When people say a woman that cannot cook will not be able to keep or get a good man what do they really mean?
Are you of the school of thought which believes that a woman's cooking defines her?
Why do some men making cooking a criteria for picking a wife?like WTF!
I know a man who was looking for a wife amongst three girls,he dropped one of them because her food was salty,he told me personally that the only fault he food in her was her salty food and i asked him if he couldn't talk to her about it and he says a ''woman who puts too much salt in her food will be very troublesome after child birth...''EXCUSE ME????
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The second lady never cooks her beef soft enough to be chewed so he dropped her as well,also said she couldn't make the beddings properly and ended up marrying the third one whom he thinks cooks well and today she orders the chief cook around in the kitchen and has not cooked for him in five years..lol
Men why do you look at marrying a woman who can cook as wife?does it really matter?
Hey everyone else,what is your take on this?
This is totally off point but I just had to let my heart out here. Recently over the summer I had like 4 diffrent friends come to visit me here in the states for summer, some actually had thier babies on holiday. On days they visited my house, I noticed that they changed their kids without a proper changing cloth. Infact here was one with a two year old who literarily put her child on my sofa- changed the girl and was cleaning poop on my sofa wit no regard for my husband(who wasn't home by the way) what kind of attitude is this? Is this just sheet disrespect or this is how people become when they have kids???
ReplyDeleteU really do have some serious issues. ..like r u 4 real? Keeping something as trivial as dis to heart and coming here to rant about it?? What ever happened to correcting them and calling them 2 order there n then and moving on... what has disrespecting ur hubby got to do with changing diapers without changing mat/cloth biko?? Pls take a chill pill abeg and don't burst a blood vessel over trivialities. . It's not that serious abeg!
DeleteHonestly I hate people like you. Very sensitive and pick on unnecessary tins. What has husband got to do wit changing diaper on ur sofa. Am sure ur type dont have kids of ur own yet odawise u wil learn to appreciate odas.
DeleteOh STFU and take that stick out ya ass, have a baby first and then come ask us the stupid question
DeleteDon't be too irritated. Take life easy.
DeleteMadam not everyone knows about changing clothes. I try to take mine along when going out but I don't really bother about it at home. That's Nigerian women for you.
DeleteI'm of thr school of thought that cooking defines a woman o. Infact I try my best to learn every new thing I eat outside. I make my own samosa, suya, shawarma, grilled chicken and all at home. Even though I sometimes eat out, and it is not as if I love cooking but I believe as a woman I must do it. I was surprised when Joke Silva said in one interview that she doesn't know how to cook.
Well, each to his own. But as a lady u should know how to cook o. Husband or no husband, it shouldn't be a basis to satisfy any gademn man....bcos whether u cook the best or not will not make him stay if he decides to dump u.
DeleteHowever those who should be worried are the ones whom their hubby's have chosen ONLY because they are good cooks. Then they'll have to define if he truly loves them or they are just glorified maids who come with advantages. We also have men who are better cooks than their wives. It's an innate desire to learn or you could just be gifted in putting any nonsense together and it'll taste very nice.
My verdict, while men should be willing to let their wives learn and shouldn't make it much of a big deal, I would say any woman who was properly trained should know and learn how to cook. That's all.
Madam, did u bother talking to ur friend about this? Did u bother telling her not to do that again or correct her on it since u didn't like that? This is why i hate staying in pple's houses. I would rather pay for an apartment for the short time am there or check into a hotel. Thank God for VIP express that takes care of my accommodation issues abroad.
DeleteU're just plain stupid! It's just a child, hello???? Wait till u have urs or better yet pray u'll even conceive. Since u sound like u hate kids. Rubbish!!!
DeleteYes I spoke to my friend about it, and she laughed it off saying she was being lazy. No I do not hate kids, and yes I will concieve. I only asked a question
DeleteI am surprised that you are focused on the person whose apartment was disrespected as oppose to new mothers who refuse to do the needful and take safety precautions to prevent sickness-
DeleteMadam, wash ur head off oyibo mentality, they are too touchy and unnecessary, and that's why they get easily depressed and can't do anything free for family and friends.if it mattered to u, In d spirit of naijaism, u should have jokingly told them not to bring that naija ish on ur sofa. No be because u live here u know wetin be changing cloth, that's why I stay away from naija oyibo wannabes here abeg. I love my naija communal life, abeg
DeleteNo! She ain't plain stewpid. Her only mistake's her inability to call her so-called friend to order or better still ......u know nah lol!
