurry up. Very politely told her it's our decision to make. Whatever my mother cannot do, nobody else can do. Truth be told she means no harm. She just has no boundaries and can be quite hurtful. I'm not patient and I have a very nuclear family approach to life. I do not ask my parents permission before I buy a car or start a business or travel. I may seek your opinion but I sure as heck don't want your permission. I'm in my 30s and this grey hair didn't come easy.
DeleteThank God my mil is old and my father inlaw is still alive. She has too many issues than bothering herself to be visitin her kids. We re the ones who do the visit
DeleteHian poster numero un; Your case sounds just like nollywood movie oooo. That's some scary ish..... Some mothers nd son have weird relationship. Whilst you are taking spiritual actions, go the physical way too.... O gbodo gba gba ku gba ooooo..... Nkan be oooo.......
ReplyDelete2nd narrative: woman you are very foolish...i am a woman cheating is not in my gene...you do not have the fear of God in you....i pity the man that married you...he made the biggest mistake of his life....we don't have ruth or esther of our time anymore..all bunches of delilah and jezeebel...feel free to come and reply here hornet aka whore
DeleteStory 1 be respectful but stand ur ground. Don't argue with mama or with hubby in her presence. If he wants 2leave d bedroom 4u n sleep wit her in d guest room, leave dem but DON'T LEAVE UR BEDROOM. She is very wrong and ur hubby (sorry 2say is acting like a child) howeva most importantly fight dis battle on ur knees. Keep making their food even if they ignore u. Ignore deir tantrum d way u will treat a spoilt child but just be courteous n respectful. Story 2 I didn't even bother 2finish- no advise. Lady koikoi
DeleteLusting after the opposite sex (even if you don't visit the destination) that's cheating too....
ReplyDeleteNarrative No1
DeleteYour husband has three legs, two belongs to him, and they are the longest, he uses that to walk, while the third which is the shortest belongs to you, he uses that to transport you to cloud nine. And I'm sorry to tell you that your husband has taking the third leg that belongs to you and has given it to his mother your mother-in-law. Because as a young couple if your mother-in-law has visited twice within a short space and is sharing your matrimonial bed with your hubby and they are locking you out in a guest room, it simply means Dem dey do kerewa!
Narrative No2
You have sold your senses and soul to the devil. Cheating is not in our gene, cheating simply means to act dishonestly or unfairly, To deceive by trickery, It is generally used for the breaking of rules to gain unfair advantage. So looking at this defination, cheating is premeditated and planned. When something is in ones gene, you don't plan it, it happens natural. Just like every emotions like love, anger, feelings are in our genes, it happens and occur in its natural form.
The only thing that's in our gene is sexual arousal, the inability to control this arousal coupled with selfishness result in marital or sexual cheating as the case maybe.
So the same God that placed this sexual arousal or libido in our gene, also gave us the ability of self control and discipline. Just like love, anger, feelings this are also emotions, and if we lack self control, we will abuse it, you can not say you will beat anybody and everybody everytime you get angry, same goes for love, same should be applied to sexual arousal or libido, remember "its not what goes into a man that makes him a sinner or dirty, its what comes out of him" so if any emotion gets aroused in a person at any moment, it's not important, its what he does with it, how he/she acts on it that's important.
And mind you all this emotions are really important for human existence, we can't do without them, so to check its excess, we have self control or self discipline. You know, devil has a way of bringing stupid taughts to our mind to justify our sin, that's exactly what's happening to you, and if cheating on a partner is not bad, guilty conscience, envy, and jealous wouldn't have flowed natural from such cases.
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No 1, i hope your heart is strong enough to withstand the revelations that will come out from your hubby and "mother in-law's" acts. Something is damnnnnn fishy and not right.
ReplyDeleteMaybe you should pretend like u are cool with her sleeping on your matrimonial bed. Set up a phone well hidden and tape them! Oh and of course, do a 007 on his phone.
****but be prepared****
N2: i disagree with you. Cheating is not in all our genes. Maybe you and people like you.
Which one is 007 on his phone
DeleteN1..how can your mother-in-law be sleeping on the same bed with your husband! Ewwwwwe something is really going on btw those two! Infact are you even sure she's the real mama to your hubby cos I'm surprised and shocked at the same time! This one u said dey went out to eat maybe na even hotel dem go finish Wetin dem start..things are happening ommy own mother-in-law sleep on my own side of the bed? TUFIA!
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella, things really happen o imagine my sister in law and my husband are so cloae,its scary. When she comes around she goes straight to our matrimonial bed to lie with her brother. Sometimes, my husband and I are on the bed and she comes in with but shorts and open belle spaghetti top and goes straight to lie very close to her brother placing her head on his chest while I'm left to watch.in shock. They will go out together while I'm left at home. I was just believing o,they are so close, perhaps they've been like that since their youth so lemme not try to separate siblings until I saw them coming out of the toilet stark naked one night, dem say na prayer dem dey do, what manner of naked prayer is that one? When I decided to react, my sister in law beat me blue black. Plenty things dey wey my eyes don see but shame cannot let me say them. Believe me, aunty Stella,nkan be.
Delete@claudette pls leave tht marriage... hope u havent given birth yet.. it not a do or die affair..
DeleteNa wa o.are u for real? Things are really happening. Please inform every member of the family. The earlier the better
DeleteNartv 1) e get as e be oooo babe stand ur ground biko cry out and let d world hear ur voice ur mother in law most be insane... Please no one should say dis is motherly love cos dis is d worst thing I ave read on dis blog sounds like naija movie starring mama gee and tony umez ....2weeks? Idontblivit
ReplyDeleteI concur it's d worst thing ever, e be like film unbelievable! Just 2months after your wedding, even if it is 2 decades after! What tha hell... it is sooooooo wrong on every level and you shouldn't have allowed it the 1st time sef..ur husband no get siblings u can call or even ur family members.. make sure u STOP it ASAP!!
DeleteNo. 1 ur MIL is a witch/ home breaker. What is she doing in her son's house 4 over 2 weeks, a newly married son 4 that matter. On top she sleeps with him, to prevent him from to his conjugal right. She has ulterior moves to block u from conceiving. U beta start working on it fast. As 4 ur husband pray 4 him welll welll so his mother juju will clear from his eyes.
