Shocking Narratives....Read up and give it your best advice.
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
FREQUENT MASTURBATION IS IN THE MIND OR AN ILLNESS?
Hi,my name is Chris.I discovered masturbation sometime last year and on the long run it became an outlet for me to rid myself of my sexual desires but I am tired of it and my body is tired too and I dont enjoy it anymore and mentally I assume I have the capacity to stop but that has not been the case because for some reason or the other I always get this mental tick which always leads to my watching porn and calling someone or doing something that leads to my jerking off.
I also know that this masturbation thing is destroying my sexual life leading to low sexual libido and premature ejaculation.I always use my mental strength to stop any habit that is getting out of hand in my life but this is proving to be more difficult and did I mention how miserable I feel each time I jerk off.
I really wanna stop but I have realized that I need to speak to someone and get help.How do I go about this?
*Ah this one pass me.Looks like your masturbation has become like an illness.Maybe its all in your mind and the best help you can ask for is self discipline.Perhaps everytime the urge comes and your hand wants to reach for your manhood,take a cane and flog the living daylights out of your hands or buy handcuffs and trap your hands till you can master to control and do without.I dont know any other advice to give.....Does anyone have a better advice?
Dont forget to talk to God.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
DANGEROUS THOUGHTS
Please I need your advice because am going mad right now.
I have been married for 5yrs now and dated my husband for 2yrs before we got married.all through our courtship I tested,I watched him and never caught him with any woman and decided to settle down with him but only one month into our marriage I started seeing names of different girls calling him,even at odd hours.
I askd him and he said he doesn't have anything with them and I couldn't do anything because I didnt have any evidence.he started sleeping outside at least 3-4times in a week and I was pregnant with our 1st baby.I called everybody I know to talk to him,they all did but he told me pointblank that no one can tell him how to live his life.
7months into my pregnancy I found out he had infected me with staph..when I told him what he had done,he started crying and I hoped he was going to stop but never did.
I have left him several times,but he keeps coming to my house to cry and my parents will beg me to go back because of our Catholic faith but my siblings always object to the extent that my siblings disowned me.
I didn't want to leave him then because I didn't have a job and didn't want to be a liability,so I had to stay with my husband and pray that he changes..
After my NYSC I started planning seriously to leave him for Good,only to find out that am pregnant again with our 2nd child and since then life has been hell for me.
He sleeps out almost all the night now.I don't know if he has a family outside or he is just enjoying life.I have asked him If I ever did something to him,he always says no and that he doesn't know what is making him live that way.I am due and expecting labour to start any minute,yet he sleeps outside and leaves me alone at this time.
I have thought of killing him but the thought of his ghost following me is scaring me.There is no female name my husband has not slept with without condoms.some of them even call me to insult me.Please my fellow BV,can such a person ever change or am I just playing with my life?
*You have thought about killing him?The thought actually crossed your mind and you got pregnant the second time?The thoughts you harbour is very dangerous.I dont know what advice to give you at this point but to suggest that you sit your hubby down,stare at him eyeball to eyeball and tell him how much his actions hurt you?
@ first poster...u need a steady phuck mate. Go get married if you think you are ready and capable.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, don't forget to talk to the Good Lord.
2nd narrative is on Laila's blog. The advice wey people give am there no reach am, she come carry am come here.
DeleteI have read of people that are married and still addicted to porn and masturbation. The only way to get out of this I'd to become more godly and always pray to God to help u overcome this.
Delete@2nd poster abeg leave that man. I don't know y some pple think marriage is by force o. This man has neither respect nor pity 4 u. Have ur baby and leave with ur children when he's not at home. Hide with a friend or family member that stays in another town for sometime b4 figuring out what to do
Kill another woman's son because of cheating? You are very STUPID! Did your mother kill your father? You were FOOLISH to have gotten pregnant the 2nd time and you recently finished your NYSC? You either DIVORCE or ENDURE!
