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Good Morning Stella and fellow blog visitors,My story is long but I will try as much as I can to keep it brief.
I have been married to this wonderful guy for about 3 yrs now and we are blessed with 2 pretty daughters. People from the outside will see our marriage as a near perfect one but the truth is the flavour and light died last year when I discovered my 'perfect' hubby was cheating on me. Not with one or 2 girls but every possible girl that comes his way even to the extent of asking my cousin out.
He is on every social site you can think of from badoo to fb to instagram to Twitter sourcing for girls.
While we were dating I knew he was cheating on me but I never confronted him cos we were far apart and believe me I never cheated on him and I will not.
The thing is now we are married several times I caught him some times I confront him some times I just ignore. The few times I confronted him he cried and begged and promised to change trust me he never did he still went back and continued.
My pains now is we have really grown apart. No friendship like it used to be
I have tried to bring myself to love him like I used to but I cant. I know most of these his girls.
Should I confront them? Recently he asked one of them for a three some I got really mad but I kept my cool. I have never complained to any soul.
Please what do I do? I have lost confidence in myself. I still want to get my marriage back on track. For those that have gone thru similar issues how long did it take you to forgive and forget? Please I need good advice cos I think am getting depressed.
*OMG,i dont know what to advice....start with loading his wallet and car with condoms...let me wait for the wise ones to comment abeg.
Stay strong sweety.
Hmmmm, dear poster, if I tell you I understand what you are going through then am lying, I will advice you to stay strong for yours and your children's best. Do things that makes you happy, socialize, work n pray cause your. Sanity is very important and please stop checking your hubby's socailmedia account for your own good, doing so will only cause you more headache. God will see you through
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, its best for you to get a job(that is if you dont have one already) and walk out.. He s taking the meek out of you. 3some like seriously? Ive heard of people cheating n then infecting their innocent other half.. Do the right thing b4 he kills you. This one is beyond prayer biko heaven helps those who help themselves. Some men r not marriage material. Sorry to break this news to you like this but the earlier some women start waking up n smelling the coffee, the better for them.
DeleteYou know people will only advice you to pray he changes and stay for your children cos if you are in Nigeria that's the norm , but u see this life, we will live it once, n once you are done that is it. For me I will say start empowering yourself, get a job, make yourself happy, wear makeup more, go to the gym, make yourself happy and have fun. As for your husband if you are in Nigeria , don't leave him cos the crazy women who should support u will mock you, always use a condom with him, but detach yourself emotionally from him. And FYI he will NEVER change even if you pray from now till tomorrow.. Just stay but do your own thing.. Men are Bastards..
Delete*am out*
Aunty Stel biko where is Sunday laughs
DeleteAnon 6:55, you are so on point. Poster, we could be sharing the same husband with this story you put down. My depression too started the day I went thru his fone. Not 1, 2, 3.... my God.... supposed friends I know, my househelp (chased that one out the very next day I found out - I was so clueless till his numerous affairs that came to light now made me shine my eyes at home) even paid prostitutes. Honestly there was no way I would have known if not for that fone. I tried changing everything about me thinking I was not appealing enough anymore. I'm a size 10 up and 12 in my hips so I don't think I'm off regarding looks, though I'm not so pretty, I keep myself good. Every night, I kept getting drawn to that blasted fone to read his latest chats and I kept sinking lower and lower emotionally. I became anti depressant dependent and seeing a psychologist every week. I have 3 beautiful kids, 2 boys and a girl and I'm just 35 yrs. The day I noticed that my behaviour was affecting these kids, was the day I got a rude awakening. Now I've stopped going thru his fone, though I know he's still chasing after things in skirt (yes it's still happening). I've resolved to live my life to the fullest without his input, mind you I don't mean cheat, won't bring myself to his level. I love shopping so I make a budget every month to spoil myself silly, I joined a gym, met nice ladies and we keep in touch via BBM, take my kids out every weekend to fun places and generally mentally made myself a happy version of my old self. Mind you, there are times when I start to think about the whole thing and it affects me negatively, but I've schooled myself to bring myself out of it. One thing my psychologist helped me find out is that fast paced music brings me out of the blues fast. Pray, hold on to God and face yourself and your kids. If any crumbs fall by the wayside for hubby, his luck. Stop making him your priority. God is with you. My dear it's not easy esp when you truly love the idiots we call husband!
DeleteGeeezzzzzz! Omo really? Are you so insensitive that you feel compelled to demand "Sunday laughs" under this thread? I pray you get the support you need when you face challenges because life throws curved balls indiscriminately.
DeleteDear poster, I know we live in a religious national where the word "pray" is now a cliché but the blood of Jesus still has miraculous power. Consult the Owner and writer of the Marriage manual. I'm a practical lady but I never take the power of prayer for granted. The late icon Maya Angelou said "when a person shows you who they are the first time, believe them" honey it appears this is the man you married, you saw the signs before you guys got hitched but made the colossal mistake 90% of women make, the "he will change" error. People rarely do, deep down we are who we are, only divine intervention can truly change a person but here comes the tricky part, the individual has to be willing to change because God honours free will. My advice is seek counselling from marriage counsellors, take good care of your mind and body. Use protection during sex and know that you are not alone. Please stay alive for the sake of your mission on earth, your kids and your family. Trust me, no one is worth living a short and unfulfilled life for.
Delete#hugs
Esp wen we love dem. Mtchewww! Way 2 go JSbunny
DeleteStella, like seriously? Load his wallet and car with condoms??? What next: a free limo ride to and from the venue where she will be cheated on, his favourite dish served with chilled drinks when he arrives from cheating on her or rubbing his back while he eats and asks "honey so did you enjoy her/them"? Please, women should stop this rubbish one time. Load his wallet and car with condoms bi bawo? May my hand wither the day I try that!
DeletePerfect reply mam!
DeleteWow! JSBunny, you have been thru so much and still are. I know its not easy to walk out of a marriage especially after three children but I don't understand the point of being in a relationship with a man that cheats with everything in skirt.....for how long. That's like a miserable life sentence. I applaud your courage but every woman needs to feel loved and wanted.
DeleteWhat Is Your Relationship/Marriage Deal Breaker? Click my name to read more and share your thoughts.
Madam, u got wat u ordered!
ReplyDeleteYou knew dis b4 u married him na, so?
My advice is...
Dere must av been som oda qualities dat attracted u to ur hubby.
Mayb be the gifts(nice guy), or money(wealthy guy) etc
U shld condition yasef to be contented with dose qualities.
U NO NEED ADVICE!
As stella sed, go n buy a packet of condom, and hand him som b4 e leaves d ouz everyday, den pray fervently so e wont com hom wit STD.
Poster,ignore him...don't allow him to touch you again in the name of love making....
DeleteAlways ask him of money,shebi he has enough to spend on those girls coz no single girl follows a married man without money...task him,task him and task him.don't even pity him....
And lastly,pray for him...please don't leave your marriage..stay strong for your kids....
