THIS IS A TOUGH ONE!
Dear Stella,
I am a daily part of your blog but I do not comment , I just read absorb.
I have to commend you for the good work so far.
Straight to the matter...
I am a pretty ibo girl from the east, educated and of age 26... iv had over 20 suitors in life.. dated only 4 boys but currently dating a boy from d West (a yoruba)... The problem is my mother's friend recently introduced me to a 30 years old guy,A chartered account for a big firm in london, from a decent home, he is also decent , loves God and has more time for me than my yoruba prince. My yoruba prince works in a big oil firm too,is way too busy ,and decent, he talks about us getting married and all and iv known him for 2 yrs now....
The problem is my mum is so worried that d yoruba boy might leave me tomorrow after saying no to this London guy and u know how it is i might stop seeing suitors cos I will b 27 this year.
And recently my reserved father spoke about it....
I truly love the yoruba one n for this ibo one iv been holding back cos all d investigation carried out through my siblings n friends over there s makes him so perfect for me...(I'm not a jand or yankee freak)
Pls umu nnem lol my sdk siblings what do you advice and how do I get my boyfriend to propose with out sounding desperate. .
And please if u hv no experience do not render any help o... yomslaw n miame I do not trust both of you on this one....
Stella my big sister please advice me.
God bless you
Poster,you have been wih your current boyfriend for 2years and he has not proposed....na wah ohh...what is delaying him?from what you wrote,he is comfortable.and eligible bacherlor for that matter....
ReplyDeleteMy dear,use your tongue and count your teeth...how sure are you that he will ever marry you?remember not to put your eggs in one basket...
I will advise you to grab this guy that is more serious,I mean the obodo oyibo guy...give him a chance...
I hate it when guys have everything going and then they do not make the right step towards settling down, it gives room for other options which leads to confussion, asin what is he waiting for, this isn't even about tribe, I think he is waiting to make sure he doznt have any other option before he proposes abi wetin
DeleteMy dear don't let the igbo one go, just start wait until he gets back to see if he is the type you can live with cus its not by him acting all good from afar, you can also pray on it
Do not let the omo yanki goo o, cus 2years is enough to settle down, or you can ask him where you both are headed
Cus if you have been in a relationship for two years without settling down its like driving a car without knowing where you are goin, one thing is sure, you woul def run outta gass
Exactly! Dating for two years and you never asked where you guys are heading to? 2years is just too much mbok.
DeleteAsk him where the relationship is headed simple.
Because he's ibo abi or is it bcos of d obodo oyinbo factor?...atimes I find it difficult to believe ao stupid some ladies are...dias notin wrong wit u n ur bf n accordin to u he mentions plannin a future with u...na u sabi o...u think wen u r 27 no guy'l look in ur direction again abi?..u r 26 but ur brain 15
DeletePoster don't put all ur eggs in one basket_I got a gf whose 2bfs proposed to and she accepted d two n now she's happily married after weighing n checking n finally choosing d better devil. It's way better for a guy to be disappointed after dating for years than for it to be d girl. Don't reject d London guy oh! And most importantly start praying seriously so u don't make a mistake.
DeleteHonestly, I love you mama stellz. Your sense of humour cracks me up @ thinking cap. Okay back to the matter. Nne, open your eyes o. 2 years?? What is he waiting for? Give the new dude a chance pls. Your yoruba prince works in an oil firm so money to start a family can't be a problem. Maybe he's not sure about you too and he's asking questions like this on another blog. Ask him when he will be willing to settle down ( I didn't say ask him to marry you o) then from his answer you can draw out your inferences. However the real question is "what do you want? " don't be confused. Pray about it too.... these days there's more than meets the eye. Your crucifix wearing prince or even the London dude may just be demons with jerry curls underneath the cassock. Only God can reveal the true intentions of a man to you. I've been there too. *Pumpkin Le shrink
Delete@Poster, I'll advice you watch both guys closely. Don't be carried away by their outward apperance. Talk to God about it to choose which is your's inother to avoid mistakes in life. There is more to marriage. i'm saying this fm experience* I wish you luck in your decisions. Cheers......
DeleteBetter grab this one dt is willing n ready for u. U stayed wit him for two yrs but he cdnt propose yl ur mates are being proposed to after one week of meeting someone.
DeleteDnt forget dt d yoruba guy may even dump u tomr cos of dis stupid tribal issue.
