She lost one child and resentment for the others grew....This is really sad!
Stella,
Am ok or I need prayers?
My problem started last year. A year of sorrow ,agony and pain.
I once married with a child at d age of 21 , I had a daughter then and got separated from my hubby.I suffered wit my daughter, no job, no money. .all my friends abandoned me including my sisters and uncles but my mom was there for me (thank you mom).
I once married with a child at d age of 21 , I had a daughter then and got separated from my hubby.I suffered wit my daughter, no job, no money. .all my friends abandoned me including my sisters and uncles but my mom was there for me (thank you mom).
After 5 years of separation, I got married again, my 2nd hubby saw my ex-picture and asked me to destroy it, that i dont have anything to do with him again.
My nightmares started last year when I lost my first child .she was not sick. .she slumped and died at the age of 8 .my happiness, my world, love, joy everything ended that day.all I could feel around me since then till now is hatred towards everybody including the children i had for my present hubby.
I suffered with her, no one to helped me but immediately things turn around for me I lost her..I lost her the same month i bought my first car (Jeep).she didn't enter inside the car before passing away.
I mourned her all alone, the day she died I was busy crying while 2nd hubby was busy sleeping in his room. I know he was happy she is gone. . Because I spoilt her silly more than his children, i did it because she lacked fatherly love..my hubby loves his children so much more than my daughter and I love my daughter so much than his children born by me.
Even the real father of my daughter doesn't care rather he keep demanding money from us before d child will be buried but I thank God all went well later. Am lonely since then as if I don't have any child.. i keep thinking about her morning and night especially when i remembered her word to me.. (mummy i love you so much more than my daddy).. (mummy am going to wash your clothes including your pant and even buy motor for you when i grow).I promise to be there for her, my business name was bearing her name. .I loved her so much. .I was the only person who loved her ..
Its almost a year I lost her but is just like yesterday. .my problem is this. ..I couldn't love my d other children since then...am ok or I need deliverance? ''
My dear, sincerely u are not ok. U really need to get over it. Its not going to be easy but u don't av to continue dwelling in the past. Its tym to move on. Pls try and divert d luv to ur other children cos dey need u too.
ReplyDeleteU r not in her shoes so u don't understand...@poster, God will comfort u n heal ur wounds in Jesus name
DeleteU r plain stupid! R u dat harsh? U shudnt hav replied. Didn't u read well? She and her child suffered 2gether! U think it's easy 2 let go? Its like u r comparing ur break up with tony with delicate matters such as this! Bladdy Mofo!
DeleteMadam, it pays 2 pray. Talk 2 God 'bout it. Atimes God takes so he can give much more. U bore those kids like it or not. Profess ur love 4 them each day u wake up. Have a heart 2 heart talk woth your husband about the hurt. Talk 2 ur pastor about it. Let go and let God
Hey Phrinkies, sup with the story with you and Tony. Hope you guys are kool...you have become a star you know.....#tongueout#
DeleteOne love!!!
See this one telling someone to move on, wasn't it because you didn't want to forgive that your childish boyfriend he wanted to commit suicide? If its easy to move on forgive him then.
Delete@poster, I feel your pain. Its hard, I know, but one thing is for sure, your other kids need you too, you have to move on for the sake of your kids. As for your hubby, he probably knows what happened to your daughter since he's not saddened by her death. He told you to tear your exs pics yea? He probably deleted your daughter bcuz he doesn't want any ties to your ex
Allow her to live in peace and let God be the judge of that haba!she's depressed alrdy
DeleteSincerely, u guys misunderstood me. Datz nt what I meant. I guess I should study more of english sentences. I mean no harm. I was just trying to advice her to luv d remaining children too. Am sorry if it meant another thing.
DeleteOh dear. I am so sorry. There's nothing wrong with u. Unlike what usually happens with when a lady bears a child either out of wedlock or with an ex, and to move on in life, some become resentful of the child or children they bore with an ex. Infact some deny they have a child just to be accepted by a new man. But ur case is different, u have genuine love for ur daughter and u didn't transfer ur aggression on her. That is why I say u are very ok. It is those who treat thier child bad because of thier father that I can say are immensely mentally unstable.