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DeleteYou this fool! You are always talking crap. You are so full of trash and bile.
DeleteDo you have any idea what love is about?
Idiot like you.anuofia Anambra
Trashy bitch that you are.
Pink Shell, u might be right but don't you think you sound a lil insensitive?????
DeleteGbam! GOD showed you who he really was, but no you wanted to get married. Oya e don set
Delete@ queen Linda,i believe u meant tax him.
DeletePinkshell how old are you again? You sound sooo immature, untill you get married stop commenting in this type of posts
Delete@ Pink Shell is a fool, na wa oh, pls read ur comment again and ask yourself a sincere question, "Am I proud of this"?
DeletePls carry ur uncouth self away from here!
U dare not say any nasty thing to me, if ure smart, u'll borrow a leaf, branch or tree, whatever, just change your ways!
My dear I will advice u 2 kip on praying n take good care of ur children men can never change,ve bin married 4 10yrs now,i ve 3 beautiful girls jus because I didn't give my husby a boy he cheated on me wit a lot of girls,aside frm dat he went n impregnate a girl as God wil ve it she gave birth 2 a girl, he did it again she gave birth 2 anoder girl wat wil I do. D worst part of it is he has stop making love 2 me 4 d past 1years plus but wat will I do I feel lik killing him sometimes but tank God I ve my children dey makes me happy,atimes am I'm my work crying,at home I wil cry n cry d deed as bin done.Pls face ur work n children if u no u can't stand it kindly walk away frm d marriage n b happy.
ReplyDeleteWow!madam you have really tried. God will continue to give you strength and grace to carry on.
DeleteHmmmmmm n here am I crying day n night for a hubby.....i pray God restores peace to u ma'am.....my late wud say 'every problem has a solution d way it ends dats it's solution ' my dear tk it easy
DeleteWhat will you do? Honestly Nigerian women are suffering o! Chai. Wait till you get HIV, maybe you will have a rethink.
DeleteSome men are just useless
Delete@ Anon 10.54, MOST!
DeleteHow many girls will you confront? What about the several you don't know.
ReplyDeleteDid I hear "Start loading his wallet and car with condoms"? Will you also start following him around to wear the condoms on his roaming, tireless dick?
Madam, you and I know there are 2 things involved in this your situation. Continue to manage your ashewo husband and keep hoping he won't infect you with all manner of diseases OR work on yourself, build up your confidence, ignore him, completely focus on yourself and kids and when the time is right, dump his sorry arse and create a better life for yourself and your kids.
From what I can decode about you, you will choose no 1. Good luck with getting him to change from habits you knew he had even during you courtship.
My dear I love your comment.
DeleteThanks for your realistic advice... not all this pray pray matter. do you know how many women have died from stds contracted from their husbands? Yet Naija women and their prayer advice. He didn't even cheat once, he's a serial cheat! Tufia, i can't biko. Meanwhile all the hypocrites on this blog will advise the woman to stay, but if a man complains, they heap insults on the woman and advice the man to dump her. I will never stay with a serial cheat, i will pray for myself and God will help me. All this prayers for irresponsible men, i can't biko
DeleteGoldscent Diamond, ur advice would have made sense without d sarcasm.
DeleteBless you for that response. You decided to marry your womaniser BF, you shouldn't complain. As far as he's concerned, you've accepted him as he is. Why women do this to themselves boggles my mind. Go run tests for STIs. And do this every four to six months. Women don't show symptoms as quickly as men. There's no cure for herpes and HIV. I know you will not leave him. So, stay there and suffer. But don't complain. You knew what you were getting into.
DeleteTotally agree with u Goldscent. I'm hoping she chooses no 2 but wot does a single girl know? U knew right from d start @ dis point dere is no changing him. Live 4 u n ur kids. Try 2 be happy u r alive n all these r happening, if u die ur kids will suffer (God 4bid). I wish u well woteva ur decision is.
DeleteHunnay, my mama say Wetin eye no see no fit turn belle. I realise this is hard but As much as u can turn a blind eye. BUT that's only if you're sure he practises safe sex.
ReplyDeleteNo man ever prefers the outsider to their families. Except she's a really bad woman. These girls know they're being used sef
See this woman, I hope you aren't deceiving yourself with this train of thought. We married women will say anything to make us feel better about our husbands ways. His preference is marked in stone the minute he leaves the house. He returns when he knows that he has been caught and it will be hot for him. Or when he truly repeats. If not, a man that doesn't prefer outsiders to his family will stick to his family. Tis that simple.
Delete@ Anon 7.51, ure a funny person!
DeleteFYI, with due respect, ur mama's advice abi adage is obsolete, nowadays u can be "blinded" by STDs.
Poster, pls igmore this advice, it goes to no issue!
I have bin married for a year plus and my cheating husband is also in every site.now he's on WhatsApp. D bustard has d guts to cheat on me after a miscarriage. He pursues his colleagues in d office, even a married woman ada and even IT. What woman haven't I confronted?? He has said he wud change, so far nothing concrete. Hez just a liar from d womb.i am so ashamed and believing God will do something abt it. His reward is in heaven.
ReplyDeleteYour waiting for heaven?? I laugh hard
DeleteI don't like to mock people when they put their trust in God. Newly wedded lady, better protect yourself. 1 year and the man is already chasing Everything and Ada. Don't be stupid and catch a disease o.
DeleteBefore nko, his reward is in Heaven, u nko!? Dont u plan to be happy on earth?!
DeleteMind u,he may repent at d last minute and make heaven.
My dear, since u don't have kids yet, leave this guy, don't complicate things by bringing innocent children into this and sentence urself to eternal sadness!
My point is, make the best of today!
Poster you sound like a Good woman, too good sef, I like how u want to make you work and not considering divorce, talk to him, tell him you are hurting and if he doesn't change, threaten him in a subtle manner, don't cheat, just hint that two can play the game, and let's see how he would take it, I know most men Cheat, but a man that cheats to your face and even ask for a threesome doesn't love or respect you one Bit, if after threatening and pleading he's still cheating, then take a break, leave his house with or without your kids, go to your parents house, this will give him time to know how important you are to him, if he knows your value he would come begging, if he doesn't come then Good riddance, it's better to be a divorcee than a Corpse.
ReplyDeleteThese single girls and their solutions. Hahahhaa threaten him. Poster, you know the real deal. No try that rubbish or else it will be you that all the insults will fall on. Protect yourself with condoms, start gathering enough resources just incase and please be wise. You are not number 3 sef to that man. Just use your head now. Since you will stay, please keep yourself alive for your kids.
DeleteU sef,start to dey fuck around nw! 2 can play! Pepper Ose oku!
ReplyDeletePepperlicious Pepper! The Ose Oku 1 of SDKB! Lol! Trust me, NO man is worth reducing your dignity for. A woman's Vjayjay is the epicentre of her womanhood. Bad enough his lasciviousness deameans you physically and emotionally, why further debase yourself spiritually, mentally, morally, emotionally and physically too? Most women who do the "two can play that game" -ish only do it as a defence mechanism. Most of them breakdown and cry their hearts out when they are alone. If you choose to keep extramarital affairs, do it because that's your proclivity but please pleaseeeeee my love, not as a means to get back at a cheating spouse or to fill that emotional void because that is counterproductive.
