Wow,wonders shall never end oooh
check this out.....
''I'm an ardent reader of your informative blog. I have seen the way you
handle issues and I need matured advice from your readers.
I have been married for 10years,got married to my hubby at the age of
22,I have not for one day enjoyed sex with my hubby. After I got
disvirgined by my boyfriend,I made a vow to God that I will never
sleep with any man until my wedding night an d by the grace of God I
stood by my vow.
Unfortunately for me,that was the greatest mistake I made, I feelI
should have 'tested' the car before settling down for marriage! My
wedding night was a disaster,from then up on till now,I practically
beg my hubby to sleep with me. Because of his attitude towards sex,It
has brought resentment,disrespect,hatred on my side to the marriage.
We even went our separate ways for 3yrs but came back just for the
sake of the kids and it remains the same. He uses every little
misunderstanding to avoid his marital responsiblities.
Stella do you believe from 2012 up on till now my hubby has not slept with me!
I'm a woman with three kids but you hardly know that I'm married not to talk
of been a mother. I get advances from men every day but because of my
Christian background,even though I have had affairs in the past but I
feel guilty and I've had to cut them of because of my Christian belief.
Stella I really can't take it anymore I don't think I want to
continue this way,I often wonder if I'm going to spend the rest of my
life in a sexless marriage, I don't believe in been married and
commiting adultery!
Would appreciate if you post this for matured response''.
*Sweety,its either your resentment towards his lack of good sex has turned him off completely or you might just be married to a man who prefers sex with his kind...just saying.
Get a divorce!!
ReplyDeleteI think He's gay! Pls investigate.
DeleteThen look for a strong Dildo to take off the edges biko
DeleteWhy do I feel this is just written to encourage the use of Dildo..?
Delete@ Poster, the situation u painted is a sorry one. Am not one to sue for divorce, infidelity or subscribing to xes toys as a way out of this jam without seeking for professional help. As easy as it is for one to attribute his behaviour to ' oh, he is getting d cookies outside', ' he is gay', ' he doesn't love u' , ' he has low libido' and all d vague explanations, I wish to posit frm a psychological perspective that he may not b xesually attracted to u. Sexual incompatibility.
DeleteThe mind is a powerful tool. This explains why d Bible indulges us to guard it wit all diligence. If he is not into u, xesually, there isn't much u can do wit whining, throwing tantrum, reporting, flirtations n wat have u except succumb to prayers n psychological treatment of ur hubby. He alone understands his problems. U haven't said if for the times, he attempted xes (possibly for recreation) if he was flying half mast or if he is a 'Push n Start' dude. If he is having issues getting it up, or sustaining it, the thot of having xes could put a lot of pressure that will in turn put him off attempts to do it. But if he is just not attracted to u down South, he will always seek a way outta d bedroom. If not for d risk of saying too much, I would v shared an experience I had way back as an Agaracha. I had met someone who obviously is a 'bomb' given her assets but boy, it will take N. Dr Agwoturumbe more than his American and Ngwo idols to discern wat happened that day. She just didn't 'werk' for me.
So Dear, talk to ur hubby to know what his irrational fears are, help him to get help frm a Xes Therapist or a Psychoanalyst to unravel d underlying causes of the bedroom 'blues'.
Gbam! This is a solid ground for divorce! All this "wait till wedding night" thingy is not for me oh, Nna I will test drive wella before I marry oh
DeleteWow..... 2012???? Hmmmm.... That means you don become virgin again.. Lol
DeleteMy dear poster, marriage is not a do or die affair, you have only one life so make sure you are happy and enjoy it.
My advice, go into prayers, have a heart to heart talk with your husband, make him understand in a polite way that he is killing you softly.
After that, if there is no change, please seek for divorce. Its better you free yourself rather than to sin against God by committing adultery.
May God help you......
Cos of sex????I will never ve d tag divorcee to my person.Olorun maje!!!
DeleteI would rather be a widow than be divorcee.Tufiakwa!!!!
Ezewanyi, it's people like u that die in marriage. Suffering and smiling because of "what will the jones's say" and because u lack any substance. Ur entire life and achievement is marriage and making babies like a human oven. No wonder u and linda Eze spend all ur lives commenting stupidly on any post. Jobless idle ignorant housewives.
DeleteAnd no, I am married with children so I am not envious of u; and yes I work in a professional capacity in an office using my brain.
Chikatobahauwa
@anin 3; 33,u ate irredeemably foolish! Orisirisi
DeleteU are doing shit jobs earning peanuts and now u are pissed!abeg carry ur oniranu self comot make I see road.
WOw!! Anonymous, ezenwanyi offend you before ni? Not everybody believes in divorce . GBAM! !!
DeleteIts not by test driving joor. I over test drive b4 mrg but my story is not different from the poster's. We myt av only had xes maybe 3 times this year and that was in February. Just keep praying to GOD is my only advice.
DeleteBwahahahaha. .....
Delete@Cutemmum,dont mind d idiot anonymous that is high on cow dung.
hmnnn!
ReplyDeleteit's gotta be one of these:
1. he is gay
2. he has another woman whom he enjoys sex with.
3. he doesn't really love you..but hey...men dey fuck ashewo now...(no love, just sex) so this point isn't so strong.
madam, I think you need to sit him down and talk about this.
if he isn't forth coming, u may have to annul the marriage. don't spend the rest of your life in misery all in the name of being married to a selfish partner.
@Bloglord,about point 3...some men can't sleep with a lady dey don't love,I don gbensh ashewo b4 o(infact I was trained by a pro)...but I find it difficult to sleep with som1 I don't really like...Immediately I cum I just get pissed off n feel like throwin her out ,so I now avoid doin any1 I dnt really like,but d girl am in love with now...I found it hard to keep my hands/blokos off her..so d #3 point s valid
Delete@ Bitchplis, u r just a clown @ I find it hard to keep my hands/Blokos off her. U nefa marry am o. So if u don pay put, u no go dey go work leave am b that o. See ownership.
DeleteHahahaha....Bitchplis you got me laughing really hard lol. No spoil that place o.
Delete@ poster; 2 years?? Na wa o. Just sit him and have a thorough discussion about this,know where the problem is,then you can think of finding solution. E-hugs
Kehinde Ake u earlier submission was near perfect. Save for the part where u asked the poster to ask him questions so to understand his resentment towards her vis-a-vis sex.
DeleteYou guys keep forgetting that most of those who bring deep hurting issues here like the poster, would have adopted every possible means to resolve them before seeking suggestions from total strangers like u and I.
What I can deduce from this post is that the poster's hubby may have closed down every means of communication with her, the ultimate being sex.
She didn't say he is a good father, provides well, is caring.. but ONLY lacks in the bedroom department. From all indication her hubby is perhaps not a sex person, or perhaps is put off by sex with her.
This happened to a close friend of mine years ago. She had the most active sex life with hubby until when all of a sudden he stopped having sex with her. They had a child already but there was no explanation as to why he withdrew from it. They were still in talking terms so she proffered every solution including seeing a doctor. He was certified ok, she even got him herbs from Nigeria...yet no show. Soon enough she became frustrated and the only thing that she didn't do was to rape him.
He kept on saying that he just couldn't get it up. Meanwhile she noticed that every morning he would always have a hard on o...yet he was claiming that his mind wouldn't let him get in the zone.
She cried and cried and prayed...still nothing. it got to a point that they started to sleep in separate rooms. It was at this point that the man said that he was not sexually attracted to his wife again, hence they were free to see other people outside their marriage. What?? Well she did, and she suspects that he also started seeing someone else. But later on people intervened. This was when the man confessed that it was a build up of resentment towards her for things that she did to him. Like being stubborn and not carrying out his orders. So rather than to insist and stamp his foot down based on principles and as the bead of the house, the disdain took a turn on his sexual life with her. Overwhelming his mind, therefore not being capable to make love to her again.
