Found this as a comment and thought it wise to make this a post......why do some parents make living with them a nightmare?volcanic eruptions at the slightest opportunity?
blog visitor says
''I need to let out some of this pain. My father is a beast! He came back this night from work/bible school and my mom told him that the person he sent to renew his car particulars forged d papers he asked her to collect for him becos she noticed a lot of inconsistencies between d 1 she did for herself and d 1 someone did for him.
He got angry and started blaming her as usual calling her all sorts of names but she ignored him and went inside for d sake of peace ( mind u this was in no way her fault o, cos she didn't get his own, she just helped him collect it). After she came inside, he came and started asking 4 of us (me and my siblings) who raised d wiper of his other car that was parked in d compound wen he went to work and everybody was confused, he was shouting and repeating same question nd we all couldn't answer becos this is something that anybody could have absent mindedly done while leaning on the car.
He kept asking and wen no1 could answer he said he was going to bring cane to flog us all for raising d car wiper o not even breaking it and he truly went outside and brought a big cane (mind u i'm in my not so early 20s and my last born is 13) and commanded us to go outside and had already started flogging my younger sis and he was screaming at me to run out and had raised d cane to flog me then my mom stood up and started telling him to stop that he didn't have a good reason for his actions .
Next thing he faced her started hitting her then he started beating all of us and we were all dragging and shouting at him he, he would be blowing my mom then I and my sisters would hold he then he would face them my mom and sister got d worst cos they were shouting at him to stop I was mostly begging him but we all got our Lil share of beating cos I have bruises on my hand and leg and my mom has a swollen face.
I really don't understand what his anger was this is someone that has been attending bible school for d whole of this week o. Is raising a car wiper enough to attack your whole family? Was my mom wrong to defend us? aNd I'm actually surprised she stood up for us becos she has been letting him insult and bully us lately without saying anything, this is a woman who has endured years of physical and emotion abuse from him ( he stopped the physical part for some time), she together with us her kids have faced all sorts in his hands, he constantly insults and threatens to cut us off for d slightest reasons.
my mom has passed try every kind of shit in this house, she has gone through the worst thing that can happen to a married woman. We re suffering and smiling and u would never know from our appearances. Thank you for letting me let it all out here''
*My dear,please next time run away from physical altercation,violent people can strike fatally in the heat of the moment.please advise your mum as well.
Has your dad always been like this?
Going to bible school may not automatically make a saint out of a villain. All is just to obtain titles. I was almost raped by a Bishop that owns a big church down north when I was 10yrs old. That's by the way. Look,you need to take a courageous step before he will kill all of you. Go to that church where he is attending the Bible school and report him to the snr pastor,theat will probably shame him and make him change. Also, you can tell someone he respects so much to talk to him. Then,always continue praying for him. There's nothing God cannot do.
ReplyDeleteUr dad must kingkong reloaded'!what kind of madness is dat?
DeleteIt's not bible school he needs,but deliverance sessions from the angry demons dat are controlling him.
Stella I don advise her make them gather beat the man he eye go clear. He no go try again. Remove fear jor! Na today. I am talking from what was done to a worse tyrant. Crase de pass crase. The man no get mouth outside talk wetin do am
DeleteI didn't see any mention of a son/brother so I'm guessing he's frustrated abt dat or jst plain frustrated wit u guys. Someone has to be his fave child, that person shld meet him when he's calm and talk 2 him abt hw u guys are hurtng 4rm his actions. Then u guys also need to pray 4 him and set up a mean where all of you can do things as a family even if it means going 2 bible school wit him. If all these doesn't work, pls dnt ever sand there or fight wit him, run away whenever he starts. God bless u.
Deletedont report him o he can kick you out of the house,you people should ignore him.dnt fall for his trap.when he is boiling just keep on saying im sorry.just bear it biko he will soon be old and tired then the karma will catch up with him.your mom is the one i feel for dnt even knw what to say.but as for you kids just make sure you do nothing to offend him,avoid him.that the main reason my dad and i are not close,though he has change with prayer but we just cant be close cos when you gist him something just get ready cos he must use it against you so now it is everybody mind your biz
DeleteI think he is frustrated! Either that or he wants a way out but doesn't know how to. All the same there's no excuse for his behaviour. If your mum is able to support herself and you kids, I strongly suggest a desperation until he comes to his senses...with heavy prayers.
DeleteNa wa oo. Poster, U didn't mention if U have a brother. Most men cherish a male child. That could be the cause of his anger @ any slightest offence. God will touch his heart. Pele
DeleteI know what u going tru, my dad ws like ths, am sure my dad ws worse, if u look@ my dad, he will say u looking @him funny and beat the life out of u. My parents were separated b4 I was 4 year old, but wheneva my mum told me on a Monday that I would be visiting my dad on Saturday, I will be sick the whole weekend, the min I got nysc posting I left lagos, this ws 10 yrs ago. Pls just stay out of his way, if u were a boy, he won't be trying all this. Pls go and learn how to defend ur self and your mum, take up martial arts, I realized my father ws a big coward, he only had power with women.
DeleteDon't even know wot to say....e dey do me like home video ..
DeleteFew weeks ago my husband told me about a neighbor they had when he was much younger- the woman and her kids would often beat their father. They were an all girls team.
DeleteMy dear I'm not trying to put ideas in your head but it's time someone stood up to your dad.
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Maybe he was charmed to marry your mother.
ReplyDeleteMoron!!!
Deleteah but there must be something mking him that angry,something must hv triggered it.
DeleteA very big moron at that.
DeleteDear poster, you all should just take it easy with him. He could be going thru some tough time and venting it out on you guys. Be careful around him and don't do anything to provoke him. He would soon get tired, with time tho.
A very big moron at that.
DeleteDear poster, you all should just take it easy with him. He could be going thru some tough time and venting it out on you guys. Be careful around him and don't do anything to provoke him. He would soon get tired, with time tho.
You are an ignorant fool. Thats the type of backwards mentality that keeps us back as Nigerians. Always blaming something else, juju etc and NEVER taking responsibility for bad action. Fuckin' idiot.
DeleteSo sorry dear. Stellz is ryt it's always best to run away cos once d it's done, it's done. I used to av a nebo dat was like dat. Once he starts they practically bring d whole house down.
ReplyDeletePls tk care of urself,ur mom n siblings.
*once it's done, its done
Deleterun to where?
DeleteWow! I don't know what to say!
ReplyDeleteBV, your dad is obviously an aggressive and bad-tempered person. I don't understand the kind of frustration that would make a man treat his family in this manner.
To think he's even attending bible school!
Very common in some African homes!
ReplyDeleteEspecially from the 80's marriages!
Dunno if it's something in the water they drank...lol
Dear BV,i would have loved to say you should get through with school or whatever your doing atm and leave that house,but what about your siblings??your mom??...chai
Stella men like this her father do not need provocation...Even when you run,u no go sleep for house?
I think he's frustrated.