DeleteAll I can say is that there is a balm in Gilead...please love your other kids so that they will not grow up to resent u for abandonment. They will fail to reason with u in future, so pls, warm up to them. Godspeed.
Dear poster,so sorry about your loss, try talking to God, u need the holy spirit to comfort you, cast your cares unto the Lord for he cares for u. Try to love your children please they need you too, so they too can buy motor for you and wash ur clothes + pant and love you in return; they'll definitely light up your world if u give them your love.
DeleteBia o @PRICKIES....u don enta armed robber jet for this blog; u beta hide yasef o hehehehehe!
It's so amazing that the same ppl castigating Phrinkies for advising the poster to move on also issued the same advice. Smh, how mean can U guys be? Free Phrinkies bikonu.
DeleteFolks ar always very quick to judge, hian.
Shuuuuu, u peeps castigating phrinkies basically said the same thing she said na, na crime say she date Tony? Stop using it to taunt her biko
DeleteNo. You don't need deliverance and your ok. People grieve differently. Your daughter was very important to you and quiet symbolic in your life and I can understand the absence you feel. This has lead you to putting a barrier up against anyone else. Remember that your other children love you too. your husband loves you too, you just have to let yourself see it. Life goes on. She will always be remembered but your husband and other children need you now.
ReplyDeleteMadam you need to let go. All the tears in this world won't bring her back.
DeleteYou should console yourself with the fact that she is certainly in heaven. She died an angel with a pure heart free from the craziness of this world.
Just take ur mind off it..it has a reason Dear
ReplyDeleteThis little angel paid the prize for your seperation. All adults should be wise before entering into any relationship because if it goes wrong, the consequences can be grave. Like this one. LÕÕK WËLL BËFÕRË YÕÜ LËËP
DeleteIts really sad.
DeleteMay God grant you te fortitude to bear your loss.
You just nEed to see a shrink,I tink ur hubby shld also follow u need to let out all ur hidden pain,u guys need to talknthose children are innocent children do not let the table turn against u,do not let them grow hatred for you!else u would be do sorrowful than u can ever bear,be close to God and go for counceling u need counceling more mydear.
ReplyDeleteYes the hubby should also follow am sure he also is holding up he needs to feel her pain@poster see a shrink asap
DeleteI really ran short of words right now, the pain u feel as a mother I can feel, I understand your plight! But please let go that pain and learn to love again, the kids you have now are also urs u know! Let it go my dear, if u hang in there, u will continue to feel same way.May the Lord guide u.
ReplyDeleteSorry about the loss. It's ok to cry and mourn her loss but you should also try to stop mourning as it would only cause more pain and hurt to yourself and family. Yes, she loved you so much going by the things she said and you know she's in heaven, in peace, joy and boundless love, so take it this way, with her love for you she'll always watch and pray for you. She wishes you to be fine for her so she can be worry free. And her best wishes for you can get to you better if you have a free heart and treat others right. So please be fine for her.
DeleteMay God console, heal and strengthen you.
Go to GOD in prayer... He alone can heal your broken heart. God will ease your pain in Jesus Name
ReplyDeleteAwww, sorry about ur loss poster; I pray God consoles u. I think you need counselling / therapy to deal with this. Ur problem stems from the fact that u and ur husband started your relationship with division on ur minds about who's child is who. Ur husband never really accepted ur girl as his, but just had to tolerate her to have u. U inturn know this which was y u treated her better than ur other kids. Your husband knows this and resents u for it; therefore ur negativity keeps feeding off each other. The whole family needs therapy in short, hope this makes sense.
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Book a session with a psychologist. I also think u married d oda man for a wrong reason or How can u not love ur other children. WEIRD! #sipsMoetnChandon#
ReplyDeleteMy sister,you are not ok ohhh...hian...how can you hate your other children....my dear.you re not normal...you need to embrace God now....
ReplyDeleteHmmmm; You are so OK madam,but it seems you are feeling guilty about the curse of her death,you think its because of the suffering you put her through that made her leave you in this world,your husband would have been the best person to help you with this emotional trauma but let's not dwell on his weakness,if i were you, i would ask myself;will my sweet daughter who loves to so much and wants to buy a car for me do if she sees me in this shape and hate;will she be impressed? will she be happy or be disappointed?All she wanted was to make you happy and see you smile again,please count your blessings and see what God has done; dwell on the positivies,love your other kids,pray for strength, encouragement and grace to love and train your other kids properly;set your affections on your priorities which is God and your family,its hard but you have to,she will be so happy seeing you smile everyday and blessing others with that smile;God bless madam.
