Different stories,different people.....
There are lots of stories the world over,some are stories of hope,despair,pain,success and rape....what is your story?
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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
''PLEASE PRAY FOR ME...WHERE TWO OR THREE ARE GATHERED....''
Hi Stella, please i'm going to make this as short as i can. I have been going through so much challenges of late, it seems as if all hope is lost for me... Just when i thought everything was falling back into place the devil raised his ugly head. In less than a week i lost my car, broke up with the guy i was supposed to marry due to genotype issues (we were both AS).
I have an awful skin condition which keeps growing day by day. All i just need is prayers, please just say a little prayer for me. That God will give me the strength to carry on, I don't give up easily but honestly this is all too much for me.. I cant turn to anyone but God.
Please pray for me, a lot is going through my mind and i refuse to let the devil have his way... The bible says "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst.".... I believe in God and i'm holding strongly to His promises, I need Him to come fill this huge vacum in my life... .
*What skin condition do you have?please if you read this,describe the problem.
car gone?boyfriend gone?God has a plan B that NEVER fails!...hold on.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
ENGAGED TO A MAN WHO RAPED ME LAST FRIDAY.WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE ME?
I am 22years old and have been dating my current boyfriend for about three months (June) now. We love each other and he wants us to get married. He wants an introduction in December and wedding in April 2014. Everything has been going on smoothly until this past Friday.
We agreed on no pre-marital sex though we are not virgins but because I have decided to be celibate. He said he was cool with it. We were both off work on Friday last week as we had some inspections to do. When we got through, we went back to his place and we ate and started watching TV. Then, he started to kiss me and get too close unnecessarily.
I tried to stop him but he overpowered me. He tried to rape me. It was my struggle with him that made him stop. I got up and tried to leave very upset but he locked the door and started begging. He couldn’t allow me leave that way. He was sorry. He stopped because he realized he was hurting me. I later became calm. He said we should go out to get some items for the house down the road. We met his friend somewhere and at the end we ended up in a bar. He had just a bottle of beer.
Now, back to the house to pick up my bag to go home, he starts touching me again. This time he made sure he had his way. He raped me. Then, started begging again. He did all he could but I was disgusted at his attitude. He has no excuse but I am irritated. He has begged and begged. He has done everything but I have told him to go. He is all in my space now.
Sending me messages and calling. He has said it will not happen again that the sight of me turns him on and he was carried away. He will wait till after our wedding now but I am sad.
I have told no one. I have asked myself questions. I really love him as a person. I feel like I should let it go. I feel he is sorry but as a reader of this blog, from the stories shared here regularly, a girl has to be smart. I am not desperate for marriage.
I have told no one. I have asked myself questions. I really love him as a person. I feel like I should let it go. I feel he is sorry but as a reader of this blog, from the stories shared here regularly, a girl has to be smart. I am not desperate for marriage.
I am young, I am smart, I have a job and family that loves me. I don’t have it all but I am grateful for the one I have. I don’t know if this is a character he has. I don’t know if I should forgive. I feel rapists are violent people. I don’t know if this is to tell me to get out now. My mum really likes him since she met him but I can still ask him to go.
Sorry for the long story, please if you were in my shoes, what will you do? I will answer any other question anyone has to ask.Thank you all in advance.
*NO IS NO ,Rape is rape.His actions shows he planned it all and you naively trusted him.premeditated move.what do you want?what does your mind tell you to do? you are young,you are not desperate and you have a family who love you.?GREAT!
Talk a walk from that man..pull your shoes and run as fast as you can!...I hope you went to the Doctors?being engaged to him has nothing to do with him not having STD.
NO2 PLEASE PLEASE MY SISTER, BREAK UP WITH HIM. Rape is rape!
ReplyDeleteExposed!how to secretly poo at your boyfriend's house (for big girls only)
Why should anybody poo secretly tho? Mtcheew
Delete#1. Nne when u go out and hear other people stories ehn, you'll go on ur knees and thank God... just hold on, it is not the end. be strong!
#2. Guess your man wanted to test drive before he marries you but he did it the wrong way... follow ur heart tho
To me that's not a rape because they are both in a relationship. Enough of this rape bullshits .....except you are virgin please deal with it. Remember to get husband is not easy , forgive him and move on. Kikelomo
DeletePls give him a second chance,he really loves u.it was d heat of d moment u knw men think wt their dicks wen dey re turned on. U guys re engaged rememember?
DeleteRape is Rape oh. He planned it. Discussed with friends sef. And d came up with dat as a way to break u so dat u guys will now continue having sex. Please take a break for at least 3months and watch him n his attitude. U r young biko
DeleteAnon 10:49, really? Rape shit? Forceful sex is rape.!!! I'm so mad at you now...jeez!!!
DeletePoster, you are 22, you still have time. Why don't you tell your mum and find out if she still likes him?
He's not even of a like mind with you. I'm glad you decided to be celibate and wait, he just wants sex......back out while you still have time.
dear poster trust God nd he will see you through. sorry nd pls bliv that his thoughts towards you are that of good and not of evil to bring you to an expected end.
ReplyDeletePoster no 2,I hope d kind of rape u are talking about is not the one u will be saying no and yet ur legs will be opening small small? And after d deed,u will feel so guilty and to make ur self look good,u blame everything on d guy and cry rape. Why I am asking is because,I find it difficult to believe one guy can successfully rape a girl without a gun or even a knife to threaten her life. Why u no catch the prick twist am for am
DeleteHahahahahahaa, Josephine, you're cray mehn... @ your leg wl be opening small small... LWTMB.
