Gist don land,read and digest and please discuss the question asked at the end...
An actress whom you will not classify as a Nollywood actress but whom could be one just got divorced and had to announce it when her alleged secret boo announced their affair when he went on his knees on twitter to 'beg' her to take him back,you remember?...........wondering what is new about the gist?
Oh well, insiders reveal that the actress had to quickly severe the union which produced one pikin due to allegations of 'meandering privates' which she couldn't deal with.
The amebo's who know her confirm that you will never hear her even talking bad about him and but you will sense her deep hurt when anyone tries to probe her on the matter.
This actress bears the same first name with the lady whose betrothed was described as
''Verona brags of him to be a courteous and well governed youth....'' in a literature book.
The beautiful actress,like some people cannot stand cheating and i pray that God brings a man that respects love her way....and also knows how to zip up his privates in the heat of the moment.
I hear this actress is beautiful inside out and has a heart of gold,i don't doubt.
Kisses to her,may she find a man that compliments her name.
*Now i need to ask this question and it refers to both male and female...If you find out that your partner had been or is steadily unfaithful but religiously uses condom,would it be easier to forgive them?
Abeg old gist joor
ReplyDeleteStella of life, I know this girl very well, how can she complain about him cheating when she fucks around. She go paris with a guy I know, igbo man dat lives In ajah area nd even beg him to take her on a trip again. Dat she will tell her hubby say she de go buy stuffs for her shop. ....Abeg make she park well joor.
DeleteHmmm stella this juliet ibrahim is a standard whore, proper runs girl, aristo, ashawo, ashana. She's not innocent oo. Always looking for hook-ups to rich men. Abeg if her husband's dick us wandering its because her pussy doesn't sit at home and it's probably too loose and smelly from all the old men she has straffed. I know some of her pimps in this lagos. As fine as she is she's just a common slut. She have at least taken a cue from Caroline danjuma and be decent and classy.
DeleteIf he is rich,I will forgive him ohh afterall,most men cheat...but if he is a broke ass nigga,I will dump his sorry ass and divorce him sharp sharp....
ReplyDeleteBroke ass ke??God forbid!!
DeleteJuliet ibrahim!!!
ReplyDeleteMost men cheat anyways!
Atleast use a condom and dont let me catch you and dont flaunt it in my face. Period!
Gbamest
DeleteGbamest
DeleteI would rather end d relationship. God knows I can't stand a cheating man.
ReplyDeletePhrinkies I totally agree with u. it's better safe than sorry!! But I really don't get why most men still cheat even when they have women with great hearts as wives.....it's soooo appalling.....kmt!
DeleteAnd most women dont cheat right? Wether u re with gay, lesbian, straight people will akways cheat. @phrinkie na ue type men dey cheat on stil stand. @ Tony nko
DeleteNa great heart pesin go fuck? Great heart dey give baddest head plus wickedest winding? Abegi, nothing can make up for a boring emotionless fuck.
DeleteGreat heart ko, great heart in!
Keep Fucking about.Dat your wickedest winding will soon land you with HIV and other STDs.Onisekuse.Ashewo man.
DeleteYou go soon fuck.Spirit.
Stella cheating is cheating o! Condom or not!!
ReplyDeleteMe, I won't take it! If the guy is un-repentant about it, I will take my children and be off. I'd rather be single than be married to that kinda person.
Thank God for my hubby sha!! God I am grateful! I don't have to think about these kinda things cos I know how hard it can be for women in such relationships.
Soon we go hear ur story here soon please attach ur blog name when u tell stella about ur heart break
DeleteWhen ur kids grow up they will go back to their father and u on d other hand will probably remain single???or marry another cheat???but ur hubby will marry a woman that will tolerate his excesses and give her kids a stable home
DeleteRomeo Babangida
DeleteWith or without condom, cheating is cheating.
Yaaay the sweet gossip is bck! Anyways I pray she finds love and respect!
ReplyDeleteAnd as for the question I do not pray for a cheating partner o @ll @ll and for hm to have sense to use protection tank you jesus!
*Sweetness*
Juliet Ibrahim the Gollywood Actress
ReplyDeleteGod pls save our marriage dis days
ReplyDeleteAmen o my Sister.
Delete
ReplyDeleteJuliet Ibrahim
EOD
ReplyDeleteJuliet Ibrahim
EOD
Juliet Ibrahim...
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm, stella this ur question get k leg...
Lemme wait for the comments
Julieth ibrahim. If I marry tomorrow to a man who cheats, I wnt care provided he does it secretly without infecting me, treats me like a queen n allows me do wotever I like, I dnt mind. All I want is to make myself n others around happy n dnt give a flying fuck about anyman dt can't zip his trousers with his lousy hide n seek bitch.
