Do you always find the pair of four inch heels running away from you? Have you always been wondering what goes wrong? Have you not been able to find the perfect woman for you? If you answered yes to any of these questions then this article is for you. Here are some common mistakes men make with women.
Choosing a woman based on beauty alone:
This is the common mistake committed by almost all men. True, it is difficult to look past the attractiveness. However, it is important to remember that in due course of time, beauty fades. Then it is the other factors like compatibility, intellectual ability etc. that matter. There surely has to be a proper blend if you don’t want to be caught with a bimbo for the rest of your life.
Do not try to be best friends too soon:
It very rarely happens that, women get attracted to their best friends. A woman wouldn’t date a guy merely on the basis of how understanding he is. It is the degree of attraction that counts. So quit being so available for her, that she takes you for granted. Yes it is important that she feels comfortable in your company, but that does not mean she begins to treat you like one of her girlfriends.
Hot temper and violent behavior:
This can instantly scare off women. In fact, you should use this when you want to get rid of a clingy date. Actions like being rude to the waiter or cab driver or getting involved in unnecessary fights with random people is the signature of a narcissistic creep.
Sharing intimate details with her too soon:
You don’t need to tell her why you broke up with you ex-girlfriend on the first date. Neither do you have to tell her how much you are attracted to her. It is always good to go slow in relationships. As far as sharing intimate details are concerned, it should be done at a much later stage. This will not only build her interest in you, but she will also begin to look forward to trying to getting to know you.
Letting them take total control:
Women would naturally want to be with someone with who she can feel secure. Whatever happens don’t let her take total charge of any situation. Show it to her, that you are man enough to look after things. She will respect you and magnetically get attracted to you.
Being bossy and dominating:
Yes it is important to learn to take charge, however that does not mean that you go about dominating her all the time. Let her take her own decisions. Advise her only when you’re asked for it. Women hate to be bossed around. They look out for a man, with who they can be themselves. Hence, make sure you accept her just the way she is.
Being self-obsessed:
This can be a big turn-off for any woman. No matter how good looking, self-obsession is a trait of the unsecured. Habits like constantly being bothered about your looks, checking out your reflection even in a spoon, being a constant shopaholic, etc will give her the feeling that she is with one of her girlfriends.
Corny pick-up lines:
This is another instant turn-off. Pick-up lines can be cute among lovers. However, when you are using them to try to get to know somebody they are a strict no-no. Most of the time they are ineffective. There are chances that she may pick the wrong signal, thus subtracting any chance you might have had with her. Instead, just ask a common friend to introduce the two of you.
Bragging about yourself:
There is a very thin line between telling her about your achievements and bragging about them. Women hate braggers. They find them stupid and annoying. Instead, just tell her about yourself. As far as your achievements are concerned, let her find them out herself. She will appreciate your modesty.
Showering her with gifts:
Big mistake! It is the signature of a person plagued by insecurity and foolishness. When you do this; you are indirectly sending her the message saying that, you are so insecure about yourself and hence you need to buy gifts in order to get her attracted to you. You may look like a desperate person, trying so hard to get into a relationship.
These are some of the most common mistakes that men tend to repeat over and over again, but in different ways. Avoid these mistakes to have a happy relationship.
By Greg Ighodaro
*I strongly disagree with the showering her lots of gifts school of thought.What planet do you live Mr Ighodaro?
Woow wot a nice write up, sure knows wot is in my mind except dt of showering gift. I so detest men dt talks a lot, brags, lies, self obsessed n worst of all a man who cnt look me in the face to tell me wen am wrong cos I can be really bossy atimes lmao, pls I need a man dt will mk me feel like an angel n not d one I will command like a house boy hahaha enof alrd
ReplyDeleteI want to matchmake you with jaymoore. Check your profile with his me think you both will be sdk couple of the year. Good sdk match afterwards we match make ugly yomslaw with stephanie atleast steph will brush him up.
DeleteYou go just know say the person wen write this thing go stingy die! Coming up with stupid theories to support his stingyness...Imma need him to go have a seat and strap himself in....aint nobody gat time for that!....NewBie!
DeleteMr. Greg Ighodaro has told us the ten mistakes he and his clique have made with women.
ReplyDeleteMemphis, identify urself osiso,are u a lady or a gentleman? Kaycee needs to know.
DeleteLmao memphis s pained. EVE E UME
DeleteMemphis your reply is funny oh;Steph,Memphis na Egbon;he's a guy.
DeleteThis man just spoil his write up with the last point. If you say all and skip gift that women love more then your write up need more research. Hahahahaha you will be attacked by gift lovers today including stella that want ROLEX Gold.
