Good day Stella.
Please I have an issue that's bothering me and I would like you to put this up as a post so that you and your blog readers can advice me accordingly...
I have a 2 year old daughter who's very very beautiful. Her beauty is such that its impossible to see her and not want to hold her or talk to her. That's how much attention she attracts.(Which makes me worried for her)
Just this morning, I dropped her off at school and one of the male teachers who was standing in front of her school gate gave her a peck on the fore-head (in my presence). I hear a lot of scary stories about how teachers especially the male ones sexually defile children under their care.
Should I be worried or am I just being paranoid?
I could go mad or even kill myself if anybody tries to harm her.
Should I report to the school authority to warn him and other male teachers to desist from doing such?
Please fellow blog readers, kindly advice me. Thank you.
Sue that teacher now before its too late.
ReplyDeleteU re a fool
DeleteThis sweetest P is a complete nuisance. Haba! I even prefer pepper ose oku- Atleast, she's funny and cracks me up all the time. Bitter P be warned!
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Nahhh. She's just 2. And u described she's a cute child etc. He prolly has kids of his own and would kiss their foreheads like he did urs. Just like her father would kiss her head. He's done nothing wrong, besides he didn't hide to kiss her. Just pass on it I would say.
DeleteWhat if it's a female teacher pecking your 2 year old son on the forehead? Would you also be alarmed? #justwondering#
DeleteWhy should you be worried? Just watch him closely sha... and give ya child alot of sex educatin no matter how little she is
ReplyDeleteYou wont believe what happened to actress
Sex education.....she is 2 incase u missed that part
DeleteSilly. Sex education to a 2yr old. You are obviously not a parent and when non parents comment in parental issues they just blab!
DeleteSex education at 2? Are you ok?
DeleteAnon 3:58pm I agree wit u totally. D teacher sha! Why pecking sum1 elses child? If u r still not satisfied after doing wat anon 3:58 said, u can talk 2 him as calmly as possible tell him u don't lyk dat. His response will determine ur next move.
Deleteewu gambia at 2 yrs giving her sex education
Delete@ anon sex education? Did u hear she is just two? Am sure d girl doesn't even knw wat her name is nt to talk of sex education. Pls ppl shuld reason b4 dey comment... Aunty poster, I dnt think u shuld be soo worried. But I dnt think u shuld report to the school yet, cos dey might read a different meaning to it
DeleteShe should be very worried. A peck is very very inappropriate! Please madam report it! If this was any other country that would be grounds for suspension. You are raising a girl, nip that in the bud. And talk to your daughter about appropriate and inappropriate touches from people. Speak to the school administration and tell them what you saw and you are not comfortable with it. Even if he meant no harm, let it not be repeated.
DeleteAt 2 yrs that child can't do anything if the teacher decides to defile her. Madam poster, pls be very very worried. Don't wait till the deed has been done. He's trying to get familiar with ur daughter and make her feel comfortable with him expressing those kind of things and from there it may graduate to something more. I don talk my own o!
DeleteSex education at 2?
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Did your mum give you a sex talk at 2? Pls don't be stupid. Madam call him and warn he shouldn't try that nonsense. Does he peck everyone on the head like that too?
DeleteHow can u give a two years old child sex education? Haba! Don't u think she is still very little for that?
DeleteHian!! watch him closely wr biko?? Some people can rili be alarmn mbok.. Na wn d man go de 4back of the classroom block de do minimini wanawana wit d pikin, hw d mama go knw?? Poster beta report nw or b sorry later.. I'm out!!
Deletedummy, ur tlkin abt sex education. For a 2 yrs old child
Deletedummy, ur tlkin abt sex education. For a 2 yrs old child
DeleteSeconded!
DeletePepper ose oku.
Male teacher pecking ke???? Please google don't make me go back there mommy
DeleteU can advice for africa sha...hw does a 2yr old baby understand sex education? U shld av jst stopped at d 2nd sentence...
DeleteDear poster, what u have to do is talk to the male teacher and calmly tell him that you are not comfortable with him kissing your child on the forehead and u can also take the matter to the headmistress of the school.
DeleteQueen Hadassah u r completely ryt...1st 2 comments r really lame n dumb!
DeleteYaron Allah
She has every reason to be worried o, na clap e de take enter dance.
