''Sdkers, I am tired! Is it a crime to be single?! I'm a very independent young woman and not in a hurry to get married. I'm 27 and the pressure is too much. I've been hurt in the past and I'm definitely taking my time and won't settle for less!
I have been actively house hunting for over 3 months, ever since I decided to expand my thriving business. I work from home. No success yet getting a place because I am single. I get asked very silly questions like where is your husband?
Why does a single girl want a 3 bedroom? To be single and aspiring to rent anything more than a room self contain is a crime, I suppose. Landlords, turn me back immediately I say single. They claim single girls are promiscuous and loose. What haven't I heard?
The height of it was today when I went to inspect something perfect o! Landlord decided to conduct an interview. I sat, facing 3 men, and the first question was, are you married? It was almost simultaneously. I just sighed. They would rather have a single man.
This is not fair! Has anyone been in my shoes? A friend told me to wear engagement ring and lie the next time I see a potential landlord.
Please if any landlord with 2/3bed house available to rent won't mind a single girl as Tenant. I mind my damn business and have no friends''.
C.J
That's unfair, what's the landlord's Business with ur Marital status? His problem should be getting his rent paid on time, Maybe you didn't quite state your source of income.even if you are promiscuous it's not as if you would turn his house into a brothel , next time go with a male relative or friend to pose as your Fiance.
ReplyDeleteI don't have any male relatives young enough to pass as hubby.
DeleteI am into crafts and Decor and nerd an entire room for production
Not only in Lagos, its so common in Abuja too.
DeleteYes o, one time went to protea with my friend in abuja. They told us we can't sit at the bar because girls in the past use that opportunity to find white lovers. Stella we shock me and my friend had to sit in the pool area to enjoy our drinks o... We talk talk talk ooo, the bar man was like that was the instruction passed to him..... So yes in Nigeria life is hard for all single girls. Even travelling to Dubai alone, and u are a girl.. Customs will frustrate your life at the airport, cos its assumed u are going for prostitution.
DeleteI have been in this same situation too. The landlord told me he would not rent to me cause I was single. I was judged by someone I had never met cause I wasn't married.
DeletePls lets get married to save you from this predicament.
DeleteI have my own money ooo make you no think say na cos you dey do well ooo.lol
The problem is that the landlords are afraid and also looking at subsequent rent,bcos most young single ladies have houses rented for them by bfs and sugardaddies who might not be there to renew the rent next year and the gal will start running helter skelter at d same time putting the landlord's biz' at stake,and it's so hard to kick a tenant out of ur house by law!so they are trying to be safe than sorry,so @ poster I don't think it's abt d fact u are not married.if u had a 9-5 job,they feel better abt dat even if it won't pay ur bills!thats how myopic d mindset of our pple is.
Delete@classy chic,r u willing 2 share a 4-bedroom house with one other person.U take 2 rooms ensuite,share a gym,communal sitting-room,kitchen and a games room?Other person's hardly around,if so drop ur email 4 further discussion.
DeleteEhya Classic chic, you sound like a cool person, you could ask an elderly church member to stand for you or a Christain brother. Pele
DeleteWhat rubbish. Discrimination of the highest order. Some don't even know that with some married couples it's the woman that pays the rent. I don't subscribe to renting a guy to stand as ur man because u want to get an apartment, stick to the truth and you'll eventually meet with a sensible landlord. And besides, such landlords will be all up in ur business even if they let u have the apartment. We know their type. Judgmental fools.
DeleteWetin person no go hear from these landlords. We don't want ibo, we don't want calabar, hausa, yoruba. Now its single girls. Abeg who them kon want 2 rent dia houses ooohhh! Angels? Crazy house owners oshi.
ReplyDeletea landlord once told me he hates my tribe and doesn't want to have nun to do wt them.
DeleteMy dear poster it took me four months to get a place of my own. Eventually, I told them that I am engaged and that my fiance had just been transfered to PH that my parents are retired and packing to our home town, since I work here in Lag I had no choice than to get a place. They all oohhhed and aahhh and told me to come and pay. Lol all lies of course but I was tired of been asked if I want to be living there with a man bla bla bla. So biko, find some lies and get ur place, after payment no one will disturb u. Now I'm d best tenant they have (according to d landlady o) I mind my biz I hardly talk to anyone. That's Africa for u. A lady living alone is seen as a prostitute.
DeleteMy dear poster it took me four months to get a place of my own. Eventually, I told them that I am engaged and that my fiance had just been transfered to PH that my parents are retired and packing to our home town, since I work here in Lag I had no choice than to get a place. They all oohhhed and aahhh and told me to come and pay. Lol all lies of course but I was tired of been asked if I want to be living there with a man bla bla bla. So biko, find some lies and get ur place, after payment no one will disturb u. Now I'm d best tenant they have (according to d landlady o) I mind my biz I hardly talk to anyone. That's Africa for u. A lady living alone is seen as a prostitute.
