....Like many people, you probably grew up with some friends who are still in your life today. Things have changed for you, God has lifted you up, and you are not who you used to be. Some of them, unfortunately, still look at you from the prism of yesterday when you had no shoes, clothes, money, honey, a place to live, food to eat, and no accomplishments to your credit.
Today you bought a new car, built a new house, got a big business and career connection, and are doing big things both of you never thought could be possible. All of a sudden, your friends can’t handle your life upgrade and it shows in their attitude toward you.
Your ability and skills anger them, your new circle of friendship tick them off, your bank account is about to drive them off the cliff, and your very promising future you share with them is not what they want to hear. What follows are big and small negative talks about you into the ears of those who know and like you. If they knew your next business opportunity, they will throw in grains of sands to mess it up.
It is the SPIRIT of COMPETITION. The SPIRIT OF COMPETITION can lead to the spirit of EXTERMINATION.
Those who perceive you as a competitor may become the exterminators of your life and destiny. Those friends, relatives, professional colleagues, and whoever they are, are simply appearances of evil that you don’t need in your life. Mark this; they will not be bothered if one day, they found you or your dream dead.
That’s an answered prayer for them.
You better get yourself some new athletic shoes and run as fast as you can from these wolves before they kill you.
DR FOLA OJO writes in from USA.
*I am sure everyone who reads this can identify with situations like this..i know people who know me from way back and do exactly this..i know people who cannot sleep because of who they think i am.....it is well,may God cause everyone to be at the exact spot where their break through is expected...Amen
hummm stella! i couldnt agree more with this piece. I just had a personal experience and i am so happy i cut her off! The writer forgot to add that these people also have monitoring spirits! They want to monitor your every move. they are on social media analyzing your photos and making ridiculous conclusions about your life and how you became successful!it is such a shame stella! i have cut the devil off. my circle is so small now its unbelievable!
ReplyDeleteI know u
DeleteBoo shut up!!! If u fucked to buy a car, yes! Ppl must talk but it doesn't mean dey r jealous...wat if dey jis tLk a lot ...dnt b a dumb ass...grow up ...gist is sweet Nd must b shared
Delete*SMbigH***
DeleteCan't believe all these words you spitted are borne out of 'complex#
Yomslaw you are a FOOL! CLOSE YOUR MOUTH TO FLIES! !!
DeleteThey are called frndemy. Stay alway from them.
DeleteThen dey even collect winsh join . I get prayer wey I dey pray regarding one in particular. I had to leave FB so she can't see my pics or nothing.
DeleteNa so oh! One has to be careful because after all Judas was supposed to be one of the disciples of Jesus. There's one friend who calls every time I update my status on Whatsapp. I've been dodging her calls.
DeleteAmen....is this from linda or to linda? Love u.
ReplyDelete...and are you Linda?
DeleteIf you are not, why are you so obsessed with Linda?
We need to be watchful
ReplyDeleteVery watchful...i know dose kind pple. Trowbak to when we wre serving- na dem go 1st apply for all d whole jobs. Dey wudnt even be friendly enof to tell u, probably till dey rite d test/interview nd fail. Like say dem wan carry 1st...rubbish!
DeleteMoving forback, my later is already greater than my past..
ReplyDeleteOh! This girl won't kill me with grammar. Pattogar kilode?
DeleteHuh *rme*
DeleteSince the near death encounter I had,I stopped feeling I'm better than anyone.
ReplyDeleteGod only let me pass through that to know nothing good comes so easily as I've always bn having it.
I used to think so highly of myself cos all I ever dreamt for as a child I achieved without sweating.
Life seemed so meaningless till I died n resurrected.
Now I'm all for God n in competition with no one.i pray we are all blessed and favored accordingly IJN
M-amie... I know there's a good woman inside of you, all your cusses and 'all for light skinned ladies' all that are just for the show. Idk you, and I don't care to know you either, but I want you to know that I love you, nohomo though. God bless you and your fam.
DeleteNow back to stella... This summarizes the story of my life, but it's more of a family oriented jealousy, which makes it even worse. People themselves, happen to be the devil himself. Things people can do, or would do out of jealousy just to make sure you don't attain the glory, and success you are meant to is unbelievable. The length at which they'd go, they don't even care if it brings about the death of the ones they claim to love. It's so sad. But at the end of the day, there's God! He's been ever faithful, and I remain grateful.
Love you stella. Keep doing what you do.. Your platform helps a lot, you might not even know.
