This BEAUTIFUL blog visitor is in a fix with her Arab husband ......her story is pathetic!!!
''Hmmm I don't even know where to start from... I am in my mid twenties, It all started when I came to Lagos for my IT and was staying with my brother, I was trying to move on witt my Life after I walked out of my first Marriage to a Naija guy that was lazy, jobless and couldn't accept his responsibilities when I got pregnant twice for him.
Even after the white wedding he kept on saying he wasn't ready to start a family, and I was always the one providing for us from my father's inheritance. After 2yrs of dating On and Off, we finally got married and I sponsored Half of the wedding. 3months into the wedding I had a miscarriage and it affected me physiologically, emotionally and coupled with his constant cheating habit I walked out of the marriage.
A year passed, i was in Lagos like I said for my IT and I met this Arab hardworking, kind hearted and handsome Religious Man. He showered me with care, attention, gift and all a Lady could think of a perfect Man. 4months into the relationship I took in and back then, my older bro told me that the man confided in him that he wasn't ready to settle down but we could have the child, and at the same time the same man kept on asking me to become a Muslim so we could get married which I did because I was Stupidly in Love.
However, I was suppose to meet his family during the wedding prayers but they never showed up and we went ahead with the wedding and that was the Biggest mistake I did. I went through hell with the pregnancy, he would cheat on me, curse and insult me, my family and even my past life ( as I was open to him, told him everything ).
He has no respect for my mom and even insults my dead Father that he never met. I ran away from his house over 3 times during my pregnancy and went back cos I wanted my child to have and know his father, he used to tell me that his family doesn't know me and will never accept me cos I am not Arab.
He is violent, short tempered, had so many secretes and as of that time i was always left alone in the house, he didnt take me out or do anything anymore. He completely changed. At a point in time, one of his Ashawo girlfriends embarrassed the hell out of us when he took me out for dinner after over 6 months indoors.
After I had our handsome Son, his new threats now is that he will take his child and disappear since I don't know his family, I tried to run away with my child but he's so violent he threatens whosoever that helps me.
I filed for divorce last year and that was when he told his family about me and our Son. He uses juju and spiritual means to bring me back to his house, he pushed me around, slapped me once even bruised my right ankle, calls my mom a witch, makes me not to talk to my family.... not even my mom.
He's a racist, and mocks at every kobo he gives me even if its for our son or for house up keep, he threatens to take away the little Bussiness I have going on and my Son if i should leave him, I cant leave cos whenever I want to, my plans won't work out. I'm trying so hard now to save up so I can get a comfortable place for me and my Son, but each Day and minutes I spend here with him is like the window of hell is next to me.
He doesn't provide like before, he's manipulative, extremely Jealous, brings mallams to do all kinds of things in the house. So, i turned to my female lawyer for counselling and she advised that I should take shelter at one of these NGo's take help fight against domestic violence for Women while we proceed with the divorce, but I'm scared he will find me there.
Please I need your candid advice ....where should i start from as he hid my certificate and wouldn't allow me to graduate.
Please take it easy on the insults as I'm human and not above mistakes. Besides, i dont think I can take it cos I'm depressed and I swear a couple of times, I thought of taking my own Life because i can't stand to watch my only son suffer or taken away from me.
May God bless you all and keep you all..
Thanks a lot Stella, bless your kind spirit''.
*OMG....dont you have family?how can this be happening that a foreigner is threatening you in your own country?
Please if you know anyway to help her free herself from this situation,contact me via email and i will pass her email for you to contact her or drop a means she can contact you in the comment section.
what a dummy?
ReplyDeletefrom frying pan to fire...
women una see unaselves...
shebi arabs are better than naija men abi...
she can even marry shekau and join boko haram
Anon you are a fool, she needs help n our advice not insults! Oponu oshisco
DeleteWrong foundation! Ur case is spiritual. The powers of ur father and mother's house vowed that nothing Good will come out of ur marriage, that is why u keep falling into wrong hands. Go on three days dry fasting, pray from 12midnight till 3:15am for 3days. Cry out to God, ask God to show u the secret of ur problem. Ask God to reveal the secret of ur husband to u. Tell God to fight ur battle for u. ask God to give u inner peace, Pour ur heart desires out to God. Read psalms 59:1-17, psalms 91:1-16, psalms 23-1:6. Pray always and sing praises often to God, buy doing so, u will find inner peace... I promise u. Frm Obehi
DeleteYou need to leave him asap. If he's actually using juju on you then it's over for him. I know an Alfa that can help you. Call him on 08089974881. Remember a yoruba adage that says 'omo ina laaran sina'..... This is 100% Genuine, i hope you call The Man Of God asap.
DeleteYou need to leave him asap. If he's actually using juju on you then it's over for him. I know an Alfa that can help you. Call him on 08089974881. Remember a yoruba adage that says 'omo ina laaran sina'..... This is 100% Genuine, i hope you call The Man Of God asap.
DeleteFirst of all, what's the meaning of christian? 'Christ like' ,who's Christ? The Son of God, our Lord and personal saviour, the way, the truth and life. The moment you left him, you left all these mentioned above. It's not too late to retrace your steps, make peace with God, pray fervently for your freedom from that man. Humans may help you quite alright, but God's help is perfect and permenent. That man may turn around and reject you and your child, thereby giving you the freedom you seek. Pray to God my dear, He alone can give you perfect solution to this.
DeleteThis is why women should work hard and be independent and stop thinking with their p*ssy!!!
DeleteThere is no such thing as LOVE, no human is capable of love.
How can an adult speak like this??
