This is serious!...
''Hi Stella greetings to you and your wonderful SDK family. I have an important but scary experience which I will like to share not becos its funny but becos as mothers we have to be at alert.
I have been trying to get a house help for sometime now becos I have to kids and so I needed extra hands. So I contacted friends to help me get one but a friend linked me to an agent who finally got one for me.
I decided to take her for series of medical test including HIV and pregnancy. And she was not only pregnant but HIV positive. Though she looks nice and hard working I had to send her home.
I told her she was pregnant but didnt tell her about her HIV status. Please nobody should criticize me for victimising her. I am just been human cos I have 2 innocent kids and wont want to take chances.
My point is we should be careful. Always take any body you intend keeping at home for medicals even when we decide to keep them we should be aware of their medical status. Thanks.''
*You should have told her or told whoever brought her to you to tell her,she needs to know so that she doesnt spread it on....you know some house helps sleep with the men in the house of where ever they are employed.
Please she needs to know so that she can get help!
JESUS CHRIST.... Wonders shall never end....madam poster just go to church today and thank your God... On a second note,u need to reach out to the maid and let her know so she can start treatment before it gets worse o ***1st time commenting here*** Aunty steLla...u nr dey share fanta for newcomer??
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First time commenting and u wanna start wasting space already?
DeleteSmh
A house-help I brought in Feb also tested positive to HIV,i counselled her b4 d test and she revealed to me dat she was sleeping wit her former madam's hubby for over a year b4 she decided to leave their place in Dec. I wanted 2 trace d man but juxx changed my mind,u knw all dese port Harcourt girls can hop around like crazy.she even told me she slept wit a factory manager where she worked for one month.in january.And she has NEVER had SEX wit CONDOM.she has never seen it sef. Its so shocking knowing dat dis girl has slept wit over 10 men!!!! I told her d result of d test and directed her to a teaching hosp where she wil start retro viral drugs. shes juxx 21yrs,very innocent looking.Men r totally useless.Dats how dat stupid man wil infect her faithful wife and put d whole family in jeopardy. Seriously we mothers shd be very careful o! Not only HIV,but hepatitis is more deadly.i screen for hepatitis, HIV and pregnancy test. May God help us all.
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Chizzy I test for everything o. I've had 2 pregnant and 2 with hepatitis and 1 abortion. I test for TB, typhoid, malaria, syphilis, pregnancy, hepatitis and HIV. I can't be telling shoulda woulda coulda stories at my age. All those tests cost N2,300 at any Lagos State public health clinic. Please do them and repeat every 3 months. These girls and boys go out, they're sexually active and they play with your kids. They share their plates when you're not looking. In my house, we eat the same food, use the same cutlery. Even typhoid is contagious given the right conditions. Google Typhoid Mary. And always deworm them. Combantrin is cheap enough.
DeleteTnks dats a good one. Why I dnt bother abt syphilis and gonorrhoea is cos dey cnt be contacted directly like sharing cutlery unless there's sexual inter course wit d person and typhoid is treatable shaaa. HIV and HEPATITIS r two main disease dat
Deletedoesn't hv cure and highly contagious.
Chizzy
Em madam, with ur concern over every know ailment, (which u erroneously think only house helps can have), why dont you take care Of them urself and home school them?
DeleteI know it sounds crazy but not only househelps have these ailment u listed. What about ur cousins, their cousins, their uncles and aunts?
If given a choice between HIV, CANCER OF THE COLON AND DIABETES, which would u choose?
We need to remember that malaria kill more people than Hiv, road accident, cancer, diabetes and boko haram combined.
Dr oke for a doctor your comments always annoy me.... Do u think before typing at all? Mschweeeeeeew
DeletePls be realistic with u r comment, I can prevent my children from having HIV and hepatitis in my house but accidents n the rest not so easy so please
DeleteR u sure ur a doctor??? Cos u talk rubbish most times.Is diabetes, cancer or malaria contagious??? I screen my helps for HIV and HEPATITIS cos dey r contagious and there's no CURE. How can u screen ur uncle or cousin wen dey juxx come and go but ur helps stay wit u 4 months or even years so Plsssssss get off my post.
DeleteChizzy.
Dr, I test and treat the treatable ones. I will not send my child to a school that doesn't run tests. In fact, I'm not sure I get your point. Do you have a point? Because these people loive in my house! Eat and drink with the same utensils! Prep food for cooking! Feed my child when I'm not home! Cut themselves when using knives! I can't totally insulate mine but I will minimize the danger to them! FYI, my driver and anyone else working for me are tested including my staff at work. It is as much for them as it is for me. Is it the pregnant one that tried unsuccessfully multiple times to abort her pregnancy in my parents' house? She even drank bleach! Used a hanger! Thank God for his mercy. Or the one that knew she was pregnant and tried to game the test because she wanted to make enough money to go abort. Or the one that had an abortion 2 days before she was brought to my house without any antibiotics or pain meds still bleeding! Dr. High Horse, abeg, I like you. No vex me.