DeleteI remember visiting a friend one time , anyways while we were eating nah my friend begin change her 2 y/o right inside dat living room we de eat ... Chai! U can't even begin to imagine d kinda foul smell dat "enveloped" d whole room lol !
As 4 d post, well I hate cooking!
You all are missing this posters point. What she is particular about is the fact that new mothers especially nigerian mothers become so free that they don't take extra precaution for the health safety of their child or even the people around them. That's all she's saying!! Nigerians are just backward, what does conceibe in for having a child have to do with what she is saying? Must you just sha post and make others feel bad about themselves? She will conceive in Jesus Name. That is why this is on an anonymous platform - she's just curios as to why having a baby should mean becoming so carefree.
DeleteSo you ladies can't give your opinions without using such harsh words? Some of you even wished she wouldn't conceive! Lord have mercy! It's her house, remember? Not many people like confronting their friends especially on issues like this. What you regard as trivial may be someone else's pet peeve. Until you become a mum, a baby's poop may disgust you, some mums are even irked when it's time for diaper change. Sweetie, the truth is some people are just like that, we have different mentalities. Next time, show her to a better place she can do the change and cut her some slack because I'm sure she had no idea you'll react that way.
DeleteServes him right. Mshew. *walks away*
ReplyDeleteCooking should not and is not enough to define a woman, some women are good cooks, but have the worst of characters, while some are not good cooks but are rich in character, but even though cooking shouldn't define a woman, its necessary that a woman knows how to cook, because a good food is one of the many ways to a man's heart
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I agree with Alloy, u just spoke my mind!!! Gbam!!!
DeleteCooking shouldn't define a woman. But in addition to a good heart and character, a woman should know how to cook. Cooking isn't rocket science. Personally it's a hobby.
DeleteBeing a good cook doesn't make a woman a better wife. There are many other factors that should be considered, though every woman should learn how to cook. There are men that marry great cooks but still mess around. I know of a woman that can't cook (though in her mind she's a top chef) but her husband eats her concoctions happily and doesn't complain. I lived with them for a while and really admired them. Just concluded in my mind that when a man really loves you, his taste buds changes and even if you give him stone, he will still ask for more, though he might lovingly tell you to boil and spice the stones well next time.
DeleteMy sister in law can cook. As in real good and never tired to cook. Great igbo woman but her husband is a he goat. Don't appreciate her at all.
DeleteCooking should not define a woman but I think every woman should at least know how to prepare some simple food,you don't have to necessarily be a chef.
DeleteI had a friend during uni days who could not cook indomie,she couldn't even bring ordinary water to boll w/out burning the pot,she is the defination of the word LAZY but her boo loves her that way. Every woman is unique in their different ways.
Good food is one of the ways to an african man's heart, and not all men
DeleteBLOG ANALYSER: Kai! Alloy u hit on the nail not a criteria bt necessary
DeleteConficius says"any woman who thinks the way to a man's heart is thru his stomach shd aim abit lower"*winks*.......KISMET
DeleteAlloy obim,ikwuzi ri ama! Well said, hope you responded to ikpured's offer on giving you explosive huhuhu? I left you a virgin,Who did this to you? Alloy Nwoke ike, i pyowego pyompyompyom?Onye mebiri Alloy nwoke ike bikonu?
DeletePepper ose oku! gi koboko ready to flog Alloy
Lol. Please Pepper obim! Just hold the koboko, I am still the virgin you left me, I turned down ikpured's offer for free iyohoho, because I can't walk on a burning caol and expecting my feet not to get burnt, ikpured's iyohoho is too red it will burn my potruding apparatus, and it will make it shrink. Its your I want Obim, when will you stop keeping me a virgin? E dey do me jigijigi.
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Mothers please teach you daughters how to cook...don't leave everything for the chef or the househelps..
ReplyDeleteMy eldest son helps me out in the kitchen..he knows how to prepare oats,noodles,yam nd white rice..he blends my tomattoes,pepper,crayfish etc..
He takes care of his younger ones when am not around...his future wife will be so lucky to have him..
You mean teach your sons as well.
DeleteSpot on Linda!
