Sex is so common place these days...almost like the air you breathe and because condom is not respected,peopleare getting pregnant so easily and getting hooked up.
Sometimes these marriages break up before the baby's first birthday.
I just heard a pregnant 28 year old girl is getting married to her 32 year old boyfriend and the marriage is being sponsored by both parents who feel it is the right thing to do and save everyone the disgrace......
Is Pregnancy enough reason to get married?
did you get married because you were pregnant?how far?
But the both of them are old enuf nah, pregnancy isn't if they don't love each other.
ReplyDeleteI swear, they are even too old, how come they do not have anything going, well they should see it as a blessing and try to work it out, God is their strenght
Delete+if you no get money why fuck?
Stella! Pregnancy should not be the reason for marriage, when we as humans go into marriage with such with such thinking, such mindset, then we are bound to have problems in marriage, the word of God in genesis 2:18-25 said that;
Delete"after the man was created, God said he needed an helper, a companion, so he created animals, that's how animals came to be created, and God brought them one after the other to the man, but they did not make a good companion, so God mad the man fall asleep, and took the mans rib and created the woman, then brought her to Adam, and Adam named her woman, and said she is bone of his bone, that was the suitable companion, so it goes further to say there that a man will leave his father and mother and cling to his wife, and they are no longer two but one"
So that's the purpose of marriage, that they be a companion to each other, that the woman be a helper, and not baby making, so marriage purpose is for the man to have a companion, a helper, for a man to be joined with his missing rib, have this taught and you have a near hitch free marriage
It did not say the man should cling to his wife to make babies or to become pregnant, although the institution of marriage is meant to bring pregnancy, but its the commitment between the man and woman that brings this pregnancy
So if pregnancy result through that union, that's a blessing, if pregnancy does not result, the man and his wife(rib) should live together till old age and be happy and pray together till God decides to bless them, remember, enjoy your wifes breast at old age
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Alloy i v been followin ur write-up, n to tell u d truth ....am ur fan. U write like ezigbo nwa-la igbo.....abum Ada igbo 4rm Oraukwu, were r u 4rm ? Wil luv to knw u beta.....my mail Chomyfrank5@gmail.com.....
DeleteWere they inlove before she got pregnant? If they love eachother I see no reason they can't get married.
DeleteAll these ametuers, how many times will I tell you to go to Ezenwanyi for proper classes? Parents feel its the right time ke? People have decided to throw in deaf ears even when the wisdom is right there in front of them. Class 101 move it!
ReplyDeletePepper is on the move.
Marriage shouldn't be as a fall out of pregnancy, what shame? At 28 she didn't know what unprotected Sex will lead to pregnancy? Abi she thought the sperm will grow into mango? Whilst my aim is not to preach on the need to abstain or not, we should remember to every action there is an opposite reaction, marriage is something one has to be emotionally mature before entering. When the baby is born, how will you fend for the tot? When the chip are down and the nut in the guy's head comes loose and he reminds you of how he wasn't ready, how you forced him into marrying you, how he married you out of pity how will you swallow the bitter pills? Parents should stop making excuses for us, the hallmark of a mature fellow is the ability to accept responsibilities for his/her actions.
ReplyDeleteAhahahaha @mango
DeleteValid? No, one of the joy of marriage, Yes!!! Children is d reward of marriage but not the main reason to get married.
ReplyDeleteI may be wrong..But PEPPER IS EZE WANYI...And..thats all.
ReplyDeleteAnyways people that marry for solely that reason,MAY not last..at least in this modern age of Immorality
Why marry because of a Pregnancy?
PEPPER OKU IS NOT EZENWANYI, pkonqem!
DeleteYour search engine need servicing. Pepper is one and the only richest woman, pepper ukwu sarambara! Pepper anu ana gbaegbe ona taa ni. On the move.
Pepper the smartest.
Dis pepper annoys me ah..buuh sometyms she just cracks me up looll...