DeleteYou spoke my mind
DeleteNarrative 2:ur hubby is just downright irresponsible!Stella why are u shouting like dat cos she said she tot of killing him?its only a tot,afterall she hasn't killed him?#rolling eyes#
DeleteIt's not easy to be pregnant and alone when it's not like u are a single mother!@poster u sef fuck up letting him pregnant u again,infact after the first gift of staph',u should have insisted on condom usage till u are sure he's changed!for now u need to Leave him after d birth of ur child,infact go to ur parents house for omugwo and never come back,if he really needs d marriage,he will come back changed,else forget him!bcos ur life is at risk with such a Yeye man,HIV nko?have u tot of that?hmmm,u need to be alive for ur kids!
Narrative 1:u need Jesus,his blood and holy ghost to stop dat masturbation,it seem it has become spiritual oo!also try to stop being alone in d room,if u don't live with anyone,get a roommate so the fact someone is there will hinder u,till u are free totally,and stop watching porn!control ur tots and feed ur mind with the word of God,u will see how dose demons will leave ur heart,it works!best of luck
Lol @ go for omugwo and neva return. Poster u r a learner, my husb has slept wit almost all d girls on his fb. In fact d day I managed to snoop I almost collapsed. More dan 100 girls wit different love and Sex story. One was even telling him she's tired of him cos he has plenty gf. I confronted him d man beat me sotey I almost had premature labour. I managed and took d enough tins from him. D day I went for omugwo was d end, I didn't return till today. And not ready to return too. Hiv is real biko.
DeleteDon't fink of killing him for u to kill him is better u pick ur things n go, if the spirit of killng calm down u come back if the love is still there.poster2
ReplyDeleteStellastica! This your advice on the masturbation narrative Na epic joke of life. Lol.
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@narrative No 1. Its called addiction, you are addicted to masturbation. There are two types of addiction, the physical and psychological addiction, and yours is psychological. So to treat it, you need to withdraw from it, like you need to be very strong mentally, pray, see a psychologist or get a counsellor. Etc
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Hmmm I will advice u leave him for good and don't have any blood on ur hands.
ReplyDeletePoster No2:i donot know what to say.the fact you went ahead for the 2nd pregnancy is even sufficient prove you don't like your self.people will say pray about it.but really you can try prayers
ReplyDeletePoster No1 SDK of the universe has said it all, buy handcuffs n bulala asap. No2 plz dnt kill him o, u want 2 go to hell bcos of 1 useless man, Tufia. GO TO MFM OR BACK TO UR FATHER'S HOUSE.
ReplyDeletei know what that kinda hate can do to one @poster2... pls and pls.... pray for ur man....love urself nd ur kids in d process...once u put to bed...look for something u can do that will fetch u money.... nd keep to urself....most men that behave that way cant stand being ignored....they always want to have their way with everyone.... manage d situation nd get rid of that evil tot! if u think its too much...just annul the marriage...
ReplyDeleteposter 1....pray is the only way.o....nd self discipline.
@xclusiv
First poster, first of all, put it in prayer then avoid staying in a room alone or watching porn... This is something only you can stop through prayer and self discipline. May God help you as you put in more effort to stop this habit.
ReplyDeleteSecond poster, am really speechless, but please, take a break on yourself for now till you put to bed. Your condition doesn't need much stress or thinking. It shouldn't bother you much whether he sleeps at home or outside, transfer that love to your kids and after weening your baby, look for a job or keep yourself busy with something to avoid been a liability. Stop showing him that you are hurt, be busy, love your kids and care less for your hubby....
You would see him running back to you because he would think that another man wants to win you over. But please, remember, there is nothing prayer can't do, be steadfast, God will see you through.....
@ Narrative 1: sounds like someone i knw who made several advances at me..the dude never talks abt something else except masturbation.. he's sick upstairs..He called me a lesbian bcos i refused his advances at me. You need to pray to God oo, or just get busy with something else whenever u feel like masturbating..
ReplyDeleteOMG.............dis is really bad
ReplyDeleteWhat is really bad brown sugar abi red sugar? Can't u talk sense? Excuse me pulseeeee
Delete#1. Your problem has become spiritual! Your masturbation has opened a portal for evil spirits hence the addiction.