DeleteMy son's like that too, so domesticated. He wants to cook, clean, iron and bake; though he gets in the way more often than not. He's learning nontheless and i think every child should know how to cook reasonably well.
DeleteTo your question Stells, i think everyone has a right to decide what qualities they want in a spouse; whether or not they'll get it is another question.
Click my name for all your celebration cakes and cupcakes, cheers
Exactly my sister, not just the girls but the boys too
DeleteMy son even turn my fufu and poundo and also they must clean, so no woman will do shakara for them
A woman must know how to cook
Though is also natural that some women can't cook no matter how much they try
Food as they say is the best way to african man's heart
Know how to cook or not though, its just luck or should I call it grace? To have a good man to. Call urs
On point!
DeleteLinda nne ur head dey there. In my father's house we no get boy or girl o. Cooking was shared weekly to all of us. The thing is really helping my brothers cos babes no dey do food Shakira for them. Good food is a way to man's soul....
DeleteAaawwwww
DeleteOver to d men in d house why? Why? Why?
ReplyDeleteOne of d best ways 2 a mans heart is via his food and if u can't cook as a woman, then U R on a long thing!
DeleteEven tho some men don't see it as a big ish since they can always get a maid or cooks, but damn, it is impossicant 2 mua!
*lips sealed and watching*
One of d best ways 2 a mans heart is via his food and if u can't cook as a woman, then U R on a long thing!
DeleteEven tho some men don't see it as a big ish since they can always get a maid or cooks, but damn, it is impossicant 2 mua!
*lips sealed and watching*
Eesah was here, onu uto(sweet mouth) sent the cat into the bag! Kwusinata onu uto!
DeleteMen with sweet mouth fall prey to the okongo trap easily, no talk say I no tell you! It's a weak point in the institution of men a very feeble weapon but mighty!A lot of great warriors that fought mighty battles and defeated have ended up being defeated by onu uto!
pepper ose oku atuanya!
For me the best thing in life is to learn to cook yourself so no woman will do shakara for you. Men learn oh we are almost in 2015
ReplyDelete#Yinmu!
DeleteWat u men call cooking, is throwing all d ingridient at once in2 the pot as soon as u start cooking, den u go watch supersports,d food aint done until it is burnt half way.
My male frnds wld say everytin wld meet in d stomach, don't worry!
If u do mistk chop d fud way man cook, ur bowel movt changes for d whole of dat day.most men sha, not all.
True talk my broda, I'm yet 2 find dt woman dt knows how 2 cook more than mua. Started out in my moms kitchen 4rn an early age of 7
DeleteEesah I dare u o. U go lick bowl if I enta ur kitchen.
Delete@Eesah that helps alot.
DeleteEsah, e don be for u be that. No need to marry na. Ur type of man as a husband... well it depends on the individual.
DeletePinkshell not all men oo..My late father God rest his soul could have given any woman a run 4 her money in d kitchen cos mum went to university when we were in primary school I can't even begin to describe. U know this kind sitting down wit a kitchen stool taking ur time...I wonder how he did it then cos he was working then oga boss sef. I still dey find that kind man I never see.
Deletehmmmm
ReplyDeleteHappy Sunday all
ReplyDeleteAny man looking for a cook will look till the end of time.i hate cooking with a passion but my hubby enjoys cooking he does all the cooking. He told me he married me because he loved me not food
You are so lucky..i wish mine loves cooking..
Delete*am out *
Serves d idiot rite!
ReplyDeleteLol. Serves him right. :p
ReplyDeleteThe idea of cooking defining a woman is mainly an african mentality. A woman that doesn't know how to cook can equally be tot how to cook. I know of a couple that the hubby tot the wife how to cook and today they r very happy.
ReplyDeleteOnly with African or should I say Nigerian men. it is good to be able to prepare some food though.
ReplyDeleteShebi the ill thinking guy would have corrected those lady instead of coming up with his stupid excuses. Most people are still learners when it comes to cooking.
Thank u.... We Africans especially sometimes make life difficult for ourselves. For a lady to know how to cook is important but shouldn't b a must n a criteria for what have u.
DeleteBtw, cooking is wot I luv doing, I'm always happy to cook and eager to even cook more. But then I think the African culture/community put 2 much pressure on females pertaining to al ds domestic chores, we going tru alot already bn "female". Knowing hw to cook shouldn't define an African woman but like I said its important.
My own 2cents.