ReplyDeleteFolks don't tell her she is ok or that she should get over it! That's the prob with our society. She is suffering from major depression and needs to be in therapy. If not, there is a risk of suicide or harm to herself, other kids, hubby and marriage. She also needs to discuss her marital issues too in counseling as it also appears toxic.
ReplyDeleteUv attached so much sentiments and biased emotions towards her cos of issues dat happened before,its so so wrong poster!to the point u take it out on your OWN biological kids?dats gross!
ReplyDeleteU need therapy or counselling and prayers!u have to change ur mindset first!pls!
Wow r u kidding me?iz d dead kid nt her biological kid?u sooo stupid @ queen bitch
DeleteYou are very ok my dear,you have simply held on to your past(her death) for so long,it's affecting your present! To say your 2nd hubby must have been happy at her death goes a long way to show the indifference and lack of care you must have shown him and the other kids as I don't want to believe you married one who would rejoice at the death of a child,these other kids are YOURS too,so enough with the differentiation! You could see a trained psychologist but you MUST be WILLING yourself to LET GO...It starts with you dear! All the best...would say a prayer for you!
ReplyDeleteFace it madam,she's gone. I knw its painful but u jst av to let her go.
ReplyDeleteLearn to love d kids u av nw.
Move on with ur life pls.
I shed tears reading this.
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine losing my daughter.
I love her so much, more than anything.
Poster I'm so sorry for your loss.
I think you are still grieving, with time you will get over it. It's normal.
But you need to put it behind you. She is gone forever. Don't deny your other kids your love and attention. They need you too.
Focus on them, it will help you heal faster too.
Most importantly, commit it to God in prayers, he will give you the grace to carry on.
Just bear it in mind that your daughter is in a better place and she will love to see you happy again.
May her gentle soul continue to rest in perfect peace, Amen.
SO SAD I THINK YOUR HUSBAND SHOULD ALSO FOLLOW YOU AND TALK TO THOSE INNOCENT CHILDREN.
ReplyDeleteMAY RICHES BE YOUR POSSESSION IN JESUS NAME CLICK AMEN
STELLA KEEP DOING THE GOOD WORK.
If her death was natural then no need to feel guilty, it is not going to be easy but you just have to keep living..She just slumped and died?..hmm..May God almighty grant you strength .
ReplyDeleteFace it madam,she's gone.pls love n care for the kids u av nw.
ReplyDeleteIdiot! Na so dem dey "face it"? Stupid girl!
DeleteU r stupid for calling her stupid, disrespectful anuofia.
DeleteD way some pple reply comments with insult baffles me. Y call her stupid wen u can correct her in a poilte manner since u can't ignore her comment. Na wa
DeletePoster you are okay. I can imagine the pain you feel as I am a mom also.. I can't even fathom my world without my boys. I understand why you feel less love for your other children,and that's because you were alone with her for a very long time. You went thru hell together with no one to help,now you became so attach with her which us appropriate giving that you were both together.
ReplyDeleteTrust me,you love your other kids too and they mean so much to you. When you are done grieving your first child,you would see that..
Everyone has different shock absorber,some have so much that they grieve for a short while and move on while others have little or no shock absorber therefore grieve for a long long time. You said she wasn't sick but slumped and died so if you have little or no shock absorber,you would grieve move seeing that she wasn't sick and there was no time for good byes or last memorable words.
So cry out,do so until you have no tears,wail and then mourn. When you are done,bring you other kids together and show them love. They are not to be blamed for anything
on a different note,why would you think your hubby is glad she left? The only reason he would be glad is if he has a hand in it or he is just grieving in a different way
U r ok dear. So sorry abt ur ordeal. Its d pains n ur xperience daz causinq d resentment n hatred. Let qo cause it won't brinq her back. + don't allow ur oda kids notice dat b4 it will lead 2u loosinq dem both too. Sorry o
ReplyDeleteDear poster, to a large extent, I understand your pain as a mother. Its not easy loosing one's child but you need to move on. I think you feel this way because your present hubby didn't show her much love and you are taking out your resentment towards him on your other kids with him. Its not fair on the kids. Talk with your hubby and also pray always. May God help you sort this out in Jesus name, amen.
