OMG,So hot it has to stand alone....Once again ''he touched what was not his,what he had no right to..boundaries were crossed but SHE said nothing when she found out....why????
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THERE IS A THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE..HERE IS PROOF.
Stella,I love my mum with all my heart as she has sacrificed a lot for me but i resent her, hold on let me explain why. my mum struggled all her life as it was just me and her living from home to home which exposed me her daughter to a lot of sexual abuse which i couldn't tell her as she was struggling with a lot to take care of me, all this started when i was 5. then she finally got married to a presumable good man when i was 13.
He had money,cars,homes everywhere and could afford trips round the world, everything was rosy until he started sneaking into my room at night, this triggered months of depression and no one noticed, i was 14 and suicidal .
he threatened me that my mum was happy and me telling her would destroy her happiness and that she wouldnt believe me, this of course kept my mouth zipped and it went on for years till i left the home for University and i never told mum. many years later i did tell mum she got angry and a week later she told me for the good of the family to pretend it never happened. Truth is she told me he molested other kids too..I really cant understand why Nigerian women stay in marriages with pedophiles on the advice of pastors, anyway i think I am beginning to resent my mum.
Any advice? i am tired of pretending to be one happy family.
*Errrm,are the other kids he molested your siblings?are they all close to your mum?Why dont you sit her down and talk to her?heart to heart.
do you all live in the same house?
Talk to her and free yourself from the hate you carry inside.
do you all live in the same house?
Talk to her and free yourself from the hate you carry inside.
Poster why don't you let the sleeping dog lie??..
ReplyDeleteFocus on getting married and giving your children the best..please move on biko..
Linda nawa 4 u ooooh!! POTABLE VIV
DeleteMove on to what?????
DeleteSee typical Naija woman advice.
DeleteBLOG ANALYSER: Honestly u are in a difficult situation. I pray you get healing soon. I advise you go closer to God. I also recoomend you read Maya Angelou's novels abt her personal life and how she overcame that phase of her life. For now, pls maintain contact with your mother. She is one of the most important figures in your life. U will realise that later. However, stay away from the house she shares with that man. Maintain or keep ur distance from him. I can't say if knew or not? Bt damn our culture for this. However, u should have told her wen it began. Perhaps, she could have fought for u.
DeleteSeriously, this is your advice?
DeleteThis is just like the home-video i'm seeing @ the moment "Ojo Eti". It's so unbelievable. The paedophile (Akin Lewis) actually raped his grand-daughter...that's after sleeping with his daughters throughout puberty. I'm yet to see the concluding part but i think his wife murdered him.
DeleteDear poster, pls move out & find ur bearing. Ur mom is never gon leave that man.
I wtd 2cuss u out but I tot again of d Nigerian scenerio n d elderly woman who hs made home wit a paedophile, robber, ritualist n STILL refuses 2 leave cos she got 2 money, job n does nt want to leave her married home. Shakes head. Poster just leave dt man 4God and pack out of dt house. Ur mother will not wanna leave d wealth n start again. Sad bt true...
DeleteLinda, can u come very close and chop dis kiss.
DeleteAbeg! Madam are u not a nigerian? Move on biko.
Don't even understand what u stand to gain by telling her many years after d occurence.
If u like dwell on it, and mk d incident affect oda areas of ur life, na ur toro kwo cha.
Linda, can u come very close and chop dis kiss.
DeleteAbeg! Madam are u not a nigerian? Move on biko.
Don't even understand what u stand to gain by telling her many years after d occurence.
If u like dwell on it, and mk d incident affect oda areas of ur life, na ur toro kwo cha.
My advice too!
DeleteMy advice too!
DeletePoster, ever considered sending that idiot to meet his ancestors? Please find every excuse you can to stay put in school. Don't ever go back to that house.
DeleteOrisirisi
Your Majesty the Queen, who's the Hottie in the photo?
DeletePls can someone tell me where lindaikeji's blog is abeg..give me the get e new website
DeleteKeep shut! U ve no idea. Don't pray to b in that shoe.
DeleteJezz! Can't believe d tins I see n read. She just move on? Like dat? 2 where? Several sexual abuse from childhood till date u make it sound like it's her fault it happened 2 her? May God help u so u or ur daughtas neva ever find ursef in her shoes. Dear poster Pls stay as far as u can from ur step father even if dat means staying away from ur mum. If she misses u so much let her know where 2 find u or learn 2 fite 4 u.
