Having a deformity should not define or limit you......
The eyes of the world wil only see what you let them see,they only judge what you let them judge!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
PHYISCALLY HANDICAPPED AND FINDING LOVE
''Good morning Stellz and all BVs. I've been a follower of this blog for some weeks now and I must say that I feel loved here. Stella please hide my identity. I no want shout. Lol.
I've been bothered about an issue for a long time now and I'm feeling depressed. Just felt I should talk about it here to ease the pain in my heart since you guys are like my family.
I have an issue with my right leg since I was a baby, according to my mum though I wasn't born this way and it makes me limp when walking. I've been asking myself a question that scares me which is "will I find a man who will want to marry me like this?
In this era where we have hot chicks all over the place"?
This has made me suffer inferiority complex and pain silently. I'm a graduate though and I really want to be happy and also have a family of my own. Just asking if anyone has seen someone who is in my situation and is happily married. Sorry for bothering you guys. Do have a splendid day ahead''.
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
FINDING LOVE? YES YOU CAN HONEY
*Awwww...why dont you get an Orthopaedic shoe so that you dont have to limp?Or better still when you buy shoes,take them to any shoe maker nearest to you and get them to make the right shoe higher and that way you dont have to limp cos i know it must be hurting your nerves to do so.
As for finding a husband...when he finds you,he will love you despite the limp or whatever deformity you think you have.
I had a 9 hour surgery on my right leg years back because i had been involved in an accident long ago and the -k leg look was badly pronounced. Sebi na so I take marry young handsome man?It was even my hubby that forced me to go under the knife because the pain was beginning to take its toil on me.
They dismantled the right leg with something that looked like cutlass and held it back together with nails and screws.I wasn't allowed to walk for three months and then i was on crutches for another five months and today my legs are not perfectly straight but definitely better than it was and sexy and I love me just the way I am.You gotta love you
Nobody is perfect and if anyone doesnt accept you the way you are then they aint meant for you,keep it moving and stop worrying,love will find you and when he does he will look for ways to help you reduce the limping.
People here who walk with limp have special shoes and you will not know the limp unless they take off the shoes or you look at the sole of their shoes to see that one has special features....anyways, it doesnt matter.
I hope my story encouraged you?*wink*
share your story if you got.
Love will come dear. I've seen lots of psysically challenged people in love and loved back. Just hold on, have faith, impossibilty is nothing.
ReplyDeleteI know someone who had an accident as a child, which deformed her leg. One of her shoes is usually 6inches higher than the other. She is happily married today with a son. She has a lovely family and a loving husband. So my dear, be proud of urself and specially make ur shoes so that the limp will not be quite visible.
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ReplyDeleteSo dis kain tin dey pepper u but u go open mouth anyhow and spew trash...Dis is just d begining..I'm sure u dont know who she is cos she is not s only person on ur bbm..Anu ofia!
DeleteWhy did u delete ur fb?
DeleteDon't mind the stupid ashawo girl....
DeleteYou're not my family or bf, I have nothing to explain to you.
DeleteAnswer d question oo...dnt jst b formn akpu obi fr here
DeleteChizoba aka mad woman. Funmi knows nothing gets to me.
DeleteYou even have time Jayem, don't u know that some people take this blog farther than was intended? Everyone here is faceless so why bother about people who don't know u? They'll form gist and try to relegate ur person, meanwhile they have no clue who u are, just as u don't know them too. So why bother ur head? Anyone can be who they wish here, pseudo characters everywhere... if u know u are real to yourself, then don't bother to convince any ass otherwise. The ones with blog names will still go anonymous to criticize u so that their names are not featured too many times as being ur stalker Lmao....
DeleteSo just enjoy it jare. No be blog? Biko don't blink. Ta
Stella has said it all
ReplyDeleteLuv urself n others wil follow
**sttrollsaway**
Omg Stella! Ur surgery details r soooo vivid
ReplyDeleteMusta been in alotta pain
Sorry boo
Poster, u will find love. The type that will make u pinch urself every minute to be sure it's real
Today is a good day to sleep with someone's husband :)
ReplyDelete1000 words for you: MAGUN!!
DeleteToday is a good day to die
DeleteToday is a good day to die
DeleteYes dear! You can find love, but you have to love yourself first and allow it radiate from the inside. A friend of mine met his wife on a wheel chair 8yrs ago, married her that same year on that wheel chair, and now they have two lovely kids together. Just love yourself, and let God. Cheers!