DeleteJosephine, ur comment is hilarious but u do have a point.
DeleteBuahahhahaahah Josephine no mind all this babes claiming holy... u both agreed to wait til u get married befor sex.. yet u to his house often and even hanged out at bars.. Babe wher is he suppose to be getting him self relieved of conji from, ohh by the tym anoda gal gives him, u would come here screaming he broke my hrt... just like. tht other one tht went to her banker boi friends house to pass the night with the koko Was nau forming rape.. babes common sense is obviously not common.. be wise
DeleteJosephine u are on point, one man can't rape a woman, unless he has a knife, cutlass or gun. I am just saying oo
Deletedear poster trust God nd he will see you through. sorry nd pls bliv that his thoughts towards you are that of good and not of evil to bring you to an expected end.
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DeleteYou are engaged. ..This is September and he is still putting off seeing your parents till December.
Poster any man that hasn't officially gone to see your parents to ask for your hands in marriage is 'westing' your time.
You said no sex before marriage, he has offered you marriage and taken sex.
*Take a walk not talk a walk* Stella
ReplyDeleteHe's a violent person. No age is too young for marriage but that shouldn't make you take the wrong decision is life.. Reexwmine your relationship for the past 3months,how has it been? Has there been any violence? I am against long time relationships but make sure you know him well before December enough for you to marry him..
Even if you date him for 10yrs,he is what he is.. Take a deciision now and stand by it
Gbam
Deletedear poster trust God nd he will see you through. sorry nd pls bliv that his thoughts towards you are that of good and not of evil to bring you to an expected end.
ReplyDeleteNo sex with a full blooded man! I will never understand these things.
ReplyDeletehow would you? that Punani you been sharing since 18:20 dia ris Goduuuuuuoooooo!
DeleteNonsense!
DeleteAm not in support of d rape, but she brought d ordeal on herself.
u ain't a virgin and u starve a man with sex for 3 months and u expect him not to cheat on you, how do you expect him to cool off d sexual urge?
Stella, u truly a chauvinist and d earlier females understand d male anatomy and physiology, d better for both parties
if u don't have a dick in between your legs, stay off my comment. hiss
Let's I forget, those that are advising you to leave him will start praying for you when you clock 35 and searching for a man, albeit any man rapist or not.
Delete@shhhhh, has nothing to do with sharing punani you idiot! I only used my brain cells to think critically about the situation instead of jumping on the bandwagon.
DeleteThis is why I advocate people to marry people of like minds. Find a man who is God fearing and don't come here to criticize all Christians.
Deletenw wa o. stories that touch. will come back to comment after my exams abeg. una dooo
ReplyDeleteInshort, the choice is yours. We have no right to influence your decision. You can forgive, you can let go of him. You wear the shoes and you know what's best. My 7 year old niece was raped brutally some years ago and I've been holding this grudge against any form of rape. God speed.
ReplyDelete7 year old niece? Some years ago? Was she 4-5?
DeleteWhat has this world become?
Poster #1. God is in control, don't take it too hard on urself, take it to him in prayer.
ReplyDeletePoster #2. Stella has said it all. It is well.
Poster 1*
DeleteHave u tried Jesus? You know there's nothing he cannot do.
Believe me, my life right now is a testimony of God's goodness
No matter how long the wait, his promises are ever true
Earlier this year, my life was in shambles, life was rough, tough and it seemed like even the elements weren't working in my favour
I cried, sunked into depression and then tooked everything to God
And yes, he heard me, and wiped my tears..
I'm not where I want to be right now, but atleast, I'm no longer where I used to be.
Don't give up on him okay
And above everything, have faith, and you'll be amazed at how beautiful your life will become..
Cheers.
Poster 1) God almighty will see u thru all u passing thru right now, calm down We lost to gain and I pray u gain back all u lost in d past in Jesus name...I dont know ur skin conditions but I pray dat God should touch u with his healing and Amen.
ReplyDelete2) I ave never walk in ur kind of shoes b4 but I pray God gives u d wisdom to understand d mission u are about to embark on...to me marrying dat guy is like choosing to marry to a monster. ...#saynotoRAPE
If you are sure he raped you, then breakup with him and move on but if it wasn't as serious as you are making it then forgive him and make him promise never to attempt it again. Am not being ignorant ,am just letting you know that you don't giveup on people you love that easily.And to the bv that is going through temporary setback,i pray the mighty hand of our messiah will touch you and take away every affliction of the enemy upon your life.
ReplyDeleteN1; I believe God has better plans for you, trust him n pray whenever u can, id join u too by asking God to give u inner peace in the midst of this storm. Then the skin condition, I don't think u can have any as terrible as mine, which is vitiligo, just read about ur skin condition, seek a dermatologist and you'd be fine in no time. *hugs*
ReplyDeleteN2; leave that boy now, he's not one to be trusted.
N1! My sister turn to God asap. See a power filled praying pastor. At times like this when every other thing fails, Jesus never fails.