DeletePlease report it and let the school handle it with a high level of discretion nw. U have nothn to lose by reportn. In my opinion, tht behaviour was inappropriate.
DeleteI don't think she meant sex education, just let the child know where should not b touched by anyone except mummy! And you could report the case if you don't like it it's your right!
DeleteI remember this lesson teacher we had who was our headmaster in primary school. He started with pecks on the cheek. He graduated to kissing him on the lips. And then moved up to pinching nipples. It was your reward for doing well and your punishment for misbehaving. We (my sister, a school mate and i) told our parents. No one believed us. They thought we were exaggerating because we hated lesson. He wouldn't dare molest us inside their very own BQ would he. Thank God for my awesome uncles who were on break from NDA. They overheard our complaints and stayed home the next day. They were apparently watching through the window. They almost killed him. We were 10, 8 and 6. Disgusting bastard. What if they weren't there? I shudder to think of how far it would have gone. That was the last lesson done outside the house. My dad was almost in tears. Poster, follow your instincts. Please. A peck is inappropriate however innocent.
DeleteAm sorry, I just can't hold it in anymore. Poster, pls walk up to the teacher and sternly teL him NEVER to repeat such again, that you are not comfortable with it,
DeleteFor the others who think sex education at 2 is absurd, u obviously do not have daughters (or even kids) or are not leaving oin today's Nigeria. From 18mths, a child shld be taught sex education! Yes, she need not know how a baby is created but she shld know her private and public parts, what touches are acceptable and what touches aren't! At 2, ur child can talk, hence can report, so let her know what shld be reported! A word is enuf for the wise!!!
Pls ma'am do d needful. Report d teacher or eject ur kid 4rm dat sc mbok. N pls she is way 2 younq 2understand sex education. It is even an abuse sef.
DeleteI agree with you Queen Hadassah and anon.
DeletePolitely tell him you are not comfortable with his PDA. And playful do the YES and NO game with your daughter by touching her private parts and say a big NO same with her lips. On your part be vigilant.
SO happy for you and your sisters that your uncles saved you all from that idiotic teacher! Same happened to my son. He went to spend holidays with his grandparents. He was always following the 20 year old maid around which arose suspicion in my cuz because a 4 year should be more interested in playing outside more. She began monitoring them and caught the maid giving her breast to my 4 year old to suck! She was beaten and severely warned before she went away few months later. They never left my son alone with her throughout the bal holiday.madam follow your instinct.
DeleteThank you anonymous 9:19.. ignorance is rily a disease, cant believe the garbage coming out of some pples mouth. Sex education shud start as soon as ur kids can communicate, make e no do u like film trick, cos dis is a wicked world we are living in
DeleteMost pple just come out here to talk, they don't know anything. Sex education starts @ 18mths. Ignoramus!
DeleteIf u nt com4table with it, its best u take ur child outta d schl cos warning him dosnt do anyfin dt is even if he has a bad intention, u wldnt be sitting nxt 2 her all 2ru with her in schl.....but I dnt think u shld be worried 4 nofin, he might jst love kids a lot nd mayb d schl is a tush schl so dey dnt count it as anyfin....but if its schl like oritaj4 abeg run.......bottom line is if u nt comfortable with d gesture nd ur spirit dosnt go down well with it, its better u withdraw her
ReplyDeleteA similar tin hapnd wif my lil sis, d foolish home lecture teacher pulled her pant and was about penetrating b4 grandma came to d rescue, d man got d beatin of hs life nd was arrested. ThankGod grandma was der to save her oo. Maam poster, biko do wat u can do nw to avert any serz fin lata. *enuff said*
DeleteA similar tin hapnd wif my lil sis, d foolish home lecture teacher pulled her pant and was about penetrating b4 grandma came to d rescue, d man got d beatin of hs life nd was arrested. ThankGod grandma was der to save her oo. Maam poster, biko do wat u can do nw to avert any serz fin lata. *enuff said*
DeleteI have come to learn that a mother's intuition can never be wrong,especially when u feel it very strongly in your gut....woman follow ur gut and keep ur child safe!!!
ReplyDeleteWhy is he pecking her on her forehead? Na her papa? You better have a word with him now before you become sorry later.
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In this modern day and age, teachers should make students a NO PHYSICAL CONTACT zone. Points blank to the big P.