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You must first love yourself before anyone else will love you. Be confident. I believe there is a man for every woman, your man will come.
ReplyDeletecome on honey! that is not a limitation.
ReplyDelete*a beautiful woman married cobhams despite the fact that he is blind.
*I have a friend with a bad leg, she limps too but damn you need to see her husband?? OMG!
lemme tell you how they met..she was about to cross the road (zebra crossing) some impatient drivers didnt want to stop, so he stopped, flagged other cars down and she crossed, she turned to him, smiled and mouthed 'thank you.'
dude drove a bit further, reversed his car, called her..
they chatted for a bit, exchanged numbers and as we speak..they are married with three kids.
the man, he is rich, 'foine' and godly. people till today wonder why her amongst all the beariful gerhs all over. (na so God de do im thing)
he doesn't joke with her... always putting her first in everything he does.
I always tell her God has ordained her life to be blessed.
so my dear...throw that complex out the window. you are as okay as everyone else! people may not notice your limping, your complex might just be what brings the notification. stop it!
Yes you will honey.
ReplyDeleteNever ever look down on yourself. You're fearfully and wonderfully made.
Relax darling! Enjoy ur life anyway u can. Happiness is not tied to a penis. Culled
ReplyDeleteHmmm what a Odd World #emdossupernova
ReplyDeleteLol. So narrative number is advice for narrative number one or am I missing something or didn't read well. Nice one
ReplyDeleteNarrative No1
Please don't let your leg discourage you, most men don't go for the hot chicks this days, they go for women that have inner beauty, women that can make a house a home. So just work on your characters and be good, nice and caring person and your missing rib will surely locate you.
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Congrats I heard the good news.
DeleteThat he has finally gotten a job and will stop jumping from blog to blog?
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ReplyDeleteU will find a husband definitely, just try to look good at least to attract men, if u are beautiful is an added advantage, but if u are ugly then ur case dey God hand. Good luck dear.
Yes there a a man out there that would love you no matter how you look that I know for sure.
ReplyDeletei feel ur pain dear,u are not alone.My own is my head,i av wat people call 'ugu' and i always have to be on weaves most times.I'm a christian and i attend a church that doesnt allow earrings or weaves but i cant be a worker bcos that will mean me without weaves and the true shape of my head will be revealed.It hurts a lot
ReplyDeleteI can assure u,ul find a good man dt wud respect and love u just d way u r. Ur physical looks shudnt define u. Its Wats inside dt matters hun. :)
ReplyDeleteSeriously I have a man who limps and say he wants to marry me,i don't want to marry him,the reason I don't know
ReplyDeleteThere is a lady I know of who limps she's not yet married but dating and happy,my friend then had an accident which affected her leg and she limp,she is married today with 3kids.
I would have experience the same thing long ago when I jump out of a moving car and the tyres crush my right leg,thank God I had special treatment, I could not walk for months and when I finally do I was limping for some days and now my legs are so sexy nobody would known I had broken bones, don't worry you man would come and you will have your own family
First poster I understand you but please first you need to believe in yourself before others can.I have a girl in my office she limps really bad.She had a terrible accident in secondary schl and among her mates,she was d only one that survived.Infact they had already packed her up to the mortuary before they noticed she was moving. Today she is a graduate,Married and she has two kids.I look at her leg and wonder how amazing that was,it's God.
ReplyDeleteThere is another in my church,she is a graduate now and a fashion designer and she is good at what she does,she uses that same leg. The list is endless
There is a man for every woman no matter how deformed,ugly or broke you are. Look at cobhams,You watch him and pity his fate but he is happy with his life. Biko poster,love yourself
BV dn't mk me say u re suffering from low self esteem o......dn't worry dear,u will find sum1 who will love u 4 who u re...just hold on to GOD
ReplyDeleteawww at poster you will definately find love...ur deformity aint a hindrance
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Hummm dear if some of d people here tell u dia stories/problems den u will know dat urs is still a learner. Well u are new to dis blog sha jst relax and keep reading d CHRONICLES den u will understand wat am trying to say...... all in all always know dat positive thinking brings in positive results same with negative thinking d choice is urs.....
ReplyDeleteU don't ve to feel bad, the right man shall come ur way before u kn it. Amen.