DeleteThose saying she hasn't tried enough should shut up. Don't judge anyone untill you've been in their shoes. Being a single Lady in Nigeria is a stigma. That's why I hardly blame those who are desperate. Being a Mrs saves one from so many embarrassments. Even at work, my married assistant get addressed with more respect by our bosses than me. *sigh* Baba be a boo provider ooo.
Deletei totally agree with your last comment Palominogeh. SINGLENESS NO BE DISEASE
DeleteI think you are looking in the wrong place, single ladies have apartments in Lagos,surely they don't live under the bridge..try harder you will get a place..goodluck.
ReplyDeleteAbeg pipo,is dere fake rice in lagos bcos d tin no dey fill me?Serious question
DeleteShou Kolobi Wetin na? This kain question you ask under my thread so I'm not sure I can help..but for whatever it is worth,since rice no dey belleful you maybe you should switch to eba,fufu and semo only..lol.
DeleteNawa o...... Shak!
ReplyDeleteTrue dat. Bn dre.
DeleteI nt only lied abt being married bt also avn a kid to get this very beautfl 3bedroom duplex on d island. Told them my hubby is abroad n made them cal a male friend of mine who acted like my hubby.
Yeye pipu. They want lies, they'll get lies.
Hheheheheh..Poster,follow Magarita's advice...LMAO...
Deletebwhhhaaaa Magarita! Cunny man die, cunny man bury am.
DeleteStupid profiling....BEING SINGLE is NOT a death sentence! Society needs to listen up. Leave single HARDWORKING females ALONE.
Lwkmd @ they want lies they will get lies... Papapapapappapa
DeleteSorry Gurl
ReplyDeleteLet's be honest @ 27 you suppose to be married or living with a man. Except something is wrong with you. Titimadame
Delete@titimadame, stfu and gtfoh with your judgemental skanky ass.
Delete@titimadame, I do not need a man to validate me, thank you.
DeleteI am perfectly ok and won't settle for less in order to please judgemental peeps like you
U must be a fool titihousegirl
DeletePerson wey never die no know d kind death wey go kill am ooo, eenu ee lowa yen
DeleteYou need to examine yourself for thinking life begins and ends with marriage.
DeletePls shut up titidame and say what u know. Poster don't mind this thing, there is nothing wrong with u.
DeleteLiving with a man? Are you alright? Because you are married and unhappy and jobless you want everyone to be like you. Comot for here jor. Dunce
DeleteIdiot @anon 9:19
DeleteExcept something is wrong with her? U are what is wrong in Nigeria
DeleteU just sounded like someone sometin is wrong with. Its people like u dat drive single girls in2 fruitless marriages all in d name of @27 re suppose 2 b married. EWU. U n who dey honest?
DeleteShuo....... so if she doesn't have a husband she should stop to exist abi? The way people reason sometimes can be so dumb.
DeleteShut up Titimadame! Marriage isn't the ultimate goal in life. Anuofia!!!
DeleteNa wa for u o anonn na by force 2 marry, so she shld marry herself if husband is not available?
DeleteNa real wa o, @Titimadame, did u just say that?? Jesus. Na people like u wan make that 40yr old commit suicide yesterday, so tay she had to goggle how to commit suicide. Yes u @Titimadame, are u any better than d poster? Na wa 4 some people on ds blog o, sometimes I really wonder, kai SMH.
DeleteLet's call a spade a spade by 25 a lady should be married and by 35 through with child bearing . Girls stop looking for a guy that stays in a flat, you can start in a face me I face you with just a child.
Deletesupposed to @ 27? WHO MAKES THE RULES! Make una free people pikin.
DeleteFolks like these CURSE out Genny n Rita!
FREE them oooooo!
Titimadame....like seriously??? you mean ur whole world revolves round a man and ur existence is defined by a man?? you sound desperate and am sure you could even settle for less just to be mrs. somebody. pls change ur orientation.Marriage isnt a passport to happiness and fulfilment in life.
DeleteTitidame bet ur dad is the landlord in question. SMH
DeleteSome people just make being single seem like an epidemic. Sorry jare, don't mind them.
ReplyDeletenawa o
ReplyDeleteWhy are u stressing yourself? If u have a brother just go with him as ur husband since u both share same surname, that was the same thing I did when getting a place as a single lady was become diffcult, I just planned with my elder brother that resides abroad nd we gave them the story of husband relocating home nd the need for (me) wife to set up the house b4 his arrival, they called him to confirm nd trust me the apartment became mine.
ReplyDeleteBut why does one need to lie to get an apartment that I will use my money to sustain o? Why why why? This matter should be revised by the state n fed govt. It is absurd. Then again a private landlord has a right to set a prerequisite for his property.. but c'mon, why does ur marital status have to get an edge over ur employment status? Ridiculous and absurd ...I must re echo.