ReplyDeleteARTICLE 1: God will give you the grace
ReplyDeleteARTICLE 1: God will give you the grace
ReplyDeleteARTICLE 1: God will give you the grace
ReplyDeleteARTICLE 1: God will give you the grace
ReplyDeleteN1, The lord is your strength, all hope is nt lost yet.he makes thins beautiful in his. Own time. Trust me when I say His time is never LATE. The bible says it shall Tarry,but it must surely come to Pass. The lord is your strength. Stay blessed and never loss focus!
ReplyDeleteN2, Dnt know the advise to give to you, but. This is what I've to say,for future occurrence, wen in a relationship wit a man you dnt want to ve sex with,you dnt spend more than 3yrs with him,must not be in a secluded place, must not be ard him wen taking alcohol and above all dnt stay late or pass d night in his house. All these u put into place when next u find another partner, that's if u decided to let go this Shameless Rapist disguised of a fiancé. Mtcheeeew. Take heart and think less of him.
Number 2 lady!!!!!...how many times did I call you?...alelee...waka sharp sharp..dont look back o pls biko abeg.. first and foremost, alcohol nah bastard! take it from me..I know som alcohol lovers go vex buh forget a man who drinks alcohol is incomplete,he will always misbehave one day shaa ni..secondly,a rapist has zero God content in his life,his soul is black,he needs deliverance too...thirdly, Proverbs 10:22..ok bye
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,I actually feel sorry for you dearie.Listen,if that man had an iota of respect for you,he would have stopped when you told him.Forget that he wants to marry you and everything,like you rightly said,rapists are violent people and hey!he could turn to hitting you when you guys eventually settle down together.That could be a part of him that he's trying to hide from you and God has just revealed it to you.Please be wise and take a break for now.Better single and happy than married and unhappy.
ReplyDeleteN1, May God give you the Grace to put your loses behind you and move on....and may He grant all that your heart desires soonest IJn Amen
ReplyDeleteN2, I'm so sorry dear....just know that if you forgive him of RAPE, be ready to forgive him of anything he dishes you afterwards....the decision is yours since you are in love, give yourself some time and take a decision.
Poster number 2..Just give him second chance and see what happens..watch him closely this time.rape is bad,go to the hospital ASAP...
ReplyDeleteBut do not stay alone with him again.whatever ur heart directs u to do,do it.. Goodluck!
N1! You need God asap. You need to see a power filled praying pastor to intercede for you. When every other thing fails, Jesus never fail. N2! Love ke that's a man with a trait of domestic violence in the future. This one go beat you tire. Run for your life and don't look back o because if you do you will turn to a pillar of salt, ehen. You sound so in love but pls love with your head and not your heart only. Hello, you are 22 hun!
ReplyDeleteNawa ohh..
ReplyDeleteYou said you love this guy right??..why don't you give him a second chance?...
Hmmmmm..Remember men are scarce..
The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know..
I don talk my own..
Oh pls shut up;men r scarce my foot,wld u rather she ends up married and unhappy...N2...d decision is urs 2make but then think again a man that claims 2luv u n couldn't stop wen u pleaded n yet went ahead 2rape u is no different from a beast...I'd idvice u put a stop 2d relationship sharperly!!! 4all u knw,dis could b a sign 4rm God telln u 2run 4ur dear live...like Stella rightly said,RAPE is RAPE n no excuse wot so ever shld b given
Delete...are U minding her.
DeleteSmh @ your comment
DeleteAnyways what was i expecting before?!
Are u minding her comment is in support of Linda's comment oooo.......
DeleteHusband dey scarce.
I think you should talk with your mother or someone who's been in marriage for at least 10 years. Love conquers all. He may really really be sorry. But then again, love is patient.
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No1 bible says ur faith shall mk u whole, I believe that you will be well n fine. Prayerfully go to hospital for your skin.
ReplyDeleteNo2 b bible says b wise as a serpent, y dd u follow him to the bar? Y didn't u jus go home? Plus if he truly loves u he would not forcefully subdue u n tk advantage of u.
If u can't continue u cn walk out, bt if u rili luv him n tink u cn forgive him, then gv him space like a month and if u still feel same way u cn move on bt if u forgv him n love him, then don't throw it away!
which kain conclusion is that stella for case no2? some girls just over-type sometimes sha, how could you say that one na rape? he gave you punches and slaps? abeg shift and ask those that were raped by strangers how they were treated!! your type are the ones who advocates rape can occur in marriage..mtceww
ReplyDeleteRape is unconsented sexual intercourse. Must sexual intercourse be violent before it is termed rape? No is NO!
DeleteThank you Ruby.
DeleteMister man, yes!!! It can occur in marriage
He tried it the first time, u forgave him, he did the 2nd time, on the same day he begged,doesnt that tell u the guy is evil and violent,u know wat rape is? forcefully penetrating someone! and this is someone that claims he had good intentions for u?is this anything close to good intention? i mean, he watched u screaming, waling and struggling he held on tight,until he had had his fill,watched as he inflicted pains on u?he claimed to be sorry? One thing u shld know abt violent men is dat they sure know how to beg,get u the best gift just to cover his tracks well,My dear u need not to be told, this guy is a MONSTER!
ReplyDeleteif he cant hold out and be celibate during ur relationship...he wont stop after u marry him....advice urself my dear
ReplyDeleteN1---may God heal ur heart and give U d much deserv peace and joy..its well wit ur soul sista,receive Gods healing into ur body now in Jesus name...u'll come bck wit a testimony in Jesus name....