ReplyDeleteDear poster i can imagine hw u feel or wat u r going thru,its nt easy buh u hv to move on wit life nd ur family.i pray God to give u strength be prayerful.God is still alive.hugs.
ReplyDeleteIts normal for u to still feel d hurt,especially as a mother shd,but please the baby u lost wld be happy to see u love her other half siblings.pls take heart.
ReplyDeleteAwwww!I feel ur pain dear,am a mother too and loosing a child is wht I wnt wish my worst enemy.but then she's gone and d best u could do for her is be strong and let go.dnt tk it out on d oda kids dear,they re urs too,believe me start loving them more and d pains u feel will start diminishing.u dnt need any delieverance
ReplyDeleteMadam, you're ok. From your story, I can deduce that u showed your first child more love and attention cos you were all that she had as a parent while ur other kids had 2 parents. In the bid of making up for the absence of her father, you sidelined your other kids... you're hurt. That's why you start imagining that your present husband even wanted her dead... I can also tell that you've shut everyone out and that needs to change. Open up to your hubby and other kids. You still have them...
ReplyDeleteLosing one's child is pure, inexplicable pain. One that only God can help ease, it never goes away but you can get better. Please pull down these walls that u have put up and be a mother to your kids or you will lose them as well. Once they start to perceive you the way that your late child did her father, you would have practically lost them as well.
Take heart, your angel is in a better place... Please take care of your other angels, they are also from God. Start by sitting with them and just gisting. Get to know them better, ask them to talk about their late sister. I remember when my baby brother died, I sat with my siblings and gisted about him. .. how he walked, talked, snored, danced.... It was the most exhilarating experience, we laughed and cried at d same time as we took turns mimicking him. Even my mum joined in...
Even as I'm typing, i'm crying but the difference now is that there is no pain. Only fond memories.
May God heal u and help u find the closure you desperately seek.
Move on my sister.... What ur late child planned for u will be taken into action by the ones alive In Sha Allah.... Move hun.... Bless!!!
ReplyDeleteI feel ur pains , let it go, ur other children can give U̶̲̥̅̊ love A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ happiness, just. Accept it God A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ time will Heal U̶̲̥̅̊ . E hugz.
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ReplyDeleteYou are okay and i totally understand how you feel but you need to open up to your other kids so you can love them, they are the only ones that can help you get over the pain... so sorry for your loss
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Sorry about your loss. I cant imagine how you feel but you have to take heart. She would want you to be happy and to love her other siblings irrespective of things that have happened in the past. If she can see you from heaven, she would not be happy with your state of mind.
ReplyDeleteYou also need to get counselling, both you and your husband. You certainly cannot talk to him alone because you will likely end up accusing him and only hearing what you want to hear. It will be better if you both have a counsellor to mediate the discussion.
Because a father 'overloves' his children does not mean a mother should 'underlove' them. You need to do right by those kids. Get the help you need, and speedily too....
U need t see a shrink asap so that u can get ursef back togetha again. I pray d Lord sees u thru.
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ReplyDeleteshe was an angel sent from God to comfort you through your trying times
She did a good job at that and once God saw you were settled, he asked for his angel back.
Heres the way to look at it, God has given you a new beginning, live it , love it and own it DO NOT BE Ungrateful by thinking about the past and thinking about her.
Keep you and her best memories alive knowing that someday you shall both meet in heaven never to part again.
I wish you all the best, I feel your pain as a mom and shed few tears for you.
It i well with you
repeat after me, It is well with you!
I feel your pain lost a child five years ago and it seems like yesterday but you need to pray and let go, forgive yourself dear and move on.
ReplyDeleteU'r jst grieving in ur own way,u shd talk to sm1. Don't bottle tins in too much,u cd explode. Jst think of wat ur daughter wd av wanted, wd she av wanted u to put ur life on hold n hate everything n everyone around u?sweetheart try to live ur life in a way ur daughter wd be proud of were she to be watching u frm d oda side.... cry wen u av to,vent wen u av to,but above all don't transfer ur anger. let ur living children be a consolation n u'll be fine..
