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''Dear Blog Visitors
I have been dating this guy for 2 years now. Though he hasn't put a ring on it, we are working towards marriage.
Now my problem is that this guy doesn't trust me one bit! Always suspicious of my every move. He would call my brother, mum, etc just to know where I am. He would come to my house and ask my brother what kind of cloth I wore out or he would call my brother late at night asking to speak with me just so he can confirm if I am home.
The latest one he did is asking a friend of his who works with my network provider to send him my daily call log.
I love this man but his attitude is over bearing. I am not supposed to even go to any party with my girlfriends cos according to him, they will pimp me out to men.
Most times when I get advances from guys, I tell him but he would turn around to use it against me. I used to be very open to him until a man dashed me money and I told him and he went ahead to write on twitter that his gf had olosho (prostitution) traits. So I stopped telling him things. I try as much as possible not to hide anything from him but even with half details I let out, he would still prosecute me. He can't handle the truth but he wants to hear it all the time.
Yesterday it rained heavily after work and I had to beg someone to come pick me up. I was even pissed cos I had to keep calling but since I knew he was going my way, I had no choice. Heaven knows I would have told my man but he would have thought something else was happening so I kept it to myself. How he found out is still a mystery but I am thinking he came to my street just so he could catch me.
Abeg my people shey no be so domestic violence dey start?''
*I am tongue tied..he must really love you but this kind of love is the dangerous type...why does he have so much time on his hands to be watching you?
Monitoring spirit tinz
ReplyDeletePoster, are you a baby? From your write up here, one can obviously deduce that the guys.will not give you peace if you eventually sign the register with him! Wash you eyes well, it is boldly inscripted on the wall, a voice is screaming ruuuuuunnnnnn!!!! If you like stay there until hin start to use bulala, bulala your ynash! No talk say I no tell o!
DeletePepper ose oku thinks that guy will eventually turn out to be the over jealous type! And you know what it means!
BLOG ANALYSER: run like usain bolt, I was a victim nd I ran, today I found true love.
DeleteMy dear its not DV oo but just a matter of trust issue and insecurity..to crown it all;he has a lot of time on his hands;cos a serious man won't ve that kinda time to spy on his lady..for God's sake u need ur freedom..are u in love or in Bondage?? My dear this kinda man can gun u down if u ever leave him oo..u beta be careful..
DeleteHehe real monitoring spirit. Dear poster, this guy is bad news. I'm even afraid for you. He seems like one who can come to your house and do acid tinz if he's upset. Be careful sha.
DeleteThis kind of man can just wake up one day n shoot u dead because of one small thing u did. Sm1 like this can never change. U better leave while u can. God has better in store for you abeg. Unless u r prepared for a life of misery.
DeleteOne day he will slap u and dats it, I'm talkin from experience.... Not good for a man to be too possessive
DeleteHe's a jealous lover(raised to the power of infinity) plz leave him but stylishly.......ez capable of murder sincerely. sure u've read stories of jealous men killing their girlfis/wivies on dis blog. USE UR BRAIN RUNNNNNN.
DeletePls warn him not 2 b calling ur family again. They shudnt pick his calls n if dei Shud pick, ur bro Shud b rude. He Shud go die biko!
DeleteDear poster if you don't run now and I mean today, he will kill you soon.. And be careful cos sick and obsessive guys like you bf might try hurting when you end the relationship. Goodluck o
DeleteDear poster, Pls run as fast as your legs can carry you. Had an ex who did worse sef. Is his name Obinna?
DeleteMartins did you say it's not DV? Hope you are not treating ur woman the same way!
DeleteGod abeg o! This is sick love.....SHAK!
ReplyDeletePls writter you are about to marry my father and I say this with love pls do not
DeleteI love my dad but I know what my mum went through, he accuses her of everything,she doznt go for church programs cus she might as well be sleeping with the cleargy men
He cheated on her times without number but accuses her and his kids too
He has no friends cus all the ones that have ever helped her with a ride, wanted to sleep with her
The jelozy eventually lead to physical abuse, which I'm sure you do now want your future kis to withness
There were days he was all romantic o
She eventually left, and now we are all grown but if my mum could choose again his name will not even be on the list
He loved her so much he could kill her...pls listen to me even if you wunt take any other advice
U must be really beautiful in his eyes, because ma hubby was just like dis when we wre dating. And me i bin too like boy, so it was worse. But the day we signed d dotted lines- all dat shit stopped. I even had to ask him, if im done tire for Follow-up. Nd he said, mkt dat he has bought wholesale :y bother'. humans are diff/similar sometimes. So it may be d same case with urs.