Deletevery pathetic comment from a doctor! Are u sure u are one? @ dr okechukwu
DeleteAnon 11:18
DeleteYou are very stupid to think that "Port Harcourt girls hop around"
i would rather you be specific than to write like a clueless mom.
That "doctor" okechuukwu isn't a real MBBS holder. He's ignorant plus has a low IQ.
DeleteAnony, thank God that part of the requirements for becoming a medical doctor isn't a high IQ. U seem obsessed with this IQ talk today...did u just learn of intelligence quotient?
DeleteI have met several patients in the course of my practice who tell me how they took every kind of precautions and yet got infected thru non sexual means.
I applaud those running tests on their prospective employees and it is the right thing to do. I was reponding to the comment about typhoid and the rest.
What I advise families with little children to do is run a comprehensive test atleast twice a year on all ur family members. That way you can detect anything early.
We are constantly exposed to different dangerous situations daily.
Heck my own son contracted some horrible rash from his school. I had to get parental consent from all his classmates to run tests and administer treatment free to 23 of them.
So Chizzy, like u said, the cousins just come and go. But infection takes a moment.
Nah! This Dr oke is so clueless!! Can't stop wondering y u guyz "run Around" him. Wow! U just gave urself away dude. Now am well convinced u either an optician or a dentist? Fake doc.
DeleteBut Dr. you must know that there is such a thing as a typhoid carrier. If such a person has horrible hygiene and doesn't wash up after bathroom runs and then touches food, that's it. Because I still don't get your non-existent point. My current house help had typhoid and malaria when brought to me. I took him to the doctor, and bought the necessary meds. He's now fine. Are you suggesting I shouldn't have tested him? My mum was a public health nurse for well over 20 years and I learned from her. In fact, Lagos State Public Health Centres in Lagos East have a domestic worker's test which includes all of the above AND they recommend a thorough check up as well so you know if the worker has any serious illnesses like asthma or diabetes so you're prepared.
DeleteAnon 4.49 why r u so vexed???? Is it cos I called u out????? i knw ur one of dose ashewo. Kobo Kobo wey full port Harcourt. Una no go see my hubby IJN.Onye ara,Ike nsi, Gerrrrout!!!!!!!!
DeleteChizzy
I check for HIV, Hep B and pregnancy and when they test negative for hep b I make sure I vaccinate them against it. They got me one from villa today. She's still at my aunt's place. I've sent money for them to run the tests on her before they send her to me. Pls let's not forget deliverance. The things wey dey follow some of these girls eh......
DeleteThe Necessary Evil- click my name to read more and share your thoughts.
Na wa o, this is really serious
ReplyDeleteIt takes about three days for some of these results to come out so what I do till I get the complete result is no handling of cutlery and cooking utensils . No handling of my kids too till I'm sure of the results.
DeleteThis na serious ish, i get two younger sisters, na them be my househelps...lol. I intend getting 1 soon tho, thanks for this advice @poster, God knows i av never thought in that direction.
DeleteU should have told her,maybe she was even raped,you should have told her so she starts treatment,thats not fair
ReplyDeleteExactly!!!! That was the first thing that came to my mind. HIV positive and Pregnant
DeleteI agree with stellina
ReplyDeleteS O to ivie oronsaye( SDKB peace Ambassador) one love sist.
This is quite common actually, and I think it hjas become the norm for people to send intending helps for medicals.
ReplyDeleteIt's not even enough to do it as a one off, cos even if they're given a clean bill of health initially, you don't know what might happen a few months down the line.
So it needs to be repeated at appropriate intervals, maka ndi uta!!!
Poster, you took the right decision! She might be aware of her status! I think you did the right thing by not letting her know you knew her status!why will somebody try to criticize your action? Anyone who tries to criticize must be HIV positive as well!
ReplyDeleteHope you didn't pay money to get her? If you did, try and contact the agency, tell them what happened and demand a refund.
Pepper ose oku! Onwa na eti eti!
Pepper, why u talk like this?? Mba nu!!!
DeleteAs someone who deals with things like this everyday, I am forced to add a voice to this.
Madam, ur decision not to employ her is a personal choice but ur decision not to inform her thru the appropriate channel should be condemned. It is a public health issue.