After they resolved the issue almost at the point when the marriage was a step from being over, what she thought was a medical condition was rejuvenated once again. So it's a mind game.
Poster perhaps ur hubby may be going tru this as well, u never can tell. Otherwise ur marriage may be over. Sad to admit. Wish u well.
The major reasons for divorce
ReplyDeleteFinances
Lack of sex
Lack of communication
Dear Nigerians children cannot save a marriage. Those children grow up leave home and leave you in your loveless, sexless marriages. I have said my own.
Reading these comments have really gotten me rotflmao!
DeleteAlmost everyone is screaming "gay" and I beg to differ.
The very first reason why men start falling behind as regards sex is MASTURBATION. ( you better believe it)
Truth is, most people are bisexual rather than gay. Which means they swing both ways and will still make love to their wives.
Yes, having a partner with poor hygiene,nagging and bla bla are also major turn-offs but don't forget that some of these men patronise hookers, some who don't even care for good hygiene.
Even randy men who poke every hole out there still sleep with their wives too.
I can bet that man is addicted to porn and masturbation and that is what has gradually damaged their sex life.
I feel very sorry for this woman and I hope you guys are able to resolve your issues or...you may just have to move on. your life has to go on!
Ps: Are there any rehabs in Nigeria?
@Attitude I beg to differ with ur assertion that prostitutes have poor hygiene. On the contrary, studies show that professional prostitutes maintain absolutely good hygiene. They carry a mobile toiletry that a non prostitute is yet to match. They are very finicky and are particular about the state of their hygiene per second... because any foul move or smell means bad market and no money in the bank.
DeleteJust as a sales girl who's a banker will guard her clients from moving their accounts from her bank as if her life depends on it, so also will an asawo ensure that she freshens up every second to sustain her clientele base. Just an addendum.
you may be right on the self service thing. the poster really did not explain her situation so one can understand or profer solutions. Nigerians with their way of coding things. the rate at which we have porn scenes on our mobile devices this days.
DeleteHow can? 2012 till now? Mbanu
ReplyDeleteMadam,I think your hubby is gay. If he is not on medication that keeps the flag at half mast,then he's getting his orifice oiled by a projectile
Hahahahaahaha,
DeleteYou are crazie, in a very interesting way.
Renne o! U no go kill person o!
DeleteHe is not gay, he had sex outside tje home. Don't be surprised if u find out he has another family. Its very common this days. 32 is too early in life not to enjoy your marriage. Mrs O
DeleteHis gay. Was suffering d same tin wit my husb, got tired of complaining and praying. One day I came back home from work only to find my DH wanking our house boy, I took pictures of dem tru his Window before shouting. Since den let me not ask of anytin, he will just cough it out. I threatened to expose him cos his a big figure but later took my son's and left his house before he destroys dem.
Delete@ Irene, I love this ur expression ' Half mast'. I know u r strong on matters like this. See expressions! Choi
Deletemumu girl orifice is for female not male. you should have said his projectile is been serviced by a very wet orifice. bye
DeleteCheii this is just too bad. From 2012 till now no sex n you are married? Wao nawa oo this one pass prayer oo.. Dont even know what advice to give sef apart from the fact that you two need serious counselling but come oo I hope hes not gay or something.. Sdkers the wise ones pls help this sister out n comment. Okokobioko wahala de!!
ReplyDeleteNa wah ohh...
ReplyDeleteI would have advised you to get a boyfriend or a lesbo partner but you said you don't want to commit adultery...ok,why don't you get your self a dildo and masturbate anytime you get horny...
Meanwhile,can you sit your husband down and talk with him concerning this issue...
He might be a gay who knows...
Linda, lesbo partner kwa? Una no go kill person for this blog lolz
DeleteYea my husb confessed he was gay. He married me cos of pressure from society. Pple advised me to do girls since I didn't want to commit adultery wen I was complaining he wasn't touching me. But e no easy,
DeleteIts only a dummy like you that imposes a title on her self.
DeleteIgbo blood never lies, where an illiterate knows nothing but money.
For how long will you continue to exhibit your nonentity on this blog?
The last time i checked, you have never given a valid advice to anyone other than destruction.
When intelligent minds are needed, try and sit back and read to educate your self on the opportunity you wished in the university than coming here to disgrace the entire motherhood.
What do you teach your kids at all? Incest?
Masturbation?
Gayism?
Lesbianism?
Sorry dear empty vessel
Just Send my sympathy and solidarity across to my fellow man who is carrying such an undue burden on him self. I wish him more strength and patience.
Adultery is very dangerous for a man/woman that does not ve spiritual back up.
DeleteWow..anon 3:12, you're a man? Na wah o.. I've said it before that men are no longer men anymore. Look at how you just write this long epistle only in a bid to insult someone else.. a woman at that. Walai, I could have sworn you were female. I feel so much dread and pity for whatever woman ends or has ended up with you o! E go bloody sha.
DeleteYou are obviously married to a gay. Seek the face of God on this mata. Am sure if I was in a marriage without sex since 2012 I would have run mad, i advice you dissolve the marriage, when you are not a rev sister.
ReplyDeleteOniovo you would run mad,gawdamit am sure I would have raped him silly,wat rubbish!its so not fair,I kno of a couple dat makes luv 4times weekly for 14yrs.and if she cheats now dey will talk,anyway I won't advice you 2 cheat,jus get uncle dildo and kill yourself wit it joor,if you can do it in d room wen he is Dere beta for me.
DeleteA gay kwa? You can't be a gay, it's just gay not a gay. You can say a homosexual. Linda take note.
DeleteBBCs by force assistant.
Run mad ke na wah ooo
DeleteMadam sex is not everything,instead of divorcing husband,u can re-dedicate ur life to worship and prayers and see how blessings will
Deleteshower on u.D Lord is ur strength!!!
Ezenwanyi is this u on the pulpit? Adonbilivit. Anyways preach on pastor!
DeleteEzenwayi or wat are u called. U are just a confused human being. We know people like u. U give people advise even u can't do. U pple that lead ignorant people astray. Just on this matter, u ve given 3 different advice.The same way u were advising somebody in d revenge post. really don't know d God u are worshipping but am very sure it is not the God of Jacob.
DeleteIts Ezenwanyi ibilibi ogada!!
DeleteOh,so!u chased me from revenge post to I cant live with myself post????hmmm......very interesting!!
Love Ezewanyi
Delete@coco,na me oooo.......
DeleteHallelujah!!!!
Love u more @ 8; 13.
DeleteGet yourself a rabbit.
ReplyDeleteI hope am the first to comment!
Zeeta
Hmmmm. Am sorry poster am not married so I have nothing to say. But for me I MUST make sure we are sexually compatible before marriage o before I marry a guy with sausage or yam d**k. I no wan enter one change mbok. I was engaged to a Christain guy who said no kissing or sex before marriage but weneva he talks about how our sex life will be wen we get married he would always tell me "baby u have to be strong, u just have to be strong wen we have sex" like say na war we dey go and dis guy neva wanted me to see de size of his d**k, hmmm I had to break de engagement. Dat wasn't my only reason sha.
ReplyDeleteLmao@ baby you have to be strong, the guy mean serious business .
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DeleteRotfl!!! Abeg don't make me fall down from my bed because of laughter
DeleteUrs is better, the feelings is still there,My husband has kill the urge completely with his bad xter... I hate hearing the word sex
ReplyDeleteSmh! Strange things are made stranger everyday, Na wa o
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What advice do u seek? You already don't want to be in a sexless marriage. You know what you want. Move on sister. And o! Your husband is gay.