DeleteGod I cnt help but lafff..... you know why? I was in the same kinda relationship like 2weeks ago, a relationship that lasted same 2yrs like yours,,,,,urs is even better that he hasn't slapped u...coz me I chop slap lik 3 times hahahaaah....but u knw where I am today in his life? his X list...coz I left him for my dear life...coz dis guy goes to the extent of calling my school mates to ask of the kinda life I lived in school, how can I marry such a man? haba we deserve better....so think deeply n ask yourself if u can continue like dis all your life,,,,because dis man doesn't trust n will never trust you....trust me I hav been there....Gudluck
ReplyDeleteI see it coming,better be careful.
ReplyDeleteI can bet my left leg dat guy is cheating. Borrow leg nd RUN!
ReplyDeleteHaney
I can even bet my life he's cheatin,exactly like my ex o,until I went 2ru his fone nd saw a msg which he 4got 2 delet arguing wit a girl dat she can't be pregnant cos he didn't come inside her,I died twice,meanyl he has hit me twice tinkin I cheated on him nd wil start cryin nd apologyin wen he has later found out d truth,story sounds lyk myn o,abeg use ur 2 legs run o xcept u can cope,til now he's stil apologisin o,he wil call me nd play all of me by john legend,lolz,
DeleteAfi all of me by John Legend, Lol, some men can f up sha.
DeleteRun sista RUn!
ReplyDeleteThis isn't love, don't get it twisted. He has trust issues which is psychological or he has some form of OCD. U better be guided n leave that relationship asap! Cos it's gonna graduate to another level once u get married. Fleeeee!
ReplyDeleteThis ain OCD.. Far from it dear. It's physiological at it'd finest. Nigha is sick, forget love oo.. You might love him, but we can't say the same for him.. Don't wait until he lays his hands on you before you know how serious this is.
DeleteDear Poster, run as fast as u can, that kind of man ll bath u with acid one day, before u leave him, u ve to do it wisely, if not he myt hurt u. Set him up with a girl, accuse him of cheating and then walk away Asap.
ReplyDeleteHe's obsessed my dear! U need to caution him....is he dat jobless? Abeg dis is way too much,u need to caution him now or face d consequences in future.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, dis rain mata did same to my frnd dat same day, she cldnt leave d office on tym n her hubby kept callin, she had to snap herslf in d office n send pix to her hubby so he wld blv her, she finally got a cab home n she got d beating of her life.......my dear run for ur life ohhhhhh
ReplyDeleteNawa oo..beat kee
DeleteSo upon the snapping the husby still flog am, chei.
DeleteChoi, this marriage thing is getting scary o. Collecting beating that your own father did not give you, all in d name of getting married.
DeleteLmao, choi! Poor woman. She no go run so?
DeleteChim!!
DeleteThe man still beat her?
What is going on in this world sef?
Poster,your luckier than this Anony's friend...you never marry am
So borrow legs and keep running!
Trust me,this guy is soooo cheating you will be shocked!
Leave him before he leaves you,the amazing thing is even after 5years,he might not marry you!that will eventually turn you suicidal..So before he dumps you,ruuuuunnnnnnn!!!And never look back...and my dear,he does not love you...No man will call his woman a prostitute,in real life,on twitter!
Get out while you still can. He will never let you achieve your full potential/dream. He's not in love with you sweetie, he's obsessed with you. RUN
ReplyDeleteReal luv
ReplyDeleteGuess u're already envying her?
DeleteLol! Anonymous leave patt alone.
DeletePart u never tap this anointing?
DeleteDump him abeg. his insecurities are too much. stupid guy. i can assure you, you will get better. dont be desperate for marriage and go and die there.
ReplyDeleteYou must be stupid sha.. Why are you in that kind of relationship? Except you liked been controlled sha
ReplyDeleteNa so craze dey start!
ReplyDeleteMy dear u better look for additional legs and run as far away from this psycho (yes that is what he is, a buddn psycho), as possible.