Up til now Mamie u stil have dat arrogance and ve not changed a bit. Pls change Bcos u re not in competition wit anybody. Xoxo
DeleteAmen Mamie but wot u write almost on a daily basis contradicts dis comment of urs. #BbmConfusedSmiley
DeleteHmmmm Mamiwater na u de talk like dis u don change mouth today how market na
DeleteAmen Mamie but wot u write almost on a daily basis contradicts dis comment of urs. #BbmConfusedSmiley
DeleteWow thank God for your life. To God be the glory and amen to your prayer ma'am m-amie! Actually life's much beta or will be much better when we learn to be contented.
DeleteZuma missing diamondblinqZ
@ Kiks no mind mamie water....na her way #schizophrenicbiatch.
DeleteYes Stella I love this writeup cause it's so true,amd I'm happy that COMPETITION is one thing I look out for when I'm having intimate relationship with people. Once I sense it then I put on my athletic shoes,i just can't stand it pple. Everyone has their race to run in life according to God's gift and talents in an individual. We must live and allow others live too.............pretty T
ReplyDeleteI really don't even know how to compete, cause right now, my life is so different from that of my friends so I can't even if I try
DeleteI have a friend like that, she competes with everyone, both those that are single and married, wanting a lil bit from everyones life, forgettinng you can't have both
I just stoped tellin her personal things cus its causing her sleepless nights, if you get this she will be sad untiil she gets it too
She's not poor so I really don't get it
Not poor yea but she probably has deep inferiority complex issues and thinks acquisition of "things"/property validates her
DeleteBLOG ANALYSER: #truth, they are every where the best thing is to hand them over to God.
ReplyDeleteMy BFF says "sometimes you have to move on without certain people...If they are meant to be in your life they will catch up". And frankly i agree with her %100. Dropping old friends that dnt add value to ur life is a lot easier than them being in it as friEnemies and always backstabbing you at the same time. *smh* These are the exact reasons i can NEVER be seen with anyone that is beneath me. I only have frds i envy cos i wana be like them not the ones that envy me. I no get strength for friEnemies!! Call it being rude, selfish, attitude, stupid i dnt f**king give a damn!!!!!! Childhood frds ni. Old frds ku!
DeleteAnom 4:58PM "...if they r meant 2 be in ur life they will catch up" DoroEpic!
DeleteThat means ur BFF is classy and rich! And u envy her! Hian!!! She should be careful with u oh *rme* send me her pin or number. I like her already. Plus Am def copying her quote. She made plenty sense.
#Hot Ice
@ Anom 4.58 nice one. Is better tha way. O boy i don learn new thing today oh. Go out with frds u envy not the ones that envy u. Wow!! *word.
DeleteHahahahhaaa...@ Hot ice abi ice hot, why do u take so much space. Rotfl! Ad Salt u too! I just boosted out laughing as i saw ur name cos i guessed right. This days b4 i see the name, i try 2 guess who it could be btwn u and salt. i go like maybe "salt" maybe "hot ice" ! Buh Guyz seriously u 2 had better stop this madness abeg! Wetin? And there's something abt u too tha reminds me of @ Galore. Where is that one sef. Haven't seen her in a while. I ope she's alright.
DeleteAnon 4:58 you move with people you envy, but drop those who envy you? How would you feel if 'these people you envy' cos they are bigger people, decides to drop you cos you envy them? You sound like a leech.. You only roll with rich people to make yourself feel like you are rich abi? Or do aristo? Devil is playing guitar with your future you just don't know yet. Anuofia!
DeleteJealousy is the art of counting someone else blessings instead of ur own. Frenemies, Don't waste ur time on jealousy... Am always happy in front of people who don't like me, bcs it KILLS them!
ReplyDeleteSalt
Hehehe!
ReplyDeleteVery common among females(cos dey cnt hide it).
But competition az got its adv too.
To some its a driving force.
For mua!
Wen i see ppl wu ar beta dan i am,
i like to relate wit dem, dia is no how it wont rub off on u.
Dem say wen God visit ur neibo, e is in ur neibohud(no need to envy).
Pinkshell, na wa o! When did this one start? This your writing skills di3rr..
DeleteNo wonder u keep relating with other pple's hubby. Ashewo kobo kobo
DeleteStory of my life. They only remember me when they need financial assistance. When I tell them I don't have they go about complaining about how stingy I am.
ReplyDeleteThey don't see me when I'm hustling but when I win a contract they will help calculate the profit without knowing anything about my profession. I have learnt to keep quiet.