ReplyDeleteChai, backwards mentality. So, here's my question, why did you get married in the first place? Nigeria is advanced now that if you have a kid out of wedlock, you don't get ostracized. So, if you want kids, why dont you go that route? You wont care as long as he doesnt infect you? Igba wo ni maku o wa ni ku? When wont infection happen? AIDS and HIV are not the only STDs out there that can kill, you know? HPV is there, you could have it and not know, chlamydia is there, its treatable. When you look at yourself in the mirror everyday, tell me, what do you see? Im not trying to be funny o, i am really interested in what goes through your mind and the likes of you. Do you think you are a respectful person and you feel you deserve respect? I sure hope you see yourself as someone that deserves respects, so y in the hell will you let someone come and disrespect you? Dont you know a man that cheats on you is in essence spitting on you? Dont you think what you have, both acquired and God given should be held sacredly? What you might ask, I am talking about your pride, your dignity, your self respect, your innocence, your conscience, your spirituality, your heart. Even though those things are not tangible, they value more than money, more than any prized possession. So why then would you acquiesce to let someone willfully steal from you? Or dont you know, someone that cheats on you is stealing from you? If you dont mind someone stealing from you, robbing you of your divine inheritance such as your pride, your dignity, your innocence, then you might as well walk in front of a car and get your quick call to glory. Because those things are what defines a person. Please, sit down one day and write just half a page, who you think you are. If your real name is Queen Amy, write, "who is Queen Amy?" Define who you are. If you are one of those things I have described as a divine inheritance, never on this planet should you allow any man or anyone to steal from you what you have been divinely granted. Dont be like Esau.
DeleteAnnoyingmus summarize biko
DeleteLol
Deleteall this epistle for Queen Amy
issorait
Easy oo @ anon 5:13., * laughs* "who is queen amy" reminds me of the questions of existentialism.
DeleteLooks like someone here studied philosophy @existentialism...EEE!!!
DeleteHa Tee and Miss, na body pain me so. From Queens comment, it sounds as though she is still young. Na that make me say, the next generation coming up, make dem no be like our mama and papa o. Mama go dey cook, clean for house, papa go dey sleep with iyaleonko. Make we no dey breed acceptance of infidelity, na that shook my body so. Abeg no vex o. Sorry, my pidgin is horrible, I wish I knew how to converse in it.
DeleteEzewanyi, I like your earlier comment. That is the reality on ground.
DeleteIf we all begin to divorce cheating men, is it not another woman that would marry him?,And how are we sure the next man would be faithful? How many men we would marry before menopause come? And Having kids for different husbands?,And is it not married men divorcees sleep with the most to help them out financially? Please this is not black and white. So many things are to be considered. Some talking here came from homes that their mothers endured their cheating fathers way for the sake of the children to have stability, do they think a stepmother would care about them like their own mother?
I do not condon cheating. It does matter if he, or she uses condom.
ReplyDeleteJuliet Ibrahim, her ex hubby Kwadwo Safo and her bf who was begging her on twitter Abi youtube ik ogbonna
ReplyDeleteWho else than Juliet ibrahim! Smh some men re fouls o
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahahahaha! Stella my hubby cheats and I always pray he neva 4gets 2 use condom ooo.
ReplyDeleteDey say All men cheat and some women Too...buh truth is dat i dont wanna know about it...i dont cheat...wil never cheat(dere r other ways,talk à walk baby)d Général hasnt made me suspicious even for a second...buh truth be told,i,The General's Wife dont wanna know about it...ignorance is Bliss.dat being said,Forgiveness is a virtue i dont have in abundance...esp for dis kind of betrayal.buh stil yet,u never can tell.my prayer is dis:may We never experience infidelities in Our marriages.may what belong to us,forever belong n remain wit us.amen!
ReplyDeleteYou've spoken well, my dear
DeleteCoded,
ReplyDeleteD actress is juliet ibrahim. As for d question, I will neva 4give my hubby if he cheats on me just 1ce with or without condom.anyway he's not dat kind of person but if he tries it ehn hmnn him go hear qwin. I hate cheatin men. Iv alwaz bin faithful so y shuldnt he be. Dats y ladies av 2 b caredful b4 choosin a life partner. B4 some1 will now come and give u HIV 4m nowhere. Mtchewww
ReplyDeleteStella..abeg..Juliet is not a saint..She is worse than her husband, and a lot of people would attest to this...She has a very good heart though.
ReplyDeleteThis write up looks like linda eze comment. Linda did u go anon because of this story?