ReplyDeleteHmmm my dear are you sure you didn't force yourself into this marriage? He might be loving another and keeping you for one or two reasons. If His heart is with you he won't behave like that. That's the problem with hurring love.you caant hurry it. Mosst woman have found themselves in this pathetic situation either because they pressured the guy to marry them as a result of impatience or lack of communication between both parties. Have you shared your likes,dislikes,thinggs you are not comfortable with aand things you are not happy with? Do you talk heart to heart? The bedroom is not where u just jump on the bed,pull ur dresss and start fucking. It is a place for heart to heart talk,tell him how you feel,not shouting but calmly.Discuss things that will better the marriage.Dont rush the sex and sleep off,then when you wake up in the morning you russh to work till night again. Mmy advice to single ladies is it is not every knock you will answer oooo,peep to see who's knocking before you open the door.am not saying fuck all the fuckables but do your research first.Dont let anybody put you under pressure to marry. It is satanic.dont do what you will regret for the rest of your life, there is no late coming in marriage.Choose wisely
ReplyDeleteMadam i think your hubby is on the DL!!!its time for you to start eating fresh sausages outside as well.
ReplyDeleteBlueblood
*Jane kindly check your mail and revert ASAP*
Hmmm my dear are you sure you didn't force yourself into this marriage? He might be loving another and keeping you for one or two reasons. If His heart is with you he won't behave like that. That's the problem with hurring love.you caant hurry it. Mosst woman have found themselves in this pathetic situation either because they pressured the guy to marry them as a result of impatience or lack of communication between both parties. Have you shared your likes,dislikes,thinggs you are not comfortable with aand things you are not happy with? Do you talk heart to heart? The bedroom is not where u just jump on the bed,pull ur dresss and start fucking. It is a place for heart to heart talk,tell him how you feel,not shouting but calmly.Discuss things that will better the marriage.Dont rush the sex and sleep off,then when you wake up in the morning you russh to work till night again. Mmy advice to single ladies is it is not every knock you will answer oooo,peep to see who's knocking before you open the door.am not saying fuck all the fuckables but do your research first.Dont let anybody put you under pressure to marry. It is satanic.dont do what you will regret for the rest of your life, there is no late coming in marriage.Choose wisely.
ReplyDeleteFaith 001
My point exactly! You are economical with the facts, how can you expect concrete advice when you were silent on major issues like how you guys met? How long the courtship lasted? Whether both of you share similar values? Do you guys communicate well as a couple? Have you seen anything suspicious about his sexuality? Does he have a medical condition? Too little information shared, we all may have to speculate and that is counterproductive. I honestly hope someone isn't deceiving you to abandon you home for him, because that your statement of how good you look that people wouldn't believe you've had children or married and a lot of men hit on you. Hmmmmmm...it makes me suspect there's more going on than you let us believe. Just be honest if you don't want to be misled.
DeleteSince 2012??? Wow, my jaw is on d floor!!!
ReplyDeleteAnd you didn't try raping him? Woman, don't just sit down and wait till he come touching you, touch him, rape him if dats what it takes, lol...
Anyways, have you both talked it over? You can try out a romantic dinner, do a very sumptuous meal, light candles, cocktail drinks et al (that kind tin).
After d meal, ask him subtly and romantically why he's been avoiding you, blah blah...he is not an animal, he would surely let you into his closet. Goodluck!
Ur husband is gay
ReplyDeleteOr a chronic masturbater like mine....he will reluctantly give me once a month sex after about 3 months gap but masturbates almost everyday.
DeleteYours is a sad one. Have you tried talking to him about it? Telling him how you feel. I'm sure he takes care of you because you didn't mention that he doesn't. Pls I know it's not easy. Probably you need to stop been resentful, disrespectful, etc. Try to forgive him. Try to be loving, and respectful towards him pls. And also don't forget to pray to God about it. Tell God to show you the kind of man your husband really is. How can a man not have sex with his wife for almost 3yrs?
ReplyDeleteI'm not judging you, as long as you have remained faithful to him, God will answer you speedily. He will expose your husband to you.
If you have been unfaithful, then you have to ask for forgiveness before you can start praying.
Your situation is a sad one, and from your write up, you sound very upset. Just calm down and be wise. God bless and give you wisdom in this your trying time.
like Stella said, maybe he's attracted to his type. however, it could also be that he has another family somewhere and he's madly in love with the other woman that he cant bear the thoughts of touching and he has a reason not to divorce you. I have a feeling we don't know the whole story.
ReplyDeleteI'm not married so I cant really give good advice because i've never been in your shoes but i think you need to be happy because this life is only lived once. also, kids feel these things and when their parents are unhappy, they will be too.
However, I think you can pray. take a time out, just you and God. maybe drop off your kids with your mom or someone else you trust, go somewhere for three days, study your bible, fast and pray. you'll hear God speak and we all know nothing is too hard for God to do. if he's your happiness, God will hal the rift in your marriage, if not, you'll still know and you'll get your peace. i wish you well
Pls get a divorce!
ReplyDeleteNo point staying a marriage where you are not happy
Life is too short to be miserable...pls go every length and get your happy back!
Just like that? Do people bother to see the bigger picture about divorce? You assume divorce will bring her happiness. Have you bothered to ask what comes next after divorce? Life after divorce can be more hellish than what she was running from. This is a young lady of 32 years who married at 22 years and has 3 kids already. So assuming you get divorced and all you get are men whom are ready to keep giving you mind blowing sex without commitments? Because I've seen cases like this, prevalent among girls who married very early. They get bored and want out years down the line. They get divorced because they assume there's more fun out there unfortunately, they forget that "fun" comes with a price. After about 5 year of freedom and "fun", they wake up one morning only to realise they've made a huge mistake! Their ex husbands have moved on with new wives. Now that they are ready to get remarried they realise most young men would rather go for fresh young girls. The men that would approach them are married men or divorcees with kids of their own. Try going into marriage with step-kids trying to blend in with your kids and a man who already has an idea of what marriage is based on previous experience. Before you scream DIVORCE! Like it's a walk in the park, consider the bigger picture 1st. Happiness isn't guaranteed.
DeleteRonalda, very very smart and on the point advice
DeleteThen let her manage her current situation with a dildo or a toyboy
DeleteOk Rolanda, yours is probably the only comment I could relate with and will add that she should see a marriage and family therapist.... And I actually have one I can refer you to, if you don't mind. Her name is Dr. Laura Schlessinger, google her. She's in the US and you don't have to travel there to see her, she's on Facebook and she hosts a radio program between 2-5pm eastern time (that's 7/8pm Nigerian) her number is 1-800-375-2872.give it a shot cos she's brilliant!
