Woman To Woman - A Must Read

If I didn't know for myself that there are decent Nigerian men who 

- are kind 

- don't cheat 

- drink Panadol for your headache 

- don't abuse you and/or your mind, in the name of 'men will be men' 

- will do anything to make you feel safe and secure

NOTHING and NOBODY (not even God) would convince me to look at a Nigerian man, even once. Because many Facebook "Christian women's groups" have done a marvellous job of painting ALL Nigerian men, as unadulterated evil. 

I have come to the conclusion that the typical Nigerian female ENJOYS praying. Especially useless prayers that God cannot hear. You enable terrible behaviour, and teach your sons the same. 

A man is cheating on you, has infected you with an STI more than once - your "Christian sisthren" tell you to keep sleeping with him to save your marriage, and you're following demonic advice. If you stop sleeping with him, what is the worst that can happen? He will 'go outside'? But he is already going outside - which is how you came to have the STI in the first place. 

A man is beating you, you bring it to a "Christian women forum" - they tell you to be submissive, and pray for him. Even when you say he has landed you in hospital, twice. They tell you to stay for your children, and not to allow another woman come and take your home. Let another woman come - when he beats her too, her eyes will clear. As for your children, do you honestly think that there is any normal child that likes seeing their mother being beaten? When the man finally kills you, how many of those "Christian sisthren" will even show up at your funeral, never mind taking care of your children? No, your "fellowship sistaaas" tell you that "Our God is a great God, and will not allow you to die." 

Your husband isn't satisfying you in the bedroom. Your "Christian sisthren" tell you, "Ah! Are you possessed? Is it food? Or do you have 'spirit husband'? Well, it's because you don't have work. You have too much time on your hands. Train your children and forget about such things!" Bear in mind that if it was the man complaining, those some women will say "Ah! You must learn how to dress like a stripper in the bedroom and give it to him like a whore in the living room; or he will go outside, and it will be your fault." 

Your husband cooks food that he too will eat - they react like you put him under a spell. It makes you shudder at the thought of what they must be going through in the name of 'marriage'. 

It is Nigerian women who are spawning beasts, and saying they are raising 'men that will always be men'. 

Your son gets into an argument with his sister; you tell him "Men don't apologise" - then he gets surprised tomorrow when he meets a woman who refuses to take that kind of sh*t from him. 

Your teenage son impregnates a girl, you shield him, abuse the girl, and send your precious son abroad. Maybe there are no girls abroad, to 'tempt your cherubic son'. If you did what you were supposed to do, wouldn't your son be able to resist 'temptation'? Then tomorrow when your son has an accident that renders him impotent, you remember he has a child somewhere - the child you denied, because you said the mother was a prostitute who was trying to blame your innocent son for what he knew nothing about. You then enlist an entire village to help you beg the girl, who had to stop school in order to play the roles of father and mother, when the father of that child was alive and well. You even have the nerve to take the girl's name to your coven of witches (sorry, fellow Christian sisters) to say "God should turn her heart, because she is preventing my son from having access to his only child." 

You mollycoddle a male child into a state of near-irredeemable uselessness, and say you have raised a man. You expect another woman to take over from where you stopped, to manage a stupid man-child whose mother failed to raise him right. When she indicates that her own mother didn't raise a fool with 'slave complex', you start whining about "women liberation" and how she does not love your son. Well, only a mother can love certain kinds of 'men'. Let me tell you - it is because of your categorical WOEFUL FAILURE as a mother, that women feel the need to be liberated. 

Not everyone feels 'called to a life of never-ending prayer'. 

Not everyone buys the patriarchal, misogynistic BS of "you are nothing without a man, even if it is a mad man". 

DO your job well. The women who raised REAL, GOOD MEN do not have two heads. 

In this day and age, only real men are needed. When a woman says she needs a man, she is NOT referring to a "damaged bird with broken wings"

*written by Chichi Nnani