DeleteActually there is no form of forgiveness that's is easy, but we just have to forgive, that's why we need to pray for the heart and spirit of forgiveness, so that we can forgive at all time, that's the commandment of God, we must forgive, on our own, we can't forgive
ReplyDeleteBut unfaithfulness and cheating is highly unacceptable, and shows a high lack of responsibility and should be shown at all levels either in marriage, dating or courtship
Your comment will be visible after approval
Her name is Juliet Ibrahim. Cheating is cheating but to answer your question it will be a bit easier if he always uses condom. I don't think the fact that he uses condom will reduce the hurt though. The trust is BROKEN condom or no condom . #myopinion.
ReplyDeleteWhat's up with these "whom" all over the second paragraph. I don't get it Stella.
ReplyDeleteSDK!!!! Your on fire today!
ReplyDeleteChop kiss!
Juliet The actress from Ghana right?
Cheating is cheating Stelz!
Whether with protection or not!
The day I find out my hubby is cheating, or has cheated, that will be the end of a happy home for him!
ReplyDeleteI will make his life and home so miserable that he will either commit suicide or run away for ever.
What nonsense! After all the sacrifices, I get paid with infidelity? Ha! Odiro possibulu.. God forbid.
Even if he religiously wears 5 condoms at a go, I won't forgive. As a lady I know I have been faced with a lot of temptations and I didn't fall and will never fall and I expect same from him.
I demand absolute fidelity in marriage. Even if he tries it, he should make sure I never get to suspect talk more if hearing it.
I pray never to encounter such Amen.
I can't even imagine it. # shivers
How can I sleep on the same bed and eat from the same plate with a man I know cheats on me? Chimo!
God forbid again!!!
Genny, no b by mouth oo. There are some cold blooded men dat won't give a flying fuck about whether u forgive them or not, and may God help u if ure so in love with such kinda men. There's absolutely nothing u can do in such situations. In fact u might even b d one to contemplate suicide and still d man wont give a fuck other dan to continue his philandering ways. So, forget all these ur rants and pray to God to avoid anything dat will lead to this kinda situation
DeleteJust stick to your prayer never to experience it, that's ma prayer too. The rest u mentioned is history, bc ur showing him 'qwin'- na u go tire. If ma hubby cheats on me, amma forgive. It would hurt, but i will. Some true love story begins after maximum betrayal/forgiveness.
DeleteI repeat, I can't and I won't tolerate infidelity!!!
DeleteAnonymous 5.49 thanks allow this silly woman to be ranting. I Feel sorry for u @genny as u even rant he is doing it so take stella's chair n seat ur ass on it. Most of u who rant here have got the worst men but come here to show off. Abeg rest.
DeleteGenny go and sleep abeg, ure still a learner
DeleteAll na mouth!,when it happens you would find out that you can't do nothing! If you give him too much trouble, he would get closer to his mistress. At the end of the day, it's you that would cool down! Anybody you tell would say let go, even your pastor would say forgive. When he has gained your trust back, he would become heavily coded that you would be living in blissful ignorance.
DeleteNigerian women are their own worst enemies!
DeleteSee them here berating a fellow woman who is insisting that she will hold on to her principles and would not tolerate infidelity?! No words of encouragement from the old timers who ignored advice and their instincts to go and marry the WRONG man, maybe because he was from RIGHT tribe, desperation or some other silly reason. Now they are living with a man who doesn't care and they are literally advising younger women to just sit tight and stomach it all.
Women in western countries had to fight and die (suffragates etc) to be in the position where they are now. Oyinbo man go calculate the cost of divorce, maintenance allowance etc before hitting that random pussy being waved at his face. Even if he hits, it'll be under serious coded CIA + MI5 moves, in fact he can kill his mistress if she threatens to tell madam. Even if madam finds out, come see begging now. Madam sef go kuku tell am say make him first pack commot while she is considering his cheating ass (of course with him still paying her bills).
Do you think they achieved that status by just sitting on their fat asses while their husbands cheated, perhaps only raising their fat thighs for the occasional fuck every couple of months (and when there is no booty call for hubby) just to produce kids? No! They had to take a stand and fight for it.
Shame on you Nigerian women!
**"Disgusted Nigerian man.
@Diggah, thanks for your comment. Take 5 abeg. You have said it all.
DeleteDon't mind these desperate women who think with their anus.
That's why their husbands disrespect and cheat on them with impunity. Because he knows that they will always forgive and swallow his bs.
You people should keep indulging men ok. The same man that will kick you out without looking back if he ever hears you cheated even without confirming it.
You ladies with this "I must die in a man's house" mentality disgust me.
I don't roll with women who take shit from their husbands!
I thank God for my hubby, he is the best.
You all supporting infidelity in men should go on o.
Genny I do not want to start beef with you but on this issue, your emotions don't seem matured to me. The fact he comes home early doesn't mean he ain't flirting. So don't stress and if you want to kick his ass, be sure i'll load you my nephew,cousin,family friend,in law,and more until you are ready to be strong.