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DeleteRonalda. ....thanks for the advise.I thought cheating would give me the fulfillment I longed for in my marrige but all I got was nothing and emptiness.
DeleteWe need Joey Greco down here ASAP!
ReplyDeleteWhat are you forgiving and forgetting? When his adultery is still continuous and ongoing? It's either you walk out of the marriage or keep praying for him till he changes or you just focus on your children and leave him to keep poking his penis in every possible hole he can find. Yaba Left is filled with women that have lost it as a result of their men's infidelity, you had better sit up and make the best of your life, After all he showed you his true colours right from the get go
ReplyDeleteOne thing I can't take or dish out is cheating...
ReplyDeleteI am nt a very patient person..
As a rule, I do not dish out what I cannot take!
You cheat on me in any form, I find out, I walk away with pride!
A boro ma gbo'be, ni ki okunrin kan so mi didakida!
Poster, since sitting him down isn't walking, take it to God in prayer and report him to someone he respects!
For the main time, protect yourself from any disease from him!
U knew you were dating a serial cheater and you still married him, smh for you o. Anyway u have 2 choices, continue in ur marriage and neva have sex wit him again for fear of STD's or just jeje leave him and make a better life for you and your kids.
ReplyDeleteThis one pass me. All these marriage wahala. Prepping for church. Poster, chill and wait for Pepper Ose Oku and Mamie water. Mamie water will tell you how her DH spoils her silly and never cheats on her. Over to u Pepper and Mamie water. Lol
ReplyDeleteLol! Pepper ose oku akuchigo kwa! Two can play the game!
DeletePepper ose oku!
You can not change a man except God change him. What you need is prayer to stay strong and plan your leaving. Did I hear you say u love him still? Or u love studs. Babe the foundation was wrong and all you can do now is build your life around your children n leave him . He can't love you alone and doesn't know how. Please for your sanity and life of your children, have a plan b and pray for him from afar. Aids is real
ReplyDeleteThis man will never never change..you confronted him,he wailed,cried..Story! You have to channel of ur love to ur kids and forget him,be very occupied,don't stay idle,it will give room for more thinking.be strong for ur little angels..Don't confront the girls,its not worth it.like stella rightly put stock his wallet and all with condoms.Don't challenge or confront him no more..Pray harder..
ReplyDeleteMadam please don't you dare confront the girls or think of divorce cause thats not the solution, stand firm, pray fervently and always talk sense into him from time to time and i believe he will change.
ReplyDeleteEvery cheating husband has a reward.mine cheated with a married woman too. A real piece of thrash.ibo turned yoruba with 2kids. Just fed up
ReplyDeleteIf we are careful enough during courtship/dating, we will often notice those attitudes will think we can not bear from one another. When you ignore these things hoping that it will change someday when you get married trust me you are on a long thing because it will get worse.
ReplyDeleteYou knew he was a cheat before you married him and you still went ahead to damn the consequencies and married him.
Well you have two options.
1-keep ignoring it and just believe that is one thing you brought upon yourself and you have to live with it for the rest of your life. That is if you believe in for better for worse type for marriage.
2-divorce his sorry arse if you don't believe in for better for worse till death do you part.
Please don't let any one deceive you by telling you to fast and pray that things will change for good. I am sorry it doesn't work that way, the bad news is the bible has laid down principles on how marriage institution should be and once you flout these laws and get married you don't have any other option than to bear whatever you see in the marriage. Your prayers to God should be of mercy and acknowleging that you two have made a mistake and HE should have mercy upon upon your marriage.
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Paragon, you sabi every. All these women that will prescribe 17 day fast and prayers at 3:22 am. OP, pray for God s Grace in whatever decision you make. Ask God to have mercy on your husband but you better spend time asking Him to not let this nonsense affect your children. Your husband can continue in his ways if he wants.
DeleteBible with the capital "B", aaarrrrrghhhhh!
DeleteI wish every man wud imagine deir wives messing around. How wud dey feel.God is watching u oooo
ReplyDeleteMine messed around with his ex.even came to d wedding. They continued on BlackBerry. Read all their messages. I confronted him and all he could do was a feeble attempt to explain. D piece of shit is married but I knw she's a bloody beggar
ReplyDeleteMine chests with his newly employed staff. A useless girl called folly to d extent he started declaring love like a small boy.moved her into his office on a useless pretext. Wot men do......how stupid. still plan to scatter d runs. Every home breaker has a reward. Don't let d devil use u to achieve dat
ReplyDeleteY are men so easily manipulated. One word of baby this baby that and it has finished. Nonsense
ReplyDelete@ Anon 8.46, lmao,its true "baby" "honey" etc and they will enter gear!
DeleteBunch of senseless babies, the annoying part is that they think they have sense and they carry themselves that way too!
I have one question for them though, who in his right senses would follow another girl (skelewu, animashahun, onye onyinye, cheerful giver, oh for that matter) at d expense of his home?
Well, I know they don't have sense, so their answers won't make sense!
Longest hiss!
Why are you crying ? It's not your fault he can't keep his dick in his pants. Get your self occupied with more important things .
ReplyDeleteEvery girl needs to b confronted to jolt dem back to reality dat this situation will eventually happen to them wen they marry and every bad situation can b attributed to their interference in ppls marriages
ReplyDeleteBwahahahahaha you want to confront a mistress? Why disgrace yourself. My husband decides to disrespect me in front of other women and you follow to even disgrace yourself more by confronting them. Are you married to them? Face your husband. You will jam some psycho girl that will really do her all to get you out of the picture. Face your kids and self.
DeleteMy dear, I perfectly understand what u are going through. Av been in ur shoes before bt am happy today I broke up with him. He was also on every social site and he likes older women. Bt ur case is kind of complicated since u are married to him. My dear, pls don't confront dose gals he is messing with. Confront ur husband and make him realise u know everything he has been doing. Ask him if he is truly ready to change and make him swear with d bibble. And if he still doesn't change, its either u leave or u endure forever. D choice depends on u.
ReplyDeleteChoi! So Tony loves them old...hmmmmm
DeletePOO! Tony has been bursted!
DeleteSo this is what Tony Ihekire did to you.Pele o,you too face your studies and graduate in flying colours.All other good things shall be added.
DeleteEgbami! Tony likes older women?...queen linda d sugar-boy hunter, u dey hear?
DeleteTony ihekire ...God is watching youuu
DeleteFinally!
DeleteLol, where Tony dey sef?
Phrinkies, I can see you still love him!
DeleteChoi!!!!!! Tony where are you ooo??? Phrinkies haff open ur smelly Yansh. Ehya. I love this blog die!!!
DeleteSwear by the Bible?
DeleteWhy?