My business is highly competitive. Mostly a male dominated profession so I have to work my butt off to remain on top. When I get pregnant it's from the office I drive to labour room. Barely 4 weeks after I resume work fully and they will go about saying my love for money is too much that even them that their husbands are not well to do are not hustling this hard. Their words got to me once. I cried my eyes out that day. Even my husband's friend joined the gossips. I can never forget what my husband said to me that day when I cried "Those talking about you are doing so because they wish they are in your shoes or their wives are hard working like you"
I thank God for blessing the work of my hands. A few that can't help it openly confess they envy me. I don't keep friends again. I'm a one man army so the new story is that I'm now proud and pompous because I think I have it all. I claim it. By God's grace I have it all and even more.
Liar liar sweet mother
DeleteAnd anonymous1:30,how did you know she is lying?do you know her?....you think everyones life is as pathetic as yours...ode!
DeleteMercy Johnson welcome, how is purity & ur ode husband. * yimu* is all i will tell u.
DeleteSW,It is well. Thank God for his blessings in your life. May it continue to flow IJN. Amen
Delete@mercy johnson buahahahahahah * piss der catch me* someone need to use brain to keep up with sdkers
DeleteI luv you mercy Johnson no homo.
DeleteI can relate.
ReplyDeleteThe spirit of competition driven by jealousy can lead to extermination.
Frenemies will never see my brake lights IJN, Amen.
Stella,I second you though I don't keep close friends even when I was single....my best friend then was my mum and it helped me a lot....
ReplyDeleteThis world is full of envy,jealousy and hatred set of people...one have to be careful...
even your mother could fall in that category
DeleteTrue talk
ReplyDeleteThis is eye opening. Great piece.
ReplyDeleteSinging in Fela's voice "Me and you no they for the same category" To all the pretentious friends in my life, pls stay on your lane and I will mind mine.
ReplyDeleteI'm just up and coming, but my supposed "friend" started acting last year after graduation, my friend just went cold towards me. I tried to know what the problem was but found out she was jealous for 2 things. 1: I got engaged to my white BF and he spoils me silly with all manner. 2: My dad bought me a car.
ReplyDeleteShe went as far as deleting me on BBM and facebook, blocking me on whatsapp and even told her sister to do the same for just no reason. We never fought or anything...how shocking! And me, I ran as fast as I could because a friend like that can kill.
Did you have to add that your bf is white? Is that an achievement?
DeleteCopgirl you are pained because after sleeping with all the white guys in bars and clubs none of them saw wife or GF in you...mtchew! Ashewo doesn't pay, give your life to God. And yes! It is an achievement and I feel good about it. Now die!
DeleteI can see you are jealous as well white or black she got engaged
DeleteNa achievement , if you date them you go know. They treat their women better than African man treat their women . If African man marry oyinbo he go dey lick I'm ass but let him date an African woman na den he go remember say him be prince for there village. PS . I am playing devils advocate . Personally I can't date oyinbo because I think they are inherently racist and I use Gods Old Testament on them ( revisit the sins of father on children) in order words if one oyinbo is rude to me on the bus, I will be nasty to another on the train .
DeleteMy dear Stella true talk frm Dr ojo but my case is enemy of progress around me. They all want the good things for themselves only. The latest cloths, shoes and bag. Vain things but that does not bother me one bit Bcos I know with God I will be blessed.
ReplyDeleteThis post actually brought back memories... My childhood friend hurt me big time but then,I still miss her.. She helped me a lot in school with money when I am broke . We graduated. I served and immediately got a job and married and she didn't want to marry early..
ReplyDeleteShe served,got a job but not immediately and started living the single lifestyle.. I started noticing some distance between she and I and I went to her to ask what was wrong. She said nothing but she stopped calling and visiting me. Then one day,I went to her again and I confronted her on her sudden change and the things she said to me that day,would forever linger in my head. I couldn't believe she would say such. That was the day I knew she wasn't a friend but has always been jealous of me right back from when we were in school but if she was that jealous,how come she was helping me financially with money? She even brought out the bag I bought for her one time we travelled together (I was on a vacation with my family and she came visiting her boy friend) and said she didn't need it again. That me buying her that bag was me showing her how better my life was from hers and I didn't even think about it that way...
After some months she called to apologize but I told her there and then that I can't be her friend again... Because if she had such thoughts in her mind,then she can kill... Only she,I and hubby knows the things she said to me. I have forgiven but can't forget... I miss her most times. Right now,I don't have any friend.. The friends I have are hubbys friends and their wives.. No besty. Just sit once in a while for barbecue and then play dates... Life has thought me a lesson to never trust people again
Nigerians and their trust issues. Now our days, small amount of people you can trust.