U should have taken her to the clinic (which has already displayed unprofessional conduct by handing u the result without requesting to see the patient) for counseling before revealing the result.
The girl can have an HIV free baby and can live a normal life if she knows on time and starts her treatment.
I want to appeal to anyone who comes across anyone that has the virus to show compassion and remember, e no dey show for face. The househelp whose result is negative today may become positive in 4 months time without having sex.
I must say i disagree with your comment pepper ose oku. She should have told her about her status. The earlier she knows the better.
DeleteDr okechukwu spot on! You said it all
I quiet agree with u @Dr okechukwu.
DeletePepper wicked idiot.... So u think the househelp is just an object to use? Fool, it's people like you I pray will have househelp a who will destroy your homes..... U expect them to take care of you yet you don't care what happens to them as human beings..... Y assume? You have gotten the result u tell her cos it might further reconfirm what they know or they might be hearing it for the first time.... Poster what u did was wicked.... And u pepper it is you and your generation that will have HIV.... Stupid idiot, u think it's on every post we want to hear your retarded comments...... Cos people give u shout outs here doesn't mean u forget to consult ur brain before typing..... Stupid bitch
DeleteDr Okechukwu, God bless your input..
DeleteBut dear poster, thanks for bringing this to our knowledge, atleast to mine, cos I never thought about it before.. Choi
DeleteD pepper of now is different from d pepper of before! Can someone tell me what happened? Was there an impostor @ some point?
DeleteD pepper of now is different from d pepper of before! Can someone tell me what happened? Was there an impostor @ some point?
DeleteI Concur with Dr Okechukwu! ...
DeletePOSH MIDWIFE
For once "doctor" sounds like he has an average IQ.
Deletethat househelp deserved to know her sero-status.
@anonymous1:55 shut....your...gutter! I repeat, shut your smelly slimy rotten sewage! Foolish fool! You must have escaped a retard home! Look at this ezi pupupu!thunder fire that your mouth! It is you and your entire lineage that will die of HIV +Ebola! Amen! Furk you man! Jealous bitch!
DeleteGo and kill yourself because people gave me shout out! Useless thing! Pathetic retard, Get the hell out of my lane! Common smell off!
And you diamondblinqz shut your mouth and and go get your phone fixed!
Pepper ose oku the unquenchable!
Pepper my phone has never been faulty! Why are you this bitter? Because people disagree with your opinion? Wow... I actually thought you were different! Now I'm wrong yet again!
DeleteSmiles back to my q in place of g thanq! Life's qood! Lolzzz
Lol diamond blings na now you just dey wake. This Pepper is an impostor. Na since May she pursue the other pepper comot o. A lot of blog visitors have realised this already. Na "first to open google account" she take pursue the other pepper comot. I really miss the Original pepper. :(
DeleteWas that not the movie Adokiye did.
ReplyDeleteSome of them are posses too.
You should all be careful. The strange beings you are bringing to your homes should be thoroughly checked.
You have started missing Adokiye now oh
Deleteyes pls contact d agent so she wl b aware.she myt not know she s positive.tnx 4 d advice nd I hope all women looking 4 or already has a house help shld follow ds very important point
ReplyDeletePoster you are a very smart and wise woman! But you should hv told her d truth abt her status not just 4 d spreadinq but 4d unborn in her! Pls try and tell her!
ReplyDeleteHappens all the time. the 3 maids i almost paid for this year 3 had hepatitis C and 1 HIV. just got a clean one recently. The ignorance is to much in this country. if we had 1 thing right be it free basic healthcare, education, electricity. it would be a lot better. We honestly can do way better in this country
ReplyDeleteOnly you 3 maids? you most be a very very lazy ass woman or are u boosting as many for here.
DeleteWhats the big deal Anony 11.04. Changing maids has nothing to do witj being lazy. So if they tested positive, she should keep them? Once I dont feel comfortable with them, I send them back. I have had 2 in 3 weeks.
DeletePlease shut up! She didn't say she got the 3 at the same time, did she? And even if? Some ppl have very big houses and a lot of kids and very very busy schedules/ jobs, therefore the need for more helps.
DeleteWhy r u quick in judging? If you are married, you would have realised the 3 maids were not employed at once but one after d other after discovering their status.
DeleteSee them lazy asses is normal with most of u to have 5maids. Only lazy women keep more than one house maid. If u are paying their health insurance and taxes u wont boast of even one maid. Cheap employment andpoverty is only reason such happens. Most of our women are lazy after child birth so all anonymous u guys should shut up.
DeleteMost people are already doing this, no one wants to harbour health risks under their roof.