DeleteI'm speechless..... Super woman
ReplyDeleteHmmm,its a pity u're going thru such.what I was able to grab from this write up is that,the sex life was boring,bfr the sex life was completely over,and you stated that you had and illicit affair which you called off(not judging you tho),I think you should talk to you hubby critically,there must be a straw that broke the camels back,he could have caught you in your affair excapades,or he might have gotten hearsay concerning it,which made him to stop having sex with you completely,my reason's being that(some men don't forgive easily,some dwell on the past for eternity,he might hv known about your affair,but is just waiting for you to come clean,which is why he's withholding sex completely(using my dad as a case study,he never tells you what's wrong,just keeps silent. And expects you to know as if u're a wizard) my 2cents tho.God is your strenght.stella post my. Comment oh. JACHINMA
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DeleteShut up already, which affairs r u talking about? She said she had only one boyfriend b4 she married him and has not had an affair..... So where is the he might have caught u having an affair or excapade coming from? Mschweeeeeeew
DeleteHa!never Heard Of dis one before o.Since 2012 u said?! Sorry darling.can imagine how u feel.kai.i know someone whose hubby hardly touches her.she said d man isnt into Sex.i Heard dere are men like dat.and Wen she told me ,i was like,oh,Kk...here is one of dose Kind of Men.dat was till i learnt d man had one local babe he was humping.so it made me realise dat Yeah,dey say dere are Men dat dont like sex,buh m yet to see one jare.so dis os My candid advice...u dont wanna fornictae n sin,i totally get that.i understand.so here is wot u do:get a vibrator.I'd recommend a Rabbit,made of silicon.dont know Abu sex Shop here buh can be gotten from Anne Summers.it wont replace ur hubby or d tender touches n some of Dose feelings u get Wen u are wit a loved one,buh its d nearest best thing!den while at it Still keep praying dat God touches him.so sorry about dis dear.* sending u bear hugs*
ReplyDeleteShut up. After now you'll come under anonymous to famz yourself like u did on the other post and ur bubble bursted. Ahah shame no gree u respond for d post.
DeleteHa!never Heard Of dis one before o.Since 2012 u said?! Sorry darling.can imagine how u feel.kai.i know someone whose hubby hardly touches her.she said d man isnt into Sex.i Heard dere are men like dat.and Wen she told me ,i was like,oh,Kk...here is one of dose Kind of Men.dat was till i learnt d man had one local babe he was humping.so it made me realise dat Yeah,dey say dere are Men dat dont like sex,buh m yet to see one jare.so dis os My candid advice...u dont wanna fornictae n sin,i totally get that.i understand.so here is wot u do:get a vibrator.I'd recommend a Rabbit,made of silicon.dont know Abu sex Shop here buh can be gotten from Anne Summers.it wont replace ur hubby or d tender touches n some of Dose feelings u get Wen u are wit a loved one,buh its d nearest best thing!den while at it Still keep praying dat God touches him.so sorry about dis dear.* sending u bear hugs*
ReplyDeleteJesus Stella!dnt tell me you nw read minds 2,dat was d exact thing dat came 2 my mind'anyway sis have you actually spoken 2 him (seriously) ?if yes girl its better you leave the loveless marriage wit your dignity,rather Dan stay and hop like frog from bed 2 bed.and secondly you can investigate privately 2 kno if he is actually gay,meet a trusted frd and get anoda sim,let him chat your hubby up,den you get find out if yur Le boo humps anus.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster my advice is dat you get your groove back and stop dis your christian talk...make new friends and get yourself a partner boy or girl dat will love you and appreciate you and give you that sexual climax you crave for.....no die for man matter oooo
ReplyDeleteMadam, i read your message over and over again and this is what i think is going. You have not enjoyed sex with hobby since you got married and you have had several affairs, you thought you could cope but you have now realised there is no true happiness there because this guys will just come to you for sex and disappear once they have had enough of your ass and once they leave you are back to square one feeling used and miserable, i get a feeling you were feeling funky and sexy that other men find you attractive. Guess what madam, your husband is aware of all your affairs take it or leave it, that is why he has lost interest. You know what to do you just want us to contribute to your marriage break up. Truth is you are already out of that marriage , what were you doing when you guys were apart for three years? With all the attention you get from men why didn't any of them marry you? Madam be wise. Forgive me if i am wrong but this is my opinion.
ReplyDeleteMadam, i read your message over and over again and this is what i think is going. You have not enjoyed sex with hobby since you got married and you have had several affairs, you thought you could cope but you have now realised there is no true happiness there because this guys will just come to you for sex and disappear once they have had enough of your ass and once they leave you are back to square one feeling used and miserable, i get a feeling you were feeling funky and sexy that other men find you attractive. Guess what madam, your husband is aware of all your affairs take it or leave it, that is why he has lost interest. You know what to do you just want us to contribute to your marriage break up. Truth is you are already out of that marriage , what were you doing when you guys were apart for three years? With all the attention you get from men why didn't any of them marry you? Madam be wise. Forgive me if i am wrong but this is my opinion.
ReplyDeleteBLOG ANALYSER: I really don't know what to say to you. I can imagine ur predicament. I won't tell you to leave ur marriage coz of sex. My advice to u would be to pls buy dildo and satisfy ur self.
ReplyDeleteHmmm.......am leaving ma marriage too!!! Hubby slaped my son(2yrs old boy) cos my son said he is from my state instead of Anambra!
ReplyDeleteWhy would your son say a thing like that? You realise this is your fault,right? You have been brainwashing the child, putting it into his head over and over again that there is something wrong with his dad's tribe and he is from yours. Please, I get that your marriage has issues, but it is very,very wrong to pit your child against his father. Both of you created him, your husband is head. Your children are from both your tribes but majorly from his based on the law of man and even that of God. Abi whose surname does the child bear? Yours?? I must say this is very short-sighted of you, ma'm. Settle your differences with each other but do not use your kids as mercenaries. I say this from experience. On the other hand, yes. He shouldn't have slapped the child, he should have taken it up with you.
DeleteUnashamed u are stupid indeed... Brainwashing which child? Children that says what come to their head? What is wrong with him correcting the boy... Some fathers are never around and the kids pick everything from the mum..... Why will she brainwash the child about where he is from when she knows she is married n had probably changed her name to hubby's ? The man is violent and u shld leave before u are stuck in a circle of violence ....
DeleteHmmm.......am leaving ma marriage too!!! Hubby slaped my son(2yrs old boy) cos my son said he is from my state instead of Anambra!
ReplyDeleteWhat??? Are you for real? Some women amaze me! How come some of you tolerated some real shitty and degrading treatments from guys you dated in the past whom even dumped you and you cried your eyes sore, only to get married and at the slightest provocation you want a divorce! I really don't get it. Soon women will file for divorce because their hubbies watch too much soccer matches or didn't notice their new hairdo. So sad!
DeleteMy dear its better you divorce him cos from all indications your husband is gay. linda eze why you come use blurred picture na? Abi you dey fear?
ReplyDeleteHe's gay jare. You are just his beard.
ReplyDeleteNike aki is this you? Attitude matters in a marriage..ifuudontt bring in a good approach to the table...no sex for u oh....bsides yes he is already getting it outside.....hubbiz huge fan
ReplyDeleteWe don find the reason o bloggers. Madam, this na the reason y u no dey get pokopoko from oga since 2012... na oga side chic. She don confess.
Deletehttp://realflowz.blogspot.co.uk/2013/04/a-most-read-who-is-after-adeola-diadem.html This is the diadem girls story that was mentioned in gbemi philips story, shes a dirtyprostitute and if you post it or do your digging,shes is the low down dirt
ReplyDeleteGosh let it go. You've posted this on every blog. It's ok. She has a past . Who hasn't ???
DeleteBitter idiot how does this increase the zeros in your bank account? Jobless bitch no wonder God is not blessing you Cos u are busy destroying others..... Shame shame shame shame on you..
DeleteMadam, i have a similar experience but thank God, i tested mine, i was dating two guys when i was single, tho i likedguy A more than guy B bacause he is more handsome, classy and better job. To cut long story short, when i decided to do the deed with guy A, first time was a disaster, second time i would have prefer to be fingered, that when i give my attention to guy B who show me his power three times before the break of dawn. People are shocked by my decision but deep down i knew the reason, now guy A and i are still friends but i have a feeling that he is playing for the other side that i was just a screen saver.