U don't need God, cos he has already given you a BRAIN, which is d most important thing God gave everyone but 70% of d world mis-use and undermine the brain.
If d poster was independent, she won't keep going back to him.
Do u seriously want your son to see/watch his father abusing his mother?
Do u want him to bcom worse than his father?
Why is marriage d highest thing NIGERIAN women believe they can achieve?
running away from evil is a good thing.(Proverbs 22:3)
U have a bro that can't fight on your behalf.
Its either u take your son and leave him or he kills u and runs away and u don't get to see your child grow up.
U can also sue him, arrest him but make sure u are not living with him while u attack him legally.
Or
Kidnap and torture him, make sure he does not die, tell him to give u his ATM details, withdraw all his money and put in your bank account. Wait for his wounds to heal, then cover his head make sure he can breath, then drug him so that he'll forget the torture then drive him to another state, and release him there in only his boxers,put 2K in his palm and tell him to close his palm tightly, then remove d head cover and drive off. Let him know his f**king with the wrong nigerian.
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Delete@Poster, u said he seized your certificate and he won't let you work. ..which cert biko? Didn't u say u are running ur IT prog? Although, this story was well written and all, but I'm not buying it.
I don't understand the rush to get married, you said you re in your mid-twenties meaning you re 25 and this is already your second marriage.
DeleteGirl if you succeed in coming out from this one biko take your time before you jump into another marriage, you re too young for all this!
May God intervene in your case
This is the disadvantage of premarital sex. It makes you feel like you have to get married to whoever is responsible irrespective of if d guy is right or wrong. You married your two husbands cos of pregnancy. Food for thought...
DeleteI just love your comment free thinker. Imagine nonsense!
DeleteFree thinker,ur head is there...nicest comment ever!!d man is a fucking retard!there is no justification for domestic violent!!
DeleteFree thinker, NYC comment.
DeletePoster, I dunno what to tell u.
I don't have advise for this poster cos I will be wasting my time!
DeleteYou wonder if some people have brain at all!
#sigh
I need seat, oya mak I read comments
ReplyDelete1st 2 comment
You are always needing seats sist
Delete2nd marriage n u r in Ur mid twenties? U must be joking
ReplyDeleteHow on earth will u get married to som1 u don't know anybody wit him,,nt even siblings nt to talk of parents. N dis guy no be nigerian, wot kind of brain do u av?
U must be from a poor background cos I know it's d guy's money dt enterd ur eye.
U av entered one chance.
Shennel its cos u r privileged t com frm a gud background dat u r talking lik dis...Abeg sit down..don't u kw dat som gals grew up in a house and not a home so seeing an Arab on a shinning camel feels like an answered prayer as their parents don't send dis gals at all...hers is evn better than a friend of mine who got married to an Arab within 3 months of meeting him and then all hell broke loose cos he will man beat her so much he had t drive her t hospital 2x...it was when he almost killed her d father reluctantly returned d dowry t d monster...hwevr some lucky gals still meet Arab men and other foreigners who treat them well..so babes let's all shine our eyes
DeleteBesides my friend is just 24yrs old too
DeleteMama Dolphin is the answer. Such men deserve even more. Plz ve his stupid ass roasted via Dolphin. Sincere advice!
DeleteLike seriously d way ladiies take dis marriaqe thinq is very annoyinq. How can u meet sumone within d span of 90dayz n u aqree 2 spend d rest of ur life wif him? Kai na wa o. Poster sorry o. I wish I kn wetin 2 tell u. Pele!!
DeleteShennel,pls STFU!!u will be in her shoes someday!
DeleteLearn to be a little bit civil in your reply it wouldn't cost you any harm
DeleteNa Greed dey worry the poster abeg!
ReplyDeleteLove my black wide ass!
U are in ur mid 20s alredy aving probs in ur 2nd marriage.
1 wld av tot a divorcee wld be careful wit dia nxt rltnshp.
But no, an IT student sees an opportunity n grabs it.
Too bad u dragged ur son in2 dis mess.
Dis 1 wey u no mention ur parents, i bet dey aint in support.
Of all ppl na arab u go marry. #SMH
No be dose ppl wey dey tie head lik wrapped locust beans. #Scoffs.
My advise is...
GBE AGBELEBU RE
BO WU, BI O WUWO...
Wich means, accept ur fate, carry ur cross, n hope dat christ mks ur burden lighter.
Lemme say sorry may e no be like say i wicked.
And u wrote all of this epistle bcos...
DeleteYet u claim u dnt read when another person writes? Fake thing. Practice what u preach cow.
Shut ur trap. I pity Women like u. What part of she's depressed dnt u understand. She accepted all her fault and asking 4 a way out and u wrote 2000words just 2 ask her 2 carry her cross? #smh# no wonder people cuss u out. U ve a wicked heart and an empty skull.
DeleteI too like dis crazy girl...but I no see my oda friend again o ,toluwalashe/captain's boo(we no know whose dey boo her now sef)...@poster,I no even pity u @all,sorry.
Delete@ anony!
DeleteTanx for readin my epistle.
Much kisses.
@ AOL
If u are d poster,
U brot dis on ursef.
I ddnt chop ur wedding rice, so dia4 do not transfer agression on me.
As i advice earliar carry ur cross, n follow christ, cos na greed carry u reach dis level.
Plz kiss ur son for me.hehehe!
A MEMO TO AOL
Delete'She accepted all her fault and ask for a way out and u wrote 2000 words just to ask her to carry her cross'
Babe re-read dis, and see how desperate u sound for an advice frm pink shell.
I can ear d plea in dat message.