Make ur choice n dnt forget to pray concerning it.
Madam clock is ticking oh n u r gradually ageing.
Better grab this one dt is willing n ready for u. U stayed wit him for two yrs but he cdnt propose yl ur mates are being proposed to after one week of meeting someone.
DeleteDnt forget dt d yoruba guy may even dump u tomr cos of dis stupid tribal issue.
Make ur choice n dnt forget to pray concerning it.
Madam clock is ticking oh n u r gradually ageing.
It takes a man about a week to know if you're his type or not. If your bf hasn't proposed after 2 years even though he's comfortable, most likely he's using you to kill time till he meets "the one". With all the qualities of the second guy I think you should go for him. Husband serious pass bf o!
DeleteLinda Eze! How i so love u!!!!!!
DeleteAm with Linda on this.
2years and the dude never pop the question? Lol! Plz madam poster kindly and "jejely" marry the London guy 2 avoid "had i kwn" . And be fast about him. Or Better still, tell ur Prince that someone proposed 2 u and watch his reaction closely!! Whichever way he reacts to the news will than determine ur next step.
Goodluck!!!
#Hot Ice
Listen, he might never put a ring on it, 2 yrs? C'mon! Yoruba guys always prefer their home gals #Fact.
DeletePls don't spit out the sugar in your mouth. Go for the other guy, don't fall my hand.
A word is enough for the wise.
My dear poster please get to know the London guy very well and at the same time have a talk with your current BF about the way forward. If he is still posting you my sister if after spending some time knowing the London guy and he seems ok, abandon your current ship and move forward! It happened to me and after weighing my options I married the guy who was serious. If a guy truly loves you he will marry you no matter what and he won't waste any time for fear of someone stealing his jewel.
DeleteI know a lot of people will chew my ear on this but then who gives a flying fuck - excuse my Sambisian language. First, I went out with my boyfriend for four long drawn out years and just the night I had made up my mind to walk - he popped the question while we were celebrating our relationship anniversary. We were both bidding our time and we almost over did it. It helped that I didn't act desperate and had the confidence I would meet my own man if it didn't work so please 2 years might not be the Metuselah time frame everyone is making it out to be. 2nd, please do not marry a yoruba man just like I will advise a yoruba man or woman not to marry an igbo man/woman. Our cultures are too far apart, that factor that sets us apart from each other will always rear its ugly head. Call me tribalistic or whatever ur dictionary throws at you. - Onanikoko.
Delete@bitchplis I ws gonna ask hw old u r but ur name says it all. U r indeed naive......smh
DeleteHihihi ! Onye ayiyo enwero choice.
ReplyDeleteAll I could grasp from your write up is big firm this, big company that. Outside the looks nd money, which do u really like, which is more serious nd where do u see yourself with either of them in 10years time. There is more to marriage than making someone propose cuz of uncertainty. I pray for God's wisdom for you.
ReplyDeleteU must be very beautifl fr u to hv had up to 20 suitors. Pls leave d both of them.i had a revelation about u last nyt,not knwing am gonna see ur post today. I was shown dt d 1St guy wnt propose and d sec is so violent. Dnt marry any.d rev also showd dt u r my wife.can u cook,clean and take care of my flocks as a spritual mother cos am a prophet of God.can u be able to preach d gosple t my congregation when am out on ministration.can u prophecy and see visiond.send ur contact to stella,if u sincerely have ds inner convinsion dt u r qualified. Do dt as soon as possible cos God had already showd me my wedding date a long time ago.remain blessed
ReplyDeleteProphet James
General overseer,flocks of God deliverace ministry
Lol...he he he he
DeleteLmao........sdkers will never cease to amaze me....
DeleteLmaooooooo, you crack me up...... anyways as 4 the madam, I pray God gives u wisdom to know which 2 choice, my honest advice is, don't be in a hurry, after all nothing last 4eva :)
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DeleteLmao ..Stella you dey see something for your blog o
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DeleteHahahahahahaha olodo_werrin person no go see for sdk? U need d "cele" kinda flogging cos ur case no be here!
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Lmao! Ndiara!! Which bloody revelation? Do you know her name? nor have you seen her in person? Pls stop using God's name in vain I beg of you. 419 people.
DeleteDo not use the Lord's name in vain. Keep fooling urself. James don suffer.
DeleteLmao! Omg, you just made my day with this comment!