ReplyDeleteI prescribe deliverance for you! Do it ASAP
#2. You should not have allowed yourself to get pregnant again. You should have waited to see if he had truly changed, worked on yourself, in terms of getting a stable job before expanding your family any further.
You have to fall back on your family. Let them see and understand the risks you are being exposed to. You shouldn't be alone at this time.
Long sigh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So why on earth did you get pregnant the second time? You know he's sleeping around and you're still having sex with him without protection? Are you not scared? In plain english, your husband is a dog and he probably has something following him since he says he doesn't know why he continues doing it. Your marriage prolly won't get any better. Sorry.
ReplyDeleteMr addicted to masturbation, its all in your mind. Reduce the kind of sexual thoughts your mind thinks of also avoid watching sexual scenes or anything that would remind you of sex although in our world today, its kinda difficult. And when the urge comes, occupy your mind with something immediately, trust me I'm telling you from experience cz it does work. And yes you feel very bad once you're done and no I don't know why. I use to feel like shit way back then. Sorry
#1 stella dat ur advice na one in town I swear... I don't no what 2 advice u on,u need 2 talk 2 urself n go wit stella's advice ok #2 women are really suffering in marriage...go and find a job n leave that horseband of urs!!! And y u go carry anoda belle 4 dat kind of a man??? God is ur strength.POTABLE VIV
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2. You need to consider your unborn child, so just pack your bag and give him space even if he comes back to plead tell him to go and sort his life out before coming back. In the mean time get on your knees and pray for divine intervention, that God should change him. Good Luck!!!
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2,there's no way you didn't know about his philandering ways when you guys were dating...maybe you were thinking he would change after marriage..
ReplyDeleteAm sure you says you don't know about his randy life style so no one can yab you...
Bia nwanyi nsukka aka i must comment,if u v no reasonable advise to give,jst adapt patt ogar s style and type ' hum'. she said she didnt knw and u are insisting that she knws. I si di na ahu di gi ds girl?
Delete2: All these stories sef!
ReplyDeleteI thought we had a staph-infecting, irresponsible husband story recently. Is this the norm now?
Instead of you to plan your escape strategy, you hung legs on the burglary to collect prick and got pregnant again. What will I tell you now than to keep enduring and planning? Hopefully you will close your legs going forward.
You keep saying he sleeps outside? Outside where? Where did he tell you he sleeps?
1: All young men masturbate. If it controls your life, do something about it. Help yourself. It's a mind thing.
She's Catholic, remember? Catholics (most of them anyways) don't use contraceptives.
DeleteNot all young men biko. Stop generalizing! The percentage of young men that masturbates is not even up to 30%. I've come across many young men dt don't even know what it is
DeleteAnon 2:14 What has religion got to do with family planning?! #backwardthinking
Delete#africanstupidmentality
Stupid idiotic foolish comment.... If he sleeps outside will he tell her exactly where? Where should a married man sleep if not his matrimonial home ? So he has no excuse to sleep out any where...
DeleteLool @ Stella always saying "me I don't know what to tel you o"
ReplyDeleteUna go fear fear, Me sef no know any other thing to tell them o, make dem tie their legs together abeg..
Eja ro iya ejire, awon Omo meji nko! Ejo ebami change oruko yin. Emi ni mo koko nko! Eshey pupo
DeleteWhich kind Iya ibeji is this one again?
DeleteIya ibeji lati Paris la koko mo o.
Iya ibeji from paris, are you punkcountess on ig?
DeleteBLOG ANALYSER: @1st narrative, pls decipline your mind and take off all the thoughts and any thing porn that will trigger it. @2nd, it is a sad situation bt my dear it is better to leave him than to kill him. Focus on having ur second baby nd forget his philandering ways. God will see u tru. After dat u will now have time and strenght to decide on a way out.
ReplyDeleteDear Stella good day, I'm a lady dat loves u to bits ever since I followed u up frm encomium, im single and very beautiful n I'm single, I hv a lot of guys dat come around n all but I'm scared, i fear guys so much cos of hw much I've been hurt in d past, I really need a good n serious guy to date....im so lonely sometimes I cry cos I wonder y I cnt get wot i wnt....each time I see couples I always long to hv one but still yet I meet these guys dat i find it hard to trust/ believe, im getting really worried cos I really wnt to settle dwn n hv a family...