ReplyDeleteMy dear blog visitor dnt feel terrible abt ursef..i hv a doc friend nd she has a problm wit her leg too..meaning she limps..but today she is happily married to a fellow doc nd has two kids..nd dey r happily married..I also knw a girl too who is a doctor in d US she suffered from polio nd one leg is shorter dan d other,but u need to see d way she carries her sef ..like d world is at her feet...she even bam pass pple wey dir leg dey ok...nd she is so polished...she is living her life to d full...so my dear dnt feel sorry for ursef...All u need to do look beautiful ,carry ursef like every oda girl nd pray for God to give u smone dat sees beyond dat leg of urs..Also be a cheerful girl nd hv a good sense of humor ..dat my frnd dey even use dt her leg make joke nd if she querell wit u b4 u curse her leg she go first yab hersef ,so u no go see wetin u go yab her wit..or u can tk stella's advice nd fix ur shoe..but my problm wit dt idea be say hw many shoe u go fix?..anyways just be ursef nd love ur sef more..never seek validation frm someone for ursef...dat way ppl can never look down on u.God choicest blessings...
ReplyDeleteBabe, ur disability shldnt define u, rather ur xter, put dat in place, and men will bow @ ur feet, moreover work on ur self esteem, nobody can like u more than YOU
ReplyDeleteMy cousin limps,forget it o,she get toasters pass me sef.no big deal jooo,my dear boost yur self esteem.soo tii gboo.yetinde.
ReplyDeleteMy cousin limps,forget it o,she get toasters pass me sef.no big deal jooo,my dear boost yur self esteem.soo tii gboo.yetinde.
ReplyDeleteI just love you Stella...@N1, pls know that there is a man for every woman..itz either he finds you or God will take u to ur man cos nah so bible narrate am...all the best
ReplyDeleteMy cousin limps,forget it o,she get toasters pass me sef.no big deal jooo,my dear boost yur self esteem.soo tii gboo.yetinde.
ReplyDelete@N1 what you see as a handicap is actually a blessing for you. Many shallow men who would want to use and dump you will not come near you but it is a good thing. You will have a few but genuine suitors while the hot girls will be passed around after being deceived not knowing the men are only interested in their looks. So for you it will be quality not quantity.
ReplyDelete# to add to the story shared, try developing on urself, just be urself and confident cuz i knw we arent defined by just out apperance.
ReplyDeleteN1...ofcourse darling, ul find a good man to marry you, u sef no get problem! listen up...I have an aunt who was crippled in childhood by polio, I mean she was literally crawling on the floor! A stinkingly rich man met her, married her that way and pumped millions on her spine abroad on numerous surgeries...as I speak with you now, she's almost erect even though she's bent a little...it was just a miracle! guess what? She has 3 lovely kids and still married to the same man for over 15yrs!
ReplyDeleteMy dear...marriage no be matter of chic or I fine pass, all those could work for runs but not marriage biko! marriage is just God's favor. After school, the first set of girls to get married were the girls people felt didn't know how far, including yours truely, lol. Many of those "chics" are still hustling for man..agbachaa oso aguo mile!
btw, biko work on that complex of Urs ASAP..it puts men off! Strive to improve urself daily and exude confidence. All the best.
Waoh!
DeleteJst a limp? Com c dos wit single leg nd single arm..my dear, ur own case NA akara..luv wil find u wen it tym coms
ReplyDeleteon my way to work this morning just as i was climbing the pedestrian bridge to take the brt to obalande from oshodi na so one guy just ask me where this is i said oshodi,immediately conco changed to "na one woman send me from cotonou "before him finish pronounce nou i screamed at him eh"with one kind fine accent that i suddenly develop each time i am upset "leave me alone" na so him shift passersby were starring at me like is she mad?the guy started acting all confused met another chick almost immediately oh i think she gave him no attention too.Just as i got down from the bridge another miscreant with similar lines walked up to me with the same is this oshodi and cotonou woman line,i was even speak na so i just wave hand after saying this is oshodi biko i hear they use jazz.People please be careful oh,i was lucky alert because i have been hearing this kind of stories.God protect us all in this Ember month oh.Ignore my errors.
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*clapping for Ronke*
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N2. Your story is really encouraging. N1. There is something about love, it looks beyond the physical. Hold your head high, your situation is not as dire, their are some that are crippled, blind, deaf e.t.c they still find love and are happy. If you have the means you can do as Stella suggested.
ReplyDeleteFor narrative 1:
ReplyDeleteI am happily married to this fantastic woman and I got a condition that has impacted both knees, my left hip and both ankles and the risk of further deterioration exists, and my wife knows all this.
I use a walking aid and got deformities. Further, I got real nasty arthritis pains.
Yes I would sometimes struggle with my self esteem but most of the time, I have a smile and a very positive, upbeat attitude to life.