DeleteStella publish! Mathematical question. X +Anon=Pepper, find the value of X. Ans:Ezewanyi. QED!
DeleteHian!
DeleteAmin 10:49. God will butter ur agege bread. I found this to be so too. Infact u beat me to it cos I was gonna post what u just said,when I noticed a few things days ago. The extent that pple go to get noticed is amazing. Moreover pepper is always trying hard to be funny when she's simply annoying. Very very irritating. Come at me and you'll be unglad that u did. U need to quit ur obnoxious behaviour on this blog cos we ain't no amateurs here ok? Rubbish
DeleteAnonymous 2:20am pepper has approached you, do your fucking worst! Now if you are done throwing out sheet from your mouth.....shut the fuck and reverse, and crawl back into the hole you came out from.
DeleteThe unquenchable pepper on the move.
See this touts oooooo
DeleteEzewanyi is not pepper
Abi una dey crase
Anon 2; 20, I think am going to start placing curses on anyone who says am pepper
Anyone who says am pepper ehen am not will die a very horrible death, dog will lick his/her blood, whatever d person is looking fot will elude d person, ur children will turn to imbeciles, ur husband/bf will be a thorn in ur flesh.
If I Ezewanyi am pepper let d above be my portion
Amen
D curse is hanging and its very potent.
Idiots
U can can now solve d mathematics now
I am Ezewanyi, okala mmadu okala mmuo
I also noticed how u vanished pepper and I can see it was all deliberate but Ezewanyi cant be bullied
I am too much
Pepper come and explain to this daft idiots
U must be a bastard both pepper and Eze fucking Wanyi. Of a truth u are already cursed, so d curses won't go above your roof, rather it will bounce right back on ur malnourished empty barrel head. U must be a fool of no nation. Who the hell do u think u are? U must be mad. Oh u think u can dominate or bully anyone here? Try again numb skull. Nothing good comes out of Egypt, nothing good will come out of ur fucking territory. Ass wipe.
DeleteAnon 1;47,ur land shall be barren.....no cry of a baby will be heard in ur land U fugleey bitch!!!!!
Deletemarriage cos of pregnancy has neva done any one good.
ReplyDeleteam sure the guy likes d gal or he really wants ths
Girls,pregnancy works...am talking from experience...if he say make you abort the pregnancy,that means he never loved you....that's why its good to date a matured eligible bacherlor not those chewing gum students....
ReplyDeleteI second you on this 1. If he is an eligible bachelor, and he loved ha enof to have unprotectd sex- den she gets preg. He shud love ha enof to marry her too. Not like it shud be a basis, buh sumtyms it works on all dis guys da like running around.
DeleteTrust me ur hubby married u cos he luvs u nt cos of belle...it doesn't work for some,even if he marries her cos of d baby,her life mite be a living hell in d haus...ladies biko knw where u stand in a guy's life before u pull dat stunt oo...
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DeleteHmmm. If we had to go by the orthodox way of doing things, pregnancy should be after marriage. However, if by default a girl gets pregnant even before she's ready to be married, it should never be a basis to forcefully join them into unholy matrimony.
DeleteI have heard couples quarrel, and some will insult themselves by saying..."I didn't want to marry her, I did becos she fell pregnant and my folks forced me".....or..."she tied me down with pregnancy". any woman that's been told this by her husband will live with it for the rest of her life, knowing that it is true. And it is such women that take nonsense from their husbands. Even one night stands that resulted in pregnancy have been forced to be with such a man or the woman, they are never happy. Only a few turn out blissful.
So to answer your question Stella, pregnancy should be the least of the reasons to marry anyone.
Unplanned Pregnancy shud nt b a yay t get into marriage. Two can't walk togetha except dey agree; if u r not compatible dont bother marrying ur partner cos a baby is involved. D two ppl involved shud b allowed t decide if dey want t cement their union cos dere's more t life than putting up wt somone u will neva b happy with f d rest of ur life.
ReplyDeleteNo way! I strongly disagree!