ReplyDeleteNa wa oh
DeleteIs it that bad that you have to market yourself on blog
Tomorrow you will send stella sob stories
And you think those couple you see that make you long to have a boyfriend don't work hard on their r/ships? You don't know r/ships need to be nurtured?
DeleteYou're just a desperate 46year old. Lmfao!! And oh yeah, you're selfish too! Infact you're so selfish that you don't even know anymore. That's why u can come in here and blab about your sorry life in a post where there are two people asking for advice and dropping none!
Desperate, selfish 46year old. Lmfao!!!!
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GG Displaying your immaturity since 1540! Return that Device to the owner kiddo
DeleteAunty Stella this your advice for the 1st person na die ohhhhh..heheheheheheh like seriously LWKMD...
ReplyDeleteNO1 pray about it,and psyche yourself up seriously.. Kpele ohhhh
NO2 I know that feel, like Stella said, sit him down and talk to him. I did it and it worked for me. Don't give up keep pushing he wil come around IJN.. mine run after me now like a dog in his heat period. We are marking our 10yrs anniversary soon.
Post no1 go 4 counselling, read books and do tins dat wil take off ur mind frm sex. Post no2 are u sure u realli knew ur husband all dos while u were dating? If yes sumtin isn't right. I tink u shuld seek the face of God seriously, cos frm ur narration I tink ur husband realli needs hlp.
ReplyDeleteWhen you are married to a man that is promiscious,you have to use your brains. Yes he's your hubby but having sex with him doesn't mean you should get pregnant again.The deed has already been done and you weren't smart enough so you will have to live with it until you really make up your mind to be a strong woman and leave that mistake of a marriage...Masturbation has a serious hold people,if you do it once,you will do it again&again and it takes the grace of God to stop.
ReplyDeleteThe masturbation guy, Pele! Too much of everything is definitely bad that's why u are this miserable. U have to create a diversion for ur mind. Whenever the urge comes, do something else u enjoy doing like football, dancing, movies etc.
ReplyDeleteDo not force it off. If u do, it'll crawl back! If it's 3times u do it in a day, reduce it to once; then thrice a week, then once a week, thrice a month etc. With time u'll realise u don't even do it again.
Also, get a girlfriend. Explore her body so well and be contented with all the parts! With time, touching ur ownself will become irritating.
Finally, speak to the holy spirit, he'll surely guide u! All the best*
He sld speak to the Holy Spirit and also get a girl friend and explore her body unto adultery things. Holy spirit and akwamiko? U pple sld pls refrence God and stop taking His name in vain. If it were in d days of old,fire apiatugo gi na ala since
DeleteAnon 2:05, pls do not ever type rubbish under my comment again!!! #hypochrist #
DeleteHahahahahaha @ my opinion.
DeleteI'm sorry I couldn't help but laugh T your advice. You advice him to get a girlfriend and fornicate and from the other side of your mouth you tell him to speak to the holy spirit.
Hahahahahaha!
Make una no kee me for this blog.
I agree with your 2nd paragraph tho.
Anon 3:05 where do I snd ur kiss to. @my opinion, one should not serve God and d devil. Choose one. Poster, pls u need the help orbthe holy spirit and a closer walk with God. Read motivational books and instead of reading or watching porn. Read up onbhownothers were able to stop. Fill ur mind with Godly things and u will hardly even think of masturbation.
DeleteChai Jehovah God u are so merciful.... Every body now speaks Christianese..... If u had any relationship with the Holy Spirit you will know he has no hand in fornication.... It's your type who pretend to be born again yet living in sin/... Stop mocking God...
DeletePoster no 2. I sincerely don't know what to advice. Buh I read somewhere where somebody adviced you to start with yourself. I think I agree with the person to some extent. Heal urself 1st and boost your self esteem and confidence. I bet u, when u are done, if u look @ dt dog of a husband, u'll wonder what u were crying for. At that point, it's ur choice to either divorce the pig or start playing ur own games. All the best
ReplyDeletePoster num 2..i don't blame you for those thoughts walahi..but please don't kill him!