If you have never spoken to him before,call him for a meeting(you and your siblings)and pour your hearts out!
May God Soften his heart like he did to pharoah's!!
Well said! This is what makes some women marry anyone who proposes because they are running away from their homes. Only problem is that they may end up with someone just like their dad, or worse! God help us African women!
DeleteDat was exactly wot made me run into dis madman I call husband, his even worst Dan my own father and everyday I ask God y he brought me from frying pan to fire, wit all d suffering I got from my father am still continuing here, it's well wit me
DeletePls wif all due respect to ur dad, his mates r in sambisa tryinq 2rescue d missinq qurls! He shud qo n join in d search if he feels he is man enuf! Mtchew!
ReplyDeleteBuhahaha!
DeleteU no crious, ppl like dat no get power to fite outside.
The best option is to avoid anytin dat ur popsy owns.
Since ur mum n u know the man is troublesome, u all shld help him collect documents or do tins e can as well do on his own, so dat peace can reign.
Pink shell, these kind of men, even if you ignore and steer clear of them, will always find something to fight about.
DeleteTry and avoid the man o. Even though people like that will always try to get in your way no matter what. I feel for your mother because she might not have anywhere to run to. I know of 2 men who insult their wives and treat them like slaves. Now that the children are older it's serious racking o. Children Vs father. I just wonder why some men are so evil. @ poster, may God help you, your siblings and most especially your mother out of this situation.
ReplyDeleteMy dear something is wrong somewhere! Its either he is not emotionally stable or he is shagging someone somewhere which makes him detest his family cos there will b cause for comparism b/w the mistress and wife. Its unfortunate but my advise is for u to stay far from him when he starts his abuse o cos he can deform u people in the process and regret, beg for forgiveness but the harm had bn done!!!
ReplyDeleteHahahaha! Sorry o but this made me remember when my "darling" husband was comparing me physically with one of him ashawos! I just told him point blank that I dare him to give her belle make she born for am vaginally 3 times make we see whether that punani go still remain intact. Fool of life!!!
DeleteAnon 1:04,ur hubby actually compared u to his gf?...na wah o,some men don kolo o
DeleteNa wa ooo. Ur father is really a beast! Ur mom works right and u re also a graduate? Can't u let his brothers and sisters know am this demonic attitude? If he is tired u can go marry sumone else and leave u guys in peace? Abeg which bible school is he attending? Ask him is dat wat dey teach him there? U cld as well Report to ur pastor!
ReplyDeleteUr dad may be suffering from bipolar disease... its a very common mental disorder, but u know naija they dnt hv shrinks over thr.. too bad ur dad will never go for a mental check up, that's y u shuld avoid his trouble at all cost... So sad
ReplyDeleteHehehe!
DeleteDoc in d ouz.
Bipolar Affective Disorder not disease.
DeleteNawa ooo this is just too bad. Poster pls get a job and move out of the house as soon as possible. I hope he doesnt kill someone someday #monster
ReplyDeleteThis lady just posted my story. Sometimes, I think I can never forgive my dad. But unfortunately I do myself more harm than good. So most times, I dont even think about it. And I avoid being at home. Am more at peace when I am not home. I take courses for self development, and pple think, Girl, you can read 4 africa. But d larger part of it is because i want to avoid trouble. Cus wen trouble start, my father is no match for me. I give it to him hot. Am grown now and wiser, and I don't want a curse on my life. But the day my father violently abuses my mother is d day he will meet with God. I have tried to poison him once but conscience no gree me. Truth be told, some yoruba men are useless.
ReplyDeleteI hope u are not insinuating that the poster girl is Yoruba bcos there are violent people in every tribe
DeletePlease I beg u, don't even think of poisoning or fighting him again. You will incur more wrath and sorrow than u bergained for. I like that u are matured and handling it well but pls, don't kill him I beg.
DeletePlease I beg u, don't even think of poisoning or fighting him again. You will incur more wrath and sorrow than u bergained for. I like that u are matured and handling it well but pls, don't kill him I beg.
DeleteIt's a phase that wd soon pass. Jst stay out of harms way sha. My dad was like that and wen schs r on holiday we wd rather spend it @ relatives. My diary then was how much I hated him, wat I cd do to hurt him as much as he was to us... even wen we go to sch I keep thinking of situation back home. now, he's a different man, maybe because we r all grown ups n most r married or he jst decided to ask himself if it's best his kids see him as d enemy.
ReplyDeleteThis one no be phase o, papa wey still dey flog twenty something yr old!
Deleteanony seriously it is phase he will get tired soon,i knw their types,my frnd dad was so violent when we were in sec sch eh but now no one has his time.he has calmed down.it will pass.but for now just avoid him be like 2lines dt wont meet.be smart just avoid him like a plague
DeleteFor some reason i do agree its a phase. Believe me, it'll be better ok. I have such story. It made me a beta person cos i see what i dont want to become. Take the negativity of ur life and use it to beta urself. If u listen to someother peoples issues, u'll have a reason to thank God! Dont envy anyones picture perfect life. Nothing is perfect. Just learn to forgive, avoid and forgive again and avoid again. Next time as the first child, bear the broth!! God bless you and strengthen u to overcome
DeletePoster,when next he tries that nonsense,every one of you should team up and beat him...
ReplyDeleteOn a more serious note,your dad is a sadist....maybe you all depend on him for financial reasons...
Poster,if you are through with school,try and get a job or something else and keep your self busy....you and your siblings will soon get married and leave the house for him...you all should ignore him and stop crossing his path.with time,he will change..
Linda the boss,I second your first motion. Make dem come together brush 'shege' commot from the man head with kicks and blows.come o,Una nor get 'turn eba' stick? Buy more and use on him as led! He needs to feel some physical pain too.At least that would make you,your siblings and poor mum get even and of cos feel better for the next step. Seriously tho,the stress in this country is enough to go raving mad. More than half the population need to have one hour weekly sessions with shrinks. As it were,you all must get someone your dad regards highly to talk to him. Maybe his pastor or Bible school principal. Infact,an intervention should be arranged. What's the worst he can do than what he's been doing? There would be no dire consequences if one saturday morning,his pastor,bible sch head etc,all walk in unannounced and hold a meeting. This always works.If it doesn't,Lace his food with sedatives everyday. He go weak like dodo so tay he nor go fit talk, how much more lift an angry finger!This man needs prozac.
DeleteQueen Linda Eze so dis s d kind of advice u decided 2give dis young lady(weda u wre jokin or not) n u call ur self a mother. Me I cnt advice u 2beat ur father o! He s ur father n dre s no 2ways about t. D truth s dis kind of pple dunt wAit4u 2cross dia path wen dia head touches....de find fault in everything n find someone 2blame. I agree wit SDK, wen he gets 2 aggressive eehhh, jst leave d hwz 4him n cum bak latr. Bt I also advice u dat u shld find a day he s happy cos I knw wen he decides 2get happy he ll do t 2d fullest. So jst go n meet him n talk2him. Make him laff a lil n bring fun2d whole tin, ask bou his welfare n how he copes wit work. He shld b extremely comfortable takin wit u b4 u hit d nail on itz head. Den u can nw tell him how u feel about everytin he dos( talk calmly n choose ur words properly). I can tell u dat weneva he wants 2misbehave, he ll rem d discussion u guys had n ll b less aggressive, always pray 4ur father.