ReplyDeleteHere's a big HUG {()} smtin tells me u need it.
Very simple, u gotta learn 2 put d past behind u even though its very difficult esp. in yr case and live 4 now. U've gat 2 learn 2 love yr hussy and kids now even more than ever. Death is inevitable u kno.
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad,I'm actually crying reading this.I have a baby out of wedlock and it's just been the both of us.God forbid if this fate befalls me I would just commit suicide!me I have decided never to get married cos my child,no man would hurt my daughter in the name of marriage!I'm 26 and I'm gonna raise her alone,I don't need any husband.my spirit weeps!my goodness!this is so sad!can't console you cos I'm crying here
ReplyDeleteI know its painful and hard to come in terms with it but u need to pull ur self together,love and care for ur other kids. Think of how u felt when others abandoned u and ur daughter,don't u think its the same way ur kids are feeling or even more? They need u more than ever! Don't do things u will live to regret for the rest of ur life. May God see u through
ReplyDeleteyour ex was asking to be paid money before his child was buried??????na wah!....must be an igbo man no doubt.
ReplyDeleteGod give u straight 2 bear ur lost. Am stil looking 4 babies, married but yet 2 get a babies. Pls I need serious help, someone help me
ReplyDeleteGo for medical checkup if all is well pray, I waited too and now am pregnant, God will do it for u my sister
DeleteYou are very very normal. I can totally relate with ur situation, just that my child is alive and hearty. I'm not with the father and in such situation, one tends to love such a child more than any other child in the world. What u actually felt for ur child is pity and disservice by giving her such a irresponsible father. I feel the same. U wanted her to have a perfect life but the other part(father) is missing in her life. U knew the other kids have access to u and their father so they will be fine. The only one cheated is this little girl, who has just you and u never hesitated to give her yur all! Dats exactly what I'm doing. Well, u just scared me with ur husband's attitude. I'm sorry he doesn't love you. All he wanted was to have a woman in the house and bear children for him, else ur pain would have been his pain while ur joy is his joy. U just confirmed my fears concerning my child if I remarry. I feel really sad by ur story. Ur child passed on and not his! Men are selfish. Thank God that bitch dat was proving difficult, I nailed her with the help of God. Tough but didn't seem unattainable. Pray to God for direction and he will console you.
ReplyDeleteface ya life leave her hussy outta yo shit
DeleteHow can u say d man doesnt love her?
DeleteThe poster is already depressed nd may be describing her husband in this light cos off her state.
So becos d man slept the day d little girl died he is a bad man, is she even sire he was asleep? ?
Pple grieve differently.
Pls we shld be careful about giving dangerous advice to pple who r alrdy down.
How can u tell an already sad woman that her husband doesn't love her
U lost ur child and ur hubby is sleeping while u mourn alone, hope u guys conducted an autopsy b4 ....
ReplyDeleteGetting over wat u re passing tru right now is not easy at all... I still mourn my baby dat I lost in 2010 uptill now ... Memories is all she left u with, just try n pray 4 her n tell God to lessen d burden 4 u ..
Really sad but am sorry I don't think your husband is a good man......love a woman love her child...I also feel he is not helping you in this journey to grieve your child..you just need to ask God for the grace to heal and begin to love your other children......I might not happen overnight but God is faithful....your experience made you hold on to her so much that's why it's hard for you to let go.....u can never forget her and that's not what we are saying ut so u don't jeopardize your relationship with the others you have to let go..we pray Godspeed and healing for your loss......
ReplyDeleteYou are very ok. You were very much attached to the girl because of what you went through together. Your resentment for others was because they did not mourn with you. I have been there. Till today, I and my husband even though we try to be good Christians, still feel bad towards people that made insensitive comments when we lost our child. Those that sincerely mourned with us are our closest pals. The oyibos understand this psychological state of mind, that is why they handle corpse like gold. I chose the best of everything for the burial. My husband chose the most beautiful graveyard. You will be fine. God will surely heal your pain. But one thing I know for sure is that no child replaces another. As for your current husband, he did not have any blood relation with her, so do not expect much from him. Then the children, they are just kids, forgive them. Rose
ReplyDeleteWhy would your present husband be happy about the death of your daughter from your ex husband ?? The man hand clean so?? Atleast he ought to have shown you more love at that point in time. Pple can act strange atimes though.