ReplyDeleteN2.....rape ke??ur fiancee has no xcuse for such trash...i wud say kindly take a bow and walk out of d rship....he is sux a beast!!........anty sterra,ama inbox u on fb...kindly read it,tnk U
N1---may God heal ur heart and give U d much deserv peace and joy..its well wit ur soul sista,receive Gods healing into ur body now in Jesus name...u'll come bck wit a testimony in Jesus name....
ReplyDeleteN2.....rape ke??ur fiancee has no xcuse for such trash...i wud say kindly take a bow and walk out of d rship....he is sux a beast!!........anty sterra,ama inbox u on fb...kindly read it,tnk U
N1---may God heal ur heart and give U d much deserv peace and joy..its well wit ur soul sista,receive Gods healing into ur body now in Jesus name...u'll come bck wit a testimony in Jesus name....
ReplyDeleteN2.....rape ke??ur fiancee has no xcuse for such trash...i wud say kindly take a bow and walk out of d rship....he is sux a beast!!........anty sterra,ama inbox u on fb...kindly read it,tnk U
N1---may God heal ur heart and give U d much deserv peace and joy..its well wit ur soul sista,receive Gods healing into ur body now in Jesus name...u'll come bck wit a testimony in Jesus name....
ReplyDeleteN2.....rape ke??ur fiancee has no xcuse for such trash...i wud say kindly take a bow and walk out of d rship....he is sux a beast!!........anty sterra,ama inbox u on fb...kindly read it,tnk U
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ReplyDeleteWow...
ReplyDeleteNo 1, God is there 4u, just trust Him and believe he's with you. Best days just ahead, you will come here to testify.
No. 2, I'm so sorry about the rape, you must be loosing ur head right now. How do we comprehend his acts? Someone who has been so loving and caring turns out to be a rape, why did he do that now? Seriously, I feel like turning back d hands of time for you, prompting him to STOP b4 dis ugly incidence.
Anyways, you need to clear your head first. A vacation alone in a quiet place would do just fine.
Ugly truth...he doesn't love you that much. so, babe go with ur mind.
#N1 tarry for a while dear, God Almighty will bring laughter, health and cure to u. It's well. #N2 hmnn my dear u better run o. Rape is rape. Tank God u aint desperate to get married abeg leave dat dude and take a long walk. So does it mean he can't control himself? That means wen he sees a girl dat's as hot as u are, he wuld also rape her? Wot if your sista comes visitin wen u guys get married, wuld he also rape her cos he culdnt hold himself? Dis is a warnin sign. Run as fast as u can
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ReplyDeleteWe can't decide for you..but we can give you bits of advice here and there..
I and hubby courted with a NO sex condition from me...not him! But he tagged along..i used to spend d night in his house,twerk around and luckily didn't get raped!..not saying this guy does not love you ooh sister..but just think! Does it mean he has raped before? Does it mean he can rape someone you leave in your house in future? Does it mean he doesn't give a flip about your feelings and probably thinks you will take him back after this?A Lot of questions begs for answers dear...he became deaf to your pleas and cries..am just trying to deeply highlight all these things for you so you understand the gravity!
My boyfriend those days once gave me a dirty slap and called my mom wailing on the phone..momsie in the bid not to sound like she's meddling asked me to follow my heart..oh and Iphie he's such a good boy too.lol..I dumped his ass,2months later his wedding card was out..lmao! The babe was sooo pregnant..and he was preparing to come do intro with me!wickedness...lolzzzz..
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Hold on tight my dear..my prayers are with you..this too shall def pass...there's light at the end of that tunnel...plenty hugs my dear..know that someone out there cares,i care...
Iphie u don't say!
DeleteWaoh!
Thank GoD for dat slap o!
If not for it,u would have being saddled wit him n a baby mama wit twinnies...
Dis GoD eh! He works in mysterious ways oooo!
Wicked man!
Iphie, thanks darling.
DeleteIn my. Case, the day I agreed to court hubby, he said "I hope you understand that I don't want to have sex before our wedding. Not like I have any issues but it's against my faith.".... I got on my knees and thanked God....I was so happy I got what I wanted......
There are still men like that @poster.
What an animal. I was in this situation once. I left immediately. Rape is rape. If he can do it now, he can do it again. He has no control over himself sexually. That mean he can rape your maid or neighbour's kids or even your cousins if they come over. Leave the maggot
ReplyDeletedon't break up with him it would be reallly stupid to do so.
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No2, I think that dude has been wanting to sleep with you from day 1, all that marriage issh is just talk, he finally had his way, I think you should take a walk. My opinion though.
ReplyDeletePoster No 1, God will surely see you through.Amen!
No. 2 pls run as fast as u can. Rapists are often times, violent ppl. It was premeditated n he knows u love him and if he begs, u'l forgive him. He'll do it again n even worse till he stops begging den he'll start bragging. Be wise!
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Nawa Oooº°. Dis is serious my dear,to me I might ask u 2 walk away n it ll be a bad advice cos such has hapened 2 my friend,d guy raped her @ her first visit 2 his huz ,buh guess wot,they r happily married now wit kids,so jst do woteva ur mind tells u.Gudluck.
ReplyDeleteWhich kin talk be dat?
DeleteDo you live in their wardrobe to know they are happily married..whats the correlation between your friend's rape case and happiness? Are they happy cos of the rape? Don't understand you!
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ReplyDeleteSTORY 1, Life has never been fair to anybody, sometimes it lifts u up, and sometimes it throws u to the ground, just hang in there and keep trusting God, it will surely pass.
