She contacted me on facebook to tell her story and i asked her to send the mail because she needs advice from people who have been faced with this situation before......na wah!
The lies men tell na wah ooooh!
''Stella,Sometime last year, I met this dude. Met him online though through my alumni page. We started going out. Ever since we started dating, I have never cheated in the relationship though he doubted. At some point, he asked me to introduce him to my family, I did. Since then, he never talked about seeing my family. I met his brothers ( one a Catholic priest) visited him village, met his mum though with no formal introduction.
Last week, he told me his mum was coming to stay with him for some days, I believed. In fact, the morning he said his mum was coming into town, I stopped by at his house on my way to see some prospects. Got to the office, he called, demanding to know who my BlackBerry pm was directed to ..the blackberry pm said "someday, the Lord shall reveal all that is hidden, and expose the wicked motives of the heart" in fact, he said if I wanna speak to his mom he can give her the phone.(lol).
God be praised, I decided to pay the mum a visit yesterday, #lols# as I knocked, like nollywood movie, the door opened and lo and behold I met a lady, I smiled at her, asked her about Mama, she said there was no Mama. Asked her when she came around, she told me and I left immediately.
He was stunned when I told him I was at his house and I met the mum. He couldn't say a word. I kept my cool, dropped him off and went home.
#forgive my tenses if wrong, that's the best I can write now.#
Don't actually know what to do. Asking God for wisdom to deal with this issue.
who has been through this before and what did you do?what do i do?''
Lies men tell..... Suprises even d Devil
ReplyDeleteLeave him,he needs the space!
DeleteIf he's not married,the girl u met might be a new fling,that notwithstanding,u need to distance yourself from him,so he can think clearly and choose.
As for ur pain,let it go,forgive him and God will compensate u.hugs
Guess what? You are actually the side chic.
DeleteBefore marriage, I always checked out any tales by any guy I was in a relationship with and it really helped me. I don't have trust issues but I believe in knowing who I might end up with as much as possible
DeleteHmmmm. Dicey matrs. Obviously, u mean nothing to him. Y d lies wen u can b truthful nd knw wht u want. One dt truly loves u wnt compromise ur time wiv him wiv another. If ur name is patience, u can hang in dere bt nt stupidly...u nvr knw
DeleteDear fellow SDKers, pls let's do something about the Rape issue shared on this blog on Sunday. Right now, Olakunle Koleoso (the custom officer)has ran off Facebook. That's guilt in my own opinion. So let's not stop at that. Search for everyone bearing that name Koleoso (Eni bi omo oran nii pon) the man with a troublesome child carries him. Let's send his friends and family d link to our dear Stella's blog on FB. If u know him or have his number put it online. Most rapists are repeat offenders! There maybe some other ladies out there that have been raped by them. So let's make sure that he knows that he has murdered sleep. Also, Olowoyeye is still on FB, but its like he is not a regular user. Let's make sure that their friends all hear abt what they did. UNTIL they either publicly denounce/deny the act. Or they feel what it means to be humiliated! Shalom.
DeleteI'm putting this on as many posts as possible so that every one can go back to the post on Sunday, read Bidemi's story and help make the lives of OLAKUNLE KOLEOSO AND OLOWOYEYE OLADOTUN a living hell. 13 yrs is not too late for restitution!
DeleteBut shebi u know say na u be the side chick sha? Just saying.
DeleteGirl,I met one last november and guess wat the sister,and the mum are all scammers and they use scam as source of livelihood.pls becareful especially when you are bouyant.I used another lady to set trap for him on bbm guess what the girl after showing him pic of her status as a rich lady he was begging the lady to invite him at his home the way he did to me without knowing that I was the same person using my cousin sister pic.inshort I met an ashawo,a broke ass and a golddigger,upon giving him the little I have.just be careful that's all
Delete@olobo sugar. As much as I want to take u seriously, because u seem to be fighting a good cause, but your name here is a total turn off for the kind of justice or move that u are trying to instigate. Not many will take u seriously. Just saying
DeleteBabe, pls I read tru the comments and heard pple say u are the side chick, men lie even to their wives to go on dates with galfriend, nothing in ths story says u are d side chick, it only shows d man as a liar, am glad u saw the gal, how I wish u introduced urself n heard the lady's side of ths story. Hear what he has to say n the only reason u shld eva take him back is if he introduces both of u and tells u d gal is his sista or they've broken it off.