DeleteBigoted people everywhere! Why not ask ur male relatives to be a front for you?
ReplyDeleteIts true,i dnt knw y
ReplyDeletePls visit my shoe blog
www.glowysofiscated.blogspot.com
Hello CJ..
ReplyDeleteAm a realtor, I do understand but there's a way of putting nosy landlord's in place.
Please drop your contact details with Stella. Also can you tell me what your budget its and your preferred location?
Thanks
Anuoluwapo
hmm drop gini? ok
DeleteHmmm Oga Anuoluwapo. No comment.
Deletehmmmm na wa o i don't really know what to say but keep trying you will certainly get a place of yours
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
This is really stupid and i dont think anyone has the ryt to ask yu such questions......
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Lol, i had same issues too, my landlord said he hopes cars wont be parking infront of his house in numbers, and i wont be having crazy parties. And i ve proved him wrong so far.
ReplyDeleteNawa o! Sorry dear! Abuja landlords are so different. They no send. When I was in Abuja Nigeria,my BFF( a guy) tld me in honest feeling he prefers ladies in his house than men. The Reason he gave me was that Abuja big chics dnt owe. Ad the keep ur house clean. Ad that's the truth. Sometimes they even go as far as rebuilding ur house for their own comfort. Me for an instant, I removed the Bathtub in my room toilet for a Jacuzzi. Nah I didn't buy it myself. A frd did. Ofcos I left the jacuzzi for my landlord ad the new lucky ternat (A chic too)when I relocated to here. Nne see if u can relocate to the FCT. Mayb God wants u to and these His own way of telling u. 3mnts on a housr hunt no easy.
ReplyDeleteLoool cos everyone know abuja big girls are big runs girls... Come and see range rovers, Gwagons and exotic cars parked on my street at night name, with police plate numbers on them, and see a young girl and an old man strolling out... Biko don't get me started on abuja life.. In abuja, every young girl gets looked at as a prostitute, when only old married men are the ones that approach girls... Man I ran for my life from abuja.
DeleteHahaha way too funny
Delete@ Ada we all know u use to be a serious runs gul in Abuja. Heard u shared few of ur AbJ men among ur trusted lesbian gul frds! Is it only Jacuzzi he bought 4 u? How about ur ML, ur junior bro in school in Dubia. He relocated ur mum to Paris. etc And all his expensive gift. Heard u got pregnant 4 him and he relocated you too to some country. Not sure. Metcheeeeww...abeg just shut up. We all know 1 thing with u Abuja runz gulz is that una jazz nobe here. Infact all Abuja big gulz ve one baba or Mamie water somewhere blowing the fire 4 them. We all know everything!!! So chilax! Even the men too know that some of you big gulz una hand no pure. Whatever...Jazz dey fade sha. Ur life might seem perfect now but...grab everything u can grab now b4 it fades. piece of advice!
DeleteFrienemy are u any better? Show me ur frd...
DeleteYou ve lost it. U need urgent help you must be totally out of ur damn mind!!! *smh* Get help!!! Deranged goat!!!
DeleteSorry dear u will see one soon . Goooooodmoooring sdkers. Pls need help hw do I comment with my name n pic. I can say am new here but dnt use to comment hate going under anonymous
ReplyDeleteWow! That's pathetic!!! I wouldn't want to believe that Lagosians are myopic. I am single and I live in a rented duplex with a pent house all by myself here in Nairobi. Poster you could consider relocating here ok. We are an open minded lot!
ReplyDeleteLucinda
In ur dreams rite
DeleteRoll my eyes
DeleteLol...dreamer oshi
DeleteLucinda MayA? You that claimed to be married and gave birth recently? You can lie for Africa! lolololol
DeleteHmmm, Lagos na wa!
ReplyDelete3994 1580 2979 (MTN 1,500).
ReplyDeleteIf you load it, shout 'SHOKOLOKOBANGOSHAY!'
yay! thanks pink...God bless u
DeleteHahahahha@ shokolokobangoshay! Remember dat song
DeleteGod bless u Pinkie(dats what i will be calling u from henceforth)
DeleteHehehehehehe
May God bless ur dear dear heart!
Hope u are having Ă fab day.
Nor be me load the card oo. But LMAO @...SHOKOLOKOBANGOSHAY! Its been long I heard it. God bless U Pink Sunset. Kip it up.
DeleteNa wa ooo. Naija things dey ever dey diff. Smtheeeeeeeeeew!
ReplyDelete6days to d expiration of my mb, who is gonna bail me out? Dr Orela i wont mind sending my email. Cheeers
Haney
Lazy fowl! Sit down there and be using Stella's blog as an avenue to exhibit your foolishness. Don't go and hustle so you can buy mb and a whole lot of other things I'm sure is missing out in your life. Wait you hear. A good samaritan will send Stella email to ask you to send your account number. Haney beggy beggy
DeleteGG
Go and find something to do so u can bless someone too!
