Na wah...
Good morning Stella,
I'm 27 and I need SDKers opinion on a little sexual issue I'm experiencing.
I managed to disvirgin on saturday after trying for over a month. I don't think I have seen anything more painful. Chineke mo!!
First, I was expecting a little drops of blood, (like they say o) but the amount of blood I saw was disheartening. Blood was practically streaming down my punani and I screamed my brains out. Believe me, every little thing I experienced was far different from what I heard or read.
Now the wahala be say, within 2 days of piercing the mighty vault, I had sex three times but each pained like the previous. orgasm I no see, It was actually so very painful that all I could do was to cry and beg my partner to stop. Right now, I'm so scared to even try again.
Girls that has been there, Biko, its what I'm passing through normal? How many times do i need to do it before the pains goes away or do I need to see a doctor.
(N.B.)My boyfriend its just average so I don't think its the size. Please stella post this cos I need help urgently. Thanks
Thelma.
*So you havent been reading all the sex related drama on this blog?and you still went ahead instead of keeping the thing intact....anyways i no get advice for you cos i dey vexs.
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ReplyDeleteYou for no do am nah.
Deletemschewwww!!! I am disgusted ar dis poster!
DeleteThe experience differs. Some see blood,some don't even bleed at all! Crazy as it sounds. If your blood flow worries you, see a doc. In my case, for d next 3 or more times I had sex, I still bled. Till d thing come open fully. Also, d pain. Yeah for me it was continuous. Even when it stopped, I didn't enjoy d "insertion of penis". Snogging was fine and I only went on with d sexing bc I wan please am. Orgasm? Nah. You still dey pain like that and bleeding expecting Orgasm? You gotta love d act first, enjoy it, that's when you will get there.
DeletePpl r not sending you answers but only condemning you. Na why I pity you.
Please don't fuck him again. Not worth it
Dont worry...apart frm d very bloody thingy...I think all is well. I bled a little bt after d first 2 sessions. ..d rest na tiny streaks of blood for a week. It took about 3 weeks of regular daily sex before the pain stopped. But u need plenty of KY jelly...it makes a lot of diff.
DeleteI stl feel discomfort n a little pain now bt thats limited to some positions and dts d one hubby puts me in wen he is close to cumming...so am screaming...and he is screaming...and den we both cum. Lols
D only vexation for dis ur tory be say u lose d thing at 27 to a bf...wen hubby and I started dating I was 24...and wen he knew I was a virgin...mehn all his security mode upturned sharply. No coming too close, no sleepovers...no temptation...he too was a virgin too...we got married at 29 and disvirgined each other.
Now na everyday we dey do d thing...he too sweet...
My advice....nothing to rush ...pls young ppl...wait til marriage.
I had lots of fears abt our sexual life...bt in d end..everythin is 100% perfect...he dey do me like I want to be done...lols.
First commentator,Shift make I talk: Dear poster,don't listen to those saying you should ve waited until marriage,eg,my darl Oluyomi,under this reply.They didn't wait.why? They wanted to be wiser for it. Be informed that no one got an orgasm on the day of 'disvirginment'. Forget what u read in mills and boom about a certain rapture in the clouds o.That 'small death' comes later than sooner;with loads of tutorials,practise, expertise and experience. If you ve a patient partner,it can only get better and sweeter! Forget the first time.In your case,forget the first 5 times.Give it time.You will get the hang of it! Then again,too much drama in your memo.Sounds like what pepper would put together.The 'biko' in your letter got me doubtful...
DeleteLmao! Wide eyed! Pepper is still a virgin waiting to learn from comments coming in.
DeletePepper the virgin!
All of u hypocrites screemin shld STFU! 90% or even more hv ur brains fucked out wit boyfriends..other pples boyfriends/husbands..etc. y crucify her? If u could y dint u keep urs? Even u stella..swear say u no dey crave 4 prick? Dis hypocrisy is why we are d most religious pple in d world and yet all d sins, wickedness and corruption dey firmly integrated in our society. Som1 made a mistake and asking 4 advice..u and all ur already wide vee-jays r condemin her. Mtchewwwww!
DeleteMy dear, at 27 u know wats best 4u. Truth is, u myt hv 2 get used 2 it..cos d pains fades away wit time. If it persists pls see a doc. No one here can guv u full medical advice. Pls tke gd care of u..u wil b fyn.
