Wow!...Waffy say Oturugbeke!
Stella dear I need advice urgently please. Am a frequent BV and I make comments often. Though I have to go anonymous on this one. I have been married for 7 years with my three kids, I am a graduate. I have a boutique.
During these years with my husband. I have never really seen him with a woman o though he works Iin a different LGA and drives there everyday. But frequent calls to some babes at different times makes me suspect him. Most times I make it out with those babes and that one will go. But now, there is this married lady that the son is my son's classmate. I noticed her number wen her calls to my hubby became frequent.
I asked my hubby and he said its bobo's mum. I said ok. But my instincts didnt let me rest until tuesday wen I bumped into their chats. My own dear hubby was talking of wanting to suck her pussy and she said it will be fun. I confronted my hubby dat night and he pleaded, cried, knelt down. Telling me he was just joking. I called the lady's husband the next day ( dont know if I was right sha).
My hubby went and brought my mum and elder sis to help him beg me.....what I saw there is making me go crazy o. Since that day I have been keeping to my self. I dont talk to him. Not even a good morning. Now he went to my mum that i havent given him food since that day. My mum called and started her usual preaching of forgiveness.
How i dont forgive. BTW my three kids were born through CS so am far from wide. We have a healthy sex life and i have never been found wanting on my role as a a wife. Please my fellow Blog Visitors, if you are in my shoes, what will you do?
*Why are you making a mountain out of a molehill,you went snooping,you saw and now its time to forgive.Iknow you will always suspect him but its better to make peace and move on please.you have your hands full already with three kids.
forgive him.
Lol! SDK you are fast! I saw this b4...
ReplyDeleteAnyway Poster should forgive him, since it hasn't happened before and he admitted his wrong and he's not too proud to beg, forgive him, but give him a sound warning.
I don't see anything wrong with snooping abeg SDK, is it even snooping, is the man not her other half?
Is there anything like other half? Sorry the bible says we are all complete in him (Christ) ... not in a man!
DeleteOmg,Stella jst called me.may God bless you and may u neva lack for puting a smile on my face in Jesus name.thnk u thnk u thnk u
DeleteYou had kids through CS and you are far from wide.. that's the "stupidest" statement coming from a woman, what makes you think your p*** is tighter than that of a woman who had virginal delivery? Lots of girls that have never given birth have worse V than those that have. Fool!! That attitude is why your husband is going for a lady who probably had V delivery and others, get informed. Iberibe!
DeleteMadm Stella I dey wait for my own call abeg.
DeletePoster, I can imagine what u're feeling inside. Now that the trust is broken, I personally think u should forgive him just cos of ur kids cos I know u won't be able to forget, and then try to make urself really happy with ur kids and also bury urself with work.....but pls never ever for any reason, deny ur hubby food and if u knw u're not leaving him, do not deny him sex, else he'll still go out to get it! Find an alternative punishment.....also, don't give up on God....prayer is the key dear (don't forget to use Psalm 37:5).....I wish u all the best!
DeleteAm soo sorry poster. Men are pigs. Smh
Delete*sobbing seriously*Stella chai and you have neva called me!*continues sobbing til eternity*jealousy has killed me.happpy Sunday everybody
DeleteHappiness...i see u
DeleteI dey always warn una. Una no dey hear. Don't snoop. Now u would love to forgive your husband but you can't. Put this ugly episode behind you and make yourself happy. Don't starve your husband o. #pullsear "kill 'em with love and kindness" but don't b STEWPID
DeleteExactly Nuvi, nothing wrong with snooping abeg. If she didnt snoop she wouldnt have been able to nip this at the bud and he would av sucked infections... if she didnt snoop and didnt notice and some years later has heart attack cos her husband has another child outside, every2 here saying why did you snoop, will be saying 'are u dumb didnt you see the signs, how can that happen n u wont suspect?' Oh pls no excuse for al this rubbish, its d african law n culture that allows for all this. In western countries cheating is done more by wives sef as the men have a lot to lose in case of divorce unlike this country, dey r hapy to divorce n remarry, it costs them nothing.
DeleteThat same bible said two are better than 1...for if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow . Same bible also said Therefore shall a man liv his fam...cleave to his wife... AND THEY SHALL BE ONE FLESH. So is it wrong to say he is ha other half? Please forgive @ poster, since he was humble enough to apologize . I still maintain that some beautiful love stories begin after disappointments like this.
DeleteI can understand how u feel but u can't do anything other than to forgive him and move on bcos of ur kids
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Please forgive and continues to live happily... i'v had issues like this to handle in my office...it was even worse than this because the man sent his manhood to the lady and the wife saw the chat and picture...just forgive and make sure he turns away from this act with love.
DeleteAunty stella marvo, Hehehehe can't stop laffing. You saw, you fought, you should also conquer dear poster......
DeletePlease forgive ur husband and pray more for him to stop straying as It's obvious he's just a learner in d cheating world else he would have tidied up.
DeleteAgree with you Mo. Initially I was against snooping but my husband moves one day made me suspicious. I went to snoop. What I found left me speechless! He begged for many days. I forgave him but never trusted him again!
DeleteJust forgive him cause i know you will never forget,but that was really nawti of you to do.
ReplyDeleteBLOG ANALYSER: yeah! I agree with u
Delete#clears throat#
DeleteThis sounds like Linda Eze. I can swear she's d one. D story and all.
Mayb if u spent more time facing ur home u wouldn't be in dis mess. #just saying#
@ poster you have no rights to call the woman's husband. Anyways no woman dares call my husband and tell him rubbish, I will sure her pepper.
Delete@Bimpe, what do u mean by she doesn't have a right to call the woman's husband? Of course she does have a million rights to call the woman's husband. And u even opened ur dirty mouth saying no woman dares call ur husband, are u for real or joking? After cheating on ur husband, u don't want the victim to know. U are a serious joke and a serious whore for u to even type this rubbish. Get a life
DeleteBimpe 10flings
Delete@ Bimpe, y won't they call ur husband wen ure messing around wit someone else's. Stupid gutts
DeleteOh, dear poster I forgot to this one, " NEVER EVER CALL THE WOMAN'S HUSBAND AGAIN!" Pls don't make that mistake again next time for fear of getting badly hurt! #Advice
Delete@Bimpe you sound like an adulterous woman
DeleteHmm, bimpe. You have come again with your "wonderful" comments. Hope you don't delete this one too.
DeleteForgive him but keep a VERY close tab on him.. it's insane why a man would a wonderful woman in d house n still wanna try another woman outside. With all d diseases in d world, one would think people will b careful but it's none of my business tho
ReplyDeleteMen! Pls forgive him cos of ur kids...