DeleteElsie
Lighten up Elsie, it was obvious the first comment was a joke. Read again!
DeleteLol, Linda and wide eye go kee me wt laff o.....!!
DeleteMake dem give am very small beating sha, very small one o.
I think its cos the family depends on him dts the reason for his attitude, it cud be frustrating being the sole breadwinner but it takes God's grace to pull thru.
Poster, make una just dey ignore am, one day, masqurade go taya.
Lol, Linda and wide eye go kee me wt laff o.....!!
DeleteMake dem give am very small beating sha, very small one o.
I think its cos the family depends on him dts the reason for his attitude, it cud be frustrating being the sole breadwinner but it takes God's grace to pull thru.
Poster, make una just dey ignore am, one day, masqurade go taya.
My dear, tell ur mum to find out the kind of drink he likes. May be shekpe, kai kai or ogogolo and present it to him anytime he returns home. So that he can drink himself away. Just like Ezenwanyi's mum did to his late hubbby. "Lip sealed"
ReplyDeleteYou no go leave am alone
DeleteNa only you wake come?
DeleteOh dear... Your mum needs to tell u and ur siblings something (I think). That man can't be like that to his own kids fa.
ReplyDeleteyou dnt knw nigerian egoistic men
DeleteSmfh
DeleteWhen I hear people talk about issues like this, it baffles me because it sounds so strange to me. My parents have been married for close to forty years now and my dad has never for once raised a finger on my mum. Though my dad punished us as kids when we did something wrong but it ended once we reached puberty. How can a father flog a twenty something year old? It's alarming! The man is simply a bully. . .pardon my language.
ReplyDeleteMy advice to you and your siblings is always try to avoid issues that will result in getting him angry. ..do ur chores at the right time and don't wait to be reminded. Most importantly pray for him and for peace in your family.
Consider yourself extremely lucky and blessed. I haven't the vaguest idea what it means to be loved by a father. My dad abused us not only physically but emotionally. I can still remember some of the curses 'YOU WILL NEVER AMOUNT TO ANYTHING, YOU ARE THE BIGGEST FOOL I HV EVER SEEN, THUNDER WILL FIRE YOU THERE etc etc. I hv learnt to forgive and find my worth in Christ and I did amount to something in this life. But with my dad I am so so so I'll at ease. Never hugged him for once in my life, find it so hard to talk to him on the phone. He knows how i feel. He regrets his actions but only God can remedy the situation. There are certain words that can not be forgotten. Chidinma.
DeleteNne u re not d only one in this ooo. My father used to be like this and we all grew up to hate him! Now he is alwayz quarelling wiv our mum dats she told us to hate him. Imagine? I can stay six months I won't call him on d fone except there is an emergency and my mum's phones re swtiched off! He gets to hear frm me! Karma is a bitch he wil reap wot he sow I know! My mind is so out of him. If he is my father I don't know cos dat fatherly love waz n has never been there! Today I work in a big firm n make money n I am now his true daughter. Pls girlfriend aspire to be d best u can be. Dont let his attitude bring u down and always be there for ur mum! Soon it will end. Be prayerful also. There is nothing God cannot do!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, ur story is just like mine, except the monster passed on a few years ago, baba werey!
DeleteHmmm coming from u guys sha, some parents are not it o, but pls dnt fight or iNsult him o @poster instead leave d house for him maybe stay wth relatives or frnds.
Deletehahahahahaha @baba werey
DeleteSame story like mine. Now all we here is complaints n complaints!!!! When she was driving us away, she didnt know. No i control millions, she wants to be part of my life. Its not a typo... Yes my mum was d abusive one. Aad
DeletePls next time u guys shd join hands including ur mum n beat d mad cow's disease outta his life. Am sure he is being controlled by legions. Devil himself still carry bible, FYI dis is endtime.
ReplyDeleteso you can raise hand to hit your dad? hian
DeleteLol @ mad cow disease. This blog cures HBP aswear.
DeleteLol @ mad cow disease. This blog cures HBP aswear.
DeleteNa you no fit grab am for him gblokos by the time ur sister distract him then one of you get hold of his balls he won't try it again remembered when I and my sister ganged up and beat my elder brother he was always beating us for no reason, his blockos almost cracked.
ReplyDeleteMr lyca
Buhahahaha OMG
DeleteWickedness in high places!
Chei! Grab their father's blokos? Ewwww!
DeleteAll five of you including your mum needs to learn how to fight seriously. After you all know how to fight, make sure you beat him up mercilessly next time he tries it. He will be shocked and will never abuse you all physically again. Also, you all need to work hard so you won't depend on him for long.
ReplyDeleteAll women in abusive relationships are very selfish. You can see the effect it usually have on the kids so your excuse of staying because of the kids is very lame.
Single ladies, choose wisely not just for yourself but also for your future kids.
Dear poster, I can relate with your story. It is only for sometimes, when you all are more matured like rhe last kids up to 20yrs, prepare to revolt. My dad was like that the only difference is he doesn't raise his hand on any of us, infact I can tell you I don't remember him my dad hitting us or my mum for any reason but he uses his mouth to do the flogging...jeez my dad can complain, nagg, shout, yell, insult, my mama rili tried o. U wil b so shockd to find out wat he complains abt..y is dis pencil on d bed, y is dis cup in d siting room, y is d broom here ,y is dis dat haba!!!.Nw he is at the receiving end cos he dare nt try us, though he stil talks as usual bt we serve it to him hot..If he talk 1, he go hear 10 frm us his kids. Mind u we al matured married. Our 1st is 37yrs n last is 26yrs so trust me we nt been rude bt letin him knw dos days of him talkin anyhow wnt b aceptd. My papa fit talk to you in d bid of corectin u nd causing a scene, his voice so loud dat neighbours alwayz hear him na dat one dey annoying pass. For enof he could b loving o, I stil love him na stil my papa jst dat he dey ova do.
ReplyDeletehahaha my dad twin
DeleteLolzzz, so ur dad na my popsy twin. Shey ur dad dey remind u of anytin u do.... as in alwayz talkin abt d past instead of treating d present matter wey cos d vexing. My papa can lyk to bring back past issues enhhh, weda conected or not.
