Hallie Twomey is living a nightmare no mother should ever have to experience. The last things she ever said to her son were spoken during an argument. On April 14, 2010, after fighting with his mother, C.J. Twomey tragically took his own life. The former member of the Air Force was only 20 years-old when he died. His ashes used to sit upon a shelf in his mother’s home, but now, she is sending him on one last adventure with the help ofFacebook. What she is doing for him is simply unbelievable.
Hallie didn’t want her son to just sit upon a shelf for her benefit.
So, this mother made a request on Facebook. She enlisted the help of others to take him to lands he never even dreamed of.
At first just her friends were helping… but then after the original post was shared over 100 times, strangers began volunteering to help C.J. travel, too.
At Lake Pattagansett in East Lyme, Connecticut.
There are only two rules for helping scatter C.J.’s ashes. (This photo is at St. Paul’s Chapel in NYC.)
1.) They have to tell him that his mother will always love him.
2.) They have to tell him that she is sorry. (At St. Theresa’s Chapel Beach in Juneau, Alaska.)
“YOU MUST AGREE TO SAY THAT,” Hallie posted on Facebook. (Near the Hollywood sign in California.)
Given how Hallie and C.J. were before they were separated… (At the Gulf of Mexico.)
She wants him to know, for sure, before he takes off into the world. (From Iron Mountain in California.)
At Lake Erie in Cleveland, Ohio.
In Jamaica.
In Plymouth, Massachusetts.
At Milford Lake in Kansas.
At Kalapana-Kapoho Road in Hawaii.
Inside the Banyan Tree at Rainbow Falls in Hawaii.
These are all of the different places that C.J.’s ashes have been scattered across the US, but they aren’t the only places.
Over 150 packets of his ashes have been sent around the world. One volunteer said they would even take him to the top of Mount Everest.
This is a message from his mother, posted on the Facebook page dedicated to C.J.’s journey:
SCATTERING CJ is a labor of love.
It’s an idea born out of my broken mom’s heart following the tragic suicide of my beloved son CJ.
CJ was only 20 years old when he ended his life.
For the past three years, I have literally stumbled through life trying to wake from this horrible nightmare. I can’t change what happened although I would do anything to bring him back.
As his mom, I want nothing more than to turn back the clock and fix whatever led him to this decision…repair what was broken…give him the life he no longer has…grant him the gift of time that he’ll never know.
SCATTERING CJ is my attempt to give my son SOMETHING. It’s a mission to show my son – my crazy, life of the party, lover of people, smile so wide it entered a room before he did son – some of the world that he never got to see. It’s an effort to allow my child to forever rest in locations hand picked by caring friends, family and strangers alike.
It’s simply a chance to put my faith in mankind (a faith that has completely disappeared since witnessing my son end his life) and ask that others help me complete CJ’s final journey.
My question is does a boy who selfishly ended his own life deserve all this love after his death?
ReplyDeleteExcept the mother isn't being sincere
M-amie pray dis kind tin no do u.
DeleteCos its very izy to type shit bhind a screen.
I have two sistas in private univ, n dey relate to me 1st hand d tins rich kids do to get dia parents attention.
Search me oh.
DeleteThese people and their nonesense.
So because you had an argument with your son,he took his own life at age 20 oh!
Instead of giving him a pat on the back for taking his own life,how about discouraging other teenagers from taking their own lives.
Do a documentary of people that are suffering from terminal diseases,poor,starving etc and are still hanging in there,hopeful!
I will like to state that I will not and never will volunteer to flush the ashes down the toilet sef!
Mscheeewww (long African woman type teeth-kissing)
I'm not being insensitive,he chose to die,why pity him or his mum that thinks what he did was ok in the circumstance?
Yeye dey smell!
My dear, the depth of a mother's love is invaluable and cannot be comprehended. Mothers just love their kids no matter what they turn out to be
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ReplyDeletePainful circumstances.
ReplyDeleteWhite ppl and wahala sha. So has she come do all dis onew weytin go come happen Smh. Funny ppl.
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White ppl and wahala sha. So has she come do all dis onew weytin go come happen Smh. Funny ppl.
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Chai!
ReplyDeleteSad loss.
Does she av some more?
Wldnt mind helpin her scatter his ash in Nig, ile-ife osun state to be precise.
@ Pink shell, do u stay in Ile-Ife Osun state??
DeleteNo ooo!
DeleteI sch ere,
Its d same tin sha since I spend most of my life ere.
Awayu re? #Smiles
No ooo!
DeleteI sch ere,
Its d same tin sha since I spend most of my life ere.