DeleteMy dear don't mind the people saying you should run. You'd be surprised that they are in worse relationship than yours.
DeletePoster, I think the seed of mistrust has been sown. I'll advice you move on, whether you are the side chic or not. You guys are not married, why should you have to deal with all that drama with a guy you are dating. Not a recipie for a healthy marriage Abeg.
DeleteTo snoop or not to snoop, Sexual harassment in the workplace- find out more on omalichaspeaks.blogspot.com
Na today, i trust no man,i have seen enough, that is why I can't date a riff raff,cos guys fuck up generally,so if they are giving me the money it covers for their fuck up,guys are useless,i realized that, though very few are nice,i noticed they lie alot
ReplyDeleteWhy is your life like this upside down, such a weak ling person like you. Is that an advice or an insult. Learn to keep quite of you don't have anything to contribute for the growth of mankind.
Delete#Ode#
@Godwin Uche, u meant quiet. They're different. U're welcome
DeleteAnd it is 'weakling', not 'weak ling'. And also you either choose to use 'weakling' and remove person or you just use' weak person' and not add the 'ling' to it. You are welcome.
DeleteThe handwriting is clear, what advise do you seek again? Ok hang in there, the Lord will take control
ReplyDeleteTor, the Lord will really take control o! She's looking for people who'll give her advice on step by step rules of snatching a man from his wife or fiancee.
DeletePoster permit me to say u re just a fling to him and if you go back after this, then you are cheeeeeeeap!
My dear I just don't understand some ladies oooo..u ve already seen the expo to the exam u are about to take and u are still asking questions..Oya hang in there na,there is nothing impossible for the lord to do #yimu
DeleteMy dear u are the side chic feeling like point1...".rule number 1,never be anybody's number 2 when u can be someone else' number 1".....be knowledgeable!
DeleteLeave the stupid guy now before its to late! The hand writing in clearly written on the wall, do that quickly before it turns to crying brouhaha. Pepper has said her mind, pepper the straightforward ladyis on the move.
ReplyDeletePepper
Poster,the guy is a cheat and a liar...don't tell me you want to end up with such a man....my dear,dump him before he finally do it....RUN
ReplyDeleteBLOG ANALYSER: I agree with u totally!
DeleteI had a similar experience, went to see my boyfriend after a quarrel and I met a lady at the door! She asked me I was and who am looking for! She told me to stand outside while she informs her boyfriend! All along I acted cool, and smiled at her even when she came back and told me her borfrend said he is sleeping! Blood of God. You let go of the guy,simple!
ReplyDeleteShow yourself and stop hiding under anonymous,
Deleteliers everywhere
Show yourself and stop hiding under anonymous,
Deleteliers everywhere
*liars* how many times will you be corrected?
DeleteThis Godwin Uche person..do you realise how disgusting it is to abuse someone and still spell said abuse wrongly ni.. You need help o!
DeleteMy dear, dump is modaF*** a**. Say what??? Once a cheat always a cheat o. There are still good guuys out there, pray hard and your oko amutorun wa will find you. Remember, Men don't change or rather human beings do not change. Do noot 4 one second think he would change. Best of luck.
ReplyDeleteDon't fight him, just be silent, don't pick His calls don't visit don't let him visit just be silent then you'll see...it's the silent trick it works very well, especially since he expects you to react, distract urself. frm calln him to talk abt it, bbbz just be busy very busy. Take time to re-evaluate the relationship if u think ts Cuz uv had sex wv him n u can't leave, think again, is he worth it? Any1 that can lie to you that way is very unserious, I'm talking out of experience, my dear b4 ur eyes would finally open u'll b neck deep in2 a guy dat has made no commitment.
ReplyDeleteLol.....what is this one saying?!
DeleteYou are right dearie the silence trick works perfectly,a guy did something I caught him red handed and used silence to kill him,he was extremely frustrated and started explaining without being asked...
DeletePl take dis advise above.. Silence enables your life becomes an exclamation not an explanation....
Delete, after I'd had been through quite a lot from my so-called long term relationship, a guy who was a serial cheat and woman bitter- my first boyfriend who had totally shattered my trust in men- I equally dated about two more guys,all well placed- both working in good oil companies- Elf and Chevron- who had wanted to marry me against all odds.