If u want to no wat i tink abt dis, u wld av to stat paying me. I no dey give free advice on top blogs agen.
Next time be a gud sportman. Just ask me nicely for my opinion, insted of raining abuses at me.
I still advice dat u bare ur cross. Inugo
@ Bitchplis
DeleteGaan update ur toasting skills.
U no dey try at all.
1st u don take style ask me wen 'Late' prophet james wan carry go baff.
And now u are liking me.
And u no am a taken woman oo. Na oly money fit make me leave davido. I no dey find big D ooo.
Pink shell,dont feel u know how to talk biko...if u have nothing to say,den say nothing!to give advice is not by force!everybody comes on d blog to insult people u don't know..people dat on a very good day,u shld be a cleaner for dem!wat makes u better than d poster?God help y'll big mouthed M'fuckass
DeleteChinny baby cos u r polite xcept for modafoka, wld ans u in d same manner.
DeleteI understand wia u r coming frm, u are a single frustrated mother.
@ what mks u beta
1. Am calculative
2. I try not to make same mistake 2ce.
3. Marriage scares me, unlike poster sims to jump frm 1 marriage to anoda.
And as u ritely sed, advice aint by force. So AOL aka Chinny baby, i still insist dat u bare ur cross, so hlp u God.
I hate u so much. My goodness!!! U force urself so hard. Y? Fake life is not good...understood??
Delete@ Cece,
DeleteI wish i gave a FUCK!
BTW Its pathetic d way u change names, taking adv of some blog visitors identities.
Pink shell baby.....I just love your come backs..mwah
DeleteSingle frustrated mother ko!!ur mind deceive u so much,making u think u know a shit about people or life!replying comment with all power and might makes u sound so PATHETIC!!someone who's IQ is below 10percent is called an IDIOT!go get some sense!
DeleteA foreigner threatening u in ur country? My dear go to one of the NGO's as ur friend before its too late. This is not the time to be scared or weak,u need to brace urself up and fight him with everything you've got
ReplyDeleteDint you hear when she said the guy uses jazz to bring her back? Lmao! So no NGO can help her greedy ass mehn!Am sure this poster is an ibo geh. Na we dey do dis kain fuck up paroles.
DeleteThis is serious, pls run to an NGO which helps women against domestic violence.Can u Imagine? A foreigner 4 that matter.God bless u.
ReplyDeleteHe seized ur certificate and won't allow u graduate? Madam, are u a graduate? Or u are still in school? If u are still in school, what certificate did he seize? If u are a graduate, why then won't he allow u graduate? Are u confused? Without being unsympathetic, I find your story extremely difficult to believe. If u are telling the truth, then I apologise. But I don't think you're being truthful here.
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella, mind what u post on ur blog. People just come her to give lie lie stories and it's not cool
To me this is a big lie....lie lie story smh...bcos they gave a good Muslim story earlier, someone just made this up to put Islam back in the black list on this blog... poster you are a lair, your story isn't consistent... Abeg shift smhhh
DeleteGod bless you real good! Na her otakara certificate the man seize! Kmt!
DeleteThot I was the only one that noticed. Stella u sef don enter one chance. Only she's not soliciting for funds. Let me clear year doubts poster. From the little I know about Arabs, I mean the core Arabs, they do NOT marry non Arabs..rarely would. Maybe 1% would. Infact they wouldn't even marry a white lady, not to mention black woman. If per adventure this one is an Arab outcast, then his religious beliefs would have been adulterated too. But u would hardly find an Arab who'll compromise his religion, which is why they don't touch non Arabs. So it makes ur story somewhat bogus to me. Meanwhile, an Arab will never get into any shabby wedding without their full cultural display. Again lady poster, something doesn't add up. Arabs can fuck prostitutes, and they'll pay her a huge sum. That's about it ..abeg I tire for ur tory jare
DeleteSorry about your ordeal poster ,you will definitely get the help you need cos u are at the right place.
ReplyDeleteNow,let the hate on islam begin.
Aeegurl...
I am tired of listening to all these domestic abuse stories. you'll find intelligent, young women with promising careers falling into the wrong hands. when did it all go wrong? i single and with everything i hear now, im scared of getting married because i wonder why a man who showered you with love, attention will still end up abusing you verbally,emotionally and physically when u get married to him.poster, ppl will say u shd pray but i think u need to leave that home first before prayer will work. my elder sister's hubby was alwaz beating her and ppl told her to keep praying. well she got tired of praying cos he was nt changin and she left home and now she has peace. take to your heels and then you can start praying, who knows, God might change him and if he does not, raise your child alone. Chidren from single parents are doing well, we dont have to av a man to be fufilled...sorry for the long epistle
ReplyDeleteAll these Arabs in Nigeria are taking more than required. Poster i think the police should be involve in this case because some of this Arabs can be brutal. This man won't let you go with his child, they always kidnap their children from the wives when their is problem.
ReplyDeleteHow about your family ? are they scared of him too? I think you should leave Lagos and move to another state.
Women should stop telling their husband about their previous relationship and never bad mouth your family to your husband because he may use it against you.
A man that loves you can never made you change your religion. You made a terrible mistake marrying him.
Poster, i pray God delivers you from this beast. Arabs hmmm.
They kidnap becos they feel they are a superior race and mustn't leave their blood' hanging just anywhere,very arrogant set of pple maybe dats why most are violent.the way they look at pple like pests when u travel to their countries,na dat one tire me pass,and to think we went there to Make them richer?.#no be their fault sha#
DeleteOk now,so back to u poster,first u should have known or even seen the airs around dis guy?well as its too late to cry,just leave the guy alone,he was never ready to marry and he never respected u!just do all you can to get ur child custody.