Stella if u like no post am..yeye hypocrite wey no loose her own.
With wide eyed on this one. Give it time. U will get there. And eeerrmmm....make unaa Check well, this could be pepper. Her kind of writeup!
DeleteWide eyed dear, are you sure I didn't wait?
DeleteOluyomi Odukoya.
I don't have advise for u.when u said u just got disvirgined at 27 years,I thought u just got married?
DeleteI have a question for u instead
Why didn't u keep ur punani intact for ur husband after staying this long???
See I don't know what say but me,I am not feeling the sweetness and I wander why but the insertion is kinda painful but after that its not sweet why? I don't enjoy anything and plus I am newly disvirgined..what should I do and when I got disvirgined there was no blood plus I have done it like 4 or 7 time so what should I do
DeleteYou for hold on till marriage na. Let the experts advise you.
ReplyDeleteOluyomi Odukoya
U r bleeding cos ur 27 year-old hymen don dey turn to leather,e never cut finish...fuck well to soften it
DeleteJeez! Leather? LOL
DeleteYou couldnt keep the precious thing. I dont believe you are 27yrs. I guess u are still a teenager.
ReplyDeleteU experiencing pains cause u still very tight
ReplyDeletePut a pestle inside ur punani so it will make ur punani to expand
Den start fucking 3 dicks at the same damn time!
U'll never feel any pain honey
Per amor di Dio you are wicked o.
DeleteI feel sad as I suspect Poster was under emotional pressure. Now you have no shakara to do for him again and this cannot stop him from cheating.
You be wicked pikin bahahahahaha
Deleteposter u just made d worst decision of a lifetime
DeleteAunty stella na wa o,but the say e better make u loss the v.now b4 e to late.fear never allow me loss my. Own
ReplyDeleteSweetie that's a lie from the pit of regretters*
DeleteIts never too late. Same initial pain a 16 year old virgin will feel is same as a 36year old's, credimi (believe me)
I advice you to keep it and develop good character coz virginity lost to a man is not enough to keep a man.
Ti amo
Ariana true talk.
DeleteMe too.why did you loose it?of all period the lent..abeg I no get anything to tell you
ReplyDeleteStella you no vex pass me
ReplyDeleteOlodo geh
Tell ya boyfriend to take you to a gynaecologist
No come here dey form kweshon
Why den did u wait in d first place? 27 for dat mara##looksaway##
ReplyDeleteThelma you foolish gan! So after waiting until 27 yrs you gave it away to a boyfriend and not your husband? So what was the point? And why is this boyfriend shagging you left and right like this without marrying you at your age....your story makes no sense. I'm glad hat Stella herself has answered already? E be like say something dey chase you Thelma!!
ReplyDeleteSwear to God dat u still have urs..or u kept urs till marriage. Fool like u!
DeleteHey u vile anon,@ sexyboocholar did not say she's a virgin but everybody knows that if you can keep it till 27,then u must be very dumb to loose it outside marriage.
DeleteBesides,no one is judging u cos u seem to be so hasty that u didn't get what was being said!
Tongue out@ SDK.....Ake to the rescue! Anything standing against ur network connection I photocopy and spiral bind!
ReplyDeleteYou should have waited for him to wife you first before opening ur legs for him.
ReplyDeleteI'm still a virgin this an interesting topic! I'd like to learn too!
ReplyDeletePoster, is the pain exactly same as the first tym?
Do you still see blood streaming out each tym you do the thing with your guy?
Are you sure he's not grossly endowed? As a virgin you and I might no which size is big or small.
Are you sure that after the first experience, you were not stark dry with other subsequent ones?
Thank God for the experienced inmate! and our doctors too oya make una help us!
Dr oke
Dr who
Dr X
Dr agwoturumbe!
Dr blogger
Dr power hammer
Pepper eyes open wide dey wait to read.
Pepper ose oku the virgin.
This pepper na mad man hahahahahahaha
DeleteHehehehehehehe Pepper SDK Virgin_nne igaghu egbum wif ochi abeg!
DeleteI wanted to pass by, but then. After such a night, u will still bleed a few times more, though it should gradually reduce in quantity. So, for the meantime, no -'faster', no 'deeper', no round 2/3, no uncomfortable positions. Plenty lube oooo.
DeleteDry
DeleteFear don de catch me self. Been thinking of how mine would be. Am 30.
