Whistling Blowing On A Cheater Inside The Family -Blog Visitor Narrative

The Narrative you are about to read happened about a forthnight ago but played itself out conclusively a few days ago and now she is faced with telling the truth or lying about the situation....

She saw something she shouldnt have seen and telling the truth will cause unrepairable damage...

Not saying anything at all is slowly killing her...

She has brought this story to this blog because she is terribly heartbroken and needs to make up her mind fast...

Please read this story well and advice accordingly..

After reading through your comments,she will make the call or forget she saw or knows anything

NOTE - This incident happened about two weeks ago and she didnt want it posted but sent me the mail to advice her....however this situation has an update which is underneath the original mail.The beginning of the narrative is exactly as it was written two weeks ago.

''Hello Stella,

I am so heart broken, super confused and totally regretting i witnessed this whole shindig.

I have been very very busy because i have family (cousins wife, sisters kids and a friend) around for summer holiday and i had a new project at work so it has not given me so much time to comment. Everyone has gone back to their places of abode except my cousins wife. 

My cousin and I are so close and he is hardworking, he does construction contract and owns a pub in Abuja. He is good looking and a cool dude. He got married in 2011 so it was only natural that i and the wife get close because i am close to him, as God could have it i am now more closer to the wife than i am to him. She is very pretty, has a kid and so sweet. Very humble despite the fact her hubby hold scatter and she is very respectful. Everyone in the family loves her she is such a sweet heart.

We talk about everything and even about my cousin, if it is the one he can fix i will use style to hint him and he will do some nice things too.

Example in 2012, she lost her first baby at 4 months and she was so heartbroken, but you know sometimes men do not know how to grieve with the wife cos they feel after all the baby was not formed. So she complained that he was not sensitive to the fact she lost a baby and he has continued working as usual and even making jokes about making another baby so that she will forget the loss. I hinted him and he was so sorry and said he didn't know she was hurting ooh, and thought that since it was still four months it wasn't a big deal. 

At the end of the day he took 10 days off and they went to Barbados to chill and makeup for his insensitive side. She called me and said how sweet he was, and how he even apologised and got her a lil gift and she was the one that said let them make a baby there in Barbados. And that is how her son came about 9 months later.

Recently she came to visit me in Houston, meanwhile she went to see her aunty in New Jersey before coming here. We are really close she tells me every every. So last week Friday while we were having drinks (margarita the truth drink), she said that there is this guy (the guy is biracial, Ethiopian and white american) she knew him while doing her masters in the US in 2009/2010 before she met my cousin, she said the guy is in Houston and works with Halliburton and the guy is inviting us for drinks.

In my mind i jumped on it because i thought, she might be trying to set us up because i am single. I asked for the guys name, FB and IG I looked through the guys Facebook and Instagram and he seemed like a legit guy. So i was excited and waited for the day we all go out. 

This past sunday we went out and the guy was cool, took a genuine interest in me, talked about my career, parents, Nigeria and everything under the sun but i was just in aww cos of his dreamy eyes. And they also caught up with each other on their school past and her kid etc. After the hangout, we exchanged numbers.

On our way back i noticed she was very quiet, so i told her he seems cool and will be open to date him if he ask for a date. she was like "do you think he likes you or me"; i was shocked and i teased her, saying you want to have hubby and side man that she is greedy ooh. Well the day progressed and i got a call from him the next day (labor day) to have picnic in the park. I jumped on it and as soon as i dropped the call i rushed to tell her; her response to me was "he didn't ask of me", i said no. She said well she cannot be home all by herself that she will join me. I told her that i think the picnic won't be long at most it will be 2 hours. I suggested dropping her off at the mall so she can shop and then on my way back i will pick her up, she agreed. 