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DeleteProphet James,na wa fr u ooooo,lol
DeletePrincess charming,just laugh naw. Must life be in black and white? Know a joke for what it is!
DeleteI want to point something out. I didn't write the above comment. Everybody knows am a happily married man of God. @impostor,may God forgive u. Don't let me lay a curse on u for trying to tarnish my image here in favour of your vain humour. A word is enough for d wise. Deliverance@prophetjames.com. Thanx and God bless
DeleteLmaoooo
DeleteProphet james is a foollllllll
@Wide eyed, the 'Lmao' you saw there was what? Pls check well.
Delete@ Princess,Sowie, Nor vex,.mwah.
DeleteMake I borrow SDK thinking cap.
ReplyDeleteLwkmd!
Nne, go into meditation oo, pray, and choose wisely, there's no safe haven on earth.
Stella haba, if you don't want to post my comments tell me now, how can I suffer my pregnant self to type and I will not find the comment
DeleteSo not happy
Just ask your sister to call you when you are with your yoruba guy, advising you to leave your current bf for the new one. You know na as per sharp babe, start saying stuffs like I know he will marry me, I can't leave him now cos the proposal looks good, It's my choice, bla bla bla and make sure the guy asks you after the convo what that was all about.
ReplyDeleteAfter that, give him small time, if he still doesn't act, abeg, waka comot o!!
A guy that is really into you will do all not to lose you.
You be tiff, lol!
DeleteIt works sha.
Lmao. Nice one.
DeleteSeriously I support truthteller on this,if you re very close 2 your mum she should b in d best position 2 do dat,anyway I wish you luck and b very careful.
DeleteCorrect.
DeleteLol
Trust me....follow the Yoruba guy o
ReplyDeleteA bird at hand.....u know d rest
Forget about jando.
London is synonymous with stingy
Btw who amongst them is richer?
Ur question is so right
DeleteM-amie!!!!!!...lips sealed oo...
DeleteI thought they said you should shut up on this one.
DeleteBreezy
Did u not read the part where she said ur advice is not needed!!! Don't u ve shame?
Delete@Mamie, Btw we anons hate u too, lmao, d gee dn kuku talk say she no need ur advice on ds one, say she no trust ur advice on ds one!!! U see ya life, everybody dn know say ya comment no de ever make small sense, how much more big one, hahahahahahahaha, anons hate Mamie water.
Delete@Mamie you talk true on this one. London boys are not it at all compared to Nigerian guys but anyways may God choose for her
DeleteWhen your matter reach "desperado" level, come back and ask the question again.
ReplyDeleteInform the yoruba guy that u just accepted a marriage proposal offer n see his reactions. If he says good luck to u, then go ahead and accept the guy's offer. But if he says no u can't do that and makes a move, say yes n over look the other offer. U re 27, no time. All this long r/ship is not too good. He might be saying marriage stuff n u will be waiting, remember u guys are not from same place, let it not be when u say no to the other guy, n he eventually takes u to his parents, they will say no omo_ibo. Be wise n sort ur self this year. Also pray n ask God to direct u.
ReplyDeleteChai.... I couldn't help I had to laugh seriously. Prophet you try, so God did not even show you someone from your congregation to marry ? Lemme leave you for pepper.
ReplyDeleteJust 2 yrs? Don't worry he will propose by d 10th year. Keep waiting
ReplyDeleteGo and face ur sowing girl. This post needs people with brain, not ur likes.
DeleteYou are really improving.
DeleteYou write 2 lines now... we are getting there
Who says insults isn't a reinforcement?
CeeCee
@Ceecee.....hahaha ur mouth.
DeleteThis simply means you are a cheater. At the end of the day you are going to choose based on who has more money ( i know her type. ) follow your heart. If you were going to choose based on love you won't be asking us this question.
ReplyDeleteHi Moi, I hate to break this to you but in marriage love is just not enough.
DeleteThe Alex
My dear ask God for direction...am languishing in a lonely marriage here because I chose the wrong person.
ReplyDeleteOnly God can direct you.
Please don't look at looks or money
@general overseer, flock of God delivarnce ministry are you suffering? What kind of a useless, ridiculous and blasphemous joke was that in ' GOD's name'. This is the reason why some people have problems that are beyond human comprehension.
ReplyDelete@Mrs Stella Dimoko Korkus, one would have thought that since you filter comments and discard those that 'you think' are not good for public consumption, you would have equally done justice to this one as well. I will assume you didn't see this one.