ReplyDeleteI will marry you if really u are 30yrs of age.
DeleteI will marry you if really u are 30yrs of age.
DeleteStella, you think say it easy? I'm 24, never done it before Buh thinking of letting it go seriously. It feels like i'm missing something. Na grace of God still dey keep me
ReplyDeleteMy dear, u aren't missing any thing o
DeletePlease keep your virginity...I regret ever loosing mine.
I practically stopped having sex coss I could not mange the feeling of guilt each time I did. Now am celibate, and it's the best feeling ever....I also lost my virginity cos I felt like I was missing out on something, in the end it's not worth the stress
Please keep it for your future husband.
Sweety you're not missing anything believe me, don't allow friends and media pressure you. You will be glad you waited for your husband. I'm waiting too and I'm at least three years older than you.
DeleteU aint missing shii my sister! I'm 21. Neva done it too. Don't evn av a boyfrnf. And I don't feel like I'm missing anythng. But then again, different strokes 4 diff folks. @big sister poster. U too fall hand o. At 27? to ordinary boyfrnd. Asin boyfrnd-gfrnd levels o, nt fiance sef, abi engaged somthin. Ordinary boyfrnd. Sha don't comman cry here IF he dumps ur horny ass. U shud av either lost ur virginity years ago, or u shd av just chilled till marriage. I take style shame 4u. Like my fellow sdkers, I no get comment 4u, xcept wetin I don alrdy talk. I dey chrch dey do easter, comot my lane. :*
DeleteDon't loose it now .let you husband be the one to loose you up.
DeleteU ain't missing shit. Sex is over rated. Porn movies are scripted my dear.
DeleteAnd when that husband leaves you? Or cheats on you? Odiegwu!! I made sure I even disvirgined myself first lol men are humans !
DeleteAbeg make una talk true, she dey miss something. If u know wat ur doing sex is sweet. All u saying she is not missing anything need to move on to a better level if sex. Make sure u do it with someone u love and who truly loves u back.
Deletebabes i cari nyash for u o i no even fit stand a finger talk more of d real deal! Go buy pain relief
ReplyDeletestells i gatz to see ma comment u hardly post it
ReplyDeleteYou kept it for that long and u let a probably poverty - stricken, dirty goat hit it b4 wedlock? U fall hand. What was d point?
ReplyDeleteAnyhoo, there was no blood d first time I did it and the ugly, big-headed mofo said I was no virgin. It was painful sha
Hahhahahhahahahha..Girl u funny die!
DeleteIt not a joke ooooo...it so true, it happened to me too..ma bf no believe sey I be virgin coz we no see blood...but I later saw it wen I got home sha......lossing ma virginity was the biggest mistake of ma lyf..coz guys don't even worth lossing it to
DeleteSo your mates are busy keeping the Lenten period sacred you were busy f***king?
ReplyDeleteServes you right!
RME
Lmao @ busy f**kin..
DeleteLmao at busy f**king. Just 40days and you could not hold on to your priced possession of 27yrs. Now una don de scatter blood everywhere sey una de disvirgin. Even the 21year old that commented above even wise pass you. The one that said you for comot am tey tey than to wait till 27yrs and jst give it to a boyfriend. Get ready to start reading up posts of STDs cos you go soon join the bandwagon. Cos I am sure that guy is shagging you skin to skin. Ndo. Go hospital tell dokita.
DeleteOn another note, tell the guy to give you time to heal. You will get bruised if not already bruised and should lubricate you well. You are already tensed up so your body will not be able to produce its own fluid to make it easy for him to penetrate. Na yeye boyfriend. E no sabi shag well. He should lay off and start all over again. Abi e wan finish f**k dis season. Lol
If you could wait this long I wonder why you couldn't wait til you get married.
ReplyDeleteNo mind her stella, instead u kip ursef till marriage. Nonsense! Do u even knw his ur partner has d virus?
ReplyDeleteMtcheewwww!!!Waris dis biko!??
ReplyDeleteU sound so desperate to get into sex like it's your only project this year!!!
I was waiting to see with my husband!!only for me to see boyfriend???
Will he be there when u tell him your pregnant??
Your first question should be about how to stay safe from infections and d likes.
"I had sex 3times and still no orgasm?You never hala. So with the pain you just described,your still having sex on top of the bruises I presume?were u held hostage??
Your 27yrs old and should know better.