ReplyDeleteSTELLA DIMOKORKUS TOO WAN COLLECT GIFT.....OLE!!
ReplyDeleteA MATURED LADY FOCUSES ON GETTING TO KNOW A GUY....AND NOT HIS POCKET.
MOST NAIJA LADIES WANT GIFT BECAUSE THEY WANT TO SHOWOFF TO THEIR GIRLFRIENDS...
GIFT IS GOOD BUT NOT THE ULTIMATE....ANY MORON CAN WOO A GREEDY GIRL WIT A GIFT BUT SUBSTANCE IN A MAN DONT SHOUT...
....Says the broke ass nigga!RME
Delete...,,,NewBie!
....Says the broke ass nigga!RME
Delete...,,,NewBie!
And replied by the hungry ass b*T*h, so cus a guy dey toast u he must buy u gift? Am sure most of u complaining bout the gift part have never been in a relationship cause if u have, y be in a hurry to accept gift from the Man if u gonna date him? Oh I 4got most of you gyals here just go on dates n get fucked afterwards that's why u eager to get a gift asap 4rm the gentleman.... Guyfisher says so....
DeleteHian!
ReplyDeletePlease I love gifts. Lots and lots of gift o.
so nth true!!!
ReplyDeletedid you forget cheating on her with everything in skirt? did you forget lying? bullshit
ReplyDeleteTHERE WLD ALWAYS BE MISTAKES, MOST THIMGS U SAY WOMEN DNT LIKE MOST WOMEN LIKE EM
ReplyDeleteI score it 9/10, copied
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Stella gbam! Mr moon ighodiaro u won't try that with me. As much as I appreciate confident guys, gifting is a way of showin appreciation. How do I tell a stingy mofo? Infact idaala exam! #Belle
ReplyDeleteI completely agree! And yes, Stella, showering her with so many gifts come off like u're trying to buy her love...Yes, you will give a woman gifts, but let it be sparingly, at least until you marry her or you find out that you are both on the same page.
ReplyDeleteWELL IT ALL DEPENDS ON
ReplyDeleteINDIVIDUAL DIFFERENCES.
I think it's time for ''us'' to repent on that number 4 bro...................#ViaInnerVoice
ReplyDeleteLol. Stella I'm with you on that one beeko. Mr Ighodaro lives on stingy planet (jk)
ReplyDeleteThank you stella for disagree with him jare.
ReplyDeletewrong Mr. Ighodaro.
ReplyDeleteLMAOOOO@Stella me sef ask myself
ReplyDeleteStella i thought exactly what you wrote when I read that gift part.
ReplyDeleteIf a guy is the kind that's very generous with gift he should do so but if you know your the type that is stingy with gift don't bother trying to impress her with gift in the beginning then later on stop.
My own is just be yourself (doesn't mean you should be an Asshole), you will definitely find your match. There is noting I hate most than see a totally different person after the woo part is over. Jeezz I hate pretenders
Ighodaro plss find smthing else 2 do with ya time.
ReplyDeleteTrue talk @ tessbaby n he shud stp doinq dis copy n paste stuff daily. Wat works 4him myt not work 4anoda.
DeleteErrrr? I hope my would be boo won't see that last point.
ReplyDeleteTo my boo thang, that last point is the most important thing of all... Don't, I repeat, do not come here without gifts o
Mr man u need 2 do more research,this version is outdated...
ReplyDeleteeverything is correct save for gifts. 'Gift gladens the heart and blinds the eyes. Guys learn to give gifts to your woman and pls don't always wait for us to ask 1st. For some of us it's a bit embarrassing having to ask. Tks
ReplyDeleteWell Said Dear... You deserve an applause for taking them right outta of my mouth.... 106/100 A+
Delete@i_ChoPtas_Not
How on earth can showering her with gift be wrong mr adviser? Nah way for some people oh!
ReplyDeletewhen you mistakenly say Yes hian that is the end of the gifts you will receive from them if you dare ask they will say you are too demanding.... I love a progressive rltnshp that is we get to know ourselves with time then gradually gift can start coming,I have never been freak abt gifts, I love guys that are REAL heheh and he must love his siblings especially his mom don't get me wrong o not mama boy bt dt shows he can tk good care of me nd love nd respect me as well
ReplyDeleteWell written though some points needs a lil modification.
ReplyDeleteBut Men and Women are quite simple if you study both species carefully.
Most men want primarily Sex in a relationship while the women want Money...truth be told.
To sum it up, to keep that damsel.