Delete@babe my dad doesnt forget,gist with him today,he will hurt you wt it tomoro hahaha men even with everything i love my dad cos i cn handle him,when he is trying to know everything abt you he will form nice that is when ill start with one word answers lol
DeleteFunny enough, I meant.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I can relate with your story. It is only for sometimes, when you all are more matured like rhe last kids up to 20yrs, prepare to revolt. My dad was like that the only difference is he doesn't raise his hand on any of us, infact I can tell you I don't remember him my dad hitting us or my mum for any reason but he uses his mouth to do the flogging...jeez my dad can complain, nagg, shout, yell, insult, my mama rili tried o. U wil b so shockd to find out wat he complains abt..y is dis pencil on d bed, y is dis cup in d siting room, y is d broom here ,y is dis dat haba!!!.Nw he is at the receiving end cos he dare nt try us, though he stil talks as usual bt we serve it to him hot..If he talk 1, he go hear 10 frm us his kids. Mind u we al matured married. Our 1st is 37yrs n last is 26yrs so trust me we nt been rude bt letin him knw dos days of him talkin anyhow wnt b aceptd. My papa fit talk to you in d bid of corectin u nd causing a scene, his voice so loud dat neighbours alwayz hear him na dat one dey annoying pass. For enof he could b loving o, I stil love him na stil my papa jst dat he dey ova do.
ReplyDeletesometimes i wonder how some parents have the mind to attack their child or family..makes me wonder a lot! poster i cant tell u to fight ur dad together with ur siblings cos its thorough disrespect irrespective of what he did..my 2cent is;wheneva this kinda thing happens again,u all should just leave that particular environment for him cos the more he is sighting any of u;thats the more the anger increases..just go and crash at a friends place then later u all can come back home cos by then he must ve been calm or even sleeping....pls its for ur sake,ur mum and that of ur sibling..just dont fight ur dad! its utmost disrespect and anyone who sees that happening wont ve any respect/regard for any of you..
ReplyDeleteGlad there's no dad! (Who lives with us) . So there's no harassment or brutality of any kind. She's been my dad and mum at once. We all act like age mates in the house and mum just smiles knowing that we are happy without him. He's a chronic and compulsive cheat!! He practically knows nothing about us. I'm glad I've never been in such mess before. Blog visitor I'm sure he's going through some psychological trash and be careful such person's are capable of anything. Forget the daddy figure and run anytime he's yelling, shouting and angry okay... All the best
ReplyDeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteYes! Dis an exact description of my dad wen he wz alive! It wz lyk living in boundage! D sound of his car dat he's bck mkes us scared 2 death! My mum wz his punching bag! We neva ad dis fatherly love n attention! Wen we sit wit him 2 tlk we were always scared! 4 dis reason, I've told God my hubby will relate wit my kids lyk a father, a broda and a friend
ReplyDeleteWow!!! This reminds me of my dad that year. Pls dear, you, mum and ur siblings should always stay away when he bcomes temperamental.
ReplyDeletemaybe the sermon at bible school was do not spare the rod
ReplyDeletemaybe the sermon at bible school was do not spare the rod
ReplyDeleteD bible school is not doing again tin 2 his brain
ReplyDeleteJesus!!!
Delete=))º°˚˚˚°ÂºÐ½aĦaнaº°˚˚˚°Âº=)). Patt dem don finish u today. choi. Pls always proof read oh, dez blog visitors mouth can kill for africa
DeleteBia Patt, take it easy biko.
DeletePatt! What is this greek you wrote? Jesu Christi!
DeleteBia Patt, take it easy biko.
DeleteHahahaha, for wide eyed to exclaim Jesu Christi, u go know say gbege dey ground. Patt, abeg take am easy.
DeleteI thought she stopped at "hmmm"...scrolled down and saw this....lol
DeleteMake una leave Pattio alone o.. When she was writing one word, u guys complained .. Now she wrote a full sentence, u guys r still complaining... Now u see why she should stuck to her "one word comment"!!!!! Lol
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do you have a brother? if no then I know were the problem is
ReplyDeletePoster, always avoid issues that will make your dad angry. Ignore him. Many innocent victims have lost their lives because of non-issues, even lesser than a car wiper.
ReplyDeleteIt was when I started living in a developed country that I realised that there are a lot of mentally ill people living like normal people in Nigeria. All those angry people that kill over bush meat, jollof rice etc would have been diagnosed and put away in civilised societies.
Most abusers have one disorder or the other and they are usually one step away from committing murder.
Hmm mine was worse. I'm 36 and I still have a scar I got from him. He'd bang my head on display wall mind u I'm a girl. At the first approach of a man I accepted marriage. He refused to train me in school. I was a Virgin till I met my husband and my dad told everyone who cared the listen I was a prostitute. Wrote me a letter when I gained admission to tell me this isn't my licence to prostitution that's the congratulations he told me. Kept me under the stairs for a week without food and left me all sorts. What if a snake bit me or scorpion. I'm still damaged from my childhood but God keeps pulling me through. My children sustain me if not...
ReplyDeleteHa! Na wa ooo.
DeleteSorry dear.... Ur dad s an extremist.
DeleteElsie
Ur dad is the devil himself joor. Oh, how I love mothers they can never do that ecept the one wey don craze.
DeleteWith stories like dis,I can't help but give glory to God for my mum n late dad...I grew up in d finest family anyone cld imagine...mornin n evenin prayer time was d most exciting part of d day. My sisters-in-law n my nieeces n nephews too r enjoying dia hubbies n dads n am sure my future mother-in-law will alwz thank God for blessing her daughter wit such a fine,well-raised youngman
DeleteUnder the stairs for a week without food? As a psychotic man. Sorry to say.
DeleteDo parents still flog there kids?
ReplyDeleteI was never flogged growing up
My advice to u is,once ur father starts shouting,all of should stay clear and say nothing,when he's tired he wud calm down
You guys should have gathered and held him down and caned him, sounds absord right? After canning, you should have warned him sternly that the next time he dares lift a finger on anyone, he will be sorry for himself. Thats how my dad used to pummel my mum and because she will hardly fight back, he dey feel like boss. The day my brother almost strangulated him ehn, he took a bottle of chill pills. Na there his beating stop. Bullies get their powers when the person they are bullying cringes in fear. Trust me, if you guys can put on a united front on this matter, he will stop the physical abuse. What nonsense, beating a 20 something years old, hian!!!
ReplyDeleteNo child should lift his or her hand for any reason on her parents. Because the curse will forever live with the child. The best thing to do is to walk away and continue praying for him to change. Am sure he wasn't like this before, something must have led him to this behaviour. Study him more and look for his happy moment to talk to him. Talk to ur mum one on one and ask her what she did to her husband maybeThere is a secret between them that all of u don't knw of. May God help us all
DeleteI don warn u mke u leave my blog name alone...of al d names its Xoxo u decided to thief. I don leave am for u carry am. Mtchewww.
DeleteAbeg leave am!!! It is easy to talk when you aren't faced with the situation. My mother did absolutely nothing to him. Some people are sadist, they derive pleasure in making other sad or seeing others in pain. It is a classic example of that man. And there is no curse attached here cos even the good book warns parent against pushing their kids to the wall, just as it warns kids about honouring their parents. He pushed us to the wall so the honouring had to be on hold for a while. I am glad the way things went that day.God knows we had had ENOUGH!!! Give a bully just a little of their dose and see them turn cowards. We are first of all Human beings before we are his children, everyone should respect that fact!!!!