ReplyDeletePls poster you are really in need of a shrink asap cos if you continue like this, your children will grow up hating you and keeping their distance, like you said your child is dead and remeber her words '' i love you mommy more than my daddy'', madam do you want your other children to say same about you?
ReplyDeletePls try to love those innocent kids, why not channel all the love you had, for the dead child towards the one that are alive and can give you hope?, i beg you in Jesus name move on even if it is very painful, don't let your life just live you instead of you to live your life with your husband and kids?.
God bless you and i pray he gives you the strength to carry on.
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ReplyDeleteMay the God lord be your Rock, your Guardian and your Help.
I pray for you.
Please take this seriously.
ReplyDeleteNigerians expect people to "Snap out of things" people dont snap out of it they just bury their pain and turn aggressive on others.
Please I beg you go to the hospital and get mental health, you are falling into sever depression. It is not "okay" it is not about deliverance, what you have been through is a lot, a failed marriage, a daughter you loved died and no one else seems be mourning or sad.
Please please please please see a mental health doctor, you are not "mad" dont be ashamed dont think about what people say its for your ownhelp, you need someone to just listen as you pour out your emotions.
I am so sorry for your loss
U are depressed my dear. U need to see a clinical psychologist for help. Pls my dear do it. Or else ur other kids will resent u. U need help. Good luck my dear.
ReplyDeleteIs high time you let your past be sweety... I surely understand what your predicament, But you won't let it keeping eating down into you else it may even mar your second marriage.. Don't let ur children push their L♥√ع to their daddy... My own mum lost about three of her kids but she didn't give up or deprived us the motherly L♥√ع every child needed.. Those kids are too young to start suffering hate pls.. Be wise as to not offend God cos u are actually romancing with the dead which is not meant to be.. You should be Glad you showed her L♥√ع while she was alive and which she acknowlegede... You can't do any better than what you have done before..."Biko sweety, let the dead bury their selves" No1 will die and the world will come to an End... This ain't and will never be the end of ur world.. Better child/children await you IJN...AMEN!!!
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For crisssake wat is wrong with dis individual?
DeleteI need to ask u agen!
Are u retarded?
Hmmm,,,Poster....this is a big one.....i cant imagine how u feel becausevonly you can explain and express urself better.....thank God,,those other children are yours abd pls treat and love them like a mother would.....they are still young now to really understand the situation of things but pls dont let them grow up believing you dont love them cos of your attitude towards them......and pls stop thinking ur hubby is happy that u lost ur daughter,,if u could prevent her from passing away,,am sure u would have done just that.....but God could prevent it but still allowed it to happen for reasons best known to him......put the past behind you,,move on with life and work on how to love ur kids more cos whether u like it or not....your daughter is gone to be with d Lord FOREVER,,,if only ur love for her and tears could bring her back....then she would have probably returned to u.....Move on dear....God bless!!!
ReplyDeleteYes you are okay and No,you do not need any form of deliverance. You will heal at your own pace,the only thing I see here is your refusal to let go and that isn't so bad either but you have to. I can picture her telling you "mummy its okay,mummy I'm happier here I just want you to be happy"... It will pass,the pain won't die off completely but it would be easier to live with. I can bet she wouldn't want you wasting away,living each day with no zeal,i bet you she's not happy with you being this way. Be strong my dear and know that innocent and sweet as she was,she is in a better place. I Pray for God's peace on you,peace that calms raging emotions,that peace will be sufficient for you.
ReplyDeleteOh wow this is so sad!!The loss of a child is probably the most painful thing that can happen to a mother. This must be especially painful to you because from what you wrote it seems like you had a very special bond with her. May the Lord be with you and help you heal from the pain. Think about the kids you have now, they also need the love of their mother as well as their father's. I also think you should have a long conversation with your hubby so that you do not begin to resent him. Let him know how hurtful it was that he really wasn't there for you at a very painful time in your life when you needed him the most. Maybe you shut him out and he really didn't know how to deal with it. Either way you should both talk about it and hopefully he'll apologize and you can both move forward. Your story was very touching. Will keep you in my prayers. Hugs
ReplyDeleteGod kept her with u through ur difficulties to keep u strong. I believe souls come back.she's probably som
ReplyDeletee where right now. Mourn all u need to But be happy for d little lives u have. U probably feel guilty cos D's kids r enjoying what u couldn't give her. But c it another way. She helped u til d point she knew u can tread alone. B grateful for her life. Speak to her aloud tell her how u truly feel&finally let go. She definitely doesn't want u feeling this way. Open or eyes to d goodness around u. For even ur life is also fragile. I think or husband is adding to or frustration. Just put him at d back of ur mind& b happy. U will c how things will change for d better. Kids get their energy from their mum. Stay positive.