ReplyDeleteThank you jare Stella, God Bless you. I don't even understand our girls these days. Who sent you to snoop, knowing fully well you can't handle it. Look my dear, you want to hear the truth? Nigerian men are polygamous in nature. Accept it. He even went to call your people to beg you......my dear, some men would tell you "and so what" Just respect yourself and forgive him fast, before you spoil your home over rubbish. Come o, never, never starve your husband food when you fight. Number one no no. He obviously respects and loves you. Go and make peace. Where do you want to go with 3 kids? The next man would be a worst idiot. So manage ya own biko. stop being too rigid. If you like listen to me, if you like listen to Stell's little friends with no experience. Marriage no be beans
ReplyDeleteLove your comment.
Delete@poster, that notion some of you have that women who gave birth via vagina delivery have wide punani is VERY VERY WRONG.
.......and please forgive your husband and run your home with prayers.
7Ab3cde6 is my pin. I won't mind if we chat.
Auntie P, what are u saying?? Y won't she snoop?? She has every right to snoop.. If I were in her shoes, I will do it a million tyms. Pls stop giving dese men foolish excuses.. He was very wrong... Poster, pls its tym to let it go... Pls forgive him and give him a second chance to prove himself. Its not going to be easy.. But pls he is ur husband. Listen to ur mum.
DeleteIf she hadn't snooped,she wouldn't have nipped this at the bud..Common people!!! A woman's instinct is always right. If my mind tells me to snoop,Ama snoop!!Am not about to share my man or let these daughters of jezebel take him.
DeleteIs my right to protect him!
And don't worry,my heart is strong enough to take whatever comes out of my wanting to know...hehehe
Madam,forgive him. He loves you so much,he was just trying to be funky,probably testing his "chyking" skills...He respects you hun...oya go and give him food...just let him know that this fuck up is gon cost him..kikikiki!! Milk it!!!
Typical nigerian mentality!
DeleteHello!...do u knw 'snooping' has saved a lot of marriages....dear poster he has asked for ur forgiveness just forgive him...u also did well by calling d other woman's husband
DeleteAuntie P is the most reasonable commentator I have read her comment for a long time here not all this silly girls forming on this blog.Poster take her advice immediately.
DeleteDats a gud one aunty p. Madam poster think of d blades dat went thru ur skin while birthing ur children n stay o forgive him.
DeleteMy dear thanks for d advise. Am currently in shoes ooo. Just d same story and as u said ma Husby said and so what after apologizing for 5sec. So u beta forgive that humble man and put ur home together. SDK u re such a darling. We are one family here n it gives me joy to av u as a Frd. Am a frequent reader having personnel issues in ma home. I will send u a mail soon.
DeleteIphie dearie ur comment makes sense. It is our right 2 protect our homes. If u know u can handle such issues maturedly, pls snoop. Like dd anon above said snooping has saved alota marriages. Haba! Btw not all nigerian men have energy 2 lead wayward lives. We still have decent ones out there
Delete@ poster, pls forgive him sweetheart and move on. I'm sure ur marriage will grow stronger after dis. God be with u
Aunty P....TF? So she can't snoop? Oh dear Nigerians she has every right to! They made vows to each other remember my hubby can go thru my fone for all I care, so y can't I!? Ish....menh menh menhhh comments like dis makes me wanna throw up.....@ Iya ibeji lati Paris...as innn u right I tire...SDK no u didn't say she shouldn't ve snooped hubby and wife not bf and gf...hun! Madam poster... Pls biko I know its tough forgive ur hubby and move on, with tym u "may" get over it sooner than u expected. B prayerful too...God bless ur fam madam.
DeleteMarried men cheat alot buh with a married Woman??? Na wa o!...nobody fear marriage pass me. Forgive him sha or what choice do u have? U Wana divorce him? Hahahah bad choice my dear
ReplyDeletePls forgive him n a good thing is he knows he's wrong n even called on pple to beg u. My dear, some men won't do that ooooo. Forgive him but keep a close tab n show him pepper once in a while
ReplyDeleteThe day I agreed to get married to my husband,I told him that I will not tolerate any other woman in his life....
ReplyDeleteI made him promise that he would not date another woman...that was even the condition upon which I agreed to marry him even with his handsome looks and financial status...
Men can be tricky but this is our 10th years together....I have not caught him with a woman...I think you should let your man know what you want from day one...that way,he will not cross the line....its working for me....
Back to the post,Poster,try and forgive him...give him a second chance...though its good you suffer him a little so he will know when to cross the line again....
Akuko mike ejiagha, nnem Ka ima nka ima nke ozo vouch for ur self alone men re crafty.
DeleteMumu, your man is good at hiding out from you
DeleteI'm with you on this Linda, I can't stand a cheating husband and I also made it clear to my husband. He knows I can tolerate anything apart from abuse of any form and infidelity.
DeleteYimu
DeleteLinda,which hubby re u tlkin abt?d one sleepin beside me now.I am havin a wonderful wkend wit him rite away.nd we jst had an awesome love makin.I love dis man.
DeleteUyi
Na wa ooo,dis ur husband na made in heaven oooo,no flaws,always on point...dere's god ooooo
DeleteAre you saying your husband has not tasted another punani since you got married? Dream on, Linda Eze...dream on. Oponu.
DeleteFool, who do u think ure deceiving? Kikiki your own lie nor get partv2.
DeleteNo be small 10th years. Must you comment? Blog celebrity indeed.
DeleteLinda eze! Liar! Smelly mouth! Fake Bitch! Dream on...
DeleteYou talk too much for a responsible woman. That is why I like Ezewanyi she talks a lot only in certain matters. Your own na WA. Now we know your whole life history. Remaining your exact age
Delete9years I mean to say...
DeleteMy dear, a man who wants to cheat will cheat. Drawing an imaginary line which he shouldn't cross is wishful thinking. Just pray to God to turn your hubby's attention from strange women. Poster it appears you have a relatively good man, starving him of food can be counterproductive, remember there are tons of desperate ladies out there seeking whom to devour so apply wisdom. I don't recommend snooping on your man for any reason because it always causes more harm than good. The snooper gets hurt, resentment sets in yet they remain in the marriage tormenting themselves and their partners. These are early days so it will still hurt like hell but give it time, you'll learn to deal with it or forgive because something has to give eventually if you want to save your home.
DeleteMa dear God is on ur side. Not wat u told him. Give him the praise and stop hailing urself
DeleteBuhahahaha!linda Eze, u are a certified mad woman. U came back to say na 9yrs. Am inlove wit u! #PlentyHomo!(Team Keep whining fools)
Delete10th year and not 10th years. Lol @ I made him promise. Promise de hard to break ni? @ Poster, better go and give your husband food. You de vex. Ngwa, very soon mama bobo go cook that food give am chop. De form vex reach food matter.