DeleteYou know, my dad used to act like this too.He would flip at the slightest provocation.
ReplyDeleteHe would nag about one insignificant thing for hourrrrrsss !!!!
Leaving every one of us wondering if it there was something else.
He never used to beat my mum though but would say the harshest words to her.
One day, a little argument ensued and he raised his his hand to smack her and my youngest brother (i think he was 19 or so then)
Ps; he is the most quiet, intelligent,gentle, level headed, and most soft spoken of all of us
He held my dad's hand up for about 30 seconds and my dad struggled to bring it down without success.
And my brother said these words with tears streaming down his eyes ("daddy if you try it, I will beat you like a little child !!! We have all gone through hell in your hands in this house and mummy has sacrificed her life for us all in this family. You can do whatever you want but dont you ever lay hands on my mother. I am ready to die to protect her. I will beat you up and pack my things and leave this house" !!!!!)
He was shaking and crying while speaking. The rest of us were dumbstruck,shocked,.......in a trance !!!!
Never seen him like that, never imagined he could react that way, never, just never !!!
My dad crept away, and some minutes later when I went to speak to him, I found him curled up in his bathroom crying like a baby.
*I cry as I type these words*
That was the longest day for everyone in my family.
Everyone was cold and quiet for a few days but that day marked a turning point . That was the end of the petty quarrels and all.
My dad still holds a grudge against my bro for "humiliating" him that day but who cares?
Abusers need to be addressed eyeball to eyeball.
Poster im sorry for the emotional torture but you guys need to get an uncle or someone respectable to wade in but somehow, u need to address it before it gets out of hand. Goodluck.
OMG ! Dear Lawd !!! He had HAD it !!!
DeleteWow ! This is very deep.
Am crying,crying...I just saw it like a movie scene. Oh
DeleteUr story s so touchin... Couldn't bliv myself wen tears rolled down ma cheeks. lol. Tank God 4d change of heart frm ur dad.
DeleteElsie
Eeyah, ur story brought tears to my eyes; ubfortunately, a lot of people that grew up in naija can relate.
Delete#goosebumps #tears
DeleteWow! Things are happening o!
Awwww...so touching.
DeleteI don't even like my dad one bit
Wow.
DeleteThank God he is a changed man.
I'm sorry for all the pains you guys passed through.
Your story felt so real, like I was there. You are indeed a great narrator.
So DEEP!!!!
DeleteOrishabiyaosi
Omgg i cried reading this..ur brother is my hero..God bless him.
DeleteChei,u just made me cry,ur story was so touching.people around me was like asking me wat is wrong wit me,but I can not explain.Any way i tank God 4 ur family.
DeleteMy God
DeleteI can imagine
I chop cain from both side,even slaps sef.honestly it cured some prts of my sturborness
Wow, I actually cried wen readin this.so touching
DeleteMamie Water.....LOL....trust you to say something silly.....Poster, I did d same o to my dad and I am a girl....my siblings use to look up to me to defend and protect them from my dad...So many dysfunctional Nigerian families.
DeleteReading this sent shivers down my spine. I'm in awe of your brother right now.
DeleteMy hubby is hot tempered but I showed him he shldnt try such with me or my kids,,,am abusive man needs to challenged,,,,believe me their poster,ur dad will b afaid of u guyz now and d abuse will reduce
ReplyDeleteBad 1, i had an uncle that was always beating up his family -wife/kids. One day ehn, he came as usual to do same, unfortunately for him, they wre prepared for him that day. If u see the way dey 'mended' ma uncle-Chai, to worsen it every1 supported his wife/kids for what dey did. That was d last day ma uncle tried dat shit. I no say make una do same o, I wouldn't say you should keep praying either because sometimes it pays to take a bold step.
ReplyDeleteWhew! Dis would have been a very long comment. But biko next tym you guys should dodge the beatings. I don't even know what his bible teacher is teaching him sef cos he is not learning any useful thing there. He obviously is frustrated over something and is letting it out on you all.
ReplyDeleteI used to hear when we were small that if a teacher flogs u, jst carry that cane and put inside fowl faeces and pepper, if the person flogs again with it, the hand will swell. Maybe that one will stop him from hitting you guys again.
Wow, so sorry, I'm also in a dilema like this.
ReplyDeleteThis d shit I go thru evryday @ home.
My dad goes to church well o, and he'll pretend to be a gud man and cme home and beat up his wife, he does this all d tym!
Hez soo wicked, he doesn't gv me money, anyways I work so I dnt care!
Hez such a pretender. I dnt evn know what to do.
I'm 23 hez been violent since I was born
I hate him with all my life, if he died we wud surely have peace.
He has made life unbearable for my mom and our siblings.
V irresponsible and evil man who takes pride in beatin his fam up at any given opportunity. What wud u call that?
I've prayed I've reported him to my pastor, bt d man stil d same.
Pray God helps my family.
Amen dear. But pls u ll stil v 2learn 2 forgive him.
DeleteElsie
Chai!
DeleteMy dear God is with you. I pray a miracle happens soon. I can feel your pains from your write up.
Smh
Pls forgive him
DeleteStella my dad had flogged me mercilessly for changing N50 into two N20 and N10. I and my siblings have seen different variety of beating while growing up in de house. He had one time tied my hands and legs up n gave me the beating of my life with the type of spring they used to make chairs wit in the 80s, i av a mark on my face til today from dat beating. He was so abusive that dat he beat us up for no reason at all. we all feared the sound of his voice. But today, i pity him cos hs trying to build a relationship wt us but its too late. As much as I try to get close to him the "weirder" it gets. We never had a relationship n I doubt if we will ever.
ReplyDeleteBuhahaha!
DeleteHow can ur dad beat u for changing N50?
Haba @ d mark on ur face.
Na wa ooo!
I can relate to yr story. My cousin's father is the same or even worse that ur's but since 2012 he hasnt laid a hand on his wife or my cousins at all and do u know how? He as usual wanted to beat my aunty when my female cousin who was 14 and her brother 16 then, broke a bottle and told him that if he eve tries touchin them or their mother that he will regretted it all of his life. My cousins dealt with him that day and evn gave him a little bruise and till this day, he hasnt dared such again although the man is still verbally abusive. Something I feel like beating the hell out of him cos of the way he talks to my aunt. Mind u this man is a so called man of God.
ReplyDeleteU guys should stand up to him and for pete's sake you are in your 2s0 none of u is small that you cant stand up to him! Once you do, he will reconsider. For once let that accumulated anger out at him, jointly, all of u.
Hehehe.this is the story of my life or even worse than this.right now I'm struggling not to hate my father cos he's very sick at the moment. Sometimes it's as if God had to make him sick so that he won't kill one of us or my mom. Buh I still pray he gets well soon but god shud reduce his man power.
ReplyDeleteLOL. Ur prayer get as e be.