ReplyDeleteI really don't know what to tell you ooh...this man is not a learner at all...what baffles me is why he married you! since he enjoys spending nights outside,why did he marry you for pete's sake.....
The second pregnancy just made things more difficult...luckily you have your parents..please move back to them for now... you have a crier in your hands..he will cry again! Sleeping with girls without protection??? This men won't kill us ooh!!
I don't know what he is looking for outside...I don't know...If it is clubbing,both of you can go nawww,that is if you were not heavily pregnant,but I sense whatever he is looking for,he wants to find it alone!
How dare those ladies call you?? Who gave them your num?? Please tell your folks this man doesn't have respect for you...you will stay with them,get a job since you are educated,he needs to see you in another light...A sexy mother of 2,working her butt off...looking good,praying hard,dressing nice too..independent of him...Maybe he will wake up!
Second story. That's a heavy cross.
ReplyDeleteIf your parents can accommodate you, please go home and just inform them that because Labour will start anytime soon you don't want to be alone. Do not say you are leaving the no good man.
After delivery start looking for a job in the meantime be cordial to your husband from your parents house. Once you are able to secure employment because in desperate times you must find something o or start hand work and from there ignore the man.
One day in annoyance you can truly kill him and of what benefit would that be to you once anger has subsided.
Also stop fucking him right now!!! Na Hiv test you de wait for?
Masturbation is one bad habit that is not easy to stop once started. I suggest the poster shld pray seriously about it and master the act of self discipline. Once such tots crosses his mind, he shld look for things to kip him busy or shld talk a walk around his neighborhood. Also desist from watching porn. For the second poster, i think you shld have a heart to heart talk with ur hubby. Find out what made him become the way he is. It is Well!
ReplyDelete#N2 My dear just leave d man b4 he infects u with HIV. And pls remove those thoughts 4m ur head
ReplyDeleteThe second post is really scary. it just goes to prove that you can never know someone well enough. When I read stories lies these, they usually send shivers up my spine. I am to be married in 5 months. I think I know my Fiance well enough, but with stories like these you just wonder if you probably only knew what they wanted you to know or if they changed along the way. At the end of the day, we just realize that the whole process of choosing a life partner rests in the hands of God. We need to be more prayerful.
ReplyDeleteN:B- This may not be the best advise considering that I am not an advocate of divorce, but it is glaring that your husband isn't willing to change, as such I suggest you leave him before you commit murder or he does!
1st Poster pray pray pray.
ReplyDelete2nd poster pray pray pray, find a job and live your life.
Ihekire Tony
ReplyDeleteMastubation is a sin, but Chris Oyakhilome will tell you is not a sin. My dear is only God that can save you. We practiced these things in boarding school, but God delivered and showed us mercy. Mastubation is demonic.
Number two story: dear poster please you are as single as Genevieve Nnaji, tell ur father to go and return ur bride price.
isiagboncha Tony is the 1st sentence necessary?
DeleteNarrative 1........Keep doing your self....well no be ur fault....@Pastor chris oyakilome say Masturbation is good and Godly
ReplyDeletei watch porn as well...but it shud not be addictive...and u dont have to give utself Skin sore bcos of Masturbating
Narrative 2.......ur husband na cheat....Men can pretend for Africa
@Galore
Hahhaha..stella, u shud have said he shud flog d main causer of d problem. Anyways this one pass me and am in a training nw. Wishing d posters d best
ReplyDelete@N1 u are possed go for deliverance. @N2 Do not leave him,I repeat do not leave stay there and die there rubbish tins!
ReplyDelete@N1 u are posessed go for deliverance. @N2 Do not leave him,I repeat do not leave stay there and die there rubbish tins!