DeleteIt is more blessed to give than to receive
After saying this I know I will get a lot of anonymous bashing all thru the posts on sdk and in the following weeks to come. But I seriously do not give a flying fuck.
DeleteWhat has this blog become to most of you? While I commend the givers and wish better those who genuinely lack the basic things of life due to one reason or another....i must say that it is grossly repulsive that some lazy asses have turned the kindest gestures of BV's giveaways into their daily manner from above. I am beginning to suspect that most of u come here just to grab airtime and to turn this place into a beggars colony.
On behalf of Stella and well meaning BV' like myself who come here daily and are a part of the family here, I resent ur newly imbibed attitude of BEGGING for anything here. Please STOP that nonsense and fix ur normal life if u have any.
People work hard for their daily returns and are not indebted to no bagga. If anyone is compelled to give let them do so at their convenience. Take it joyfully if u are lucky to be a recipient of the goodies and move on. Don't come under every thread with sulk stories begging for empathy or insisting on any free stuff. It's annoying and repulsive in the least. Haba!!!!
It was fun but it no longer serves the purpose.. using Stella or using her medium just for ur selfish purpose is vague patriotism. There's hardly a day that goes by here that I do not read comments like this, asking for BIS card or whatever else...and I think we have tolerated the crap enough.
I am no mouth piece for Stella or anyone else, am just wondering when people will stop taking advantage of some temporary kind gestures which they now want to turn into a permanent obligation.
Some of u even cuss out those who make promises to u and are get to fulfill them, like say Na dem born una. Although I don't subscribe to anyone raising hopes and not fulfilling them. Then again it is their prerogative to give or not to give.
Please let the originality of this blog be returned to its former glory. If no one gives anything free the true loyalists of SDK shall still remain. Of which I am one of them.
Like I said, I am ready for the anonymous trolls of stalkers on this matter. I will revert to ur grievance once I have the spare time. Rubbish. Outta here.
Don't mind the hypocritical lot.... I don't know what their bizness is, cos wot really matters is to get their house rent... Maybe u shud just tell them ur boo is overseas and let peace reign ... Am about to sleep now , stella please no dey quick post all ur news na, consider BVs wey dey Yankee ... I wake up and see like 1 million comments already and my comment go dey stale... Lol...
ReplyDeleteExactly,I don't sleep when others are sleeping just to comment...
DeleteNow I know I can't do without this blog...
Mogbe !!!...Stella's blog don jazz me ohhh
My dear,I'm not giving any single lady any of my flats to live in. It's an unwritten law amongst us o(Landlords n Landladies).
ReplyDeleteLet me give you a suggestion: When you are asked again,where your hubby dey,tell the Landlord he's on transfer. Look for a house the Landlord no dey live inside.
Goodluck
By all means, eat ur flats
DeleteBy all means, eat ur flats
DeleteSo in all honesty, aren't u deceiving yourself...u know u r being lied to and u prefer the lie....smh...typical Nigerian
DeleteMe, I don't get house with landlord...lailai...
DeleteWho is this Eka Joy? What is your painment kwa?
DeleteWhich area is this? I have 3 bedrooms service apartment for 3.5 million in VGC.
ReplyDelete*scratches head and walks away*
DeleteLol@manna bee... U get dandruff ? Lmao
DeleteDesperate situations, requires desperate measures. When I wanted to get my place, I was told the landlord was a staunch catholic. Went straight and got me a shiny rosary and scapular! Glory to Jesus, honor to Mary. So darling when next you are going look for someone to pose as your husband or fiance. Dasall!
ReplyDeleteHahahhahaha! Rosary n scapular ko! Virgin Mary statue ni
DeleteHahahahahaha...
DeleteHahaha. You too funny abeg
DeleteHahahahahah lmao @ glory be to Jesus,honor to mary
DeleteLoooool
DeleteAf died phahahahahahaga
DeleteThis got me rofl...holy mary
DeleteLol, Stella get crazy visitors I swear!
DeleteI can't blame these landlords sometimes coz d two sisters renting a 3 bedroom flat in our house have turned d house in2 a red light zone. They party all weekend, different men showing up @ odd hours of d night. As soon as it is 4pm, u start seeing expensive cars lining up outside jes 2 see them. Omo no be small thing o
ReplyDelete*lips sealed and watching*
And they bring a lil sunshine into your miserable life.....albeit vicariously...
DeleteAh!!! Same happened to me oj. Yours is even big self. Mine was a self contained and was so embarrassed. Someone literally asked me how I would cope with paying the rent....I was like seriously????? That's the ish oh, very very annoying.