ReplyDeleteYour folks should have politely but firmly told him where to go when he started calling up to ask after you. Doesn't he have ur number? Mtchew
I hope u know this is going to get worse if for any reason you decide to settle with him. Moreso, u'll need to watch your back when (yes, i said when, cos that is what u need to do right away) u guys break up, cos someone like this can maim or kill in the name of love.
All da best.
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My point Exactly!
DeleteMadam, i have just one word of advice for you... RUN!!!
ReplyDeletemy dear that is pure road to domestic violence besides from ur story i think hes jobless to be monitoring u like dat
ReplyDeleteE don start already oooooo,but since he hasn't hit u,u'll still tink its not DV .this kind of love is dangerous to ones life.
ReplyDeleteTake heed
This girl. You better end things O! Not even God calls into account all your wrong doings. This your boyfriend is behaving like the devil (accuser of the brethren). Remove yourself from that situation. Nobody who loves you should going you like that.
ReplyDeleteHe loves u. He is insecure..but love should be trusting.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of stupid love? I wish u this kinda love too. He sees her as a property, some kind of possession n u call that love? Hiss!
DeleteTatafo
Nonsense Yoruba girl. That is how my ex used to beat me blue black o. I tried n tried to make him trust me for where! Stopped talking to my friends cos he was not comfortable, they might make me meet another guy etc, if I closed from work? He d time me till I got home, that's if he didn't pick me up no o! He changed my numbers to numbers he registered in his name, if we go out, I meet a colleague, I have to ignore them. Checked my fone etc. I finally left him. He begged n begged n in the end told me a Yoruba.girl would never put him thru what I did. Yoruba girl Pls if u ever find urself in the poster s situation Pls stay n help him trust u shey u hear! Mumu dey smell.
DeleteMy dear Stella has said it all, Why/How does he have so much time on his hands to be watching your every move?
ReplyDeleteRun my dear sister, run and don't look back.
Bia, your bobo no get work? Cos if he was busy with himself, he wouldn't have so much time on his hand to be monitoring your activities. He is highly insecure and it could be dangerous. And please no de talk too much too. Abi u are too 'bitiful'?
ReplyDeleteSame thought o. Cos I don't understand... Too much time on his hands.. I guess that's why he ain married you yet. Time he's meant to use in working and earning a living, he's using it to do follow follow up and down. Is that the type of man you want to marry? You wee just suffer, he won't work again and turn himself into your body guard.
DeleteSorry to sound graphic, but I can't even imagine what the sex would be like, it must be quite demanding. He must be that kinda guy that wgen he wants some, he wants some, even if it means tying you up and all sorts of things. Be careful Is my own 2cents
U need someone to tell u dat u r in d strongest of relationships atink? U better do sontin before sontin do u o! Until he beats u black n blue to prove a point dat he loves u before u know abi? Well done! Stay dia o! Mtcheeew
ReplyDeleteU need someone to tell u dat u r in d strongest of relationships atink? U better do sontin before sontin do u o! Until he beats u black n blue to prove a point dat he loves u before u know abi? Well done! Stay dia o! Mtcheeew
ReplyDeletehmm! this is dangerous love!
ReplyDeletehe is showing you in a clear handwriting that he is damn too possessive, very obsessed, very ruling, very controlling...and yes! ...very insecure which translates him to be a violent person. (this side of him you haven't discovered yet...just wait!)
yes he loves you BUT! I am afraid you will have no life, decisions or thoughts of your own should you marry this man because he will turn you to his puppet.
this is not a good sign at allllllll.
and yes, it will eventually lead to domestic violence.
my hand no dey.
Which mumu love? Story of my life 2 yrs ago. U better talk 2 urself cos this is how it starts. Talk 2 him if he doesn't change, I doubt if he will, find a way 2 break up on a mutual ground.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart please run
ReplyDeleteThe guy is a stalker plain and simple. If you know what's good for you get out now that you still can please its obvious he doesn't have much respect for you and he's obsessed and too possesive. Please get out of the relationship now before he kills you out of jealousy when you're married.
ReplyDeleteThis story has the same storyline with a movie I watched on Africa magic few days ago.Mike and chioma Chukwuka..wow I luv Mike's character in that film. Wow I hope ur man has not been watching dat film o.my dear this is really 2mch pls run fast b4 it's 2late.like WTF is wrng wit this guy??