Well done ma.
GBN.
Paragon7ven.
M-Amie u ve been warned yet u still gave ur advice. My dear the devil u knw is better than d angel in UK,if ur naija guy loves u,u need to set him up for marriage,use ur head now,n above all,ask God to show u who amongst them is his will.
ReplyDeleteYou are woried about this your Yoruba guy,bc you knw deep inside you,he is not ready to settle down,and when he does,he won't settle with you..and this London guy,common,you dnt know this guy enought to marry him,do you?..You are just 26 my girl so relax,nd keep praying to God,when the right guy comes,you won't have time to come to SDK and ask us help you choose..
ReplyDeleteFireworks!
Fireworks is so on Point! Couldn't have said it any better
DeleteI think you should give d Yankee guy a shot. But giv d yoruba guy topmost priority.
ReplyDeleteAnd I think you should talk to him abt marriage, you guys hav been dating for the past two years, so u should be very free with him.
Pls do no ask him to propose, just keep discussing both of u together as hubby n wify (you should know how to code things) and feel his responses.
If the marriage topics bore him, my dear carry him and hin matter comot for ur head, put am 4 ya shoulder, upgrade d Yankee Bobo unto d next level.
*sips zobo* Le boos are really scare this days o, btw how manage u've had up to 20 suitors? *my jaw is on d floor*
Mamie so u don't want her to join u in London eeh Kwa See oo. Nne pls dat yoruba guy won't marry u oo tomoro he will come up one excuse or the oda pls follow my ibo bros. U ve dated for two years and he has not proposed and u re rejecting suitors. Jisie ike!
ReplyDeleteMy Dear, If the yoruba guy is financially comfortable as u stated in your post, what stops him from proposing to u at least?. I suggest that you stylishly hint it to him that u are having many suitors. that will make him sit up, but in the event the guy fails to commit. my Dear na the best time to Port.
ReplyDeleteYoruba boys are good at wasting time with Ibo girls...@ d long run,they dump you and marry their Yoruba babes o.
ReplyDeleteDon't dull...give the second one a chance or better still date both since they are not in the same location. With time, you go know who the real deal is
Yoruba boys are good at wasting time with Ibo girls...@ d long run,they dump you and marry their Yoruba babes o.
ReplyDeleteDon't dull...give the second one a chance or better still date both since they are not in the same location. With time, you go know who the real deal is
Follow ur heart dear poster.
ReplyDeleteLMAO. Prophet James, you're so going to hell for this joke of yours. Rofl
ReplyDeleteI think you need to have "the conversation" with your boyfriend. Ask him where this relationship is going to that you need to be able to plan your life. Tell him you are 27 and no longer a child.
ReplyDeleteIf he starts getting angry and starts insinuating anything, tell him that the relationship is at an end that he cannot continue stringing you along as you need to know.
Use your God-given female intuition to know the steps to take. One thing you have to have at the back of your mind is that if the guy does not bite, you have to call it quits and move on regardless of if London boy works out or not.
Mamie, she said she doesn't want you idea.....leave her alone biko. See your stupid question, stupid mamie always after riches nd fame
ReplyDeleteMy dear,take your time to study dis new guy(ibo one) o.....doesn't he av a girlfriend ?why would the mother help him look for a wife @ his age?i am sure he has his own many many flaws(may be VIOLENT in nature)that made him unable to get a lady,so the mother is looking for who to dump him with,so dearie don't rush into accepting him and as for that yoruba dude tell him abt this new guy and get or see his reaction.#DOVE#
ReplyDeletePray and be open with your yoruba boyfriend. Tell him about the suitor in uk. If he proposes, make sure his family accepts you. If the Yoruba family does not accept you, don't marry him! This is a strong warning o
ReplyDeleteIf the Yoruba boyfriend does not propose, make sure you study the other man well before accepting his proposal. Marriage no be small things o. Pray and fast, God will not allow you to go astray. Good luck. Rose
@truth teller u are on point even the guy dat is not ready knowing he may loose you will make a commitment but my advice be say don't say no to anyone yet cos love grows it doesn't matter how long u hv dated someone
ReplyDeleteMy dear, am not old enough to advice you or in a very stable emotional state but I did tell you to forget love and go for the one that's ready to marry you o. Me that was forming love just got dumped because am not igbo and not very fair.
ReplyDeleteDelta pikin#
Oh, Mamie! I give up on u. U r beyond redemption.