On the contrary,women who are. Great cooks are appreciated in the West..its not only in Africa.please don't be deceived for one second o!
DeleteI was going to write that. We are so frustrated with the African traditions or mentality that we forget some things are not restricted to Nigeria or Africa alone. A lot of foreign men love women who are good cooks, they love good food too. While cooking shouldn't define a woman, women are encouraged to learn how to cook because when a man loves a woman and that woman knows how to "tantalise" him with his favourite delicacies, she can almost get away with murder. Most men are in high spirits after eating a well prepared meal.
DeleteA man wu wants a gud cook, must av dese qualities,
ReplyDeleteA giant sized dick and he must be stupendously rich. #JustKidding!
Atleast every woman shld be able to boil water without burning d house down.
U don't av to be a chef. Just no the basics.
I tell my BF several times ova n ova, I can't cuk everyday, I don't even cook everyday for mysef. And e wld say,e understands,but wat of wen kids stat coming?(Na till den oo). E no easy to be mama.
Any man dat expects me to pound yam, wld wait in vain.
Some men really don't mind, but I maintain that a woman should @least be a Little domesticated ,clean after yourself, cook basic food. I love to cook,that's how we roll!
DeletePinkie,I have snatched DD from you..he is resting on my arms right away..*TongueOut*..
DeleteI can do cleaning. Overcleaning dey worry me sef.
DeleteBut can't do dat everyday cooking, mayb na bcos am used to a pllace wia lite Is constant, so diff soup dey readily available 4 freezer.
So all we do is thaw the soup, sins som1 dislikes microwaved food(accordin to him it taste somhow #Hehehe, I don't even understand dat.)
Its good to know basic, cos it is expensive to eat out all d time.
Story! I know one babe that can cook for Africa, but the bf still dumped her when he wanted to marry saying that he doesn't love her enough.
ReplyDeleteI am an average cook but my fiance doesn't mind, I have told him that I will go to catering school for him when we eventually marries because he loves home made dishes. It has not stopped him from cooking every now and then because he is a better cook than I am.
It is actually a thing of choice, as long as you are happy with your choice, who cares?
Lol@a woman who oversalts food will be troublesome,chai!pple and their superstitious beliefs.
ReplyDeleteBut as a matter of fact cooking is very important even to the woman herself!i mean what is ur essence of being female if u can't cook?d fact is if u can't cook,u will not be able to know when a meal is great or not,(dats why u see most bachelors eat in whacked restaurant and be shouting,d food is good,its cos they can't cook so they don't know d difference)..so should a woman who is supposed to secure that kitchen angle be forgiven if she subjects her family to the torment of bad meals whether from her or a bad chef?dat won't be fair.pls pls,Stella culinary skills is very important abeg,dont blame the men!also remember dat saying dat d way to a man's heart is thru food,lol!infact some men like food more than sex oo.,
#team tank God I too sabi cook#dancing shoki'#
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ReplyDeleteGet a cook
ReplyDeleteBwahahaha!
DeleteLater una go say patt is gentle.
Patt Ogar!!! Four words, abi three and a half words for two different comments? Them swear for u??? Hian!
DeleteCooking should not define a woman please. I can't cook to save my life
ReplyDeleteYour mother failed in her duties.
DeleteLol. U have Beauty and Brains but u don't have culinary skills? Issorrai!
DeleteStella, that man in your narration got what he truly deserved. Most Nigerian men like pretence. So give them what they want and when you have entered, reveal your colour. It's nice for a woman to know how to cook BUT that shouldn't define her. Marry a good cook and live life in pain, fear and misery or marry a not so good cook and live a fulfiling life. Mummy J doesn't cook and uncle O is cool with it.
ReplyDeletePuurfect@Rubynnia!! Some women have cooked,hung their legs on burglary proof during sex and it still didn't keep their men..rapu okwu mennn
DeleteSweetie, a woman should learn how to cook not necessarily because she wants to keep her man at home because that's already an effort in futility, but because being a good cook is a plus. Is there really any character trait that can keep a man with a wandering eye at home? Of course not but, it can help you as a woman and as a mother. There are also men who sleep around but will never eat what wasn't prepared by their wives, imagine that!
DeleteYes, it should define a woman. I have an aunt who couldn't cook. She was always busy going on official trips and all that but it got to a point she had to learn and today she even pounds yam and she is sooo happy knowing she can make dishes for her family... she feels much better about it.