ReplyDeleteBe there doing guy A and B....... Test driving right? Olorun a fi ere si ise re oooooo........
DeleteEven men that have lost interest in their wives and have girlfriends outside sometimes get turned on by their wives. 2012 till now is a serious something. Its either he is gay or he doesn't love you...more like he despises you but is tolerating you cos of the kids. I'm not one of those ladies that will endure in marriage for the sake of kids and the likes. I'm a christian and don't support divorce but I also don't support suffering and smiling in the name of saving face or "cos of the kids".I'm easily stressed emotionally&can't get high bp for nobody mehn. Talk to him...let him know how you feel so that if he isn't feeling the marriage no need to endure biko. Just saying. Divorce is an option tho
ReplyDeleteMayb he is HIV positive and he doesn't wanna infect u or he has put magun in u bcos of ur past affairs . B careful sha. God is ur only redeemer now
ReplyDeleteThat's why I cannot advocate no sex before marriage. U need to have sex with ur intending partner before tying the knot. A lot of Nigerians do this but still form holier than thou. Except ur hubby to be is also a virgin why should u strictly keep urself celibate till marriage?
ReplyDeleteAnyways, no be say my own hubby dey try in that dept sef. I am glad I enjoyed good sxe with my married lover before getting married.if u judge me na u sabi. The only man that was absolutely happy to give head. The memories keep me going anytime I have sxe with my hubby. His own is wham bam finish. No kiss sef.
Poster some men are boring in bed like mine. We all are not wired to like sxe with the same vigour . But to deny u sxe for 3 yrs? Speak to his people about it. If that doesn't work u have choices: a divorce, manage him like that, an affair or a sxe toy.
Good luck.
Sade
Madam ur husband is gay! Even if he was enjoying sex with a mistress he would still wanna have it with u but as d case may be that guy is just gay. Go get a boyfriend cos If u divorce him it's still against ur religion!
ReplyDeleteI empathize with you ma'am,every woman deserves to be ravished adequately in order to function effectively.However,you haven't stated why your husband shuns you physically.I will rule out the suspicion that he's gay.He wouldn't ve returned after 3yrs even for the kids.Gay men don't come back after prolonged freedom.A big chunk of your post is missing.is there another woman outside? Cheating men, more often than not,still perform conjugal duties at home.What excuses is he making? Will the reasons indict you? I ve met women who complain that their partners half heartedly make love to them,or if they can get away with it ,not at all.looking at a few of them,I wouldn't sleep with them even if I were "Dauda the sexy guy". No vex o,but look at yourself well~well. Would YOU desire YOU? Personal hygiene or lack of it,can make or destroy one's sexual diary. Then,there's attitude.What sort of woman are you? What sort of man is he? Do you like eachother?Are you both playing house? Many people avoid bedding someone they don't like;Someone they can't stand anymore.Note that I didn't use the term "love"(too long to explain). If he has complained over time about some of your negative traits, Work on yourself. He's bound to change if you don't fall back into the old pattern. if he doesn't change,pray more. On the other hand, If you have analysed yourself objectively, and you are a regular woman,a good woman at that,then walk away! Leave the marriage! You deserve better,after all,loads of men are chasing you. Run while you still have youth! The world will not end!
ReplyDeleteChai.. this wide eyed! You're there sha. I just love you. Shikena!
DeleteI wish to hear your hubby's story.
ReplyDeletehow do you know he doesn't know this and swore not to touch you again? some men are like that...even though I have had affairs in the past but I
feel guilty. he doesn't have to be gay, he doesn't have to have a GF as some odes have said. he may have erectile dysfunction and that will make him not want to even have sex. you said you are a christian and the Lesbo Mowe resident has said you should look for a lesbian. Not every advise is worthy especially those from illiterate peeps.
=DTS STRANGE. OW DID U COPE SINCE 2012? MY HUBBY UNDRESSES ND M NT WET ALREADY? NO WAY,DT CN RLI HURT U KW. TO HV STAYED WIT HIM SINCE 2012 ND JUS B LUKING AT D ROD WITOUT A FEEL? NAA.. ABEG C A COUNSELOR.
ReplyDelete=DTS STRANGE. OW DID U COPE SINCE 2012? MY HUBBY UNDRESSES ND M NT WET ALREADY? NO WAY,DT CN RLI HURT U KW. TO HV STAYED WIT HIM SINCE 2012 ND JUS B LUKING AT D ROD WITOUT A FEEL? NAA.. ABEG C A COUNSELOR.
ReplyDeleteIt's better u leave the marriage than to be in it and cheat. Get a divorce. Shoo since 2012? I no fit i
ReplyDeleteStella, men NEVER respond like this: "your resentment towards his lack of good sex has turned him off completely" that is not enough to turn a man away from sex with his wife... I think he is either gay, or he has a hormonal problem which he hid from her. Some people are actually asexual.
ReplyDeleteU r not far from d truth. Wen a woman nags a man for inadequate xes, it affects his ego n d fall out is lack of desire to try more or even attempt. The poster shud resort to professional help n dialogue.
DeleteMy dear, thank God you decided to honor God by not cheating on your husband till now. God honors those that do honor Him. Go to Him in prayer and since you have the fear of God in you, go to your Pastor for counseling if he's a real man of God. May the Good Lord heal your marriage.
ReplyDeleteLobatan!This is serious. Either your husband is gay,or he resents sex with you for some reason.You need to sit him down,and talk to him,or seek counseling.If none of them works,you could consider going your separate ways, cos as it is,you're existing and not living.
ReplyDelete* tasha barbie *
Get a divorce Asap.....WTF!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteTuhehehe
ReplyDeleteyou married your ancestor at a young age, say the truth.
You also forgot to mention that he is getting weaker by the day.
Did you also mention that he had caught you cheating on him with your age mates?
ok, the question now is, why did you marry that man?
It's not about being gay... some men are very selfish with their desires. I think you should involve family members at this point... and then decide on the next step to take. Living in an unhappy marriage is the worst thing that can happen to any human.
ReplyDeleteYoruba girl! "Involve family members" that's all yall know, involve neighbours sef.
DeletePoster, discuss with Yur husband respectfully and make him understand how you feel about ths.
Nawa oo, Nkan nbe! If he's not forthcoming, i'd advice u get a divorce. Don't even know what to say, how did u manage to get 3kids for him? N u don't want to cheat. Biko, drop his silly ass cos he's definitely cheating!
ReplyDeleteSince 2012??? He's definitely getting it outside,,either from a fellow man or a side chick....
ReplyDeleteI believe ur man likes sex with his kind. If I were u, i'd hire a private investigator to tail him and get evidence (cuz let's face it, he will probably never admit it without evidence) then u can confront him. The fact that u av kids shows his not impotent. Men like sex, if he's not fucking you, he's surely fucking someone else. Find out who the person is and leave.
ReplyDeletemy dear this ur matter get as e be o! firstly, how bad was what happened on ur wedding night n probably other times u ve had sex? (u have three lovely kids dt were produced from sexual intercouse right?) maybe it has left him with a permanent mental picture or stigma of not being capable of satistfying ur sexual needs. that is usually mens' most feared failures ie inability to satisfy a woman in bed. it brutalizes their male ego. once he has this mind set, he ll try as much as possible to avoid sex n even whn he tries, he may not be able to perform d act, because of his mental state. I must say also, dt from d sound of ur post, u seem to make if obvious to him n rub it in on him dt he is incapable of 'doing d deed'.
ReplyDeletesecondly, check am well, he may just be plain GAY!
U nid to have a heart to heart talk with ur hubby. Let him know how. U feel about this. It is either he is gay or he is seeing another woman. I would have said health problems but u mentioned children in ur story. Just have a chat wit him cos there is obviously poor communication between the both of u.