ReplyDeleteRead my book, bloggers, details on my tweet feed @Omoyemi1o1A1Ojo. Noone is safe...Lol
Nothing to worry about. But if u insist you can talk to that teacher about what you saw him do and how you feel about it shikena.
ReplyDeleteBLOG ANALYSER: call him to order. Tell him that u don't like people pecking ur daughter. An adage says " food that u don't want ur neighbour to eat don't allow him or her to percieve the aroma.
ReplyDeleteWill he kiss a male pupil in such way?If he repeats it tomoro morning,babes slap d living shit outta him.Even Oyinbo pple don't practice such,is it in our culture?
ReplyDeleteVery nice question @ will he kiss a male pupil same
DeleteOh madam please!!! You are just been paranoid!! You said forehead right???..Haba!!! The teacher is just showing love to your baby and you are there reading all sorts of meaning to it??!!
ReplyDeleteI honestly wonder. A peck on the forehead and she's hysterical. If she's heard absurd stories about what goes on in the school she should withdraw her daughter already. Report him if that satisfies you, dear poster, but if you do that, it won't change him one bit, that's if he's who you suspect him to be. And take note: Female teachers molest too, so don't smile like Yomslaw when a female teacher pecks your daughter in front of you, ok?
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DeleteLol @ smiling like Yomslaw. But on a serious note, poster you said yourself your daughter is one cute little cupcake. I'm sure the teacher means no harm. Do you know how much I feel like giving some kids hugs or carrying them because of how cute they are but I have to respect the space and boundaries thing which everybody doesn't really respect. The teacher means no harm, but keep your eyes open at all times .
DeleteNa wa sha 2years! Madam chill.abeg i know u are worried about wat u read online but please adult giving ur dauther a peck aint a big deal, i do dat to beautiful.kids too. If u are still worried o open ur own school and employ only female teacher den forget dat lesbian exist tooo. Pls mamm all u need to do is prayer keep praying for ir dauther.
ReplyDeleteWELL TO ME KISSING ON THE FORE HEAD DOES NOT REALLY MEAN ANYTHING THAT BAD. WHEN A CHILD IS DOWN GIVING ADVISES TO DEM U CAN SEAL IT BY EITHER HUGGING THEM OR KISSING THEM ON THE FORE HEAD.. BUT WITH THAT COMING FROM HER TEACHER I THINK IT'S REALLY NOT APPROPRIATE.
ReplyDeleteMadam u nid to take it easy. Life isnt as cruel as u tink. A peck on d forehead is only a gesture of sincere frndship wich in my opinion is entirely harmless nd without attachmnt. Obviously he didnt do it in a secret place. Secondly u are only alarmed cos u probably dnt kiss ur baby on d forehead periodically. I undrstnd ur motherly instincts, but try nd justify ur actions if u hv react cos d integrity of d teacher is at stake
ReplyDeleteI agree with u hugo.... plus she is worried bcos her daughter is very beautiful, I think that's what making madam poster paranoid...at this rate madam when she turns sixteen uLl go mad.
DeleteYou can jst politely tell the teacher you are not comfortable with such things and let your daughter be aware of things like that ....talk to her in a way she'll understand, God help u
ReplyDeletemadam, there and then you should have called the teacher politely and told him straight away that you do not like such gesture on your kiddo.
ReplyDeletethat's what I do. I speak my mind straight up. some people just see your kid and start with "aww cute girl and wanna touch the child...I just go..
"oh please, don't!
I smile and pull my kid away.
the message is well delivered.
and then start talking to your daughter...teach her the basics like don't allow anyone take off your pant, don't allow anyone touch your bum, always report to mummy should anyone try to....
like that!
May God help us mothers.
Blog lord, ur comments jst made me love u.....
DeleteI am with Bloglord.
DeleteKeep your lips to thy self..
Yup!
I would be worried if it were my daughter. A mother cannever be wrong when it comes to her kids.
ReplyDeleteWarn him directly and still report to the school head so other teachers are warned too.
Teach ur daughter to confide in u and tell her what's not normal for a teacher or any grown male to do to her so if any such incidents happen, she can talk to u... D reason we have grown up just talking about molestation that happened since 15-20 yes ago is because they couldn't confide in someone so build a trust relationship wiv ur daughter n d rest is history
ReplyDeleteI don't think you are being paranoid at all.You should have called him out on it there and then. He may not have any ulterior motive, but you should let him know that you are not comfortable with him pecking your little girl on the head or anywhere else.