DeleteNow let's nt get too excited. I don't think dey are havin sex but ders a weird relashp they sure have. 1st of all ur marriage is 2 2 2 young to hv family members or MIL spending time. And dt goes 4both sides of d family. U sld still b doin honeymoon 4God sake! Next thing I'd give u is an advice; never confront ur inlaws esp MIL/FIL full on. Even if ure right, it will backfire on u. Dts where u made d mistake here. Next time, talk 2hussy n pull him 2ur side, den allow him address d issue. Finally go on ur knees n pray. Don't leave ur bedroom, if he likes let him ff her 2d guestroom. Don't argue oh, allow him go but dnt leave ur room.
DeleteHmmmm....omo see gobe! #N1 that story get as e be o, how is that possible a mother taking over her daughter's inlaw matrimonial bed...Na wao infact am speechless...#N2 cheating is not in any person's blood o, cheating is as a result of lack of discipline and respect for the person you are into relationship with.
ReplyDeleteThe story about husby and mum sleeping on the same bed? That's not normal o!! What the actual hell is that? Why do mother in laws behave like they arent women and they havent had thier own husbands? Sha it could be eitherway - they are sexing? ( I highly doubt that, unless its for juju purposes lol) OR they've always done that and it means nothing. However motherinlaw should have enough sense and intergrity to stop it now her son is married. Men are too daft to think for themselves, especially if he's a mama's boy. I'm guessing she no get husby? Just stand your ground and don't allow it.
ReplyDeletestory 1: poster are you really sure that woman is your MIL?
ReplyDeleteI doubt! I strongly doubt. even the bible says a man shall leave his father and mother and cling to his wife.
maybe you should open that version of the bible and place it on the table for them to see.
what manner of fuckery! namsense!
story 2: I m confused Essien. don't understand the correlation.
Poster 2, it is clearly obvious the bible has been absent from your life! Go and read were the bible said that because of their reprobate mind, God gave them up and men burnt in passion for one another and........., I can't really remember now.Cheating is in nobody's genes, you hear. It's lack of discipline, lack of consideration and selfishness that people put in their DNA by themselves that makes them cheat.
ReplyDeleteIt's like saying because men are aroused easily and some decide to take their lack of discipline and selfishness and force it on some women, rape is now in our genes abi? Abeg Esien, if this your misconstrued and warped mindset, biko you need a reorientation ASAP and as for me your reorientation should start with the word of God!
Poster 1, calm down and take this issue to God.I watched a nollywood movie some many years back acted by Tony Umez and I think Uche jumbo and some bla bla cast and it's storyline was exactly what you just described and it turned out that the mother was sleeping with her son!
Your marriage is just two months, and your MIL has visited more than she's welcomed for a young couple, so there's definately a reason for eye brows to be raised and noses twitched, but just calm down and go to The Lord in prayers.This is not a time to hail thunder and brimstone, it's a time to report them to God.
God can never give us what we can't handle, so you're safe.It is well with you and your marriage.
My dear, why bother God about issues we can solve ourselves? That's why He gave us brains(to handle physical things)
DeleteNarrative 1: As stella said, stand ur ground. Wateva d outcome is, let it be. I blame u sef cos u shouldn't have allowed it d first time, weda u r new wife or nt. U strtd wat u r finding difficult to finish, dats y I can't Strt wat I knw I won't be able to continue
ReplyDeleteExactly!she let it stretch too long already!the first night,i will let it be and assume they have some catching ups to do,but still raise a lil dust of blackmail to hubby d morning after!but subsequent nights,its not possible now!dis story would have been out on d streets' from day2 if I was in her shoes,ha!cos I find it not only strange but scary!
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ReplyDeleteThe writer of no 2 is apparently not in touch with reality; we read yesterday about women cheating on their husbands, is he saying that the women also have cheating in their genes and so should be allowed to cheat since they are just expressing their natural tendencies? If so, why is he saying that it is only men that cannot stay with one wife; shouldn't it be mutual going by his biased, inarticulate and incoherent reasoning? Who is elevating science above the word of God almighty? Science rather submits to God's laws and not the other way round.
Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”
4“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’a 5and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’b ? 6So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Matt. 19 quoting Gen. 2.
No 2 should remember that this was the original plan of God but the enemy of God and mankind; Satan confused man. for those that are saved, there has been a return to status quo without struggles and that is what Jesus meant. The emphasis is on; THE TWO SHALL BECOME . . .He did not say that the "three shall become, he did not say that a man leaves his father and is united to his wives. God in his example of matrimony made one wife for Adam. If Adam needed two, wouldn't God have made two? Reason well people and do not pander to "science said". I am a scientist; but by the Grace of God, I know him; his word is supreme!
1 million likes for this statement. People know the truth and refuse to believe it to cover their sins but ONLY THE TRUTH shall set you FREE. God bless you
DeleteHmmm This Mother Inlaws! Oriegwu!!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear..You allowed this the first time so she wants to make it a norm! Tufiakwa to this woman!
I always make sure no one puts asunder between hubby and I ooh....you should start sending erotic text messages to your husband asap..you must get him to make sweet love to you this night...Anytime there are issues with you and his mom,you need him on your side! don't shout on him,he will childishly run to momma....So overlook this horrible habit until dearest mom inlaw goes...then mee ya aru! please,do not let that woman take your husband from you,this one they are eating and chatting up and down...interrupt them,run your fingers down his back in front of his mother...She carried him for 9months! you freakin carry his man weight every other night!
Don't keep malice with him,softly tell him you just miss cuddling,mother must sleep in the guest room,you have been so horny and just can't take it! Bring out the fireworks,yes CRY!! This is war! You can't lose...
Please be cordial to mama..make sure as soon as they come back you rush out with all smiles..ah mama welcome...what do you want for dinner??..After dinner tho,mama is so sleeping in that guest room..make your point and stay on you hubby's best side...You need to do this now!! She can't see two of you having an argument..and ehe..please don't report your husband to her,or her daughters..never! Handle your challenges with wisdom..
When she is gone..warn that your husband very very well..let him know you can't take that rubbish biko!
U really Don orchestrate dis plan.u b master planner o.nice though
DeleteOne goat head for you iphie!!!! You took the words right out of my mouth!!!!
DeleteDon't report ke? The earlier she reports to her father in law and SIL, d better for her.
DeleteThe shame will be too much for them to bear and she might get to learn d real truth abt dir relationship. Tufiakwa.
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DeleteGbam! Poster No 1 u shd read this...
DeleteThis is why some newly weds get only a 1bedroom flat, they don't need "live-in" visitors for one year biko!
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DeleteGbam! Gbamest Gbam! Iphie you are just so on point with this advise. A million likes. D poster needs to read this. Weldone!