Una no go kill me ooohh 😂😂😂
DeletePoster, I don't think he can change, he is a man hoe. You made a mistake by marrying him. You saw all these and still went ahead with the marriage.
ReplyDeleteYou can never change a man. If you want to stay in this marriage, pls don't sleep with him without condom, focus on your kids for happiness and save a lot of money for rainy days and be prepared that a lady might come tomorrow and said he got her pregnant.
If can't do all these leave now.
Please always wear condoms with him no matter what. Protect yourself from nasty diseases.
ReplyDeleteYou could think of leaving him but I understand how hard it is to do that with kids. You want your kids to have a stable family unit.
OK here's what I suggest, try to be indifferent towards him. Harden your heart. Just focus on bringing up your kids and building up your career/ business, don't cheat, you will be lowering yourself to his standard. No more kids!. When your kids are 18 and the effects of divorce will be less on them, if he has not changed, divorce him! You may even find love again.
A cheating spouse has already scattered the family unit. I don't know which good effect such a situation will have on children. They can sense mummy s pain and dad is never truly there cause he is preoccupied with outsiders. This is just for show, this setup is unhealthy for children. I hate divorce but y'all know children thrive better in truly stable family units not what Nigerians prescribe as stable. Her daughter will grow up with resentment towards Dad, sons growing up thinking this is how to live? Ok stable family unit.
DeleteChei, word finish for my mouth ooooo!.
ReplyDeleteI wish say i be lady so i go blast this man well, but na man like me, but dear my advice for you is to keep praying for him to change, and don't ever think of confronting any of those girl for the sake of your marriage, That's all i got for you take care.
I concur with what Stella said !
ReplyDeleteAnd secondly,u just have to pray,pray and pray!
Midnight prayer is very effective
U will come back with testimony!
Ehen it is only a matter of time before the midnight prayer prescription surfaced. My God is not a juju Oracle o Please.
DeleteThis is replica of my life. I've been in the same situation for eleven years now. I confronted him severally and he declared that is the way it's his way of life and nothing can change it. My kids love him passionately and they've told me they will rather stay with their dad if I chose to leave. What can I do than to stay and endure . I can't leave without my kids.
ReplyDeleteEhn ehn, your kids said that? U didn't slap them? Your husband though! Tufia
DeleteStella biko lets play a game here.....I want us all to mention all the mistresses our husbands are sleeping with. We need to expose them and shame them. Full names
DeleteI'm not against this name, but please if ure married now and Uve once dated a married man, biko, mention yourself.
DeleteEvery cheating husband will suffer consequences
ReplyDeleteLeave that man, he is already set in his ways and can't change.Don't confront any lady because it's his duty to prove to them he loves you not yours besides, you don't know what he told them about you and you will only end up setting yourself up for insults! If you decide to stay, get ready to treat all manners of STDs .Threesome? Eeeeewwwwww
ReplyDeleteThe Alex
Am tongue - tied.
ReplyDeleteThings women go through in marriage. You will think your oqn situation is worse until you hear the next woman's story.
Madam the only thing i can say now is that you need Jesus and need to pray fervently together with all the practical advice given here by reasonable people.
I really don't understand why people come to blogs for advise. Really, what kind of response do you want to get. The very many answers both sensible and insensible will drive you even crazier. The best thing to do is to pray about your issue and confide in God.
ReplyDeleteLol, unnecessary comment, u shouldn't have bothered, it can't be undone, she's here now!
DeleteLmao
Cheating will make you lose your confidence and question your worth as a woman, these are natural feelings for the cheated to experience.
ReplyDeleteYour married Mr. Community Dick! and the sad part about this is that you knew who he was from jump but went along with it. It is not by accident that the children you have for this man are daughters, not an accident at all. However you behave and the choices that you make you are teaching your daughters what kind of woman to be in the world, and what kind of man is deserving of their love. The habitual cheating is stressing you out and killing your spirit, and trust me that affects you totally in your ability to be a good mother.
If you have the financial means to leave, then do so quickly. No woman should be living with a man who put a pass to her cousin, and have her health put at risk just to keep up the face of marriage for the public, your life is on the line here. Guess what? Everybody knows you are getting cheated on, just because they may not say anything to you does not be they are unaware. If you lack the financial resources, you will have to stay put and formulate an exit plan from the marriage and when the time is right move on and don't look back.
God bless you! It's the kids I feel sorry for though the prayer warriors will never consider them. Ngr is Nbr 2 nation in the world with HIV. Madam use your brain.
DeleteMy dear poster! The truth is that most men cheat....u hv to mk sure dat as he does that he plays safe Wch is for d betterment of ur marriage, tk time out to travel, holidays, try Chinese dinner wiv him, book hotel room gve him fanciful treats, mk him feel loved! d more u draw bck d more he goes outside.....soon enuf he wud spend weeks outside without feeling bad n doing dat ur marriage will end up! my dear add a lot of spice to ur marriage, it's needed!
ReplyDeleteThank God you didn't say all men o coz my man doesn't and can never cheat.
DeleteNo be mouth, na self confidence!
Chinese dinner??? Reading through your comment, she's the one to blame abi? She should spice things up.... No blame to that husband of hers because most men cheat eh? Fanciful treats?? Shouldn't the guy do things to please her? You sound like men are gods and she should be grateful that someone married her making her feel worse. Smh!
DeleteTrust ur self.
DeleteChinese dinners and fanciful treats. Let me,not talk before they say feminism. Your husband is making passes at your cousin and is the community toilet, and you should be fanciful treating him to hotel stays. In that hotel room, can she ask him to wear a condom? She should first catch the untreatable and leave her daughters for one of his mistresses to come and maltreat? Ok!
DeleteI agree,only to the extent that u should spice things up and it could help but that his actions are justifiable, NO.
DeleteMen are the beginning and end of the problem of women, gosh, such a selfish bunch!
I'll advice you keep praying for him, pls don't ever allow the thought of leaving cross your mind. It is not easy being a single parent even while you are working. Pls apply wisdom when taking any decision. @sparkle.
ReplyDeleteMy dear sparkle, im sorry to inform u that ure not sparkling at all with this comment.
DeleteWisdom no dey am!
So she's now a sacrificial lamb?!
She deserves to be happy, if talking one on one and trying for a reasonable time doesn't work, why stay?!
"While we were dating, I knew he was cheating, and I never cheated on him and I will not". These were your words. Did you see the writing clearly written? Yes. What do you want us to do? Advice you to leave him? Mbanu. Carry your children and run? Mbanu. The only advice I can conveniently give you is to go and register in a clinic for your monthly checkups. Have a good pharmacist that will be supplying you all kinds of drugs for your steady stds. Every other thing, nne deal with it biko.
ReplyDelete@ Truetalk,lmao!