ReplyDeleteYou could also send an anonymous letter to the school telling them to inform all teachers both male and female that it's not ok to peck children on their heads and so on...you can also bring this up at the PTA meeting.
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Hmmmm, seems as if I'm the one who sent in this.
ReplyDelete@poster, I perfectly understand how you feel. It could be a harmless peck at the same time it could mean something...you never can tell.
We are in a wicked world.
Just last week, as I dropped my 2 years old daughter in school, a male teacher carried her up and pecked her playfully before handing her over to her teacher( her teacher is female and a mother) who also pecked her. I must confess I freaked out. I don't even know how I managed to control mysef. I felt like pouncing on the male teacher right away and giving him some dirty slaps.
I just quietly came down from the car and went straight to the proprietor's office and told her how I felt about it. She apologised and promised to warn all her teachers especially the male ones to stop kissing or pecking the students.
I have been watching them closely anytime I drop her and for now it seems they have stopped the pecking and kissing spree.
Poster please tell your baby girl not to allow anyone touch her inappropriately, she might be too young to understand but always tell her anyways. And always ask her what happened in school whenever she comes home. Also make sure you are the one who bath her so you can always check her well.
It is well.
This is the best comment ever!At two,we can start talking to our lil kids about things like..."no one should raise your skirt,no one should touch ur bom bom/pee pee,so on...Then always try and bath your babies yourself..no matter how tired you are. Most days I come back from work so tired,but I still give my lil girl a bath,i check her body closely morning and night..anahu eji ife a na agba na imi agba na nti
DeleteMy dear oohh.. you right there! Little or not, teach them anyways. After reading this I carried my little princess up n thought her how bad it is for anyone to touch her bum or wee.. it is bad bad bad we repeated. If anyone does, tell mummy n if you don't you die.. I'm worried too ohh..
DeleteI dont think that is something you should be worried about moreso he did it in your presence. But if you feel very uncomfortable about it just tell your daughter, you dont kiss or let anyone kiss you except Mummy and daddy. I told my 3 year old the same thing and it worked.
ReplyDeleteAnytime she comes home, i ask so who did you kiss today? She goes "but you told me i can only give hugs"....lol.
Doing it in front of you is a two way thing; either to gain ur daughters trust that mum is aware, so as to have his cunny way into her life to devour her(But God forbid) without her reporting to u thinking is right... Or he prolly meant no harm.. But i tell you sweetheart, prevention is better than cure, whether he meant good or evil, tell him tomorrow u dnt like it&he should quit doing such ASAP
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On point.
DeleteTrying to gain trust.
Keyword here is TRUST.
It could be nothing... He did it in front of you so why worry... Peck on the forehead is nothing.... I peck my kids and their lips and other peoples kids t their forehead...
ReplyDeletePlease please please take it up with the school authorities they r a lot of sick men Pls. Cko
ReplyDeleteWaooo, did i just see 'sex education" for a child of 2 years, thats way too far. Please dont worry yourself, you can just report to the authority you dont like such act and dont take it too far.
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ReplyDeleteI concur with anon 3:58
ReplyDeleteMale teachers are not supposed to teach children below the age of 6.
ReplyDeleteThat teacher should be warned o. Times are bad. You can't be too careful. Since your instincts tell you to be careful, then do not ignore your instincts biko.
As a parent, i will advise that if you feel uncomfortable about it, then have a friendly conversation with the school principal on educating her staff on relating to students. Please note emphasis is on 'friendly' because you dont want to come across as been over-sensitive, which in itself is nothing bad especially when it involves your minor child.
ReplyDeleteAs parents, its naturally intuitive for us to always protect our children, it is very ok for you to feel irk about that action especially in this age that peadophiles live amongst us. U also do not want to hurt the teacher's feeling especially if he was doing it as an innocent gesture towards his pupil.
So to avoid any unpleasant situation, walk into the principal's office, explain the situation and how it made you feel, and how it will be beneficial for the school to educate the teachers and assistants on relating to pupils and how to pass nice gestures and comments to students.
Its ok to feel funny, its comes with your responsibility as a parent.