Delete@ Anon 1, u 4got to add LOCAL!
DeletePink Shell and Linda are one of the reasons why Nigeria is still backward. Seriously?!! Move on?!! That is your lame excuse for an answer? What happened to closure? What happened to Justice?
DeleteDo you know how many lives this paedophile has ruined? Do you know how many children he will destroy with his sickness? Are you guys really mothers? Christians? How you sleep at night?
Wo Poster, l'll advise you to report this sonofagun!! If the family won't take action, report him to the police! If the police take bribes, report him to NGOs that deal with these issues. Never give up. The devil likes secrets. Stand for the truth!! And be proud about it. You have done nothing wrong. It's that sick bastard that should be ashamed. Think of how many innocent children's lives and future you would have saved. As a Christian, Muslim or whatever, you owe it to your Maker! As a human being, you owe it to yourself!
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ReplyDeleteNa wao, things are happening, i understand y ur mum does not want to react, truth is, she doesn't want to lose the good life she's enjoying cos she tinks u are not worth it, try to forget about her careless and selfish attitude and move on with ur life.
My sentiments exactly.
DeleteStrange things are happening. I'm as confused as you poster. Your mum is happy with all the evil things happening around her and especially to her child, all in the name of "living large"?! This is unforgivable. Truth is, she won't leave that man's house, if it's possible for u, you've endured it all the while, pray for God to expose them and give u the peace u desire. Omdz! Can't stop thinking about the trauma you've pulled through, you're really strong. Don't think of vengeance upon your hands, ask God to do it on ur behalf and you'd see how things would work in your favour.
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ReplyDeleteNa real orishirishi.... victims of abuse in whatever form shud never keep quiet about it.... it creates a void deep in their souls n makes them lose out on living
DeleteYou like this orishirishi oh! Hian.
DeleteTalk to who . My mums bf molested my lil sis too .recently when I told my mum she screamed that it was a lie my sis was just making things up ,he didn't dare try it with me cos I hated him like mad at the time without knowing what he was doing to her until lately I would biten off his dick or killed him if he'd done it to me . And I hated my mum at the time for having anything to do with a scum like that .any Person that molests any of my children will be beheaded instantly I won't even waste time going to police or court I'd rather go to prison than let someone destroy them . Lai lai .
ReplyDeleteUr case is different(as u told her almost as soon as it apend).
DeleteUr mum desperately wants company n she tinks she is inlove n dat u all, want to ruin her chance at it.
Plz make excuses for her.
So u sit down there and allow dat man to go scot free bcow he did not molest u? Arebu sure dat ur sister is ur blood? Why cant u fight for her instead of making empty threats on stella's blog...What madebu different from ur mom? Both of u are just d same..Weaklings and retards..I cant even imagine someone molesting my baby sister..Taaaaa dem never born dat person nah!
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DeleteYep. And when u have been sent to prison who is going to watch over your kids from future molesters?
DeleteI thot so
9ja women
ReplyDeleteJesus, serious matter
ReplyDeleteTalk to her again asin? She already told her and she asked her to pretend it never happened cos she is enjoying the Tchelete(Good life) So poster just live far away from them because your mum is not ready to understand how you feel but do not hate her,just hate the fact that she chose the marriage and good life over your feelings.
ReplyDeleteShe has every right to hate her..She is a failed mother..
DeleteFor d 1st chizoba I agree wit u. How can a woman b comfortable sleeping with a man who u just found out ve been molesting ur own child? How dem dey evn pretend that kind pretend? Na wa
DeleteSDK,pls i want you to take a cue from what happend to LIB and safeguard your blog.
ReplyDeleteMay God visit all those who tend to reap where the didn't sow.
Plaigarism abi wetin be d spelling sef? Don't cus me out pls. What if the poster sent many bloggers the same story?
DeletePlagiarism
DeleteI believe this story.....why would any man molest his own blood. I mean there are too many ashawo joints around. There's one area in Sango otta that has like 5 diff ashy house.
ReplyDeleteIts no longer news....what is news is when you expose your violators,yes your mum and her hubby have violated you, oh the sense of relief you will feel...Don't be the 'Nigerian women you talked about, you obviously know your mum is one.think about the other children who will face this if you don't tell....but wait,your mum tho!