STORY 2, if u don't want sex. what did u go to his house to do, no advice for u since u said u are not desperate then take a walk.
ANGELRAY SAYS
ReplyDeleteSTORY 1, Life has never been fair to anybody, sometimes it lifts u up, and sometimes it throws u to the ground, just hang in there and keep trusting God, it will surely pass.
STORY 2, if u don't want sex. what did u go to his house to do, no advice for u since u said u are not desperate then take a walk.
My dear..... Rape is Rape.... He is going to be a violent person.. D earlier u realise dat, d better.... Am not a virgin too bt I chose to remain celibate too and its sumthing dat my bf and I agreed on... I do spend time with him and he hasn't for once passed his boundary... So my dear, shine ur eye ooooooooo..... Not all guys are d same... We av d good ones my dear
ReplyDeleteNo 2, ur very wicked. U do runs and gave it to other people but refuse to give the guy wey wan marry you. Now u wan form good girl, heart of stone. That guy should run from you b/c ur heartless.
ReplyDeleteDo our girls reason like this?? Like really?? Or is this a guy??
DeleteLol...its obviously a guy. Had a bf that used to think like dis. Such mentality
DeleteMy dear, I think you should give him space for now. stay away from him for the time being, and see his attitude towards you. if possible stay away for like a month. See if he would develop a not sending attitude, if he does then you need move on. if he keeps coming to you, then you need forgive... Though rape is rape, ur decision supersedes every comment here. If you find it difficult to forgive him, let go of him.
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You also watch 'Vikings'?! Oh ragnal lorfbrook is my person 24/7. N oh i'm crushing on his brother Rolo already. Pls notify me when season 3 comes out plssssss. Tks
DeleteNo2......Pls break up with him. The signs are there now o, so shine your eyes. Because some of you always claim you don't see the signs before marriage but the signs are always there, you will rather be blind at that stage.
ReplyDeleteNo1....May God see you thru everything you are going thru. Just hold on and NEVER give up on God
Excuse me! Wld u address dat as RAPE? A fiance had sex wt his fiancee? Oh well, I dnt tink it's RAPE. U should ve avoided going to his house till he gets married to u. U seduced him n he showed some luv u call him a rapist. Poster Diaris God ooo. Issorai!
ReplyDeleteSharrap dia motherfucker!
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Oshi!!!
Poster 1: Hmmm.... This time last year, I was frustrated. I can't even explain what I was holding on to. Cos it seemed like there was really nothing, apart from my family to run to. I put my money into something that drained me, Lost my car, guy I was dating left me, WBC got very low and I was sickly. But today, things are picking up. Hold on to your faith!
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2: Rape is rape. However, I have a feeling he was advised by someone to 'taste' before the D-day, just incase there is any issue. Nevertheless, he should have sought your consent first. Please did u get checked out? Pele dear.
This is strange tho why couldn't he just wait or did you dress in a funny way to his house? But that's not an excuse anyway. My dear he planned it all along I think he is showing the other side of his character and three months in a relationship and you
ReplyDeleteplanning to settle down with him by December, that's too short to know someone you want to spend your whole life with.Marriage is not a do or die affair take your time to know him better.
Mr Lyca
SDK April 2014 or 2015 to settle down #secondstory are you taking us backwards abi na Jupiter we dey?
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N1 : God will see you through.
ReplyDeleteN2 : Flee from that rapist, he will keep raping you both physically, emotionally and otherwise. He will rape your nanny,Househelp, anything, raping is in him!
if he is a good guy, forgive him @ the 2nd narrative.
ReplyDeleteAeegurl...
N1: Hmmmmm, GOD be with you. All things work together for your good. Don't lose hope; just remain steadfast and prayerful.
ReplyDeleteAbout her skin problem, have it checked by a dermatologist or research more about it online. What you need to tackle it might just be a click away.
N2: Dearie, I agree with Stella that it was all planned by him. The alcohol only emboldened him. That man is a BEAST! No is NO!
By the way, how old is he? Please forget him and move on.
Tell yourself this many times: I (your full name) DESERVE BETTER!
Thank you Stella for posting my story and for your advice (No 2). I look forward to other comments.
ReplyDeleteP.S- I meant April 2015. *typo*
N1, God is,with u...fear not!
ReplyDeleteN2, he almost raped u d first time.apologized profusely and u forgave him.only for him to actually râpe u less dan 2 hours Later....
Nne,dat man na,Devil o!
Na Rapist o
Woman beater o(yea,he z violent)
And a manipulator(d type dat wil manipulate u into fuelling his car n paying d house rent)
Its hard buh if i were u,i'd take à walk.
Cant Marry à sneaky fellow,someone u cant trust.
Sorry dear n good luck!
Nne, e gbuwara aki Oyibo
DeleteWow. If he could do that to you, when he's not your husband, what will he do,we he is. Don't make a mistake dear.Thank God you're not desperate.