DeleteHahahahaha funny enough as it sounds.... So u can't even remember how long U've bn married for 10yr, 9yrs...den how come u r able to hold him down..tot u r one smartass madam...dey der dey feed ur ego. Be watchful and prayerful! Hain Swerve...
DeleteForgive dear #sexy Neny
ReplyDeleteForgive dear #sexy Neny
ReplyDeleteMeeeeeeeeeeennnnnnnnn nawa o! Is it that hard to be faithful to just one woman? Haba and stella your advice tho the undertone to it
ReplyDelete,Why should she snoop sef,to know when the man strays so she could be on guard to aviod disease of stories that touch abeg...Poster forgive him but watch him closely you are even lucky he admitted and is sorry, I know it aint easy but pls let it go.
*Sweetness*
Snooping is not too good. But in this your case, I am happy you caught this before he chop the woman punani come even use the mouth that day kiss you how are you honey. Lol
DeletePoster, forgive him and move on cos na you go lose at the end of the day.
ReplyDeleteHehehe!
DeleteSad truth!
Forgive him not cos of your,kids but because of your sanity
ReplyDeleteI no get anytin to say pass,
ReplyDeleteMadam stop making excuses for a cheating husband by saying 'am not wide, I had my babies tru CS'
If u wide and deep pass well, is dat an excuse for him to cheat on u?its a mutual tin biko.
Men get away wit too many tins.
Don't mind her, what has wideness or tightness got to do with a cheater. Sometimes men just want a change of scene, a new experience. I'm a mum of two and I cheat whenever I'm bored, my stupid partner cheats too but I pretended as if I didn't know, do far I have flings too once in a while.
DeleteRead well she wasn't making excuses for him!
DeleteHehehe, iyabeji dd u send d story? Cos yaff take it personal oo.
Delete#shivers
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine this.
Oh Lord!!!
Poster I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how you are hurting now. Just tried to put myself in your shoes, and menh I can't deal...
Many will say forgive but I know if I were in your shoes I will not forgive,well, not immediately, maybe after months or even years when I'm sure he is truly sorry and repentant.
For now sha, insist he follows you to the hospital for complete medical checkup. Cos I believe he has been cheating on you. You don't want to add STD to your problems.
SMH
Be strong dear.
SDK I encourage snooping. If she hadn't checked his phone, would she have found out her husband intends to suck or is already sucking a dirty pig's pussy.
Ewwww!
Genny babe... GBAMEST.. I love ur comment. Snooping is allowed in marriage even in a relationship.
DeleteGenny Baby you said it all.
DeleteI encourage snooping(thats if having my hubby's passwords is sneaky)
To avoid ino na mmiri ncha abaam na anya!
Poster take heart!
Double Ewww to think he'll kiss his wife with that same mouth again
DeleteThanks jare! She will be kissing somebody else's pussy juice, open to diseases via the promiscuous bastard
DeleteLmaooooo @dirty pig's pussy haba genny baby
DeleteD only reason u shud forgv him is cuz of ur kids!
ReplyDeleteThat's all
Ur hubby is an idiot nd wud definately stil cheat!
So just face reality!
Men r terrible pple o
Such a sad situation. I wish God will give women super powers to be locking their husband's weewee and unlock it only when they want to have marital sex.
DeleteOuchhh!
DeleteHarsh truth!
@ poster;you would ve had a peace of mind if u hadn't snooped through his fone..yea he is your husband but there is something called privacy..first of all you were suspecting his moves;u should ve just talked to him about it and tell him you weren't happy with all those behaviour of his;at least you know most men can't avoid been promiscuous even when they are married..the few men who do are just blessed and fighting nature altogether..pls poster;try to forgive him cos he is still your husband(unless you are planning a divorce)....and pls next time don't snoop through his phone just for ur sake cos you might find more which could hurt you very bad..just sit ur husband down and talk to him k!!!
ReplyDeleteAboy,u and Stella dats what u Pple have to say abi:@why did she snoop'?....dia is something called privacy',eeeehhhnn!!men have privacy,but if it's d woman,she doesn't have a right to keep things from her husband yea?what a male chauvinistic world we are!#God dey
Delete@poster,dia is a saying dou dat :what u don't know will not kill u',buts it's not like u were wrong for snooping at least u have put a check on this particular relationship with a married woman for dat matter,am sure his brain has gone back to its reset setting now,so lazily' forgive him jare.but keep ur eyes open
Arrant nonesense,wats wit d preachin against snooping,a womans intuition is always ryt,u can search ur hubbys fone if u feel suspicious abeg,nd its nt snoopin jo
DeleteWhat does this small boy know about marriage. Better to snoop than leave in deception that u have a faithful husband
DeleteDts s stupid comment. Fighting nature indeed. If she did not snoop she would not ve knwn her house was on fire. Stella ,sorry but ur advice is not acceptable. Speaking from experience here ..its better to snoop and knw whr u stand and wt needs to be reawakened or structured in ur marriage. Next time he may be smarter o but its better to be smart n nvr let u catch him dan to feel to comfy wit his promiscuity and not knw dt d wife is seeing. Same way he wil notice if d reverse was d case. Anyway, I dont knw if one can rrly take cheatin away frm men but its in d bible one man one wife.. Aftr wt I ve bn tru ...goin tru all d stages of pain anger grief etc . M stil dealing but dis way I knw my man's weak points n help him. It made us closer. I stil kip a watchful eye but honestly....I dont thnk I rrly care anymre...dt part of me has died. So if he wants to suck anothr womans pussy ..ok. just be extremely smart about it. Its sad wt women ve to go thru to stay married. In d name of"Fr d sake of d kids". Pls. If a marriage is killiing you emotionally or physically plssss MOVE. Marriage nor be by force n neighter will Ur kid's undrstand if u stay n die of depression or watevr. At d end of d day...its just God jare.
DeleteHaba martins wot do you mean she shudnt have snooped? God forbid that man has a disease,how would she know when to be on guard? That man is cheating or rather he was cheating b4 now...she shud be careful..Go and carry out necessary tests
DeleteIf you seek, you will find. Question is what will you do with what you found...you are now asking BV's.
ReplyDeleteWhen you were embarking on your exploration, what was your motive? Its time to do what you said you would do if you found him cheating
And that is EXACTLY why you don't go looking for what you are not prepared for....Sorry! I don't feel bad for you...you sought and you found!... sooooo..yeah...deal with it..!....btw..You think you have a 'healthy' sex life and yet he wants to go down on another lady??...Yeah..healthy may not be the right word there...