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First, pack out of that miserable house, then try talking to your mum but i doubt she will listen to you....she obviously doesn't want to leave her comfort zone (she is selfish). left to me, i will advise u just leave the house and work very hard to be successful in life so that u can help ur junior ones too
ReplyDeleteHmmn i have come to realise that so many mad people are roaming the street, the only difference is that that they are not naked. All this years who knows how many children have fallen victim? hmmn dear poster. your mum is not the only one u should resent, make sure that man pay for what he did. i dont know how u intend to do that but u know him best. use his weakness against him.
ReplyDeleteAll for d money. So dat she wont go back to poverty again so she doesnt mind at ha daughters expense. Chai! You have every right to resent her but just try n forgive for urself. So dat u wont b too damaged to recognize a good man wen one comes around. God Heal You Dear.
ReplyDeleteYour mum is very stupid I must say.she knew he molested other kids and she didn't protect u knowin u were also a child. Na wa o
ReplyDeleteI don't even know what to say.
ReplyDeleteThis is a very delicate issue. I can't deal.
Most women are timid n scared in matters lyk dis, mostly cos of stigmatizatn n shame, n d society wich we live in do little to encourage such women in exposing their men. Its rili a man's world. Bt diais God oo
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Sorry to say but ur mum is a hoe bcos she is so much addicted to his wealth that she dont want to loose it or let anything come between it.....
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Stories like this really annoy me!!!...I should have just walked on by and not bother reading. Cus your mum wants to stay married, she'll rather watch her husband molest kids.*big slap for reading this bullcrap*....
ReplyDeleteAunty stella if i should say mine, it will take yrs. Right now myself and my mum are not in speaking terms. I dont greet her because my mouth gets heavy to. Resentment is an understatement in my case. We were having an argument and she called me all sorts and i replied her and she said am the odd child of all her kids, that am always doing my own, am evil lol smh evil u know! I lived my life for this woman because i always feel like i dont want her to be alone or be depressed i dont party so she wont complain of neglect my other siblings are living their life. As am typing this am in tears but am a strong woman so i will hold my peace. Anyway i told her i was abused and that maybe if she asked me or if we had a relationship she would know that i have deep rooted issues, but the reply was everyone gets abused smh! Some Nigerian parents need a book on how to bring mum children. She is always attacking and ordering me. Is it insult? She dishes it on a platter. Anyway what killed me was in the heat of the argument after i told her how when they were busy working our tenant was abusing me, all d times i was moved from relative to relative i was being abused. You know what her reply was!? She said : and i quote " you were probably enjoying it that's why you did not speak up" ohhhhhhh how i cried that day i was 8 yrs old and you say i was enjoying it. Aunt stella i don't think i will /can forgive her I plan to go to my grave with the hate. We live in the same house but i avoid her like a plaque.... the bible says honour thy father and mother and it also says parents do not provoke your children to anger. i can say she has provoked me a great deal. I am 27 now and i cant even keep a relationship because am just not there emotionally anyway have a good day. Crying is for losers. I will overcome xoxo ( excuse my typos)
ReplyDeleteHmmm @ 27 still staying at home . Wake up 30 is knocking at the door, being abused is not an excuse. I was abused through anal when I was 6 by neighbour in face me and face you house but I was scared to tell but its all by gone.
DeleteMy dear embrace Jesus, give ur life to him, start attending a Bible believing church, and study ur Bible much more, your life would have new meaning and you will be able to let go and hand over ur hurt to Him, He will comfort you
DeleteShe is still your mother although some mothers can be so annoying...
DeleteYour heart is so heavy,i feel it.
DeleteIt seems you always talk to her about these problems in a shouting match,when tempers are high.
Knock on her door around 2am in the morning...sit her down and describe everything you passed through with a strong voice.
Look her in the eyes,without shame..tell her every single detail..it will be therapeutic trust me...you need to let it out,she needs to hear it...every blood that trickled down your thigh,every time they threatened you,the pains you passed though..Paint a vivid picture...then close the door and walk back to your room..it might destroy her oh(cos trust me she loves you) but it will eventually heal your rship...you will heal better if you share it with someone especially her! please let it out!
U did not tell her when u were beiny molested maybe bcos u were enjoying it...I don blame her for saying it...Even if she was very busy it couldnt have stopped u from talking..What do u expect her to do now? Its too late...Just pray to get married and leave dat house for ur sanity sake..Some women are not worthy to be called mothers.