ReplyDeleteThe girl needs to know her status asap so that she can start taking PMTCT medications. Poster please disclose what you have discovered it will go a long way for the mother and her unborn baby
Nawa o, "not only pregnant but hiv +ve"! I don't even know what to say. but poster, i don't blame u at all; one has to safeguard ones surroundings as best as possible.
ReplyDeleteHappy sunday all sdkers, abeg make una shine ya eyes o, this is more than scary.
Click my name for all your celebration cakes n cupcakes, cheers
Poster please contcat the person that brought her to you and let them know what you found out. Chai!
ReplyDeleteYes , very important. We had similar experience. The help that was brought tested positive to the virus. For the sake of the kids.
ReplyDeleteToo bad people who are hired to care for others do not get the luxury of knowing their employers medical status. I wonder how many househelps are washing clothing, sheets, and towels for employers who are hiv positive.
ReplyDeleteBlog visitor, I am amazed at your nonchalance about something as serious as HIV! Who cares that you sent her packing? Before nko? How could you not tell her and whatever guardian brought her? So she should continue spreading the virus and not take precautions concerning the baby she's carrying?
ReplyDeleteYou are a wicked woman! This your public announcement here does not cut it. Your duty should be towards the girl, not us. You owe it to her and her unborn child.
Did u think the maid did not know? Why did she leave where she was before? This is mid-year o. Even if she tells her, am sure d agent will still take her to another household. Abeg Poster, you did the right thing. Just hand the result to the agent. Let them be the harbinger of the news.
DeleteAnonymous you are a wicked idiot.... So she left midyear is because she knows her status? Do U know some leave cos of the pay and if they feel they will be treated better cos of even the location of the clients? Wicked witch ur types want househelps to take care of ur kids yet u don't care about them.... It's ur types who maltreat them and it's your types who deserve bad ones..... This life if u are wicked to others u will receive it a hundred fold... Only a wicked person will not tell a woman who is pregnant about her HIV status..... Poster what u did was very wicked and u shld ask God for mercy
DeleteHmmmm! Dts a gud one. As a mother, u need to be extra cautious and vigilant; esp wen it concerns d kids
ReplyDeleteDear poster you shud ave told her, lying to her doesnt solve the problem...its best if she knows her status and get all the necessary help she need..I think you shud call her agent and tell them abt your discovery. Atleast you have the test result to back u up#happysundayy'all
ReplyDeleteDid u read the post properly? Hw did she lie to her?
DeleteA lot of them know they are HIV+ and happily have unsafe sex. It is the men of the house who go around sleeping with house girls, without protection, who need counseling. Bottom line is, it is we wives who suffer. A man will go and bring disease to you. A married woman can't negotiate sex. I had a nanny who had HIV. But she wasn't surprised or distraught when I told her. Which means she knew her status. This story should not be about HIV+ house girls. But about wives infected with HIV and other STIs by their dear husbands.
ReplyDeleteShe might not be surprised bcos she probably does nt understand the gravity of wot u told her,not all of dem know. They need to be educated abt a lot of things
DeleteMy dear tnx 4 this mail cos its an eye opener. Such tests r very necessary when employing domestic helps. Which criticize? D days r evil better safe than sorry.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm... this is new, another thing to be afraid of, I was expecting witchy witchy or a Molestation Story. Na wa o
ReplyDeleteAbout telling her, I'm sure Poster didn't want to be the breaker of such bad news, I wouldn't want to be in that position myself, but u should have told her agents.
Madam stella, u dont tell other ppl abt som1 else's HIV status, nt even d person's family.
ReplyDelete@ Poster dia is nothing rong wit protecting ur family.
I worry abit for d gal, i hope she gets a job.but poster u shld av asked d doctor to counsel d gal. What a pity!
What are you saying.. The poster is so wrong for not telling her? The doctors are so wrong for giving her the girls result,where is the patient doctor confidentiality? They doctors should have counselled the girl after her results was given to her in front of the madam if she wants.. But the poster wasn't wrong in sending her back...
Delete@ Qutie, u r rite(no be nigerian docs?). The poster cld even get in2 trouble for doin HIV test witout d gal knowing wat d test entailed.
DeleteSee as Eggshell quickly changed gears,why didn't you engage Qutie in your usua cuss rant.You always want to pass yourself off as somebody with medical background or stil in study.You failed woefully.
Delete#Smiles @ 9:55! I neva sed wat I wrote was wrong. And dia is nothing rong in acknowledgin wat odas rote, it doesn't show weakness it only shows u r open minded(dis is a lesson taught u by a yonga gal). I really need to update u abt my latest achievement, cos dis my medical sch gist is bcomin stale #Cheers.