ReplyDeleteMy childhood friend made the same mistake. When he told me the girl was pregnant and they would be getting married on the orders of his parents (who are RICH).
I warned him sternly and asked him "is this what you really want? Do you love her? Don't marry her just because of the baby and out of pity or pressure". He assured me that all was well. I was present at the unhappy engagement ceremony and registry signing.
After 5years, they had an ugly divorce.
Pregnancy is not a valid reason for getting married. It muddles up your thought process because if you were having doubts about settling with a particular person immediately pregnancy steps in you just feel like there's no other option. It might have worked out well for some but everyone does not have the same story.
ReplyDeleteIt's not enough reason to get married stella.. after their parents sponsor d wedding, will their parents also b responsible for their upkeep n dt of d baby when it's born? That's lame
ReplyDeleteWell, I live with that reality every day of my life now. Got pregnant when I was in year two in the university. Still came out tops in my class. Not planned at all and I was not ready. But he did not mind. He went to see my parents and asked them to ask me if it was what I really wanted. My father replied, that after what he had done, who was going to deal with the consequences. As it were, we got married and a month later, discovered that we were expecting twins.
ReplyDeleteWe tried to keep it together, rather I bore it all, right now, I'm in the no bullshit mood but mehn, it is still not easy. We had another set of twins four years later and we are barely speaking to each other today. I have suffered here o but I can't leave yet. I don't even know if I will ever be able to leave.
To your question, it is not advisable at all and I now know that it is best not to get indulge in premarital sex; a lot of things can be upturned by that act. That is my take on the matter.
Dat ur hubby shud take his tym o. Ah ah. Him think say 2born double twins easy. Can u imaqine? Abeq weldone jare. God qo continue 2d qive u strenqth 2 carry on. N may dos ur babies wipe ur tears away.
DeleteDat ur hubby shud take his tym o. Ah ah. Him think say 2born double twins easy. Can u imaqine? Abeq weldone jare. God qo continue 2d qive u strenqth 2 carry on. N may dos ur babies wipe ur tears away.
DeleteYour story is very close to mine. I'm Very unhappy. Sometimes men too get a woman pregnant on purpose so that they can marry her without too much effort cos she is stuck
DeleteSDK.....it has become the common norm in nigeria this days ooo, especially those ladies who feel they have served their bf long enough and bf who has refused to do the right thing.
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NO NO NO!Gurls are so funny.You had an unprotected secx wid a guy,he released inside of u and u expect all to be well.KAi!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm breaking up wid my girl today.Reasons ar;(1)She frustrates me a lot.(2)I feel she's too emotional and sentimental.Hence she loves me more than i do.If we continue,i wl take her 4 granted.(3)She can't comport herself esp b4 so called "hot or sexy guy"#
..I feel terrible...
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Awww try to get urself together buddy. Hope she understands
DeleteEwo... @ she can't comport herself b4 so called sexy n hot dudes. Mbok divorce her 4dat reason alone. #jeskiddinq#
DeleteHow old are u again?did u say 12?relationship are for matured minds...
Deletestella 28 and 32 r too old...a friend's sis of 21yrs n just graduated married her bf of 25yrs just bcos she got pregnant...I didn't attend d wedding bcos I dnt share the same opinion with both families.....it was a mistake and u dnt correct one mistake with more mistakes..what r the guarantees that dis children will still love each other in 6yrs time....why burden this children with marriages.....never the less I tink babes before they go thru unprotected sex with their partners or bf shd discuss about the fall outs and ask themselves if they sincerely wud love a life time with the other person should pregnancy occur
DeleteStella some men would say get pregnant first before we tie the knot.
ReplyDeleteEspecially if they didn't meet you a virgin.
Thank God I got married undefiled!
Amen!
Ode. Who asked you
DeleteDis is d only perfect human beinq I'v seen on earth. But u kn wat? Ur perfection makes u imperfect already.