Sorry I don't have anything to say to you my dear,i know some people here will joyfully give you advice cos youv joined their league...I can talk to you as a sister..Nne zip up!that man/boy will not be there when it all goes south..sorry if a chastised you too much,couldn't hold myself!
Ofcus my dear it will be painful. Give sum dayz so it can heal den u can fire down lol. Sex is sweet if u meet a good fucker. Lmao
ReplyDeleteAshawo bastard hahahahaha
DeleteNa ur mama be d ashawo. U neva fuck b4!
DeleteMtcheewwww!!!Waris dis biko!??
ReplyDeleteU sound so desperate to get into sex like it's your only project this year!!!
I was waiting to see with my husband!!only for me to see boyfriend???
Will he be there when u tell him your pregnant??
Your first question should be about how to stay safe from infections and d likes.
"I had sex 3times and still no orgasm?You never hala. So with the pain you just described,your still having sex on top of the bruises I presume?were u held hostage??
Your 27yrs old and should know better.
Sorry I don't have anything to say to you my dear,i know some people here will joyfully give you advice cos youv joined their league...I can talk to you as a sister..Nne zip up!that man/boy will not be there when it all goes south..sorry if a chastised you too much,couldn't hold myself!
*if i
DeleteWell, I never experienced such pain o
ReplyDeleteI did not even bleed for that long...maybe your hymen really isn't broken.
Although it happened to my friend who lost her virginity two years ago. She's had sex on three different occasions, yet the doctor says her hymen isn't broken....she feels same pain each time she tries and she bleeds like it's her very first time.
Dear blog visitor, I suggest you see a doctor.
a fool at 27 is a fool forever. .you waited for 27 years just to dash it to a man who hasn't married you?tufiakwa
ReplyDeleteSis, I'll term dis for you "failure at d edge of breakthru" syndrome. If you could wait till 27 what stops you from waiting till wedding night or is he d 1st man that ever asked you out? I hope he marries you so you won't have a list of " been there men ".
ReplyDeleteAya Okanlomo
You would have had d pride n honour to wear white on ur wedding without guilt but you messed up at 27, adult exuberance abi?
Deleteangry Mrs
stella you are so funny. your comment is hilarious.
ReplyDeleteshe no try, at 27? when now 12 year olds don born, so imagine when the dry start.
it sounds like something is wrong, see a gynae about it. you are not supposed to bleed that much. as for the pain, am suspecting you bruised, and being that you didn't heal, the friction on the open wound is what is causing the pain you are experiencing. anyways see a gynae and stay away from it for now.
Buahahahahahahahahahaha... What will I not see on SDK blog ! Seriously?
ReplyDeleteHow would you even know if he's average how many have u sampled before allowing this one to "open the vault"?
So you waited this long to allow ordinary bf that will not buy abada for your mum and dad to do the do *smh*
My advise is for you to see a doctor , its very abnormal for blood to be streaming out when u are not seeing your period. Pele oo. Next time keep ice cubes nearby.
At 27 , after keeping it for so long you just decided to make a fool of urself!
ReplyDeleteIf that Ur so called boyfriend love or have any respect for you he would have allowed you to wait till after marriage.
Maybe you thought there is something wrong with you being a virgin at 27 but my dear there are lots of virgins in their late 20s out there just that it's a thing they keep to themselves and won't even disclose it to anyone .
My best friend got married as a virgin at the age of 31...