May God keep all our little blessings from the sight of evil men n women, in Jesus name
He kissed her forehead in ur presence,why re u reading meaningz into meaningless tinz,2me I see nothing wrong wit dat.u wuld ve cautioned him immediately if u felt it was wrong.wuld u ve preferd a female teacher 2kiss her forehead?wat if dat female teacher u feel comfy wit is a lesbian?
ReplyDeletePlease report to the school authority immediately biko let them take it from there and let ur husband be aware of this.
ReplyDeleteOgbenyeanu
Mschewwwww! Abeg madam keep your beautiful baby at home.
ReplyDeleteYou must be foolish to come to social media for advise on how to raise ur child. Let me give you some;
ReplyDeleteTeach her sex education and show her condom. Tell her to always insist on condom.
And btw, tell the school headmistress about the pedophile on her teaching staff.
Do all this and you will be fine. Oniranu like u
Asswipe
DeleteAnon 5:10pm.......and u are even more foolish than u think d poster is....if she's comfortable bringing d issue here...how is it ur headache??we all learn from other people's stories.....guess u were born with a condom in ur hand,,that is why u are telling poster to show her 2yr old a condom.....bigger oniranu like u.
DeleteThis is a tough one! But I think you should have told him off instantly, politely though.
ReplyDeleteNo need to get paranoid. Apply d *PANT* rule. Google it. May God bless ur daughter, Amen.
ReplyDelete@ Anon April 9,2014 at 3:58PM
ReplyDeleteHow much sex education can u drum into a 2 year old? You even advised her to watch closely... From where...home? Are u ok?
My dear poster, report that teacher to the school authorities immediately.
My 7 year old niece told to me how a couple of JSS 1 students in their school always invite her and her friends to enter their class anytime they are passing. Kia Kia! As I dropped her in school the next morning, I went straight to the Head Mistress and reported the matter mentioning the names of the two boys and she promised to take care. I inquired from my niece and she said they have stopped doing that.
Please, don't keep quiet o. The days are evil.
Are you both in nigeria? Is the teacher a nigerian? Cos I knw to arab kisses are very appropriate.ill advice you to talk to the teacher calmly about it and that you don't like it.if it persist then take it to the authorities.
ReplyDeleteVery appropriate? No wonder they lust after lil kids.
DeleteYou should be worried oo.. Tk steps now to prevent any misfortune(if there wud hav bn any sha).. Report d matter and state your fears 2 the school authorities. Its beta now than sorry!! Avoid stories dat touch, there are psychos evrywr and you wouldn't wnt 2feel guilty later on that you saw it cmn and did notyn..Dts my take
ReplyDeleteSmall Mrs
Please, when you go to school tomorrow, confront the teacher and warn him thoroughly then goto the proprietress and tender your complaints.
ReplyDeleteAlso educate your child that a man kissing or pecking her forehead is unacceptable.
Begin to educate your daughter now o, its never too early.
On the forehead, in front of u, noting to worry about. But always ask ur daughter about her school, teachers, and 'games' they play. I understand being paranoid, I will too, but it may be nothing since he did so in ur presence.. also educate her on places that should not be touched on her body and if anyone, I mean anyone, be it male or female, father, auntie uncle, cousin, etc, should do so, she should tell u at once no matter what the case maybe.
ReplyDeleteI don't think kissing on d forehead is such a biggie,n if he did it in front of u then its probably harmless...in any case u shd pay a close attention n give ur baby plenty sex ed for her to knw wat n wat to report to u n to who.
ReplyDeleteDoing it in her presence is the oldest trick of building trust in parents! DON'T fall for it anywhere! Why does he not kiss all the children on their foreheads also?
Delete@mi lady; teachers abroad don't peck or kiss their pupils because it would be seen as sexual molestation and the teacher sued or fired! Did you not read the story of the 6 year old boy that was expelled from school because he kissed his classmate on her cheek and a teacher reported the matter? It was a big issue that people were angry at the school and teacher for making a mountain out of a mole 's hill. Then not to talk of an adult giving a kiss on the forehead? Is he related to them in anyway?
Poster, NIP it at the bud NOW!
Very very beautiful ba. Can we see a pic to believe you? Warn him and teach your daughter about child abuse.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of stupid advice did you just give? Irrespective of the fact that our kids need sex education, she's too young and exposing her to such could be too dangerous. Madam, please talk to the school authorities. Tell them you do not like such and do not want to repeat itself. In case the teacher has any evil sexual intentions towards your daughter he would at least know her mom has his eyes on him. Yes be paranoid. They're our kids and its our duty and responsibility to protect them always.