ReplyDeleteAny guy abroad that can't find a wife for himself is a disaster waiting to happen. Don't become exhibit A when you marry him and he starts treating you any which way. Don't buy into the all girls abroad are bad so he needs a girl from home. His type usually need a girl they can control. So it's better you either wait on Mr Oil and Gas or wait on someone who you will know physically. Marriage is hard enough, don't go and add issues by marrying a stranger. If you do marry Mr London, better make a few visits before marriage to really see what his story is.
ReplyDeleteSpot on! 1000000 likes
DeleteJust because you have been introduced to someone does not mean he will marry you.Don't chase anybody away, continue to keep in touch with the London guy, get to know him,until he is ready to come and marry you,then you can let go of the other guy. Do not put pressure on the yoruba guy continue to date him. What if you break up with one and the other leaves you.As long as you are not having sex with them there is nothing wrong to date both of them.
ReplyDeleteHahahahhah @ pastor
ReplyDeleteHahhahahhaha Mamieeee! As if d babe knew u'll gonna tlk crap. Such a joker u r. Well ur fan duh. #SEE
ReplyDeleteplease follow the london boy.....i know what it is like to be from another tribe and marry yoruba......15-20 years down the line,he will remember that there is one yoruba woman he forgot to marry.i have accessed a lot of cases.And i have come to the above solution.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is not all bout love but companionship and friendship. Accept d one who is ready to marry for u will learn to love him.
ReplyDeletePoster go and pray about it. God is your strength. If someone doesn't have time for you now, it's not going to change after marriage.
ReplyDeleteChai, did I read 20 proposals? A sister is here searching, you are doing Shakara, better hold on tight to that broda. Well this summer won't pass me by, I'm attending all the weddings from chi-town to DC, I must to catch one in mr ibu's voice. Lol
Buahahahaha!!! Prophet James u are really a case nut... poster have u heard 4rm God? he's speaking to u thru prophet James (Doom)...
ReplyDeleteBtw poster, u are a hot cake o. 20 suitors? Mtcheww!! Be there counting toasters as suitors , none of these two have even proposed and u are there feeling hotter than Timaya... there's a huge difference btw a bf and a potential suitor, get that clear...
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DeleteBad belle.
DeleteShe's hot and she knows it so go and die! (In Oshiomole's voice)
Madam follow d one dat is ready now u hear, why force a guy to propose wen there's a man begging u for marriage?
ReplyDeleteChei Mamie she already said she don't trust u! @ poster. Take truthteller advise above, it works like magic.. My friends have used it too. It makes the man sit up and take fast decisions. If he do not propose within 2 months, babe go for the Ibo guy o.. Investigate him wella cos some yankee guys are deceptive too. My dear no time o.. Don't let any man keep you waiting! TJ
ReplyDeleteOh I Forgot 2 mention, am having the best time of my life with my new lover...
ReplyDeleteYOLO...
Lol...so u now hate anons no longer naija? Ok nah
ReplyDeletePoster, wen mrg is concerned, its not just abt getting somone to propose. Get down on ur knees nd pray seriously for divine revelation. If u have prayer warriors or prayer partners, give them the London guy's name nd let them join u to pray. With tim, u wil kno if he's right for u or not. The reason why many mrgs re dysfunctional today is bc of boyfriend/girlfriend rship, which is alwz started wtout God's consent, sex blinds the lovers, then the lady starts gettin desperate nd prayin for d guy to propose, not carin whether he's d right person or not. So pray nd seek for an answer frm God. That ur bf might not even b d right one for u
Beware of these london boys ooo, they are not as "clean! as them seem. Na when you reach here you go know how far. But more importantly, pray about it
ReplyDeleteAm A blunt fellow so am gone tell ma guy directly that theres a guy askn for ma hand from ma parents but that they love him 'the yoruba guy' and wish for him to marry me just that they also damned worried am growing older by the day and this guy is ready to pay the bride price now and take me home. then ask him to be blunt, clear and concise about his reply. if am truely the one or if he still has doubts and options aside moi that i don't know of. but am gone be prepared for any answer. Am a no time waster if you don't love me enough to marry moi lets talk the talk and lemme walk the walk.