Eyaaa dis is rly touching o! Well my advice is dt no matter wat has hapnd in ur past, u jst hav to start a new life nd d mistakes has alrdy bin made, damn d fool nd go to an NGO, dey wil deal wit d idiot! Tk ur son wit u nd leave all u hav nd run now dt he hasn't killed u yet! Leave him nd dnt be scared, nd most importantly, convert bk to christianity, go bk to ur 1st love Jesus nd ask for forgiveness nd help, den giv ur life to christ, pray fervently, God wil bring u out of dis mess nd set u free! Jst start packing ur thins now nd go look for help NOW! Cos these foreigners can be very dangerous wen dey wanna be, dnt giv him d chance cos if he could, he would kill u nd dump ur bdy whr not evn naija police hav d intelligence to find ur body o! So berra start running wit ya pikin now! Ok so dts my 2 cents. Maya
ReplyDeleteEyaaa dis is rly touching o! Well my advice is dt no matter wat has hapnd in ur past, u jst hav to start a new life nd d mistakes has alrdy bin made, damn d fool nd go to an NGO, dey wil deal wit d idiot! Tk ur son wit u nd leave all u hav nd run now dt he hasn't killed u yet! Leave him nd dnt be scared, nd most importantly, convert bk to christianity, go bk to ur 1st love Jesus nd ask for forgiveness nd help, den giv ur life to christ, pray fervently, God wil bring u out of dis mess nd set u free! Jst start packing ur thins now nd go look for help NOW! Cos these foreigners can be very dangerous wen dey wanna be, dnt giv him d chance cos if he could, he would kill u nd dump ur bdy whr not evn naija police hav d intelligence to find ur body o! So berra start running wit ya pikin now! Ok so dts my 2 cents. Maya
ReplyDeleteNGO is d best organization to help in ds situation, they can't be threatened, they can't be manipulated nd u hv to go back to the Lord u have forsaken for directions and I pray that things will work out for ur good......don't allow a foreigner make u a slave in ur country and make sure u have ur abuse evidence against him.....get a surveillance camera in ur house in order to record his abusive words so that he won't be granted custody of the boy.....I wish u all d best
ReplyDeleteGo and learn Taekwando
ReplyDeleteGBAM!
Delete1,000,000 likes for ur comment. No mind de yeye geh. Na all these ashawo girls wey dey follow "whities". For her mind, Arab na "whitie" and u know most of those girls arenot clean. They can do jazz for Africa. Who knows? Maybe de bros eye don clear. I don't know why but I don't feel sorry for her even one bit ! How can u already be in your 2nd marriage in ur mid twenties? Common ! What's the hurry? As u lay your bed na so u go lie on am. For those that have advice to give, make una dey advice dey go biko.
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DeleteWell, dear poster, your story has plenty holes. First you are in your mid 20s you said abi? Already you have left one marriage at that tender age abi? I feel this is karma at work. You left your first husband because of a wicked arab man and because of all the gift and money you were getting from him, you got pregnant just 4 months after meeting him thinking you have met a perfect man, i don't feel or pity for you because i hate fair weather friends, most of you this little Lagos girls are bloody opportunists! Money for hand back for ground! What made you think an arab guy is better than a Nigerian? Why should he respect your family when you sold your self cheap to him? You are here telling blog visitors cock and bull story so we can advice you? Take your lawyers advice and i hope this will teach other whores like you a lesson!
ReplyDeleteNawa oo e no reach to call her whore na.. only a whore knows a whore period!
DeleteBest comment! I dnt believe her, she married him for the money and thought if she has a child for him she would benefit more. Dumbo
DeleteU v said it all Moi but the deed has already been done. I advice u follow ur lawyers advice, seek God's face genuinly at same time cos if not d arab dude won't let u be even if u escape through the NGO, believe it or not JAzz is real. I pray u succed.
DeleteU v said it all Moi but the deed has already been done. I advice u follow ur lawyers advice, seek God's face genuinly at same time cos if not d arab dude won't let u be even if u escape through the NGO, believe it or not JAzz is real. I pray u succed.
DeleteThe thought of Nigerians behaving like second class Citizens in their own country is very disturbing.
ReplyDeleteWhy on earth would a fake Arabian man treat you like trash in your own country.
Girl... The sooner you wise up and wake up from your dumb slumber, the better for you.
And besides what is a girl in her mid twenties doing in a second marriage.
My advise next time you decide to sleep with a man after your fake Arabian man babe use a condom.... Aside from unwanted pregnancies, HIV is real......
Sorry poster
ReplyDeleteYo depressed so lemme just say nothing but feel sory 4u
E go better!
Ammie d head-mistress,d blow-job supremo,ao u dey?...me too I be mr j'obo j'obo o,make we do 69?
DeleteMy dear Odikwa serious, First do not run to any NGO, he will use means to fetch you out. Run to a good church wey get mouth. Stay there, repent and give your life to Christ. Then the matter can be taken from there. If you go anywhere outside Christ truly your own don finish. So that is my candid advise and sorry for the mistake, shits happen some times.
ReplyDeleteFirst take a day out and spend time with God. Ask Him to forgive you for converting to Islam. Did you know that Ishmael the father of Arabs means Violence? Check ur Bible. They can't help it. It's their destiny to be violent. Run back to God, give your life to Christ and ask Him to turn around your mistakes. God is a God of new beginnings. He will direct you what steps to take. All the best.
ReplyDeleteLMAO. Ignoramus.ishamael kor ismail ni.