DeleteI agree, she mumu small or plenty sef but u know we all don't have the same strength, now she don realise her mistake, let's play nice
You knew he was a cheat and still married him fa. Start praying hard..,
ReplyDeleteHian! I hate advicing when it comes to relationships cause of the hypocritical society we live in but what if MON AMI was in ur shoes???...cos I am wired very differently from other babes and I live my life for me and me alone I WOULD WALK!!! I don't wanna end up with hiv,syphilis or herpes all cos one must answer Mrs me I shall take off after sorting ma account but poster u knw say na naija u dey o wey if u no get man dem go label u ashi so ma sister STAY n pretend all is well but remember You Only Live Once and HBP n cardiac arrest no get respect for no one. I rest ma case (((BrowsesThruWardrobeForLovelyChurchWear))
ReplyDeleteThis is a tough one cos u knew he was randy b4 u married him......so wats d essence of dating? d essence is to know ur spouse, its a different tin if he changed along d way but this is really who he is, i guess u av to deal wit it, pray hard so dat he changes & doesnt give u STD, y not involve ur spiritual leader his family members let dem know wat u are goin tru just maybe collective help can get to him or u can take a long walk
ReplyDeleteAnd I quote you 'While we were dating I knew he was cheating on me but I never confronted him'
ReplyDeleteNow my question is why did you see fire and then waka into it?????
I need to know the reasons why you married him knowing that he is a cheater???????
Unlike some men that change after marriage, God already showed you his true colours before married but you decided to ignore it... Please tell us why????
I have no advice please answer my questions because I'm too perplexed at this min
Answer to ur Questions:
DeleteNumber one all her friends were getting married and she sef wan be Mrs
Number 2,she was scared of being lonely....singlehood sucks I guess
Number 3, could be the guy is financially stable
Number 4, am guessing he's a well packaged *have u met my husband kind*TDH guy (tall dark handsome)
Well, my take on this issue; Madam firstly ur relationship was built on a wrong foundation.these kinda men don't change,its in their DNA.he's been cheating,he's still cheating,he's gonna keep cheating. I believe in the power of a praying wife.Rededicate ur marriage to God.He's a merciful God.The God of turnarounds. Wish u luck
@stella.....which kind yeye advice u drop thre.stuff his wallet wit condoms kwa? Wen d condoms break during penetration and d mata don curry d guy brain,guy no sabi withdrawal method. Wat is now the essence of condoms??????
Madam, I totally get where u are coming from. I was dating one married man with same character. I just dumped d ugly idiot last month. His wife has 3 boys for him. He is on every social media you can think of...I found out last month wen we went to spend d weekend togeda. He left his ipad and went out without signing out of badoo. I read over 20 messages from different girls dat he was inviting to come to abj, the annoying thing is that the girls were only asking for recharge cards. Is that how cheap these girls are? I was so pissed and dumped d idiot even tho I wish I was a bit patient to collect d money he promised me for a car. And he's a muslim and was seriously begging me to be his 2nd wife. I'm happy now coz I am now a child of God.
ReplyDeleteI'm SLEEP!
DeleteAnon 9.53-True confession: You get hand to type ni? There is God oh. Even u calling another woman's legal hubby your date. You actually think men on baddo buy cars 4 women? U for go back wait till Jesus comes.
Delete@ True confession, if I read u correctly, u agreed to be second wife but broke up cos he's on badoo?!
DeleteAnd u call the other girls cheap, lmao...
It's my duty to let u know ure cheaper!
I believe in prayers madam, nt d shouting kind of prayer. In ur silent time, chat with God n remind him of Jesus. Hw he sent him 2 die 4 u, so dat u might enjoy ur marriage. No advice can help bt u av 2 help urself.
ReplyDelete1) get urself busy
2) pray al d tym
3) when he wil change u won't notice
4) if u stop complaining n mind ur biz also, he will change.
5) men do the things we don't like.
Now face ur gals n kip praying 4 I'll include u 4rm hence forth.
Mrs Davido
Yes pray but be realistic biko. Mrs Davido and other married women biko make una think of the true welfare of the children and this woman's sanity. Ok o
DeleteDear poster, I know of a lady dat was in this type of situation. Hers was so bad dat the hubby will go out at night & be excusing very small girls. Her embarrament was the talk of the street. But what she did was concerntrate entirely on her lovly kids. She didn't fight anybody because the guy na confirm nkita.
ReplyDeleteYou have three options.1 involue both families and embarras him•
2• Face your kids and grab a dildo toy for yourself•
3• Continue loving him and hoping he will change• Pls go for a thorough blood test• I strongly suggest you involue both families pls don`t be shy remember if he infects you with a disease you are going to resent him• Finally start very serious saving for yourself and kids• Goodluck
Involve both families to do what? Let his people now really attack her. Abeg o
DeleteYes involve both families so they will know what their he-goat is doing!
DeleteHi, please how do you comment with your gmail account cuz its really stressing me out. I've opened a gmail acc, but if I want to comment with it,it will direct me to my gmail acc after selecting a profile, I'll log in and it will start bringing out 'click here to continue', even if I click up to 10times, it'll still bring out d same thing. Please help me out, please. Ignore my english. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteAnd you had to comment 3x asking the same questions? Can't you follow simple instructions? Comot from here we are trying to solve the mystery why women marry dogs and want to die ontop
DeleteMehn dis your reply is classic lolz, you too much.
DeleteHahahahahahahahahaha!
DeleteHi, please how do you comment with your gmail account cuz its really stressing me out. I've opened a gmail acc, but if I want to comment with it,it will direct me to my gmail acc after selecting a profile, I'll log in and it will start bringing out 'click here to continue', even if I click up to 10times, it'll still bring out d same thing. Please help me out, please. Ignore my english. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteHi, please how do you comment with your gmail account cuz its really stressing me out. I've opened a gmail acc, but if I want to comment with it,it will direct me to my gmail acc after selecting a profile, I'll log in and it will start bringing out 'click here to continue', even if I click up to 10times, it'll still bring out d same thing. Please help me out, please. Ignore my english. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteAnother story from another woman. We only get to hear their version and the poor husbands are always the victims. It's all good.
ReplyDeleteYes they are the victims. Eya it is true, it is difficult keeping so many women on your tab. Sleeping with anything that has a vagina. Yes they are the victims.
DeleteDid they tie their mouths!
DeleteKmt!
Why dnt you be like Adaeze Yobo and make your husband spend madly on you. By the time he goes bankrupt. He wouldn't have excess cash to be spending on threesomes cos believe me no woman out there wants a brokeass aristo guy, why do you think women date married men?
ReplyDeleteMadam,i'll advice you to pray earnestly, if possible fast for some days. While at that, go and meet your pastor or someone he respects so much to talk to him. He needs to know the grave implication(s) of what he is doing. Prayer answers all things. Giving him condoms,you can't ensure he uses them. Confronting those girls may lead to him leaving you for them. Just be wise.
ReplyDeleteHe is a baby now so he does not know the grave implications. Allah you women kill me with how you reason.
DeleteLol, Anon 7.31pm don vex!
