Toke Makinwa is back with another banger Vlog post,i watched it and added some salt and pepper to her opinion..LMAO!
She watched this video…things single girls say to themselves before reality sets in and she found it funny and decided to reply with this blog post.(click on highlighted text to watch the video again)
Toke says ''Ladies not apologise for having high standards on the kinda guy you want…guys do it too!''
-guys go out with girls because of good dentition,big boobs and and how she catwalks!...oh yes!
-guys want a girl that comes from a certain tribe and is educated.
if you hear the reason men dump their girls and marry others these days you will be shocked...flimsy shallow reason and they dont offer any apologies for their actions,you shouldnt as well.
Toke says do not crucify anyone for having standards because everyone one does!
-men will say they want to marry a virgin after dating and nacking a girl for long.
-they want a girl with pointed boobs after sucking yours dry and turning it to bathroom slippers!.
-they want a girl with pointed boobs after sucking yours dry and turning it to bathroom slippers!.
-they will say they didn't marry her because her parents are poor and her mother ties wrapper yet,their mums pound yam and okra to make a living.
-some are so selfish and unrealistic and she says to the guy who made the video to think twice before making such video about shit women say when they are single!...well she does agree that half of what he says is right though.
Men think shallow and the above are some of the reasons!
didn't he marry her because he thinks she has high standards?
didn't he marry her because she has a good job?
didn't he marry her because she looks like Naomi campbell yet he looks like shrek 2?
didnt he marry her because she has landed properties or that her dad has the best house in town?Mscheeeew....shallow thinking!
She says ''Ladies watch that video,laugh about it and don't let it get to you abeg,life is too sweet to let such worries get to you''.
What do you say to what Toke says?
What do you say to what Toke says?
Gbamest!!! I have ds negative feeln towards guys afta I was jilted close to a month nw, ds was a guy I gave my all to, killin myslf to b d best for him, wt did I get in return??? I got dumped nd hs getin married in few months. Life just isn't fair. Nd its nt lyk I had super high standrds oo. It is well, nobody can understand d pain am goin tru. It is well :)
ReplyDeleteMadam....tell us why he dumped u.
DeleteI understand d pains u are going through dear, I dated one idiot I got introduced to by a friend cos I felt my standard are too high and unrealistic. Physically he is not what I want, I only agree to 'manage' him because he is intelligent and hard working. I also believed that his local look will not make him to be unfaithful. Guess what, the fool has a serious relationship with another ugly local mofo and only dated me because they issues!!! Can u believe it? The dirty teeth idiot was now telling me story that pinch after their family resolved the problems. I almost hated the friend that introduced me to him. Imagine lowering your standard only for the idiot to be unavailable? *pukes* that's the painful part. The lies, the half truths. This is a mofo that I outrightly told I detest unfaithfulness o. Each time I remember how I had to psyche myself up b4 I could kiss his brownish teeth, his thin unattractive body, and his dirty house. *pukes* anyway. I av made up my mind to forget about him (I have sef) but for lying to me ehn, I will curse him with my nakedness every day for seven days at midnight starting from April 1. Lesson learnt, never lower ur standard just to be on a level with any man!!! He may end up leaving u for his peer. *going anonymous on this one*
DeleteWhat u need is time...stay away and alone .heal,discover ur self.there are many good and loving men out there...in ur next relationship..try to be urself..dnt go that extra mile unless he does same for u.love is a two way tin..never settle for one sided relationship or love...wish u all the best...and remember, the next guy will be 100% better than ur ex.
DeleteForgive Him n dnt punish oda guys cos u were jilted; u kud hurt ursef in d process of trying t get ur own pound of flesh
DeleteThen take ur time
Be ursef
Don't rush into anoda r/ship soon ok.
Ur prince charming will locate u wen u least expect...
#udeserveabetterperson
Eeyyaaa, take heart inugo. Your perfect match will locate you soon,Amen.
DeleteMeanwhile relax and enjoy yourself. Do things that makes you happy, go shopping, spoil yourself silly inshort. Life is too short to cry over spilt milk.
#hugs
Not just u dear. I'm also going thru pain atm. My boyfriend has suddenly stopped piking up my calls. I'm tired. I've cried day n nite.