DeleteIf you do the crime you should d the time! hehehehe just saying
ReplyDeleteE dey backfire sometimes o n result in single mums
ReplyDeleteThis is linda eze speciality and its woking for her.
ReplyDeleteAnyways my advice is dont get pregnant before you get married, it doesn't usually end up good. Do things the right way.
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See this old cargo,aunty akpuruka,aunty gwe gwe gwe....be deceiving your self....who wan marry you sef even with pregnancy....mtcheewww
DeleteIn Africa,esp in Nigeria,mostly yoruba parents go by #getpregnantmarrytheowner Rule. Really nd truly no 1 wld like his/her kids to have 2kids for diffrnt fathers/mothers,but in a case whr the lady is pregnant nd single,and having issues with the man responsible,if it cnt be resolved,let dem go der seprate ways nd not be togeda cos of the baby(though they can be friends).... Some will say dey will grow to luv eachoda again if they get married since a kid(s) is involved,it is a lie! Wen love turns sour,ders notin u can do,uld jst tolerate each nd hope.... You only live once,u dnt av to stay whr uld be managed or tolerated. Be whr ull be luved. #my opinion #speakn frm experience.
ReplyDeleteGbam@it is a lie!
DeleteNay!
ReplyDeleteNoooooo it's not o. If they are not in love its not o! One of them if not both is/are likely to hate each other down the line. I got married because I was madly in love and I still am. Some women also believe in hooking a man with pregnancy......these are bad recipes for a healthy marriage.
ReplyDeleteLet's talk about sex- Early sex education for children, yay or nay? Click my name to find out more and share your views.
Stella thanks for this post. I'm in a dilemma right now. I met this guy 5yrs ago, fell in love with him... He is my dream man, everything a woman needs in a man.
ReplyDeleteHe suffered a heart break from his former gf who left him and married another person. He was so devastated. A very close friend to that his ex seized that opportunity to become very close to him...they had sex! She became pregnant and hid it from him...though she stays in d north while he was in the south.
Now, her parents insisted that they must get married to pretect their names as knights. They got married in November, baby was born in April, we both met in June.
He claims I'm d woman he loves. He's seeing me thru sch now. He provides for me even without me asking. I love him so much that I cry when it hits me that he's married.
Whenever I tell him to let me go, he pleads and ask that I be patient and finish school then we will get married, but I'm getting frustrated by the day. He says I'm his happiness, and I love him too.
Anybody in my same or similar condition? How are u coping? What can I do? I'm really loosing my mind.
Pls spare me d bullshit of karma coming after me cos u know nothing about how karma works... I see that's what's up on this blog.
I will be glad to answer any questions. Thanks and God bless.
Karma is a female teacher *runs away*
DeleteYimu, a guy would never marry a girl because of pregnancy ladies need to understand that. If you think he cherishes you more than his wife and child you stupid gan. Since you were there from the onset why did he go to the other girl instead of you. Use your brain, God gave it to you for a reason. So you don't mind being wife no2? Omashe o
DeleteAre u studying mumu in school?
DeleteAre u studying mumu in school?
DeleteAnonymous 12:49, I was going to address your dilemma but I can't get past the fact that you're having an affair with a married man. Sorry
DeleteYou are Just a Nuella Njubigbo in a Local setting Clothing.... I feel so sorry for you on your behalf.... You don't even sound like one that needs an advice/help#NoRemorse... Let your own local Tchidi keep deceiving you, that you are the one He loves...i just hope you expecting another sophie in this case? Yes! Keep being patient till he drives all ur suitors away; turns you into an old woman, then you will know life is not always about Nollywood #CorporateAristo
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You are Just a Nuella Njubigbo in a Local setting Clothing.... I feel so sorry for you on your behalf.... You don't even sound like one that needs an advice/help#NoRemorse... Let your own local Tchidi keep deceiving you, that you are the one He loves...i just hope you ain't expecting another sophie in this case? Yes! Keep being patient till he drives all ur suitors away; turns you into an old woman, then you will know life is not always about Nollywood #CorporateAristo
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Though lately, our contemporary girls tend to use pregnancy to trap men into marrying them which is 100.1% wrong.