DeleteMy wf was d person dat 1st told me this. I hv a big fault and dat is dat I neva let go old friends. I will travel home and visit dem in all d slums and dangerous places some of dem lived. I invite dem over and we hv fun all day. My theory was how can I forget someone I grew up with and became friends with wen I hd nothing? Then in my koro koro eyes it became dangerous. Disrespect, envy, bad mouthing and even set up ensued. I now remembered d words of my wife and I ran and ran and ran. Me dats so extroverted I got into my shell. Had to in order save my life. And now I feel so free. And know wat? My wallet remains intact these days.
ReplyDeleteMy husband my bestfriend!say No to female friends,cousins,colleagues etc!they are evil,petty,stupid and ingrates.But the more they try,the more I am lifted by my saviour JESUS CHRIST!don't bring people close to you,keep all relationships from a distance.be at peace with all men but don't keep them close.I have had quite a number of experiences but I find myself always being at the top and blessed at all times.XOXO
ReplyDeleteNwanyi Owerri!
Life is all about competition. Its inborn.From kindergarten,we are instructed to compete for grades,trophies,cleanliness...We grow up to challenge our peers for love,wealth...hey,bloggers set up celebs vs whoever on 'who wore it better'. One is not even aware of being in the ring slugging it out. Like the post implies,keep it healthy.
ReplyDeleteSo true
DeleteU re very correct. Not forgetting some pple show off to their frnds who can't afford 3square meal. It is in d nature of every man to be envious bt we shuld be able to comtrol ourselves.
DeleteSounds like my story!!! Lol
ReplyDeleteI don't have friends and I will never have friends!!
Everyone is an acquaintance for a very very short time, brought together by work or situation.
Lol!
ReplyDeleteThe 'you too like book...
Always writing exams...
Na kitchen go end everything...
And to think it's guys that are spewing these thrash from the gutter they call mouth!
The 'where she get money from...
She dey do coded runz..
She no get brazillian hair..
Where her mama see money build house on top her meagre salary..'
The 'she no go marry..
She no go born...
Bla bla bla bla....!
Make una continue to compete with me ooo
Infact na una be my driving force!
Hmmmmmmm...well said
ReplyDelete*sweetness*
Lmaoo everyone on this blog is suddenly rich and prosperous and have enemies. Lolzzzzzz good to know :)
ReplyDeleteAzin ehn! People on here can pretend for the whole world. They will be the first to go anonymous wishing they know you better than you know yourself.
DeleteJust can't deal mehhhnn
Lolzzzzz, I follow you laugh too my dear. Everyone on SDK blog is now rich nd prosperous with enemies trailing their footsteps. Liars, liars, pants on fire. Tueh!
DeleteImagine sum1 asking of me from a mutual frnd how I was n wot I do now n d mutual frnd told d guy 2 call me n d reply he got was "we don't talk". So y monitor me? It is well oo.
ReplyDeleteIf all of una get enemy as una take comments so who come be d enemies?
ReplyDeleteAbi o, my thought exactly.
DeleteI can relate to this, is even worse when s household enemy sef. Me,Myself and I.
ReplyDeleteTrue that. It gets even worse when the person is family;happy for your success only when you are below them. When you make a little progress over them,they feel threatened. I don't know who told them the spotlight was created specifically for them. God blesses whom he chooses to bless. #householdenemies
ReplyDeleteYes o a lot of people do that alpt
ReplyDeleteThey are called toxic people. Please please please stay away from them.
ReplyDeleteSo true...some people cannot handle someone else's success.
ReplyDeleteWe definitely have to run from these kind of people.
I think competition makes life more interesting but never allow yourslef take it too far/extreme! Guide your mind diligently......
ReplyDeleteMy supposed bestie fought and pushed me over a staircase cos I lent the money my very own ex-boyfriend gave her when she went to meet him in S.A...we stopped talking,I paid her back & now they settled for us yet its just hi hi...yeah I miss her sometimes but I would rather be alone than have a friend who can go that extreme...(I work for my money but her mum is abroad & her brother is a yahoo guy now they both broke,no money to give her,no designers to send & she is as thin as a broom)..God knows have never said or thought evil towards her & what she has done for me is as equivalent as what I have done for her or more sef..lobatan
ReplyDeleteOh Pls shut it!ode
DeleteDid she fight with you cos you were refusing to pay? Cos in that case, she's not the enemy here. When 'friends' borrow money and when it's time to pay, it's one story or the other as if the lender had no use for the money, you can't blame him or her if she gets into a fight with you over it if you're not keeping your end of the bargain. Regardless of how she got the money, it is her money and she prolly had plans got it too, but some people will borrow and start acting as if they're entitled to it. If that was your case here abeg na you be enemy, standing in the middle of her and whatever she wanted to progressively use the money for
DeleteWhy would the both of you talk like you were there,don't forget they are friends and you don't know what transpired between them than this...so you should watch it too
DeleteStella how about when its the other way round. I don't envy people,infact i celebrate my friends more than anybody. I encourage, advice,good advice, through thick and thin i am always there for them, Eventuallywhen things become good for them,they are longer my level.They stop calling, keeping in touch, if i call its as if i am disturbing them. I just get tired and don't keep in touch anymore.