DeleteI just couldn't like any man, I realised.
I did tell them I didn't love them ( I didn't date them together, at separate times within the period I had broken up with my first)- they had told me, at their different times that. The love would grow.
It didn't so, when I'd see that the person in question was about to commit themself way more than I could handle: eg, meet the parents, come out of the country with me (I never agreed to that at all), let me buy you a small car you can use around campus- I'd break up with them (even tho my friends thought I should have done otherwise and collected as much as I could- if they were married men cheating on their wives, I'd understand but these were single men, working hard for their money and telling God they wanted to marry me- even when they knew from me that the love was still not growing. Of what use would it have been to take their money and abscond? My friends thought I was slow and was dulling but, whatever).
That was when this Emeka started coming again.
And, funny enough, I actually liked him!
He was ecstatic and was the best bf ever.
He was a banker in Asaba (he didn't ever spend nada on me unlike my ex-es), managing and was extremely excited we were together.
Delete3/4 months into the relationship (he had informed his dad and brothers that we were together and would always call members of my family), I chanced upon a message on his phone, (I didn't live in the same town as he and so used to come and go) of a girl asking what had come over him, how he didn't take her calls and all and that after two years of her life, he was hurting her.
I asked him about it and he denied it. Kinda.
Said it was an ex who he hadn't heard from for how long now forcing herself on him.
I was amazed he could give such a stupid answer because, having dated a guy for four years who was a serial cheat, I'd expected a more sophisticated and original lie, much like, "baby, to be honest, I was dating this girl but, you and I know how long I've been after you, so when you accepted, I didn't know how to break up with her so I cut off all ties, hoping she'd get the message and move on".
Guys do it everytime. Yet, he lied.
Realising I had a liar on my hands, I kept quiet.
I saw silly stuff like exrated movies in his house- lots of them.
Hmmmm.
Fast forward to about the fourth month, when I came visiting again for about two weeks- in the first two days- I saw messages in his phone (he didn't know I knew his password) of the same girl saying that when he was making love to her day before yesterday, he had said it was only her and that his target in the bank was occupying him- but that now, he was doing the same thing he did when he cut her off.
I woke him up immediately, asking him to explain himself.
This yeye guy kept lying- that it was his cousin's number- he even kinda went like, "this my cousin is so stupid! Very slow girl! I'm sure she mistakenly typed in my number- see the kind of trouble she's putting me through".
I was amazed, shocked, ashamed and very angry.
I packed my little luggage that night- I couldn't believe the type of chronic liar he was.
He kept begging- even when I got to the park (I didn't enter his car but he came buy to beg that I not go- not believing that my mind was indeed made up).
He kept begging- after I'd gone home.
I never picked his calls until he stopped.
Fast forward to the xmas of that year- infact, from Nov, he had begun begging but, I'd started dating someone else and wasn't interested.
During xmas, he came to my house about 2 a day (remember he was a family friend), he preached non stop, he even came to ph where I lived in the next year to no avail.
That sorta person doesn't change (did I mention he always stared at women when they walked by?).
I didn't want that type of person for a husband- having seen it all in my first relationship.
He could lie for Africa.
The year I got married (he had been previously engaged- before me- to be married but the girl broke it off and got married to a more serious minded person), he had begun reaching out to me, calling, telling me about his broken engagement and all.
A month to my trad, the last day he had persisted with his meaningless calls, I casually chipped in, "ehen, shey you'll come for the event on the ...., your dad and bro said they'd come (not true tho) ". When he asked what,
"My traditional wedding"- my response.
He didn't say anything for a long, long time.
Then he asked, "why didn't you tell me?".
I answered, "oh, I thought you knew and that was why you were calling....".
Now I'm married, I've found out he's been viewing my page and husband's page on Linkedin.
What a pathetic soul.
, after I'd had been through quite a lot from my so-called long term relationship, a guy who was a serial cheat and woman bitter- my first boyfriend who had totally shattered my trust in men- I equally dated about two more guys,all well placed- both working in good oil companies- Elf and Chevron- who had wanted to marry me against all odds.
DeleteI just couldn't like any man, I realised.
I did tell them I didn't love them ( I didn't date them together, at separate times within the period I had broken up with my first)- they had told me, at their different times that. The love would grow.