ReplyDeleteIt's never dat srz...
ReplyDeleteSimply tell the teacher you weren't comfortable with that peck on the forehead. And that you wldnt want the little girl to get too comfortable with such pecks,b4 she feels its very okay even from strangers. And he shld even stop so he doesnt encourage others with a wrong motive who may see him doing it harmlessly.. Just make him understand you know he means no harm, even though you don't trust him.
ReplyDeleteBest advice ever...
DeleteYaron Allah
D world is evil so I understand ur fears Buh den dis teacher may mean no harm.Buh if I were u,I wouldn't focus on him being innocent.I don't like it.simple! I teach my daughter's sex edu.dey r 5 and a half n 3. N I tell dem the only male allowed to be given kisses n pecks is their dad.sometime ago,I dropped off my daughter at school,and I saw a male teacher hold up her chin as in " how are u" hmmm....I just parked my car and marched to d school to complain dat I didn't Like it.dey understood and reassured me d man didn't mean any harm Buh considering d rate of pedophiles roaming around,I was right to be upset.I maintained I didn't want to know if he was innocent or not,Buh I dont and I repeat don't want such affectionate gestures being bestowed on my girls.period! We can do our best by giving our kids sex education and den lifting dem up in Prayerz.we can't be everywhere all d time...it's GOd.do ur best ,ur very best n den trust God.my 1 st daughter is beauty personified.strangers walk up to me daily and ask me where she comes from.lol.wen we r abroad on vacation,my brother is like a hawk watching over her wen we go out cos he said her beauty is way too much dat he is just scared.everytime we r abroad,esp Dubai,we get special favours cos of her.she has being invited to d King's palace by d wife( her kids fell in love wIt her) people stop us in malls and buy her presents.I appreciate all dese and it slightly bothers me Buh den I pray and take good care of them myself.like I baby sit dem myself.I hAve a business,so I hAve my own time to myself.I try to focus on d good and not be paranoid.and more Dan anything,lift my two girls up to GOd daily.
ReplyDeletedon't ruin the teacher's career due to your paranoia. He means no harm. It's your mind giving you silly ideas. What he has done is in order
ReplyDeletehmmm......oro aye po! I can only say pls watch ur child closely! Tel ha tinz lyk "do not let anyone touch u down dia" or "tel me weneva sum1 touches u down dia". Hmmm.... God protect my daughters 4rm harm wen i chuz 2 ve dem!
ReplyDeleteBetter paranoid than sorry. U can speak to the girl's class teacher and headmistress about the incident, that it is not to happen again. Beg the class teacher to keep a close eye on her for u, even if it means a little bribery like dashing her stuff once in a while.
ReplyDeleteAnon 3.58 the child is 2
ReplyDeletewhy shouldnt she be worried? Please complain to the school. I have a daughter and if you hold her hand too much sef, you will see my red ( and rainbow) eye. Hian. This world has beCome a wicked place. do your part. no be fight, nobody should be kissing her in school (disgusting, mschew)
ReplyDeleteIf he pecks her so? U are oversensitive
ReplyDeleteI think u shld report him. Little tins lik dis really matter ooo.
ReplyDeleteWell I feel since he did it in ur presence,it only shows he has no bad intentions 2wards her bt u jst keep watching and when u feel u nt 2 comfortable with it,u can confront him and tell him u dnt like it..
ReplyDeleteD human mind can b extremely wicked n deceptive.... Dias evry possibility dat he means no harm n dias a slight chance dat pecking her on d forehead in front of d mum is a premeditated action so dat d mum will feel comfortable wit d way he handles d daughter n not suspect anything or play on d child's intelligence 2 bliv dat since d mum saw him pecking d her in front of her mum n d mum did not do anytin abt it den it's ok if he does other tinz 2 her....#JusMyTots
DeleteYaron Allah
Chill a bit. We miss it when we suspect the ones that do it openly but totally Trust The best pretenders. If he had Ulterior motives he would do add much as possible not to be noticed. Having said that keep asking your daughter if the teacher or anyone at all touches or kisses her. Been abused before so I'm really sceptical
ReplyDeletePlease report to the school authority about it, because the heart of man is desperate and wicked, who can know it, (Ibee)
ReplyDeleteStop him! It begins from there. Is that how he does to other kids? Its unacceptable in the US sha. Its termed to b sexual abuse.Dunno of Nig.