ReplyDeleteAm sorry but there are gaps in your story.
ReplyDelete1. You both haven't had sex since 2012 and you practically have to beg him according to you up till now. It's doesn't make sense that you beg him up till now. Unless there is more to the story you wldn't be begging your husband for sex over 10years.
2. You come across as self righteous/ promoting - if you don't believe in adultery then why are you bringing your business here as presumably you'll stick with the situation if he doesn't change.
3. A man does not your deny you your marital entitlement by not having sex with you if you don't ask. Maybe you are waiting for him to initiate and for whatever reason he doesn't.
4. There's alot more to this story I believe - can you give more context? What made him have 3 children with you if he is uninterested? You cajoled him?
I think you should look at yourself more woman to solve this situation. People react to people's actions and what you might be observing is a reaction to you as you don't accuse him of being gay.
Very stupid comment from u....
DeleteSpice it up! Get a toy! Talk to him... have you talked to him about it before asking total strangers?
ReplyDeleteWork it out.. that's your marriage.
And...this story isn't complete
We heard your side. Like Stella said, how did you express the resentment for his wack sex? I suspect nagging him and maybe abusing him with it during one of ur quarrels.
ReplyDeleteHe has moved on. Getting his grove somewhere.
#sorry to digress, For the Islamic Fella that asked me to proof Terrorism, War and Blood shed is quaranic, Here are the Quaran verses:
ReplyDeleteHadith 9:4: Wherever you find Infidels(Non Muslims), Kill them; For whoever kills them shall have reward on the day of Resurrection.
Hadith 9:50, 57: Whoever changes his/her Islamic religion, Kill Him!
Surah 9:5: Fight and slay the Infidels wherever you find them, sieze them, confine them and Lie in wait for them in every place of Ambush.
Quaran 2: 216-217: Fighting is prescribed for you!
Islam is all about Violence and Blood shed but muslims in their ignorance and denial will always deny. #BrainwashedBigots.
But buhari was probably supporting boko haram before now. It's a lesson for muslim. Islam is not a religion, it's a cult. D sooner you understand the better you save your head. I understand some of us are born under muslim parents. Listen live Islam and convert to real religion. You don't have to be a christian but get out of that filthy Islamic cult they are calling religion. The true muslim reading this know what I'm talking about. Any temple you walk I to and you're scared to be killed if you pass gas is not a religion trust me. You are suppose to be comfortable in your fathers house and not scared. Our Islam brother( a soldier) was beheaded on video by the same cult called Islam. He was probably saying to himself" why didn't I leave this bulshit Islam cult ". And he's been worshipping Mohammed and at last beheaded by bunch of cowards that are worshipping Mohammed. Islam is disgusting, deceiving, misguiding , evil, perverted , hellish and it's not of God. It's deeply an occult gatherings with evil intention against God's creation. There's no love unless you want kill your fellow human beings then you will be loved by some sick rotten teeth bastards screaming Allah. Shamelessly brainwashed with devil's feces. Worse than devil himself. Do you know what that means. Let wait and see how all the so called I'm a muslim around the world will wipe each other out. Middle East, the same thing. Isreal is teach Islam good lessons on that side. That's good. I pity young men and women brainwashed into this filthy worship in the mosque. I thank God for delivering me from Islam. The only cult or brainwashed to be seen as religion, where their god(small letter) don't do the fighting. You the worshipper has to fight for him. Shameful gods your worship. Come and meet Jesus and he will fight your battle. Bfor it's too late for you. Your fellow cult member will behead you in that mosque if you don't convert now while you can. God bless everyone that has accepted Jesus as their Lord and saviour. The sooner the better. Don't end up in toilet of hell with Islam.
Hmmm...dis is DEEP.@ Linda,Nne Pls Lets leave dis matter o.shebi u know dese people can like to start wars.shaking My head at dem though.
DeleteIm Christian and im sure jesus wouldn't talk like this. You have to respect other people's choices. No need to denigrate and speak abusively of others.
DeleteU are very right they are demonic people.... It's an evil religion..... Am from the middle belt and both my parents have siblings who are Muslims.....
DeleteI wonder where u got all this stupid lies from. God abi na jesus delivered u from islam abi? good for u. Run along plsss no time to write epistles for unintelligent mofos
DeleteAs for u General's wife I SmH for u tOo.
Muslim girl, truth is a bitter pill. Did she fabricate all the above? Shebi she quoted the quoran. Please prove her wrong, just tell us the quotes are figments of her imagination. Rubbish!
DeletePoster,your hubby is either gay or has mistresses outside,Can you beat that,2012 till now.see eehn,you need to talk to a family member of his about this..This is Strange.
ReplyDeleteMy Bf is so in love with me!!!
ReplyDeleteGreat sex life.
Everything just bam sha.
Rape him Gadammit!
ReplyDeleteYes I said so!
Rape him ke lmao.................
DeleteThe guy probably Wanks, Jerks off to porn...beta then shagging any woman and i guess its not cheating.. tell him u can jerk him off and start from there!
ReplyDeleteOBY9
why are you all crying gay gay? Dont u knw smppl can still be asexual? Not all of us love intercourse wt any sex, animal or object.
ReplyDeleteThere is a very huge possibility your husband is gay. I think you should voice out your grievances, you never know what he would admit to. Staying in a sexless marriage is just pure torture, except you signed up to be a nun I recommend you walk the walk.
ReplyDeleteThis should be a lesson to guys and ladies...
ReplyDelete1. Sex does not determine love.
2.sleeping with a guy on a first date does not make you a whore.
3. Keep aside "over-spirituality" in your marriage and entire life.
4.Don't force a relationship to work. If you are not happy, you take a bow.
5. Every relationship must not end in marriage.
6. There is something called "sexually compatible".. check this in a relationship to avoid problem in your marriage. Now I'm not encouraging premarital sex but talking about it is not wrong. This is to enable both people know what they want sexually.
7. Communication builds intimacy in a relationship. If it's missing, then work on it or u take a bow. He/She is your partner not your parent, so what's the fear...
My dear, try and talk with him. Fix it!
@ Obi, spot on!
DeleteI respect ur understanding of the situation. If u r not xesually compatible wit someone, xes becomes chores. It takes xesual chemistry to get d endorphins released. Love is not enuf.
You do not also have to wait for him to make the first move always. Some times, you should suprise him and make a move.
ReplyDeleteSeek a counsellor,talk to ur husband and knw hz reasons y bcos its nt normal.
ReplyDeleteIt's also possible he doesn't enjoy having sex with u due to your lack of experience. U need to have a candid conversation with him, and also try to read up and perfect ur skills on d act!
ReplyDeletehmmmmm marriage ! I got married dec 2012 to m hubby, he had two mins sex wit me b4 i got pregnant since den m hubby havnt had sex wit me. Am tired o
ReplyDeleteHa! Its either u r d poster or u r kidding,right?and u dont even sound like anything is wrong.ha!how r u coping? Oga o.
DeleteWow! This is serious....ur hubby is definitely not in love with u anymore nd probably has another woman....
ReplyDeleteDivorce him.
ReplyDeleteNawa ooo abegi where I fit get sex toy for lagos
ReplyDeleteBlodlord u're right...
ReplyDeleteThe things I read these days is worrisome.
My advise is 'maybe' he doesn't find you attractive anymore, just maybe. Cos since u guys have kids, my question is how did he go about it?
I think you should take things slowly about the sex issue and possibly improve on yourself. Change your walldrop, ur weight scheme, I.e (if you're on the big or small sides depending on what he fancy), neatness.
just try and work on yourself.