DeleteYou knew he was cheating, yet you went ahead to marry him, stop complaining then as long as he does not rub it in your face. You made a choice. Stop checking his phone, you are the one hurting, the guy is having fun. Get a life, hang out with friends , go to parties, get a job if you dont have one, it takes your mind off all the he goat hubby. Close your legs and if you must fire, use a condom. You have two kids, dont make the mistake of having another. You will be on lockdown mode. Stay happy. But seriously, how many men are depressed cos of women?
ReplyDeleteGbam!
DeleteDear poster may God be your strength in whatsoever you decided to do.
ReplyDeleteBut you knew this before you married him, why is it now it's a problem? Can you not see you're the one who married a monkey, now you want him to be a lion?
ReplyDeleteHe's not going to change.
My dear leave him asap. When u get hiv ur eye go open
ReplyDeleteQuite a pity, no need to blame U for getting married to him despite d fact dat he cheats coz d deed has been done already. Pls just hand over everything to God, ntn is beyond him. Let God b ur best frnd now. Talk to him abt everything. Ignore everything he doesn focus on ur work n Ur children. Always look beautiful n wear a smile at all time, whether in his presence or not. Pretend as if ntn is going on while u kip praying. Go abt ur regular activities as a wife as well, same way u av been doing it bt pls, no more sex for ur own good. Nomata wat he does outside, he wud still want u some nyts, dnt let him bt show him all d love Yu can in every aspect, same way u dd wen u married newly. God will answer ur prayers. Pls n pls again dnt go abt crying, it will boost his ego n change ntn. Bt d ds option wud make him wonda wat u R up to for being so happy wen u know damn well wat he does. He might nt show his fears bt he wud battle wit it. N in a bid to overcome it, he wud b d one worried n depressed. Just try it out, it works n dnt forget d prayers
ReplyDeleteJess
You knew he was cheating on u yet u went ahead to marry
ReplyDeleteU started managing him from day one so u gotta continue to manage him cos I don't see dah kinda man changing
You need to focus more on things that makes u happy
Or better still PRAY about it
But all this scary stories about marriage tho,God my Lord protect me and mine where ever he is IJN
ReplyDeleteWhat is your blog name so that I will always remember not to tap?
ReplyDeletePlease you said that he was like this before you got married? Why on earth are you complaining?
This blog is filled with depressed, frustrated wives, judging from most comments.
You got the depressed frustrated wives part. It's so sad. Their self esteem is soo down they think their husbands did them a favour marrying them. Don't forget the prayer warrior part. They can pray ooo. It's all good sha!
DeleteNow this got me laughing.... Hahahahaha
DeleteThe mistake we humans make time and time again is going into marriage thinking you can change your partner.for petes sake what you tolerate during dating/courtship, be sure ready to tolerate in marriage. You knew he was cheating while dating but decided...." I will tolerate it since we are far apart" what the hell? . Women! Our undoing is this All men cheat mantra we carry around. Cheating is a CHOICE!!! Both male and female...YOU choose to cheat on your partner. It's called self control. Every human has it. Same way everyone has a deal breaker...you tolerated cheating during your dating days so my dear, it ain't your deal breaker. Deal with it. I am Sorry about my tough love approach my dear, it's a different case if he just started cheating years into you marriage then I could say there is a disconnect somewhere. He knew all he had to do was keep you satisfied and you will turn a blind eye. Abeg I don't think I am being coherent mbok. Make I shut up. Lol
ReplyDeleteU knew he was cheating yet u married him? U wanted 2 marry a big/correct guy right? Y do good girls end up with bad guys? Keep praying he doesn't infect u with sad or hiv.
ReplyDeleteHummmmm#GodPlshealkefee!
ReplyDeleteStella, how long will she continue to lie to herself and play happy house? Just to keep society happy when she isn't happy and is literally dying inside? SMH! We nigerians are our own problem. @poster, just like pinkshell said, you got what you ordered. Don't come here and disturb us when you have not sat your husband down first, just the two of you to have a heart to heart talk about ur relationship. I mean really talk about how his action is affecting you as a person. You yourself need to evaluate yourself to see if you are partly to blame for his actions and take steps to retify these blindspots. If after all is said and done and he STILL isn't making any effort to change, well as you have laid your bed, only you can decide if you want to continue to lay on it without whining whilst you die a slow death inside (trust me, depression can be deadly) or you decide rearrange the bed; life will continue. This decision am afraid is your call! Dnt listen to anybody who tells you to keep praying. What for? A useless man who is not only sinning without remorse against you, but also against the institution of marriage and God himself? Abi you no know say salvation is an individual thing. God no dey answer useless prayers. Biko save your strenght and pray for your children instead cos they need it more.
ReplyDeleteThank you. Pray for your kids instead and don't neglect them ever. Get out of whatever funk you are in now. They didn't ask to be brought into this world and they are girls sef, teach them about self worth and love because trust me, they know what their father is doing. You don't want them repeating your mistakes or having sorry lives.
DeletePls try and build your self confidence, if ur working focus on work n ur children, if possible discontinue having sex with him, he might infect u. Have a chat with him, let him know how u feel, he has to stop for d sake of ur children .time will help u decide if u want to continue in ur marriage cos ur life is as stake health wise. Always pray for grace.
ReplyDeleteThis is what happens when women think they can change a man after marriage, if a man is doing things you do not like or can't live with while courting & didn't change while you were still courting, what makes you think he will change after marriage? why did you go ahead & marry him him, is it out of desperation or just being outright stupid. You knew he was a serial lover & a cheater yet u married him anyway like they say keep on praying if you are lucky he will change but if not be ready to carry your cross becos you saw it coming, you knew it yet you married him.
ReplyDeleteThank you my dear!. Why complain now when you tolerated it while dating?. Make we advice you to do wetin ni
DeleteMadam,prayer is the answer to all problem, u have to keep praying to God for his soul to be touched, reduce the unneccesary attention u re giving him, focus more on u,ur Happiness and ur children. And most importantly u have to be very patient. Let him always see u happy,no sad face or depression, pray for him around him loudly that God should touch his heart, bind all the evil spirit around him to his hearing, pray that all the girls flocking around him to be touched, all to his hearing too,and happily buy him condoms.Him go soon tire. U will surely be grateful to God at d end of the day.
ReplyDeletePray loudly around him. Chei Naija women
DeleteLol, u be real trouble maker!
DeleteHahahahahahahahaha!
Maam if you are sure he is cheating please walk away. It's going to be difficult but you really should leave him. You'll only be hurting yourself in the end. You'll end up bitter and unhappy all the time and it will affect your kids. At ds point, there's really nothing you can do cos you cannot change him and believe me it will only get worse. But should you decide to stay, buy a condom I mean lots of it...EEE!!!