ReplyDelete* tasha barbie *
Narrative 2:yes take a walk!hes a weak man without self control so he can as well rape any other woman that catches his fancy and turns him on!and he doesn't love u genuinely cos true love waits and even if it's tempted',it will wait cos love never wants to hurt!....as they also say,d only pain a woman should feel is childbirth abi?so watch urself!#enuf said
ReplyDeletebrk up wetin,he has told u he's sorry,am vry sure u a beautiful lady dats y ur face turns him on,ofcos dat hapens,3monts 4 a guy witout sex na joke?doh he messed up bt 4give him nd watch him closely,u cant extend ut intro nd marriage date or cancel it 4 nw bt plz dnt brk up abeg,he was horny pardon him,even wen som ladies ar horny de can do d undo 2 a man,its natural its just d ability 2 control it which he missed out and i say 4give him,dnt mind all dese pple tellin u 2 brkup o,if na dem i swear down de wont brk up,my dear men scarce dis dayz o,its gud u ar punishin him nw by not pikin his calls let him learn his lessons,am out
ReplyDeleteHow can you think that 3months is such a long time? Lots of people on here have been the causer of their problems oh. Mind you, I will be year and one month old without sex on Friday. Before 26th September last year, I was having sex like dog. And please, its not like I am a staunch deeper life person now. I just decided because I found out that I have been wasting my sperm for nothing. I started dating my best friend March this year and we are still going strong celibate. If any guy tells you that he can't stay without sex, just know that he is not that into you
DeleteAnony thank you very much..
Delete@Christabel..i really do not blame you for this comment..you actually don't know any better and I feel bad for you...just help me raise your daughters better than this thing you typed up there you hear? Trust me you will be treated the way you perceive yourself! "Horniness" is not craziness! You people ask for signs from God,this young lady got hers. thank you
Nkemdili nonsense or whatever
DeleteYou reek of stupidity,..you are a big fool.
What a comment?!
You need to get your head examined
Carribean you shouldn't have insulted her Na. Every body has a right to their opinion.its left for poster to agree or not.
DeletePpl saying only one man can't rape. Don't pray to be raped. Cos a horny man is even stronger than an angry man.
Poster #1 could it be vitiligo you're experiencing. God dey my dear.
Poster #2 None of us will follow you to answer "his" wife. So if you still want to go ahead. It's your choice. But know this. He won't stop. When next he is horny and any thing with a P*s*y is close, he just might rape it.
Nkemdili.Men are everywhere.a good man is hard to find. But that doesn't mean a good man can't be found so you should settle for anything less than good. A man that can rape his girlfriend or stranger has an evil heart.
Anon, for the fact that u are a man, I'm proud of you.
DeleteChristabel, being horny us a natural feeling, controlling yourself is a sign of your self discipline. You need to work on that and your self esteem too....
Poster 1: May God take away whatever pain u r going through and replace it with unlimited joy and happiness.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: sorry abt what happened. U shld have left the house after his initial attempt to have his way. I really don't know the advice to give u. Just follow ur heart.
Swear U didnt enjoy it.
ReplyDeletepray for U?????I resemble prayer warrior for ur eye????
To d rapee::did he tie ur hands??cover ur mouth with clothes so U wouldn't shout....did he whisper sweet nothings to U????U need to give me details.
I love rape sex and most women do too.
I can bet u moaned when he was ........
Where are my manners???hope U are ok???that guy is a maniac.U need to get a police report and pls if there's anything I can do for U pls holla but U know I can't really do much cos of my *********
Lmao!
DeleteChai! This woman wont kill me oh
Roftl.
DeleteThis isn't a funny issue....
DeleteMrs D,this story is comedy but a very dry one.
DeleteGo to hospices and see real rape victims and not these ones coming here to mess with our sensibilities.
I was in a relationship like da.....e raped me n lerra begged...I forgave n e did again until I hated his guts....I cut all communication n ran as fast as I cud.....guys like da will kp on doing it ova again .....run babes...daz ma advice to you o
ReplyDeleteMy dear na so e dey take start. Borrow tyre put for leg and run before it will degenerate to stories that touch the punani !!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear sister, any man who rapes can hit a woman. it shows he has self control issues. Pls end the relationship as soon as u can, u r too precious in the sight of God and your family for one man to treat u anyhow.
ReplyDeleteNo 1, Stella has said it all. God has a plan for U. Do not give up
ReplyDeleteNo 2, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE
My dear run as fast as u can. He is a sheep in human clothing and if u endure now, it will be difficult to escape it after marriage. This is a sign u must not ignore. He will always be sorry but will keep surprising u when u least expect
ReplyDelete#1 - It is well
ReplyDelete#2 - He just told you about marriage to sleep with you
Pls o, case No 2, RUN! Don't look back please. Leave love matter, think with ur head.
ReplyDeleteAnother pepper??
DeleteN2 u shouldn't have gone back after going to the bar. You should have taken your bag with u. Any way no point crying over spilled milk. Leave that guy. He has no self control. Na that kind they rape housemaid n nannies gosh
ReplyDeletePoster No1, I want u to knw dat God will never give u a burden u cannot bear, life is full of ups n downs, When it seem all hope is lost God will just turn everything around for ur good, God allowed everything u are going tru for a reason, just hold on to him and keep praising him. Pray for His will to b don in ur life. Poster no2 plz follow ur head am sure ur hrt is telling u something, Rape is Rape am sure u knw wats best for u.
ReplyDelete@Nkemdilim Christabel, are u for real? Like seriously, he was horny and girls do dat too when dey are? (according to u). This generation has lost it! To the second poster, what he did to u was a sign to make u know what u wanna get urself into. Ur guy lacks self control, and if u go ahead with him, he'll do it over and over again and will keep apologizing. If u get married to him and a pretty sis or cousin comes to stay with u, he won't be able to control himself cos she's pretty abi? Cos dats d flimsy excuse he gave u. Abeg carry your two legs and run!!!!!!. You are still young, and don't mind d idiot that said men are scarce. Your right man will locate u soon. Stay blessed.