ReplyDeleteI'm guessing u don't understand the question. Go back up dere, read it, assimilate and reply with sense. #peaceout
DeleteI don't think a woman not knowing how to cook should be a deciding factor....thank God I have the gift of cooking and can russle up anything from just fresh tomatoes but some ladies are not this fortunate .i was not cooking up a storm for hubby when we were courting tho! Did not want no man eating my food and chopping my honey pot biko!
ReplyDeleteI pity my daura cos she will take care of our house early ooh...kikikiki..am just waiting for her...na she go carry her siblings sef!
I have a friend that could hardly boil indomie well...infact she makes indomie so bland that you will just cringe..She met this dude,never cooked for him...they are married...beautiful home..she tries to cook well now .but it wasn't a deciding factor for him,different tribe sef...more than 5yrs and waxing stronger!
Now dats what is called;love covering a multitude of sins'!or its possible she sabi bedmatics pass and d hubby is the type dat loves sex more than food.so it balanced out#
DeleteYou dey too get stories to tell. You don dey gradually replace Qutie
Deletehmmm...to me..a lady who cant cook is not complete..
ReplyDeleteA woman shud knw hw to cook even if its d basics den if d hubby is dis type dat eats all those special dishes she can alwayz go to a caterine sch.
ReplyDeleteStory. ..... friends and family call me mama la cook because I can cook for Africa am proud of it, and I know dat cooking it's my talent, people call me to cook for dem everybody want to eat my food but am still very much single no boo, no ring....apart from Ex ..... abegi who donlove u don love for no reason jare!
ReplyDeleteStella thank u for dis post.am igbo engaged to an Esan man from Irrua precisely he said d only problem he has with me is that i can't cook black soup*can u imagine* and his people are in support dat i shld come and spend sometime for dem to teach me how to cook it and one other food dat is cooked with plantain in form of moi moi i can't remember wat its called.tho i can manage d plantain own cos av tasted it and it isn't bad but d black soup i can't even stand d site of it altho dey say its very delicious...how can i learn to cook a food dat i can't even stand d site? i don't knw wat with men and food sef, at times marrying outside ones tribe can be very challenging jor.
ReplyDeleteJust keep calm and taste black soup cos that's the ish. Yes it's very delicious, and easy to cook as well. .. just take a step, and you will find your man smiling to the dinning table.
DeleteI think it depends on the man. I know about a very lazy woman that does not wash her pants not to talk about cooking. Her husband bought washing machine so that outsiders wont touch their inner wears. Her mother told the husband about her laziness before they married. They have domestic helps and are happily married. No quarrel, no complaints. I think every man knows what he wants from a woman thus, should go for it. Rose
ReplyDeleteMy dear, you are very right. Some women complain that men are bad, but I don't believe so. I believe a man in love is the sweetest person in the world.
DeleteMy cousin is been happily married for 3yrs now, she can't cook, clean or even wash her own clothes. She is not even facially beautiful, but she's very intelligent and successful in her career.
Her hubby got her a nanny and steward, bought a washing machine for her and he's just loving her....
I think every man, has what he desires in a woman.
My own big sis is not a good cook, although she cleans very well and is really pretty. .. her hubby worships the ground she steps on. 6yrs of marriage and still counting.
now my point is, the cooking thing depends on individual, some men really don't care.
Stella leave that thing. A girl must know how to cook. Not all men can afford cooks so what happens then. You don't have to be a master chef but at least know your way around the kitchen. Stop eating out all the time.
ReplyDeleteTo become an excellent cook you must practice.
truth is, a woman shuld know hw to cook. it's very paramount cos she'll need it when married. kapish
ReplyDeleteWell, a woman should know how to cook. Not because she wants to be suitable to a man but just for herself. And by the way this is Africa. A complete African woman knows how to cook
ReplyDeleteA woman may the best cook and yet give u hell that u may not even have appetite to eat that food. All ya men who tink life is al bout food food tink twice befor u fall further more.
