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You dumped your lover and moved on or you were dumped and they moved on but now you or the ex wants to attend the wedding?whats your take on this?should they stay away or attend the wedding?
Remember that this might make the person that was dumped uncomfortable or make them
happy to see that you see that they have moved on.....or is that person wanting to attend the wedding wants to show that they have moved on and can wish you well or is it because they havent moved on yet?.......Read this please and advise her accordingly because it might be a wrong move....
Stella, i am an addicted to SDK blog,but always comment under anonymous!please I want to know if I'm doing the right thing, I got married 3 years ago,but I left a guy I dated for about 10 years to marry my husband,though, it's wrong to say but I married out of pressure,and some other reasons, cos I never believed I would marry any other guy except that my boyfriend,cos we both loved each other so dearly,that even when I left him,i find it so hard to do anything with my hubby,i didn't move in after my marriage cos I was so heartbroken hence don't want to have Anything to do with my hubby,it was all like a movie,but it happened.
it wasn't easy for me initially,but since last year,i have been trying to make my marriage wrk and seem to be enjoying it now,but it took God's grace!
it wasn't easy for me initially,but since last year,i have been trying to make my marriage wrk and seem to be enjoying it now,but it took God's grace!
Now my ex is getting married to my class mate,sincerely,it hurts but it's inevitable ,we have moved on but I really want to attend the wedding,dunno why I want to go,but I just want to be there,no harm intended though,but the fact that all our old friends would be there and I would really want to be amongst them once again, don't know if I'm doing the right thing by going.
i am confused,please don't cuss me out,just your advice!thanks and God bless you!.
i am confused,please don't cuss me out,just your advice!thanks and God bless you!.
First of all, why be say na only anonymous candidates dey always get case to table?
ReplyDeleteBack to poster, erm, I no think say na good idea sha make matter no come change hand. Even if you decide say you go respect yourself for deya, what about the guy? You fit go now ihn adrenaline go change position. Better stay for your crib jejeje.
Pepper ose oku don throwey!
Pepper the richest, richer than Ezenwanyi herself!
I hate sounding like this but... you are nothing but a fool. A demonic agent seeking to destroy lives. What u really want to do is remind him of all the great sex u had for 10 years and since u r in a loveless marriage, u want to initiate an adulterous liason.
DeleteWhy are you so selfish? U want to attend because of ur classmates. Why not throw an "I love you" party for your husband and invite all those classmates? If it was ur husband reaching out to his married ex, you will be all over blogs cussing him and all men about their infidelity. Now you think contemplating adultery is confusion. Witch! !!
Ewu "seem to be enjoying marriage"
Pepper I'm in love with u
DeleteDr Oke, welcome back! Good to know you have recovered from what Ezenwanyi did to you, Dr Okechukwu, I told u but you wouldn't listen! Now u've had a taste of it. No wonder they say experience is best
Deleteteacher.sorry o!
Blogprincess, pepper loves you more.
Pepper the best lover.
Pepper its no Ezewanyi that took me out. I went on a course on Ebola. You know I am infectious disease specialist. Am back. Stella hit us a sex topic biko lets get education.
DeleteGud points but too harsh. Easy on d insults abeg @Dr
DeleteDr oke God bless u! Poster throw a party 4 ur hubby n invite ur mates over. U qet hidden aqenda wey u never talk.
DeleteDr okechukwu has summed it up! Let's all play like pepper! Spray Yabbis for friday! Yay! Will rest finally!
DeleteAs 4 me, I want no ex @ my wedding neither do I want 2 see deir faces @ mine. Wot am I saying sef? I hv only 1 real ex I want nothing 2 do wit him. I came across a statement that if u r frnds wit n ex, it means u whr never really in love or r still in love wit each oda. Throw dat I love u part d Dr suggested n invite ur frnds.
DeletePoster,go and enjoy your self jaree...no big deal....look hot and sexy aswell....the earlier you start loving your hubby,the better for you....
ReplyDeleteI don't thing that's de right thing to do. U still love ur ex so going dere is going to hurt u soo bad. I advice u look for something to keep u busy dat day. My dear keep working on ur marriage. The Lord is ur strength.
ReplyDelete**Think
DeleteYou can not eat your cake and have it. Leave the Guy alone and face your loveless marriage.
ReplyDeleteIf u ddnt say smthg mean ur day wld neva be complete.
DeleteKpele anony 10;53, it must be really hard n frustrating to date or live, with an infidel(i tim 5:8).
Jisike inugo.
Shut up your dirty mouth. Who's your mate here, I based in London. I'm sure you have never being to the airport in your life.