It didn't so, when I'd see that the person in question was about to commit themself way more than I could handle: eg, meet the parents, come out of the country with me (I never agreed to that at all), let me buy you a small car you can use around campus- I'd break up with them (even tho my friends thought I should have done otherwise and collected as much as I could- if they were married men cheating on their wives, I'd understand but these were single men, working hard for their money and telling God they wanted to marry me- even when they knew from me that the love was still not growing. Of what use would it have been to take their money and abscond? My friends thought I was slow and was dulling but, whatever).
That was when this Emeka started coming again.
And, funny enough, I actually liked him!
He was ecstatic and was the best bf ever.
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DeletePls take this advise. It actually work.
DeleteEzewanyi........d great Lolo, anon 9.55, Abeg story 2 much, life is 2 short 2 take rubbish frm any specie, b it human or nt
DeleteAll Men are Liars.next time use your head and not your heart.
ReplyDeleteThere are no two ways about this than to call it quits.
ReplyDeleteBut if your name is PATIENCE, you can hang on.
Know this however, he can NEVER change
Rship matters r dicey. I'll take a seat n wait 4 xperts 2 advice u @ poster.
ReplyDeleteMen!!! Fear God ooo. How does she know she's not d side chic sef?
ReplyDeleteAll dis agony aunt stories sef
ReplyDeletewe will type long comments advising u bt u ll never come back to tell us how it went.
Where is dat woman whose son was defiled?
Haney
Please just let him go. How do u know u'r not d side chic sef. Men!!! Make una fear God ooo! Like someone already said. Give him d silent treatment nd gradually phase him out of ur life. His conscience will deal wth him more dan u can. Trust me, he'll apologise. Accept his apologies, but don't accept him. Life's too short 2 b stuck with a cheat
ReplyDeleteWhat other wisdom do u need dear? The hand writing is clearly written. You should even be thanking God that his true personality was shown to you before it became too late. Leave him and move on.
ReplyDeleteafi dump is naa
ReplyDeleteTake 9.55am advice very well..its sound one
ReplyDeleteHonestly i think the way people contract these relationships to begin with contributes to the outcome. People will meet randomly and just start dating. Guard your hearts. Do your investigation before you fall in love. I'm a woman but my father will say find someone to buy the guy a beer or coke and use style to ask him about his girlfriends on a guy to guy level. Most of these men like to boast to other men.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, just drop the guy like its hot..DON'T I repeat DON'T give him a listening ear,cuz if u do,dts just giving room for MORE lies.am sure u wouldn't wnt such.painful it is,but u will heal later..Don't Cuntinue with the low life.AM OUT!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, na God let you catch the he-goat. U had better move on...although almost all men have this character. Just ignore him completely. Plus NEVER trust any man again...put all your trust in GOD.
ReplyDeletePlus how are you sure you are not the side chick sef???
ReplyDeleteMy dear xperience is d best teacher I blieve most peps here r speaking out of xperience..urs is fair mine was worst..I slept with my supposed boyfriend and his other girlfriend on dsame bed on a particular night just cos I tot I was fighting for my love..I gave my all but what did I get nothing..they r not worth d trouble..today I'm married to a wonderful man and I'm a proud mother..but him? Still struggling with himself...
ReplyDeleteIs this Benny?
DeleteDo u mean it? I can't stop laughing. Abeg give us the full gist. Shege ! The things we do for love mbok !
DeleteThe guy is a cheat
ReplyDeleteThe decision is up to u
Do you wanna hang around or do u wanna take a walk?
My question is who is the side chick here? I think BV might be the side chick.
ReplyDeleteWhat does it take to become the main chick anyway? U might have dated him longer but that is no guarantee.
My advice to you will depend on your feelings for him, its easy for people to advise you to dump him and all, but in reality it is not always easy, if u can let him go fine, if not, talk to him, since you already know he's sEeing someone else, make him make a choice, or better still visit the girl again and talk to her (behind his back of course) understand his relationship with her, it might be more serious than yours or just a fling, like I said it all depends on your feelings for him oo.
you are a matured lady.
ReplyDeletethe way you left the lady calmly, is the same way if I were you I would walk away from the relationship calmly.
dude is a liar, a cheat, disrespectful and a coward.
he cannot eat his cake and still have it.
he is not worth you at alllllllll...