Sex is not love
You have waited till 27, why didn't u just chill till your wedding night? Anyways I think something isn't right. You shouldn't bleed like that and its not suppose to hurt so much. Its really just a discomforting feeling. And from ur description the whole sex romp just seems like u both were first timers cz ur partner is suppose to make you feel so good and wet that u would literally beg him to come inside you and you wouldn't feel that much pain, just a discomforting feeling like I typed earlier. No offence but I think you should probably run some tests, just to make sure everything is alright down there
ReplyDeleteBabes,first of all,i am surprised u kept dis jar intact til 27 n now lost it to Someone Who u arent married to.i am a bit disillusioned cos dats just a year less dan wen i gave mine away.buh it was to my husband n after we had gotten married.wots d point of u waiting that Long den?how many times do we need to drum it into d ears of youth and young adults dat sex before marriage is a capital NO NO! Its not just worry it!d heart aches,d abortions, d veneral diseases n all that.and again,wen u young girls finish sleeping wit Men,what den do u have to give ur husbands?a slack punani or damaged wombs?what of ur self confidence?how do u feel knowing u have descreated ur body? I wish u young peeps would just listen n zip up.our people say " ula ga eju Onye nwuru anwu afo" meaning a dead person wil be tired of sleep.whjch goes to say dat dis sex most young peeps r mád about now,wen dem marry,dem go do am tire!in ma first 3 years of marriage i used to be sex crazy, albeit d initial trying.it took oga almost 3 months to finally penetrate.i was terrified cos of all d stories i used to hear ,meaning i wasnt relaxed n den d punani was soo tight,used to abandon d Project mid way cos by den i was crying n calling on all d saints and angels in heaven to deliver me from d pain.buh after about 3 years or so,i had had My fill.sex wasnt a daily thing anymore.i was satiated!very satiated!m stil mád about sex buh not to d point of raping My hubby or making it a daily affair.so pls young peeps reading dis,save urselves for ur future spouses.forget what dey tell u is trending.forget all d hype,n pls save ur bífida!!!
ReplyDeleteLol.. General's wyf ezi 4 u to say ooo... So u waited tilll u got married? Hw mny years did u guys use to date? Dint he disturb u abt it while datin bi u guys used to jst do all d doables plus fingerin bt minus sex? Hmm I hail u sha oo.
DeleteWe dated for a year.and no he didnt disturb me.cos he Knew i wanted to save it til My wedding Night.and again.we kissed and cuddled,dats all.and thanks....buh surely dis is not as Hard as most peep think it is.
DeleteBastard ashawo deceive yourself idiot.liar you were not a virgin anything useless attention seeker like you. Generals wife my butt.
DeleteAt anonymous 5:05,from ur comments u are a very terrible terrible person.a low class.why all d curses?.i dont understand some peeps on dis blog.pls behave like a normal Human being! And not like an animal!
DeleteAnonymous 5:05,i am only replying u cos u sound like a miserable person and one of those women of easy virtue that reside under d bridge.and i suspect u Havent had it easy in life.what with Men using u as their toys.My dear,its soo unfortunate.i know ur Type.they have cardiac arrest wen dey hear d Word " virgin" and wen dey see one,dey almost wish they were dead.i have some advice for u before we learn of ur suicide on dis blog.no 1, quit that batcher or under bridge u r living in ,no 2, run to a church.no 3,try and finish ur sec education.and no 4, try n envy no Man! Den n only den wil God help ur already lost soul.and yes,i am d General's wife and i proudly married as a virgin.suck it up loser!Hehehehe!
DeleteAh ah, Anonymous ma ti binu oh. Kilodeeee? Why is it that when people can't keep their chastity, they tend to bad mouth every other person who took the courage to do so?
DeleteDear anon pls pack well, and remember to stop taking panadol for another person's headache. Shiooor
@u saw blood streaming out??ha!are u sure it was just his penis he used or he use knife cut d place join?the much blood is not normal,but d pain is normal cos it will take u sometime to start enjoying sex!
ReplyDeleteCongrats on ur disvirginasation'(english murder me)lol!
Lmao
DeleteI did not see any blood or feel any pain when I got disvirgined many years back! Lol ... I freak out when I hear all these blood tales lol
ReplyDeletebut giving it to a person other than your husband at 27 is silly tho
Lol Stella I like your reply Jor. She's practically asking for help to continue sexual immortality. Poster good thing it hurts and it will continue to hurt, maybe your body is trying to tell you to wait till you get the ring
ReplyDeleteHmmmm, if you had lost your virginity much earlier, big deal, one could say youthful exuberance, peer pressure, adventure etc but for you to lose it at 27 to a boy friend is distressing, no introduction, engagement, wedding date not fixed, haba! but why? Did u say boyfriend again? It is well.
ReplyDeleteDid you marry your husband a virgin? Pretenders oshi
DeleteAnon joor gbenusoun. Quit bringing others down just cos ur looseness knows no bounds.