Delete1:06, if I see ur leg for Dubai, na that same violence go kill you. Mcheeeew!!!
DeleteMy dear suicide won't solve ur problm,u really need to pray wtout season.
ReplyDeletePeople of Earth, READ!!! Ignorance is very unattractive. What is "pray wtout season "? Even seizing. And pls this is not a prayer matter. Let's be pragmatic for once.
DeleteDry season...... chai
DeletePray without 'ceasing'...
DeleteGrazeilla I c how much u READ!!! Its not seizing its ceasing!
DeleteGrazeilla I c how much u READ!!! Its not seizing its ceasing!
DeleteA lott of people with shallow background even in christianity here. It is pray without ceasing not "season or seizing".Bitchplis the thoroughbred baptist boy,please take it easy with philandering and don't jeopardize your destiny.For you to harbour the thoughts of sleeping with a heavily compromised girl like pinkshell is disturbing!
DeletePlz run to d ngo n report him, dnt u v family members u can run to? Marriage is to bring u joy not to hurt u, ur mid 20s n already in ur second marriage without graduating na so u like man reach? Well d did has been don n u v a cute oyibo boy to put a smile on ur face. Run for ur life plz
ReplyDeleteWao this is sad, shocking and unheard of that some foreigner treats u this way in your own country. I think you were just too emotionally immature to get married in the first place but hey we all make mistakes. My advice for you is that you need to be brave, summon up courage and get the hell out of that house with your kid. Na naija u de, if u murder the bastard nobody go know(not that am telling you to commit murder as its against the 10 commandments. Just a thought thats all lol).. My dear I wont insult you cos everyone has one or two faults here n there. Leave with your child, go to your parents house. He has no right to treat you this way. It is well with your soul. Love Sam :-)
ReplyDeletePoster I think I know u.I hAve met u.I was in Abuja,visiting ma sis-in-law and ma friend came to visit me and brought " one big babe" along.poster she told me all about u much later.Poster what u didn't tell us is dis,u are d last in ur family n u guys r well off financially.like u said ur second marriage packed up,I heard u left on ur own.buh poster in all dis story,u forgot to tell us how u hAve always chased after dis Arab.a Lebanese to be exact.and how u swore to everyone u wil get him and make him marry u.how u wanted a half caste son.poster,u neglected to tell us u hAve always known d man was a MARRIED Man! U see how u conveniently tried to co Dr up that his family didn't come for d wedding.what r u hiding.dey didn't come because u knew they didn't know u and ur lover were getting married for d simple fact that he was a MARRIED man wIt KIDS! AND u forgot to mention how u used to enjoy his money and freebies.buh most importantly,u forgot to tell us dat dis man became abusive wen u moved in wit him and NOT AFTER U married him.even dat day I saw u,I learnt he beat u up d previous day.and I remember asking ma friend" so why is she stil wIt dis man" and I remember Ebele answering me"ladies n money.Abuja ladies n the thrill of money" many months later,I heard u guys got married n many months after dat,heard u had a son.don't twist d story to suit u.I sympathise wIt u,buh u saw all dese coming.buh den d allure of Arab money no gree u see common sense.what's done is done,dust urself and find a way to escape before he eventually kills u! And of course,I know u hAve learnt ur lesson.and to all u wanna be babes,I wanna arrive,I don arrive,I must arrive,read in between d lines and change ur ways! Leave all married men ALONE! Forget money n d fast life,doesn't make one happy...I can tell u that much.what makes u happy is a man GOd gives u,who comes home to u every night! Ogwuchaa Ka ora mu na onu!!!He who has ears,let him or her hear!
ReplyDeleteSee download....na here I go sit down ooh... *grabs seat*
DeleteOops.if u r rili refering to d same lady then she nids no advice than to bear her burden.ladies and married men all in d name of money.hw can u b married twice and still b in ur mid 20.what r u looking for? Riches?.its d half caste son I pity here nd if u rili dont want him taken away frm u then do as ur lawyer frnd asks u to nd also repent sincerely nd kip praying esp at midnights.any language u understands use it to beg God to deliver you nd dnt evn make d mistake of tryin to take ur own life cos dats double punishment in hellfire for u.pray pray pray for d sake of ur child. So angry abt ds oda side of d story u didnt tell us , dat is if u r d one she s refering to.
DeleteNne! In'ekwu ezi okwu? If d person dat has dis history, is d same as dis poster, then poster know it dat your help is still far. Unless you repent. Can't deal abeg!
DeleteOlorun Oba o!!!!
Delete*jaw drops*
Good, Good very Good! @ poster, Oya defend ursef or forever remain silent., Anyways lemme ask u dis, How did u get married to an uncircumcise man? Why did u push through wit such marriage without ur inlaw's blessing? Nd I put it to u dat if u wanna to leave u wld have left. Wat kind of a mother listens to a threat of taking her child away from her? U dey craze ni? Poster abeg talk better tin. I'm a single mum o nd it takes d luv for ur kids to leave an abusive marriage so if u luv ur kid madam poster flee nd forget d bullshit of jazz.
DeleteI believe this more than the posters story.....I'm usually very sympathetic buy I didn't even feel sympathy for this poster.
DeleteWell, make God help am sha
Ghen ghen. Trust SDKers to download. Una no dey carry last. Knew theres more to it. So na Lebanese sef? Me was thinking it's the correct Arabs sef. Lebanese who prolly runs a supermarket in naija. Wonder what u pple see in them, sorry to say but they appear dirty to me. Talk about the real Arabs of the ahiek with oil money, ehn ehn I for hear. Not the tomatoes selling ones biko
DeleteAnd poster u were so foolish n extravaqant! U cudnt even save 4 rainy days? Abeq carry ur cross o jare!