ReplyDeleteMadam start saving o, as in save very well cos u'll need d money when he goes crazy. My advice to u is SAVE money for ur future and that of ur children. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteI would advice that u look for a way 2 kip urself busy, avoid his phone or anyting abt his waywardness and most importantly pray and believe, there is nothing difficult for God my dear. It might take tym but he will come along/change. God is ur strength
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I find myself in a similar situation. Different different girls even with the two boys we have. I ignore him most times, staying focused on God, my kids and my career
ReplyDeleteLa wa oh, marriage seem harder by the second, would be 26 in a few, I'm so scared of getting into a relationship bcs I love to hard, I'm still waiting to overcome that part of me not like I've nt bn in ny bt I'm scared. Then all these marriage ish I read,hear nd see around just kinda mkes it worse, really wish marriages did better cos I know it's one of d best union God made... Dear Poster, may God bless ur Home n bring to an end ur rift n issues.
ReplyDeletePls get a boyfriend outside dat will be fucking u well abeg nd forget he exists before he dashes u Aids. Tit for tat my dear, he an unrepentant cheat. Save ur sanity
ReplyDeleteAnd hw r u sure d outside boyfriend won't dash her Aids.
DeletePoster no 1, u must get ur confidence back by ignoring him(silent treatment) don't fight him nor d girls. I hope u 've an occupation, if no, force urself & start one. Anything good that makes u happy should be considered now, going to fun places, good musics, too much food NOT included. Take care of urself, do ur hair, wear good/neat attractive cloths, wear ur make up, look smart both at home & working place. Don't show him how hurt u r, u can still let it out but not to his face, if not he 'll cont to intimidate u with ur emotions. If u must give in to intercourse, u Must protect urself with female condom. Concentrate on urself & ur girls, but cont to pray for good for ur hubby if u want to cont with ur marriage. But if u want a divorce, it's ur decision to make. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteUr own na 3 years u dey lament, mine had been on for over 10 years and doesn't even bother to apologise, he'll tell me I'm entitled to my assumptions even with proof.My dear,i've learnt to ignore as much as I can,collect ad much as I can from him to improve on myself and if in d future it gets worse than this, I gladly waka cos love has gone outta d window. I want to use this medium to admonish people to stop judging any married woman that has a fling outside her marriage.I used to be one of those until I entered into a marriage where I've become so lonely,even though I've not done it bcos of d fear of God(thats d only thing holding me back I swear), if it comes my way I just might o.I can only bear so much.Not many women can wait for donkey years for God to change d man and so instead of going crazy steadily, they just have to seek succour in d arms of anoda.If u've not walked in their shoes,pls don't judge.In other news, na my first time to comment even though I've been observing silently with amusement. This place feels like home to me and I wanna shout out to people that makes SDK blog happen; starting with SDK herself,i hail o sist (old warri tinz), mamie water,i love u die no matter how some people dey yab u,they love to hate u,lol.Pepperistic peppercious,u be my kinda person ojare,chop knuckle,Ezewanyi,Linda Eze,Kehinde Ake d love/ see guru,i sight u,Oluyomi Odukoya,keep keeping it decent,Yomslaw d teeth shiner,why u no dey constant again na? Billie jean,Barbie,Genny how baby,General's wife congrats oo,all d anony like me wey dey observe from background yet we're so much a part of this blog I love u all.Y'all are like family and I can't help but drop in every single day.Make I drop my "pen" before d yabis go begin flow, hehehehe
ReplyDeleteAwww....cheers n cheat with a richer well made man.
DeleteBetter than your hubby.
Even if it's for free.
That will make you regain some confidence.
The only way to counter cheating is by doing same...
It's intriguing,
It's exciting.
You see me eh...God forbid DH messes up,I will flirt with the likes of mr president,Dangote et al
I won't mind sucking their balls in an open stadium filled with spectators.
You're blessed IJN
If una wan fuck outside, anybody that tries it with my future hubby will die oh
DeleteMwwwwah! We love u too Best of all we love Stella Dimokokokossss blog
DeleteAnonymous 12: 25, I dey hail you!I dey send Plenty plenty love go your ends! Pepper achurgo nwanyi na ekele! Tomato london e tuole gi afa!
DeletePepper ose oku!
Do you have a job? Get one if you dont. Do whatever makes you happy. Dont forget to use condom. One love.
Delete@ M-amie wow! Your comments are almost getting me crossed-eyed! The last time you practically whipped the head of a poster with the Bible, scattering Bible verses on her already traumatised skull, just because she admitted being in a "shaggalicious" relationship with her guy. You laid it on her pretty thick with all the pre marital sex bruhaha. Imagine my amazement when I read your comment! Ohhh! Post-marital sex outside marriage is ok as long as you wipe your lady parts with largesse? Or platitudes diminishes your "Biblical prowess"? My oh my! You get a shout out and BOOM! You hide your Biblical criticisms under one of Stella's atrocious seats! Lol! People, this is a good reason to have a mind of your own before you get misled.
Delete@ Ronalda, no be am, na personality disorder!
DeleteU better take a walk..... Hmmmmmm is better u are alive for ur children. Before u die of heart ache or HIV...
ReplyDeleteI hope single ladies learn from dis, pls don't take into marriage what you can't condone. It's easier to break off a relationship or engagement than marriage (especially with kids involved). Dear poster, I'll advise you to make yourself happy, because your mood will affect the kids too n dey r usually very perceptive. With faith you can move mountains so yes, i'll suggest you pray and commit him to God's hands. Also if you are tempted to sleep with him, use protection, if he refuses, let him know you know he is cheating and you are not ready to get infected with any STI.
ReplyDeleteCHEAT! CHEAT!! CHEAT!!! Find yourself a steady dude on the side to make sweet passionate love to you from time to time. It's the only way to stay sane. It will also help you be able to ignore his infidelity. I know a lot of hypocrites will disagree with me. But I don't care. That's my opinion. I didn't say turn yourself into a serial cheat or randy dog like your hubby. Just find yourself ONE steady dude on the side to make you happy. Focus more on yourself. Live life to the fullest!
ReplyDelete1000 likes. If u ain't married with a cheating hubby you wouldn't understand this. Best. Advice ever. Who wants to die from HBP?
DeleteWa gbayi.
DeleteGbamest!
DeleteAnnonymous 2:10 your head dey there. Gone are the days when women sit at home and cry over cheating husbands while the men live their lives in total enjoyment and disregard. GET A LIFE AND LIVE IT!!!!!
DeleteI'm constrained to agree this is the antedocte!
DeleteEven though I pray never to be at this crossroad but I think it's d best, get a guy, let him do u good, u'll see ur hubby go fear, cos there would be no crying or worrying or nagging from u!
May God forgive us all!
But bear in mind the consequences that this may end ur marriage ultimately!
DeleteBut bear in mind the consequences that this may end ur marriage ultimately!
DeleteNaija woman mentality, I must die there lolz
ReplyDeleteFrom what you said the hand writing was on the wall before you married him so you have to carry your cross. My fear for you now is all the STDS out there, dose he use condom? Sit him down and let him know the implication of not using condom if he doesn't know. As for confronting his whores, PLEASE DONT!!! Some of this whores are very desperate, some are ready to kill their lovers wives, if that happen's ( God forbid ) who will take care of your children? Madam do things that make's you happy, take care of your self. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteIt's very funny and when you complain some useless mother in-law will tell you it is norm, that all those people in the bible had mistresses and concubines. I started hating her the dAy she said it.