ReplyDeleteMa'am, yes u have a very reason to b worried, cos we live in a very wicked world. U should talk to d proprietor of d sch raising ur concerns and asking dat d teacher desist from such acts.
ReplyDeleteAlso u need to teach ur daughter how to tell u anything at this tender age. Especially anybody that touches her in an odd way.
First things first, I know she is just two, but tell her no one is allowed to touch her or peck or kiss her and by touch I mean intimate creepy touch. Then when you get to the school tomorrow, tell the teacher not to do that again, that you are not comfortable with it.
ReplyDeleteThen watch your baby like a hawk, best of luck. Paulette
I don't c any problem in dis..but try nd keep a close watch! We can't say...devil uses pple anyhow dis days..If u aint comfortable ,just tell him off..tell d teacher u don't like it..I believe d teacher is just trying to b nice.. That's how some children teachers are! @xclucivexter!
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't you confront him there and then? If you're not comfortable with something it's always best to be upfront about it and nip it in the bud there and then!
ReplyDeleteIn my own opinion,they is no need 2 involve d police or d sch authority yet,just watch him closely,d peck could be a harmless one,but still have it @ d back of ur mind dat anytin can happen,start teachin ur dota frm nw,she is nt 2 young
ReplyDeletemadam react ooo! but do it politely since you witnessed this and over-reating maybe wrong but then ...
ReplyDeleteREACT....POLITELY!!!
why???
because na from clap them dey enter dance!
Lady go to that teacher tell him you saw what happened the other day,
ReplyDeleteYou DIDN'T like it
It should never happen again. Period.
Breezy
Also tell your little girl not to allow anyone to kiss her except mum and dad only. If anyone tries to kiss her she should let you know
ReplyDeleteYou can just tell the teacher that you are not comfortable with that. He may mean no harm, but we can't be so sure. Rose
ReplyDeleteThere are better ways to show affection to a kid that is not yours. Talk to the school head as most have already suggested. Pesin no dey know finish.
ReplyDeleteSex education can begin at any time. So its appropriate to start telling her about her private parts and it's proper name. Tell her that no one is allowed to touch her private parts. If you are not comfortable with the teacher, it's time to sex educate your daughter about her private parts.. that way she will tell you when someone touches those part. I have had a 6yrs old child tell me a boy massages his penis often in school. Now the habit is built, he massages secretly his male friends. They visiting one day, I noticed my son stimulating his penis when I confronted him he quickly pointed to the boy who he warned to stop but didn't. The mum apologized immediately n said she was tired no longer knows wht to do to help d child. So why d story! It's necessary to teach your child his or private sex organ n not allow anyone to touch., teachers uncles aunties friends pastors classmates etc.
ReplyDelete@ poster since u are not comfortable when he peckd ur daughter right in front of u why didnt u confront him,,,he might meant no harm but keep a close watch
ReplyDeleteBiko, what is a two yrs old doing in school. Very soon Nigerians will start enrolling babies straight from hospital, this child can't even talk well yet. And before you pple start am a mum with 4kids.
ReplyDeleteAfter reading the diary of a perverted Nigerian male on the Internet, my trust and outlook on life totally changed.
ReplyDelete361 degree ( normal = 360).
He explained how a 4 or 5 years old ( neighbors daughter) is tempting him
And
How he has been trying to avoid her but He ( the pervert ) is going to GIVE IT to her soon.
Give it to her Right on under her parent's nose in the guise of playing with UNCLE in his room.
I am sorry but women please let our instinct guide us and let everyone be a suspect until proven innocent.
The world is so sexually charged right now, nothing is conservative anymore.
From music to movies to the Internet, everything is screaming SEX.
#Let him keep his LIPS to himself, his wife and kids.
Thanks kadybia #hugs.
ReplyDeleteSA I see ya. We shall continue our gist tmrw. Network na die.