DeleteBe strong dear,life sometimes is like that,you had a lucky escape,G0D will suprise you
DeleteStella drop my comment on this lady don't act feminist as usual
DeleteAnonymous 1.33 Since you were dumped have u ask urself reasons why u were dumped and correct urself? Most of u ladies come here to complain about men dumping u people but some of u are worst than the men who dump u. Even from comments one read here daily no man will be serious with most of u. Go back and start changing those things the guy has always complained about u before u start crying wolf the next guy will dump u again if u dont change for u. Work on yourself,men always know what they want in a woman after just 2months. U can take my advice many will still rant under my comment to call me out but the truth is bitter is not always about men but some of our ladies are not it.
DeleteWho told you life isn't fair? Life is very fair in the sense that there are two sides to everything, good and bad, positive and negative, and we have choice to make in life, what ever happens to us as humans is function of our choice, how can you give your all to a guy you are not married to? most of us are just too gullible, lack good judgement and make lots of mistake in relationship all the name of love, and when our hearts get broken we feel life is not fair and feel all guys or girls are the same, we feel we know Better, ignore God's principles and command, and when we suffer consequences, we complain, do not ignore God's way "proverbs 3:5-7"
DeleteSorry about your heartbreak, but one thing is that life is fair because we are the ones that make mistake most time, and suffer consequences all in the name of love, we give our all to someone we are not married to, especially sex! and even with this mistakes, consequences and in each tear, there is lessons to be learnt, makes you wiser, make you stronger than you know, brings you closer to your dream, no mistake, no heartbreak can take away God's love for you, or take away what you are meant to be in life,
So then how is life not fair when each tear, that were caused by us, makes us wiser and stronger and brings us closer to our dreams? Let's stop complaining because of little storm
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For once, I agree with toke. Men are too unrealistic this days. Imagine someone breaking up with you just cause you're earning 50k... nonsense! They should go and die #in oshiomole's voice#
ReplyDeleteBe strong
ReplyDeleteVery sorry my systa.Same men who expect much from women don't even have a little to give back in return.Move on and d very correct man will value u more than life itself and d ex is all the loser for it.
ReplyDeleteZillion likes!!! ... I agree with the dentition,education and trendy stuff..my bf was like I don't av yansh and he will remove that my extra teeth that grows behind the normal set..mtchew..they like prospects die and som no try grad with 2.1 sef...soo agree wit you o..you are so on point!
ReplyDeleteOn this matter,#collects jersey for TeamToke# Sometimes,this baby hits the nail on the head. Her sentiments,seconded! Women deserve to have standards! However,Ladies must fit the standards they set for themselves.imagine a lazy,colourless,dirty,dumb female,desiring an avant garde male for husband...Examine your life.Make a list of your strength and weaknesses. Which side won? Alright,get up. look at yourself in the mirror...look intently,turn around and look at every corner of your 'you'...If you were a man,would you settle for you? There you are! Get cracking!
ReplyDeleteSince you were dumped have u ask urself reasons why u were dumped and correct urself? Most of u ladies come here to complain about men dumping u people but some of u are worst than the men who dump u. Even from comments one read here daily no man will be serious with most of u. Go back and start changing those things the guy has always complained about u before u start crying wolf the next guy will dump u again if u dont change for u. Work on yourself,men always know what they want in a woman after just 2months. U can take my advice many will still rant under my comment to call me out but the truth is bitter is not always about men but some of our ladies are not it.
ReplyDeleteWow I give it to her on this one,funny and articulate,let he who is without sin cast d stone like she said let's have standards but be realistic.
ReplyDeleteYes oh toke baby,dia 's nting wrong with setting ur standards if a man does'nt fit in to it he shud get d f**k out,so long as it is realistic.men are d most choosy ones after dey b talking shit abt women.
ReplyDeleteDnt mind them
DeleteI quite agree wit Toke on dis one oh. Nor be guy dump simply bcos I ve neva travelled outside d country bfore. Even though he too has neva travelled but he told pple his reason for dumping was bcos he got a visa to visit a girl in uk he met on facebook and dat he is going to marry her. Afterall I ve neva left d country so I m not exposed. Dat wen we met he tot I was a complete Aje not knowing dat I was jst trying to try. To cut long story short he married n thk God I m married now too.
ReplyDeleteAwwwwww i cried reading this, where is love dis days?? Dis men jst use us. Thank God u found ur own now...