DeleteIrresponsible lot. Mshewww
SDK readers i hail thee! Una wicked gan ooo, d babe is seeking solutions for d pain & drops of blood not to insult and give her moral lessons on why she got herself disvirgined. U guys shuld not add to her pain na
ReplyDeleteTell them
DeleteGuys too the pressure for sex. It's not easy. Am sure she finally decided to let go after too much pressure and lies.biko I know how many times I flee from such. God stilll keeping me at 30. It's not easy I tell you.please check ur doctor and keep on keeping on.Dont let any onyi si ke. Put you under pressure. Clean urself up and lift ur head high and wait for ur husband who is patient to wait for you. Men these days put sex first in every relationship. No sex no ring. Bullshit
DeleteHush!!!! Its her body,her decision,her life....give the damn advice or STFU...why are pple so judgemental amd pretentious..I'm sure 90% of all scolding her lost theirs b4 their 20th birthday...
ReplyDeleteSh shud eitha use google or GTFOH! Dat's d point, if sh was goin 2 give it up anyways why did she wait dis long? I'm pretty sure d boy did a lot of brainwashin b4 sh did it. And if a boy can work so hard nd convince u 2 give it up like dat, and nt respect d fact dat uv held on 2 it 4 so long, chances r dat he's a scammer. Chop clean mouth type. If sh dint wanto get judged sh shud have kept her very annoying story 2 herself. Bullshit!
DeleteI have a forty-one year old cousin who is still a virgin. What will be her fate?
ReplyDeletePrick no go fit disvirgin dat one o...dem go need blade to cut d hymen...e for don turn to leather,d type wey dem dey use for 'iya ilu'
DeleteCobwebs go full there.
DeleteOMG!!! Lmao @ bitchplis.....hahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahah
DeleteShe go GATS pay d man/boy wey go do am cos na assignment wey dey between life n death @ dat age
If i reach 27 n still be virgin, I go just wait until marriage biko bcos wetin again u de find? This poster reach to vex person on this holy day. Abeg poster no make me commit sin biko lolz
ReplyDeleteOld mama wetin u dey talk here? If u reach 27 kwa? Hiann
DeleteWhat happpens when you cross 35 and no marriage still? Y'all should give the girl a break joor. She probably had her reason for giving it up after holding out all these years
DeleteSamira whore
DeleteI just notice that when people abuse ezenwanyi she either turns to anonymous or her foolish likes abuse samira or generals wife. You grown as kids should stop such rubbish because people have their opinion about everyone here. Respect yourselves anonymous.
DeleteAnon 10:34 and 5:14, you two are baseless, classless, faceless bullies.E good the Samira no give you the attention you both seek. Oshischos of the century. Awon weree!!
Delete@ij abi Peter, samira and Eze wanyi has settled idiot. You are the anonymous causing trouble.
DeleteJobless peter leave women alone idiot.they disagreed and have settled, so if anyone is calling samira a whore it is you.
You are fighting with Ezewanyi,Linda Eze, Aku and pink shell and am sure it must have pained you when samira gave Ezewanyi a shoutout and Ezewanyi reciprocated the gesture.
Samira dont let any evil prrson use you again because all this nonsense is the handiwork of frustrated Peter
IJ = peter d public SDK fool
DeleteThere r so many self righteous people on ds blog. Haba! She only asked for advice and u r all chastising her.it's hers and she has d right to give it to whoever she wants to. Some of u running ur mouth are worse than her. Mschew
ReplyDelete2000 likes
DeleteIf u like giv 50million likes!!! Nobody s saying he/she is holy! Its just painful 2 hear dat she lost it @ dat age not 2 any other person but a BOIFRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keeping ur virginity til marriage can't b over enphasised!!!
DeleteMadam buzz off! Dirty smelly egg seller.
DeleteAnon 2:28 she be entrepreneur make hunger no kii u dey form dey go
DeletePpl advicing waiting till marriage,a fool @ 27 blah blah,why didn't u wait till ur own marriage b4 u had it abi nah only her Thelma good to wait ni. Hypocrites nigerians,alwys gud in giving advices and condemning ppl. She don do am be say she don do am.my dear go see a doctor,it happens smtimes ok. U wld soon gt all d pleasures u wnt.
ReplyDeleteI love your comment
DeleteIf u like, ADORE her comment! It doesn't change d fact dat u r now open 2 lots of prblms lik std's, HIV, heartbreak, insecurity, hypertension 2 mention a few!!!! D fact DAT most pips didn't marry as virgins doesn't mean dey r happy abt it n dats d reason u r been chastised!!!!