Delete#1: ur horseband (any man who behaves anyhow for me is a horseband) never talk wetin e de with im mama. Y send u to d guest room cos of her. Sounds occultic sha. Stand ur grounds. If e too bad, call family meeting on his head. What rubbish is that!which kin yeye thing be that. Ur MIL de come reinforce for una house. Better be careful. Ehn, make sure that bedsheet is thrown away oh when she decides to go.
ReplyDeletePoster 1...We need you to ist eavesdrop on ur hubby n supposedly Mother,this is outrageous.Mother and Son sleeping on same bed for a long period of days..Mbanu! I don't grab..Though understand some mothers re so jealous they won't wnt to see her DIL and son in all lovey dovey,buh this tale is highly suspicious biko
ReplyDeletePut ur ears on ground or better still plant a recording device in the bedroom all night..Jezzzzzzz! Iheneme
Poster 2.....you looking for a means to justify ur cheating ape self abi..C'mon shit away with ur stupid research..am very sure u are a cheater. O na ako! Mtsewwwww!
#N1: Your MIL and your husband = incest. Why will a mother sleep in the same room, on the same bed with her son for 2weeks? Jesu n'ogie! Hian!!! What's this nau? I cant deal! I just can't!
ReplyDeleteIf I were you, na eavesdropping sure pass oh. I must have gone to peep one night. How could you allow that to happen without raising alarm? From day 1 you would have said no! Hian! I can't deal please.
#N2: take a trip to the lagoon and jump into it. Don't start reasoning BS in your small head to suit your wandering dick and think that's how it should be applied in the world. If it's impossible for you to stay faithful, good for you but stop reasoning like someone whose brain was wired by demons.
JayEm is bini! D'omo o.
DeleteMarried woman
Lol...koyö madam.
DeleteCheating is not in our genes. Same way homosexuality is not in our genes. If you're homosexual due to an error in your gene coding thus making you to have multiple or underdeveloped sexual organs ,it is different. That is nature's fault. But not when you chooses to be abnormal cos your whole being feels normal with it.if your whole being feels normal with it and your conscience when you think of God doesnt . Then it is not right.
ReplyDeleteCheating.homosexuality. masturbation... are just few of the numerous ways devil is using to pack souls to hell. And of course he will make you feel fornication adultery and the likes are normal.
Before Jesus came a lot was not right.but Jesus came to set the wrong right. So if Abraham and co took more then one wife doesn't mean God destined it so. After all,he created only Eve for Adam. Not eve and joy and peace. Only eve. So he knew what he was doing.and still knows what he is doing.
Thank you my dear, I have nothing to add...
DeletePoster 1, nothing is happening, you shouldn't have allowed it at first but now, stand your ground. She's probably thinking that she has suffered so much for him...
@posta 2 if u want to cheat dnt justify by sayg it is in our blood, its in ur own blood not mine.carry ur research comoti joor
Delete@posta 1 its well o wen mil sleeps on ur matimonial bed na gobe .wat kinda thing son evn follow mama vex , no gree chop food.wat is really goin on wif some mil wo want to stil possess son evn after he is married, hmm.
Narrative 1. You married a mama's boy whoo is obviously not grown enuff to be married. There may be nothing amiss as Stella thinks,but there is everything wrong with yor MIL staying in your matrimonial bed when she visits,besides,you gys don't have kids yet,so why the frequent long visits? Seems you have entered one chance. Now,here's what I'd do if I were in your shoes. I'll report her to every of my inlaws,and I'll confront her to let her know I'm not down with it. If those don't work,I'll give both mother and son some space by moving out of the house,and if I'm ever coming back,we'll have ground rules in place. Narrative 2,your matter no be here o,you need Jesus.
ReplyDeletena wa oooo..iv to put this stellas blog on speedial..all i do is stells as blog at owrk...haba ..all dese stories sef...
ReplyDeleteMy mother in law tried it once and was even before we got married! I dragged her to hell and back it never repeated itself again. I woke her and her son up in the middle of the night and asked the meaning of that arrangement. I spat fire and brimstone even my husband was too scared not to support me!
ReplyDeleteLmao!mo ni omo ode!!!sharp thinz
DeleteHahahahahahahahaha I don fall for ground ooh!!!
DeleteBest comment..1million likes!
DeleteMake she no come pour sand for my garri!
DeleteYOU GO GIRLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL! Shege jagwa....
DeleteGod punish devil.
@ poster 1: ur MIL visiting twice in 3months? Staying over? Ouch speaks volumes abeg! 4 ur husband to take his 'mothe' out to eat outside is a sign o0. Pls shine ur eyes o0, maybe he married u to cover up his atrocities while shagging his real 'madam'.
ReplyDelete@poster 2: speak 4 urself abeg. That's what most men claim, that cheating is in their nature, I beg to differ. People are following d westernised world, cheating and divorcing at will. Its not d best abeg.
Narrative 1, get dat woman outta ur home ASAP , who does dat?! No form miss goody goody 2 shoes ...put her in her place biko, hian! Wat nonsense?!
ReplyDeleteBtw, does he hav siblings? Wat abt ur FIL? report d onise mil.
N2, I don't sha get...
All I can say's dat women re now beating men to dia own game.
Onise mil !!!!!! Hahahahahahah
DeleteNo 1 poster it's nt natural and also it's nt unheard of before allowing ur mind to stray pls do some investigation of your own. She might just be trying to look for your trouble, also Some of this women have donated there kids and everything must be in order I mean in their spiritual group. So be prayerful and also stand your ground don't cook for them again. Eat the best of meal and have fun while you sleep mind you if he follows her to the other room abeg follow them.lmao
ReplyDeleteAt 1st poster, you better pick ur bags and hurridly leave that marriage. I mean what the heck?! It's probably a blessing in disguise that you're yet to have kids for him. you better pick race now before u get caught up in some deep shit.
ReplyDeleteClick my name for all your celebration cakes and cupcakes, cheers
Mumu
DeleteLeave which marriage??..
DeleteJust like that?..Oriegwu!!..
Madam baker, na advice u give so?
DeleteShe shld run away without trying to solve d problem.
Welldone.
@ madam London cakes: Nne r u married? What sort of stupid advise is that? If she wanted to leave d marriage will she come here? U people should fear God oh. Any small thing 'pack your bags and leave the marriage' like marriage is a game of ludo. When she leaves will u marry her? Thats what marriage has become abi, two minutes noodles. Mtcheeeeew. Poster pls that your mother and hubby sleeping arrangement is very queer and it calls for suspicion. Il advise you go FBI on them. Snoop. Go through MIL and hubby's phones. But don't let that woman ever again to sleep in d same room with MIL. Abi she wants to breast feed or change his diapers @ midnight? Mtcheeeew.