ReplyDeleteHahaha!!i walked in on my bros watching that...lmao!!
DeleteDon't even know how it ended!but trust Naija movies...Mike will be forgiven eventually and they will live happily ever after!!!
Exactly same scenario here sef
Title pls
DeleteWell...surprisingly d muvvy ended better than d ones u could predict.. she emigrated with her family sponsored by another man!!
DeleteD poster knows d right thing to do!! Asking for people's opinion would not help her decide......2years gone and u think it's Child's PLAY! U r high on cheap drugs.... and am sure u won't still let go until he designs ur body with his tattoos!
Poster, pls forget love and run for your life.
ReplyDeleteLove is not jealous or overbearing.
Sooner or later he will start hitting you.
Run while you can now!
CeeCee
Run as fast as your legs can carry u.
ReplyDeleteHe is very insecure, run for your dear life. Nothing good will come out of any relationship with such a person.
ReplyDeleteSigns of Paranoia, before going too deep on this matter. Check if he de smoke igbo(weed) as its side effect is paranoia. I hope he has a job o this one that he has time to be calling your network provider n all.. It is well, my advice for you is make you use your tongue count your teeth and see wetin better for you. Goodluck #bringourgirlsbackrightnow
ReplyDeleteMy dear,Run for your life. It will e worse if you marry him...I had to file for divorce and flee when my husband didn't stop!
ReplyDeleteI guess he's jobless cos if he's not he won't have so much time to monitor your every move.This is no love but serious obsession.
ReplyDeletehe must be jobleSs. there is sometin u arent telling us .u must b his maga hence he doesn't want anyone else to benefit frm u
ReplyDeleteHe's nt jobles I bet u,my ex deals on biz yet was lyk dat o,has 2 big shops one 4 steptiles nd d oda 4 electronics nd furniture yet he cud monitore my life nd chased all my frnds dat de wil spoil me,nonsence love
DeleteLmao, this had me rolling
DeleteOh girl wahala dey. You've entered a SERIOUS relationship. Take to your heels and run run run! Even though running doesn't still make you safe. He's really dangerous. Those guys that bathe their ex with acid start like this. That will not be your portion.
ReplyDelete#1 I think he loves u and also obsess about u, just make him understand that you love and wont leave him but if he continues like this ,u gon do just that
ReplyDeleteLmao, you are looking for a partner abi? So after y'all's boo beats you up you can sit and console each other.. You are what's wrong with the world ma'am/sir
DeleteMadam/Oga reggy biko don't give advice on stuff u know nothing about. There s nothing she can do to make him trust her, if she even tries, she ll only be digging a deeper grave for herself. He would eventually have control of every aspect of her life n still he would doubt her every move. Poster u don't need to do anymore, just run.
DeleteTatafo
Stupid advice
Deleteinsecurity and immaturity at its peak...
ReplyDeletedear poster your man is sooooo insecured and trust me,with all the aforementioned he will beat you blueblack someday, yea they are like that. my ex was exactly like this, lacks trust, soo jealous, snoops my phone every minute to view nos stored with male names, i have to put my phone on speaker when receiving calls, can call 100 times a day just to ask "where are you",monitors my movement like shii,drove all my female friends away,calls every guy's number on my phone and instructs them never to call me again, always threatening to break my phone and sim, boasts with his life that am the only one (na lie),he felt i could never leave him, taunts me by saying that if i leave him, no man will ever look at me,threatens to tear my face with glass ...to mention a few eh! life tire me.i took all these sh*t for many years but yours sincerely i carefully plotted my graph and dumped his sorry ass like it's hot, he was dumbflabbergasted hehehehe oniranu omo ale jatijati
he wants to send me to early grave
he's still wandering about but had his intro recently...i really pity the girl
so dear poster my advise goes thus
this man will never change rather he will get worse,he has refused to grow up,you have seen the signs now so if you can, please quietly run for your dear life, cos if you marry him eventually you will become his slave, you won't have a say, you won't accomplish your goals in life...enough said
Have u watched fatal attraction starring michael douglas. Your own would be like dat if u don't dump the sorry marrafucker now
ReplyDeleteHe's childish.