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I smell tribal sentiments here from your mum..... Two years I not too long to start getting desperate and wondering if he will ever marry you..... How does your current boyfriend treat you? How do u feel about him? Are u with the jand guy cos of pressure? Do u really know his character? I have been married 9 years now following long distance and I don't always advice it.... It took a lot of strain on our marriage initially cos we just started to discover so much...... My dear stop gettin desperate and take time to pray hard let God you. Cos might be suprised your husband is none of the above....marriage is not a 100 meters dash, it's about doing it well so take a chill pill, pray and shine ya eyes
ReplyDeleteAbeg I need real responses. And I'm not the poster. I just have a similar issue. My bf of years just got a job last year the pay is really average and I met some other guy who seems ready if I'm ready.
ReplyDeleteIi really want my bf to propose. I dunno how to say it again. He seems to want to take his time.
He's aware my parents are already asking me how far and even introducing other guys to me.
He just acts unmoved.
I know he loves me but dunno y he's dragging.
I don't want to go d pregnancy route
Abeg any real ways to make him move?
He knows your parents are asking you how far and even introducing other guys to you yet he's unmoved? Over confidence dey worry am, honey, you need to shake him up a little, let him know he runs the risk of loosing you if he doesn't do what's right. Most times, guys get cocky once they have sex with a lady and ladies feel they have to stay cos of that, stop having sex with himn give the otther guy a chance and take sex off the table there too, that way, if anyone walks out you won't really feel a sense of loss, meantime, study the two guys, if the other guy is good to you, since he's ready, I'd advice you go with him, time waits for no one. BEAUTY
DeleteHe knows your parents are asking you how far and even introducing other guys to you yet he's unmoved? Over confidence dey worry am, honey, you need to shake him up a little, let him know he runs the risk of loosing you if he doesn't do what's right. Most times, guys get cocky once they have sex with a lady and ladies feel they have to stay cos of that, stop having sex with himn give the otther guy a chance and take sex off the table there too, that way, if anyone walks out you won't really feel a sense of loss, meantime, study the two guys, if the other guy is good to you, since he's ready, I'd advice you go with him, time waits for no one. BEAUTY
DeleteDon't do what truthteller said oo. You will sound desperate and might push him away.
ReplyDeleteDeep down inside every woman, we know when a guy is serious about us or just stringing us along. But sometime we choose to believe what we want to believe.
So now ask yourself, in this your two years relationship has your guy showed any sign of serious commitment ?
Have you met his family? Does he have a house he can live with a wife in, or planning to get one?
Does he talk about the future with you? Does he involve you in decisions that affect his future?
You also said he doesn't really have time for you. What do you mean? Does he call you at least once a day? Does he go out of his way to be with you or is it just as convenient?
Contrary to what many people say, man do know how to show love and they will make time out of the busiest schedule in the whole world for the woman they truly love.
If your answer to many of these questions are negative, then you should consider sitting him down for a talk. Now remember the talk is not to ask for a ring. It's just to determine where you stand. If he avoids the talk or tries to cover up/change the topic.....
My advise is take a loooonnnnngggg walk. You don't need to fight just be "friends" and unavailable. Then you can check out the other guy.
But also you should get to know the other guy properly, so you don't jump from fry pan to fire.
Good luck
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DeleteWell said
DeleteCorrect reply.
DeleteCome clean with him. Tell him about the ibo guy and his proposal. If he has no reaction, that's answer enough.
ReplyDeleteYou should have a tête ate with your bf, tell him you would love to settle down early and ask him what his plans are for the relationship. Make up your mind after then...EEE!!!
ReplyDeleteHmm.... Two years is not that long.... Sit him down and ask bluntly about marriage. Go str8 to the point o.
ReplyDeleteAt anon 6:01pm.. Hmmm a familiar story. Hope it's not eXG?
@ poster, upon how you go school come get enough exposure, you still dey reason like one kind dependent illiterate. Abi you never see women wey don reach your aunty age dey marry???! Dey there make the spirit of desperado catch you because of man. Mcheew!
ReplyDeleteMc pepel says so!
I'm so grateful for all the comments so far.
ReplyDeleteYes, iv had over 20 suitors, suitors not toasters.
Nope we have not had sex and I will not.
Yes, I am so into my dear lord and saviour Jesus christ . And I have been praying each time I pray I keep seeing I n the yoruba lover.
He talks about us a lot and about getting settled but na only talk we ho chop.
I have threatened leaving him n his almost went mad and begged out my life.
I mention I am not a yankee or jando freak.