Was in this situation 3yrs ago,i knew he was seeing someone else but couldn't let go course he was my first and i loved him somuch,but i realised i deserved better and walked away though it was hard but i did it and am happy today even though have not been able to love again.take a walk girl.
ReplyDeleteIt's always a 50/50 thing I tell pple! But lying with ur MOTHER and not allowing u 2 meet his ma after d 1st meeting is a clear sign, u re not welcomed in his family! D silent trick is Golden! It will toughen ur skin and make u see reasons y he is not good 4 u! Be silent and WATCH
ReplyDeletePoster,,,u have seen the kind of person this guy is...if you choose to stay with him,,that means you are ready to put up with all these stuffs from him cos he will NEVER change.....but u deserve better than this,,,pls take a walk and a better man who will appreciate you will find u...
ReplyDeleteI've come to realise more than 98% of guys out there cheat or have d probability to cheat cos of a whole lot of reasons ranging from peer pressure to having lil respect for d women in their lives down to lacking fear of God in their lives. My dear,am not saying u should or shouldn't leave d rship oh buh be sure this is wot u really wanna do...don't leave if u still wanna hang in there. Don't hang in there if u know theres nuffin worth hanging in there for.
ReplyDeleteTruth is once a man isn't heaven conscious even getting married doesn't stop him from cheating over n over,he may not cheat often buh once in a while d tot could cross his mind n all_talk more of someone who isn't married to u yet n who still feels he needs to and is entitled to tasting as much veejays as possible(he won't tell u ds anyway). We women take people who don't take us serious so seriously and we end up hurting ourselves.
My dear,
ReplyDeleteU av to endure cos ur name na endurance abi longsuffering,
Rememba men are babies!
And u no wen babies messup, u clean dia shit, n act lik nothing.
apend.
Rememba also, dat men are scarce, so wen u av 1 u old on to him.
Advice of a LOSER.
Ur story wan be like the parable of a woman wu goes to d market, n decides to pick a bad fruit home, saying to hersef, eyah if i ddnt pick it, it wld be a bad loss to d shop owner, or oh, so dat oda shoppers cn av d better friut.
If u are given d opportunity to av to pick anytin for ur sef, take d adv of pickin d best, dont settle for a liar or cheat. Take d bestest. No be person be cutie n ezewanyi hubby? Abi ur head de refuse beta tins?
Thank God 4 dis experience.it will giv u an advantage of knowin weda he actuaLly luvs u or he's jst playing wit u.wit my experience in d past' I realised dat a guy can actually b inluv wit u and stil cheat on u..y dnt u ignore him n c wat effort he make 2 get u back..
ReplyDeleteI have never been a side chick been a side chick or come face t face wt one before but notwithstanding wen u realise ur guy is cheating on u pls never ever confront d side chick if u happen t knw her. Just act kool n take stock of ur r/ship:
ReplyDelete1. How long u have been wt d guy
2. D impact he's made in ur life in d space of time u guys have been together
3. Do you think you have a future with him?
4. Would you loose out on anything if u go separate ways
Answers to those questions wud help cos some guys aren't just worth d stress. Refuse t settle for less.
See all of them saying all men are liars......women nko? Anybody lie reach una? Abeg make una shift.
ReplyDeleteThis Is My 1st time Commenting On dis blog...Am Actually writing to correct some insinuations ladies have about we men through my own story....
ReplyDeleteMy darling no need for plenty talk dis tins do happen,just dump the stupid guy,he isn't worth ur beautiful self bo(him brain dey draw). Indeed d lies men tell dis days can boil stone. There are nice guys out there too,talk to God and tell him to connect u. Tell him what u want in prayer,and do not settle for less,u will be amazed how quick he wld respond,.I am a living Testimony. Don't bother ur head,d right man will come at the right time. *hugs*
ReplyDeleteYou handled that so well. No need ranting. It keeps them worried when you don't rave and rant. Your next plan should be your exit. He can kill you. It's time to walk.
ReplyDeletei've been thru one lately. i cant even complain again...guys stil remain wat they are,dogs...they r insatiable...and we remain the same cos of the excuses we make for them. truth is,u sure know wen to draw the line.u wear the shoes,u know whr it hurts. take caution and apply condom. Annie says so.