Calling u an olosho on twitter
Really???
Have a chat with him and let him know you aren't comfortable with such behaviour , if he doesn't change take a long walk because he'll come to your place of work someday and embarrass you. He's possessive to the core
ReplyDeleteD guy is a control freak,u won't last
ReplyDeleteMy dear...don't worry ehn...just carry ur physical leg, ur spiritual leg and every other leg available and Usain bolt out of dat relationship! if u marry dat man! Ha ha ha! America will not know oo! For ur original designer bags add me on bbm on 2B280882!
ReplyDeleteMy dear port fast fast he is weyrey personified! Seee I wud have broken up with him from that twitter talk,its enuff to put me off! If you marry dis man,honey take it frm me you are finished! Becos its soooooo obvious dis one cnt change o! Run as fast as ur legs can carry u
ReplyDelete*Sweetness*
U already know what u are getting into. Keep digging ur own grave.
ReplyDeleteSalt
lol....
ReplyDeleteSounds look an insecure man in love.
Funny enough,after marriage they change n you'd have to beg for his attention
Is your bf one?
DeleteNa so dh do u? ExperIence is d best teacher u know.
DeleteDevil is dat ur advice for her? Wickedness in high places mtschewwww.
DeleteA broken relationship is better than a broken marriage!Think about it!
ReplyDeleteThank u ooo!!
DeleteD oloriburuku guy is ssoooooo jobless!!
Idiot guy!!
OKIJA WIFE
His attitude is truly overbearing. Get out while u still can. He is so insecured cos he knows he truly dsnt deserve u. This is domestic violence in the oven!
ReplyDeleteLol, real domestic violence in the oven
DeleteBut Babe how do you even plan on marrying someone like this. This is dating &he is this overbearing what then do you think will happen when guys are under the same roof. Please talk to him about his attitude if he doesn't change in a very short time, then do the needful and dump his ass. Make sure you involve both families, report him to everybody to warn to stay away from you and nothing bad should happen to you b/c these type of men can kill out of jealousy.
ReplyDeleteBreezy
This isn't about being jobless or not. He's psychologically imbalanced. He will never change. If he will, he'll be worse i.e. more violent et all. Please run for ur life dear poster. I don't wanna lose you like the sewing community lost TAMISHA E. RIDGE to domestic violence last week. Tamisha's ex boyfriend shot her dead in her sleep. He was obsessed wiv her. Buh he abused her for 10years, few months after she finally found the courage to leave him, he snuck into her house last week and shot her. RIP tamisha! #meeshataughtme #diymeesha #meesha #wettbaby
ReplyDelete#sayNOtoDomesticViolence
Poster Run!!! Run!!! Run!!! Run while u still have legs
ReplyDeleteI would suggest you don't rush into any marriage with him. I'm sure he loves you, but his love for you has turned into obsession. He feels he owns you like you are his trophy that can't leave. And when a relationship degenerates to a man or woman been obsessed, it could be very fatal. I suggest you talk things through with him. Tell him how you feel, watch him and if you don't see any improvement, please take a walk. Don't ever lie to yourself that he will change after marriage. THEY DO NOT CHANGE. It's only going to get worse. Be wise.
ReplyDeleteLeave!!!
ReplyDeleteI ended up marrying a man who treated me like this and I live everyday with regret.
His behavior is abusive and it will definitely escalate to other forms of abuse
I also had my phone calls bugged / monitored and he let me know later that he listened to my calls and obtained my phone records this was a method of control i.e he made sure told me about it so I would know I was not free.
Checking into all my contacts and continually asking people questions about me ...look my story is too long for post ...suffice it to say it ended in abuse beatings etc
Take it from someone who has been there you will find someone else to love you without the drama and abuse. Don't make the same mistake I did
Tanwigie
Can you please tell me how he bugged your phone? I think my man has done this somehow
DeleteAnd ahm.....this is not how domestic violence starts it is how it continues.
ReplyDeleteBreezy
You can read KOOLBLEND post...jst google it....she's also married to someone like that and trust me from all her post she's going through hell
ReplyDeletePoster,
ReplyDeletePlease go and watch N-Secure. It's a black American movie. You will learn a lot from it.