DeleteLeave ke? No nah, no be so! She has started the right step, she shd just hold on and not yeild to pressure!
DeleteMother and son on the matrimonial bed?issok...buh madam you are jonzing oooo! *whispers*....arrest both of them *laffs and walks away*
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First Narrative,
ReplyDeleteYour MiL is very useless..who does this??.
I can't take this rubbish from any MIL and you did the right thing by taking her things out..
Your husband him self is a proper mumu..
Am sure he still touches his mums breast like my 3 years old son that won't let mine to rest...
Narrative 2,
What is good for the goose is good for the gander...
Why won't your wife cheat when you as a man cheat on a daily basis and even rub it on your wife's face..
I have stoped judging married women that cheat..you need to walk on their shoes to understand...
And some of you single girls that keep bashing this women,am sure you would do worse when the time comes...
My own be say as a married woman,its better you cheat with your fellow girl than this men..that way,no body would suspect your moves...but if you want to cheat with a man,do it codedly biko..
Oriegwu!!..
My 5year boy still does that. I v beaten'threatened n even reported him;no way. The dad dey hala am but no way
DeletePoster 2 oku nkasiobi you are a dumb ass for real. You are trying to justify evil and also justify your evil act.abeg shift go one corner you should be ashamed of yourself for even typing this bull crap shame on you and your evil research don't come hear to contaminate people.
ReplyDeleteposter1, why dont u sleep wt dem, dud they ask u to leave d room?
ReplyDeletePoster #1 Stand your ground! If your mother lives in the same city, ask her to come and visit or tell her what is going on because there is more that meets the eyes.
ReplyDeleteEstelle y do u lk asking and bringing up nonsense question?
ReplyDeleteAre u OK steller? Must u talk nonsense to draw attention?
ReplyDeleteIs that arrangement not nonsense
DeleteHow can a mil do this to a young marriage. Truth is she is evil. Ogun will kill as evil mil out there. Why not go to your daughters homes. Shameless home wrecker
N1.. You mean the first tym she stayed for 2 whole weeks! And u where not worried enough to eavesdrop or plant a recording device in that room.. Evn my 7year old son won't let me hug him bcos he' no longer a baby not to talk of a grown ass man sleeping on the same bed with his mother.. And what's with the frequent visits sef.. Abeg its not normal.. Try and find out what those two are up to?
ReplyDeleteN2 ur postulation is a load of rubbish
Invite your mother fast to come and spend some days with you. Let's see how the two of them will go into the room together. But better get a tape recorder and leave it on in the room. Something is fishy with this arrangement. Just 2months! Infact enjoy your rest sef. No stress in cooking for anybody this period. Use the fattest chicken on your plate and wack it in their presence.
ReplyDeleteP1 you did the right thing by talking to your hubby
ReplyDeleteTell him if they don't stop whatever they are doing you will tell everyone he is shagging his mum
P2 your opinion right? Ok
Badamu'a
#N1 Trust me she is sleeping with your husband cos exactly the same thing happened to my aunt few years back. She wanted "peace" to reign so she accepted it only to find out 2years later when she went to church with the kids on a Sunday and hubby and MIL decided to stay back. She forgot her tithe, packed the car outside nd caught right in the siting room. She calmly walked pass them, picked her tithe and walked out of the house forever. Even pastors couldn't settle the case. So my dear the earlier u find out, the better cos the decision will be difficult after children start coming. In some tradition, the mother sleeps with the son as an atonement for his increased wealth.
ReplyDeleteNa wah oh!
DeleteThus is the answer to all those who doubt such happen. Sometimes me de wonder for hubby and mother in law
DeleteJesus Christ, this is some film trick right? Gosh i got goose pimples all of a sudden. Tell me this is a joke, never heard of this shi t in all my life.
DeleteSome people are lovers of worldly pleasures,cheating is a normal to them but the truth is that no evil doer will go unpunished.
ReplyDeleteOmo see gobe!
ReplyDeleteYour MIL and your husband are really digging it...they are having SEX
No sane mother will sleep in her grown up son's room...makawhy?
You better investigate this ish well whether they share the same blood...he could be adopted.
#2 i personally believe that everyone has the capability to cheat but we also have a choice too.
#N1: your mother inlaw in ur matrimonial bed with his son? can't imagine...
ReplyDelete#N2: Cheating is a choice/ decision one makes...wish to introduce Bv's to a daily calling program on rhythm 93.7 fm..sharing life issues with chazb. monday to friday, 5:30pm.
Although i think the act of mother and son sleeping together is harmful to the son's matrimonial relationship but it is absurd and very stupid to even suggest they are having a sexual relationship. You don't know how close they are having been thru highs and lows and mama is yet to mental accept that not being used to her son's marital status. Mama should move to the visitors room and son spend quality time with your mother but retire to your wife. Wife that sent this post,you lack wisdom,that's simply put...you are a fool. How do you expect your husband to react or feel when he reads this especially if he is not sleeping with his mother,if this is how you handle situations sorry next time try dialogue and finally stella I'm disappointed with your initial reaction.
ReplyDeleteAnon 3:06pm, something is wrong with u! I sincerely think u need help! What??? No matter how close they are,MIL shd deal with it already, her son is married! And no, poster is not stupid, she's wise and needed to confirm she took the right step!!! I can't even imagine my mum wanting to sleep in the same room with my married brother, na me go finish her with bad mouth! Talk more of my MIL trying this, her son won't even agree sef! Hian, some ppl are rily wack oh! Wharris all this na???
DeleteI am disappointed in your reply
DeleteDear Husband,welcome. You are very very lucky that u married a woman who is alright upstairs. If na me ehn...u go hear ween. Now Poster make I give u one advise,first u. R stupid for posting this here knowing that hubby reads this blog becos I would have advised u to plant a camera or listening device in that room but now thhey will be more careful. U cud have talked to ur friends,ur mum or even ur pastor. U don't let a thief know ur on to him.
DeleteAnyway now that u have foolishly posted this,watch and see wat will happen,they will both be more careful. But if u relax and think everything is ok then u r a fool. I advise u to go to any man of God that is powerful preferably a prophet. They will tell u exactly what is going on. If ur husband is rich, that might be the source of his wealth and contrary to ur belief that u r safe,posting this story might put ur life in danger. Aunty Stella pls posst this asap and even ask the girl for her contact. Some demonic thingss are going on in that house and if DH and MIL get wind that she knows her life myt be in danger.