ReplyDeletedid he ever the define the relationship? if he did not then take a walk.....men tell a lot of lies..did he say he want to marry you? has he gone to your family for introduction? so what advice are u looking for? why can women use their heads to read writings on the wall? its obvious you are the one in love.....pls leave the nigger and go look for a better man.......even for those of us who had normal courtships and love filled no incident relationships before marriage, our husbands have done some things and told some lies that will make the earthquake not to talk of a relationship where they have started misbehaving before marriage.......end it asap, no long things
ReplyDeleteI was in a rshp wv a gal I loved so much, during the one and half year d rshp lasted I treated her real nice, I was her pillar, her real friend etc. In all the fun we had, I made sure we placed God 1st. alltru d rshp dia wia signs she was cheating on me, buh after d argument that comes wv it I ended up forgIving her....my said Ex was a professional liar, infact she could have easily gotn 1st class honours in Lying and Pretending...early last year we embarked on a 21day fast, I wasn't around her den, we pray every midnight through the phone...after d fast I was more than happy we did d fast together and dt God was gonna open our doors...Just few months after the fast my gal started cheating on me again, I felt betrayed, infact she even Begged I get used to it...Lols she came up with lots of stories and lies just to back up her behaviour...I just knew it was High time I left. I did and embraced God I just decided to distract myself from her..fastforward 2014 I was begged to be employed, I even form ontop, with a very Cool pay, am thrice as happy as I have ever been...am dis happy cos wen she left I doubted myself,I was depressed.. Buh Now wv God I have got my groove back... please ladies not all men are cheats, not all men are liars....Now imagine I go chasing after everygal with d resources God has blessed me with...
ReplyDeletePls add me if u r in need of a serious relatnship. Relationship o! Not otherwise. I'm too old 4 playin games 2282f67c
DeleteI agree wit ur conclusion. Everybody has one experience or the other. Men lie, women lie too. Finding ur soulmate is by pure luck.
DeleteEbele easy be a lady tufia
DeleteLMAOOO @Ebele Ndubisi.... Are u in your early 40's or mid 50's? Cos this is the height of your desperation. Kai..
DeleteU know what to do poster but am guessing cuz of age or d get married fast syndrome you're asking this question. If you are ready to remain the lesser Babe continue but if you want to be the main Babe it's best you LEAVE now!
ReplyDeleteSilent is golden.
ReplyDelete@poster if you've met his family and he's met yours its possible the other chick is the side chick. Has he been calling to beg? He probably just want to play a smart one. In all tho, once a cheat always a cheat. Most men cheat so you shld be searching for a man that respects you and that has the fear of God, the fear of God is the only thing that keeps some men from cheating.
ReplyDeleteIf u really want definition, waltz in and calmly ask hunnay who's this? I thought you said it was your mum coming oover. Notice the calmly o!
ReplyDeleteAlthough truth is you're just doing that to satisfy your self, get clarity/definiition from how he responds.
People will tell u d shitty once a cheat stoory or run for the door thingy but hunnay na u go fiit decide from how he reacts.
U can know if you've been d side whiling away time side chick or he's just having fun with his invitee. Men are funny u know stuff they do for a new punnani.
But leave these run away talk o if they left there husbands/ bf where do we now get these foolish randy husbands roaming d streets looking for young girls destiny to capture?
Please I'm not saying stay in a meaningless relationship but you'll be able to sort your feelings out when u know if your man is cheating or you're just his side chick and know how to deal accordingly.
Finally remember this too shall pass. It always does.
Bisous
My dear, ignore him totally. Dnt CAL him n dnt pick his cal nor reply his messages. Dump his ASS
ReplyDeleteJust thank God for making him show you who he truly is..THANK GOD!..Walk away! HE WONT CHANGE!
ReplyDeleteSooo real..Poster,pls let go and let God..though itz nt easy o make I no lie..me sef I get my own..still cooking..when I get bk to akure am gonna do formal break-up cos the boy no gree change..God help me.
ReplyDeleteit has happened to me well too before,anyway wat I did was asked the lady who she was in front of my boifriend and she said she's the babe,he just kept quite and say Notin.,I walk out of the his room, life and delete all dat could reach me with,I dint fight the gurl or my own.,I just keep kool but feel hurt In silence, but time heal it for me as I divert to other tinz,it hard dou,but with determined mind u can overcome it,
ReplyDeleteHian ! Engligbo !