DeleteSwitchinq ur reliqion 4 marriaqe' sake was already a pointer dat u were afta money!
DeleteAnd poster u were so foolish n extravaqant! U cudnt even save 4 rainy days? Abeq carry ur cross o jare!
DeleteGenerals wife fear God, this particular story happened in Lagos and the poster is my friend and she has never been to abuja.can you swear its the same story.hmmm awon aye
DeleteThis story sounds fraudulent. Some budding story teller. My dear no Arab can detain you in a country like Nigeria where you can get lost easily with your kids. Either you are lying or just looking for attention. When you are serious about leaving you will know what to do.
ReplyDeleteEkwensu e romansia mammy water! #inchinwetaluagusvoice. Madam poster mmee, ntoi! 1st.Say the truth let's know how to help you! 2. Out of long throat you went to marry yellow arab man with pointed nose. 3.Now e don over you! 4. your brother na better omila!5. Which certificate did he cease? Your WAEC certificate? Cos I don't know which one you need to graduate. 6.It is just the small boy that you brought into this world that I pity! Akwula ogoja!
ReplyDeleteNaija girls and awoof,can u all see wat our society has made women of?I must say u are such an unfortunate girl,firstly u married a man u fed all ur life,instead of u to go bak to school after ur first divorce,u stil folowed anoda smelling Arab,sory my dear not dat I'm wiked,i jst av to b candid wit u,is it dat u are cursed or u dnt want a future fr urslf?d only thing u cn think of is mariag evn @ ur age,wil mariag solve any of ur problems? NO.i won't waste my time advising u if u like jump to d 3rd mariag with BOKO HARAM leader,na ur palava be dat.oloshi abokoku.
ReplyDeleteHehehehe ! No be small Boko haram leader my dear. Nanzenze !! LOL
DeleteIt is nor just in naija oh, its everywhere. Even Janet Jackson is divorcing her Arab prince.
ReplyDeleteWhen you marry a guy for money, he knows and will treat you accordingly when you enter his house.
Its in the Arab culture to leave the wives at home for raising children and go out there and flex with the girlfriends.
it is rather unfortunate that people will request for support,advice and help to get out of a an already terrible mistake made and all most blog visitors on this blog will do is rain abuse and curses at THE PERSON ASKING YOU FOR HELP. Yet Some of you doing this are choir members,ushers, prayer members or at list Christians for identification of your belief. There is no one above mistake here. No one! she is the one asking help today, who knows it may be one of such ill advisers tomorrow how would you feel. Go through that story again and you will know that cursing or abusing her means you(abusers) are emotionally dead with no empathy. Whether the story is true or not who made you the judge. YOU PEOPLE WILL SOON MAKE THIS BLOG A DEN OF WICKEDNESS. Poster dear, no one is above mistake even me. My advise is you should first get enough money (no too much) get your baby and leave the house to a human right NGO preferably feminist NGO. lnform your lawyer to get a very strong and popular one for you. They will help you resettle, then reconcile with your elder brother and family, give your life to christ and go into intense prayers because you have a battle ahead and be strong, He has given you victory.
ReplyDeleteLol@Pink Shell's comment.Na real agbelebu..This story sounds unreal kinda..
ReplyDeleteU re in ur mid twenties with 2 marriages already?i thk u shld have taken a break after ur first marriage didnt work.Why rush into a second one?I'm afraid u re learning ur lesson the hard way.Na d tin wey ur eye dey find e dey see.
Only God can bring u out of the shit u put urself in,if at all ur story is real.Be sober n genuinely repent of ur wrong ways so that God can intervene.
I meant i don't pity her.
ReplyDeleteAm a lawyer and can help you, that's if you are in lagos and Sincere. Kokokingsley@yahoo.com. Let's discuss and know what the problem Actually is.
ReplyDelete@poster,since u can't afford d legal fees,barrister koko will shine congo o
DeleteProblem is women act like they need men 24 7 to breath and validate their existence, one would think after the first failed attempt at marriage, you would take things easy and sort yourself out, finish school, get a job and then take your time in choosing the right person,what do you and the Arab man share in common?
ReplyDeleteWell you could do the NGO thing or relocate to another state,also go to the police station to lodge a complaint, have them invite him over. how will you even take care of the poor boy?.can you fend for him? I tire for some women sometimes, anything goes as long as he is a man and has dick.God will see you through.
God is a jealous GOD. That's the problem you are having,
ReplyDeleteBest solution ever.......
DeleteLmao Mrs D....sacarsm at its best?
DeleteLady, the year is 2014, and the man is a foreigner.
ReplyDeleteYou are the Nigerian.
You are the woman
You are the power
You are the solution to you problems.
Here are some things I would have suggested, but I am non violent.
I would have told you to poison slowly with ......him but I can't.
I could tell you to hire people to beat him up and warn him sternly, but I can't.
I could tell you to buy a gun and shoot his right leg but I am not violent.
I could tell you to handcuff him to the bed while he sleeps, torture him and then video him reading a bible and kissing a rosary.
Then sending the video to a trusted friend, and to be released on the Internet when he misbehaves again. But I am against torture.
I could tell you to contact a babalawo and turn him to zombie but I am not spiritual.
I could tell you to hire people to kidnap his ass, and let him contact you with all his account numbers, sign all his properties over and promise to return to his country ;but I am against kidnapping.