@bibi u are the second blog visitor bringing this spiritual angle into this first story. all of a sudden this story is no longer a joke, I am just worried for this new wife all of a sudden.
DeleteTruly Stella was right in saying foul play must be involved. Goshhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh may God help you my dear new wife. Spiritual issues when you two leg never rest well for marriage.... gosh i cant deal.
And for those telling u not to leave, I cannt advise u but I can tell u that if it is spiritual, u r better running away. They might not kill u, they might make u run mad, or u will never conceive and if u do one of ur children may die or be abnormal. Anyway oo na u sabi. I advise u to watch,pray and tell a third party,either ur mum or sisters just iin case anything happens to u,but God fforbid.
DeleteThe one I know of is btw my dad n my grand pa. Each tym he comes, he sleeps in my dad's room until my mum stopped it. Infact even us no dey climb my papa bed even wen he is not around. my mum does not play wit ha matrimonial bed even though she has her own room. Dat bed is sacred to us. So I think you have a right to ur matrimonial room n bed poster! Stand ur ground biko to avoid being taken for a fool. forget newly married o, start now to show d things u cant tolerate. N2 Your case is severe biko. Nobody has cheating in their gene. Change d books u read n ur mindset. Cheating is a personal decision. #PreciousIbik
ReplyDeleteN2, cheating is in you and your family members gene.. N 1. Are you sure that woman is his real mother?…I mean as in a mother that slept with his father and carried your hubby for nine good months and gave birth to hubby after 9 months??. If yes, for the first time i will say that mother in-law dose not deserve respect at all, you have to put your foot down, get a cab park her and her load and send her back to the village, after that you call a family meeting and tell them what is going on, please you have to scream very loud for the world to hear before they kill you. This advice is the same advice i will give my own children. Good luck. ABOMINATION!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Don't allow d devil use u in publicising falsehood 4 his kingdom n don't let him deceive u in2 eternal damnation. Go Ãήϑ read, comprehend Ãήϑ digest ur bible well n stop looking 4 excuses 4 unfaithfulness. Its 1 man n 1 woman, n not d oda way round. Did Jesus not come 2 abolish any ungodly law or fact n 2 bring us in2 d knowledge of d truth? My sincere plea is dat u don't be a prey in the hands of d devil. Pray 2 know the truth, Be wise!
ReplyDeletePoster 1: My honest advice 4 u is to watch n pray (shine ur eyes, open ur ears dear n add undiluted prayers)
Good luck
Dah ear on the wall is epic..I think they should whisper the stories there.
ReplyDelete1, this thing always happen mostly to moms with an only child because of the long time bond. But in a case whereby your "horseband" can't stand with you on this then two months of marriage is spelling room. In this situation weh mama and pikin son abandon you, the next line of action is to take it to the Lord in prayer. 2, which kain rubbish talk is this? Oh plss, mbok speak for yourself. If you can't stay faithful say so, its a personal thing don't tag everybody along
ReplyDeleteYeparipa. Abomination!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteGod forbid.
Poster N1, you made a mistake by allowing it d first time. A whole 2 weeks?
Stand ur ground o. Dnt let dem intimidate you. Report them to everybody in d family. Wat Nonsense.Can't deal mehn.
Wch kin MIL b dat, for two weeks!!! Something ain't just right somewhere, don't fight them, talk to ur parents bout it, take ur time endure till u get ur facts right! After make d yawa gas.. But Oga o wot women go through in marriage. Sigh
ReplyDeleteStella you don't always post my comment y?
ReplyDelete#1: Some mothers-in-law are impossible and derive joy in taunting their daughters-in-law. It's wrong on so many levels for a mum to even lay on the same bed with her single adult son, let alone a married son. I think you should have a talk with both of them and get other family members involved, if need be. Your marriage is still at the honeymoon stage so you don't need extra company.
ReplyDelete#2: If you want to base your theory on Biblical principles, perhaps you should start from the beginning (Adam and Eve), one man and one woman. Having said that, men and women are wired differently whether we like it or not, so expecting equality in behavioural patterns is unrealistic. Men are hunters while women nurture. I will put it this way, cheating comes naturally to men. That's why a man can have sex with a lady and not give a hoot about her. To him, sex is physically but to her, sex is emotional. You can't expect a man to behave like a woman or a woman a man. That's the harsh reality but, that's no free pass to cheating. If a man disciplines himself, he can fight the natural urges and remain faithful to one woman. Same way being faithful comes naturally to women that's why it's a big deal when a woman cheats, there's always a reason. To say cheating is in our genes is not correct because women, generally, don't fight natural urges to remain faithful. They only feel compelled to cheat if something is missing in that relationship, unlike men. A lot of men use this as a defence instead of trying to be more disciplined.
Narrative 1:I blame u in the begining sef?What u can't handle ,don't even start it.But,una 4try jst manage 2bedroom until d chudren starts coming ,incase of situations like dis or ur horseband family decides 2pack demselves cum lik say na family houz.U shulda not allowed dt MIL and ha stuff inside ur bedroom dt 1st time coz dts deir 1st test about u cos dem need to see if u're d gentle type dt will jst keep quiet n not challenge her.
ReplyDeleteYou culd also try to sleep with dem in same room in order to frustrate her.Poster there r many many things u can do dear cos u're a woman.
That MIL has no rite to cum n frustrate ur marriage for God's sake.Don't giv her d satisfaction abek.It's time to shake the tree and see what falls o ehen...omo to ni iya ohun ko ni sun re,ohun papa ko ni fi oju ba oruin(pikin wey say him mama no go sleep,him sef no go sleep!Phakam!
Poster 1: are u really sure that woman is your husband's mother? If she is, where is her husband? Pls don't overlook such abomination again and don't let them try that again.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: u sound like an atheist.
Chyqueen it feels good to comment again. Aunty stella is right my dear, sometin is wrong..... dey might be sleepin together.
ReplyDelete@poster1, I'm sure your MIL has never been in any form of marriage or has never experienced true love/romance from any man and seeing you have it on a platter of gold(with her son), leaves her in total jealousy!!! She's beginning to question her son's love for her(your presence is a threat).... Personally, I feel they're not "doing" at all... Your hubby needs to grow up and your MIL needs to come to terms with the fact that her son now has a wife and it's normal for his attention to switch to you. No be everything be jazzz... Some ppl are just "abgayas"
ReplyDeleteAt poster one, there is no room for negotiations. You better call your husband and MIL to order. That is your house and your mil is a guest, treat her as one but with respect. Your husband needs to be educated on what marriage is. I have heard of a true story like this in Benin, the man was sleeping with his mother. Nigeria is full of occultism. Address this situation asap with prayers and confrontations (not quarrel). Apply wisdom to every thing in your marriage. Ask yourself questions. ...how has their relationship been before marriage? Did you ever see things that didn't seem right? Is your father in law alive? Does your husband have siblings? What is the family relationship like? Is your husband a true Christian? ......