ReplyDeleteWell, cooking shouldnt be a criteria for marriage why because if u love her enough to marry then you can go to any length for her like teaching her or something of the like. Personally I love love love cooking. Its a pastime for me. My friends calls me Kate cook, hence i seldom eat out. I can use 500 naira and cook a very tasty ogbono with fish and promo and u would not believe its that cheap. Am from Cross River and an only girl in d midst of two boys, we cherish general home keeping and kitchen skills is one that is very very necessary. Since when I was 8 my mum will take me to the kitchen and tell me to open my eyes and look at what shes doing, not now that everything is oyinboish. Then pepper, crayfish, egusi et all u pound with morta. I cooked my first rice for the family at age 10. All said and done its very good for a woman to know how to cook tasty food.
ReplyDeleteStella, I'm of the opinion that a woman should know how to cook .. not just cook any kind of food.. but good and tasty food..an old proverb says the path way to finding a mans heart is through is stomach and we are Africans, men understand that there are some ladies out there who were spoilt by their mother's, they don't even was dishes talk more of cooking... Stella.. I swear if you test food prepared by some so called wives... OMO... you sef go reason where them come out from... #LipsSealedhere#
ReplyDeleteIts not that cooking defines a woman specifically but in the actual sense;every woman no matter her CLASS needs to know how to cook...just imagine a man getting married to the best woman in the world who doesn't know how to cook?? Do you think the man would be happy within?? Yes she can get a househelp but the joy of a man knows no bound when he eats a food soo sumptuous and then he remembers it was prepared by his Wife...this said;I just don't think there should be any reason as to why a woman doesn't need to know how to cook cos that's what makes every woman complete.. **MARTINS ABOY**
ReplyDeleteCooking doesn't define a woman bt its good f a woman t knw d basics of preparing a good meal esp d one dat happens t b ur man's favorite. I am glad I can cook well, notwithstanding any man I will settl down with must knw hw t cook; yea I can't stand a man who can't even boil simple rice. #myopinion
ReplyDeleteCooking sudnt define a woman at all buh its also sud nt be underrated too....ΐ have a married fnd dat canot cook to save her life buh shz got a hubby dat cooks beta dan her and sh testifies to it........
ReplyDeleteTruth be told, 3 things keepeth a man but nice character suppaseth them all. (1) good food. (2) good sex...as in positions like "Tankade" et al. (3) neatness...as in being a neat freak. End of story. Even d guy's family will conclude dat u gave him Love Potion. Each time a man runs home, these 3 remains on his mind. It neva changes. Babes get rid of ur long Talons and get to work!
ReplyDeleteCooking sudnt define a woman at all buh its also sud nt be underrated too....ΐ have a married fnd dat canot cook to save her life buh shz got a hubby dat cooks beta dan her and sh testifies to it........
ReplyDeletePlease, a real woman should know how to not just cook but cook good food! I am a great cook and my chidden too. Be great in the bedroom and be a great cook dear ladies, every good meal taken at home keeps your man's heart at home trust MOI.
ReplyDeleteThat one na myth for ancient days in Africa
ReplyDeleteWen I and my hubby were dating,I cooked one horrible concotion salty jollof rice 4 him,i noticed dat wenever i cook while on my period i oversalt food,he cldnt eat it,he just smiled and said don't worry my mum will teach u,its 8yrs now and its bin awesome,I surprise even myslf
ReplyDeleteLol @ the picture of that actor, what's her name again? toiling away in the kitchen, ending up with that miserable presentation of the eba and veg. It's good for a woman and man to know how to cook. At least you can guarantee that you are ingesting a "non-doctored" meal, e.g, the extra salt and I don't mean table salt. For those married to a woman that can't cook, present her with a Xmas gift of a two weeks culinary course and I can guarantee she would love it. Once she is hooked, she will feed you FAT. Come to my Culinary school.
ReplyDeleteA woman not knowing how to cook shouldn't be a deciding factor. There are some men who are supa dupa great cooks and don't mind whether their wives can cook or not. My sis' hubby is one of such, even though my sis is a very good cook. I personally am a great cook. In fact I am perfect in the 'art'. Yes, I call it an art. The fact that you can just experiment mixing up all forms of veggies, fruits and other condiments to make a meal, is an art. I'm so much of good cook that who ever tastes my meal never wanna let go( I got my moods as well, because I won't cook for just anybody). The cooking department is my area of specialization since I'm a slacker/ rookie in the sex department. Other sensitive areas of specialisation includes shopping(oh my I'm great at spending his money...kikiki), more shopping, being romantic, caring (yawns), much more shopping ans some more shopping.....loooool
ReplyDeleteKourt
I dont blame the man oh
ReplyDeleteMost Yoruba girls cannot cook. they use 25liters of palm oil to cook just 2cups of egusi.