DeleteDon't mind some idiotic men. Bloody gold digers. I Thank God you re married now.
DeleteReality is men set higher standards than women, the kind of qualities they want in their wives, their mama no get am. Toke, you are so on point, infact they are the unrealistic ones. Will I have married an illiterate? No, we share nothing in common so yes in life you must set standards for yourself as long as they are reasonable.Stelllaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa how you dey?
ReplyDelete4 once I agree wth her. It's ok to have high standards
ReplyDeleteAbeg,have as many unrealistic standards as you can pile on top of your head jor. There is nothing worse than knowing every day that you settled for less. Cringing every time you kiss your settlement. Don't marry china o!
ReplyDeleteAnd if somebody leaves you because you don't meet their criteria dust yourself off and try again. Maybe this time find out what you are supposed to be measuring up to in that person's mind so you know if you are compatible or not without having to go through the circus of dating a clown.
I know how to handle those men dat think u are not upto someone they can marry...once I notice it I dump them first and guess what? They will come back and start begging u to marry them...
ReplyDeleteMy dear we re on thesame boat. I met one 1/2 leg mofo who claim he works in a bank. I believe he is lying cos he came to my area and was like hmm so you stay here. And am like oh really? With all the yarning of going to germany for a training bla bla bla. The boy doesn't look it at all. I told him in my life, nobody has ever dumbed me, I watch u fm afar, and I notice any sign, I dump your silly ass sharp sharp! No dulling. He guy was just staring at me... Most times, when you bring down your standard to theirs, it result to 'see finish'.
DeleteMen and women are guilty of setting their standards too damn high! Women want a guy with six packs, good looking, wealthy, God fearing, faithful amongst others forgetting that their own fathers have pot bellies, are ugly, poor, idol worshippers, womaniser, etc. They'll even want a guy who will carry them abroad forgetting they've not even been to Cotonou or even entered local flights within Naija. Abeg, stop asking for things your fathers could not or cannot afford to give u! Ur mother managed him like that. U too manage the man like that. Then men sef... they want a woman who is sexy like Beyonce, comes from a very wealthy background, very educated, aje butter, etc forgetting their mothers are like lepacious Bose, come from wretched homes, uneducated, kpako... accept the ladies the way ur fathers accepted ur mothers
ReplyDeleteI want som1: intelligent,with good sense of humour,faithful,xtian,God fearing,prayerful,beautiful(flat tummy n long legs),a lady on d street but a freak in d sheets,...NOT som1: that has bleached,has irritating stretchmarks,has incision marks(gbere), big tummy,dresses like an olosho,from a broken home...I don't think I'm asking for too much(am not compromising on any of these)...being a manunited fan/knowing d offside rule is an added advantage *smiles* if u r out there,u don't need to worry or fast n pray anymore,ur prayers are answered..I'm right here
DeleteGbam! Anon 3.56pm.
DeleteYes Oh!... Thanks Toke!!
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ReplyDeleteTrue talk jare, as 4 me I ve set a standard 4 myself and I can't go below it, men think they are too wise but girls are smarter these days.
Gbam!
DeleteBest comment anony 3:34
ReplyDeleteYR
OMG! Toke nailed this one. Cracked me up all through. Funny but very true. Nice one girl.
ReplyDeletei agree with toke 101%. guys will b looking 4 a wife material of 100yards but the husband material in them is not enough to sow hair tie.
ReplyDeletefor the first time I agree with her! 100% she nailed it!
ReplyDeletelol....I know of a guy dat said he left a girl cos she was black and not pretty...as he wanted.truth is guys have more unrealistic standards dan ladies. another guy I know dates girls dat have "ladders". mtschewww.abeg I don't apologise for d standards I set.I don't want short.I don't want ugly.I don't want razz.I can compromise flat nose.but definitely not short hair.#ThingsIDoForMyUnbornKids.I want dem cute as I imagine.
ReplyDeleteWhat is the difference btw ur standards nd a guy's own ladies we still hv long way to go.what if he has all your standard nd beat the shit out of you.