ReplyDeleteJust lik aunt stella said to masturbee.....mine is u shd either chain ur hand or remove ur mind from ur body n think of smtin or keep buzy...or better stil flog ur p***s so it wil respect itself.....lol
ReplyDeleteMr chris masturbation is addictiv. The goodnews is that u can stop it. Self control is very essential. Becareful on what u feed with ur mind. Boos,music,pictures and filme that stir up lust pls let them go. And read and watcg more educative and inspirational stuff. Most importantly u pray about it and let God help u. Study the word more. And when ever u feel the urge 2 do that pls step out out. Download anti porn softwares on ur phones and laptops. And if you are married pls have sex with ur wife more. If not and u are ofage get a wife. The Lord will help you.
ReplyDelete2nd narrator am anti divorce o. But when ur life and that of ur kids are @ risk then pls do leave ur husband . Get seperated 4 a while and u both should go 4 counselling. But if there is no change pls do urself well and leave. The next one might not be staph but aids.
Stella if u don't have any advice to give these people pls keep quiet. It's not by force that u must advise them. Let people who have smtin reasonable to say talk abeg
ReplyDeleteBlog visitor (1) use virgin olive oil to anoint ur pen_s...stroke it back and forth till it absorbs,,,then ur pen_s wud be made whole.
ReplyDeleteBlogvisitor (2) dnt take this my comment as a sort of joke it's very very I repeat very very serious.........knowledge is diverse and it's gotten from various places...I want u to watch this Nollywood movie ;;its name is (MR&MRS) it will really help solve ur marital problms not only dah it'll also boost ur sef esteem and confidence....n educate u on how to treat and deal with a cheating husband without going to the extreme..(Main Actor and actress are benjamin andd Nse ikpe etim.)Thanks.
Lmao @ made whole. U r a clown
Delete2nd poster
ReplyDeleteSorry o
What part of Nigeria is your hubby from let me know where to start from
Hian dis 2 post hot no b small....
ReplyDeleteP2 advice your self what you would have advised me if I were the one good luck
ReplyDeleteP1 you are the only one that can stop yourself so do so buy getting busy if you are busy you won't have time to think about it
Second poster! Second child or not continue with your plans. Don't let him infect you with some deadly disease! Leave now!
ReplyDeleteStella's response to poster1 really cracked me up, i think the poster should go with her advice especially the bulala part.
ReplyDeletePoster2, u should'nt have such ideas in ur head....why think of murder of all things...may God give u wisdom...
N 1, with all the girls in town you can't get any to help relief you of sexual tension? Nah wao! N 2, if your hubby is as bad as you just said how come you were still able to have sex with him without condom with all the diseases in town? You are sleeping with a male prostitute without condom? Don't you value your life? I won't call that a marriage o.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,pls go for deliverance and read books,poster2 pls go back to your parents and have your baby there,the Lord will see you tru
ReplyDeleteI know Stella won't post this but it's the truth anyway . Why are y'all advising her to leave ? Cos her man is cheating ? So what ,don't most men ,provided he uses condom , loves and respects her , big deal. My sis if you take their advice and leave him the next guy u meet will be worse . Manage what you have with time he will get fed up . Most men cheat . It's the way it is . Just make sure he uses condom that's all .
ReplyDeleteSometimes, I wonder if marriage is really really worth it
ReplyDeleteMasturbation is demomic and controlled by demonic evil spirits. U have to be prayerful, go to mountain of fire (mfm) church for deliverance and study ur Bible more, it would help. It ruins people's lives and they can't get sexual satisfaction and fulfilment, d rest of u doing it, u need to stop fast. It's addictive and adds porn which is even a deeper manifestation of evil spirits, God help u oh.
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Madam have ur child then leave d marriage before he kills u with hiv, he might already have it and he is not willing to change
You can't stop it with your mental strenght and human ability because it has gone spiritual.You need GOD for deliverance.Go to SCOAN.this is certainly TB JOSHUA Things!
ReplyDeletePoster 1: you need Jesus first and then a nympho for a wife.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: you seem the type that melts like butter in hot frypan when your hubby strays and then falls on his knees to beg u; otherwise how did you get pregnant the second time knowing the risk you face due to his philandering ways?
Madam, You are threading on dangerous grounds.
With the thoughts in your head, Don't be a murderer.