DeleteSee them forming holy and saint. Lent lent as if they have not been fucking or lying to fellow human's since the start of lent. If u dont have advice for her keep ur hand to ur self n stop forming holy girl here.
ReplyDeleteIt takes months for the pains to stop
ReplyDeleteAbeg you people should free the girl...its her life and choice....Poster,try and be having sex regularly so that your body will get used to it...the pain will go away after 1 year of constant sex....the pain sef na moi moi compared to birthing a child...you have to endure it afterall,ihe nwata ruru ogo ya aburo usa...
ReplyDeleteShe asked for advice, she has made a decision, she is an adult! Get it?
ReplyDeleteTypical judgmental lot.
The comments so far r mean to dis poor girl. u guys shouldn't be judgemental. Some people want to get pregnant before marriage. Her case might be dat. u Just need more sex but ur guy should do it gently. u will soon start enjoying sex.
ReplyDeleteHow many of those condeming her are still virgin.She has done it all she ask is your advice.Some don't understand that pressure to be married make some people who had determine to keep it to give in,do you know how many men she has lost to some of you because you gave in to those men and she is keeping it.I don't support what she has done God is against it,but just because some of you lost it at 16 doesn't makes her stupid as you and Stella is crying.See a doctor for proper understanding of why so much blood and for the pain please forget sex till you are married .God bless you.
ReplyDeleteHer future hubby you ppl want her to keep the virginity for might probably be womaniser so let her be pls all you saints! The deed is done, she need solution. @poster, its normal for the heavy blood flow @ ur age. When I lost mine, the whole bed & mattress was soaked with blood & I waited for 1 week b4 having sex again. I even used a condom first day! I didn't really enjoy sex subsequently cos I felt some pain until I met my hubby who was more experience sexually, now I have multiple orgasm.. So allow your body to heal, buy ky jelly & make sure u use a condom.. Do not have an abortion for any man @ this age.. Be wise. TJ
ReplyDeleteHer future hubby you ppl want her to keep the virginity for might probably be womaniser so let her be pls all you saints! The deed is done, she need solution. @poster, its normal for the heavy blood flow @ ur age. When I lost mine, the whole bed & mattress was soaked with blood & I waited for 1 week b4 having sex again. I even used a condom first day! I didn't really enjoy sex subsequently cos I felt some pain until I met my hubby who was more experience sexually, now I have multiple orgasm.. So allow your body to heal, buy ky jelly & make sure u use a condom.. Do not have an abortion for any man @ this age.. Be wise. TJ
ReplyDelete.....Punani.......mighty vauly.......talk true, no be your first time? You sound like a tramp with lots of experience, no come here come find anybody mouth, biko! BEAUTY.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteanother one hit the dust!
ReplyDeleteLost mine @ 19 n got married at 21.
ReplyDeleteu married who marry you Amaechi or who? Tribalistic bigot u are even a child still growing.
DeletePeople, she's lost her virginity. No amount of chastising her will bring it back.
ReplyDeletePoster, it's very normal. It took me a YEAR before I started getting pleasure from sex after losing my virginity. Everytime I did it after, felt like I was losing it all over again. The first time felt like I was being poked with a knife. The reason why it took a year though is because my husband was offshore after we got married so sex wasn't regular... Basically, what I'm saying is what you're experiencing is very normal and you need to have a few more sexual experiences before you can start to feel any form of pleasure... Lastly, if you lost your virginity for a 'not so good' reason, I would advise that you just don't have sex again and wait for your husband. You're no longer a virgin, true, but you can still become celibate and wait for the right, gentle partner that you can have our first orgasm with. :)
Poster the deed is already done. At the end of the day it's your body, it's your vaginity. It's no one's business if you decide to give it to a mad man. Your experience sounds a bid odd. If the persist please see a doctor.
ReplyDeleteFinally, now that you are sexualy active I hope you know all the consequences.
Breezy
Deal with it!..
ReplyDeleteSelf righteous pricks all over dis blog. The girl has lost d virginity n she has lost it. It can't be reversed! If u can't help her out,just stfu! See all of them claiming virgin nw.when d guy enters the place finally,he will just fall inside like a badly constructed soak-away. Back to poster,abeg let it rest for a while. Next time u n ur partner want to do the do,there should be enuff foreplay(kissing,sucking,touching) n d sorts.also get lubricant and apply it.
ReplyDeleteSo u were disV wit a condom......or was it raw?