ReplyDeleteBin there,my former house agent even told me to rent a husband because d landlord won't give a single lady,I told I don't know any shop I could rent ,long story short we went to see d landlord and he was asking why aren't I married instead of asking how I can pay his rent,went on to tell me he has no prob with unmarried ladies but d prob he has with them is trying to get a flat to them selves when they can stay withier parent or relatives,that his 36yrs old daughter who has a good job no husband still dstsy at home.
ReplyDeleteThey have probably had not-so-good experience with some single girls in the past.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry, you will get a place soon. Just be patient.
Poster, I have a question...what type of job do you do that enables you to work from home? I live in the United States and I would like to work from home or start up my own business but I don't have much ideas on what to do as of right now. Money is not an issue. I just need ideas/suggestions of something tangible to delve into.
ReplyDeleteAm sorry for deviating a bit from your post. Hope God provides you with a great apartment/accommodation soon.
Go and do something you're are passionate about and you will definitely suceed. The problems why a lot of people don't excel is because of "follow follow"
DeleteYou're not serious.
Loll!
ReplyDeleteNaija protocols sha.
Don't mind them. Though some will even go as far as telling you they want a particular tribe as tenants. It's that bad. On the mainland, I think they reject Plenty single ladies, but don't think it's that bad on the island cos those ones are more interested in money sef. You can wear the ring and create an invisible husband or fiancé.
ReplyDeleteDear, build ya own house instead;since dem landlords kip turnin u down.
ReplyDeleteyou see your life ...?
DeleteLol @"i mind my damn business and have no friends",but girl 3rooms for a single lady ain't that a bit toooo much?
ReplyDeleteu no see the I WORK FROM HOME bit?
DeleteI also work from home, its economical. Saves you paying for house rent and shop rent. A three bedroom flat is just right for a single working from home lady trust me. By God's grace next year me sef go begin find my own.
Delete@ada, maybe she has visitors. And if she works from home, then she probably need a room to serve as an office and 1 room for guests. so, thats not a bad request. Besides, if she's paying for it, who's business is it anyway if she wants 7 brdm or a 1 bdrm?
DeleteBabe this ur gist is unbelievable. Mayb Lag and Abj are not the same thing. I've got single friends that rent good apartment in Lag without stress, why is urs different?
ReplyDeleteMaybe it depends on the part of Lag u want to rent or how u look. Check urself. Check how u package urself (dressing).
Gosh! I am single and I don't see any obstacle. Y is urs different?
Its not ma fair world for the single girls.. Landlords would rather gibe their houses to married men and women,couples living together who aren't married,single men but not a single girl. If you go with a ring and you don't have a man living with you after a while,you would be served with quit notice.. Bit if you go for a one bedroom flat,they will give to you
ReplyDeleteMadam, what do you need a three bedrm flat for? Doesn't make sense. Except there's something you aren't telling us. If you want to b doing your biz from home why didn't you explain to the landlord. Not a mini or 2bd, 3? Oriegwu
ReplyDeleteSo if she can afford 3 bedrooms, she shouldn't
Delete1 room as office, 1 room as wardrobe/storage, 1 room to sleep in. Is dat too much to ask for? In fact if u ask me il recommend she gets 4 rooms incase friends or relatives come around then they can sleep in the 4th room.
Deletebut wait...what is are u doing with a 3bedroom apartment. is it really necessary? u can't blame some Landlords for being suspicious , most people would. Settle for a two bedroom at least. Or come along with a male friend when going house hunting and have him play along to be ur husband. Ebuka
ReplyDeleteI tire for such landlords.its wrong to just turn u down because of that.Just pray and ask God to grant u favour over this,that is what i will do.Cheers!.Morning SDK,Ppl!!
ReplyDeleteDon't you brothers or male cousins? Have them put in the application for you, then you move in. Or have your dad put in the application for you. Why are you making it sound like it is a big deal. Or am I missing something here?
ReplyDeleteNa wa o Lagos landlords never still change? Thank God for were I am, I am single and staying in a comfortable 2 bedroom apartment in Bayelsa landlord only want to know were you work or what bizness u are into to be sure you can pay d next rent. Poster don't worry you will get a good one just don't give up
ReplyDeleteAre u in yenagoa? If yes, wat area?
DeleteI'm in yenagoa too, azikoro road by ekeki, let's hook up :-D
DeleteI think some landlords are scared because some single women rent these houses and invite their "business partners" so that they can easily invite their "clients" there,turning the rooms into uptown brothels....maybe that is the fear of these landlords...That said,you will definitely find a place dear..just be careful so you don't get scammed! All the best...Rock your single life hun...Don't rush!
ReplyDeleteNaija oooo. I love that country!! Marriage no go kill una.
ReplyDeleteOk. Now its single girls.
ReplyDeleteO buro kwazi ndi igbo.
Those lndlords can be annoying sometimes.