DeleteLoool #spot on
DeleteToke I love u to d moon n bck,ma luv 4 u increased a million folds. EVE E UME
ReplyDeleteI remember telling my Ex we couldn't get married because after 6 years together and 2 years off, he still didn't change one bit from the cheat he was. As fate would have it, I decided to give my italian friend of 8 months a chance. Yes! He was richer, got a house, good salary and all that...and yes I opted for the better man. *I'm proud about that move*. If I have to be with someone who will cheat on me, that is if he does, then let me be with someone better, richer and nicer. I walked out on my Ex and 3months later someone was 5months pregnant for him...Omg! I was with this guy thinking of "to marry him or not to marry him" and he was already screwing his colleague at the office! Well, they are married now and I wish them the best. But me, I'm engaged to my Italian and he's done all there is to do for me. Men are selfish, I would never for anything lower my standards or 'manage' a guy because I need to get married. Even if I didn't have anyone in my life, I wouldn't have felt sad for one moment!
ReplyDeleteToke is right. Guys do it a lot this days.
ReplyDeleteFor girls that want to set high standard "I want a clean shaved guy" eh? Have you shaved ur own armpit or down below? Your high standard got to be as equal as what and who you are.
ReplyDeleteIf most of you ladies listen to dis talkative girl called Toke,u will stay ur father"s house till u get menupause.No be so she dey condemn Linda last yr?Abeg,a humble lady get the best man.
ReplyDeleteLinda was the one who bashed her. Linda was the one always picking on her. Fast forword to this day,,Toke is happily married and Linda??. So that is it, "Life is not how far but how well....
DeleteHaba Princess..No be like that.Linda too go marry by God's grace..pls don't say that again abt anyone no matter who's at fault..blogging is abt keepin the traffic up whether bash or no bash.
DeleteAnon 1:33-Take heart. The man was not for you. Try move on ok. For the person saying some of us need to assess why we were dumped...you are right in a way. When you get dumped, look at what the reasons were, if the guy had the guts to even tell you. If they are not stupid like, you have not traveled abroad etc then as dem talk for camp, take dressing! If not hold your head up high and know that you just rid yourself of nonsense.
ReplyDeleteAs for guys, I try not to do this but I ventured on to Nairaland and I see the beauty that is posted there and after a while I said none of my siblings will marry a naija man. Tufiakwa, the level of stupidity is high and if this is the general thought process then I see why more of our women are opting to live life happily. Those guys have high expectations and half of them can not even spell or string two sentences together. The rest have no sense of direction but will be quick to call a woman a hoe. I shudder to think these are the "men" we have walking our streets. Our girls are not perfect o but omo, the pickings are slim with these men.
We women need to have standards joor and also don't fall for every Tom Dick and Harry even when on the surface he seems to met the said standards.
ReplyDeletePray and tap into your instincts, you will be shocked, there is not enough space for the long gist of friends trying to hook me up, and I instinctively felt something was off, and friends will be like you are not trying, me I stood my ground, turned out one was married, the other had issues Yaba left cannot cure.
But on the surface they met all the standards, so babes be careful oh! No let anybody use "age is no longer on ur side" confuse you. Paulette
U shldv gone for d yaba left guy cos e be like say na lunatics u dey attract.check urself
Deletetoke i have never been a fan but on this one you have won me as a fan you are so on point: once heard from a guy he could not marry a girl because she does not wear designer clothes is that not so dumb? I just thought then he couldnt he afford to get her one; much love toke
ReplyDeleteStandard are good but as an individual you have to know yourself,I hv a friend who will never date a short guy no matter how good he ws,she will say she will cheat on him. Well my standard are pretty funny cos the physical look doesn't really matter in my standard,I'm more concern on how he treat me and the people around him,little things,respect,humility and all dt maybe that why I hv never been with a 'woman hitter'(atleast not to me).cos just a shout you meant not see me again.in all ill say some standard are unrealiistic and lame,because they are lame it makes us forget the most important standards we are suppose to consider in a man.
ReplyDeleteu talk 2 much 4 a man. R u sure u r not a female using a man's DP? U av 2 much on ur hands to be leaving long comments.
ReplyDeleteToke is becoming a comedian.Nice one girl...
ReplyDeleteI have a problem , there's this girl I'm dating, we have been together for over 3 years now , we did see each other about some months back cos I'm a graduate and she's still in school, few weeks ago I went to visit her in school only to discover that she's pregnant for a guy she did meet some months back , the guy insist on her keeping the pregnancy but not insisting on making it official by paying the bride price , the peak is I still love her and she herself is confused . Please I need advice either for me the guy or she the lady please ...thanks ...
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