ReplyDeleteAnyway u need to go see a doc asap,pain cd be normal but not blood. It cd be linked to cervical cancer or infertility
Lols,singing"t sucks to be u right nw". EVE E UME
ReplyDeleteLmaooooo stella ehh i love ur blog walahi!! Virgin gyal tins lmao!
ReplyDeleteLol@ some comments!!! I suggest you see a Doctor dear poster... sex is worth the wait for those who are still waiting. Have a lovely Easter celebration Sdkers!!!
ReplyDeleteAnymore virgin inda house? My bf just hinted his sexual fantasy is having x with a virgin!!!
ReplyDeleteNot me biko!
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@poster I almost swore I sent this email. When I got disvirgined, the pain was unexplainable, I thought God was punishing me for the sin I was committing, we had sex several times after then but the pain was still unbearable. We moved to different towns afterwards and did not get to see for 3months, when we finally saw, I thought the sex would be better, but this time it was worse than the first time. To cut the long epistle short, I did an exchange program and we got to live together for 3months straight in the same town, I discovered lubes and the story changed. Pain went from severe to minimal then no pain at all. I still say it, in as much as I begged God for forgiveness, deep down inside, I never regretted loosing my virginity, cos I'm so glad I don't have to deal with that kind of pain anymore. For 2years I stayed away from sex, the next time I tried it again, it was almost like the very first time. I just tire. Been celibate for over a year now, decided to chill so that when I and hubby start having sex after marriage, we would do it nonstop without break so that the veejay would not go back to its default state. So poster I think your situation is perfectly normal. Lest I forget I did all sorts of research then, to make sure I didn't have some sort of condition that was making sex so painful. #Okbye
ReplyDelete@poster sorry u hear,u can tell ur bfriend to go in and out sofri sofri. If after tthat it continues,u can go to ur doctor but u for just wait small before disfiguring ur hymen. Mine wasn't as painful as yours after d day I disvirgined
ReplyDeleteToday I have finally confirmed that 70% of female sdker's are sanctimonious pretenders.i am genuinely disappointed at the lack of maturity.reading some comments was a waste of my fucking time
ReplyDeleteFeel free to buzz off biko. Are u aware that kids read this blog? And what if those kids were urs?
DeleteOde. Please feast on ur extra large maturity then. Mshew
The height of hypocrisy baffles me on this blog! Even u madam Stella did u marry as a virgin, fine. She should av waited but what's it about the condemnation? Smh.... Many of think u can tie a man down when he marries as u as a virgin? Lets learn to chastise ,correct and accept. Una no holy pass abeg
ReplyDeleteOooohh bet Y?
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn't have done it! Everytime I remember how I lost mine to my wonderful husband last year (@ 26) on our wedding night, I smile and have a happy feeling. He pampared me silly all through and even till now. His countless "Baby Sorry" as he did it still rings bell in my ears and the pics of the stains we took are always there for memory purpose.
Most of all, am very glad I gave it to my husband after all the shakara and "hard to get" I did for guys. The pressure of growing up is real but enduring and conquering is the best ever.
Yimu!!!!
Delete@Anonymous 8:18am You have spoken the truth. Thanks for your comment. A man can disturb you tire, it really takes a strong minded woman to overcome that type of pressure. So as women, we have to work on our wills, because at the end of the day it us that loses not the man.
ReplyDeleteAbeg carry Ʊя bf with you enter hospital,collect card and wait for a doctor..Congrats Babez..don't sulk
ReplyDeleteI'm 25 bt weneva i hia of sex my heart miss a bit:at 27 u cnt hold on til marriage such a pity;i am scared of havn sex even in marriage cos stories abt first tym sex makes me sick
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't you wait, I will be 41 years in a months time and am still a virgin but the again am Avery strong born again. I believe in sex after marriage. Am still very single praying to have my own man in God's time.
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GOD will bless u wiv urs very very soon, sooner Dan u expect, someone d@ will love and cherish you. U re rilii rili strong
DeleteLoool....this is acyally funny to...talk...but mine is just weird
ReplyDeletepls. I need an advice right nw coz what heard of is driving me to nut. Want to find out if is it true dat late disvirginity like 30 to 32 can coz one miscarriage when married. Am jst confuse coz am geting 30 dis yr and nw am scared and am thinking negatively of going to disvirgin myself with my Ex. Pls l need an advice. Thanks
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