My hub is angrily developing on of his lands here cos of wat ds pple did to him.
This is someone that has promised neva to construct any structure here in lag.
U can ask a male frnd to act like am elder bro, and pretend its the two of u gettin the flat.
ReplyDeleteBut aunty wetin a single babe wan tk 3bedroom flat do, cos if u were a landlord I bet u wldnt let ur own house to a single gal, cos there is no how she wldnt bring in her female frnds, and def dis wld attract a bevy of men.
Lemme ask agen wat wld a single gal, wit just a pair of nyash do wit 2 extra bedroom, aunty are u an agent?(U wan rerent d rooms?)
UNCLE Pink Shell did u read the part where she wrote "I WORK FROM HOME"?
DeleteUggggh
TRANSGENDER anony wat az dat infor got to do wit 3bedroom flat. If u want an office space rent 1.
DeleteEmmm....... pinkie to ans ur question. 1 bedroom is for her to sleep in, 2 bedroom is her office, 3rd bedroom is spare for when she has any visitor or relative coming over.
Delete*smiles *. In the past years maybe but I doubt it now, have helped 2friends get 3bed apartment in last 5 months n they say their landlords are nice men. If you don't mind gbagada (lagos) will hook you up. 3bed in gbagada at least is 800k upwards, 2bed is from 650k
ReplyDeleteestate agent go put up ur advert on to let.com with photos
Deletepeace
Babes, I suggest u get some friends as good friends are confirmed antidotes in times of depression which all human beings grossly or lightly experience. BTW, I think the 'Landlords' has no reason to deny u an apartment if u can afford one. But then, if the landlords are being heady, try a landlady *winks
ReplyDeleteAm guessing dis happnd In lagos. Lol.
ReplyDeleteMy gf faced same P. too. Landlords wudnt lease to her cos she's single until she claimed engaged to ha brother. Lolz.. Smdh! I dnt understand some peep's mentality tho. #awkward
Lol,take it easy,the Lord is ur strength
ReplyDeletePoster I feel u.its so annoying I don't understand why they do that,even when u let them know what business u do or ur source of income.
ReplyDeleteThat's true to an extent. Try looking for a house in places like Festac, housing estates etc. These areas, u deal mainly with d agents and hardly have any contact with d Landlords. Pls pray seriously before taking up any apartment. Some of the houses u see in Lagos have fetish stories behind them. Its well with u.
ReplyDelete@ Poster strange though. am a single lady and i hv a 2 bedroom and moving to another 3 bedroom and i hv never had this encounter though. probably the area you are searching for sha...
ReplyDeleteBabe,please where is the 2 bedroom you are moving out from? I need 2 bedroom and how much,am a dude for ur info. Regards
DeleteIt's true, very true story. Most lagos landlords are a-holes!
ReplyDeleteAnd some tenants are from hell!
DeletePoster I feel u.its so annoying I don't understand why they do that,even when u let them know what business u do or ur source of income.
ReplyDeleteHappened to me too,but hey, you don't know what God is preventing you from. Keep looking dear, you would find one soon. Don't let it weigh u down. Cheers
ReplyDeleteAre you a learner?
ReplyDeleteThis has been going on for years in Lagos. A male cousin or your uncle has to pose as your fiance and sign the documents. You can claim he travelled later if the landlord is such a busybody and asks after him.
It's downright crude an archaic but some single ladies don't make it easy for others. Imagine how policemen would have harassed "Aunty Lizzy's" husband if that stupid Smallie had killed her in a rented apartment.
Some landlords have gone a step further and won't rent to bachelors who claim to be self employed, for fear they might be yahoo boys. Those in high brow areas have to tender confirmation letters from their company HR to the landlord. This makes better sense than ruling out spinsters all together
Sorry to ask, but why do you want a 3bedroom flat?
ReplyDeleteIm a marriage counselor and i advice newly married couples to get 2bedroom flat.
One for them and one for kids, reason being it keeps inlaws and unnecessary guests away.
Having a 3bedroom is almost like an open invitation.
Try to see it from another angle. They are probably wondering what you want to do with a 3bedroom apartment.
So please, be calm and ask yourself if you really NEED a 3bedroom flat.
If you still insist on getting it, get your parents to meet the landlord. Move your things with you, stay a few days and 'go back to the village'. (Village being their own place)
Lol. Only u waka go! Lmao. U better find 1 bobo or ur bro or ur uncle n say na ur hubby n. U'll later say he's traveled out or u say ur hubby isn't in naija! If not, na only u waka come oooo.
ReplyDeleteThat is what most house agent have been told by the Landlord. A woman I know of brought of Man as her husband just to secure a house. Four years after, no one has seen the man again. I don't know why they ask for their husbands.
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ReplyDeleteIs that how people relocate? Which kind advice be this one? Poster, look for a brother or male friend to pose as your husband shikina. Which one be relocate again?