My point here is he doesn't find you attractive. He's just there cos of the kids.
Studies has shown, men lose interest on their spouse during a certain period of time in the marriage.
Marriages can last but if romance doesn't you just go through the motions. Maybe you fill the gap with kids but marriages are based on romance. Romance justifies marriage in the first place, so don't let it die or fade. Romance must survive.
#my2cent..
Walldrop??? The worst I've seen so far!
DeleteAunty Sterra,Abeg Gist cafe nko? u r westing our time oOoh.
ReplyDeleteLadies please advise yourself with this ladies problem..test run the car b4 buying it oooo stop that no sex before marriage thing so you don't end up with had i known on your lips..chop the food well before you commit yourself to for better for worse.
ReplyDeleteBlueblood
Ladies please advise yourself with this ladies problem..test run the car b4 buying it oooo stop that no sex before marriage thing so you don't end up with had i known on your lips..chop the food well before you commit yourself to for better for worse.
ReplyDeleteBlueblood
Sorry about everything dear poster..
ReplyDeleteStill shocked@the sex starvation(2012-till date).. Gosh!!!...
How much do you know this man you call a husband??
Hmmmm..even a gay will not go this long without sleeping with his wife, i guess you let your eyes and ears down while you crawl on your knees in prayers.....i smell CULTISM... Yes!.. He many be carrying out his lot and we know how determined they can be when on it... This is just not ordinary to me....just pray that's all i can think of now......we can't keep running away from something..tackle this once and for all and rightly possess your possession wholly#GodBlessYou
#YourLegacyLivesOnProfDoraAkunyili*7/6/14
*Prayer For Nigeria in Distress x10 Daily*
Wow!!! Dis is ooo wow!
ReplyDeleteWell poster like linda said get a dildo,help urself wateva. But stop bothering him abt sex,leave him be ,act hapi,look sexy let him knw he has a woman. If all dis doesn't work my dear call ur paster,rev fada or imam so (s)he can intervene
Rightfully***
ReplyDelete#YourLegacyLivesOnProfDoraAkunyili*7/6/14
*Prayer For Nigeria in Distress x10 Daily*
Hmmmm, bull shirt. My dear run ooo, no time to check time oo. U'll just stay without sex till u old all in d name being a good a good wife. Who knows if d man is even getting it from from somewhere else.
ReplyDeleteSex toys will not help you here cos there is a lot more to making love with ur husband that sex toys won't give..
ReplyDelete2) tell him you can no longer stand the neglect and that you will report him to either pastors, parents or anyone in authority over him.... If he does not show any remorse or give u any strong reasons for his actions make a formal complaints to any of the above....
3) if nothing happens thereafter divorce him...be sure u have done ur best to resolve the issue.... Don't waste your life away cos of a selfish person who is getting satisfaction somewhere else..... U will not be given an award for heroeism by the govt..... God too will know u have tried your best.....
He might not be gay!!!!
ReplyDeleteWomen stop begging ur husbands for sex it turns them off.
Madam,how neat are u??cos once I perceive any smell at all I no dey do.
My neighbour's hubby has not slept with his wife for almost 6yrs according to his wife ooo.....but I ve seen this man with different women infact d man no dey hide am sef and according to one of my mutual friend with d neighbour she told me d man tells all who care to listen that his wife stinks and this is a woman u go to her house and u tell her u want ease urself thats when she calls her maid to go and flush d toilet.
I am nit saying u are dirty ooo.....but pls check urself,fix it and pls stop begging ur hubby for sex cos am seriously trying to visualise u in ur heat tapping a man that doesn't want to make love to u and him removing ur hand from his shoulder or wherever its too pathetic
LMAO @ go and flush d toilet.kai! Some peeps sha.like dey came straight out of d jungle.
DeleteSpot on!@ Ezenwanyi, my neighbor 's wife stinks Chai! I don't know the hubby manages o. And d guy Na very sharp guy.
DeleteBwahahahaha. ........
DeleteMy dear you are not alone. Am in a similar situation. If am lucky, I get a quickie once a month. I know my hubby masturbates often cos I see his semen stained boxers n semen in the bathroom with porn videos on his phone. I don't know what to think anymore
ReplyDeleteU need spirutual bath!
DeleteHe has a serious problem.... Sit him down and tell him your concerns and that he needs to change..... Tell him if he doesn't seek help u will find your level..... We women put ourselves at the receiving end of too much bullshit from men..am sure if it was the other way round he would have reported you to your family and be fucking other women....don't dull yourself, act fast if u don't have kids yet. But even if u do report him so he knows the matter is affecting you and serious
DeleteWhat else has changed in him. Does he come home, if so what time. Does he eat your food or do you even cook for him. Apart from sex what other negative changes are there. Maybe the man resents you. Maybe you have belittled him that he cannot get lil johnny up with you again. Search yourself, talk to your husband, pray above all else. Who says he didn't find out when you cheated on him b4. Like the song goes "By many deeds of shame, we have learnt that love goes cold" The Lord is your strength and I pray this too shall pass soon and you will testify. Just don't forget to send Stella a message when you begin to fire again!
ReplyDeleteCan u get a divorce and still live in d same house cos of the kids? Just saying oh. Cos ur husband is either gay or gay.
ReplyDeleteI have been in the same situation for quite a while.Got married at 19 to a man of 40.We have 3 beautiful kids but it has been 8 yrs of misery,sadness and pain.We have no relationship no commication no relationship.We live like flatmates.He wants me as a slave a little girl who shouldn't have a say.He beats,shouts and insult me at every slightest provocation.The worst is that he does that infront of the kids.He doesn't want me going out talkless of working.We haven't had sex since january.When we did he only last 2mins.Am tired of the whole scam cos that what is called cos we do nothing together and we have nothing in common.We only live in the same house but sleep in different rooms cos he sleeps in the sitting room.Am not happy.I am lonely and depressed.I have prayed and fasted but no solution.Am told to make myself happy but how can I when he constantly finds ways to make me unhappy.Am 28 and beautiful.A good mother and a dutiful wife.I want out but I can't because of the kids.Am living in golden cage and am meant to like it.
DeleteMy dear...pls go and do family planing so ad not to have any more kids. I'm in similar situation with two kids in London . My partner has paper while I'm still waiting for mine. I can't work for now and he gives me 10pounds a week as pocket money when is time to do shopping he writes down Evey single thing starting from 55p milk at asda to 3pound nuggets at Iceland ,so no way I could get extra money to buy things as a mum for my kids. When I wanted to run mad with depression had to have a lover outside. Please don't judge me, first time he took me to m&s bought me like 400pounds worth of clothes, I removed all the tags lied to my partner that I got them from charity shop. Anyways......I don't like what I'm doing but now Im not thinking too much like before.
DeleteYou are not alone sweetheart..@ anonymous 5pm wish I can reach u privately some advise I can't put down here.. Btwn you need to get a decent job anyhow
Delete@anon 3;30,
DeleteD kingdom of God "suffereth" violence and d violent taketh it by force.it is well!!
@anon 6.41pm how can she get a decent job without paper? It's not possible.
DeleteDuring counselling and bible sch,I was made to undstnd the major killer of marriages is lack of sex..Since 2012 huh!even tho body na firewood sef.poster,you ve really tried,I suggest you see a counsellor or pastor with your hubby..
ReplyDeleteBut sex is not everything na. You husband is not a man, he's probably gay but if you are really a Christian as you claim then don't let sex bother you. What if you are a pastor and you are not married would you be looking for sex up and down? Have you both say down to talk about it? Have he gone to see a doctor yet? Have you prayed for him yet? My sister just hold Jesus strong for now. God will see you thru. Don't go start having sex around just because you want to satisfy your 5mins urge. Don't disgrace yourself, family, kids and God my sister
ReplyDeletePls make use of dildo and get the maximum satisfaction that your husband cannot give you.