ReplyDeleteN2 u shouldn't have gone back after going to the bar. You should have taken your bag with u. Any way no point crying over spilled milk. Leave that guy. He has no self control. Na that kind they rape housemaid n nannies gosh
ReplyDelete@Ezenwanyi who loves being raped; supposing you're gang raped tonight by a battalion of armed robbers; what you wish yourself! supposing you moan all through it and you beget a huge bastard via that rape and supposing all your daughters get raped everyday of their lives? yes what you wish yourself.
ReplyDeleteBwahahahaha!!!!!!!
DeleteThose armed robbers go run aswear. I am indefatigable,I can twerk 20 men at once.
Y are u getting upset?????u better calm d fuck down b4 u burst an artery.
Anon u are so uncouth.
DeleteTest yourself for STD
ReplyDeleteEngagement has got nothing to do with STDS.
I am so sorry darling
XOXO MYSTERY
Poster no 2,are u sure the kind of rape u are talking about is not the one u will be saying no and yet ur legs will be opening small small? And after d deed,u will feel so guilty and to make ur self look good,u blame everything on d guy and cry rape. Why I am asking is because,I find it difficult to believe one guy can successfully rape a girl without a gun or even a knife to threaten her life. Why u no hold the prick twist am for am?
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha,i don dye hiaa 1 million lik...loves
DeleteIt would be really stupid to break up with the man that has just raped her....???....its official! you Nigerians lack any form of common sense!
ReplyDeleteYou all say that you are not desperate for marriage, but evidently you are!
One idiot is saying husbands are scarce!....is a rapist husband material?
"The Devil you know is better than the angel you don't know"...what crap is this?....so you're saying that its best she commits her life to an evil person because of what?....because she may not be happy elsewhere? please, please...explain this logic to me!!!
Another prick said that because she wasnt punched, then she wasnt raped. Hmmm...should I even comment on such a stupid comment. I assume that person doesnt know what rape is.
There are so many ridiculous comments here....the other idiot that advises she gives him another chance but must not trust him or be alone with him. Yeah! great bloody advice! Marry somebody and find a bodyguard to stay in the house with you.
I swear lack of exposure has fucked with all your brains. You are all SHEEP follow follow people. Obsessed with religion and tradition and fail to think properly for yourselves. I pity you all.
Oh and to the person that said her friend is happily married to her rapist now....it's a lie! she isnt happy. But you should know this, aren't Nigerian women experts at making everybody believe they have the perfect marriage.
You havent invested anything into what you called a relationship. you are 22 (maybe even still studying), 3 months is nothing compared to the rest of your life!
You think you love him. you don't! You just love the idea of him.
Question is; do you hate yourself that much to knowingly give yourself a lifetime of hell????
find your worth!!!! live life and enjoy!
1 million likes! You write well...
DeleteGbam!!!
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Infact i love you join.
And you dumb skull,what is ur definition of a rape btw bf n gf? Your types shouldnt beat ur kids or strike them if they misbehave or you dont know it is child abuse? Olofo's like you be yarning dust all in the name of i want to belong. I still stand by what i said, if the dude didnt beat or injure her,its no rape!!!
DeleteSo Mister man. Your sister's boyfriend presses her to the bed and forces his dick into her vagina despite her pleas and refusal to the sex.,but the guy keeps on going and your sister tries to push him away but she is overpowered cos he is holding her hands firmly to the bed. Then he has his way and maybe she gets away eventually before he could finish his madness.
DeleteIs that rape or not. Please note. He didn't beat her or injure her. Just forced himself on her. So. Is that rape?
Oh man, sex Btw bf n gf? Are you okay?
DeleteSo, u r comparing rape to spanking a child? If you were a lady, I would have said you ought to experience it before you talk but I can sense that you are a man....oh, sorry, a boy...
N2, Walk.
ReplyDeleteThank you blog visitors for your advice.
ReplyDeleteand no..I was not dressed indecently but I have a beautiful face and body that I sometimes feel is more of a problem. I am equally very shy of the attention it gives me everywhere I go. I guess that is why this issue bothers me so much.
Yea, we all visit our partners when in relationships. Its only normal. I never saw this coming as he is so gentle and treats me right.
I have picked on the advice given here. I will send an update soon. I really love this family.
Good bless you all.
Poster No 2
Update for what?????
DeleteHmmm.......U wanna go back for more???
Women????they will visit a guy and claim they are feeling hot or uncomfortable and ask d guy if he has loin cloth which he offers,they send a lot of mixed signals and not quite long they complain of cramps or whatever and d guy offers massage and b4 U know it they are all over themselves kissing and fucking like rug rats till d girl ejaculates and then her senses returns...she pushes d guy away and cries rape... meanwhile. .................comot jhor!!!I sabi all those moves.
Dont mind them jare
DeleteYou did nothing wrong
God punish that Bastard of a boyfriend
Pls take a walk and dont look back.
Babe whatever you do pls don't stay in that relationship again. I use d host of heaven beg u, infact i'm on bended knees. You say ure beautiful then ure lucky cuz lots of dudes will still gather ontop ya mata. Ure 22 and no matter what you've experienced in this life 22 isn't 25, 30 or 50. Enough wise counsel has been given here although laced with enuf yabs, Tis well with you.