ReplyDeleteYea rite people do this a lot especially girls and the jealous ones are way better than the ones they are jealous of so y the envy it has happened to me before and it won't happen again smiles on their faces hearts made of claws you can monitor all u want but no audio
ReplyDeleteLooooolll I love ur comment! Let them monitor but no audio! Solange style! !
DeleteMy mother used to say that "it is not good for persons of different level/class to move together as clos associates. Jealousy is birth thru incessant closeness! Do away with toxic persons,Ur life is dependent on no one. CHIKITO
ReplyDeleteOh the story of life!!!i don't trust any1 especially cousin urgggggh or far relations deadly!!
ReplyDeleteIf everyone here is good and hasn't envied or gossiped about a friend, then who exactly are you all talking about?! Almost every girl/woman is guilty abeg, even SDK !!!!
ReplyDeleteMc pepel says so!
Gbam
DeleteGood one pepe, everyone is forming saint, while they envy and gossip people here every day. It's a known fact that Stella hates Linda Ikeji and is jealous of her. Nwada says so.
DeleteBia wat is wrong wit u ehn? U say sex items am running to open thinkin I'll see some rabit or oda sex toys n all am seein r drugs n condoms...rubbish gaan complete ur stock n get back 2 me inugo?
ReplyDeleteThere shd be toys n I'll order a lot.even if I buy d delay oil dis my hubby will not knw how to use it.
I can totally relate to this...totally. I used to have a friend in uni who wouldn't speak to me for about a month each time she noticed I had something new on...bags, shoes or clothes...had another one who suddenly stopped talking to me for no reason....later I heard she said I think I'm better than everyone else????We no fight o! We no quarrel.I've known this girl since I was in primary school, we grew up together did almost everything together and just like that she stopped talking to me...and we lived on the same street for 10 years, she'd see me and just walk on by. World pipo....
ReplyDeleteEnemies Of Progress- click my name to read more.
It's true, I see a lot of jealousy on this blog, here people gossip about others, infraction this blog has become an avenue for pulling people down and releasing bitterness and frustration. People here castigate celebrities which are doing well and hate on them.They use this avenue to pull their friends down revealing intimate runs they did together which their friends are flourishing and they're not flourishing. They even talk so badly about a successful blogger through this avenue because she's doing great for herself, it is clear envy and jealousy. Now everybody is claiming saint and innocent. Stella if you like post but I want everybody to examine herself first before condemning others.Bbless.
ReplyDelete'Infact' not 'infraction'
DeleteStory of my life! Once you notice any of your friends acting like that, take to your heels!!!
ReplyDeletePeople sha,especially ladies...be having imaginary haters/enemies.som gurls jst feel dey shld be envied bcos dey got all d latest kinda shoes,bag,phones..........rily?material things??wat abt a Masters degree,a car u bought wit ur own money,a good apartment u rented with ur personal sweated money?huh?talk abt these nd maybe i'll envy a gurl like me who prolly is my agemate.but not a dropout,no job,sit at home 4rm moning till mayb 7,nd i'll be jealous of U??no way
ReplyDeleteWhy jealous ur fellow humanbeing wen u have different destinies(na wa). God knows I have suffered a lot in the hands of friends whom I took like sisters,no be say I too get but I share the little I hve,yet th backstabbin and hatred no b here. No need for long talk but I am happy it hapened to me cos without them I wldnt have known and understood the power of FORGIVENESS. God made me know dem for a reason. As for me,my best friend is my husband.
ReplyDeleteI don't have friends. @tyms I c myself a weird person, my mum is always like you need to have friends,most of the ones around me are come and go friends. But they keep showing who they are on the long run.
ReplyDeleteAm taking a new decision, its better to be alone than have people behaviour torment you. I tend to advice, help, give and do all but they always pay me back with evil, I don't even trust anyone of them to tell my issues.
Short people usually fall in this category,jealous fools
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