Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Hmmm...The weekend wife?Ever heard of that word?

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

REF:FIBROID - ORTHODOX VERSUS UNORTHODOX

Dear stella. I appreciate the way you put smile on peoples faces. Have been having problem with fibroid for 2yrs now after the birth of my girl.

which had caused me more than 2 miscarriages of late.Was told by 2 doctors that operating on it mighty tamper with the womb because they re still small small inside the womb.I told a friend of mine that introduced me to your blog  and she said that she read it on your blog long ago.went through your blog all night almost and i saw it dated 18 march 2014.FIBROID-ORTHODOX  v UNORTHODOX. 

A lady from PH commented on how she treated hers with traditional herbs.She is Anonymous  18 mar 6.01 ''such a delicate issue,very agonising .will recommend herbs not all are effective though so you have to be careful.always go for scan the first one month to be sure whatever you are taking is effective I used herbs successful but very painful.not available right now so I dont have the lady's number with me,but will send a number to Stella for anyone interested in about 2 months when am back in ph though .had multiple many intra and sebaceous so u can imagine d fear i had for surgery''

 Please if she can help send the number to Stella . Sorry to quote her comment  but I had to so that the person can remember or is there anybody that treated hers with herbs and got a good result? I need help fast.

*The person who dropped that comment didn't get back to me.This poster who lives in Europe has been begging me to post this and save her Marriage.Please leave a comment if you can help her.....thanks

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

''THINGS DONT ALWAYS SEEM AS THEY ARE''

I was at a birthday party in London some time ago.My friend who was the celebrant introduced me to one of the guests,one very beautiful young Nigerian woman.
It was her who had made the celebrant 's lovely cake and I was introduced to her when I asked.She was at the party with her husband and 2 kids and they all looked so good that I kept commenting on how beautiful she was and what a lovely family she had after the party.

I think my effusive appreciation of the woman's beauty must have tired my friend who reminded me that things don't always seem as they are.
The young woman was a 'weekend wife' as her husband was married to an oyinbo woman and had 3 kids with the oyinbo wife.
He spent all his time with his oyinbo family but saw the Nigerian one at weekends when he would claim to go and buy fuel or do grocery shopping and see her briefly.

Occasionally he would spend long hours with her when his Oyinbo wife went out at weekends to see family. Just like the occasion of the birthday party.
The sad and shocking aspect of everything is that the Nigerian one is aware of the Oyinbo family and agreed with the sneaking around lifestyle.

She is sad to be very unhappy and feel entrapped but at the same time she feared to walk out of the whole arrangement.
What I was told led to all that is that in the beginning the man lived in Nigeria and married her in Nigeria and then left for the UK immediately after,when she was already pregnant with their first child.
He seemed to disappear after that and for 5 years she did not hear from him and was running from prayer house to prayer house.

Finally out of the blues he called her one day to apologise about everything and confessed that he had to marry for papers and now had another wife and kids.
That was how the Nigerian wife refused to give up her husband and after pressure prayer and tears he managed to move her to the UK where she has continued to live as his wife but in the sneaky way.

I felt sad for her Stella.
No wonder her beautiful eyes looked perpetually sad at the party. Even when she smiled,they still looked sad.
Please publish this true life, happening right now story as a warning to girls marrying men abroad especially the men you know are married for papers to other women.That kind of life is not worth living as far as I am concerned. 

*Hmmm her case is not new,we have lots of Nigerian wives agreeing to live like this abroad,that is their choice and I hope that they stay strong.

Last year when I visited Berlin, My friend who lives there told me how his Nigerian friend was coming back from a party and had a tragic accident.The guy who was married to a Nigerian who was known by all his friends was also married to a German woman.

He died and Police handed a locked bag in his car to his German wife.She went through the papers and pictures of hubby and his second family and fell into shock discovering her hubby had another wife who was even pregnant with the third child.She had lots of visits from his Nigerian friends and everyone she confronted claimed they didnt know.

As soon as they left the Original first wife,they went over to the Nigerian wife to sympathise with her and help out with groceries because of her heavily pregnant state.I asked the friend telling me if the Nigerian woman knew that her hubby had a first wife and he said she knew and was a weekend wife.