Delete@Tee, that is besides the point. You have to trust in your husband unless proved otherwise. Is this not supposed to be the man you love, cherish and think the world of? Are our wives supposed to view us as cheats and liars from the word go? It seems that this is what u women are advocating for in comments on this post.
DeleteWhy did you women get married in the first place self? Did love and suitability have anything to do with it? Or was it because of, like Diggah said above, Tribe, Money, Desperation?
juliet ibrahim
ReplyDeleteJules Ib and ik Ogb I guess
ReplyDelete"Romeo and Juliet"
Either ways it's not easy to 4give,but its easier to forgive when you know he uses condom because atleast you re sure your health is not been risked
ReplyDeleteStella, to be sincere i have that notion that every man is a cheat. so i will forgive him but i will make sure he provides 100% of his responsibility.
ReplyDeleteAbeg no time to worry myself for that.
All these fixation on 'cheating', 'faithfulness', etc are all acquired and possibly religious (and unAfrican!). The earlier our women move away from these attitudes the happier and more fulfilled they would be. Of course a man that faithfully uses condom shows he cares about you and himself.
ReplyDeleteThank you o!Leave many of them making too much noise. All you have to do is go down on your knees and pray to God.
DeleteEither ways it's not easy to 4give,but its easier to forgive when you know he uses condom because atleast you re sure your health is not been risked
ReplyDeleteMay she find a Romeo! Lol
ReplyDeleteGuessing its juliet ibrahim
ReplyDeletewho is the actress?
ReplyDeleteJuliet Ibrahim?
make I wait for the 'sharpos' on amebo matters to download
*****************************
its easier to forgive if he's on full protection at all times but ama kill somebody mehnnn......
If Adaeze yobo can forgive Joseph yobo with his walking peepee, why cnt you forgive
ReplyDeleteEasier said than done, love. Adaeze probably knew what she was getting into so she braced up to face that lifestyle. Most athletes are unfaithful because they are hardly able to stay home with their families. 2ndly, for the few good ones who try hard to honour their wedding vows, our dear groupies and "adorable female fans" wouldn't let them be. The truth is men are not wired physiologically and mentally to have only 1 sex partner for a long period of time. The few good men who are faithful to their partners fight against their own nature to be so. Sad but true, bearing that in mind, it's easier to deal with infidelity but it doesn't necessarily mend the broken or breaking heart. What I take exception to are the callous men who are repeated offenders and have zero consideration for the feelings of their partners. In such a case the spiritual significance of marriage seizes to exist, both parties become glorified room mates putting up a show in order to avoid ridicule. May God help us!
Delete1 am faithful to my wife because I fear God and love God. Being faithful is not easy with all the temptation around. Having a principle and a higher reason for faithfulness helps.
ReplyDeleteHowever, fearing and loving God also makes it easy for me to forgive any indiscretions.
I wish Juliet all the best...however the grass ain't any better on the other side.
1million likes. May God give you the grace to remain faithful to Him and to your wife.
DeleteLOL see dokitor pls this ur lies get as e bi. Dokitor okechukwu alias goody goody man abeg u lie. U dey for make all this women love u abi? Stories.
DeleteDOCTOR OkE! I don't believe you!
DeleteYou are just pulling our legs?
Juliet ibrahim?? That your question is tough o aunt Stella. The fact is that he cheated,it doesn't make it any easier jor.
ReplyDeleteAeegurl...
IDK who you're talking about but condom or no condom, I won't accept him back because the fact that you use condom does not lessen the hurt that I'ld feel...
ReplyDeleteLike salt says, cheating is for losers.
I won't forgive!
ReplyDeleteJuliet ibrahim, your hurt will be healed. It is well.
ReplyDeletexoxo mystery
U this woman, hope u won't kill somebody with your way of asking questions. Yes I wil forgive him, if he promise never to do it again
ReplyDeletequestions like dis r never easy to answer. for me, if d relationship is serious i wud not continue with it.
ReplyDeletewhy get married if you know u can't be faithful, using condom does not change the fact that u cheated...
ReplyDeletepls let's stop this attitude of bringing shame to the institution of marriage, it is sacred..
dnt hv a clue bt wl soon do all tnx to d amiable blog visitors
ReplyDeleteas for d qstn asked, whether condom was used or not, forgivin will b hard.its not d condom dat s my prob bt d thought of hm cheating on me.like is there still respect for our union???? nah , I doubt.
Romeo and Juliet
ReplyDeleteThat's some trick question. Lemmi go anon on this one. Was in a relationship with one he goat for 3years shy of a decade, goes after anything in skirt prefers hitting the several 'boxes' without rubber. I stayed put in the relationship for fear I had already contracted the dreaded infection.When I came to my senses, had to put distance between us for a whole year that alone killed the relationship after which I went to get tested. #phew# what a relief it came back negative. To your question Stella, even the most 'disciplined' man/woman that cheats with a condom would one day get comfortable enough to blow without protection with the person he/she is cheating. Not sure how I'd deal with that when I get married sha. For now abstinence is key.