DeleteMy dear, u have to help yourself. Self pity won't help u. Get up on ur feet, get your life back and don't dwell in the past. Don't expect anyone to understand or feel for you even ur parents. You owe urself the duty to make it in life. Get over this hurt, love God and let him heal you. Get over this and allow love into your life. The earlier the better
DeleteI am very sorry all these happened to you. I don't even know what to say to you to make it right, but please try to make it a thing of the past, for what lies ahead of you is so bright. And above all, go to God in prayers. He will heal your heart and mind.
DeleteComments are much appreciated and i feel like for the first time someone heard me! Thank you thank you thank you and God bless ya'll abundantly @ anon, i live in London. living on your own is not beans especially when you are single so yea I AM STILL HOME.
Deletemy dear if I tell you that I know exactly how you feel I would be lying,but my advice is that you should find solace in the word of God.it is well with you.
DeleteU live in london, bt dts d more reason u sld b out of dt house unless ure tied 2ur parents apron strings. Perhaps its ur parents home n ure sulking but still enjoyin d free rent n bills. Move out if u feel so bad, get a job anywhere else in d UK, make friends, get involvd in tins u like, take a trip somewhere nice, sunny n cheap, go 2church, pray and allow God heal ur hurt. One day u will 4giv ur mum. God bless u. Ps: u don't know hw lucky u reside abroad. Oh if reportin 2d police will free u, DO IT. Remember BBC Saville case, its nvr 2late. Lady koikoi
Delete@ anon it happened in nij before we relocated. Anyway! Thank you *mwah*
DeleteHad a classmate who said her stepdad abused her, her mum married a younger man, that girl was traumatised!II get your point Poster, istly move out of d house, cut all ties wt d evil man,let ur mum knw he's d reason u are leaving,she may see reason once she notices your actions!
ReplyDeleteSet the stupid man up..ur mum is one selfish woman sorry to say,she no dey shame ni?? Pls set him up n blackmail him...tins are really happening ooh!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear nigerians will only tell you to pray and to forgive and all of that rubbish. The truth is your mother has betrayed you in every way. a real mother puts her child first every single time. I understand how you feel as i was molested as a child. I understand the anger and hiw heavy it can make you feel but you have to own you. You have to take care of YOU.
ReplyDeleteYou need a string sense of self to get through this. stay away from your mother at least until you are healed. and healing here has nothing to do with church or praying. you have to make your self realise you are the victim here, you did nothing wrong and finally try to put it behind you. You may never forgive your mother especially if she never admits she was wrong to expose you to paedophiles but you may 'get over ' it one day.
take care
Nigerian women even at an old age will quench in a bad and unsafe marriage. Unfortunately, your mother is heaping curses on her head. Remove yourself from that situation now that you know she is an accomplice to his lifestyle. I pray God helps you to heal, your mum is a typical Naija woman that is selfish. Break the cycle and,never ever find your self in such a situation. I pity some of our women. When God visits them with His wrath, they will be jumping from prayer house to prayer house.as for the man, Father expose him in the worst way, let him begin to suffer unrest until he confesses and stops that dirty habit or else let your wrath visit him.
ReplyDeletewell said! i must be Mrs or die, mstchew, i have a friend who remarried, she protects her children like mother hen, how any mother will be this insensitive and selfish bits me?
DeleteNa wa oh! That's life for you, don't hate her, she's simply not.ss strong as you. #One Love#
ReplyDeleteUr step father fingered u till u left for University and u couldn't tell ur mum until now. I know u were enjoying it then. God dey prepare ur judgement.
ReplyDeleteSpeechless....wow, you must be a very very sad and troubled person to write this.
DeleteIf I remember d pix u sent 2 dis blog sm time ago ill swear u didn't type dis. Only a wicked soul will tink someone somewhere enjoyed being molested all tru her childhood.
DeleteDid you really write this with a clear head? Naa... I doubt that. Something tells me you are a bitter old looser that wants to rub off his bitterness on everyone. Or maybe it is something you do to young girls as well and fool yourself with thoughts that they enjoy it. Your punishment will be served in buffet style
DeleteNzube I never insult people, but may your future kids not be molested in Jesus Name, You have the guts 2open your stinking mouth and say that?Godforbid you,no words for you!
DeletePeople like u make me sick.No words for u.Rae London
DeleteNzube I pity you sha.