My dear,u already feel caged...is he worth ur freedom?love should set us free not enslave us..he's immature,insecure n childish....imagine d embarrasing scenes he'll put u thru in future n run!!!!
ReplyDeleteRUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!RUNNNNNNN!!!!!I REPEAT RUN!!!!
ReplyDeleteHe is feeling insecure. You better run for your life and future happiness now! Rose
ReplyDeleteThis man is a psycho and I can assure you , you will never be happy in the marriage cos he will only get worse. And if you want to stop the relationship pray unceasingly and use wisdom cos he will not let go. I am able to survive this type of man for thirty years with prayers and the Grace of God cos I am at peace with myself. So my dear run faster than your legs and relocate if possible quietly.MM
ReplyDeleteThis man is a psycho and I can assure you , you will never be happy in the marriage cos he will only get worse. And if you want to stop the relationship pray unceasingly and use wisdom cos he will not let go. I am able to survive this type of man for thirty years with prayers and the Grace of God cos I am at peace with myself. So my dear run faster than your legs and relocate if possible quietly.MM
ReplyDeleteWhat are you still doing with him? He has deep psychological problems oh & this is not what we call love so don't get it twisted...read 1st Corinthians 13:4-8 since you are confused.
ReplyDeleteLeave him alone before his insecurity, obsession, distrust turns ugly
Could kiss u got this comment. Mwah!
DeleteTatafo
Your boyfriend is obsessed with you and that is not love. RUN RUN RUN honey as fast as your leg will carry you.
ReplyDeleteAnd I won't be surprised if he has a mental health diagnosis, tell him to see a psychiatrist.
My dear, dem no dey call off this sort of relationship.
ReplyDeleteNever open your mouth or send him a text to say it is over. It will be a gradual thing, less calls, occasional visits, then form sickness, tell him the doctor diagnosed you one ailment God forbid,, do things that will make him take a walk and lose interest.
If you hurt this kind of person and bruise his ego he could turn violent and want to harm you.
Whatever your plan is, carry your family along.
I agree that the guy is overbearing, but i hope u did nt contribute to it. Sometimes, the girl lies so much n the boyfiend has caught her in her lies so many times that he totally distrusts her. The way girls behave sometimes can cause this...for example: why should u collect money from a man for no reason. Is it that the man just has too much money and is distributing it around? And how would u feel if he came home n said some woman he met just decided to give him money? I am not justifying his actions but u should also check urself to make sure u r nt fueling his suspicions. Just as u r looking out for urself, he also doesnt want to make a mistake.
ReplyDeleteThere are many fish in the sea ni o! If she has lied or doesn't live up to expectation, he should find someone else who will. My point is, no rational man with his mind intact should go this far to check a girl. He s got psychological issues.
DeleteRun very very fast, as you run dear make sure you don't even look back until you reach your destination. lol. Marring a man like that is life imprisonment.
ReplyDeleteThe day your man tweeted his gf has olosho trait was the day you should have left him! Trust me he is not your man! Run as far and fast as you can! Do it codedly because his type could kill if you try to leave.
ReplyDeleteSo till he beats you before you call it abuse? He's abusing you already and belive me, emotional abuse is way worse than physical abuse cos it's scars last forever! Bia, na oath? Abi you no get legs? Dump the bastard ASAP. Meanwhile, how come he calls your relatives to grill them about your movement and they tolorate him, does he feed them? A man that called you such a terrible name on twitter and you're still with him? I think he's given you low self esteem, you think you can't find a better man and that's exactly what he wants, you need to snap out of it gurl, let your people, at least the ones he calls, know what's happening so they'd stop picking his calls and be ready to protect you cos things might get dangerous, with guys like this, you never know. If you have cousins he doesn't know about, move in with them and change your number, if he can't reach you, he'll forget about you in time. Above all, learn your lessons, you don't need to tell a man EVERYTHING, no bf should have free access to EVERY member of your family, na so see finish dey start! Good luck gurl. BEAUTY
ReplyDeleteWell said dear. Well said.
DeleteTatafo
Jobless guys roaming d street in d name of love
ReplyDeleteWat a troubled-soul he is! He suld
ReplyDeletedeal wit his Insecurity or better still tell hand (his case)him over to his momma, tell her her bomboy still has a lotta growing up to do....inukwam ikpo dim ogo!