ReplyDeleteBut in this case, YAY!!!.... i see nothing wrong in it since they decided to be earning the benefit of marriage in advance...their parents did wonderfully well by sealing it instead of opting for an Abortion..
With time, they will Both understand there is more to life or relationship than sex...
I wish them luck...
@i_ChoPtas_Not
My cuz got married to her hubby as a result of her pregnancy, he insisted that they should keep it. They will be 20years in june...
ReplyDeleteDat na olden days.
DeleteDat na olden days.
DeleteMy dear its subjective. It works for some and not for others. Even those that married for love end up divorced so it all depends on how u guys face the marriage. No matter what reason u married for.
DeleteIt worked for me. Married close to 15 years now.
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ReplyDeleteLove should be the Key thing to bring a man and woman together
ReplyDeleteIn a situation where there's no love,I doubt the much a pregnancy can do
yessssssssssssssssaunty stella l use pregnancy to hold my husband down five years now the married still dey strong, l know in my mind that is not happy about it but what can he do if you no what milk no buy cow.
ReplyDeleteSo you wann do true confession now? When is dey draw that plan dey throw in, you hide every thing lie Osa squirrel!
DeleteNa you still take your mouth say your horseby no like ama, go and pray. Person go dey tell una say una need to dey matured before una go dey chop wetin waffy forefathers chop una no go gree. Go register for Ezenwanyi palace for marriage classes 501 as you don reach 5years for the marriage. Pepper is on the move.
Pepper the perfect woman
28yrs old still being a baby,....there is more to marriage than love and sex...wishing them well
ReplyDeleteI will say yes. If you go about having sex with out condom then when the pregnancy come's you must stay together and be a good parent. That is what i preach to my children, yes, it dose not always work out like that but i will rather you have all your children for one man or one woman, too much wahala with step fathers and step mothers ( in most cases)
ReplyDeleteAnon 10:49.u are not wrong dear.pepper is ezenwany.dt was d kind silly stunt she played in wives connection.she has so many names like ukwu sugar,queen of d coast and manymore dt i cnt rem.i pity who ever dt takes ds lady serious.shes such a xter and constitutes nuisance
ReplyDeleteMma
Her real name is Eucharia E. Jobless idiot.
DeleteHer real name is Eucharia E. Jobless idiot.
DeleteGbam. She's a public toilet nuisance. And I suspect she has another alias on this blog. About 3sef. Fool.
DeletePepper the greatest!
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Bwahahaaaaaa. .....
DeleteEucharia ko Eucharistic ni
As Alloy is Adaeze aka sazzy?
DeleteNay, marriage shuld be based on love, companionship, a child is one of its gains & shouldn't be d reason for getting married, getting pregnant doesnt mean u are in love wit ur partner. People get pregnant mistakenly, a lifetime commitment shuldnt be based on mistake except there is love. Most pple who got married based on this usually regret it cos things end up not working out. D man will love his child doesnt mean he'll love u
ReplyDeleteI just had to contribute to this,it is so common with the yorubas,even if they are both in the university,their parents will wed them,even if they are still leaving with their parents,I think it is like that because of the stigma with single parent.This is what my friend calls 'pregnancy induced marriage' lol,some people get away with it and end up having a beautiful marriage while some are not so lucky at all they end up being single while married thereby leading to infidelity. I won't even advice it for anyone at all and I also pray for grace not to be in such shoes
ReplyDeleteThe yorubas r d specialist in dis. Their pussy is 24/7 open. When they get pregnant, their parents celebrate. God have mercy. #Truth teller
ReplyDeleteYou are very stupid. Yoruba pussy open for 24/7 and igbos alashewo, olobo sisan, olobo yiyo to kun fun idin. Idiot! That's why 50 percent of barren women in naija are ibos. Won ti fo gbogbo ifun tan, ti o jepe kidney gan ti re danu. Oloshi, omo abi pabe! If I hear again, Amadioha will strike all your generation....