DeleteLord have mercy, I'm so indifferent when it comes to having a house help, but then again, mixing your work and household thing aint easy. God help us.
ReplyDeleteStella this ur caption scared me o, i tot the house help killed her child. HIV is not a death sentence abeg, my cousin has had it since 2004 and many pple ve died frm other things since then and he is still alive n very healthy. Dear poster, please tell the agent that brought her so she can get medical help before it kills her slowly.
ReplyDeleteIts very common to see intending Househelps testing positive to pregnancy, HIV and hepatitis B. In my line of work as a Medical Lab Scientist, i have witnessed so many. I always feel pity for them and i encourage the guardian with them to disclose their results to them so they can get help.
ReplyDeleteHousehelp issue has too many wahala. Just yesterday my friends cousin discovered her Househelp loaded a big thrash bag with her kids clothes, rice, beans, garri and so many of her valuables. The Househelp hid the bag in the gutter not knowing an eagle eyed woman saw her. The discovery really shocked the madam because she was extra nice to the Househelp and was even planning to put her in school so she can complete her Secondary education and get her WAEC.
Dey are always "planning to" put them in school until dey commit an offence! Mscheeew
DeletePoster pls just do as Stella suggests..
ReplyDeleteShe needs to know.
#OneLove#
Every agents always run test on they product,Here in S/L almost all d agents carry out test b4 supplying.U did a 9ce job.
ReplyDeleteYea Aunty Stella is right. You should have told her. So awon Randy husbands that will sleep with toilet bowl if you put a skirt on it, continue o. And ladies, with our Randy husbands...you better use protection or quit sleeping with him till he runs extensive tests. Na so people dey end their lives unknowingly.
ReplyDeleteI got a helper after I had my baby for only 3months and decided I can manage on my own for now. And she didn't live with us o , still I had the medicals done. Poster pls let the girl or the agent know about her status PLEASE. P.S It's my job to look after my baby, I didn't allow any1 near her lol
ReplyDeleteNobody will victimise you afterall like you said, u have 2 innocent kids. Inform the agency and also show them the result of the tests done too. And I think you also need to inform the girl. Well since you hv sent her back sha. The earlier she starts her medication, the better for her. I pity the guys (husbands inclusive) that she must have slept with. Or rather, I pity the wives and babes who of the men she has slept with. That is, if more than one person sef.
ReplyDelete*wives and babes of the men*
DeleteYou were not even meant to see her test results cos it's meant to be confidential but you know naija and our ways. Its her life and her body so she ought to know that she is infected with the virus so she can seek medical attention. She's carrying a baby for goodness sakes. Thank God for everything nevertheless
ReplyDeleteWhat is the essence of asking for a test to be done if you can't see the result? It was at the poster's request that the test was carried out in the first place. I don't think she wanted the house help to do the test just so the doctor can keep the results.
DeleteIf she is pregnant and going to keep the baby, she'll soon know... I think. And if she decides to abort... I pray the doctor sterilises his equipments.
ReplyDeleteOga ooo. But pls tell her that she is hiv positive
ReplyDeleteThis one pass me, thanks for the tips poster, when next I land in lagos the house help dey go for tests abeg I can't shout!
ReplyDeleteI alwayz make sure dei r tested b4 d get into my houz oooo. 2 avoid stories dat touch!
ReplyDeleteYes she needs to know madame. You only told her she is preggy which she may already knw, y not help her to know the one she won't even bliv she has in a million yrs to come? Pls if you can reach out to her take her to another testing centre and let them re-check then let a doctor or one of the counsellors there explain her condition to her and place her on the needed retovirals. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteThis one no b new thing na.its normal to take ur househelp for hiv test.my sisters hsehelp too was positive.....nyc girl too bad she had to go
ReplyDeleteJules
Wow!!...
ReplyDeleteThis is so so scary!!...I wonder how she got the Hiv and the pregnancy...Choi...
Stella is so right,most of these househelps sleeps with Oga in the house that's why I prefer a nanny that comes in the morning and leave in the evening....
Chukwu zoba madu...
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
Whoever yu are yu are so wicked and heartless untill yu tell her about her current situation pls go to hell....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Dis one pass me ooo, they are bringing one maid for me from d village. I most do all rounda test for her biko. I don't want wahala
ReplyDeleteWhen last did u and ur husband go for test? Just pointing out that not only village housegirls have diseases.
DeleteAdonbelivit in Stellas voice!
ReplyDeleteNow that's really really scary....@fweshdee
ReplyDeleteWith so many thins to fear how does one evn begin to enjoy this life. Na wa oh.
ReplyDeleteMISS ARNYTAH.