ReplyDeleteLolz
DeleteStupid idiot always vomiting rubbish.... Anyway when u finally get married come back and tell me you will not snoop if you suspect your husband is cheating..... Marriage is not the end of life so if u are no happy leave the dog.... In this case though this is the first time you are catching him and he has shown remorse so forgive..... Anyone married to a serial cheat should find their level and stop fooling themselves..
DeleteMen will always be men.Neva satisfied wit one woman.Am sure b4 he married u,u wia not d only woman he was sucking d pussy.So jst 4give him cos dis is marriage wt 3kids.And i also urge u 2 4give him in advance cos he wunt stp lukn 4 anoda pussy 2 suck..
ReplyDeleteWhat does she mean by she had CS and far from wide??? Some people think through their back side, I'm sure u are so tight and dry that your husband wants a wide and juicy V
ReplyDeleteCow blokos,command oil,stick,needle,a cold place............his blokos cannot get up outside except he wants to make love make to only u.
ReplyDeleteI've always known this woman is fetish!this is exactly what u did to ur husband that makes him ur mumu button!?LORD HAVE MEECY!
DeleteHahahahaha
DeleteEzenwanyi ibilibi ogada 1 has said it all!!!!!
Ezenwanyi biko whr wil I get the command oil and the other things mentioned,hubby is cursed with chasing after everything in skirt,I don't want 2 die young biko help a sis
DeleteNne tell me more.... Amu efi and command oil? Kedu kwa nke bu command oil?
DeleteIt's don jazzy again!!!! Ezenwanyi!!!! The strong woman!! You need Jesus baby! He needs to use your strong and unshakeable spirit.
Delete@The Queen and Boss Of this Blog.......hehehe, women like you make me laugh. Never trust a man!!! If you like, make him swear with his life, he would still cheat. Some are experts at keeping things away from their wives. If he doesn't want to cheat, his friends would push him into it. So wake up girl, before they bring surprise home to you. Women like you are worst hit because you have been living in LaLa Land.
ReplyDeleteI want to correct this notion. Not all men cheat. Everyone has beeen sayin it here. Pls not all men cheat
DeleteY do fools like u never think before talking rubbish? She say she has not caught him did she say she swears he has never cheated? She has set her bounderies and the hubby knows to hide it well.....if some of you keep treating them like all men cheat and u will forgive them and remain married by fire by force they keep treating u like rags and flaunting the affairs in your face.....
DeleteHey lady, very sad shaa buh 4get about bin tight n all, he hs begged u 4 4giveness den do dat n move on. Ur marriage is heading d rock if u don't. 4give him and show dat wife in u cos I undstnd ow u feel. Life move go on.
ReplyDeletePeople are so funny, if it was the wife that was caught doing the same thing everyone will say useless woman kick her out blah blah blah. If he gives her HIV now d same people saying don't snoop will say why was she not vigilant and observant. Mtscew #doublestandards I'm sure she will forgive him with time but give her time to heal afterall once trust is broken it must take time to be rebuilt
ReplyDelete@ anon 1:10pm I m tired of dis men world tins chai if it was to be d woman I am very sure d man won't give her chance to xplain she did dat or by nau d woman would ve bin in d hosp. And for woman who r never contented wit dere husby xcept order pple husby Diaris God 4 u n young ladies running after pple husby hmmm dey wil do Dsame to u wen u get married ijn. And for men who are alway every well distributor of d higest alda continue expect d rap of God soon if u refuse to change. Choi mens world my foot shwwwww
DeleteThese niggas aint loyal.
ReplyDeleteAt all these niggas ain't loyal men.
DeleteTrust once broken, is very difficult to rebuild.
ReplyDeletePoster you still have to forgive him.
Try your best to forget the incident, but you gotta punish him real good.
He should buy a choice property for you...in your name.
See comments like ladies can't be found wanting...."mehnnnn", "can't a man stay faithful to one woman?".... Africa is polygamous. It's the religion we've respected to be devoted to one woman doesn't mean it isn't in our blood. So what of the lady who likes her pussy sucked? No one is saying anything about her and there are so many ladies like her, even here commenting and condemning men. I am a married man. So far I have been faithful but its just a year into it. Let my wife not forgive me the day I sway. You think I'll be this humble to ask her people to beg for me? If you like don't forgive him and keep starving him....ladies dey.
ReplyDeleteMichael Iwu ikpu! Original Out Michael odoala....check out the " let my wife not forgive me the day I sway" I pity the poor sweetie who married you.
DeleteYou have absolutely NO respect her..u think the female folk alone are disadvantaged when their men cheat?
Wake up n smell the coffee chum..2 can play the game, as ladies dey boobos dey too
Idiot!
DeleteMy dear just forgive even though its not easy to let go.
ReplyDeleteI discovered my hubby was cheating on me 7 months into our marriage wen i confronted him, he begged and said he wouldnt do it again. A week later i discovered he didnt stop and then confronted him again, this time he told me "so what"? that i should do whatever i wanted, by dat time i was already pregnant. He would come home late with lipstick stain, condom in his pocket, swimming pool receipts for two. I almost ran mad. I reported to my parents, they said i should be patient cos i was pregnant. Reported to his parents too, they said the same thing. My hubby started acting like God, he would rub it on my face that d girls are better dan me dat he preferred spending his money on them dan me. I eventually lost my pregnancy cos i was always thinking and crying. After d miscarriage my hubby grew worse he wont sleep at home some times. Would abuse me verbally and emotionally. Am still in his house cos my parents are not in support of divorce. I dont have a job, am a graduate, and No i didnt marry him for money we dated for 4yrs before we got married, we were so in love and he hid his xter well. He worshiped d ground i walked on then. But now, am married to a monster!
ReplyDeleteLeave. You were never married
DeleteWhat???? Wicked man! Unrepentant Arrogant ass, even if a man must cheat respect your woman enough to hide the affair, now that you haven't borne kids for him, I think you should stay apart for sometime, go to your Parents house, if he's wise enough to realise his loss and come and crawl for forgiveness, show him pepper, give him conditions before you reconcile, if he doesn't give yourself sometime to get over him, cry and file for a divorce.
DeleteWow..sorry babe...if he won't stop this...file divorce and move on..."fortunately " no child yet...it will facilitate the. dissolution. You have ahead!