ReplyDeleteLook deep into his life....confront him and if he doesn't agree with you ,involve both families. ..as in call for a family meeting. Listen to their conversations. Walk into the room in the middle of the night without knocking. Take a mattress and go and join them in the room to sleep. Make it so unbearable for them,get proofs , see if it results to arguments and if they will say what exactly caused it to people . When in the company of others say it lightly in conversations and see his reactions.
This is a very bad situation but remember God can handle everything.
And to men and women ,please be prayerful in your marriage. Do not jump into marriage without God and proper courtship. Know who you marry. Also Nigerians should know that when a man marries his wife comes first before parents and siblings.....women too. Be good to inlaws but they should know their places as secondary people.
Women be submissive to your husband, men love your wife
As my mother will scream "ologorokpongbo" hian! What will my ears not hear!!! Bia! Poster 1...I smell incest abeg. 'whish' kine of relationship do they have? Better scream out o! Call your hubby's family, someone the both of them respect or is an authority figure and report this "thing" biko. Barely three months into marriage, him don dey pick side? Oh geh! Brace yasef o! Something is going on o!
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I see some sense in what you're saying but I don't agree...being cheating is not a gene thing it's a choice thing...that narrative u just gave is a weak man's response in my view: you can't be disciplined enough to be faithful, you decide to give in to your insatiable sexual desire and your excuse is that cheating is in the genes? Being faithful is for the strong and disciplined minds not weak and feeble ones. With that narrative, you just expressed what sort of mind you have... need I say more?
Poster one..ugini bu ifea e jim nti a nu...whch kain opata b dat...enyim wake dem for middle of nyt n port ha tins to f guest rum.if dem do anyhw call all family meeting o..i dnt take such.nzuzu.na u gt ur hubby...
ReplyDeleteposter 2..u sure nid a lot of jesus n a solid VD...d cheatn in ur gene ll undergo apoptosis ...........JENNY
@well after reading through I think blog visitor (1) still need to ascertain whether dah woman is ur husby's step mother or really a mother,,for now u've no evidence ,and ure insinuating things that would probably make u be at fault shud incase any wahala ensued, wah u should do is insist on sleeping in the room with them and see wah ur husby has to say, not his mother ,just focus ur attention on ur husby and wah he has to say,,if he says no them tell him to come with u to the visitor's room to spend the night together there,that his mother can have dah room all to hersef if he says no then there must be something fishy, dahs where u hv to take the responsibility upon ur shoulders by having a family meeting ,let them explain to everyone the reason for their behaviour.
ReplyDelete@ blog visitor please there's no such thing like dah. A disciplined man or woman can never think of cheating ,,cheating is just an act of selfish lust in other to outsmart one's spouse.
BV 1,
ReplyDeleteThat woman is sleeping with ur husband
Monster in law or not
How on earth will a mother share bed with his married son?
I can't even share bed with my 17 yrs old son, less a full grown married son,
Is either she isn't his REAL mother or
Mother and Son is having it hot
As in very hot while u snore away in the guest room
Call family meeting for their head abeg
But if its me?
Huhmmmm!!
I will so confront them both
I doubt if mother inlaw will return afterwards
I won't fight oooh but I mean
TALK some sense politely into both of them
BV 2! Esien
U re a very confused person and I refused to be confused by u
Thank u
The day my mum even slept in our house b4 we married cos we had some preparation to do before sshe travels back,my hubby frowned at it and even kept grudges me.its absolutely intolerable for her to sleep on your Matrimonial bed.i think you confront your husband.tell him about it and if he does nt listen report to her hubby or aan ellderly one. Shikena
ReplyDeleteStart reporting them to everyone, your father in law, his sisters, his brothers, his uncle, your parents, pastors, yeye woman, na she go first born? Be very very nice and respectful to her but be firm and stand your grounds, go to God in prayers, it is not your battle alone, it is not done!! Fling her things out of your room.
ReplyDeleteHow will I sleep in the guest room in my own house? I don't care if his mum carried him in her stomach for 2 years, why did he not get married to his mum? Useless son and mother.
I hate mothers who do this, if she is not a witch she should allow you guys enjoy your marriage.
Poster 1:wat u sud hv done 4rm d beginning was 2 sleep wit dem in d same room nd ofcourse on d same bed. She wud hv found ha square root by now. Infact, if dey kip frowning wen dey cm bck 4rm deir ''Romantic date'', jst apologise lyk u mean it nd tk ha tins bck 2 ur matrimonial room,den at nyt sleep wit dem on dat same bed. Even snore if possible nd ask 4 ur conjugal ryt,yes! Sex! Strt d approach, if he is claiming shy nd if dey wnt 2 leave follow dem.Let's c who gets uncomfortable. Chikena. No 2 much talk.
ReplyDeleteN1,it seems your husband has a complex.What da heck!And you let her?
ReplyDeleteYour MIL, sorry to say, is evil.And to think that you just got married.
BV's husband,unless you aren't interested in your marriage again,better retrace your steps o.Hmmm
I wonder how the babies will be made, with this attitude.
* tasha barbie *
Please let us know the outcome of this o
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1. Pls put mattrass on the floor in the room. Leave the bed for them. Let all of you three sleep there. What rubbish. That should be the norm if common sense dosent get to them.....an adult man sleeping with his mum.....totally ridiculous.....end their privacy .... What is an adult son and mother doing on the same bed for 2 weeks!! Hian!
ReplyDeleteSomeone has confided in me that her MIL sleeps on their matrimonial bed. 3 of then sleep on the same bed! It didn't deter the MIL oh. They conceived their first child in a hotel. The couple finally separated.
ReplyDeleteSomeone has confided in me that her MIL sleeps on their matrimonial bed. 3 of then sleep on the same bed! It didn't deter the MIL oh. They conceived their first child in a hotel. The couple finally separated.