DeleteLwkm...choi
DeleteHahaha haha ndi mmadu sef as if London is a big deal mcheww
DeleteI love pinkshell! Btw, are you Igbo or yoruba? You seem to write both well
Deletecinderella
Y is it that on this blog it is either they graduated with a First class or they are in London ehn?!
DeleteE pele o Mr. Londonner
Hian!
DeleteWetin we dey tlk wetin anony dey tlk.
Dis woman is really confused.
Wat az london got to do wit wat is bin said #Buhahahaha.
@ cinderella
Am igbo (4m mum) n yoruba (4m dad)
But nt very fluent in any of d langs. But i de try sha.
London mmm... Wetin pepper wey dey moon abi na sun qo come do na?
DeleteI can bet it,if she goes for this wedding on Saturday,next week Saturday;another wedding might take place but with no one in attendant,just the both of you knacking your present and past memories away; this poster should not receive me with wedding strategy here; you still want this guy and a reason to see him again,when you wish him well,what message goes to his brain?lets hook up and cuddle;i guess you getting horny right now; but that's the truth.
ReplyDeleteIf you go,expect more and if you don't go, you won't be happy and he won't forgive you,i say go and be happy;side eyes lol.
Kaycee, u just aroused me now.....
DeleteBtw, u are on point
Kaycee, you jusy aroused Ezenwany's cynaculas! And you know say she gather up and down, your best antidote! E ga ebunikwa? Ezenwanyi gi kwa single bone, iff she handle you finish u go report for orthopaedic for hip adjustment, be warned.
DeletePepper the observer
Bwahahaaaaaaa. ....pepper idi useless
DeleteOnye ala......lwkmd
Kaycee,u just found a fan in me! You gave me several 'aha' moments with your submission! Well said!
DeleteDear poster, don't start something you can't finish. Forget about the wedding and face your marriage.
ReplyDeleteYou don't always get what you want in life. So suck it and move on.
CeeCee
Gbam biko face ur husband cos from my own observation, d man is really trying to c if it work btw u both. Life isn't dt rosy.
DeleteGbam biko face ur husband cos from my own observation, d man is really trying to c if it work btw u both. Life isn't dt rosy.
DeleteDon't go.
ReplyDeleteYou have no reasons being there.
I'm of the opinion that people should try as much as possible to avoid contacts with their ex. Epecially if 1 or both are married to avoid rekindling old flames.
@ poster,You might think you have gotten over him,but from your post I feel you still have feelings for him.
He is in your past, let him remain there!
As for seeing your old friends, that one is no biggie. You can contact anyone of them anytime.
Hmnnn.
ReplyDeleteLet him go please. I have an ex boyfriend I have been avoiding for almost a decade.
Sparks still fly between us and that hasn't changed at all. He's always suggesting lunch and a drink, but he's married and that's the reason why I have been avoiding him.
Ko ma lo fi ti e koba mi!
You know most men and their inability to control themselves. Please don't put yourself in an uncomfortable situation because it could go beyond 'im just going to the wedding'.
Like I told my man last night when we were discussing a man having a female PA and vice versa.........NO one is above temptation.
Wisdom is key ma'am.
By your man, you mean Godwin?
DeleteHehehehehehe @ Anon 1.15. Lwkmh.
Delete@ Posh, u r so right. No one is above temptation.
@Anon 1.15
DeleteApologies darling, but I don't know anyone called Godwin.
Young woman d ex invite u? U will just go there and shame urself. Better stay at home and fuck your husband till u taya that day to take ur mind off it
ReplyDeleteAbi ooh even if na to suck D from morning till night better than to go disgrace urself tufia I detest embarrasment.
DeleteAbi ooh even if na to suck D from morning till night better than to go disgrace urself tufia I detest embarrasment.
DeleteWomen and men PLEASE stop marrying out of pressure.
ReplyDeleteYears ago, when we were in 200 level and supposed to be focusing on school, My friend's mother told her to go and marry being the first child.
Her younger sister got married to an abusive man whose stock in trade was to sleep with young girls in her compund. He even got a teenager pregnant.
To their mom, marriage is marriage.
She even threatened that when they move to the new family house, my friend wasn't welcome.
I come from a different background where my parents (God bless their hearts)...never pressurised us into anything apart from things connected to education and spirituality.
My mother offered my friend a room in our house because she couldn't fathom how a mother would treat her child so badly. She had to ask my friend if the woman is her biological mother.
Well, She got involved with this strange man, had a son for him and was suffering in silence because the man neglected her.
I thank God almighty, the only one who can turn things around for good.........things eventually worked out and they are happy. She recently gave birth to a baby girl.