Imagine Bimbo adding salt to noodles? and adding sugar to beans? tufia for them oh
Hahahahahaha...
DeleteLepa Shandy,you didn't take your drugs today..yeye girl..LMAO
Hahahahahaha...
DeleteLepa Shandy,you didn't take your drugs today..yeye girl..LMAO
Lepa shandy hmmm seriously!.my mix friend(yoruba dad and Igbo mum): taught me to put sugar in beans so .you saying We don't know how to cook! Was so wrong! Even my colleague call me ofemanu !but I don't hate on rivers food cos it's there's even the so called sOup PURGES me whenever I eat some of it so!!!!but really really we ladies need to know how to cook well....
DeleteYoruba ppl even adds sugar while boiling yam.. That's rubbish.
Deletecooking doesn't define a woman please.
ReplyDeleteI cook 70% well but I can sincerely say my husband is a better cook than I.
He takes pleasure doing it when he's got the time.
when I was preggy, he never let me cook except if he's not around.
Food, cooking and all of that, is an individual thing for men. some men cant even make eba, while others are experts.
Many men can't cook but the world's best chef is a dude.
if you doubt, ask Ezenwanyi. Why do you think she quickly grabbed Jose as her chief chef. lol
Some men sha, you don't know how to cook you are on your own
ReplyDeleteLet's be critical here. I know it's the 21st century and the era of women's lib and gender equality. I'm pro gender equality. But a woman that can't cook is not the total package.( Not that it should define her anyways). Even if you're a busy professional, I'll advice you to learn how to cook. You could hire a chef, but sometimes you need to cook for ur family. I learnt cooking from my father funny enough, the advice he gave me on my wedding day was a man needs a woman to be his lady and his whore. Trust me it works. Be his support, feed him well, and fuck him so well he's speaking gibberish as he cums. Anything you want from him, you have it.
ReplyDeleteYou all attacking Nigerian/African men should please take several seats. Its better wanting a good cook than getting married to 3 women in a space of 3 years like is the norm in Europe. Between what else could a girl have learnt from her mother between ages 5-16 if she couldn't learn how to cook?
ReplyDeleteIts not a defining factor but a necessary accessory to her credit, eating out is fun but cant be an everyday affair. Putting together a good meal with your man is so much fun and creates good bonding time too.
ReplyDeleteTo me a lady must know how to cook..
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm,,some ladies cant even cook to save der lives
ReplyDeleteDear SDK, personally cooking should not define a woman. There are lot of lekki/vgc women who never goes into their q kitchen and their husbands love them to high heavens.Majority of the men no mind o.I remember years back, during Xmas,one of my elder sister's friend came visiting. When she saw the table served before her, she was asking if my sister got a new cook. When she was told I did all dat buffet. She couldn't believe it. She was like away come. Dat if only she knew I cud cook varieties she would have called.Lol. said I maid left two days to Xmas nd she was stranded she had to call her pregnant sister to come to her rescue.Lol. nd diz is a full time houx yf o. Wearing all designers o. She doesn't even know aw to slice onions. There are soooooo many married women who dont know aw to cook and their hubby dont mind.
ReplyDeleteStella, the man in ur story is definitely an Igbo man. They can have some crazy things upstairs. He got less than wat he really deserves.
ReplyDeleteI'm Igbo o. Before I get pounced on.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Lord knws i cant marry a woman that cant cook though......
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Serves him so right! He hasnt seen nothing yet!
ReplyDelete@ anon 5:09 pm - sorry o! They should regard your husband while wiping poo of baby's nyash? You for put im statue dia na.
ReplyDeletePeople should know better, but they don't. Deal with it. If you didn't want them to change baby on your bare sofa, why didn't you give them something to cover it, or perhaps direct them to another area of the house? No be you get property? Stay there and be forming husband as demigod mschieeeuw. The poor man no even dey house sef. Alaseju
You all are missing this posters point. What she is particular about is the fact that new mothers especially nigerian mothers become so free that they don't take extra precaution for the health safety of their child or even the people around them. That's all she's saying!!!!