ReplyDeleteD problem with Nigerian bizmen is that they put 2much sentiment yl doin business. L8r now they will say biz aint moving when infact they are their own stumbling block.
ReplyDeleteIt will interest u 2 knw dat its not just single girls dat find it difficult 2 get apartment. I av had 2 wrk with a client dat said she doesnt want d following ppl in her ppty despite d price of her ppty being too high: a single lady (mum or lady), a muslim, Hausa (for always being unreasonable), a member of white garment church, lawyer (which I still find funny by d way) and lastly, an Ibo person (for being very stubborn). At dis point, my boss said madam u do realise dat d guy wh0m u av been wrking with ticks d last tw0 b0xes? Na so she begin apologise o. Till date 0nly 1 tenant has moved in having met her criteria n dis is d 4th month. Now she calls frm europe 2 ask abt progress. So young lady nor vex as u can't quarrel with a landlord 4 not letting out his/her ppty. Better luck nxt tym.
Is that how people relocate? Which kind advice be this one? Poster, look for a brother or male friend to pose as your husband shikina. Which one be relocate again?
ReplyDeleteThis has been happening in lagos for yrs...u just need to tell d landlord u r not a single mum dat ur hubby is abroad...shikena!
ReplyDeleteNa wa o!
ReplyDeleteWetin be their own,no b pay rent them know,Odiegwu
ReplyDeleteI read this early in the morning was too lazy to comment..why would he be this mean,you not married how is it his business,he is just giving you quick notice by saying he will prefer a single man,my dear just take it easy the next time he comes try to convince him you're engaged or something.. This is really bad
ReplyDeleteI pray I would be house hunting next year too
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DeleteMy dear,u will not blame landlords for asking such questions,in lekki,some girls rent houses,the next thing dey turn it into mini brothel,they rent 2bedroom were u will see more than 15girls living there,they pay d lady that rents d house 10k everyweek.it happens in lekki so don't blame landlord though it's discriminatory not to rent houses to single ladies!
ReplyDeleteLagos LLs are only being careful.if u claim u are single why do u need a 3 bed or u want to turn the house to a warehouse.most single people that rent 3bed on the island always have interior motive.some turn the other rooms and even the living room to a brothel. They end up putting like 3bunks in a room and charge each chic that sleeps in there 1k per night.The girls are not allowed to bring men in .guys have u bothered to query a girl that u are chasing in lekki or oniru why. U visited her 15times, she has never allowed you into her house and she lives in lekki.if u do the simple maths.the real tenant would probably make times 3 that rent in a year.what of the tenants that are into jazz.once they move in the landlord would forget he ever owned a house in the next 10years.so they live for free.u seff justify why u need a three bedroom or u are trying to rent the apartment for a wanted fugitive.we all have to be careful(landlord and tenant)
ReplyDeleteOk a 3bedroom available in ilamoshe estate oke-afa Isolo Lagos. Tho with terms and conditions. You can further if u interested in my email. God bless!
ReplyDeleteNa wao oo mouth open
ReplyDeleteNa wao oo mouth open
ReplyDeleteAbeg i have two bedroom flat for rent in PH, off psychatric road. 1yr payment shikena
ReplyDeleteAbeg i have two bedroom flat for rent in PH, off psychatric road. 1yr payment shikena
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster, dat is Lagos for u o. Had d same issue wen I was going to get my place and now that I want to move, i'm even too scared to go thru all dat stress. Just believe God dat u would get ur own place. If possible sha, don't get a house where d landlady lives ooo. It can be frustrating. That's why I want to leave where I am now. I pray God makes a way for u soon.
ReplyDeleteWhat makes it wrong for a Single Lady to rent 3bed room apartment? The reason many people still remain POOR today is their mind set. I just don't know what is wrong with us in this country. Babe (classy)! Take drastic measure and get the apartment, you're left with no choice. I wish you luck.
ReplyDeleteMost times, the way we dress is the way we are addressed. how did you dress when you went to meet the landlord?. What did you tell the landlord is your source of income or is this your first time of establishing a business. What kind of car are you driving? how did you walk while entering the the landlord compound. All these matters alot. @singles. while looking for a house, please present yourselves as very responsible people in your dressing, words pronunciations and walking steps. Every married woman was once single so there is no big deal about being single.
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ReplyDeleteI have heard this several times over.
ReplyDeletesome landlords do it to guys also.
they say they would bring trouble (fights and all from girlfriends or boyfriends). they believe being single gives room for irresponsible actions
what so many do now is wear a fake wedding band and take someone along to pose as spouse.
You should do same.
Play the game and get a roof above your head.
I have heard this several times over.
ReplyDeletesome landlords do it to guys also.
they say they would bring trouble (fights and all from girlfriends or boyfriends). they believe being single gives room for irresponsible actions
what so many do now is wear a fake wedding band and take someone along to pose as spouse.