ReplyDeleteNo1,poster,I wan flog u for saying they are not talking to u,when u are supposed to be d one not talking to them,imagine u even get mind give them food, are u alright? dis ur story is disgusting, I can't even imagine it,..help me ask them which culture is dat? Ur mother in law doesn't want u to have children ooooo,instead of her to be forcing u to enter room with ur husband and give her grand children,she is busy dragging ur matrimonial bed with u,....Better invite his uncle into dis matter if ur father in-law is late,...na serious abomination be dis oooo.....my belly still dey turn me since I read dis ur story,..Your mother in-law is a psycho and ur husband needs to be delivered.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, report your mother-in-law to her husband, if she does not have one, report her to every member of your husband's family and to her Pastor or Imam, this is not normal...
ReplyDeletePoster 2, no, it is not in our genes, it is greed...
@ poster #1, something is definitely not right, i doubt if she is his real mother,before you married this guy, did you dig deep to know who his actual family memebers are, i know some men introduce their mistresses as their cousins to wives and wife will welcome them while they are busy nacking the man, women do it too. no matter how close you are with your son, that closeness is not supposed to get to the extent of sleeping on the same bed with him even when he got married, it is very weird, she should respect her son and his wife and there is even a visitor's room in the house, for the fact that ur hubby is saying nothing makes it all suspicious, look for a way to confirm ur suspicions while u act cooly, look out for his close relatives and ask them questions, i bet you will be shocked at what you'll get. they even went out to eat leaving you behind. did you actually date this guy well enough before marriage? be strong dear.
ReplyDeletePoster 1....everything is just not right btw ur hubby and his mum. how can a mother sleep on d same bed with her son for days?? Height of disgust! Stand on ur ground and dont let them shake you unnecessarily. More over,that marriage is too young to start entertaining visitors in ur home for days irrespective of whoever the person is,,its just 2 months old for goodness sake. Since u said ur hubby visits this blog,,i dont know how you can effectively carry out all the suggestions uv been given here......but put ur feminine prowess into action to know what they are actually up to. God help u ooo.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.....really?? Cheat all you can since it is well embedded in ur genes,,but dont forget to gist us ur sob stories when they start rolling in.
Your husband needs to be flogged. Be very careful because that kind love is not ord love. She is a demon from the pit of hell.
ReplyDeleteI told my husband to get a mini flat because of something like this. My MIL came once when I was home alone but she refused to sleep with me on the bed (we had just one mattress). I made sure she was so comfy in the sitting room and my hubby dint say anything. We both left our room for another sis in law with a baby and when I wake early, I sleep on the bed. I don't understand why anyone wouldn't stand their ground in ish like this. Please, stand firm- eat early since you are cooking for yourself alone, go to bed and play games/pray loudly/ etc to keep you awake and follow them should they choose another room. Be politely rude and make sure you are the happy one!
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ReplyDeletePoster1,
walahitalahi,my blood is steaming as am reading this,are you for real? Your MIL taking over your official quarter? How in hell did you ever agree to having a different room just 2months after marriage? ERIKAN!!! (God forbid) that is your home,sit up and act like the wife that you are,raise hell if you have to,put your effing foot down,throw her things out of that room even if she is his spiritual wife. My dear the kingdom of marriage suffereth violence and it is the violent that taketh it by force not the whining,weakling type. Dress up in your sexiest and match to your bedroom and lie down and wait for your hubby. A man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife,not his mother,father etc. Na bring in elders for this matter o,did her own mother inlaw slept with her hubby when she got married?. Where did this grandmother of jezebel come from? This is more than meet the eye o,a serious spiritual battle coming so get prepared otherwise you will be sent out,the son is spiritually tied to mama. Incest of the highest order!!! Talk to your parents cos dis one pass u o. She has no right to your bedroom not even your kitchen. O girl raise HELL period.
Poster2
Cheating is in our gene? Which gene? Do you have any? Your level of ignorance is ridiculous and your narrative is an absolute insult to stupidity @ its most stupid. So much for brain fog and fading focus..
dat ur mil is a suspect along with her son, as for N2, stop justifying rubbish, i know of a man that has over 10 gals wen he is happily married just bcos he has a car and gave them free lifts, the next thing is some of these gals calling him to ask him to take them to his hide out for sex, pls can there be any justification for that?
ReplyDeletePoster#1 - You must be very young so I will try to control myself and not be too harsh. You said ur hubby reads the blog? You want SDK to help bash him? You want us to tell you that ur Hubby is shining his mother's kongo? OK all that have been said, now what? I know you are hurt by their actions and you want the whole world to know. But my dear this is not how to handle life. You will kill yourself with this attitude. It is not everything that the eyes sees that the mouth must say, considering that you are still in the same house with them. Your hubby might just be a mama's boys. Yes there might be some supernatural connection btw them. But before you send this story in, think about the implication of your actions. Stella she said her husband reads ur blog, for her safety and if she wants to keep her marriage I think it should be brought down (if this post is true o). Maybe after all is said and done and she knows whaz-up then she can re-post.
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ReplyDeleteY'all ranting about the MIL sexing her son,for all we know it could be for diabolical reasons.smh Bv dearie increase your prayer mode to gear 5.all the best.
ReplyDeleteSTELLA DIMOKO .K, Get me no 1 information let me beat common sense into her olumo freeze brain.
ReplyDeleteGIRL ARE FOR REAL ? ? ?
Jesus Christ the son of. God have mercy ! Nne tell me you are JOKING.
My dear,first of all stop fighting them for now,bug that room and capture whatever that is going on there behind you.I pray is nothing,But if something is really happening,LEAVE ! NO EXCUSE OR BEGGING SHOULD CHANGE YOUR MIND.Even if they are not doing anything.Infact,you need to invite who they both respect and settle this.
You know what,i'm just babbling right now & can't think straight now to say any reasonable comment.just play the spy game,then your investigation should determine what to do.
No 2,you are on your own o.have being married for 10 year + 2 year that we dated,AND IDID CHEAT ON MY MAN,NOT EVEN ONCE.But I can't swear for my man that he did cheat or not.So no be everybody cheat,Is not in gene nne.
once again no 1,sorry o.is well with you. You Must you win the battle against MONSTER IN-LAW.
Poster 1: this is a simple matter na. Just sleep with them on the same bed annd even initiate sex and make sure you moan loud enough. Nor be person go tell your MIL say make she run go visitors room. Mtcheeeew! All these winchy winchy MILS sef! May God save us from them!
ReplyDeleteNo 1 poater, I haven't finish reading the story before I screamed
ReplyDelete"What"?
You don't need to eaves drop on them, ask your God to reveal what is going on to you because it is not Godly at all. Also, you don't need to fight your mother in law, why not ask your husband to join you in the guess room and hear what he says? or you join them in the main bedroom and see what they both say?