DeleteIts a pity u are going through all this.... Will advice you to get a job and not waste your time sitting @ home doing nothing. God will touch his heart sooner than you expect. Its well with you sis. Adunola
DeleteYou have just described men completely, yours was after 7mnths he begun to cheat abi, some people it is after many years oh and if u like date a man for 50 years after marriage o he will change n start showing his true colours
DeleteMadam sorry about your situation
Sorry dear
DeleteYour story is making me cry *sobs*
Get a job. Develop yourself. Stand strong. Talk to God about the situation, might sound cliché but He's still in the business of answering prayers and He's NOT slow.
DeleteWat of husbands dt deletes their chats b4 they come into d house! While dating dem dey ll be all kind n loving , once they are married its something else dy bcome! Married men can cheat but married women cant! Rubbish
DeleteWait till you get pregnant, get a job then leave his sorry arse.... If u can't leave look for a guy to make you happy..... Men think they are gods when he sees you don't care or depend on him he will know what's up.... Women put their lives on hold cos of men and that's totally stupid....
DeleteI wonder when women will understand that men will cheat no matter what you do!!
ReplyDeleteEven if you have the tightest punani, he will still go out and fuck a loose one.
As long as he is responsible and respects you, just learn to manage your relationship and be happy. Wetin you dey find for your husband phone? You better mind your business and be happy oo. Cause if you take the peace of mind you have now for granted, you will envy it when it walks out the door.
What many women won't tell you is their husband also cheat! And many dare not even confront him even when they know. So my dear do small shakara and forgive him quick if you still want him.
Cheers!
Hmmmmm, forgiveness is divine dear.
ReplyDeleteForgiveness is divine.
ReplyDeleteIv been married for 12yrs and i used to condenm adultery, im nearly 6ft tall, flawless and fair in complexion, msc degree holder, in my 30s, four kids and veeeery beautiful bt hubby have not for one day tell me the magic words' i luv you' ive prayed, fasted, become born again n pretended that all is well bt deep down i know i yearn for love. Hubby is not a womanizer but very busy wid his biz, he believes that money is everything. I met a guy that showerd me with love( on fb) recently and everything turned around for my good,lol. Im so beautiful that men toasts me on daily basis but dis guy broke my defences, he is based abroad n i know that ill have fun wid him anytime he visits home... Love is such a beautiful thing!!!
ReplyDeleteCorrect woman...have fun jare...
DeleteBeware of fb love..ime banye ugbo ndi oshi #onechancethingz
DeleteSMH 4 u. U eyes go clear very soon. See her mouth like am gonna have fun with him anytime he visits. Just cos ur husband does not say the "I love u " words. Later on, u will come on stella's blog with stories like this post. The fact is YOU women are the men's problems. Abi no be married woman dey date the poster's husband? You women are your own enemies. Take ur hand destroy ur marriage yeah? If ur husband no hustle again for money now, u will come out calling him lazy or broke ass. One can never ever satisfy you women.
DeleteHmmmm omoge take your time! This is from a woman that has been in your shoes. Don't even try it, it's not worth. If your husband sends you parking with your kids can you look after yourself and the children. And give them the quality life a mum and dad gives ? Or you think this your FB lover will still be there? Men toast you on a daily basis means you through yourself out cheap and you don't carry yourself as a classy married woman anymore !!! Take my advice and channel all this your attention seeking to something very productive.
DeleteDE DIVA has spoken
Ashawo. Where's ur born again come waka go?
DeleteDon't ever cheat on your husband. In your situation, it could be good to cheat but it still doesn't make it right.
DeleteThings men do sha.
ReplyDeleteYou all saying she snooped she saw she should forgive. Isi adikwa unu mma? I agree you should ask God for the grace to forget this one but you are right to check on your spouse every now and then. It helps everyone be on their best behaviour, it also helps you discuss what you need to do to improve on yourself.
ReplyDeleteIt kills to be ignorant, guys are like kids, most times they need a reminder
Pls divorce him FAST
ReplyDeleteSee your mouth like divorce him fast...go and wear your diapers joor...
DeletePlease forgive him for yourself.
ReplyDeleteFor him to mind himself small sha, tell him to run tests for STDs. Na small punishment
I just love dis family,I feel lik I v knwn u guys 4 long.1st tym commenting n I do a lot of reading n laughing,a lot of u guys here crack mi up wen am in my lowest.long live dis beautiful family.4 d love of God,pls 4giv ur husband.I come frm a polygamous home n its difficult,u wuldnt wnt dat 4 ur children.dat ibibio chic
ReplyDeleteeverybody saying forgive this, forgive that, smh. If you haven't tasted heartbreak you will never know. haba! it is always better to keep tabs on a man than to just let him loose and free and accepting the fact that Nigerian men are polygamous in nature, who says Nigerian women can't be polygamous too.... I snoop ooh, cos if I find something it is easier to use what is found to check and balance his promiscuity than to just talk generally on assumptions, like you don't know men, they would say you are just imagining stuff and make u look paranoid. but if you catch them, it would slow them down a Lil and also remind them you are on their tail.... The good men ooh, not the complete dogs that would even rob it on your face. !
ReplyDeleteNne if ur not ready to forgive pls don't get married inugo. How many u wan divorce sef? And there r men even if u catch dem with their dick on a pussy dey will still deny it. Comon
DeleteSo many people say forgive buh I doubt its easy..not yet in d married sector tho. May God guidee you in ur decsions
ReplyDeleteForgive him! I did.
ReplyDeleteForgive him on one condition that he must give you head and good sex, something is missing in your sex life try something different like sex toys when having sex it work for me.
ReplyDeleteI was in this same position some weeks back, only that he decided to be stubborn about it and humiliate me in the process. I was so shocked that I did not even really think about it till he travelled, now my resentment has grown, I dnt trust him and I can not categorically say I am in love with him, cos it is not the 1st time and it usually happens when I need him the most. Here I am lacking the support and affection because he is dishing it out to some random. He says it dint go past the fone but I find it hard to believe anything he says. We are not married but have a child, marriage is not even on my mind anymore. What do I do?
ReplyDeleteOh you are not married???? HALLELUJAH!! That makes it easy for you oooo. Please take to your heels and run run run like terry G.
Delete...............BTW my three kids were born through CS so am far from wide. Really?
ReplyDeleteMy dear, cs makes you wider than normal birth.
In normal birth, after the widening in prep, the passage of a child triggers a tightening of the walls of the vagina whereas in cs, nothing triggers a tightening afterwards.
Thanks jare, don't mind the shallow minded fool, for her mind she "tight" her husband obviously thinks otherwise
DeleteAm no doctor but cs has nothing to do with the Vjay. I don't get what you mean when you say CS makes you wider, and plz is that all you have to say to the poster's dilemma? People sha. Anyways Moving on to better things, poster forgive your husband he appears repentant. Women are fond of giving advices even them can't handle. Sdk was right plz avoid snooping,if you suspect anything sit your man down and talk to him. When you snoop you see things that just depress you most of the time. Goodluck.