DeleteOnce a cheat, always a cheat! If he cheats b4 marriage my dear, he sure hell gon cheat on you like thrz no 2mao. The choice is all urz to mk. Good luck
ReplyDeleteTPoster never u ever consider him. Don't confront him. Let him n his lie be. He's a Cheap liar. Maybe he doesn't even like u and this could be his way of discharging you. How can he tell u to visit his so called mama knowin fully well that's a lie? Read in bw lines. Don't force urself on a man. Be classy! #Belle
ReplyDeleteDrop him like he's hot. A guy I was once dating pulled a stunt on me. A day b4 Xmas he called to let me know his fone was bad and he was not on my BBM contact. On Xmas day he did all d calling n said he was having a buffet with his family. Not long after he called I got another ring from his line...I picked up thinking it was my boo but I shocked wit d events that followed. A gal introduced herself n wanted to know my rshp with d guy. Well she told me she was his gf and dey r lodged in a hotel cos dat day was her birthday. She asked if he was still on my contact and guessed dat prolly he would hv deleted me cos she was on his dp with all 'I love you' on his pm. She added me up on her BBM n munched 'our' boo's dp n sent to me. Well she unveiled so many of his lies to me. I found out dat dey have been dating for two years and I was d side chick....yes I was. I hv seen a pix of her on his fone but wen I asked he said she was family. She said he told her dat I was a colleague. Hmmmm so many lies he told. I actually became friends with d gal n he was so scared. But I bounced and she stuck around cos she loved him more. No one deserves d deceit and lies. Pls move along cos he ain't worth it. Lies men tell....hmmmm
ReplyDeleteI guess that one of d illumina/ banilux brother right?
DeleteTheir big brother can do better.
Better 2 leave ur boy friend 2day Dan uur husband 2morrow with ur children watching hmmmmm hope u know wat I mean:::::::::b4 is too late
ReplyDeletePoster, I beg to differ on the caption of your story. You are not engaged or married to him, who knows, u might even be the side chick and not her.
ReplyDeleteBe grateful you discovered on time and can move on. Don't go back to him, even if he gives you the cock and bull story of you being the 'number one of the side chicks'. Trust me, the fact that you have met his family, doesn't mean jack. Don't let that deceive you especially as you were not even introduced as the potential wife. some men introduce like 5 ladies to their mum and she helps them select.
Some will say, whats the guarantee that you wont meet another cheat given that over 90% of men cheat. Here's my take...
Do not ever accept the saying that 'all men cheat, and because of that it is okay to stay with a cheating boyfriend'. If your husband cheats and you find out, that's on a different level but boyfriend?..unacceptable!
Two, having a girl in his house all day, saying you shouldn't visit by saying its his mum even though you don't live too far away..very cheap and lazy attempt, he should have considered the possibility that you could just visit or even bump into the girl. This means he isn't even taking you that serious. It seems to me he may just be a serial cheat and you deserve better!
You are the side chick,bla bla bla but in real life your boyfriend cheats and you know,the only difference is that he respect you and plays a clean one.
ReplyDeletePoster;me am a realist,when couples say our relationship was built on trust, it means alot of troubles came up,alot of disappointments happened but as time goes by we learnt eachothers mistake and we became close to perfect;you met a guy and the both of you are dating,let's be real here, where you expecting that their was no EX?where you thinking you were the only chick in his life, its obvious the guy likes you but tried to play a fast one but you countered and you caught him,that doesn't mean his wrong for you,did he propose to you?his he your wife? why did you go to his house?that was a fast message and lesson for you there my dear,(when you are in a relationship,precisely dating,let him be the one all over you and you not trying to be the good person or the good wife), from. your post the guy likes you but you were looking for a mistake and you got it,if you want to leave,please do but with this guy relationship please learn to maintain your space,the fact that you went to his house might be cool to some but not me;sometimes men go to their Exes just to end it all,sometimes to find out why she can't be the one for me,sometimes to even tell-her he has found the one.Some married guys today still go back to their former flings because their wife suspects them and with that annoyance they go back,please let nobody receive you,there is always someone but if he knows you are the one,he will always stay with you.