Im getting married and I have to do tests. Pls who knows where I can go for std tests? Preferably somewhere I can do all of it at a go.
ReplyDeleteDont you have friends and families? Stop asking stupid question here. You will soon come here to ask us how to open your punani for you soon to be hubby.
DeleteYou ddnt drop ur location and like the witches we are, we are suppposed to know where you live right?
DeleteItssokay
Go front. Turn left. Enter d second street. The blue house with green gate. They do tests there.
Kikikikiki Bianca bruno chai dia ris God O
DeleteLmao!!!! BiancaBruno u wicked gan!!!
DeleteLmao @bianca's comment...
DeleteLWKMD! @Bianca..
DeleteBuh like serizly, hw do u expect us to give you the details u require with this info of yours..
Lolzzzzzz @ bianca... Choi. But dis anon sef? Sometimes I wonder! Y don't u quys come here n ask us were u can wee n poo sef? Mtcheeew
DeleteL̳̿ö̤̣̇☺ː̗̀=))ː̖́☺ö̤̣̇L̳̿ =))º°˚˚˚°ºнaĦaнaº°˚˚˚°º=))..! =)) =)) =)) laffº°˚ ˚°º≈wanº°˚ ˚°º≈tearº°˚ ˚°º≈myº°˚ ˚°º≈belleº°˚ ˚°º≈=)) =)) ...Bianca
DeleteHmmm, I tire for all these una comments oo. Fine, I made a mistake, should have included my location but that doesn't give you guys the right to insult me. Stupid La, I have friends and families, if they had told me about a lab or Hosp then I wouldn't have asked you guys here in the first place but sha I understand your daftness. Bianca, your reply made me laugh!
DeleteI know places I can have the tests done but I want a place where I can do it "all" at a go.
I live in Maryland so anywhere in Lagos is good.
Please, I only want suggestions from serious minded people, I don't have time for all these small small girls that like running their mouth on SDK!
Small pikin calling us small girls here. Go to yaba left and do the test. Stupid question I repeat.
DeleteOld mama La, I agree I'm a small girl.
DeleteI sud go to yaba left? Like seriously? Only bcos I asked a question? My advice to you, be careful of how you talk to people cos you don't know the prayer I rendered this morning before leaving my house. I won't curse you, I'm a Christian and I have class.
My dear brothers and sisters, not just medical tests but deliverance with a renowned pastor o. Many people wey we dey carry put for house na demon dem be o. Before u know it ur children have been initiated into occultism. Some turn to snakes at night, others scatter ur home. Let's be very careful pls
ReplyDeleteOh mehn see how many house girls testing positive for HIV and Hep. Isn't this like a huger percent of the population than the official stars are letting on. I hope all of you who had harbored the girls for a while get your husbands, teen sons, drivers and gate men tested ASAP.
ReplyDeleteGod be with us
ReplyDelete@Goldscent diamond & SDK thanks for your comments. Madam you have an unfinished business,contact her immediately also contact her agent tomorrow to inform them.
Am so scared of HIV test and am in an European country,cuz of dis I haven't done my stay here...how do you know if you have HIV.....since I got here I have fall sick nor visit the doctor....and am getting fat too ... Pls reply and don't a use me
ReplyDeletePls are you kajad man? Dear poster pls contact the agency,and I dnt tink you are wrong,the no of helps that I hear that are infected dis days eh,who knows,dey mite have been infected by the so called husbands that can sleep with anytin dat has a female name.May God hlp us
Delete*Sweetness*
Its good to know your status. Atleast every 6 months if you are sexually active.
DeleteYou can call your GP and request for a comprehensive blood test. Also you can go for counselling before and after the test. Goodluck
Dear poster, am amazed at your level of ignorance anyone can be a victim of HIV no matter HO̶̶̷̲̥̩̥̅̊͡ careful you think you are. Its not a killer disease anymore and cant be so easily transmitted. You need to locate this girl and take her to a counselling centre, there is hope for a normal life for her. Good luck
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteyou did the right thing sending her away. I wouldn't term it discrimination rather I'd call it "playing safe."
However,
you did wrong not informing her of her HIV status. you ought to have sat her down, talk to her calmly about her status (hiv & preg) ask her questions how it happened, advice her, pray with her, probably give her some money and send her away...all in good note.
You never know where she is coming from or what her story is.
Best comment!
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Linda, even the nanny isn't safe. God help us. Am so scared of HH and Nannies.
ReplyDeleteIts common and nothing new. Hepatitis B is even worse than HIV especially when you have children.
