OBESERE'S RAPE CASE‏ - By Tofarati Ige

(Na God i use beg una,no be me write this report so direct your cusses or praises at tofarati ige-thank you)

LADIES, WHEN YOU SAY NO, PLEASE MEAN SO!.

Rape is not, and can never be justifiable! It is a violent, cowardly, and dastardly act that could only be perpetuated by a mentally deranged and perverted mind .

Having stated that, it is pertinent to objectively analyse the rape scandal that Fuji artiste and lewd lyricist, Alhaji Abass Akande (Obesere) is currently embroiled in.

Obesere has been accused of rape by a businesswoman, Miss Olanike Olaiya (29), who alleged that the crime happened in his Okota, Lagos home. According to Olanike, she was introduced to Obesere by a friend to help her in facilitating a business deal. She visited him, and after promising to help her in getting credit facilities for the business, he went on to ASK HER FOR SEX (We’ll come back to the words in caps later).

She refused, and he apparently took it in good faith. However, when she wanted to take her leave, the Fuji artiste ‘advised’ her to pass the night in his house as it was already late, and he didn’t want her moving around at that ungodly hour.

According to her, “I thought he was a responsible man and I decided to sleep over.”

Continuining, Olaiya stated that, Obesere came into her room in the dead of night, pounced on, and raped her. After the act, he inserted his ring into her private part, and she consequently bled for weeks thereafter (the incident occured on February 12, 2014).

She also recalled that THE NEXT MORNING, Obesere INFORMED her that HE WAS GOING FOR A MEETING.

In her words, “He raped me and afterwards inserted a ring he wore into my private part and I started bleeding. He hurriedly left me in the room saying he had an appointment to fulfill.

“I could not bear the trauma and the bleeding and I reported the matter to the police.”

At 29, and as a businesswoman, Olanike should obviously be an adult who can discern right from wrong.

Without being prejudicial (as the case MAY ultimately end up in court), there are some questions to be asked, and perhaps future victims of this kind of ugly occurence can learn from them.

A businessman with a strong sense of ethics would never visit a client at home (at least not for the first time). Talk less of when it’s a meeting between opposite sexes!

Secondly, Obesere ASKED for sex immediately after the meeting! That is the BEST cue sign to leave if ever there is one! What kind of businessman asks you for sex at the first meeting? Not many would say a responsible one, but Olanike stayed on.

In the course of the meeting, wasn’t Olanike conscious of the late hour. She must have had a wrist watch, and surely, she should have been worried when the first shadows of darkness came bearing down especially as she didn’t have a ready means of transportation out of the place.

What kind of argument could persuade a grown girl to stay overnight in the house of a man who had asked her for sex at the first meeting?

As it was stated at the beginning of this article, Rape is by no means excusable, but we must also be careful that it should not be used as a tool of blackmail by girls.

Please, let’s face the facts: when you tell a man no to sex, but still stayed in his house overnight; it simply means you’re saying no with your mouth, but your body language is saying yes.

It’s more or else like an encouragement. To all young girls out there (it really has nothing to do with age anyway). You must be careful of your conduct with men. Perhaps, this is why sex education is neccessary to be taught by both parents.

The average guy believes that if a girl says no, SOFTLY or HESITATINGLY, she might just be playing hard to get and may give in later on, which indeed, she eventually might.

It’s a different case when she says no FIRMLY and UNFLINCHINGLY; in that case it’s even the guy that’ll be getting her to hurry up and leave if indeed that was his mission, because he’ll realise that she isn't an easy ‘prey.’

This writer has followed the story on several blogs and websites, and from the comments, it is evident that many believe the incident was consensual sex gone awry. They reason that she’s only now blowing the whistle because of the ring in her private part and the incessant bleeding.

According to Obesere, Olanike is his lover and what they had was consensual sex; but it is left for the court to determine the veracity of their both claims.

However, ladies out there should never resort to taking risky chances. If Olanike had insisted that she needed to get home that night, I’m sure Obesere would have been compelled to find a means of getting her out.

When cases like this come up, it may be difficult for law enforcement agencies to ascertain the true sequence of events. Inasmuch as the girl entered the house on her own accord, and even volunteered to stay the night; nobody was there to know what transpired in the course of the night i.e. whether he forced her or not.

Girls should be careful not to lead men on by their conducts, and though this case is most unfortunate, there are valuable lessons inherent in it, and hopefully, girls out there will learn a thing or two.

Let your yes mean yes, and your no mean no! In voice, body language, sign language…anyway you can pass the message across.

A word is enough for the wise!

*tofarati you are going to be eaten alive for this report.i was talking about the burden of proof this morning and i got cussed out.whichever way you look at it A RAPE has been alleged and obesere must go to court ...the burden of proof!