Be a RICH Gentleman and give her mind blowing bedroom action.
She'll be loyal as a 2week-old puppy.
#My opinion
Like Stella I wud agree with the others but d last? Hell no! Wat woman dosent like gifts? Itz part of the whole show! Not like u shud buy d whole world but gifts r one of the many things that wud give u a jolly ride to a woman's heart...speaking of dat, I have dis really stingy guy who claims he wants to marry me. I told him I wanted to buy a lappy and he said he wud give me 5K *covers face*. Do u kno he kept calln me for over a week to ask if I had gotten all d money I needed! Since 2012 I stil dey wait for d 5K. And its not like hez poor, hez effn stingy. I like a guy who gives me little gifts here and dere cos I too love to give, an ocassional shirt, socks, perfume...so mr ighodaro, biko, delete number ten!
ReplyDeleteHungry lion. Of course he wouldn't buy you the laptop because you asked like the hungry soul that you are. Same guy has most probably bought 20 other laptops for 20 other girls because of the way they presented themselves. Beggy beggy.
DeleteHow was I supposed to present myself? Minister for women affairs? I'm hungry I agree...but I have my manners. I'm no blabber mouth like u...u just say what u feel anyh u deem fit? Well...datz ur p cos ur words don't make a difference. I wudnt cuss u cos I have no bizness withu, so u had better watch ur manners. They r freakn smelly...
DeleteHow was I supposed to present myself? Minister for women affairs? I'm hungry I agree...but I have my manners. I'm no blabber mouth like u...u just say what u feel anyh u deem fit? Well...datz ur p cos ur words don't make a difference. I wudnt cuss u cos I have no bizness withu, so u had better watch ur manners. They r freakn smelly...
DeleteLazy Dame, this guy is not your Papa na or your husband. He should buy you laptop? Naija women!!!
ReplyDeleteI neva said he shud buy me a laptop, I just needed support. So itz just fathers and husbands that can help? Get schooled mister!
DeleteYou must be a very stingy man@Dear poster, Greg Ighodaro AKA GUM to be precise... If a man doesn't shower a girl Gifts at that first and early stage the love is still intoxicating him, wonder when he will now do that???
ReplyDeleteYou sound so very Not-Romantic dear
@i_ChoPtas_Not
@Anonymous 2:32pm.....supported!
ReplyDeleteHe is right, I have experienced it. you can buy gifts but don't over do it. It gets really annoying when your boyfriend showers you with all you need. There is no way you won't take him for granted. Some ladies might not agree with me but wait till you experience it.
ReplyDeleteAt lazy dame,don't mind those aradite palms men..God I detest stingy men ee..that's how I tld one toaster I ws robbed off my phone and ws raising money to get a new one and he stupidly askd me if I've calld to report to my elder sis I'm living with,imagine d bloody akagum dude.I jejely stoppd talking with him cos he's never ever tried to get me anything whn he comes to visit,evn up till my bday.#odeoniranuoshiman#enuf rant.phew
ReplyDeleteI agree with the TOO MUCH GIFTS mistake like you wanna buy the lady..see, the real STINGY ones are those that WON'T RESPOND to a lady's needs until they are being TOLD VERBALLY...mtew,I sabi them well well.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, the poster is right about the last point. When I first started dating my ex, he would shower me with gifts, do my grocery shopping without me asking, change my worn out jeans that I just wouldn't let go..... And in my mind I kept thinking, "oh pls stop already" cos it was clouding my thoughts. I wasn't sure if I liked him genuinely or I just liked that he picked up d tab. Anyways he gradually reduced it and I was glad because my thoughts were clearer and I knew for a fact I genuinely liked him, he never stopped though even when we were hanging by a thread, he still did my grocery shopping as well as his. Fast forward 2 years later, I was contemplating dating this really thoughtful guy, I knew he genuinely cared about me and he overlooked my excesses, howeverrr he was always trying to impress me which really put me off him and is d reason I never fully committed. I just felt he was trying to buy my love... I am married now and I don't lack anything cos my husband always deposits more money in my acct than I will ever need BUT he hardly ever just buys me gifts except I tell him, " okay today u need to buy me a gift, he still won't know what to buy, I have to take him there and pick, then he pays" lol, with my card or his....which defeats the purpose really. But at least I can still say "hubby bought me this" lol. I know I definitely hit the jackpot with him.
ReplyDeletePls u missed a very important point which is---failing to live up to words or promises.that is a very HUGE turn-off for me.guys do that a lot,and it shows that such a person is not reliable.
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot,..just saw my mistakes
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