ReplyDeleteYou are already anonymous so why announce. why are u even hidding to ccomment about ur self. This comment came from Mon Ami the Palms lekki runs girl so u don't want us to see u. Failed blogger.
DeleteLady in question is Juliet Ibrahim. New boo is IK
ReplyDeletethe truth is that it is very pianful to discover that your spouse/partner is cheating with or without proctection.the feeling of being played for a fool is so terrible!the fact that someone who you trust so much has been trampling on that trust,lying to you,deceiving you,is so demoralizing,would i easily forgive? Eventually i would have to for my own good but will the relationship/marriage continue depends on if He/She is truly sorry and repentatnt..God help us all......
ReplyDeleteNo....to your question
ReplyDeleteJuliet IBrahim. And amen to your prayers.....
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm! Religiously uses condom indeed! Her usage of condom was never as a mark of respect for me nor a preventive measure for me not to get infected if she does but for her own selfish sake. So, its never a yardstick for me to forgive. Forgiveness which seldomly occur is due to other considerations like children, social status etc. As for the ashewo actress, let me sit back for great SDKers' decoders to display their talents.
ReplyDeleteNO! But truth is u never know until u wear d shoes.
ReplyDeleteSince its on both side,when I see my RoboCop I will ask him. On the other hand boys cheat while men ask for permission by saying: woman give me this thing ooo and don't push me to the wall. Solution cheatÏ€1= buy RockyStick,√2= WOUND AM, period!
ReplyDeleteN:B
Not seeking,so Don't give me attention. I ain't new here
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
It depends, if the hole can still hold my doodie then no problem but if the hole is so wide that it cant hold my doodie again then she just gat to leave bcos mehn i will feel less of a man......
.
.
***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
I be goat.
DeleteAm allergic to cheats stella. i cnt just deal . if i have to forgive the persn, then dat love will never remain the same. it will be so obvious dat u'll have no option than walk away. I am a one woman, one man kinda gurl. my frnds find it absurd tho. i dnt knw if its just me. thank God i found a partner #JulietIbrahim..
ReplyDeleteHahahahhAhahahaha
DeleteDon't mumu urself o
Speak for urself and urself alone
ALL THESE MARRIED AND BREAK UP YAFF TIRE ME
ReplyDeleteCondom or not,cheating is cheating
ReplyDeleteJuliet ibrahim and her toy boy Ik Ogbonna. What was she thinking? Is he her mate? Let a child play in d sand biko. When he comes of age he will stop. #leave Nigerian Men alone# Ghana must go.
ReplyDeleteNope!
ReplyDeleteOnce a Cheat, always a piece of Shit!!!
Welcome back.
DeleteHey Doc, I've been around.........#TheDimensionInWhichTheMediaHasTurnedMakesMePukeTheseDayz......
DeleteCheers Man!
Yeepee coldstone teeth is back. 'My guy where goeth thou'
DeleteYomslaw abeg which toothpaste u de use? I wan make my teeth de shine from a distance like ur own lolz
DeleteSDK u too like gossip
ReplyDeleteDoes using a condom reduce d magnitude of d cheating crime? Condom or not, cheating is cheating. And whichever way, e go hard to forgive. But dat doesn't mean I can't forgive tho.
Anty Stella, you should be a host abi hostess on 'Who wants to be a Millionaire'. The way you put confusion insyd person head! Whew!
ReplyDeleteComing back to read comments for those that wee decode this.
This comment has been removed by the author.
ReplyDeleteMadam post comment na
ReplyDeleteI wud leave our SDK decoders to decode who dis actress is.
ReplyDeleteAs for your question Stella, I think i will forgive my partner as far as he is always wearing a condom. After all, all guyz cheat.
It is in all mans nature to cheat. It is un unforgivable but every woman wants a happy home. As long as he respects me and not flaunts his hoes in front of me. Such is life.
ReplyDeleteCondoms cannot prevent mammy water spirit, spirit wives/ husbands so men and women should stick to their spouses
ReplyDeleteGbam
DeleteOf course not.cheating is cheating. Whether with condom or without condom. Let's not forget that condoms aren't 100% safe. Hmmmm, I found a sex tape of my husband since August last year and till today, it hurts to even think about it. Talk less of a permanently randy husband.