DeletePoster forgive him and let go. You don't know that by ignoring him you might be pushing him into the hands of another woman. If you keep on behaving like that he might get use to your attitude and develop a thick skin and might not even care about how u feel again or he may end up looking for companionship outside. Its normal for you to be angry in situation like this, but pls don't overdo it before you regret it. The man is truly sorry as I can see frm your rightup, pls try as much as you can to bring your relationship with your hubby alive again. Don't allow what you've built for years to be destroyed.
ReplyDeleteForgive him if you don't someone else will replace you. It's not hard for men to find a replacement in a second especially the well. To do ones and you know in that process your kids will suffer ,so let it go
ReplyDeleteNne,m sorry u r hurting.buh lets look at it dis way...he has apologized...n many times too.pls forgive.for ur sake,for ur kids' sake n for ur sanity..u think wen dey coined dat wise saying"a woman is d one dat holds her home" dat dey didn't know why dey came up wit it?wil give u one advice a wise aunt gave me.she told me"for u to be happy n maintain a happy home n keep ur sanity,decide today to forgive ur husband of d things he did in d past,d things he is doing presently n d things he wil do in d future.I weak o...buh I bought d advice.den,seek God's face...He makes everything hurt go away.sending u hugs darling.
ReplyDeleteStella abeg leave story no annoy me this Sunday morning, she is allowed to find closure if she has any doubt! So u mean she shouldn't investigate when she knows damn well something isn't right. At least she know now so the question now is what next? Poster if u feel he is really sorry pls try and work things out with him. Find where things went wrong n fix it. If he isn't and u feel he'll do it again, pls dump his ass! I'm so disgusted... Wanting to lick iya bobos pussy!! Yuck!!! Pls give iya bobo 3good slaps too n tell her to stay clear!
ReplyDeleteI just went through my BF's phones and I'm traumatised! Waiting for the dog to come back from church. ...
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha....it's so bad you can't chain a human dog..
DeleteIMHO I think is better my bf cheats on me than my husband.... At least if I still feel he is d one I know what I'm getting into....than a guy who pretends all the time and drops a bombshell on me....
Abeg gist us wat transpired o...
Keep checking nah. Abi u don tire? U better lay off men completelyrics otherwise na ur corpse we go carry
DeleteLwkmd lmao
DeleteBabe take it easy o no kill the dog
Hahahahahahahaaaaa....!!!
DeleteLmao
DeleteShurrap see ur mouth why she no go check
ReplyDeleteForgive him & Let go,,,give him another chance
ReplyDeletehehehehehe..Linda your comment really made me laugh:) You said you made him promise he will not date another lady? Thank God you said you have not caught him and not that you are a 100% sure he has never cheated:) Madam poster you are right to be angry, you said you called the woman's husband ? well, you also did well. For your husband to want to suck another man's wife's pussy shows he is a pig and for the woman to reply saying it will be fun also show's that she is also eyeing your husband. I won't blame you for feeling the way you are feeling but FORGIVE YOU MUST. There is no perfect man or marriage anywhere. Only God know's how many other men that married woman is fucking yet your hobby want's to go and put his mouth there..eewwww.. Madam forgive my dear. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteThere's no perfect marriage my sis 4get D mata an move on wit ur family D married woman is wicked an heartless an ur husband no see ceecee again wen e B say na who don marry e dey follow. Anyway inother not to give yourself BP forgive him so dat u can take care of your children
ReplyDeleteDear poster, you will have a lot of people advice you on this but above all remember to talk to God and hand over your marriage to Him. Forgive your husband and please don't starve him (sexualy or nutritionally) further.
ReplyDeleteAfter taking my precious time to read your post. I can say that you have refused to forgive him because he went outside to give a married woman good heading(AGALI) and refused to suck your pussy during love making. sorry ma
ReplyDeleteDear poster, talk to God and then sit your husband down and talk some sense into his head. Ask him if he's been going about being a "headmaster" because you two might have to run some tests. Please don't starve him sexually or nutritionally. Konji na bastard o, don't push him to cheat while you are still angry over what just happened because you won't know. Forgive him.
ReplyDeleteFuck him more and them go find a young boy to fuck... Tit for tat... He will never change
ReplyDeleteShut the fuck up with your stupid advice. Tit for tat my ass. If u were God u for don eraze this country called Nigeria for various sins here and there. Learn to forgive and not retaliate. Leave judgement to God
DeleteU go forgive noni.......but henceforth ur hubby is a suspect, make u de police am about!!! but how do u do that? U can follow him everywhere he goes o( when u no be MTN). My dear forgive him, but show him small pepper sha n don't 4get to pray 4 him n ur home always. Hardly will u see a marriage which has not gone through ds phase. I have been married for 9yrs plus n I must tell u that it's not an easy feat @all. Just calm down n enjoy d positive sides of ur marriage, some men are worse.
ReplyDeleteForgive him and focus on ur children biko
ReplyDeleteIf u keep holding too much to urself,Nne u are hurting urself ,and stop going tru his fone so dat u don't die of heart attack since u can't take wat u see most times.
He that increaseth knowledge increaseth sorrow! Plus to err is human, to forgive, divine.
ReplyDeletePlease forgive him o..don't push him away..tell God you wanna forget what you saw and be cool again..it is well.
ReplyDeleteAs hard as it is to do, please forgive him since he is already sorry and has accepted that he messed up. But na wa for guys oh, if you want to cheat why another married woman? and the woman sef, isn't her own husband enough for her? B*tch! you did well by calling her hubby, let her go and face the music she started playing! #One Love#
ReplyDeleteWhat you don't see won't cause you pain. You went on research and you have a theory, kudos!. So pls forgive him, draw his head to you and give him the BJ he bin dey find outside. Be like say he's tired of the missionary position.
ReplyDeleteOmennnn but head dey sweets oh lol
DeleteShow him pepper once in a while? Are u for real?
ReplyDeleteSo when he too starts to grow thick emotional skin, and shows u pepper all the while..u come here again and start ranting under anon. What abt forgiving and forgetting?!
Madam Poster, pls forgive, for the love u guys one shared, and still share. Those kids too>
Lol. Pls make him feel like ur man again, greet him, COOK FOR HIM.
I went to decorate my friend's house for her bridal shower today. Nna mehn blowing baloon made me remember blowjobs and the hard work. I'm so glad I'm single
ReplyDeleteThe truth is that 90% of married men cheat. U r lucky to hv one that respect u by admitting, applogised and even told ur mum to beg u. Now u starve and refuse to talk to him? U r absolutely pushing him out officially now to waiting arms of those side chicks. U better go and appologise for starving him and win him more rather than pushing him out.