DeleteWhether am sick or not is not d issue @ least someone is happy accommodating me and my sickness. Everyone is entitled to his/ her own opinion. Funny enough, those cussing are faceless so, no point wasting my saliva.
DeleteNzube 2say m shocked @ur comment wld b putting it mildly. U sld hv kept quiet if u were unsure of urself.
DeleteSDK i quickly scrolled down, away from that snake pic. *shaking*…Kai!…. Poster it is all right to hate your mum. I will never understand why some women will know their husbands are abusing their children and still keep quiet….Hmmm…Poster forgiveness is what will set you free in the end.
ReplyDeleteHmmm ,babes j when you go back to school don't come back home ,always look for excuse not to come back home ,stay with Friends until you graduate and find your fits ,some mothers thou
ReplyDeleteNothing like feets, it is feet. Feet is plural of foot.
DeletePoster, you really have got to move on...try and bury all that happened and forgive mama also...you cant continue to resent her all your life...
ReplyDeleteI wonder why God gave those stupid women children..Its better they remained barren rather than bring up children in dis world and leave dem to suffer.
ReplyDeleteBeing a mother means protecting ur child with ur life..Like i always tell my felow mothers,protecting ur children from peverts and paedophiles shoule be ur number one priority..Daz why i will always love and cherish my dad..He is over protective of us..No cousin or relatives were allowed to come close to us..If i go into details space wont allow me...
D only time i nearly got disvirgin by my big cousin was when mom allowed him to take me with him to lagos even though my dad didnt buy d idea..My cousin tried to force me into havin sex with him..I resisted him and he started treating me badly..i had to go back home and tell my parents..
Things are happening these days.
@ d poster,its alright to resent ur mother..She failed u as a mother.Take matters into ur hands and disgrace dat ur step father..Get him arrested by d police..before dat make sure u getbur mom to tell u those he molested and go talk to them..dey should all come and testify what he did to dem..Dont listen to ur worthless mother..She is a selfish woman and not worthy of being called mom.
Get him arrested after how many years. She slept on her right Biko. Even in law some actions have time limitations within which you can sue. She shld ave spoken up when it started happening.
DeleteThese crimes dont have statue of limitation
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ReplyDeleteSorry poster your mother doesn't want you to sink her ship. What about your dad's relations? You can do without your mother and her sick husband. What if he is using your star to shine? Pls get out of that bondage. Stay far away from them. You can make it on your own. What if you were an orphan wouldn't you have gone on with your life? Would you allow yourself be a doormat because of that? Your mother will choose her husband over you at anytime,trust some naija moms so make up your mind.
Thief money run bt make sure u v graduated oh, so u won't be caught in sch. Tell ur step father 2 pay u 4 it n be saving bcos he pays oda babes outside. Be smart n forget ur foolish mother. Do something useful wit ur life so u dnt end up like her. Carry her Gold, Silver, etc.
ReplyDeleteU mean she should tell d man to start paying her each time he fingers her? Do u reason through ur anus? Did she tell u she was enjoying what he doing to her? Choi! U have ashawo mentality..
DeleteSomething strange is happening to me, I have vowed never to spend a dime on any man,but I just found myself giving my last cash to a man. I met this guy sometime last month, we started dating recently,he is d cool and fashionable type, of recent he has bin complaining that he is broke, he made it sound really terrible, unknown to him I check all d alert he receives through mail, and honestly he has just 11k left but he talks as if he doesn't even have a dime, I have 5k left and I just discovered I walked myself to the bank and sent him my last 5k. Am I ok? How do I survive? This surely no be clear eye. Something is wrong with me, I have never given money to a guy when I had in abundance sef talk more of now I have nothing too. I hope I don't regret this
ReplyDeleteI would have given you a dirty slap if you are here...
DeleteMumu!!..
Ewu!!..
Ode!!..
How can you give a man your last money??..tufiakwa!..if my sister tries this shit,I will disown her..
Rubbish..
He will soon dump your sorry ass..
I would have given you a dirty slap if you are here...
DeleteMumu!!..
Ewu!!..
Ode!!..
How can you give a man your last money??..tufiakwa!..if my sister tries this shit,I will disown her..
Rubbish..
He will soon dump your sorry ass..
He is fashionable and he has 11k in his account..i can imagine how he dresses...of course you know male things are expensive!
DeleteYou met him last month and you are giving him your last cash!
Darlyn don't you visit this blog? You don't read?...