ReplyDeleteVery impressed Stella, would never have thought of you as a literature buff. Clearly you are quoting from Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet :-)
ReplyDeleteJuliet ibrahim...men can cheat for africa nawaooo
ReplyDeleteJuliet Ibrahim
ReplyDeleteSeriously stella it's not about using condoms because it's really hurting to find your partner cheating on you,condoms or no condoms,it will really take the grace of God to continue that relstionship that is if i am married and if we are just dating,i will opt out. Jaydiva.
ReplyDeleteSo it was her husband that was cheating?............... There's more to this story. Waiting for the "informed" olofofos. *wink*
ReplyDeleteJuliet ibrahim. Aunty Stella dis ur qweshionn hard oo. Will forgive him sha
ReplyDeleteThis question is tough but the last time I checked, condoms are not 100% safe tho. forgiving a cheating partner is so tough esp when you are tryin your best to make it work and you put your all into the relationship and the dude stays messing up. It's tough hun.
ReplyDeleteNope!!! The use of condoms just shows that they were thinking enough to protect themselves against diseases and unwanted pregnancy, but couldn't think enough to protect me from the pain they are causing.
ReplyDeleteJuliet Ibrahim asehwo no b work. Na wa oooo...thats y I dislike some actresses, they can't simply stay married rather faithful. Why go into a relationship such as marriage when you r not prepared for it . It's a huge commitment. It's not by posting how you engaged or was engaged on net or having the most extravagant wedding.Marriage is much more than that.married folks should learn to b faithful to their spouses. To answer the question sdk if I found out that my spouse is cheating,I would confront him, pray to God to touch him and change him at the same time shower him more love and attention and seek advice/counsel from elder folks/parents/pastor...if he continues then drastic action must be taken.
ReplyDeleteAdaora
Adaora Adaora Adaora ...ashawo no be workkkkk
DeleteAnony 5:28pm ashewo no b work,u hear am so.i know its u Juliet or one of her fans. Better take heed now
DeleteAdaora
Anony 5:280m ashewo no be work ohhh.i know it's u Juliet or her fellow runz geh.u better change your ways now
DeleteAdaora
Let me act like you.
DeleteAdaobi anoni am sure you both trade in d ashewo,that's why you know ba!..
Be reasonable in your typing and calculative whenever judging. Mgbeke feeling stupid
Juliet ibrahim..I might depends on the situation
ReplyDeleteYes it would be eaiser to forgive but that doesnt mean i will forgive abeg. Nobody cheats without reason so let us not judge. Some men deny their wives sex and intimacy and while some people hear would argue that sex is not important in a relationship, you cant help but recognise that sex is the foundation of the level of intimacy between couples because it isnt just used for procreation. This also goes for some women who deny their husbands sex. If you arentbsexually compatible with your partner and (or) you selfishly deny them sex , biko no vex when u hear say dem de cheat. Simple. You will be shocked that this juliet as fine as she be was probably too busy to satisfy her hussy or wasnt fun in bed. Great sex no be by fineness o. Na why unde see oga wey de fuck househelp pass madam. Then again its also very possible her hussy was denying her sex and sleeping around. It could be either way stella so really lets not judge abeg
ReplyDeleteMen nd deir ways...i wont forgv him if i were d one..
ReplyDeletePls visit my shoe blog
www.glowysofiscated.blogspot.com
My dear I tire.....forgiving is not the problem bUT staying put in the relationship is the problem....... My supposed boo impregnated a lady.....2yrs into our relationship the child is 1yrs now....he told me he may likely have a child with a lady but he is not sure.....that was when the child was 9months old....I didn't even know. He has seen this child he told me he hasn't seen the child..Only to go through his phone(yes I had my suspicions...he doesn't lock his phones because I don't normally check ppl phones) and I saw pictures of him and the child that he said he has not seen....meanwhile he has proposed or rather playfully asked will you marry me on some occasions that the question looks or sounds stupid to me....
ReplyDeleteNow he is apologizing and saying he wants the relationship to go on....dat blahblah he can never marry d gurl that it was all a mistake in the past....and all BS. I personally told myself that I'm moving on....but some of my folks are saying I should be calm that since no other guy is on my matter yet I should just chill....that the guy may actually be saying the truth...and that besides I will soon be changing location and I will meet new ppl...(the guy d babymama and myself are currently in the same town )....I know he communicates with the lady regularly I didn't even bother to complain because in real sense should I have expected less?
My own be sey I love myself pass anybody for dis life. So far he uses condom. I will forgive him. I no want who go carry him own reggae kom use spoil my blues
ReplyDeleteCondom dey fail oooooo..........
DeleteMe I get african insurance,yoruba people call it " gbere" if d man get disease or juju for body him blokos no fit get up and its better to avoid stories that touch.
There are men and women u sleep with,u open doors for d devil cos u ve shared spirits with them and these people go back and sleep with their spouses. .....una no go understand so byebye
Ezenwanyi, I totally understand and it scares the shit out of me, especially with the kind of stories I hear these days.