DeleteElsie
You ppl should go nd report him in his bible school,then if he doesn't change lock him up in your extra room*shinesteeth*
ReplyDeleteYou ppl should go nd report him in his bible school,then if he doesn't change lock him up in your extra room*shinesteeth*
ReplyDeleteLie lie "chush" people. Long hiss.
ReplyDeleteStellasticated, where is the post on Saturday laughs na? I don wait tire.
Nosey
Not funny, but can't stop laughing at the imagination of this drama. God forgive me
ReplyDeleteHmm. Made me remember d day my father a rich and prominent man in my community Becos of his wife sent me and my four siblings into d streets to look for his fowl dat didn't return that evening. We searched evry wer and had to sleep in my grandma's. Dis is even d least of all wot we went tru o, parents provoke not ur children to anger.
ReplyDeleteThis is soo sad.d Man needs help.so Sorry for his long-suffering famliy.my dad was d bestest...he would never hit buh growing up,we used to think beating was better o.cos my dad was a pro at talking.wen u misbehave,he wil call u to d sitting room .gently o...u will even b seated....and den he wil begin wit...i am so disapointed in u......den d talk wil go on for hours.Esp wen it comes to me,i have being known to sit for "the talk' for a straight four hours!lol.God bless my Dad for me.he sure did a brillant job with us.
ReplyDeleteLmao. My dad is like your dad. My dad never hit.any of us,but sometimes we prayed he did because that would be so fast and we would get over it. When we do something ny dad disapprove us,he will five us that face that tells us how disappointed he is of us. He will let us go to bed and wake u up at 2:00 AM. And he would talk an talk till 4AM.. Ah,it was so annoying,so we never liked offending him..
DeleteBut my.mom was the one who could knock you so bad,or give you serious punishment like pin fall,kneel on a sand and so many others but never used cane on us..
Lmao!!! Qutie exactly like my dad (d 2am part so on point hahaha) and mom just that my mom can slap for Africa.
DeleteGod bless my parents.
This is soo sad.d Man needs help.so Sorry for his long-suffering famliy.my dad was d bestest...he would never hit buh growing up,we used to think beating was better o.cos my dad was a pro at talking.wen u misbehave,he wil call u to d sitting room .gently o...u will even b seated....and den he wil begin wit...i am so disapointed in u......den d talk wil go on for hours.Esp wen it comes to me,i have being known to sit for "the talk' for a straight four hours!lol.God bless my Dad for me.he sure did a brillant job with us.
ReplyDeleteEeyah, sorry poster, maybe ur dad has other frustrations. A lot of parents actually do this; striking at the least provocation becos of their own issues.
ReplyDeleteClick my name for all your celebration cakes n cupcakes, cheers
Wow! I guess its frustration really cos how can you just come to the house and started beating people cos of car wiper. I would just tell you to always be by your moms side.
ReplyDeleteFunny enuf all these father get jealous when the kids have a vry good relationship with their mother, not knowing they brought it upon themselves.
It is well...
U would advice u date a bouncer or a karate black belter. should in case he try another stunt. hook him up wut real stunt men.
ReplyDeleteI would advice u to date a bouncer or a karate black belter. should in case he tries another stunt. hook him up with real stunt men.
ReplyDeleteIf I hear!!! my father was even worse,he was even a PASTOR nd actually graduated 4rm bible sch,everybody dat knew us den tot we were a great family cos he was very good 2 outsiders...he used 2 beat nd torment my mum,we're jst 2-my bro nd went tru hell in d hands of my dad.Any time he comes home my bro will run like a bull 2 welcome him nd wen he gets 2 d door he'll ask my bro 2 remove his shoe...if my dad comes home nd find d tv on we're dead or if we manage 2 put it off b4 he cms he'll touch d tv nd if he finds it warm,he'll beat us until we're weak...dere was a time he brot home a lamp 4rm a spiritualist dat told him d lamp shuldn't go off 4 7days,unfortunately it went off b4 d 7days nd he said we're witches nd must have put it off,he dealt wif us 4rm morning till night,we went 2 hell nd back,wen my mum talked,he faced her...he'll send us out of d house 4 flimsy excuses like nt washing plate on time,dere was a tym my bro went out wif his nd it had a minor fault,he said my bro shuld repair it nd nt step in2 d house until he does it,we had 2 call all our family members 2 beg.My bro had 2 stand up 4 his right after sometime nd some of his bullying stopped.D last time he had a fight wif my mum,he told her 2 apologise 2 his gf bcos his gf ws angry dat my bro called her nd gave her warning 2 leave my dad,nd wen she refused he threw her out,I was writing WAEC den bt he threw me out wif her,my bro was in d uni. den.I fnk God dat we finally left bcos we're at peace nd living happily wifout him.my mum even had stroke bcos of d stress bt I fnk God she's fine. Even though he's nt footing my bill nd doesn't know hw I feed nd clothe nd I've nt heard 4rm him dis year,I still fnk God,my mum is independent wif a good job nd God is blessing us,we're hale nd hearty.
ReplyDeleteIt is well with you and ur mum, please do take care of her.
DeleteAm sorry my dear he will definitely stop it when you people grow up. Am sure if you were a boy with your age he will not be trying that rubbish.
ReplyDeleteGrow up to 50yrs I guess. Postet says she's in her "not so early" 20's and you're still talking about growing up.
DeleteAnon, shld d lady clock 50 b4 u knw she s grown??
DeleteElsie
Anon, shld d lady clock 50 b4 u knw she s grown??
DeleteElsie
Very sad. I responded to this yesterday. In a civilized society the mum will likely file for divorce but in naija the stigma will be unbearable for her and maybe she is a housewife and all... Maybe the mum should take all the kids and move out leaving their dad alone for a while. Should get him thinking...
ReplyDeleteNonsense one of u shld bring a pestle and break his damn head.chai I am boiling inside right now.I hope I don't overheat.
ReplyDeleteHehehe. Lol. Abeg take water cool ya bori...
DeleteHahahaha. Pestle kwa? Na poundo yam de wan pound? Instead of that, when e wan pass, make dem put leg for am, he will trip over it and fall yakata.
DeleteOh lawwwd save us! I think he's reaction was triggered by something else cos his action was too much for one whose car wiper was raised! Something is biting him inside! He just used this opportunity to release the venom! Easy dear! Try to avoid any physical abuse! Anytime he brings bulala, run with your toes touching your ears! You never know, it could get way more dangerous than you anticipated!
ReplyDeletePepper ose oku!
I didn't see mention of a brother. Did ur mum give birth to a son? Most men act that way when they dnt hav a male child. But som ppl are just naturally aggressive. There's nothing much anyone can do abt it except to give them as much space as u can.