ReplyDeleteALL MEN CHEAT!
ReplyDeletewomen are so dumb wallahi
And yet your mates are getting married evert sarurday. Rubbish!
DeleteALL MEN CHEAT!
ReplyDeletewomen are so dumb wallahi
I doubt if there is any marriage that a partner hasn't cheated....when caught they forgive and move on and try not to repeat the same mistakes
DeleteYou have 2 options. Forgive him or divorce him. There's no sense in carrying the grudge and bitterness in your heart if you're going to stay with him. You do not hold the upper hand in this for much longer. If you can't get over it, then divorce him.
ReplyDeleteOne thing remains clear, your husband is a philanderer even if you don't want to admit it to yourself, you know this. Today it's this woman, next year it's likely to be another. Just be realistic with yourself
For those pro-snooping with the defence of protecting themselves from diseases, how many women who have caught their men cheating started having safe sex or no sex at all? Let's keep things 100 here. Only very few women will walk out on a cheating spouse and even fewer will insist on safe sex with their hubbies. Majority will degenerate into a melancholic state for months or even years, others will use it as a "get out of jail free" card to keep other sex partners outside the marriage where safe sex isn't still guaranteed. It's just a vicious cycle! I only recommend snooping if you are looking for an incentive to leave your marriage. You don't need to know your hubby is creeping before you add more spice to your marriage. It's not easy but try not to be complacent in your marriage, do your best and let God do the rest. Some men just can't help themselves, they'll still cheat even if they marry porn stars! Marriage isn't meant for the faint hearted, a lot of work and tolerance is needed.
ReplyDeleteI like your input
Deleteany u don change
ReplyDeleteKids commenting on this blog thinking marriage na yams. What gives any woman that impression they can stop their hubby from cheating . Its a man's nature everywhere, oyinbo sef dey do am. Best bet is talking to your hubby when you suspect him and not snooping his phone if you don't want to kill yourself.
ReplyDeleteBobo's mother is just a wicked woman,she knows you, your son is her son classmates what a shame. You have done no wrong by calling the husband,i don't know the age of your son but tel him to say little about his family to outsiders may be the woman heard some story from her son and want to enjoy what you have. Stella she has every right to snoop so that she can stop things like this before its too late. Forgive him but be on the watch and above all both of you need to move closer to God,the fear of God will make him to live right.God bless your home and heal your wound. Amen.
ReplyDeleteThe general rule is "thou shall not snoop" but exceptions to this rule could arise Eg Ogas phone rings and he is never able to pick at home, phone is always on silent,oga is always chatting with God knows who, oga cannot leave his phone even if he is in the toilet, Ogas attitude has changed , he is never at home etc
ReplyDeleteI have never checked my husbands phone but if there is need to, I will check over and over,he is my spouse, the essence of knowing these things is to put your home in order. The same hurt you feel when you check is phone and see stuff is the same hurt you feel if he impregnates someone.
You need to chat and that kind talk nah mid nite,don't talk to him when you are upset, be as calm as ever, appeal to his emotions and let him know the consequences of cheating.i know a man who is HIV positive and changes women like wrapper and they do not know his status, story for another day.
Babe, please cook for your husband, do you want him to start eating outside? I know it is tough but be nice and that alone will make him feel guilty.
Finally, move on, your marriage must work, In marriage you must forgive each other ten times over,you are hurting yourself the more, you are making yourself unhappy.Forgive, forget and rekindle your love.
Let's just say he strayed and he is back on track.
All the best and keep your head up.Lemme goan sleep
Madam please and please forgive him.If you divorce him which man would look your side with three children and even if they do what is the guarantee that the next one would not want to suck oya bonica's pussy ehn,madam forgive your husband now or else you would soon be telling somebody in your same position if I had known I would have forgiven him and pur the incident behind me and kept my home and marriage. Like everything in life it's difficult but you can do it.Don't cheat on him oo you will bring the wrath of God on yourself so fast and you will still not be happy. Face God and do his work and pray and pray plus focus and take care of your kids.don't starve your husband of sex or food because now you've given him the ticket to finish what he started outside.ignore those women that would come on hear and say their husbands don't cheat or has never cheated , don't feel bad or jealous because you are better off why because you know the truth and that's the first step to solving your problem.been married for 20 yrs , husband has cheated twice or three times,I have three kids my last baby is 15 and fist is 19 and that is what has kept me going through the yrs oo.my friends that left their homes libg time ago when their husband strayed are regretting it today and they were calling foolish that time when I decided to face my God and my kids and stay in my marriage because they ve ended up with men worse than their exes or even no man at all and they ve had to bring up their children alone which is excruciating. I'm preaching this sermon because I need to emphasize on the fact that you should forgive and stay biko.you cab throw your three pieces of Diamonds away and you can't just change their lives because of your own selfishness. Biko look to God close your eyes forgive your husband and stay in your marriage
ReplyDeleteI'm married with 3kids n snoop often. I don't make a case out it though but save for later use. I snap the messages, transfer pics, save numbers add to whatsapp n monitor. I don't ask ohh nor talk about it but sex life is restrained... single mothers and married ladies, fear them! @SugarHoneyBee(SHB)
ReplyDelete'Forgive him', 'face your children', 'why did you snoop?' Rubbish! because of stupid statements like these, africa is the haven of STD's and HIV/AIDS. Imagine what women here are saying to a fellow woman like them. Why can't you all confess and tell the poster that you are all adultresses and that's what keeps you happy in your loveless so called marriages?. Infact, africans are just olodo's at anything including marriage. If you know what marriage is all about, you wouldn't be making excuses for men. Imitate your white sisters who are obviously more intelligent than you and fight for weighty divorce settlements in court so that your kids can be well taken care of when you leave that miserable marriage. But no, that's not what you want. You rather play dum,collect all the diseases in africa and console yourselves with that rusted ring on your finger all for the sake of the kids who will grow up in a loveless home and become messed up nigerians. Stupid African Women. Suffer head is your middle name!!!! Mc pepel says so!