DeleteThere was this guy asking my friend out and he's into politics apparently and is very rich.
She has this pastor that prays for her and the guy warned her sternly that she shouldn't make the mistake of having sex with the guy because he was planning to 'take her positive destiny', use it for himself and render her useless.
Ezenwanyi God bless u for what u just said sex is a spiritual ting and pple Dnt get dt u exchange spirits when you sleep wit pple! Jezebel, mama water etc I sorry 4una! Condom or no condom u r not still safe! My dad cheated on my mom WITH CONDOMS for over 40 years of marriage dey married when my mom was 19 and he 24 nah so e catch aids full blown aids now he's 6t under! B wiise dis one no b super story!
DeleteI know d actress!!! It's Juliet Ibrahim! Lol and her lover is IK Ogbona! Lol *sips wine*
ReplyDeleteDoris Simeon
ReplyDeleteDoris Simeon
ReplyDeleteWho is the actress? Juliet Ibrahim? oyibo pepe toh bad :D! immediately she started to hop & jump all over the place I said that this woman's marriage is going to pack up oh if she doesn't settle down soon & guess what? It did!
ReplyDeleteHope that whatever it is she is looking for makes up for what she has thrown away.
As for your question...cheating is cheating whether you condomise the prick or not. Am allergic to cheating biko I no fit shout. If I can be faithful to you why won't you?
Cheating is cheating with/without protection, it hurts real badly. I can forgive but not forget. D truth is that u hadly see a man that'll be totally faithful these days. Btw u r referring to juliet ibrahim.
ReplyDeleteOpting out is the best....cos some ppl will never change this is wen you are still dating but it's all easier said than done....
ReplyDeleteJuliet Ibrahim
ReplyDeleteI caught my hubby sleeping with my maid ystrdy. I wasn't annoyed or furious, I was just furious dt 1 wud stoop dt low 2 slp with d help. The man isn't even remorseful and really I don't give a flying fuck abt wt he does henceforth. Ego won't let him apologize, but it was wn I threatened him with d police n getting d girl tested 2 c if there's semen in her, he started behaving like a mouse.
ReplyDeleteWould I ctinue in ds marriage? Cn I forgive him? NO NO and NO.
He's going 2 pay big time n run wn ever he sees pussy.
@Anon 3:21 u sounded like it wasn't thefirst time,i understand how you feel because i was once in your shoes,some men are just full of sh**t,most of them get caught and don't show remorse even if they say "i'm sorry",pls don't do anything silly,just hand it over to God,i mean don't harm him,may the lord strenghten and comfort you.
DeleteChai God strengthen you Lady..u must be a walking time bomb about to explode, shit like this hurts like crazy. *hugs* Its well!
DeleteAnd How do you plan to go about it?
DeleteI am d master of d game when it comes to deception
Deleteshow him u dont care
be indifferent to him.. do not ha
te him cos if u do it means u still care
serve him cold and tastless meal and when he complains tell him sorry.....no more chats....keep asking for more and more money......become cold and ruthless.....d summary of it all is dont give a hoot if he humps anything in sight and once he sees u don't care his senses will cime back.
**his senses can only come back if u are a solid woman.
If U want to listen to so called millionaire wife advice be ready to see ur loads outside. What works for her might not work for u . For your husband to stop so low with househelp that means there is something u are not doing right that the help is doing good. Check urself very well. His action are wrong but u also need to ask urself question. Most of u come here and talk about men but when u are not doing ur job as female someone else will help u out.
DeleteSo called what???????pls fyi am a billionaire's wife and its not in naira but dollars.
Deleteu can go and throw urself to d sharks. Idiot
Juliet ibrahim's husband cheated on her, she didnt cheat on him. Why can't people read and comprehend? is it rocket science?
ReplyDeletexoxo mystery
You can't answer till u r faced with this problem! Most of u will come here and type sturvs u can't do in a hundred years. Most men cheat. Most of ur men cheat, I don't see you leaving them; don't ask me if I'll leave mine cos I'm not going to! I will fight tooth n nail for my baba ibeji!
ReplyDeleteIya Ibeji, we r not talking about a one time sexcapade, we are talking about repeat offender and on top that, repeat offender without remorse. I will fight for my husband if some ashawo two kobo tries, but if he is a repeat offender, biko, you need your sanity and you need your ibeji to see you as that strong woman. What you teach your kids stays with them, but not only verbal messages, subliminal messages too, like putting up with a consistent cheating spouse. Pity your kids o because one day one day, that man will not come home alone, he will bring with him other hosts as wells, mr HIV will waka come, Mr. AIDS will waka come, Mr. Chlamydia will waka come, Mr. HPV woll waka come, now you will have to entertain all of them plus your man. Do the ibeji a favor, leave that man fast fast, you will find another one that will treat you right, and above all, you will be smarter and wiser.