Am sorry to break the news to you,you might actually regret this! Tell him to go meet his folks! Or get another job! Gosh! You might end up paying his rent ooh
Ask someone to give you better slap, you go wake up sharply! Or better still, look for the closest church and collect deliverance!
DeleteLol too funny. Only a month n u r giving him your last cash. Sleep with him n you will sell your family for him. My friend wise up n never never do that again. If he laments that he is broke, join him in the lamentation n tell him how u have not eaten in days
DeleteIts called desperation, don't worry your counterparts full ground.
DeleteChai...nne jes forgive ur mum and move on..dnt hold grudges and don't hate her.She must have endured a lot she didn't discuss with u jes to give u a good life...
ReplyDeleteAm happy u are all grown now,therefore make a gud choice in a man so u won't ve to suffer wat ur mum went thru..Goodluck
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This is sad, really sad.
ReplyDeleteAll I can says, I'm sorry for all that went through. Growing up must have been really traumatic for you.
You have every right to be resentful of your mum: she didn't protect you enough.
But at the end of the day, you have to find it in your heart to forgive your mum and your abuser. It's going to be difficult to forgive them, but that's the right thing to do; it's the only way you can have peace. Cheers!
There are some hurts that simply cant go away but will forever hunt us.Poster please if u have the money, get a self contain for yourself even if u have to beg your mum for it.it is for ur own good and peace of mind.Your mum is jus scared of taking the bold step and standing up for you.some women are jus weak and cant stand up for the truth.I pray u become successful in life so you wont have to encounter such things ever again.May God heal your heart and plz, forgive your mum...Forgiveness is the key and see her as a victim too.God bless you
ReplyDeleteAnon 12;51 well said...........your mum is selfish
ReplyDeleteThe same thing happened to somebody I know. Her mum let the abuse go on for many years because she needed the money and papers so badly. Even when the girl got pregnant she helped her daughter terminate it. She would rather stay with a drug addicted paedophile than leave with her helpless daughter. Her saving grace came when she left for uni...she never returned to that house. I pray she has the strength to finally report to the police.
ReplyDeleteYou might not know her plans for the man, cos no sane woman would still love or want to be with a man that hurts her child. It really your words against his. But if you want to deal with him get him on tape and release it to the media since he's a big shot, there is a Hollywood actor now that was caught on tape admitting to have molested three children.
ReplyDeleteAm sorry you had go go through this horror, don't let it define you, find peace in yourself and live a better life.
This is soo painful,just leave the house abeg,becus seeing your mom will worsen the matter,havind a heart to heart talk will only end with her saying the same thing.Don't hate her.just let her be
ReplyDeleteBympe
Poster, it's all in the past
ReplyDeleteNo amount of resentment towards your mum will turn back the hands of time.
Try and forgive and move on
And use this lesson to be a better mum to your own kids.
My dear, your mother like most Nigerian women are emotionally abused. She does not even know it, please forgive her. See her as one that is ill. What she needs now is support. Keep talking to her, explain why all these things he did are really abominable. If you check it, she must be depressed and in dire need of help. Try and convince her to leave her abuser, as it will go a long way to relieving her emotionally.
ReplyDeleteDear poster... wat u went through is really painful and I understand ur resentment... ur mum chose d good life over ur security, over ur pride, over ur innocence and even over u. she didn't consider u her child who needed her protection. Please, do not be a typical Nigerian woman who bottles things 4 d sake of falsifying a life of happiness which doesn't exist. Please speak out 4 d sake of other children dt myt still be victims and 4 d sake of others who might not have a voice 2 cry out yet... do not consider the reputation of the family... ur mum dint consider ur innocence when she should have.... u'll feel a lot better when speak out... A.B
ReplyDeleteI wonder if she would confront him about it or just keep quiet about the whole thing. It's just wrong. She is not a good mother at all - any woman who would put material gains above the wellbeing of her own child is not a good mum imho. I hate the injustice when things like these are swept under the carpet.
ReplyDeletePoster I can imagine you are hurting, pele. Hugs.
This woman has lost it. @Poster that guy should be exposed but before then make sure you have saved up something in case. Na wa oh.
ReplyDeleteSome men are just agents of the devil Period!
ReplyDeleteAt least she didn't accuse you of seducing him, my dear leave all these foolish women who claim to have suffered for their children. Mschew. Just move on with your life jare, na belle everybody dey find.