ReplyDeleteU only have control over the house help, what of your children's day care/ nursery teachers? Do u know their status as well? We can only show love to people infected or affected by the virus. Poster is not late to pass the information to the person concerned so she can get appropriate care. In these days that men can sleep with anyone, bcos those people that slept with her were other ladies husbands. Do u know ur own family status? HIV, hepatitis B and C are public health concerns and should not be discarded just like that.
ReplyDeleteWow,you are so right.. What about the daycares and crèches.. We can't demand for their own health details. Poster you should have told her what her result said.and also inform the agency..
DeleteThank God for people like u. Whenever issues of public health is discussed on this blog, it is treated with limited intelligence.
DeleteIt remains the choice of the employer who to employ but disparaging an HIV carrier is not only ignorant but disheartening. I currently have in counseling a family of 4 who contracted the virus thru their now 3 year old child. The baby was infected during one of the early child care visits. Due to the low immune system of babies, it became manifest after 6 weeks when the baby was bleeding thru different orifices. The mother became infected while tending to her baby and the 4 year old also. The husband was the last to catch it.
Imagine the devastation.
Lets stop discrimination and understand the disease. High blood pressure kills more than HIV and guess what, they both require diligent use of medicine to control them.
But Dr. you just reiterated our argument. Tests should be conducted on food service workers, health care workers and child care providers. Period. Non-negotiable. This ensures that the proper steps are taken to avoid transmission to the unsuspecting public. There are steps Dr. Enlighten us so we do the right thing. Testing is not castigation.
DeleteI know of a househelp that knew she was positive. She would cut herself and cut her bosses' children or prick herself and then prick them. She knew and she wanted to pass it on. To children! She was successful and that was how the mother found out.
If you want to end discrimination, enlighten the public but don't infer that testing is wrong.
Anony, I did not say testing is wrong. I am only speaking to the attitude towards those living with HIV. Always get tested. Always.
DeleteI wonder why u people crucified Dr O. On his earlier post...this commenter is saying the same thing.....
DeleteAids no de show for face..that your beautiful friend that's in your house 24/7 May b a carrier....
Poster you are a wicked witch..... Hate people like you who care only about themselves.... So u think the househelp is not human abi? Just an object to look after your kids..... Yet you all expect them to take care of your kids but you don't care about them..... Why did you not tell her of her HIV status? For your information u have not said anything a lot of women don't know....... U are wicked and it's sad that people are still this self centered..... Do u not know u are saving her life by telling her? Now she will just go on without taking drugs and taking care of herself....God will judge you for that wickedness...... Treat others as you would want to be treated...
ReplyDeletePoster yes you deserve criticism.... Don't you have an iota of human kindness in you? Why will u find out she is pregnant plus positive and assume she knows already or whatever your reasons are? Househelps are humans and if we expect them to also treat our households kindly then we do the same...if they turn out bad that's a diff story..... Yes we heAr bad stories but it's for us to be extra vigilant but for u not to have told that girl was wicked of you.....evil thrives when people keep repeating the same cycle.... If she didn't know you are putting the unborn child and mother in further danger
ReplyDeleteMadam you did the right thing by sending her away. The only thing you did wrong is not telling her she is HIV positive and i believe it is not too late. Please let her know ASAP!
ReplyDeleteNobody should criticize you for victimising her?...Ok here goes... Weldone! Great Job! Kudos! Congrats! .....happy?? You need 100 hours of therapy cuz there are so many things wrong with this picture you just painted...
ReplyDeletePut her on treatment now what kind of wicked person are you? She insure looks clean? What if your husband jams her on the road and sleeps with her raw? Please go and look for her and put her on treatment so that her HIV won't be spreadable. Please be a good person. You might be saving your own relation or friend. You should tell her that she will be alright as long as she takes her medicine.
ReplyDeleteNo help sleeps one night in my house without full medical test oo. I cannot shout!
ReplyDeleteEven when the test comes back negative, they still can't share my plates, cups and cutlery unless they do it behind me which I doubt. We eat the same good but everyone has their own plates, cups n cutlery.
@ the person that said they share cutlery, berra be careful oo. you don't know what they do when they take their off or even with your gateman when your not home.
It is WRONG, VERY WRONG to conduct Hiv test on someone workout their consent!!!.
ReplyDeletean employer has the right to run tests on his or her employee. even when you look for a white collar job, these tests are required.
ReplyDeletebut its important u call the girl and inform her of the status, dont involve a 3rd person or her agency repect her privacy. if not for anything at least for the baby she is carrying so she can get help and not infect the unborn child.
whether you did right by sendig her away is your own cup of tea
please inform the agency where you got her from. she needs to know about her status so that she can get help other wise she will keep spreading it without knowing she has it.