That is an ill act from your mother in law.
SDKers have spoken well. Abeg no leave your husband alone. Wherever he sleeps, you sure must sleep with him and like someone said ask for sex. Don't even ask for it INITIATE IT! It's your dayum RIGHT! Last thing, nid this nonsense in the bud fast! Yeah, it's nonsense.
ReplyDeletethat's unholy affair. What's ur MIL looking for 2month after ur wedding wen u guys are yet to have kids. Best thing is to pray, physical strength can not sustain u. Something strange is going on but how come u didnt notice b4 u got married or u choose to ignore their closeness, it didnt just start now
ReplyDeletePoster 1: pls and pls where ever d 2 of them sleep,sleep there with them on the same bed and if They leave the house follow them and when they are abt to enter the car rush in too. Get to d root of this or u in for a terrible life if peradventure there is incest involved. The curse will linger so the earlier u find out if he is in an inncestous relationship with his mom the better so u will know ur next line of action
ReplyDeleteNo 1 : I feel you I was almost in the same shoes but as I speak to you my mother in law dare not set her foot in my house. Stand your ground and pray really hard also go to your hubby's wardrobe pray over all his clothes and pants and also work on your hubby prayerfully. I fact mine was so complicated but God won the victory for me.
ReplyDeleteClaudette are you kidding me?coming out of the toilet stark naked at night and she beat you blue and black when you wanted to know?
ReplyDeleteHmmmm you are in trouble oh.
why dont you ask your in laws whats going on?
As in eh.she needs to inform every member of the family
DeleteI'm 98% sure they are kpanshing 1st poster, They are both sick o. Whih mother sleeps with a mature man that has a well functioning d*ck ?? Her son for that matter? Abomination o. Better get a biro spy camera and find out yourself . But hian iT's irritating abeg. 2nd narrative . Cheating is in your bloodand gene together, please speak for yourself . I can't believe you sent in that thrash. Please cheating is not in my gene . Why will a married woman kpansh outside matrimonial home. Na wa for d way u dey think sef o .
ReplyDeleteBia ANNON 3.06 pm, what is wrong with you? im sure ur the type that would sleep in the same bed with ur father and throw ur husband to the parlour. im sure ur still sucking ur mothers breast. what nonsense have u come to utter here? u better shut up. Kai ur comment just bursted my head, i shall come back for u. stupid fellow. ups and downs my arse.. goat
ReplyDeleteI think u should take Iyabeji lati paris's advice @poster2 iyen lo sure ju
ReplyDelete1st Poster, you made a mistake by sending ur story to be posted, knowing fully well ur hubby frequents this blog, just be prayerful...
ReplyDeleteClaudette...ur story is also scary..i feel for u
#1.....it might not be what u are thinkin (incest).....maybe he's a mummy's boy and as such, allow her have her way all d time cos of a certain bond they share due to somtin dat happened in d past( like d death of a husband/father--or somtin else).....but still, he's married to u and nt to his mother.....try to make him understand that by being firm but not harsh......and dnt let ur imaginations get d better part of u......d book #act like a lady, think like a man# try gettin it...u n get some ideas from there that might be of help.......but on top of it all, BE SMART....so u wnt dump everytin on u....one thing is certain, nothing good can come out of wat they r doin....whether it's incest, her telling him hw to treat u or she tryin to make a point about who has the bigger portion of her sons' heart....GOODLUCK
Delete@Anon 3.07P and others of similar elk. Someone recently said when Nigerians are confronted with facts, they resort to abuses. However no amount of abuses, sentimental and wishful thinking can defeat FACTS. I (poster 2) stated the results of many years of scientific research conducted all over the world. I expected any intelligent person to argue the facts instead of replying with abuses. A wise man also said ignorance is bliss. Are you sure your reaction is not as a result of.fear that your.comfort zone is being aggitated? Like it or not those are the facts! Another historical FACT, which you can look up if you are interested in knowledge rather than abuses, is that until a few hundred years ago, the CHURCH declared that marriage was a SIN and refused to have anything to do with it! It took a lot of pressure from politicians before the church recanted. The truth is that the church has tended to oppose almost every new advancement made by man. For example, it campaigned against the introduction of street lamps ( saying if God had wanted the night turned into day He would have said so). It also the steam engine (which led to the Industrial revolution) it opposed the automobile. Said space travel.was infringing on God's domain. It opposed the establishment of schools. These are FACTS of history and no amount of sentiments can change it. Instead of abuses let's debate FACTS.
ReplyDelete#1 Is your husband a real matured man before marrying him? I guess he's not matured enough to even get married knowing fully well that he can't stand and defend his family. Hah! Ihe neme... If your husband goes ahead to sleep wit her in d visitor's room, be calm, pray n investigate. Talk to your husband to tell sumtin you need to know as his wife so that u won't cross d line. This sounds like nollywood movie sha. MR MAN if you're reading this, ask yourself a question, can I really stand up for my wife, do I really love/care for her?You need to ask your mum if she's really your mother if her husband's mother did the same thing to her or not?
ReplyDelete#2 Not in our gene, but your mental stupidity is disorganised n needs to be reorganised. Must you cheat against your spouse just to be satisfied or what? Whatever one does, he'she is fully aware of it nothing like devil/satan pushed me.
U dey one chance o Claudette, my dear you better tell your mum n hear from her, then tell your mother in-law, wait o, don't you have sisters or brothers? She beats you blue black n u kept quiet, that your husband carry curse n you wanna join in the curse, you've put your hands on things you know nothing of. Don't keep quiet forever or else you'll die for nothing. This one pass Zumo rock, d weight no be SDK blog e dey. Na GOD go help you.
ReplyDelete#1 Anon 3.06, are u d man, better wake up and stop that bad attitude. That's how some will say their girls left them when they can't grow-up.
Of course, anony 3.06 is the horseband nau, mummy's pet, see him defending the rubbish, you disrespect your wife and sleep on the same bed with your mother because you guys have been thru highs and lows, will you guys be the first t?, so your own wife should sleep in the guest room ? ? What a silly horseband!
ReplyDeleteTell your mum to sit her ass in her house, if you continue like this, that woman you call a mother will ruin your marriage, no woman will take it.Your marriage is young, baby horseband!
God abeg oh, what am I reading @N1 that your MIL abi na co-wife I go call this one. Please take the advice of @paris please I will like a follow up on this issue so that we can know what happend between husband,mother Inlaw ans wifey.
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