Your story is quite touching. I'm sorry about the loss of your child. I can only imagine what you are going through. But please bear in mind that your other children need you too. Spend time talking to God, in time he will heal your broken heart. Nothing will ever make the pain of loosing a child go away, not even having other children, but over time you learn to cope with the loss. I don't think you need deliverance but you do need to spend a lot of time talking with God cos He alone truly understands what u r going thru. All the best! How has parenthood changed you? Share your experience on omalichaspeaks.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteGod,dis brought tears to my eyes,my dear u are ok but I think u need to talk wiv ur husband and prolly a 3rd party present,just to let everytin out,u'll feel beta,all will be well!
ReplyDeleteIts a matter of time,u r gn b aite but you need to get over her cuz d other children r urs too. God be wit u
ReplyDeleteThe loss of one child should make love the others more, please seek professional help, most importantly help from the lord! I am sure u still love your kids, you are just overcome by hurt. Ur princess is resting
ReplyDeleteSee women, "she should move on so it does not mar her current marriage" mschew. Someone is in pain and you are thinking of her husband who was lying in bed and acting non chalant when she was experiencing the worst pain a woman can experience. Someone is in pain you are bringing up marring the relationship with the person that should be comforting her (no matter how disconnected he might feel to the situation). Every parent will feel some kind of tug in their hearts. My hope is that her husband is more compassionate.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, grab strength from God at this time. It is not easy. You lost your right hand pal and your baby girl. She was your strength when everyone abandoned you. Take time and really grieve properly. Also take solace in the fact that your living kids are an extension of you/or her and they will love you through this time. Everyday you wake up, pray for His grace to get through. The Lord will help you, if there is a counseling facility you can take advantage of please do so. I will be praying with you.
I am crying right now, almost dunno what to say. I could feel the raw excoriated pain coming off her post. My dear, the ONLY thing that can bring u comfort us that u KNOW she is with Jesus now. No longer in this harsh and troublesome world. Just picture her at peace, laughing in heaven. I can only try to imagine how u feel. My dear your daughter would want you to continue to live, To love her siblings, i know part of why u feel u don't love them is because of your husband's attitude. We all know how men can be. Please try to be comforted, please turn to God. If uve a good church please see your pastor. I'll be praying for you.
ReplyDeleteWe re soon unrealistic.this lady is grieving and u re telling her to snap out of it like its a nightmare.this lady is sad and depressed.i be lost two brothers and my mum so I now at she's passing thru.dear poster,cling to God.only him can give u d respite u deserve.
ReplyDeleteAm sorry about the loss of ur child ma,just don't know what to say or how to comfort u. God alone will comfort u. Father lord we can't question you #hot tears#
ReplyDeleteHow can u pple say s woman who feels hatred towards her own little innocent kids is normal?
ReplyDeletePls she is not. How can one carry pregnancy for 9 gd months nd go thru d inexplicable pain of labour nd say she hates dem cos she lost another child.
Madam u ve to b counselled.
If ur girl died at 8 then ur little kids cant b more than 5 yrs.
How cld u shut them out. I feel so sorrry for them. OMG
Pls seek help for urself it wont b easy but u ve to come out of that hole u ve dug for urself called depression.
God bless
@MADAM POSTER. U ARE NOT OK AT ALL.. U HATE UR BIOLOGICAL CHILDREN JUST COS U LOST UR FIRST CHILD.. SORRY ABOUT THAT BUT AT THE SAME TIME, IF U KNOW U CANT COPE WITH UR CHILDREN ITS BETTER U POISON ND COOK DEM FOR DINNER..OR BETTER STILL KILL URSEF OK. YEYE DEY SMELL. U NEED JESUS IN UR LIFE..
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