I am not desperate but I hv goals and part of it is being settled before 30... I hv to worry na I be girl no body likes to have kids late.. let's stop pretending. .
All the same thanks . I hv picked from this n I'm amazed at such mature responses.. God bless you all.
Abeg, give me 1 out of the 2 as you no know the one wey love you or vice versa, I no need love. I go learn to love later. Don't forget to tell SDK after you have chosen the 1 you want, so I can go ahead with the other. Thanks in advance. #big grin#
Deletei agree with flo's suggestion.there is no two ways abt it,when you know,YOU KNOW.i dated my huxby 4 7 years b4 he popped d ques but i knew.if to say i didnt talk to him sef,he mite nt av.his kind of person is d will give you a ring and start planning d wedding asap nt d will propose and marry a year after type.maybe dts d type of person ur yoruba guy is bt if u dont talk abt it,u'll neva know and mistakes can arise from that lack of info
ReplyDeleteMy advice : no rush! Keep calm
ReplyDeletePoster, most times the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. Sometimes overseas suitors na bu kwa the more you look the less you see. I will not advice you to marry someone who you haven't spent much time with. It's not compulsory you end up marrying either of them, they could both be wrong for you. Courtship is very important prior to marriage and i'm so weary of long distance courtship especially one where both parties don't know each other that well. Nne the fact that your mum's friend introduced him to you does not make him Mr Perfect.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, who told you that you can't get suitors after 27??? That's a myth my dear. Don't be in a hurry to marry, marriage is a lifetime commitment and not one you should rush into. Don't let anyone pressure you nne.
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Na so so children full this blog. Now I understand some comments. Why are you ladies pulling these stupid tricks? Tricks are for kids o. How won't we have so many dear Stella emails when you all use tricks to get men to propose. Tufia.
ReplyDeleteHow do you know the obodo oyinbo guy is not married? What do you really know about him? Be careful others have been burnt.
ReplyDeleteI thought 'Truthteller' was a 'truth teller....'
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I am very sure that he is delaying solely because u both aint from the same tribe!!!yoruba guyz alwayz wana end up with gurlz from their tribe..secondly,money is not the ish here cos he works in an oil firm,he knowz u'r alrdy ripe enof to settle down after two whole yrz of being together...like seriously,wat can be the problem?My dear,grab the one wey u dey see oooo cos u might end up loosing both...
ReplyDeleteNigeria!. Wen will we get to d level where 2 lovers would live together, hv fun, enjoy themselves, hv kids without d pressure of a certificate called marriage? Marriage is overated peeps. Stick with ur Yoruba guy pls. Dats reality 4 u. D guy in London is a fairy tale. If he's dat gud y he neva find someone 4 there? Sis enjoy ur life and not be desperate for paper marriage. To me ur already married to d Yorba guy. Peace out.
ReplyDeleteD devil u kw is beta dan d angel u do nt kw,except if ur present Bf is nt ready 2 marry u den u consider d oda guy,bcos me I no lk arrangee
ReplyDeleteSince you say no premarital sex, without letting go of the first, give the Londoner a chance, visit him in London to see things for yourself, meanwhile, after two years there's nothing wrong with asking your bf where you're headed, ask for a specific time table, if he's still cagey, dump him abeg, forget the fact thatt he cried and begged when you left him before, guys can be deceptive like that, doesn't mean he really loves you, anybody can form tears, don't let him waste your time till he finds what he's looking for and marry her in 3months. 2 years ke?!!! BEAUTY
ReplyDeleteHmmm dear poster please don't alter anything in your life. Don't tell the yoruba guy about the new igbo jand dude. Just continue to date them both while trying to understand them better. With time you'll know the truth in your heart then you can make the needed move and stick to your decision. We don't want the yoruba guy feeling threatened/ insecure. Give it time, time is everything.
ReplyDeleteThis sounds so familiar. Just be honest. Don't try to play smart, talk to the Yoruba dude and then decide. because if it doesn't work with my UK you might not find your vacated position still empty
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time waster ni yoruba bobo yen! he should have dropped a couple of hints by now my dear face the ibo guy but that is after you have met him in person o. and dont make any attempt to nudge your youruba bobo cos he go take am yab u tomorrow. he knows what he wants and even when you tell him you are breakng up, if he loves you he wld still chase you. besides, prayer is the ultimate. Ask God to order your steps and to reveal who each of these men truly are.i wont be shocked if none of them is it.
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