ReplyDelete'Forgive him', 'face your children', 'why did you snoop?' Rubbish! because of stupid statements like these, africa is the haven of STD's and HIV/AIDS. Imagine what women here are saying to a fellow woman like them. Why can't you all confess and tell the poster that you are all adultresses and that's what keeps you happy in your loveless so called marriages?. Infact, africans are just olodo's at anything including marriage. If you know what marriage is all about, you wouldn't be making excuses for men. Imitate your white sisters who are obviously more intelligent than you and fight for weighty divorce settlements in court so that your kids can be well taken care of when you leave that miserable marriage. But no, that's not what you want. You rather play dum,collect all the diseases in africa and console yourselves with that rusted ring on your finger all for the sake of the kids who will grow up in a loveless home and become messed up nigerians. Stupid African Women. Suffer head is your middle name!!!! If una like, make una no go school and get better job to take care of yourselves. Carry man and marriage for head like degree certificate. Mcheeeew!!! Mc pepel says so!
ReplyDeletePoster,forgive him.
ReplyDeleteAbeg Stella, she deserves to snoop all she want. when she get an infection or the worst AIDS or HIV, you will be the one to say that she's kind of slow not to know that her husband his cheating.
ReplyDeleteMadam, Forgive him and cook food for him to eat on his coconut head. also go with him to do some medical test and to make sure he won't pass any infection to you and educate him very well on throat cancer.
snooping is good abeg.
ReplyDeleteforget about all the yeye talk of what you don't know doesn't kill you.
that's ignorance.
snoop, get your facts, handle the aftermath. but you gotta be strong cos you should hope for the best (that he doesn't cheat) and prepare for the worst.
dear poster, knowledge is power. at least you wont let your guard down knowing he is into other women.
now that he has apologized, try to forgive for the sake of the kids, but give him stern warning.
you can be angry for a while due to the pain you feel inside but don't let it drag for long.
let go, be a good and loving wife, satisfying him in all aspects. that alone will somehow keep him in check cos he will be scared not knowing what youa re capable of next time.
My dear, I feel u sooooo well. I understand what u r goin thru. But pls forgive him. The fact that he, not only apologised, but even went all out to call people to plead on his behalf should be enough reason to forgive him. I clocked 5years in marriage a few months ago, and I can tell u, I've seen soooo many terrible acts from the he-goat I call a husband. Worst of it all is that he's a Pastor, and sleeps with almost all his choir girls, some widows, and people outside the church too. I detest him with a passion cos he, rather than apologise wen he is caught, would turn the whole thing with his "gra gra" and would make u feel as if u r not sure about what u saw. We have gone for 10months at a stretch without sex, and in church, he'll still preach forgiveness, we'll go for functions, and he'll introduce me as d best woman in d world, the most beautiful woman on earth and all. As soon as we get into the car, his character would change. I used to weep, plead, get angry, and all ... But ever since my mum warned me NEVER to let my tears drop for a man,,, I've ceased my tears. I'm so happy with my kids that I don't even bother myself abt whatever he does. I'm gradually developing a thick skin.. Fortunately/unfortunately, I don't have d heart to cheat cos I feel It'll be a disservice to my sweet girls. I luv them with my life... Poster pls forgive him and give him the opportunity to prove himself,,, but don't force it! Let it come freely! #hugs
ReplyDeleteNa wa o, see people commenting forgive him,forgive him...its high time women teach their men some lesson.. Like y must men alwys ride women down?we r help mates not slaves... Its only a slave that tolerates any treatment melted 2 her by her master cos she has nowhere else to go...,which brings me 2 ds question; r we women slaves??we cook,take care of d home,hubby n kids,some work while some don't,we fuck our hubby yet he goes out to cheat n when we know, we still give them more pampering all bcos we wanna be married.. I am not married but with all ds I'm reading,mehn,I'm just gettn married 2 better my life n av kids cos I can see TRUE LOVE is dead, y stress my small head with love? Its better not to love& just like than get hurt... I will treat my hubby as a platonic friend that can disappoint anytym even dou I will perform my duties as a wife n shower dat TRUE LOVE to myself,my children,my God,my job cos that's what really matters.... Men treat we women like "yea,I never knew u from Adam,we met in ds world.. So" y shld I nw treat him like he created me. Most of us don't adore God d way we adore our men n its not funny,I inclusive. Its high time women love themselves,love themselves and love themselves.... If I catch my hubby cheating, will let him know I know,will go 4 tests then I will increase my monetary demands,sexual demands cos I love myself&like him. Dress well,kip fit,eat well,look good,take care of my kids cos that's what really matters&thats d reason y I got married. Not saying it won't hurt,it will but I will heal up n trust me he will be the one coming 2 beg... Tolulope.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o, see people commenting forgive him,forgive him...its high time women teach their men some lesson.. Like y must men alwys ride women down?we r help mates not slaves... Its only a slave that tolerates any treatment melted 2 her by her master cos she has nowhere else to go...,which brings me 2 ds question; r we women slaves??we cook,take care of d home,hubby n kids,some work while some don't,we fuck our hubby yet he goes out to cheat n when we know, we still give them more pampering all bcos we wanna be married.. I am not married but with all ds I'm reading,mehn,I'm just gettn married 2 better my life n av kids cos I can see TRUE LOVE is dead, y stress my small head with love? Its better not to love& just like than get hurt... I will treat my hubby as a platonic friend that can disappoint anytym even dou I will perform my duties as a wife n shower dat TRUE LOVE to myself,my children,my God,my job cos that's what really matters.... Men treat we women like "yea,I never knew u from Adam,we met in ds world.. So" y shld I nw treat him like he created me. Most of us don't adore God d way we adore our men n its not funny,I inclusive. Its high time women love themselves,love themselves and love themselves.... If I catch my hubby cheating, will let him know I know,will go 4 tests then I will increase my monetary demands,sexual demands cos I love myself&like him. Dress well,kip fit,eat well,look good,take care of my kids cos that's what really matters&thats d reason y I got married. Not saying it won't hurt,it will but I will heal up n trust me he will be the one coming 2 beg... Tolulope.
ReplyDeleteAbeg there's no excuse for cheating. None at all. Is it that women re super beings that they also can't cheat. The moment a man starts cheating then sometin has gone wrong somewhere. Rather than cheat work it out with ur wife or seek for divorce. Above all I think marrying a genuine God fearing man would help. Such a person even when tempted would refrain himself because of his fear and love for God. My emphasis on Genuine God fearing man. Not the pretenders ooo
ReplyDeleteStella, Sorry, I am going to disagree with you on this. Considering the nature of sexually transmitted deceases everywhere today, I think there is nothing wrong in snooping on ones spouse. One needs to protect him or herself against these deadly deceases.
ReplyDeletePoster, please forgive him. If you think he may have been unfaithful, both of you can go for std tests. This will help you heal faster. Rose
Anon 1:50, just months into your marriage,you are already passing through this hell? Honestly, I envy your patience. I wish I could be this patient in all I do. If I were in your shoes, I would have left his house fast. May God give you peace, joy and financial breakthrough. Rose
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