When you are in a relationship, you go a psychologist and not a detective, study the guy and don't monitor him,act like you don't care except he calla for it,don't be deceived by trying to impress because from your story he knows you are a good girl and you can't even fit in to be his side-chick,he has respect for you that's why he played the fast one and you caught him,people have lost good husband's like that by walking away when they caught him cheating while people have walked into to great men because-they walked away;the choice is yours;we all have different Zodiac signs, study his and make your decisions because you know this guy;but remember some guys played the holy-holy gentle one before marrying their wife's and today they are cheating professionals, its your choice but meanwhile do you pray?if not you have a lot to do,sometimes God sends us a sign but because our spirit is weak we fail to understand,so be in your space and talk to God; he might be sending out from a cheating relationship but it might also be the devils plot to loose a special guy-the choice is yours.
Kaycee this epistle u put down in a nutshell is just u bringing up excuses for men to cheat. Ex is ex and so long u have moved on and in a committed relationship, u have no biz with an ex. Cheating, lies n deceit is wrong and dere is no excuse for dat, be it marriage or dating. Once again u haven't ceased amazing me with ur comments, I still wonder...smh
DeleteKayssy, e biakwa ide this your long epistle.beya nkenke! Pepper ewere tym.
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SILENCE. Just ignore him. Stop picking his calls. Don't reply his messages. Just delete him from your life.
ReplyDeleteIt's not easy, but it's worth it. You don't want to get married to someone that cheats
Poster before u dump him, pretend as if nothing happened, accept his apology if he do so then milk him dry n silently dump him like a used recharge card. On d other note, he may be trying to test u cos my ex used to do dt to me with his cousins until I knew d family well. So be careful. s
ReplyDeleteAll i know poster is Nigerian men are very promiscuous. They bury their penises in anything that has a hole. Run with both legs away from thar he dog, be very lucky you found out now before marriage. Good luck and God bless.
ReplyDeleteWhy are girls getting stupider by the day?.... what stupid advice are you asking for again? sorry but are you a retard?or you have no self worth or dignity?.. You have been played. Simple... Except you dont mind settling for second best. This guy aint worth shit.... except you are shit. wake up girl... sorry i am rude but you need to be abused back to your senses.
ReplyDeleteYou are so funny, lol.
DeleteWhy do ladies use "lol" when it is so clear they are in a bitter moment? I couldn't help noticing the "lols" in her mail and i kept wondering if she was telling a joke or a serious issue that needs good advice.
ReplyDeleteWhy do ladies use "lol" when it is so clear they are in a bitter moment? I couldn't help noticing the "lols" in her mail and i kept wondering if she was telling a joke or a serious issue that needs good advice.
ReplyDeleteThanks all for your candid advice. His been calling but I am, too distracted to be bothered to take his call or reply his pings nd messages.
ReplyDeleteThe truth about life,anything outside God comes with heartbreaks nd trouble. Dear poster its only when a man has the Fear of God dat he wudnt cheat,same goes to females. Cheating is not about the sex but loads of situations involved. Am not preaching church here but I was opportune to attend myles munroe (single&married) serminar last sunday @ d harvesters church pls do get d cd. Ask a frd or look for the church.. Listen nd it would help u perfectly, all the advice u get here. Outside God everyone here has 99% chance to act like this young man to cheat.. I can tell u dat..
ReplyDeleteTotally agree with you @ 5.06 pm ----- Olobo sugar very razz , I just ignore her ,cause the name sef is a turn off . #Mama Somtee #
ReplyDeleteI wasted my time reading this script.
ReplyDeleteThis mail is so uncalled for, there is no indication that this man is serious with u, big deal you met his mum, aimoye meeting moms, it doesn't mean jack to some men,advise yourself, you know better. we always know when it doesn't seem right but we make excuses and start running from pillar to post seeking for advice that we alreadyhave answers to. Babe pls wake up n smell the coffee before you get use and dumped.
ReplyDelete@ Kaycee, yet again Nna...face school biko. This your relationship advice will land many women in trouble. Study Zodiac, study this. He is trying to get out of a relationship hahaha. Is this the pig feed that you are feeding the girls that flock you. Biko eh, stop I beg you. I see where your heart is and you want to stand up for your fellow man but put your sister in her shoes. Then come back and tell me that she should study zodiac sign, you call God and Zodiac in one comment.
ReplyDeleteDump his lieing ass.
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