I am not to sure of when i dropped her off but i will say around 2:30pm, by 4pm she was blowing up my phone and that off the guy. I and the guy later agreed that it was unfair to leave her stranded so we quickly wrapped up the picnic and we both drove to the mall. She feigned anger with me, and told me she will ride with the guy. I said okay to it and we decided we go get froyos and chill out a bit. It was a good time and we hugged and said our good byes.

The guy and I have been texting and talking often since our Monday date, and so he mentioned that he will be taking my cousins wife to the outlet mall on wednesday which was yesterday because he is on training this week and gets off work by 3pm. I waited for her to tell me but she didn't.

 I had no issues because she asked me but i told her it will have to wait till a weekend because i have a new project in the office and i can't take a day off or get off work early. So i was happy he could because it will save me going there.

The twist: She didn't tell me and i got back home by 6:30pm and she was not back, i text her and she text back that she is at her friends place in Katy and might stay over. I was confused because i thought she went to the outlet mall. So i quickly called him, he didn't pick but text back that he will call me back. He called back 15 minutes later, i asked him about his trip to the outlet mall and he said they were done and dropped her in Katy. 

In my mind, i was like did she get to shop because let say he got off by 3pm from his job and it took him 30 minutes to get to my place to pick her up which is off Westheimer, then another 30 - 45 minutes to outlet mall, she shops for an hour or an hour and thirty minutes. It is now rush hour now, and will take them a long time to get to Katy at her friends. I shrugged it off, because i didn't want it to seem like I'm checking her movement so i text her saying 'please be safe and call incase you need anything or me to pick you up". Before then i called and she didn't pick up.

This morning on my way to work because i left later than usual because i woke up late (i normally leave by 7pm but left by 7:30 am). while waiting for the apartment complex gate to open i see him dropping off my cousins wife. She had a small bag (no shopping bags) and while looking hard to see him in the car, he looked dressed for work. I stopped and pressed on the car horn so they know i saw them. She had a shocked look. 

She has been blowing up my phone since then and texting that she needs to talk that it doesn't look like it appears. Then he text me "i am sorry, i can explain" and he has been calling too. I refused to say nothing to all of them.

I have been writing this mail since i got in here. I am so pissed, disappointed, disgusted. I don't know how to feel... Plain old gross. What do i do now? My cousin is a good guy really? How do i mend the trust and sisterhood we once had? I am so sad. Cant even concentrate  on work today? I refused to call or tell anyone in the family because they really like her and they will see her in another light? Everybody likes her? Do i just forget about it and we move on? 

Please advice me really quick so i don't do the wrong thing. I wish it never happened, i wish i didn't see him drop her off so i still hold unto the belief of she was at her friends. I wish i left early to work. My mind says just clean mouth and forget you saw it. I do not even care about the guy at this point because i just met him so nothing attached at this point. Please Stella i know i do not know you personally but please just give me you honest advice please as if you were in my shoes.

Update: After a week of scrutiny and questioning of the both of them. Finally she admitted she had sex with the guy. It went from, we just kissed, to he just touched me to we had sex! she has been begging and begging that she will never do it again. I didn't tell her okay i won't tell; but i said i want to think about it so that i know what to do. Since that day she calls to beg me, text me etc. I had to block her number and the guys number to get a clear perspective to think.

I have a friend we go to same church (lakewood), he doesn't know my family, he doesn't know her, i chose a neutral person so that it won't be a biased situation. i told him and he said that he will tell and leave the decision with my cousin to forgive or not because it is not my decision, he shouldn't be carrying another persons burden for them. 

I have had over a week to think hard and prayed about it and i was convinced that "if this is my brother, i will tell very fast because i will not want him to be in a relationship with someone that cheats on him".

Please i beg you please post the story below, same one i sent earlier so i can have a view on what others will do please i beg you.

Your blog has reached out to lots of people and i want to have a broad perspective on this i beg you''.

*Babe I already told you my say on this,let the other neutral people tell you theirs.

At the end of the day,the decision to make the decision lies with you alone...Do what gives you peace of mind.Please let us know what you decide to do.