A Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

A problem shared is a problem half solved!..

Some of you objected to my placing several stories alongside the other but I am sorry the chronicles is here to stay..instead of posting these stories several times during the day,i post once For each one you have an advice or a word for you can say #N1 or #N2 or N3 or #N4.N is shortened from Narrative.

NARRATIVE NUMBER 1
PINNING THE PREGNANCY ON SOMEONE ELSE...

Hi Stella,i have always been a fan..i need your advice and the advice of your readers out there because I am very confused.I am a young girl,a student in my early 20's and currently pregnant for someone I once considered a soul mate. 

This guy practically denied me after being with him for almost three years,gave reasons like we are not compatible and other weird talks,my world almost came to an end but I knew suicide was not an option because I knew this is a phase,meanwhile there is this guy that has been pleading with me to get married to him,although he's not financially stable.

The problem is not about the money but the fact that I don't love him so I turned down the request although my friend (i have just 1) said I should accept to secure my child's future,but I consider marriage to be a mutual and lifetime commitment.i can't seem to forget about the father of my child though I have tried to pray to God to give me the heart to forgive and forget becos I

was too committed and thought it was the best time of my life.

I had my flaws too but I always knew that nobody is perfect in life.my parents try to send me little money because they are not really financially stable.i have decided to quit school after delivery at least to look for a job to take care of my baby,but I know it won't be easy.

Should I accept the proposal and remain unhappy but give my child a father? Please help me out because I think about this day and night.thank you so much Stella and God bless SDKers! 

*Errm the only way you can pin it on him is if you were already sleeping with him before the pregnancy..hmmmm.

Please forget about pinning that baby on the wrong father.be honest with him and tell him what happened and let him decide what choices he can live with.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER 2
ABDUCTION ALERT TO ABUJA RESIDENTS

Please Stella, help keep blog visitors at alert especially Abuja residents, everyone should be very careful while showing empathy for strangers and inside public transport. 
my kid sis was traveling down from school to see our sister who is married and stays there too, the bus she entered stopped at a bus stop, a guy came down, trying to carry a carton behind, the driver started questioning him, "how come he didn't let him search the carton before putting it, and now he wants to carry it, that if him the guy doesn't tell him what's inside or allow him to search the carton, him the driver will not let him carry it". 

As the interrogation lingered, the guy burst into tears and started begging that the carton contains millions of Naira which belongs to the oga he served for many years in Kano who has refused to settle him, he then made away with the money when he was asked to go lodge it in. 

He went on begging the driver not to report him because already the driver was threatening fire and brimstones, the man in front then intervened that the driver should consider the guy, that a lot of boys pass through hell while in service and since the oga is an oil guru like the guy said let the boy just settle everyone in the bus and they will let him go.. The boy was still crying, nawa oo...50 minutes passed, still on the same matter, my sister vexed and wanted to leave, the boy held her back and begged in our dialect "please my igbo sister don't leave me alone here, i don't trust these people"... 

Sister having pity on him,stayed back and asked them to please let the guy go that she was in a haste. The woman close to my sister started suggesting where they can go to and share the money without anyone seeing them.....as they were going, sister got to where she wanted to alight and asked the driver to stop her, driver increased his pace, and she was mad like stop let me come down na, the man in front and other passengers started asking her to chill that does she know how much involved and how it can change her life, she said she wasn't interested, and was still asking them to stop let her come down but the driver never did. 

Whilst she was shouting and asking to be stopped, miraculously my call came into her set, and she pretended to be talking to a police officer (myself was even confused as she was screaming into my ears and calling me sir and saying things i didn't understand, hian, me hung up oo until she called later in the day to narrate it all.Omg!) that was how the driver quickly stopped and asked her to get down then sprang off.. Already she was in the middle of no where, thank God she managed her self out to a place she knows as Wuse which was totally off her route... Then she Thanked God for her freedom, and began a new journey.

Wow i thank God for her.I have been sent this same story by blog visitors whom it happened to at different times.The essence of posting,please read it and once its about to play out in front of you,please quickly do something!you can even start acting mad.all these ritualist's fear mad people.lol

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NARRATIVE NUMBER 3

BLOG VISITOR FEEDBACK CONCERNING SNOOPING ON HIS PHONE

Hi Stella. How is the family?  Mine is great.  This mail is actually long overdue but its better late than never.Sometime ago I sent you an SOS mail about my hubby's randy nature. Well,I am glad to say he has changed a lot for the better. I had a heart to heart chat with him and am sure he felt my pains. If he has stopped chasing women Stella to be honest I don't know and I don't care becos I am enjoying my marriage now. 

Our love life, sex life and even social life is coming back to normal. I hope it stays that way and I have promised never to go through his phone again. I really appreciate you for posting my mail back then becos I got a huge relief after telling my story. At least its better than sharing with a 'best friend'. 

God bless you all and Thanks Stella. My greatest hope is to meet you some day.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER FOUR

SISTER IN LAW BROUHAHA - DID I DO THE RIGHT THING



Dear Stella .                                             

Please kindly post this for me please.

My sister in-law decided to relocate from Kano with her two children to our location due to the unrest there. Before she moved she sent some money to us to get them an apartment of which the money wasn't sufficient and my husband had to augment. They relocated and stayed with us to enable the landlord put final touches to the place. 



My husband said they will stay with us for a few days before they move to the place we got for them ( self contain). All was set in the house for them to move, but after two weeks my SIL decided to travel to the village leaving her two kids with us (aged 15 and 14-girls). She came back after one week making their stay with us three weeks, only for her to come back and inform me that she is travelling back to Kano without the kids for a month leaving the kids with me. 





I am a banker, I leave early in the morning and return late, my husband travels regularly and is rarely around. Am going on vacation early next month and I will be travelling. I explained to her that I am not comfortable having her kids in my house when am not around and moreover this is out of the initial plan and I don't like being taken unawares. 



I am a very private person and i value my space. Coupled with my job I am also schooling which leaves me with little time for myself and my hubby.

Who is going to supervise the kids when we are not around and to crown it all we have a very randy gate man.

She moved out to the apartment we got for her by the time i got back from work the next day.


Please did I do wrong in any way to have explained to her that she can't leave the kids with me? Thanks!
Randy gate man?please sack him already before he gets you into trouble.As for your Sister in law,did you explain to her with the best words?if Yes abeg dont mind her,some people like to take some things for granted and stretch it..Go over to visit her with some foodstuff and try to find out if she is warm towards you,if not try to explain your stand again and show some love before you leave.

Some sister in laws are so wicked and plot the downfall of a wife but just do your bit and leave the rest.