ReplyDeleteYes he has always been like this, gets angry, insults nd calls us names a man shouldn't ever call his familyat d slightest provocation, my mom inclusive. My mom was threatening to do all sorts last night but I knew she was just talking. I told her she needs to do something about the whole thing this morning nd she asked what I expect her to do. I don't know how long she'll keep taking all these o. It's not that my dad doesn't provide our basic needs, he's actually a little nice but he's bad sides surpasses d good part. May God help us all bcos I know my mom won't do anything nd honestly I don't have d courage to take it up nd I can't report to any family member bcos he listens to absolutely nobody nd nobody even knows how bad things re in our house, most ppl just feel he's a Lil strict
ReplyDelete@ poster, do you have a brother please. Cos it will be good to narrow down what his main frustration on you all is about?
Deleteposter,if you read everyone comment here that were once in your shoes one thing that is common is that phase passed away.pls dnt hate your dad,just pray for him,it is only your mom that will feel it very well
DeleteThis is soo sad @poster.My parents were almost same wen we(my siblings n I)were littl.we dreaded dem quarelling cos we knew it wud always degenerate into fights.we were always apprehensive but nw we are grown(am in my early 20's)The day my father startd his usual quarrel over smtn irrelevant,my mom was absent dat day.I and my siblings confronted him.He was shocked.i tink it then sunk in him that we were no longer push-overs.With my kind of temper,am not sure i can stand my father flog me at this age,Never.
ReplyDeleteTry n keep out of his way n stay in school mostly, only go home when its necessary. Make sure u stay in school n make something of yourself, cos you guys r stuck there until u HV financial freedom. That's why its Good for a woman to have a Job. She depend on him for everything n he knows his power
ReplyDeleteThe truth about this kind of men is they are loosers insecure unfulfilled and use u their family to compensate themselves. Don't let him get to u physically and emotionally cos it ll damage u. Find a way around him and even if you have to fight him off cos if he means you well he lol see the pain and damage his causing u. And and lap pray for him and yourself... only God can style this things
ReplyDeleteaside from that most of this men lack love too when they were young, it is a viscious cycle
DeleteLmao !
ReplyDeleteNa wah oh!i used to dislike my dad for beating me but I reading all this comments I realise that he is even a wonderful man and in retrospect that I deserved it.Most of the beatings were when I was a kid for stealing or lying or spending money a visitor gave me or beating my younger ones,stuff like that,The only time he beat me when I was older,i was in d uni and a toaster sent me a sexually explicit text,the I wanna do this,suck this,touch this kinda type and I dunno what he was looking for in my phone,he saw it and beat me badly that day.i had to beg and write a letter with some little lie before he forgave me.
ReplyDeleteMehn!hes never being verbally abusive.He doesn't even talk much but when he talks you will want to die cos the few words he will say will cut deep.
Lol cannt't stop laughing , how people against una for gather the blow small so he will the swollen face and bruise.
ReplyDelete# Sharon was here.
Stella mine was worse..ooh...wen I was in my senior secondary sch..I hear ween...in my dad's hand..he gave me d beatgs of my life ehen..DAT on 2 occasions I landed on d hospital bed..with my two eyes....bloodied.. I cudnt see...SDK..na belt he take hit me ooh...HV u seen where ur own dad will tell u DAT he...HATES u.?...chaiii...to make matters worse..my mum wasn't even dere to intervene..na step mum tins now...she even dey turn fuel join d fire self.....BT fastword 10 ....I am now d perfect.. Child.. Wen..I got my job early dis year.. Before I cud Finnish praising God... All his Friends and family done..hear am..I got my admission for masters in uniben December last yr..before I cud even start clearance self...all his colleagues at work were already aware..cos I am now a source of pride to him..
ReplyDeleteDear poster d only advice I HV for u...is dat u shud pray to God...for him to help u not to hate ur daddy..cos wen u do u won't benefit anything from God..believe me..DAT was one of d prayers I prayed wen I was in d tunnel.. Today d story is a positive one..we both sit and gist dese days like father and daughter... Sorry for my long typos..lol
Without laying a hand on your dad (except in self defense-if it comes to that), I suggest you confront him by setting him up. You all including your mum should do something that will provoke his usual reaction (like pour mud or dirt on his precious car) then all of you should sit in the living room waiting for him, when he comes and tries to descend on any one of you, you should all pull out pieces of wood or even broken bottles-that you hid under the seats (if you are sure you won't be tempted to use the broken bottle), pull your weapons out and dare him to touch any of you. Be properly dressed for a fight because he might go ahead to attack. If he does, truly, you will have to deal with him-in self defense of course. That's the only solution o-when it comes to intimidation, only fire answers fire...biko let your mum see the responses on this blog.
ReplyDeleteWow. I'm amazed by the number of people claiming to be suffering/suffered same level of abuse from fathers who are supposed to protect them.
ReplyDeleteWith this much victims going on to be the future of tomorrow, I just wonder.
First option is to talk to him, tell him to forgive your mum and you all if you have offended him.Tell him you are no longer happy in your fathers house. Ask himto confide in you if there is anything bothering him. Cry whilst you are at it oh, very and be on your knees.
ReplyDelete2nd option, report him to someone he respects or the church leaders to come and talk to him.Tell them your father is making life unbearable for you all and you are on the verge of running away.
The 3rd option is for you to shake him a little when he starts, tell him this is no longer acceptable and you won't take it anymore.Act rebellious and give him a tough time.DO NOT HIT HIM.
The last option which works like a miracle and will put him in shock for a while is for you all to gather and decend on him in ways he won't be able to comprehend.infact he won't be able to report to anyone,Oshisco. After beating him up, all of you should file to his room and beg him say a day after, roll on the floor , beg, cry and say it is the devils work.
He will arrange himself afterwards.
You also need to get a job and start doing stuff in the house, take care of the petrol expenses for the month etc,your father will start talking to you with respect.
Soory o poster!! Most idiot yoruba men are like ur dad....nd dats y I just opted 4 an ndi igbo,ndi oma jejely! Smtcheeeeew for dem!..................OKIJA WIFE
ReplyDeleteBini men too lol
DeleteAs a child i suffered physical abuse and because of that i never ever hit my children. One thing i have learnt from my own experience is that your children won't respect you more because you beat them, my children are so respectful and obedient , when they do wrong all i need do is look them straight in the eyes for some seconds and they they get the message, other times i talk and by the time i am through they are in tears.
ReplyDeleteYou are abusive madam. Whether verbal or physical, the effect is terrible.
DeletePeople are quick to judge when issues comes up. I believe we should ask questions when confronted with issues. For instance, does anybody know the relationship between the man and the woman, what about issues in their extended families, do you know where the man is coming from vis a vis his marriage with his wife, do you know if the woman is having an affair which is not known to the children but the couple, do you know if the man is not the father of the children he is calling his own. A lot of questions needs to be asked. It could be anything causing all these. We have only heard from the child, have we heard from the man obviously the whole story is not being said here. May God help us all
ReplyDeleteDear Poster d solution is very simple.. Unless u don't have a brother.. D next tym he wants to beat your mum all of you with your broda infront should face him and threaten to beat him up.. If he do gra gra beat him up.. That will be the last day anybody will hear him raise his voice in that house.. We tried it and believe me it worked.. Imagine as babe and anytime u pass on the street everybody will be 'yimuing' for u because the just came to seperate fight btw your parents yday.. My dear we had to take matters into our hands... And we got peace.