Or learn Taewando like someone said. Beat him and break his bones. I will like that.
Lady, learn to stand up and know that nobody has the right to put you down EXCEPT you let them.
He took your power, get your power back.
Stay safe.
Poster,before someone can advice you on this you have to be honest,the mistake has already been done though I don't believe somethings you said.my dear my advice to you right now iis RUN AWAY go to your village let's see the stupid jazz that will carry him there and while you are go for deliverance and PRAY because Jazz doesn't leave the body like that o,then pls go back to SCHOOL pls look for someone that can help you take care of your boy,while you are in SCHOOL learn a trade too.which certificate do you mean? Forget those ones for now just go back to school and put it in prayer.pls don't contact the smelling arab man don't allow anyone know anything about you. All the best....ladies arab men are too violent,and they are cheap too with their hairy body.
ReplyDelete@SDK...are you making posts like dis up. why do dey all end me stuffs 'please don't cuss me out'?
ReplyDeleteMscheeeeeew. The plenty senselessness in this story baffles me. Dem take man do you?? So tey u convert to another religion because of man? If it was your own conviction that made u change religion I wouldn't hav minded. But because of man???well,putting aside my disgust and annoyance at the plenty stupidity and foolishness exhibited in this story, Girl first of all you hav to ask God for mercy and freedom from this bondage this man has kept you in,and ask God to shield you from any jazz attacks the man might send your way again.. Secondly follow the advice of your lawyer. Be courageous and fight for ur freedom. You hav shown yourself a weakling that's y this man can bully you like this. Stand up and fight for yourself. A foreigner cannot come and be bullying u in ur own country in d name of marriage. And finally girl,get a brain. Borrow it,steal it,buy it,watever you do,get urself a brain! Hian!
ReplyDeleteDear poster - both your marriages were as a result of your getting irresponsibly pregnant. And so you were using style to force people to marry you.....how the hell can you sleep with an arabic foreigner without a condom? You can't be any kind of graduate. After your first marriage failed? You divorced your first husband because he had no money - you should have known this when you paid for half of the wedding - and then you traded downwards to a bloody Kora man! I shake my head tire for you. You married a foreigner without meeting his family or visiting his country....this your story is pure bullshit. Don't you have family members? What kind of example are you setting for your diff diff colored children? I'm done! Lie on the bed you laid!
ReplyDeleteEver heard of the amazing thing called birth control? You purposely wanted to trap that man and it's unfortunate that it dint quite work out the way you wanted. Anyhooo, that's past. just pack your bags and your pickin and run. Don't wait for him to shoot you.
ReplyDeleteSeek d face of God,,make peace wit God then identify ur self wit a church before going to Ngo,make sure u save little money,,plan ur way out of his life & house,,always do tins secretly
ReplyDeleteAt anom 12:53 Am sure the poster did her ND and thereafter went for her one year IT. Maybe she meant Her husband seized her ND certificate which she needs to apply for HND
ReplyDeleteMy dear...hmmmmmmm
ReplyDeletetry teach him a lesson. Get a good area boy that you know people fear and smooth,get ur hubby kidnapped and well tourtured that a part of his body destroyed for ever like one eyes off or slice his balls! Get another sim card for all these operations oo, pay the boys well, get as much money as you can and clear to mayb ghana...
Afterwards,ask God for forgiveness, start praying and fasting for mercy
Am a lawyer and can help you, that's if you are in lagos and Sincere. Kokokingsley@yahoo.com. Let's discuss and know what the problem Actually is.
ReplyDeleteYou need to reconcile with God. Seek first God's kingdom and righteousness and EVERYTHING else will be added unto you including your freedom peace Joy and wealth.
ReplyDeleteRegarding the apparent discrepancy in the story about her certificate being seized and yet she's not a graduate, it could be that she's in a polytechnic. I may be wrong, but don't they get a certificate after OND, go off for IT, and then return to complete the HND?
ReplyDeleteCould explain it.
Any poly graduates about? Pls confirm.
Becos dem know say dem don goof and SDKers' bad mouth no de here....hehehe
ReplyDeleteDis has gotta be d worst story of the century. Ure lucky ure still alive. U got married the first time without opening ur eyes well n u left the marriage. Didn't that teach u a lesson? One year after, u re finding urself in a fix worse dat d last one. I find u greedy. U just followed that man prolly because he is white. So na after d marriage u nw discovered he is selfish,wicked n all dat? Ozouh!!! Even if u wan marry white man,na arab???wit their stiff laws regarding women? Boko haram nevr do for dis country na al-qaeda u wan cum bring. Tueh for u.
ReplyDeleteI'll give you a pass for your lack of wisdom because you were young and dumb.
ReplyDelete1. Never support a man on your inheritance. Your inheritance is for your upliftment. Your father's labour should not go to enrich any man, only you and the fruits of your womb.
2. Nobody ever truly knows a person, and when you commit to marriage you are committing your mind, body and spirit to a man. At least take the time to know the person as best as you can. In addition, you also need to know what family you are marrying into. How could you marry and not even meet his parents? You need to see how he acts not only when things are good, but in challenging situations to know if he is for you. You committed too quickly.
3. You obviously jumped out of the frying pan and into the fire. Your brother told you the man was not ready for anything serious, but wanted to use your uterus. Why would you marry a man who only wants you for your reproductive ability?
4. Not all that glitters is gold. You had one bad experience with a Naija man and you gave up. You took a worse man and now is stuck in mud. You should have known that Arab men come from Arab countries where women have little to no rights and can be treated in any which way without any protection.