With your softie attitude towards your husband, Don't get infected with a disease that will leave you in misery all the rest of your life.
Think and act right!
BV#N1; anytime u feel like Masturbating; kindly mix aboniki, ghana pepper n 5 drops of hypo. Rub against ur palm n apply som in ur anus n use d rest on ur penis. U r sur t hav a swell time n d thots of it will vanish completely. Cheers! BV#N2: am scared stiff, marriage stories of ds kind makes one wanna remain eternally single. The Lord is ur strength since ur hubby has admitted he doesn't knw wot he is making him live dat way. Drop ur email addy I hav oda stuffs t tel u dat wud help. Cheers.
ReplyDeleteMasturbation is good every onces in a while but when you cant control it anymore, na deir wahala dey. I sugest you pick up your bible and read anytime you get the urge to mastubate
ReplyDelete#2 it's never to late to leave your marriage and start afresh. Killing your husband would only add to your problem. Infact i dont know what to adv you jare.
Masturbation is demonic. It opens doors inn your life for spiritual oppression. I indulged in it as a young girl of about 6. Yes it happens. I'm gonna be 24 in few months and I had to fast for 3days and fervent prayers before. I could get delivered. I fasted and prayed about it in my house in January. It's September and I've not had any episode of it. Glory To God in the Highest!
DeleteUr miracle shall remain permanent In Jesus Name, AMEN
DeleteI can't advice N1, I'l leave that to the men. N2. What are you waiting for?Go to your parents and when they want to send you back, cry and become hysterical...no one wants to send their child into the Lion's Den. Your irresponsible husband says he does not know why he is doing what he is doing and you believe him. Men and lies, no one is remote controlling him. When you choose to be selfish, you bear the consequences. Stop sleeping with him, he is a health risk. Think about the life you are leading and what this will be for your children if you get some disease that kills you. Let your husband go and figure out what makes him sleep outside and you deliver, get strong and get a job(from your parents house). I repeat, stop sleeping with that thing you call a husband.
ReplyDeleteAnon 3:15pm it is your type that full the HIV clinic(no be curse o). She should make sure her husband uses condom. Ok, yes please when he goes to cheat, please follow him hand him the condom and then excuse them. Some of you think with your armpit. Anon, if you are not sure what to say just please watch from the side. Marriage is not by force, if your spouse wants to keep infecting you, sit and be forming Mrs and be collecting disease. When you die, or when he chases you out to go and be diseased somewhere else without your children, na then your eyes go open.
ReplyDeleteTo Chris and Narrative 2, "a man is a slave to whatever has mastered him " the thing to beat is your body; FASTING yes, fast and pray and that is the discipline for the body. Masturbation will give you up when you fast like 6am to 6pm thrice a week . . . that's how it gave me up. Foremost, you need to give your life to Christ and have eternal life and the grace to do that. the pregnant lady can do fruit and vegetable fast; just deny yourself of your favorite meals and that is the fight for your husband's soul. You own soul should be saved foremost. May the Lord grant you peace.
ReplyDeleteN2 did u read d recent post about a woman who left her cheating husband and he later got infected with HIV? Fortunately u are not one of those who claim not to have anywhere to run to..
ReplyDelete***HEALING-RAIN***
ReplyDeletePoster1,ask for God's mercy to break that spirit of masturbation.(2) stop spending too much time alone.(3)engage your mind positively and constructively.(4) watch religious movies and listen to gospel songs.(5) read the bible starting from the book of john and acts.(6)do away with pornographic materials whether films,magazines and stop clicking on porn sites.
Poster2 Mmmm. It is Well with you. Just concentrate on birthing your baby for now,since your mom is alive she can help take care of the baby after 3months while you go out to scout for a job or in the alternative,you start a little business so that you can have time to care for your children since they are still little. Ignore that cheating gono-staphy carrier son of a gun totally. Let God and your kids be your focus.
Narrative 1: I'm married and my husband is a chronic masturbator. It started from boarding school. Masturbation can ruin your relationship or marriage,it is high time you found an outlet for your sexual urges and avoid being idle.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2: wait till he gives you HIV then you will have a reason to want to kill him. Put on thinking cap and your running shoes and run for your life biko.
