The Evasive 'Story-Teller' Lover - Blog Visitor Narrative

Once in a lifetime,we all run into people who tell us stories that almost run us out of town....lol
Do we believe what they tell us or do we look out for the signs?

  I am a very depressed young lady. Please listen to my story.

I am in my twenties and in a fix, I feel in love with a divorcee with kids whom is forty years of age, and God fearing. let me say that he was out of his marriage for over 3yrs before I met with him. I made my enquiries about the rift in his marriage and all fingers pointed to his ex wife. 

Now I have dated this man for over a year now, we both have our individual differences like all relationships do, but aunt Stella this man is in communication with some other chic at some point, and he had to tell them off in my presence and I told off some other lady. There was an instance I used my gumption without evidence to confront him and he owned up to have slept with one lady. He  cried and with much plea I forgive him after all.

My main issue is that for the past one year I do not know where he resides(lay his head), we live in different state, but we see each other at least once in two weeks. When I visit his city, he puts me up in a five star hotel and when he comes visiting in my city he puts up in a hotel similarly. 

At first I was ok with it, because of his  personal reasons besides we were just getting to know each other so I didn't want to be too forward. But pls not after six months of been in intense relationship(courtship) . I have talked, begged, cried, talked to his mum about it as well, yet no result. He gives me the reason that .......he has vowed that no woman will step her foot in his home else the woman he wants to remarry, reason been because he doesn't want to portray a bad image in front of his kids.(to a reasonable extent I am sure his Ex does not live with him) 

pls my fellow blog visitors am I not supposed to create a good relationship with his kids before stepping in as a step mum? I don't have any issue with loving this children as mine, which he knows. So why the rift? 

I bare my all to this man, been faithful to him not like I don't have an option, but the truth is that I see no reason to cheat on him or keep another relationship, even a Learner would not play this dumb.

Now I honestly ask myself........this man has met all my family members, I have met only his cousin and his drivers, I am in good speaking terms with his mum, she calls me often but I haven't met her in person. He says want to settle with me soon and yet I do not know where he lives? Am I asking for too much?  Am I been fooled? 

Pls your sisterly advice is all I need, I can take your insults, overlook  grammatical error I am confused. please your opinion Is all I seek. 

Thanks and more blessing to my fellow blog visitors.

*how are you sure its his mother you are in contact with?...your relationship with him sounds like frozen spaghetti...please becareful sweetheart.