5. You have a son for this man which will make it hell of difficult to get a a divorce from him. Seek out the services of an NGO that deals with women in crisis or some other organization and see what can be done for you. Also get good legal advise from a confidential, trusted divorce lawyer who is in good standing with the bar.
to set the record straight - it wasn't his Money or showers of gift that made me got married to him. As I was brought up In a well to do home, I had my car n home when I met him. And talking about involving the police innit, I did dat but he bought he's way out. From " case transfer to head quarters , to some stupid Head of police calling us to settling out of station after collecting 500k bribe frm him"..
ReplyDeleteAnd "no" I couldn't graduate, he wont let me go back to school cos of his jealousy. Have just my diploma certificate which he took and hid. My Mom can't help cos shes scared of him , so also my bro. Plz stop the "whore" insults I beg you. Now I have learn my biggest lesson and I know that God can send help in all kinds of ways. Thanks for taking their time to comment, God bless you all.
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Madam poster. Have you never heard of protection? Forever taking in. If you weren't pregnant maybe you would've seen what he was like before marriage. Na wa. 4 months in and your already pregnant. Please teach your children better than that.
ReplyDeleteMove back to your mothers house since you are from a well to do home.
Lol. Posterrrrr. Pack you load and go. I knew you were ridiculous when you said handsome son. Everyone is looking for mixed race kid. Take a page from lupitas book. How can you just forego your religion just like that? If it's true what that previous poster said move back to that your house and remain a mistress. If he truly beat u bcos u moved in maybe you should move back out. You will trade family and companionship for happiness but we all know u didn't marry him for companionship so move out.
ReplyDeleteChoi see gist ooooo!!!!
ReplyDeleteOKIJA WIFE
Dear Poster, I don't need to read your second post before I could understand you. Don't mind those jumping into conclusion about whore, money, half-caste etc. I know before you brought this up online that you must have thought about it, that at least one person will say some thing reasonable. However, it is not always the case with online solution. You probably thought the man will treat you better because he was sent by Allah, and very religious? Heck No... Arab don't do that shit, they don't regard women, most especially outsiders. He still regards you as a pagan even though you denounced your faith to please him. He will never, I repeat, never allow you to walk away with his son, and will not allow you peace into that marriage because to him, he is leaving with a stranger who is a Pegan. He will trail you anywhere you run to with JAZZ for the sake of his son. My advice is this, go and make peace with our lord Jesus Christ whom you divorced as a result of "Confusion of Faith" because you don't know what you "BELIEVE IN" and don't know what you want in your life. Also, you were not well grounded in Christ, if not you would ve stood your ground for CHRIST or NEVER. Having said that, God will mediate, and take control of the situation, but you really need to DEFINE and tell God what you actually want in your life. Go to God in prayer now. Ladies, learn to define what you want from the onset, don't let "LOVE" over ride your sense of judgement. Peace
ReplyDeleteVery sorry about what you are going through now! But The Lord is your muscle! Just get an NGO ASAP! Most of the Arab men in Nigeria are animals in human form! I dated one and jokes apart I'm the very emotional kind! I come to his house weekends while doing a degree in one of the federal university! We got really close! His house keepers loves me like mad! And one weekend I could not go as usual! His house help called me and said " oga bring woman come house" hmmm. As a warri babe I free , acted like it was all normal ! Saw him the other week and he was preaching love again. Asked him for my allowance he said he sent the money to his country, his mum was ill. He just dey use me play because I quiet , I don't give trouble . He started acting differently sha, cut the long story short , one night I opened his closet and took everything that has to do with traveling back to his country. God been so kind he stopped calling me bla bla bla. Behold he called and was begging baby pls you see anything in my wardrobe, I said now you have my number. I collected 300k from him with I beg from his friends before I gave him back the papers! Never ever fall prey to all this loosers and beasts that treat women unfairly ! Since then I don wise more more as warri nor dey carry last. Don't worry dear this too shall pass. But if you decide to try again abeg open your eyes, some of us are the reasons we are being treated like tramp! we are priceless jewels and should be treated as such! I will put you in my prayers okay.... Lots of love
ReplyDeleteOnly 300k? I don't understand, u wnted to punish him and collected only 300k? Then u came to later add that u r priceless? Lwkmd! The ppl on this blog tho. Bitch sitcho cheap mulatto loving low IQ ass down!
DeleteHuh u dey form sharp girl abi? What he did is the same as with naija men who cheat na. So its not exclusive to Arabs in naija. He didn't torment u nah, una two enjoy una sef while it lasted so what the heck? If he arranged for u after u took his document nko? He for just kill or wound u for oversabi o. No one would av known u went this far. Be doing warri dis and dat just be careful. My 2cent.
DeleteThis your story is somehow. You didn't date him, you were just his bed warmer and he was giving you allowance for your duties. Is he your father that he is giving you allowance.
DeleteIs this guys name called Ayoub Hassan?
DeletePoster kpele o, my own two cent is MFM headquarters, RCCG headquarters or Synagogue church. For spiritual protection first, then from then you can retrace your steps back and find out what to do. But for now Jesus is the key needed in this situation, come back to him and he will give you rest. No need to insult her, instead use your words to encourage another person. SDK people some of u use your words to destroy and tear down what is already broken, she knows her mistakes no need to break her down the more. Poster kpele, the Lord is your strength.
ReplyDeleteMy dear please nothing good comes easy .its a battle you must fight and only you can.if he wants to take the child let him have it ,the child will grow.your happiness is more important and am highly disappointed in your mum ,she scared of who n what ? Your story irritates me but I must say ur a fool,ur not tired yet when u r u know wot to do.
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