ReplyDelete@poster,u jst narrated a yoruba movie called "ojo eti" for us and u r claimin it happened 2u. Pls accep christ jare.
ReplyDeleteOh my God!this is so pathetic,and ur mum said,pretend it never happened!#opens mouth in shock#
ReplyDeleteThis is what they call choosing material things over someone's life!@postter how can u be harassed for so long without voicing out or fighting him somehow?#sigh
It is obvious ur mother chose affluence over u. She decided to shut her eyes to every atrocity happening around her. I'll advise u to forgive her and move on with ur life. I pray that God heals u from all the bitterness welled up inside u.
ReplyDeleteSadly, the society does not help and the ammunition used by the abusers is that they will kill the abused if they ever tried to squeal.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was growing up, I have a sister who is 8 years younger than myself and we had a relative who lived with us. When he tried to force himself on me, I was bold enough to tell him I will kill him and I started taking a knife to bed. Years later, I didn't realise he had gathered enough courage to try the same with my poor younger sister, unfortunately, she was too young and she fell for the "I will kill you if you tell anyone" line. She was usually cold to him but we just thought she was being a teenager until a much younger relative woke up one day to see him trying to molest my sister. Being a very naive girl, she told me about what she saw and I was livid. I immediately asked my sister who confirmed it but said he threatened to kill her. I informed my mum, aunty and other relatives of what is happening and his family as usual naija style, begged my mum and said he was under some kind of spell. My mum simply told him to move out. Not sure of how bad people see it but I just don't understand how some family members still expect us to relate with him like old times because the sight of him makes my sister sick. Better understanding came for us when we moved abroad where people are encouraged to speak up and point out their abusers.
Years later, when some of my siblings found out when he tried another relative who was able to speak up and we defended by narrating our own experiences, they were livid and so angry that no one told them then.
Now his own sister doesn't leave him alone with her children but it's alright for him to do it to other children.
@Poster if I tell you I understand your present predicament,i would be lying but been that as it may,you have kept it all alone to yourself for too long a time and it's good u made it known to your mum.Well am sure she is just trying to protect her marriage at the detriment of your psychological/emotional state and soon she will be caught between YOU or her HUSBAND...
ReplyDeleteBottom line is if the resentment is unbearable,please leave the house!You are an adult,And you can only visit your mum once in a while though it's not gonna be easy but just do what will make you happy.
I hope you find someone that would love you and make all this be a thing of the past
Cheers...
The grt elephant is down flies are feeding on her carcass . Smh . I fear una . But remember what goes around comes around . Wicked ,jealous soul.
ReplyDeleteseriously poster If I were you, I will disown her. what mother exposes her kid to risk and closes her ears and shut her eyes to the cry of that helpless child.
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im so grateful for some of these comment but everyone saying i enjoyed it u never know what happens to a persons physique when they are abused, its emotional and psychological and stains every single relationship makes you desperate for love and you cant say anything cuz of the fear of being labelled a slut from people like you and the children he molested were cousins and other little girls in the house.
ReplyDeleteHi, I tried postin this yesterday buy wonder why it wasn't published. Your is quite similar to that of Joyce Meyer( a preacher). I cannoy say that I am in the right position to give you an advice because I have never been in your position but, Joyce Meyer who even suffered more can give you an advice. Go on youtube where there's a video she tells her story a well as gives her advice. One thing I remember she said is that all her struggle has made her who she is today. Don't let your situation be a set back but a set up to the Great woman God wants you to be
ReplyDeleteGod please save my daughters from molesters.
ReplyDeleteWhich yeye 'good of the family?' A selfish mother she is. Molest children and I do nothing? Even my own join? Hell will be let lose. The world will know he is a paedophile. Shameless he - goat.
ReplyDeletePls stay far from such evil.
Which yeye 'good of the family?' A selfish mother she is. Molest children and I do nothing? Even my own join? Hell will be let lose. The world will know he is a paedophile. Shameless he - goat.
ReplyDeletePls stay far from such evil.
Shut up what has your predicament got to do with a pastor? Your mum is irresponsible and she should be bold enought to confront her husband....of course she doesn't want to forgo the goodies she is getting from the husband... Speak out so you have your peace....he is not your father so you have nothing to loose......your mum is selfish but for you to heal you need to speak out....
ReplyDeletePink shell and nzube you are both bastards......your daughters will be molested and they will never know peace in their lives....bitches, your mothers are total failures.......bloody bastards
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