DeleteAbeg, stories that touch, my husband's Dad owned oyibo restaurant and my husband cooks pass woman both native and English. As in, my husband can't manage bad food wen we go out, Infact he rarely chops outside. He helps me in the kitchen steady but he prefers me to cook. With all that, u won't believe how he praises me and settles me after eating my food with relish, Infact, I step up my game always. Na there I believe say the way to a man's heart na thru his belly, because before I used to say it's not true. Infact isiewu I made yesterday earned me better shopping spree. Because my husband is very tolerating and does like he wouldn't mind but mehn, I now know the wonders good food does, see d way he confidently invites his friends over for chopping, if ur husband lies that he doesn't mind, he will be admiring someone else. Mnwhl it completes his comfort at home. If u no sabi, learn from YouTube. SIMPLE!
ReplyDeleteMy husband is Nigerian and am from Southern African. He loves eating at home. I didn't know how to cook when I was growing up that my mom used to get worried what type of home I will maintain. she tried teach me hoping I will get interested but I guess I was just lazy and did see the value of it. My whole family was praying that I get married to a white man as I can prepare sandwiches and other junk food. Well God had other plans and got married to an African man that loves his pounded yam, Eba, Efo Riro etc. I just had to learn how to cook all those meals cause my husband cant cook but loves to eat home cooked food. When friends come to Visit from Niger thinking that they are gonna eat other type of food as am not from Niger they get shocked when I cook thinking maybe I bought the soup as they say I cook like a Niger woman. All thanks to Google dot com my life saver. My DH loves entertaining and brags to whoever comes visiting that wifey will cook for you. His mother could not believe it when she came for a holiday for 5months saying u know how to hold the cooking stick so well when cooking Amala. She was worried about what the son will be eating being married to a foreign woman. Well all those days my mum was screaming and shouting were put to good use.Lol.
ReplyDeleteLol nice one girl
DeleteI would not be interested in a man who could not cook. All the men in my family are amazing cooks and I couldn't deal with a man who could not help themself. Just today we had a family dinner, and my dad roasted the chicken. Everybody should learn how to take care of themself, cooking is a life skill and should not be relegated to just women. Some of these useless men can't even wipe their shitty ass properly and want a wife who can cook..mtschew
ReplyDeleteUseless men like your dad and brothers, you mean????
ReplyDeleteEating my Ekpang nkukwo while reading comments. And ds good food was prepared by me even with the longest of nails. Hahahahaha I am a great woman ...EEE!!!
ReplyDeleteLet us get it straight, eventhough men and women are equal in the sight of God, each is created with unique attributes and responsibilities. Make no mistakes about it, one of the responsibilities of a woman is to nurture and care for the family.Part of nurturing is feeding your family. No one is saying you should be masterchef, but as a woman, you should know how to cook something edible and tasty for your family.
ReplyDeleteLet us get it straight, eventhough men and women are equal in the sight of God, each is created with unique attributes and responsibilities. Make no mistakes about it, one of the responsibilities of a woman is to nurture and care for the family.Part of nurturing is feeding your family. No one is saying you should be masterchef, but as a woman, you should know how to cook something edible and tasty for your family.
ReplyDeleteLet us get it straight, eventhough men and women are equal in the sight of God, each is created with unique attributes and responsibilities. Make no mistakes about it, one of the responsibilities of a woman is to nurture and care for the family.Part of nurturing is feeding your family. No one is saying you should be masterchef, but as a woman, you should know how to cook something edible and tasty for your family.
ReplyDeleteI don't think cooking should define a woman but it is important to learn to cook.
ReplyDeleteI'll share a good example with you. I accompanied my boyfriend to one of his relatives place last weekend. His aunt was cooking and got called in to work. She told me to please help her finish up before she took off. She didn't ask if I could cook or anything, she just expected that I ought to know how to cook. So what was I supposed to say? "hmmm..... sorry I can't help caz I don't know how to cook?" Imagine how embarrasing that would have been for myself and the bobo?
Me sef I knew bobo was so proud of the way I took ownership of that kitchen like it was my own. He later told me she called to thank me for making such a delicious soup.
I agree, not knowing how to cook might work out for others. But what if it doesn't work out in your case. Abeg don't become a statistic and learn to cook if you don't know how alredy.
Stelz this jollof rice looks like the one I just finished cooking with fried fish ontop lol
ReplyDeleteA woman who thinks she is ready for marriage should know how to cook
Cooking is one of the simplest things to do