Dear poster I sincerely hope you read this. That teacher could possibly be a peadophile. Thats how they operate; first they talk, then touch then rape. I will advice you to meet with him with your daughter and tell him you saw the way he kissed your daughter, and you're not comfortable with it. Then politely ask him not to ever do so again otherwise you will deem it as sexual harrasment and report him to the police. You can also make a report to the school authority stating your discomfort with a teacher having such bodily contact with your daughter. These might seem rather extreme but its better to err on the side of caution than to come crying later of how your daughter was raped by a teacher. Nip this in the bud!
ReplyDeleteIn this Naija??? Yes! You should be worried!
ReplyDeleteDear poster I sincerely hope you read this. That teacher is probably a peadophile. That's how they operate; first they talk, then touch then rape. Have a face to face with him with your daughter in tow and ask him to lay off her otherwise you will have him arrested for sexual harrasment. You can also report to the school authority stating your discomfort with him having such bodily contact with your daughter. These might seem rather extreme but its better to err on the side of caution than come wailing later of how your daughter was raped by a teacher. Nip this in the bud now!
ReplyDeleteSOOOO U R WAITING FOR SDK TO TELL U WHAT TO DO????? WAS SDK THERE WHEN U WERE IN LABOUR??? WAS SDK THERE WHEN YOU AND UR PARTNER WERE HAVING SEXUAL INTERCOURSE??? MY SISTER PLS U KNOW THE RIGHT THING TO DO, SDK WILL NOT BE THERE WHEN/IF THINGS FALL APART!!!
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I read through all the comments and we decided to take the advice of the majority-to report to the school authority though we didn't give away his identity. I would still talk to him one-on-one but that would have to be when school resumes, as they closed for the Easter holidays today.
ReplyDeleteThank you all SDKers, I'm very grateful. You guys rock!
Remember to also tell your daughter that nobody except her dad and mom can touch her below the nose and above the ankles. I think kissing anyone but your spouse and kids on the forehead is inappropriate. No matter how cute a child is, people should restrain themselves. Sure we might want to innocently hug and cuddle a cute child but not everything is expedient.
DeleteSecondly, I had a personal story regarding an uncle that used to kiss us kids on the forehead. You don't have to believe me but he used his own mouth to confess that it was a fetish thing. So be careful.
Remember to also tell your daughter that nobody except her dad and mom can touch her below the nose and above the ankles. I think kissing anyone but your spouse and kids on the forehead is inappropriate. No matter how cute a child is, people should restrain themselves. Sure we might want to innocently hug and cuddle a cute child but not everything is expedient.
DeleteSecondly, I had a personal story regarding an uncle that used to kiss us kids on the forehead. You don't have to believe me but he used his own mouth to confess that it was a fetish thing. So be careful.
I'm a regular visitor on this blog,but this is going to be my first time of commenting.
ReplyDeleteI'm really surprised at how naive a lot of people are.
1. Sex education at 2 doesn't necessarily mean talking about sexual acts to a baby. At 2,I started teaching my daughter how to wash her privates and tell her everyday that no one is allowed to go there,not even mummy or daddy. She's 31/2 now and she washes her privates perfectly. She also knows what to do if anyone attempts to go there.
2. Kissing someone on the forehead is very intimate.more than on the chicks or even on the lips. So if a teacher,male or female does that,I would be very worried. It's a serious show of affection.
Dear poster,I'm happy you have reported to the school authority.
Just heard abt a fifteen year old boy who slept with a 2yr old baby girl yest in my area.... And u guys are sayin she's paranoid!!!! I think u guys dnt hv kids cos if u have, ur protective instincts will see things that are dere and those that aren't!!! Abeg better safe than sorry oooo! He's not her father so he shouldn't kiss her forehead abeg!!! This life don hard abeg...
ReplyDeletePlease speak to the school principal immediately! This is NOT appropriate behavior for a teacher. This is not her father, uncle or relative! A forehead kiss is very personal/intimate. Personally, I wouldn't care if dem wan call me alarmist, I see no reason why the teacher should kiss a child on the forehead when even if the child did something extraordinary a simple high five (or give me five like we say in Naija) would do! I like the question someone posed, is he kissing all his students both boys and girls on the forehead? Is he kissing his colleagues?
ReplyDeleteSorry o but dis na how pedophiles dey begin wit small innocenti type touches before dem get to the koko of de matta.
Nip that right in the bud! If need be have your child transferred from his class. Protect your child and damn the consequences.