I work and even am in a management position with a reputable firm.
Just in case you are saying its cos I'm a guy, I should let you know that I know a chick whose leg is so bad she almost touches the ground when walking but she always has a smile on her face, a personality so strong and positive its contagious. Whats more, she is never short of male company, even turned down enough men.
Half the time, men want to be with her and protect her and care for her, rather than avoid being with her.
Really my sister, when I sit with this babe, I don't see her legs, I only see her personality and the fact that you can't just help laughing and having a good time when around her.
Nothing do you my sister, except maybe your attitude which you can start working on today and men will come. You'd have you pick too...
Love life and live it well while waiting.
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I had a terrible accident in 2005 and dat left me deformed in d left leg,I have a 4inch shortening and I wear a special raised shoe,I limp when I walk too. But that didn't stop me,I got a degree in Elect/Elect Engr. I also opened up a foundation for people with disability. I reside in PH and am happily married to ur brother from Delta(am from Akwa Ibom). We got married in 2013 Nov. And God has been good to us. On our anniversary,I ll send u my pix to post in ur blog as an inspiration to other. Tell that lady to be strong,true love will find her.lol. God bless u dearest sis.
dear poster1......" Only you can make yourself feel beautiful". Please do a google search for Chantelle Brown-Young, her story has inspired me, i hope you get inspired by her story too. My advice to you is to accept limping and never look at it as a deformity. you cant expect someone to love you if you cant love yourself more. My boyfriend stutters but that ddnt stop him from toasting me and it ddnt stop me from falling for him. He is beautiful to me. You should learn to love yourself more.
ReplyDeleteYou would definitely find love.....My mum always says 4a short girl, there is a man who loves them short..
ReplyDeleteIF I TELL YOU THAT I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL IT'S BECAUSE I AM IN THE RIGHT POSITION TO SAY SO BECAUSE I'M DEFORMED...THOUGH I DON'T LIKE TO USE THAT WORD. I HAVE A 60 DEGREES IDIOPATHIC SCOLIOSIS WHICH IS BY FAR WORSE THAN YOUR CHALLENGE! STOP COMPLAINING!!!!! GOD OFTEN PUT A CHALLENGE IN A MAN'S LIFE IN OTHER TO KEEP HIM WITHIN THE RADAR OF HIS MAKER.
ReplyDeleteI KNOW A OF A PROFESSOR OF MATHEMATICS WHO MARRRIED A BLIND LADY. THEY MET WHEN HE WAS JUST A YOUNG LECTURER AT 33.
GOD BLESS NIGERIA.
The most important thing is 'You'. Never see yourself differently. The correct guys are looking for peace of mind in a babe not the small coma or anything. I tell you, believe me, it doesn't matter. One more thing, always wear a cheerful look, that is the first attraction!
ReplyDeleteThis is to inspire you babe,true love will find you.
ReplyDeleteThe right side of my body is totally different from the left;diff skin,diff sizes of breast,dunno how to explain it better to you but momma told me I was born like that. My face and stature is one of the most beautiful God created,so if I don't undress b4 u,you won't know. Na me dey get toasters pass amng my friends,even up till now. Guess what darling,am married to the most amazing man on earth,he loves me more than anything else in this world.
So my dear,work on your confidence,you'll be surprised when love comes ur way. E-hugs darling
Dear poster ur own is just limping, na small na. I had this friend that served with me way back, she was a Polio victim as a baby, she does not only limps but one of the legs is shorter I tinier than the other, making her to wear only slippers. She no even fine for face oh. But she got married before must of us that think we are whole and cute. Did I forget to mention? She has 3 wonderful kids now. So u have to be positive and the right man will come ur way.
ReplyDeleteOnly limp,u dey complain wetin you want make those blind,deaf n dumb talk,abeg begin dey praise God ,urs is nothing , husband ll definitely come at d ryte time ..keep cool
ReplyDeleteStella some APC members came to my office to see my boss my boss was not around the guy that came in while others are waiting outside inside. Their car stole my BlackBerry. Phone they came from Abaji I will recognize him when I see him because I have seen him before on Monday when they came to collect money they are using to campaign for kwakwoso. Ada Agulu said so.
ReplyDeleteI know of a pharmacist in onitsha that has polio. She is married with kids and owns a really big pharmacy.
ReplyDeleteFor every woman there is a man
ReplyDeleteFor every man there is a woman
Poster be patient
Your husband is out there making money for you and your kids
So just calm down and pray for him
Forget about the leg
You re special
Na u go marry first
ReplyDeleteMen like it when you are dented.