ReplyDeletelol,,una even get dad wey dey around...
ReplyDeletewhat of my dad that called police for my mum and i when i was just born, that he doesnt want us, thank God for 2day, im working in a good company, i have my bsc, msc, con dey add prof exam join...then he was rich, now he lives in a slum with his wife and childern somewhere.tables have turned, now my mum is a distinguished woman in d society. i dont even know whether i hate d man sef. i just know if he died today, i wont shake, its better for me to say my dad is dead, than 4 me to be explaining this story to people when they ask me where my dad is.
And u heard this story from ur mum. Better investigate the veracity. Just an honest advise
DeleteGhetto living I guess. U beat ur mother or father and u incur curses from above. Ask ur pastor or imam
Deleteanony your head is der,children frm single home number one rule is thou shall not judge and take side.ur mom might hv lied to you. if you wanna knw the truth ask people that knew them then nt the parent
DeleteI do not see it that way as you guys ...I believ the guy...I see a man who was at the height of riches and possibly ego and pride made him take in a second wife and throw out the first one...
DeleteI've seen lots of it...if not, why didn't he look for the child, take care of him and try to be in his life..
Now life has dealt him a bad one and he would be too ashamed to seek out his lost family....a close friend went thru same thing, d man even passed on, it was d step Mom that finally came to beg
Hmmm, mehn I'm weak. Apart from d bv's story, some of d comments iv read in d comments section are so touching. I thank God for my dad, iv always tot he's d best father on earth, but now I know he's d "bestest" father in d whole world. If I say he didn't beat me when I was growing I wld be telling lies. Ha, my dad beat me, cos I was a very stubborn n mischievous child, but he beat me with love. He never used had objects on me, he only flogged me with cane on my palm and not more than 6 strokes sef. Then like 5mins after flogging me, he would call me n tell me, "I love u dats y I have to chastise u" and then he wld say sorry n buy me biscuit. My dad never let us lack anything, as long as he cld afford it, n he pampers my mum even up till 2morw. The man can die trying to protect us, honestly he's a good man. So it beats my imagination wen I hear sordid things that some men do to dia family, it's rly sad. Poster pls take heart, just avoid him like a plague, n aspire to be a great person, he'll definitely come bk crawling to u. Always pray for him to change also, for d bible says d heart of the king is in God's hand, so therefore d hrt of ur father is in God's hand. Pray n take care of ur mother too, so dis doesn't break her down, it's is well my dear.
ReplyDeleteI thought you said if you tell your story it will not contain this blog.
DeletePoster take it easy ok.I guess someone got him angry(transfer of aggression),don't no y an old man like dat won't respect his old age and he dy come from church o. Anyways my parents did flogged me sha cos I was a lil sturborn.it stopped wen I clocked 20. @poster be like say devil dy use ur father dance OKOSO sometimes
ReplyDeletePoster take it easy ok.I guess someone got him angry(transfer of aggression),don't no y an old man like dat won't respect his old age and he dy come from church o. Anyways my parents did flogged me sha cos I was a lil sturborn.it stopped wen I clocked 20. @poster be like say devil dy use ur father dance OKOSO sometimes
ReplyDeleteLol...@dance okoso...na u talk am Oo mrs chi..lol
DeleteWhenever i see things like this, i never stop to thank God for my life.... Had the best father anyone can ever ask for in the world. He wasn't perfect, but so where close to perfection. Miss you xoxooxo much my Gentle and Meek Daddy of life..
#YourLegacyLivesOnProfDoraAkunyili*7/6/14
*Prayer For Nigeria in Distress x10 Daily*
Lol...@dance okoso...na u talk am Oo mrs chi..lol
DeleteWhenever i see things like this, i never stop to thank God for my life.... Had the best father anyone could ever ask for in the world. He wasn't perfect, but some where close to perfection. Miss you xoxooxo much my Gentle and Meek Daddy of life..
#YourLegacyLivesOnProfDoraAkunyili*7/6/14
*Prayer For Nigeria in Distress x10 Daily*
Pls, anon 2:23 be reasonable......No matter d issues at hand, there are more mature ways to resolve those problems without d beating of his wife & children.
ReplyDeleteLol @some of d stories am reading. If the stories am reading here are real, then am grateful to God, for the parents he gave me. Though my family aint perfect
ReplyDeleteIf you are de first daughter and had no good reletionship with ur father then go nd check up ur self nd ask ur mother alots of questions about how she meet ur father and why them got married,,was him forced into marriage''?and alots of more,,then as de first child try ur best to be ur father best friend,ask him to confined in you,nd always showing ur dad much love,be his friend,trust me its works like magic,never hate ur dad but show him much love,find out what he like must,you can even try to walk out with him nd going bible class together with him each time he wish to ok'?u will never regret it,,goodluck ,,from swiss
ReplyDeleteI remember a nice man who always getting upset to de daughters becos he find out one day that de woman he called a lovely wife was cheating on him with his best friend,now he thinks de daughters will like fellow there mothers acts,
ReplyDeleteMy Father; may God rest your soul. I remember you today with all this stories i've read and I cried. My Father, baba mi, Hmnnnnnnnn. I know you knew that I'm the only one out of your children that dont take nonsense from anyone. Till today I'm still bearing your name in fact the only one for that matter. I'm very happy you knew I love my mum very dearly and as you said I'm still taking care of her. You wanted her back when old age beckoned on you and when you were lonely in your house you built. I stood my ground and said NO WAY. Everyone thought I was mad. As a matter of fact I refuse to sleep in that house for one day due to all the piped anger in me. I told God I've forgiven you though the scar is still there. I turned to alcohol, me that cannot stand the smell before. I'm doing very well; in fact I've taken your name to where you couldn't imagined. I'll fulfil my promise of tiling your grave when I return home. As you rightly said, your pension took care of you but couldn't cure your loneliness. You said you never expected any of your children to take care of you that your pension is there. I'm the last person bearing your name as a mark of respect and to show I loved you n I've forgiven you. My children ll never use that name. My mum is still enjoying the fruit of all her labour. I remember how I use to cry n beg you to forgive us whenever you're angry. You pushed me to go out of my way to become somebody in life. I joined the Army n became an officer carrying your name on my chest wherever I go. Your friends envied you BUT you are no more to see d pride on my mum's face when I had my ceremonial wedding. I ensured your name entered d Army roll call even when I had d opportunity to change it. All you said with your mouth came to pass. That you don't need anything from us, your pension is this your pension is that........ I pray you found peace and rest in the Lord. you were too tough for all of us. You made me cry n regret ever coming to the world through you but you taught me a great lesson: HOW NOT TO TREAT MY FAMILY. Baa mi Sun re ooooooooooo. Now my mind is a bit free
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