DeleteThis is not mathematics that you can use different methods at getting a solution,it's a thing of the heart except u don't love your partner,@mama ibeji,even if your husband cheats continuosly,u still won't mind?many of us who said they won't mind will not forgive his/her partner and continue the relationship for one reason or the other but get back at him in future which is more devastating,how many of us will genuinely welcome his/her partner with open arms who just cheated on you and you happen to know about it?if you really mean something to him/her,he/she will not cheat you repeatedly,it means you have lost your value in his/her life,it is not impossible for men to cheat,some men don't so if you think you can manage a cheating partner,it means you don't have a heart or you 've got something up your sleeves.
DeleteEnd it o, condoms do not stop pregnancy all the way. It does not stop a crazy woman from wanting to get me out of the picture so she can have her lover to herself.
ReplyDeleteThis is not mathematics that you decide what formular to apply,this is a thing of the heart,if u love your partner,him\her cheating you will definately hurt you so a lot of people should actually wait until it happens (which i don't pray for )and stop playing saint,a lot of people who said they will not end the relationship will remain in it but will not FORGIVE,they act up and use it against their partner in future which might even affect the children or even death.
ReplyDeleteLove is a beautiful thing...I have once forgiven a cheating guy but truth be told I might cheat on a cheating hubby and even if I don't, I will pretend to cheat. And yes I can be vindictive at times...EEE!!!
ReplyDeleteAhhhaaa... my hubby cheated on me and is probably still cheating . I'm waiting to wean my baby before I unleash d dragon in me! Make we see who sabi fuck pass now? Right now, all the things I no do before. Being a chaste beautiful lady now, I want to start doing now o. All the men who were willing to gimme big contracts on condition that I slept with them and I turned down their offers, now is d time to find their contacts and start calling. I give them what they want, I get what I want. Time no dey. When a man fuck outside he spends n wastes money, when a woman does with sense, she makes money. Oya now let's go dia.
ReplyDeleteI know you, don't try it, it will back fire. Check all your friends all of them are babyMamas or about to. First lemme advise you, you are the back bone of that marriage and you know. You know me and I know you, am ur hubby friend. Pray for him.
DeleteGoodluck as u your enter ur competition.
DeleteHmm. This infidelity matter. Na epistle matter…bear with me o! Short of the man having true 'Damascus Experience' like Saul in the bible, he will cheat. This is what I have experienced both personally and in practically all the marriages I know of. Except for 1 pastor.
ReplyDeleteMen cheat bcos they can and nothing will happen. Worst case wife go pack..leaving them free for even more escapades. My DH of 10 years cheated throughout the marriage.. no be 1 night stand o! Serious affairs some 2 years, some 3 years.
When I first found out and wanted to leave, I was advised to forgive, look the other way, face children, etc. I tried to forgive but it was tough especially as he continued to date the woman for up to 1 year after the kasala first burst.
The marriage became even more of a nightmare and mesef don tire so I faced work and kids as advised. How did it end? DH 'fell in love' with yet another woman (several girlfriends later), this time younger - some politicians daughter, came back and told me to leave with kids as he had found who he should have married in the first place. I quietly moved out with my kids.
For me, Christianity complicated the matter. I was so stupid that even after he kicked me out, I spent years praying for marriage restoration. I finally came to my senses one day when I asked myself if truly, that marriage was what I wanted, and if it was what a loving God would want for his daughter. The answer is no. I beg, it is better to be single than to be with someone who has no idea what marriage is, no intention to honor the marriage and cannot understand when his wife has issues with his cheating and dodgy waka.
Today, I thank God who delivered me from bondage and misery (the beatings and verbal abuse no get part 2). I am happier, healthier and have peace. My kids are doing well. Do I wish my marriage worked? Certainly - what woman wants a broken home? Within the first year, I'd realized what a mistake I had made but stayed and suffered 9 more yeas bcos I didn't want broken marriage. By God’s grace I have left all that in the past and am healing; so are the children.
Bottom-line, decide what you are worth and stick with it. Don't let anyone tell you to bear rubbish cos it probly wont get better especially with a serial cheat and that kind of atmosphere is not good for anyone, especially the children. I should have left much sooner. I will stop here. She who has ears, let her hear o!
Anon 3; 21,dont mind this anonymous otondo 8;49 ooooo. ........once ur hubby sees that u dont give a hoot no be person go tell am make he stop.
ReplyDeletemy sis hubby was a chronic womaniser,my sis was always crying,pleading and monitoring her hubby .....this man reduced her to nothing.i gave her strategic advise and she did all I told her,no be person tell d bagger to stop.