ReplyDeleteSTELLA THANKS FOR PUBLISHING MY MAIL I REALLY APPRECIATE. I ALSO APPRECIATE EVERY ONE FOR THERE COMMENTS BUT I WILL LIKE TO RESPOND TO A FEW QUESTIONS RAISED.
ReplyDelete1. I DIDN'T MARRY HIM BCOS HE WAS ONE RICH DUDE. NO. WE STARTED DATING WHEN HE WAS A BROKE ASS UNIVERSITY DUDE.
2. HE NEVER SHOWERED ME WITH GIFTS AND CASH BCOS HE WAS DAMN BROKE.
3. YES HE CHEATED ON ME AND I CAUGHT HIM WHILE WE WERE DATING. HE APOLOGISED AND I FORGAVE HIM BCOS WE WHERE MILES APART. HE WAS SCHOOLING ING THE WEST WHILE I WAS IN THE EAST. AFTER I CAUGHT HIM ONCE IT NEVER HAPPENED AGAIN AT LEAST KNOWN I KNOW OF TILL WE GOT MARRIED.
THANKS.
Pls my dear dont listen to them .mine never cheated while we dated and i married him. Now he is a great donatus. So wether they cheat or not b4 marriage it doesnt make a difference. They r all bad!!
DeleteMay d Lord continue to be ur strength. What u cannot correct, u don't regret it. Put him in prayer, I believe in the power of prayer and when he is in a friendly mood, take him back to the memory lane, how u started the relationship, What attracted u to him and other questions u knw he won't Like to ignore. Ask him what u do dat He doesnt like, thus making him to be cheating on u. And. Let's see where that wil take u. Most importantly, always pray for his welbeing cos no matter what,he is stil the father of ur 3children. May God help u thru this phase. Hav been married for 15years now and still counting. There hasn't been a history of cheating or voilence in any way, and I pray there won't be any. Its not by my power but Gods grace. #prayer#,contentment#,persevarance#. Kenny Sulaiman
DeleteLol at Donatus. Some men are stupidity.
DeleteCheating is bad, cheating without concealing it is even worse. Boy Naija men don grow balls finish. Single girls NEVER marry a broke ass man I swear. Don't suffer with no body and don't be in a hurry. #If Tiwa marry,all of una get hope#
ReplyDeleteHmmmm!!!
DeleteWetin Tiwa do, abeg nak me tory!
DeleteSKD married women association be like "please leave him, dump his sorry ass" hahahahahaa..
ReplyDeleteHow many of una don leave una husband?
Anyways @poster, I think you should consider prayers oo. Maybe go to mfm. Cause this your story get as e be. Men cheat but this your oga own pass cheating.
Even if you decide to leave at least make sure you've tried all you can to make it work. It will give you peace knowing you did try.
Cause all these people saying I would leave at the first sign of cheating will be the first to criticise you tomorrow.
@ anony 4.05. Dont forget to include your hubby's name to the list of the mistresses. By the time they give you the description of your hubby's dick and best position, you will drive yourself to yaba left with speed. This wont stop them from cheating. List ko, time table ni.
ReplyDeleteMadam marriage is a secret union not a public union,,de best advice you can ever get here are those truths you have ever told ur self before getting married to ur husband,,must of the advicers here are from those 40years plus single ladies,,,,etc,if a wife cheats nd de husband want out,they called him a wicked man,but if de man cheats,they will advice de wife to leave her marriage,,so be encoraged nd build ur own home,no body is perfect,start ur work by showing him how much u has lose trust on him,nd remove ur wedding ring in his face,ask him to put it back on ur finger any day he stop cheating on you,nd always showing him more love,,dont fight any lady for him,is a disgrace to ur image nd powers to them,(de devil u know)nd be prayerful,goodluck,i am still searching for a woman i can called my friend to marriage,,
ReplyDeleteMadam marriage is a secret union not a public union,,de best advice you can ever get here are those truths you have ever told ur self before getting married to ur husband,,must of the advicers here are from those 40years plus single ladies,,,,etc,if a wife cheats nd de husband want out,they called him a wicked man,but if de man cheats,they will advice de wife to leave her marriage,,so be encoraged nd build ur own home,no body is perfect,start ur work by showing him how much u has lose trust on him,nd remove ur wedding ring in his face,ask him to put it back on ur finger any day he stop cheating on you,nd always showing him more love,,dont fight any lady for him,is a disgrace to ur image nd powers to them,(de devil u know)nd be prayerful,goodluck,i am still searching for a woman i can called my friend to marriage,,
ReplyDeleteMy dear...1stly work on your psyche and be happy, then makeover and dress well..U must look gud all d time.
ReplyDelete2ndly lovingly receive Ur hubby and pray for him.I wish U can listen to Chaz B on Rythym Network every Monday to Friday at 5.30pm. Its only God dat can touch his heart and make him a changed man.Midnight prayers is very important. Good luck n d spiritual exercise. My advice s from a personal experience. Ur drifting apart s giving room 4 strange women to take Ur place n Ur hubby's life. Love conquers all and covers multitude of sins.Pls love, pray and look gud. Nkmama
Stop having sex with him without condom. Take good care of yourself and your children. One day, you will surely begin to hate him. Always look hot and sexy when leaving the house, I bet you, he will be the one getting jealous and nagging about. Please do not engage in adultery as a form of retaliation.. Some men are wicked and useless. Whether to divorce him or not is left to you to decide. Rose
ReplyDeleteOne thing I have realised is that we have no control over whom we fall in love with.all men have the tendency to cheat but it all boils down to self control.my dear,just take care of urself and children.make ur self happy.
ReplyDeleteSince I start to straf, headache n hbp no dey worry me again. I don't even care abt d idiot's fone again. A randy idiot who despite his financial status(srz brokeass dude) does not even hv respect for my blood n chased after my 2 sisters, upon all my struggle in d fmly wt 3 kids (I authoritatively fend 4 d hse). I only considered n stayed back 4 my kids . I don start to dey straff my swt boo if u lik hug transfomer, na u know
ReplyDeleteAs for me,I don't care.You cheat on me,I cheat on you.Thank God I'm very beautiful and guys still ask me out not knowing I'm married with two kids.
ReplyDeletePoster,na wa oooo. For those telling her to cheat,double na wa ooooo. Remember,it's not easy to do so but if you feel that will save your sanity,please do it with a MARRIED MAN. He will help you keep it discreet. Forget all these 6packed,trouser-sagging,delicious-looking young men(Junior-Pope like). They will make you explode with volcanic orgasms but you don turn ATM be that. Pls stick to one round guy or viagra-dependent married man.
ReplyDeletePoster,you are married.Pls don't cheat on ur hubby. Two wrongs cannot make a right. Be prayerful n may God bless you.Do not listen to my alter ego named Irene One
ReplyDelete