That's why you see men marry an ugly chic, poor chic,cancer patient, hiv patient, beautiful and poor chic, brilliant and naive,after 4, blind, lame, village girls ,faster than Miss independence or Miss I have it all together.
Those people will respect them better.
Moreover Men like damsel in distress,they love to hunt and they love to rescue.They love where they are needed.
Be fragile and be strong.
Nne, you don marry finish...congrats. There is always a man somewhere that will love all about you.
The question is not if you will marry...the question is how to keep his blokos in his pants. These days, some of these men cheat on all and sundry , they cheat on a woman with a man. Don't bring in a houseboy either.
XOXO MYSTERY
You see dear, you will find the one person that truly likes you. Deformity and all.That was how this friend of mine felt when we all were in school. When we get stopped or anything, she just moves knowing no one can actually come her way. So bad. i can't even remember what happened to the leg right now, but most of it borders on negligence. She was an okay girl but the leg was bad. You'll be surprised she got married before any of us. Super rich mature, quiet dude.
ReplyDeleteHer wedding was so touching, when she was asked to kneel to feed her hubby, hubby got up and announced that he wants to buy his wife's efforts. (i no sabi as Yoruba dey talk am) Mo feh ra ikunle iyawo mi. Just so she doesn't have to make the effort at standing, let alone going down on her knees. Na so this man drop 500k as 'owo ikunle'
The hall went wild. The 'alagaduro was just jumping like she had gone berserk.lol My friend couldn't stop crying.
And you have a limp! A limp? For every man, there is a woman.
Pardon any typos - if any.
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My dear BV!
ReplyDeleteLove will surely find u
As u read our own SDK
If she can do it then u can!
Just boost ur self esteem as that is what u need 1st!
I wish u luck babes!
stella. what does your husband do for a living biko? you seem so proud of him. God bless your home
ReplyDeleteMy dear, don't worry yourself at all. I had a neighbor with deformity caused by polio. I mean, one of her legs is very tiny and she limps. This lady married before her two beautiful elder sisters (Those ones were as proud as a peacock). People were shocked about the kind of man that married her.
ReplyDeleteBelieve me not all men are vain. Some look for inner beauty.
I pray you come to testify soon! Rose
Poster u will surely find love,just be positive.
ReplyDeleteMy dear,dont worry,it is God that perfects all things.I have a friend who had polio when she was a child,she limps when she walks but today she is married,her husband luvs her so much that his first car was in her name.she was the one driving the car cos She makes lovely cakes in lagos.Now the husband is so boxed up thjat he bought another jeep for her.Just trust in God and you will keep smiling.
ReplyDeleteProfessor married a blind lady...
ReplyDeleteWicked men everywhere
Choi
Not every story is love ooo,
He may be cheating oo
He can even carry a woman to the the guest room and the wife won't know. He may tell the wife that they are his cousins, she won't know.
Some Men like thrills a lot
XOXO MYSTERY
My dear search for Nick Vijucic on facebook or Google, and then u would thank God that u don't have a problem at all, by the way, he is happily married to a beautiful woman & they have a beautiful normal child. Nick was born without legs and hands, yet he's travelling all over the world inspiring & motivating people, leading them to Christ
ReplyDeleteWat of Cobhams, best music producer in naija, he's married to one correct lady and they have a child
Send a facebook msg to Karachi Dimbo Atiya and even though she wears braces on one leg, she's married to a celeb who is madly in love with her and praises her always
Dear poster, work on your self esteem. I dont know of you would consider mine a disability. I developed strabismus as a child due to an accident, thats what people call 4:30 eyes. I didnt allow the abuse and taunts stop me. Today i have a masters degree from a top world university in the Uk, married to a fine man and have the most handsome son. My dear life is good. So raise your head up and do not pity yourself. It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster, am a young lady with scoliosis, tot I would be nothing in life, bt I am a graduate with a very cool job and a sweet handsome husband that dots around me. So dear, the Lord is still on the throne. Pls cheer up
ReplyDeletesweetie, your own would come.you need to see my husband his bow legs are alomost a deformity. he prctically walks like a cycle.not to praise myself but, i am very fine, tall and shapely . i even won a beauty contest in my state. But i love my husband with all my heart in fact when i see him limping towards me, my heart beats faster even after 5years of marriage. i love how he walks, love everything about his physique. i just dont encourage him to wear shorts outside the house.lol. Relax you will meet your own.
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