You should do same.
Play the game and get a roof above your head.
no be only lagos now
ReplyDeleteeven for Enugu here...I think is everywhere
@Galore
no be only lagos now
ReplyDeleteeven for Enugu here...I think is everywhere
@Galore
I relocated to Lagos from Ph last year and was seriously looking for an accommodation before hubby will come down to join me, it was not easy getting a place because of agent and agreement wahala. When i finally got one, the first thing the landlord asked was the whereabout of my hubby, when i told him that hubby was still in ph he said that he must see hubby before we start any negotiation and hubby had to leave every thing he was doing just to secure a place for us. That is Lagos for you.
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ReplyDeleteI am interested in a 2bedroom apartment (2t/2b) in yaba or gbagada, budget is 600k to 650k.
Thanks.
BELLA
Babe,which area is the 2 bedroom? I need 2 bedroom n how much? Just for ur info,am a dude. Regards
DeleteWetin person nor hear! Which way 9ja
ReplyDeleteWetin person nor hear! Which way 9ja
ReplyDeleteMy problem is where to park my carr when it arrives...this has been giving me sleepless nights
ReplyDeleteThere is presently a vacant apartment in my compound surulere 3bedroom flat going 600k. Landlord does not stay within. Light & water guaranteed. Contact Stella if interested.
ReplyDeleteAm having exactly the same issue,just wondering wats deir bizwax whether ur single or not,de shuld be more concerned with how ur gonna pay d rent.
ReplyDeleteHey babe (that wants to leave 2 bed for 3 bed) which area is your 2 bed in lag? I need 2 bedroom,am a dude. Thanks dear
ReplyDeleteYes it is true they do it. Most ladies lie that they are engaged or they just go with a guy friend who will pretend to be their fiancee or husband. It is called Cony man die cony man bury am.
ReplyDeleteI am a landlord and I will do the same. You want to turn my house to harlot den. Just like tonto dike and halima.
ReplyDeleteThat your single daughter is a PROSTITUTE but u dnt know just yet!
DeleteHalima welcome oooooo.E kaaabo.
DeleteWomen are really suffering, especially one with kids whose husband refuse to return from obodo Oyibo unless he makes alot of money... some Nigerian men are heartless... I live in a compound where every woman lives with their husband and children, they share everything together and they see me as a threat to their marriage... I dare not greet their hubby with a smiling face haa that one na Wahala ooo....
ReplyDeleteSinge at 27? Renting 3 BDR? No way I will rent to you.
ReplyDeleteWorking from home? YES! You want to change the flat to a brothel so that you and your friends will start servicing men (Work at Home). LOL
speaking from experience..was that what ur sister did?
DeleteNa wao that's not fair for hard working girls, looking for a job is problem and getting a house is other oh God help us
ReplyDeleteNa wah oh, is it a crime to be single, am a single working class lady and am loving my life. I leave alone,I bliv when the time comes,I will get married...no time for worries
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly is the big deal about a single girl wanting a 3 bedroom house. You work hard earn good money and yet you can not enjoy your money so why do people work their asses off? its amazing the comments from people such bigotry. There are women who work hard and run their own businesses as well as women who are executives in companies and yet people come up here asking why someone needs a 3 bedroom house or apartment in this day and age how about this? i have a 3 bedroom apartment, i sleep in one, i turned one into a closet where i store my clothing etc and the 3rd one is a guest bedroom, some people have family and friends who come from out of town, male and female who they don't share a bed with. At this age i don't even like to share a bed with my siblings, NO! i like my privacy and solitude when i'm in my bedroom. Some people also turn the 3rd room into their study/office/den tv room whatever and some people just like space. If you can afford it why squeeze yourself into a 1 bedder or 2 just because people and society think so? never mind you work day in day out so you can enjoy a good life! People seriously need to move away from this kind of thinking. What baffles me is there are actually women on here asking that absolutely ridiculous question why a single girl needs a 3 bedroom apt! Are you frigging kidding me? Are you meant to work your ass off then save the money for when you finally get married so you can rent a house for your husband to live in so society will not think you are a whore renting a house with so many rooms to carry on business? Urghhhh this backward thinking knocks me for 6 every time. Its a wonder we are still so 3rd world!
ReplyDeletePeople seriously need to move away from this kind of thinking. What baffles me is there are actually women on here asking that absolutely ridiculous question why a single girl needs a 3 bedroom apt!
Delete*Round of applause* you couldnt have said it better
BEST PART-People seriously need to move away from this kind of thinking. What baffles me is there are actually women on here asking that absolutely ridiculous question why a single girl needs a 3 bedroom apt!
DeleteThank you
let het come and stay with me. shes welcome. i'm single too.
ReplyDeletelmmaaooo! sounds like me...i dont have friends too
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