Deletestory 1:
ReplyDeletemy dear stay strong. you will overcome.
story 2.
what kind of a man is he? no self control, nothing. shebi he will have you all to himself in no distant time when you both tie the knot? why the rape?
he is too much in a hurry? such people are never to be trusted. you can forgive him but never trust this kind of man. never!
May God heal you and grant you your good heart desires. Rose
ReplyDeleteMy dear run like no man's business, 3 months is too short for you to make such huge decision by marrying this guy . The fact that he could rape you goes a long way to show you the kind of person he is
ReplyDeleteI can bet you she enjoyed it and she was wet like mad .yeye .
ReplyDeleteMay ur daughters be wet when they get raped,and may they enjoy it also.
DeleteIf this anon comes back now and curse ur generation now na u go first shout.
DeleteDEAR BV,S...I DNT TINK DERE IN NEED TO ADVICE DIS LADY...THE DECISION IS HERS BIKO.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.pls run as fast as ur legs can cari u.he is a bully n I will end up being miserable wen u marry dis guy.he was wrong 4 wot he did 2 u n dere is no excuse.trust me,it will get worse.love ursef.
ReplyDeleteSo they still do no sex b4 marriage thing?I can't deal abeg...
ReplyDeleteYes there is,God commanded it,and he hasn't changed his standards.
DeleteOp,pls run as fast as yr legs can carry u.
DeletePoster no 2,are u sure the kind of rape u are talking about is not the one u will be saying no and yet ur legs will be opening small small? And after d deed,u will feel so guilty and to make ur self look good,u blame everything on d guy and cry rape. Why I am asking is because,I find it difficult to believe one guy can successfully rape a girl without a gun or even a knife to threaten her life. Why u no hold the prick twist am for am?
ReplyDeleteANONYMOUS 2:43, I LOVE YOU. PLS TELL THEM, NIGERIAN WOMEN ENDURE TRASH IN D NAME OF HUSBAND AND MARRIAGE. I DUNT BLAME MEN AT ALL, THEY GET AWAY WITH RAPE/CHEATING AND VIOLENCE, COS TO THEM WOMEN ARE FOOLISH, JUST USEFUL AS OBJECTS FOR SEXUAL GRATIFICATION. TUFIA. I BLAME OUR SOCIETY THAT LABELS MARRIAGE AS AN ACHIEVEMENT FOR WOMEN, THAT PRESSURIZES WOMEN INTO SETTLING DOWN WITH ANY ANIMAL THAT CAN BEAR THE NAME HUSBAND.
ReplyDeleteRAPE IS NON CONSENSUAL SEX. NO IS NO, SILENCE IS NOT YES.
Poster 2 do not take decision by what you read on this blog follow your instinct if you love him as you claim you will give him another chance so if you people were married you will starve your husband for three months my dear he will just rape you
ReplyDelete1 remember he never sleeps nor slumber you are about to wake up from a dream that will make you aww
#N1....Jehovah Rapha who is the master healer will heal you of all infirmities.You are made whole in Jesus‘ name.
ReplyDelete#N2...This guy lacks self control.Pls end the relationship!So if u eventually get married n you employ an attractive maid,he will go ahead and rape her?Pls fire him ASAP!Na so e dey start.
#1- 1Cor 10:13. 1peter5:10. These were my constant confessions in my time of deep travails and because God doesn't want his word to be void, he fulfills them. Remind him of his words and He'll move. Just hold on, God is good. I care
ReplyDelete#2- I dated my hubby for roughly 3months too. I dint date him on time cuz I kept deceiving myself with a guy but I made up my mind and when I gave him my condition, his response confirmed that God was in it. No sex till marriage. He would sometimes ask not beg for it and I will always say NO telling him to make my testimony complete. I wanted it too but then, he would say no too. We had our intro, married and I'm happy because I have a testimony.
My advice- don't deceive yourself. God is a covenant keeping God- he has your life planned beyond your thoughts. Sex isn't food, women who hang legs on ceiling fans still have cheating men.
Chai, this Josephine no well, lol at opening your leg smal small.
ReplyDeleteAll you ladies including stella are hypocrites!
ReplyDeleteGo back to the post on a man who was raped by a woman. you were all claiming he enjoyed it...it wasn't rape bla bla bla. I tire for all u useless double faced bitches...Mtcheeeeew
N2:Console yourself sister with this case.
ReplyDeleteDiego Costa 'raped'Chelsea during the Europa Cup ans is now 'married'to Chelsea, even banging goals for us.
Your fiancé can be the new Diego Costa. Inugo.
N2:Console yourself sister with this case.
ReplyDeleteDiego Costa 'raped'Chelsea during the Europa Cup ans is now 'married'to Chelsea, even banging goals for us.
Your fiancé can be the new Diego Costa. Inugo.
N2. In my own opinion that guy does not seem to really want a marriage with you it's like what he wants is just sex I get he only agreed with the no sex thing because he was hoping that he can sweet talk you into have sex and then dump you, if this not the case then please don't make the mistake of marring him if you do he might carring on forcing himself on you in the name of are you not my wife? Do I have to beg you? I know of a couple with kids the wife goes through this every time so tines leaving her with sex bruces because she was dry down there.
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