ReplyDeleteHey dear poster pls sit your husband down and let him knw that the sexless marriage is killing you and he should be a man and do his martial duties unless another will do that for him.
Poster contact me make we dance Shoki!!!
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 3:31 pm, i agree with you. Eze what ever will rather fuck around than…And will rather kill her husband and be a widow than divorce because of the wealth. Her husband will surprise her one day if she think's he doesn't know what she is up to.
ReplyDeleteI troway salute to our resident bitch,glorified liar and loquacious madman......Peter how far???
DeleteEze what ever NEVER has anything intelligent to say. EMPTY BRAIN. Mtcheeew. Fetish bitch.
ReplyDeleteDude,
DeleteI am not moved by these insults of urs.I ve posted my comments,if it pains ,u can take a trip down to third mainland bridge and DIE I NO SEND U!!!!
The truth is, you have tasted so many good dicks outside n nothing he does entices you. Ur sexual libido is damn tooooo high. Your attitude, if u r not d nagging may have put him off totally.... i no get strength shaa I would love if hubby is like that sef.
ReplyDeletelol @ bitchplis. u must be a bad boy.
ReplyDeletewhat I meant is, even though he doesn't really love her, it is no excuse not to sleep with her.
use your own submission to get my drift as to why I said that point aint so valid. u get?
Madam, are you sure this man does not know about your previous adultery? Adultery can kill a man's blokos o. You felt he was not good in bed and you messed around a little right? Was this not the same advice we give to fellow women "stop sleeping with him to avoid sexually transmitted deceases" He may be applying this principle.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I encourage you to have a talk with him. He may open up. It is well. Rose
My sister I understand you better bco am also going through the same problem my self.no sex no communication.we are just there sleeping apart an am talking care of my baby girl.my plan is to get a gud a job (with God's help an move out.am only 28
ReplyDeleteI am going to educate you girls a little bit.
ReplyDeleteThis story sounded like something written by my wife except that she painted a picture of a perfect wife..
I enjoy sex a whole lot but my wife present an image of somebody interested only in missionary position. As a matter of fact, it used to be more fun before the kids came; doing it in the kitchen, bathroom, sitting room floor, etc. Then the kids came and it turned to rationing! Then she started nagging and caning me with her tongue, I don't even have an erection these days.
It is comical to think a man like me or any man that is slacking in sex would be gay. Not sure where you lot got that from but definitely not correct.
Am I cheating to make up for her nonsense? No way! Like I wrote above, she has nagged me to a point where I don't even think about sex anymore. There is money to be made and I am doing crazily well in that department.
I seriously doubt your husband is gay.Infact he is not and I'm sure.My parents are in the same situation, I don't think they ve had sex in like 4 yrs but it's because of my dad's high blood pressure and hypertension medication,plus diabetes or so,the man flies lower than quater mast sef but my mum understands,anyways she be church freak,.na dere she dey sleep eat and drink and they've been married for like 23yrs so dey don do am finish.Then there's one of my uncles that loves to watch porn and masturbate ehn and his wife dey cry say the guy no dey touch am,so that's another case.Again have you checked how you looked,do you know if your husband has resentment towards you for cheating.Another issue is that some people are not PhD holders on the bed, infact dey no get high school diploma sef and maybe that's his case and he doesn't want to bore you with his sex and sexual inadequacies.Another thing is your hygiene,would you do you if you were him,are you obese and unkempt,you should check yourself out.Again he might have become asexual or had a terrible experience with sex growing up.There are so many reasons and being gay is the least of it.Gay men still knack their wives once in a while as they need to cover their tracks to continue living that lifestyle. After all you have three kids that means the least amount of lovemaking would have been three times and I'm guessing more,so how did he get aroused those times,what was the condition and atmosphere of those times.He came back to you meaning all is not lost and can be rekindled,you still want him to touch you meaning you don't really hate him and somewhere deep down, it's there.Talk to your husband heart to heart or let someone who he adores in and ask the person to see where the issue lies gangan. Madam your husband is not gay,he won't have come back to you 3yrs after free anal fucking,there is something amiss, it's up to you to go find out and for all we know you might just be the problem.God bless you,your husband and your angels.It is well with you and your marriage.Trust me divorce is not it at all.
ReplyDelete@ezewanyi pray for god not to answer ur callous prayer. Married slave .
ReplyDeleteGod must be looking at U and wondering where he went wrong.
Deletelmao @ married slave.
Mary pls tell the truth for once, your husband not only does he not sleep with u he doesn't eat your food as well Becos he found out about ur affairs, and u know where he comes from this act can kill him. you better ask him and God for forgiveness and sincerely repent... God will heal ur home
ReplyDeleteThis story has many holes in it. Poster said when she got disvirgined she swore no more sex until after marriage so when did she have these affairs that she claimed to have had in the past? From her story it appears she has only been with only two men - one disvirgined her and the other married her. Could her lack of experience be at fault? How old is her husband? Could age be a factor? The husband might not be gay but could have a low sex drive.
ReplyDelete@ezewanyi pls get a life you sound so archaic.
ReplyDelete...another pained deranged idiot
DeleteGod have mercy
ReplyDeleteThat guy might be gay or he probably doesn't have love for u.
2012 till now no lovemaking,d man hrt is decorated wit stone and gravel o.
Pls get busy and enter serious prayer,tell God to reveal to u and direct u. Honestly u will get tired of dildo,no by say do man travel,he dey house day look up like thief man torch. Don't be surprised he wasn't ready to get married in D first place. The lord is our strenght.
Mrs Chi Ude
Stella her husband might not be gay o. I suffered same first 4years of my marriage before we sort medical help. Turned out hubby had serious infection that killed his libido. No single urge for sex. Noticed the whitish scaly patches beneath and around his balls but as a virgin wetin I sabi. It was when pressure for pikin started that was when it was discovered that he passed the infection to me during d few times he managed to get it up.
ReplyDeleteTo treat the thing no na die o! Antibiotics upon antibiotics who sigh! Agbo upon agbo who sigh! His sperm count was next to nothing. Motility zero. The sperm didn't last up to 5mins sef de don die. Finally met a dr/herbalist that helped us out o. Combination of herbs, antibiotics shots, exercises and change of diet saved our marriage. Now DH de try wella I don born two they wait for 3 to enter.
Also absence makes the heart fonde small vacation wey me n d children go turned my 1 round husband to 3 rounds. Jesus Igweee. Na my testimony b dis lol.
You're not alone my husband touches me once a month when I complain he told me he's tired from working but when he comes home he eat watches tv and go straight to bed I feel so rejected for fear of God I have not cheated on him. But I am very close to doing that.
ReplyDeleteThose of you saying he found out abt her affairs, didn't u read where she said they seperated for 3yrs? U can't really call that cheating na. Anon 9:26pm pls read the post again and understand it.
ReplyDeleteTANI.
@ sisi eko you would know cos ur one .
ReplyDeleteThis is a srz tin....now 'm scared to get married
ReplyDeletedidn't u read where she said they seperated for 3yrs? U can't really call that cheating na. what exactly is that now? kpom?
ReplyDeleteIt's your cross. Stay put in your marriage and raise those lovely kids of yours.
ReplyDeleteHe might have a medical condition - hormones, infections what have you
ReplyDeleteEven without physical attraction, men still have sex with their wives
I really suspect he has a low libido but is unwilling to communicate that to his wife which is a wicked thing to do