Pardon my epistle, the posters message about pressure brought out fresh emotions.
If u attend that wedding some of those your cos-mate go dey #yimu# @u 4 corner and u will b d subject matter on their way home! but cant people just learn to forget abt dis "ex ex ex' thing and move on? it's a shame that u are still stupidly inlove wt d man who wasted your 10 good years.
ReplyDeleteDid it ever occur to you that he could have still dump you for your course-mate if you hadn't left him to marry your husband? and u are here still stalking and loving him???
Madam stay away from that wedding and focus on working out your marriage!
Or did it occur to her that the Ex is not her God given husband, dt u dated someone for 20yrs doesn't mean u r destined to be together. Face ur home madam n live him alone cos I sense u r still inlove with him.
DeleteBest comment ever!
DeleteMiss which mumu ex? Na period?
Word#
DeleteIn the first place, what was th reason for your breakup?
ReplyDeleteI think you should face your marriage first & develop/grow more love for your husband, so as to avoid unnecessary feelings coming back.
Pls my dear, don't go. Do sometin new with ur hubby tht day tht will draw both of u closer. Don't go n spoil anoda girl's hapi day bcos d moment He sees you, he ll travel to d past in his mind so will u, n quiet frankly, l don't think u ve moved on, keep working on your marriage n best of luck.
ReplyDeleteDede
Dear poster, there's more to this your going. please be careful and prayerful,let sleeping dogs lie ok.IMO don't go anywhere near that man if it's not coincidential...shikena
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I go with Genny baby, couldnt have said it better
ReplyDeleteDo you need the public to tell you that it would look awkward?
ReplyDeleteYou burdened ur hubby with a loveless marriage for three years and now want ur ex to relive the memories u had with him on his wedding day, You are a special kind of selfish!
Stay in ur house and enjoy d wedding through ur bbm dp
ReplyDeleteHallelujah! Hallelujah! Hallleeeluuja!! Pat is free to write today, Oga has closed for the day.
DeletePepper the Oga herself.
Madam face ur marrige. U can't eat ur cake and hv it. Forget the wedding in other not to go there and fool urself
ReplyDeletemadam face your marriage dont go for the wedding pls.we all know you stilll love him.pls face your marriage
ReplyDeleteWhy would you wanna go for the wedding when it'll only bring back past memories..and I can bet you'll be deeply hurt when its time to "kiss the bride". Berra sidon haus and learn how to love your husband. Barbz
ReplyDeleteI attended my ex's wedding and cried for days, my dear stay at home o! Too painful, no matter how much you tell yourself you have moved on. Also, am sure your coursemates knew you guys dated. They will discuss you behind your back and do Yimu for you o! So stay home n watch Telemundo!
ReplyDeleteThe kind of eyes that would shoot at you eh....you wld wish the ground wld open up n swallow u.
ReplyDeleteI know u seek closure sort of but I don't advice u go there
Poster, pls..on that wedding day..Go on a trip with ur hubby...cos seeing ur ex wld reopen old wounds....u will see the guy getting married 2 ur friend and class mate...uld see pwople who knew u were 2gda, u will answer unnecessary questions......uld feel jealous....uld sit alone and keep reminiscing......its jst a bad move ...pls, don't try it
ReplyDeletePoster,,,u dont have any bizness with ur ex's wedding.....from ur story,,u have not moved on and going there will only rekindle past memories which may lead to something else that will affect ur marriage and his marriage....more over,,u have not put in so much into ur marriage,,so it is very shaky and it could collapse if u try to re-connect with ur ex.....try all u can to avoid ur ex(even phone calls and social media),,,cos ur mind and heart is still very much with him,,,and do ur best possible to make ur marriage work.....
ReplyDeleteWhat will be the reason not to marry the man you claim to love dearly?..MONEY! I can bet your husband has more money than your ex. Now you have found out money dose not buy happiness. FACE YOUR HUSBAND! DONT ATTEND THAT WEDDING! LEAVE YOUR EX TO ENJOY HIS NEW FOUND LOVE!
ReplyDeleteMy ex drove a car full of friends from Abuja to ......just to attend my wedding. They left Abuja late that day and had to spend the night in a village.
ReplyDeleteWe loved each other but we were wise enough to know we can't get married because love alone will not sustain a marriage so we parted on good terms but I cried a lot and moved on quickly.
Till today we still remain friends. His wife sef has joined our friendship. We visit each other even though we leave in different cities. I remember when I put him on my dp to wish him HBD my friends carry the matter for head. His wife is also on my bbm so there's nothing to it.