Stella,d 2nd story is on laila's blog! Wat r u gonna do now?
ReplyDelete@Anon 2;42 Do i knw u frm somewhee or do u knw me,SHOW YOUR FACE LET ME SEE PLS.........ODE
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1
ReplyDeleteI never said its going to be easy but we can do this together. However, you didn't tell us how old u were. Am sure it would have assisted us in helping you waste your sperm unnecessarily. If you are in your early 20's then you are just starting to have a feel about having a climax. Ok! Let's begin our process to redemption.
Can you stop masturbation? YES
Can you live without masturbation? ABSOLUTELY.
How can you prevent yourself from masturbating?
Its simple. Go get a job. Get busy. Stop watching romantic movies, porn and even staring lustfully at a lady's boobs. Stop having sexual thoughts about any lady. Try to gear your thoughts towards doing things that will increase your money in the bank or boost your knowledge.
Narrative 2
The thoughts of taking a man's life should never cross your mind. There's something called divorce. Walk away from the marriage. Every lady isn't destined to be married. It isn't working for you. But then again, search yourself, are you perfect? Work on your marriage before taking a walk. I believe he is a good man, despite his sexcapades. You will be fine.
Yes he is a good man despite sleeping away when his wife needs him and infecting her. He is a lovely man, hang in there please
DeleteBoth 1and 2 should pray without ceasing.
ReplyDeleteposter 2 : God is ur strength. Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteposter 2 : God is ur strength. Hmmmm
ReplyDelete@ poster 1, you are dealing with a demon and you better handle it as such and take it to God in prayer and stop letting the devil deceive you that you will stop using the power of your mind because you wont.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1. An important piece of information you left out is your age but i think,you must be in your late teens and have no sex life, your masturbation is simply a result of having too much alone time as your siblings and parents are probably gone all day and you probably access porn on your phone.
ReplyDeleteyour merely suffering from idle hands and all that is scaring you about masturbation are things you have read about and not experienced if not you would have stopped or drastically reduced by now
if you and your body was actually tired of it you would have stopped effortlessly
solution, keeping busy, keeping social and play tight video games (keeps all the senses bit smell busy)
Narrator 2. I've seen your story in at least 2 blogs now i hope you've gotten some cool advice but seriously no one is going to love you if you don't love yourself, no one is going to want to take care of you if you don't take care of yourself and finally no one is going to value you if you don't value yourself. He can change, you can forgive him, you can have a happy life together at the end but for now change yourself, forgive yourself be happy with yourself by being by yourself for sometime. What will you sane is to have goal, a goal to be independent and happy, start working towards not needing your husband and your family financially by the time,you achieve this all those that have abandoned,you will gravitate towards you
ReplyDelete#1-Addiction is what you're suffering from. Seek counselling and pray to God.
ReplyDelete#2- What baffles me much is when a graduate sent a post of being a full time housewife, e dey pain me shah, make I talk my mind. I know its not easy but try and ignore him n don't allow him to touch you again, pray to God, after giving birth, look for a JOB n beg yr mum to help in takin care of ya kids while you go to work. Stop having sex with him, hold body n if body no gree hold, get yourself a VIBRATOR, just ignore his wayward life n pray 4 him, No let him use sweet mouth give you another disease o. One day he will change. There was a woman whose husband was always sleeping with ashawos n d woman had talked n complained, for where, so she ignored her husband's lifestyle not until one day-God did it, d ashawo abused d living hell out of d man, embarrassed/disgraced d man in public n people laughed at d man, that was a man that left home shortly to meet d ashawo after close of work, only for him to return back early n d wife was surprised n asked him - wht happened that u're back early? He told his wife what one ashawo did to him, n realized that his wife has never treated him that way before n decided to return back to his wife, after bla bla bla,he begged d wife n d wife told him to follow her to her fellowship to confess and d man confessed in-front of dia church members n was forgiven. My dear, calm yourself down, avoid HBP try to ignore him or frequent your mum's house.