ReplyDeleteIgnorance is such a big crime. Do you honestly think HIV infects only house helps, gatemen and conductors? My dear you will be amazed how it spreads amongst the middle class and upper class, university students and even primary school children. I have seen an innocent 2 month old baby born with the virus at the orphanage. No one is condemning you for trying to protect your family but I just can't get the wickedness of you not informing her about her status knowing she is carrying a life in her. Haba! The sooner we are more enlightened and stop discrimination against victims of the virus the healthier and safer our society will be. Babies are been born with this virus now for Christ's sake! Madam if not for your own sake then do it for your children- let the lady know her status. May our children not reap fruits of our wicked and selfish deeds.
ReplyDelete@ poster u did d right thing by send her packg but she has d right to know her status,, u are very wrong in dat expect,,pls oooo contact her for her result,,may God bless u as u do dat
ReplyDeleteTrue dat! Medical test is a "must do". However, there are free drugs in lagos state (general hospitals) which the maid can use to prevent her child from contacting the virus. The earlier the better. Pls do not withold such infromation from her . Cheers!
ReplyDeleteEnlightenment! Enlightenment! Enlightenment.
ReplyDeleteHIV is not a death sentence! I repeat, HIV is NOT a death sentence.
I totally understand the stigma associated with the disease and so on. But a lot of people will die of Cancer, High BP, Heart diseases before an HIV patient.
I totally agree with denying her employment based on health status, but do you know the health status of your tomatoes seller? Your water seller? Your gala maker? Your garri maker? Your driver? Your gateman?
"Remember that we are all human first, circumstances determine our fates or levels of humanity".
Inform her about her circumstances, there are drugs that can save that baby from HIV.
♥Shout out to my mom for hiring a teenage help and her pregnancy, which later became her baby. And then then educating her♥
I live in SA and it is not right to have a test on any maid whatsoever. U would be sued if you took the maid for an HIV test, even asking her to have an HIV means that you are infringing on her rights to have employment. It is by God's grace that we get househelps although i decided not to get one cause of those issues. moreover u never know who has HIV as family members as well can be infected and u never know. Daycare is another issue as u never know who is infected.
ReplyDeleteNothing unusual here but a few critical things to note:-
ReplyDeleteFirst the poster should ensure that the pregnant lady is informed. That way any mother to child HIV transmission can be prevented during delivery
Second any caregiver we intend to bring into our homes – related or not – should undergo not jut HIV and Pregnancy but also Hepatitis (B & C) and Tuberculosis. It is also helpful to undergo all these tests as well
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My dear i have had househelps with everything uve mentioned. I linked the hiv + girl to an aids foundation, gave her a good amount of money and explained it all to her. Of course she had to leave but we kept i. Touch and shes thriving today. U should have told her and assisted her. Im not judging u anyway but i think we should all learn to help everyone we come in contact with that we can.
ReplyDeleteWow, when we think we are taking 1 step forward we then take 20 steps backm
ReplyDeleteWhat hospital conducted HIV test without adequate counseling??????
Why was there no post counseling especially as the client was pregnant?
We are spending so much to prevent mother to chilld transmission and idiots and quacks jeopardise our efforts.
I hope the poster herself does regular tests as HIV is not exclusive to househelps.
hmmmmmm. I conduct HIV and HEPATITIS test. Once a very fine girl had hepatisis, my twins were bearly 3months old and i told her to go take care of herself i even gave her the test result. After that the next was hiv 1 and 2 positive. I couldn't tell her to her face, but, i actually called her so called aunt to let her know. but her response made it obvious that they knew and only wanted her to go and work. Imagine, someone called you to inform you that your sister is hiv positive and your answer is realllyyyyy and she cut the phone. when i called her back she never picked the call again. God help us all.
ReplyDeleteThese days, if you require someone to be tested for HIV, the hospital has to get the consent of the person and the test result has to be communicated to the person as well- whether positive or negative. The only problem is if the house girl has the capacity to understand the magnitude of the situation and how she will take it. She may even decide to start transmitting it sef.
ReplyDeleteStop blaming the poster for not telling the girl. Give her a break abeg! I'm sure she can still inform the agent to inform her but that should be her prerogative given the situation
I just did HIV test and I am free oohhh.
ReplyDeleteChai! abuse me all u want, but in d past year I have tried dating three guys and did all without condom oh, at some point. things didn't work out, so I am back to single status. and honestly, if I found out I had I would have taken in my stride cos I have been a bit careless, I must admit. Well, My heart can stop pounding now. Last one was in February. Will do a test again by end of the year. God forgive me oohh
it is a pity that our country is in this poverty mess, chai! chineke mm eeh...house helps ndo nu..
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