This is a guy that had every opportunity to take advantage of me but never did. I still appreciate him and even if he calls me today that he needs 3 million naira urgently even if I don't have I'd put up my car for sale.
There are very few sincere men these days. I have one as my husband the other as my ex. Can't even vouch for my brothers.
Wow! You just told my story..though I can vouch for my brothers..
DeleteStella You must discuss the issue one day,Why do people always still have Ex factors affecting der emotions.
ReplyDeleteWoman better make ur marriage work and focus on ur hubby,am sure he wont encourage u to go for d wedding.
First of all, nobody 'pressures' an adult into getting married. Considering you had been in a 10 year relationship before that. Please, be honest. Most importantly, you are just looking for trouble, and very selfish too. A lot of marriages and homes have been broken due to these so called exes. It is sad.
ReplyDeleteI have a similar case. A girl I had a huge crush on and also an intimate relationship is getting married in two weeks time. Even though she was in a seriou s relationship then, I normally collect my share. lool. When I got her wedding txt message, I was a bit jealous but in all I'm happy for her. I wish her the very best but i no fit attend the wedding o.
ReplyDeleteYou've not moved on but you are living in denial, were you invited to the wedding? Are you going there to go and relieve old memories? Don't allow yourself to be a tool in the devil's hand. Work out your marriage
ReplyDeleteWere you invited? Never go to a ceremony where you are not invited.
ReplyDeleteIf u don't attend d wedding: would u loose anything of utmost value?
ReplyDeleteIf u attend d wedding? Wud u gain anything of utmost value?
Weigh both sides...which eva suits u, its ur life nt ours.
My dear, if you want u can go for the wedding as a sign of maturity in u and dat u have really moved on. But I will advice you go with ur hubby if he doesnt mind cos it makes u more matured and makes u focus on the wedding without any negative tots. Go there, feel free, u can even introduce ur man, and enjoy ur day. The guy in question might careless about anything, But avoid close lonely contact.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, if you want u can go for the wedding as a sign of maturity in u and dat u have really moved on. But I will advice you go with ur hubby if he doesnt mind cos it makes u more matured and makes u focus on the wedding without any negative tots. Go there, feel free, u can even introduce ur man, and enjoy ur day. The guy in question might careless about anything, But avoid close lonely contact.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, if you want u can go for the wedding as a sign of maturity in u and dat u have really moved on. But I will advice you go with ur hubby if he doesnt mind cos it makes u more matured and makes u focus on the wedding without any negative tots. Go there, feel free, u can even introduce ur man, and enjoy ur day. The guy in question might careless about anything, But avoid close lonely contact.
ReplyDeleteThis is how adultery starts... #Belle is not impressed
ReplyDeleteStella post my comment
ReplyDeleteThis is how adultery starts... #Belle is not impressed
ReplyDeleteI'm just here trying to imagine myself wanting to go for my ex's wedding? I must be really jobless to even contemplate it.
ReplyDeletemadam, am still at a loss as to why you want to carry your two leggedise benz to your ex wedding.
ReplyDeletelets sort these questions out.
were you invited?
Have you thought of how his wife will feel when you attend her wedding? am sure she knew you dated her husband.
yes, attending will show maturity but do you really want people to start talking at your back? for christ sake you dated this guy for 10years, he didnt marry u why? and people might start saying a lot of things that can easily weigh you down.
my opinion, sit your black ass down and make love to your husband that Saturday, because attending such weeding will only bring back memories which you clearly haven't let go. you are married remember?
If you decide to ignore all warning and attend, make sure you look your best.
Stay at home. Read all the posts and comments on SDK blog. I don't want to hear stories of husband or wife snatching. Rose
ReplyDeleteI think you shouldn't attend the wedding. Too many old feelings will resurface. But unlike most of these comments, i won't curse you out. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I have been married to my husband for 8years and we have two kids but not a single day goes by that I don't think of my ex. He's on my what's app and i steal a glance at his picture every single day. You can't help who you love. And unless the relationship ended on a bad note you never stop loving them. In my own case we didn't even break up. My parents sent me abroad and we lost contact. We have both since moved on there's no talk of reuniting. I don't let it affect my marriage and I am living a happy life. But true love never ever dies. If you genuinely love someone you will ALWAYS love them. My 2 cents
ReplyDeleteMadam posterface ur marriage ok. I no how u feel wanting to meet with ur old classmate but do not forget ur heart is still wit ur ex,do not start wat u can't finish. If u weren't in the country wld u have gone for the wedding? Let the past be biko and face ur marriage. My EX remains an EX in my life,wetin me and am one dy talk.
ReplyDeleteSo why did my 2 ex attend my wedding?
ReplyDelete