DeleteDefend ur tribe. Why the ibo hate?
DeleteOkijaaaa baby!
DeleteUseless anon 3; 27, how do u know she is igbo? See hoe she is running her mouth like omo alata
DeleteUseless yorooba fool
The yorubas r d specialist in dis. Their pussy is 24/7 open. When they get pregnant, their parents celebrate. God have mercy. #Truth teller
ReplyDeleteOde of the highest order, BIG FOOL!
DeleteThose gals dt uses pregnancy to trap a man disgusts me a lot, got no respect for dem cheap ass. Let me c a man dt will v d gut to tell me to get pregnant before marriage mtcheee anyway avoid premarital sex.
ReplyDeleteStella pls post my commenti saw it here moments ago and can't see it again...pls it took me a lot to type it, I really need peoples opinion on it. I'm really in a dilemma like I said in d comment.
ReplyDeleteThanks and God bless
Anoda beggy beggy
DeleteMarriage should not be entered into by default. It is a deliberate and planned step. Besides, sex before marriage is so so wrong. It take the whole fun out of relationship and creates unneccesary fear ie unwanted pregnancy, std and it breeds distrust. Foundation matters in marriage. So please let's focus on getting it right the first time.
ReplyDeleteThis sermon is too late nah
DeleteDo u think there is a virgin on this blog?
Speak for your Self@Eze nwanyi pls!!!
DeleteBtw, well said@marisa
@i_ChoPtas_Not
Lol
DeleteLol
DeleteMy bf is alwys saying if its left to him,he'll get me pregnant cos he doesn't wanna lose me..cos he knws if I get pregnant,I wouldn't leave him..cos he knws I'm ready for marriage nw bt he still needs abt a year or so to settle down..bt if nt for my family,I wouldn't mind getting pregnant nw sha....anybdy wey cuss me,back to sender..
ReplyDeleteWhy should we curse you? It's you and your boyfriend that will be drinking garri now. What's our own?
DeleteDont ever make that mistake, let him marry u properly cos once u just drop e no go pay dowry again .
DeleteDont mind him!
Anon 12:49....You don't want to talk about Karma meaning you need people to totally support your point of view. Sorry hun, you are totally doing the wrong thing...don't ask him to leave you alone, you need to leave him alone and start your own beautiful life. His life is complicated already, you definitely dont need drama and polygamy in your life.
ReplyDeleteHe told you he married her because he was pregnant, you believed him right? Men will say anything to keep a mistress or a side chic. Open your eyes wide and don't be carried away by the money lest your own God-given husband pass you by. Hugs
Nay. I wasn't preggers when i got married. I don't support pregnancy leading to marriage.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend who purposely trapped her husband with belle. She is living well but unhappy in her marriage.
28year old and 32year old still doing boyfriend-girlfriend!!
ReplyDeleteAnd what should they do????
Delete@ alloy, well said , but marriage is for companionship and procreation as well. Read ur bible well.
ReplyDeleteNay!!?
ReplyDeleteThat anonymous reader who is dating a married man and he says he will marry you:
ReplyDeleteDon't listen to him. He cannot leave his new baby and child. He will make you wait, give you heartbreak and by the time you come to you senses all the good guys will be taken. Be wise. Leave that man. Go and find your own. Once on the side, you will always be on the side.
There is a Baby for Christ's sake (nevER forget that @rape or unprotected sex..meaning always keep the Baby) buh not for forceful marriage sake o..no use baby orchestrate marriage..99.9% unsuccessful...my only brother enter that shit buh he is payin dearly now ..awaitin court issues + planning remarrying at very late thirties..Emphatic NAY!
ReplyDeleteA baby is not a bad reason to get married..... people get married for a lot less like money so all in all i dont think is bad at all
ReplyDeleteAunty ódé..osho free.
ReplyDeleteAnimashaun!FuckAholik...see yah mouth.
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