Obsession no good abeg
Poster, how tight is dat ring on ur finge & wat kind of tool do u need to remove it? saw, chisel plier, monday hammer or an axe? cos trust mi my father was a carpenter n we hv every carpentary equipment u might need.
Shake dat neggar off ur shoulder awready n step up!
I think you already know in your heart that all is not well. I suppose you are looking for affirmation or support to make a decision?
ReplyDeleteI won't say run or stay. You already know the answer to the question you asked.
My dear,RUN!!! And don't look back. This guy will kill u one day. I was in this kind of relationship for 5 long years.. A few months to when we were supposed to get married,he gave me the beating of my life. I had to run for my dear life. He would show up at my house in the middle of the night,he'd ask me to send nude pics,pics with weird poses,used to call my folks to speak with me just to find out if I'm home or not. He hated all my friends,didn't support my dreams,wanted me to be a housewife cos he was scared of guys coming around. He called me a prostitute on daily basis and called any male name on my phonebook to warn them to keep away.It goes on and on! I was scared to leave him cos I'd been with him a long time,finally did it and I'm happy now even though I'm still single. It's better to be single and alive o
ReplyDeleteHi I'm an American woman in a relationship with an igbo man. He does a lot of these things, knows when I leave my house, asks where I am who I'm with etc, he wants me to get pregnant and has said several times it will bring us closer and bond is forever. He also wants to do some ritual that we both poke our finger and drop our blood in wine and drink it, if I cheat on him I will just drop dead he says. He says he will never hit me. He's so sweet just a little controlling. One time he was jealous and spanked my bottom HARD in public because he said I was too friendly with store clerk. Did your man do these things? He thinks I cannot make good choices as far as friends and he has to choose which friends I can hang out with. Ones that are good for me. I love him. I want to marry him and have a baby but I don't want him to use the baby later if things don't work out. Please can u give me advise?
DeleteYoung lady, my people would say "use your tongue to count the number of teeth in your mouth". I am sure deep within you, you aleardy know what to do.
ReplyDeleteThis is not a case of 'he will change'. He will so physically assualt you, and ultimately murder you, then go Scott free.
Your people will only come for your funeral; case closed. It has happened, and will keep happening.
You had better take a walk while you still can. Anyway, your life, your decision to make.
I can't stand guys like that.It's good he's showing u the kind of person he is.My dear,run for ur dear life.If u love urself,u better run.Insecurity n immaturity is worrying him.He may never change,that's the bitter truth.People like that hardly change.
ReplyDeleteBut if u think u want to be monitored thruout ur life,CONTUNU(In Mama Peace's voice).
Please run as fast as you can. I am married to a man like this. Two kids and nine years he got worse and right now I am trapped. The signs were there from the get go but I ignored them hoping he will change. Please don't make same mistake I made. I live in North America and I still feel hopeless. Run!
ReplyDeleteDis is the same trait a blogger's(koolbend) husband has. It's called overpossessiveness. Nt a good sign at all. Domestic violence(verbal, emotional, sexual, physical) starts 4rm thr
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Dis is the same trait a blogger's(koolbend) husband has. It's called overpossessiveness. Nt a good sign at all. Domestic violence(verbal, emotional, sexual, physical) starts 4rm thr
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Which category we go call dis love now. Abeg RUN RUN RUN, Ur legs needs it
ReplyDeleteThe frustration and heartache is not worth it. kindly dump him and move on . Good luck.
ReplyDeleteHi everyone I'm kind of in the same shoes. I'm American In a relationship with Igbo man, he is just a gem. But he kind of loses it when a guy talks to me or looks at me. Once we were out and a white man was talking to me, he was SO furious! He told me that no white man can stand to see white woman with a black man and they will do everything to get our attention. And make the Blackman seem incompetent. I love him so much. He is just very jealous. He knows when I leave my house, texts me constantly asking my location, and now I just look at the ground in public for fear someone will talk to me and upset him. Even when we are in the car I do not look out of the window. I go through my ph. He says submission is love. And that I will never leave him. He also wants me to get pregnant. He says the baby will bond us. That it will make us stay together, and if I have a son or daughter I will never be allowed to take him or her if things don't work out. The day after I leave he will go to the court and file custody. Especially his son. Is this normal behavior? Is it a cultural thing?
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