Awayu re? #Smiles
Hey Pink Shell good to know u're an ife student. I'm an alumnus too.how are you enjoying your nuga break? You stay on campus or unifecs area? I stayed @ aquifa throughout tho. What course? Why do I have a feeling I will know u. I studied chemical engineering and I graduated in 2011. Enjoy jare. Just tot to famz #GreatIfe small ni.loool
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DeleteNuga break is a blessin in disguise to catch up wit buks oo. Am a med student.
No I stay off campus, I pray to God u don't no me oo #giggles (cos I fear una ontop dis blog, I doubt if u do sha)
Hugs him! Is good to know am close home. #Cheers
So touching .Rip cj
ReplyDeleteMy initial reaction was Oyibo people and their Foolishness, but going through all the pictures broke my heart.
ReplyDeleteIf this "crazy" idea will make her heal faster then why not?
RIP CJ, your Mamma loves you.
Lord keep all our loved ones safe, I can't imagine ...... Amen
Wow! Its a beautiful but meaningless act. Her son is gone forever and this act is meaningless to him. Brighten the corner where you are. Show acts of love to people while you can, not when they are gone. Put smiles on people's face while you still have breathe and they are living. Above all, never take your family for granted.
ReplyDeleteSafe journey.
ReplyDeleteCJ no try at all. He has been dead since 2010 by killing himself. His mum is still in pain n guilt. I still fill suicide is a SELFISH ACT. U kill ursef not caring how ur family n friends will live without u. Smh.
ReplyDeleteOya bring make I scatter am for my village.ndi ocha
ReplyDeleteErrr... Really? Dude doesn't even know what they r doing with his ashes na. He must have received his judgement since that year... Anyway its best to show love to people around u while they r alive. So when they r gone u know they were sure of d love u had for them. This is medicine after death.
ReplyDeleteAwwww*intears*
ReplyDeleteSo they wont bring the ash to Nigeria?
ReplyDeleteShuuuuuuuuu, y shld they bring the ash to 9ja? Abeg make the ash remain for oyibo lande with them o
DeleteSuicide is nt an option...may his soul rest
ReplyDeleteROWBISH!
ReplyDeleteSelfish enough to take his own life. Ndi ocha nwe time. #papuface
Who here hasn't quarreled with 'the mummy' please if you haven't had the heated exchange share so we knw how 2 avoid future suicides.
ReplyDeleteMay God help the woman move on from the guilt. What ever happened CJ Should not have taken his life.
How do i get his ashes? I want to scatter him on Third mainland bridge.
ReplyDeleteHow do i get his ashes? I want to scatter him on third mainland bridge.
ReplyDeleteBuhahahahahahaha. This is the funniest thing I've ever read.
DeleteStella Nooooooooo, whatever you did to your blog, pls re-do. I cant be able to reply a comment again using laptop? Pls pls its no longer funny
ReplyDeleteThis is sad no mother would be happy over such a loss buh u need to let go of d guilt no matter how difficult it's been. Since 2010??? Haba nau_d dude don reach where he dey go n d poor woman is still punishing herself. Pls let go! Cos all these na just "amansi"
ReplyDeleteAwww so touching and sad.
ReplyDeleteOh no, what a pathetic story
ReplyDeleteWhat led him to suicide? Did his mum show him the love he needed while he was alive? We must always be their for our child or children , show them love 24/7.
ReplyDeletei guess it is her own way of getting closure so let her express it the way she wants no matter how meaningless it might be or sound..she should give me small to spread in abuja..hehe
ReplyDelete...philo...
Oyibo children sef..he went as far as killing himself just to make sure his mum never gets over the guilt. Even after spreading the ashes, she still wouldn't be over the guilt. Its just pure undeserved emotional and mental torture on the woman.
ReplyDeleteBad thing is he is gone forever...he cant even see the extent of the damage he's done.
Sorry Ma'am u didnt kill ur son rather, he chose 2 die.
ReplyDeleteThink 'bout this: He wudnt tak his own life, had he lovd u dat much, he neva tot of d shock,heartbreak & wound u ll hv to suffer' . It was all 'bout him,his feeln n cudnt look beyond wat he was goin' thru @ d time..
In all, hope taking his ashes round d world makes u heal faster
Suicide is a no-no, never contemplate suicide, not an option n should never be xcused
if it makes her happy fine but suicide is murder and that is hell fire.....sad but true..after death comes judgement so whatever you do repent and live holy if not no prayers or good wishes can help u when u r gone....
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ReplyDeleteNa today, abeg make she and her son pack well joor, oyinbo people wahala dey too much, any small tin dem don commit suicide. shioooorrrr.
This is some form of therapy she is doing for herself, because her child is not in those ashes. I hope she heals as best she can.
ReplyDeleteOh, shut up some of you. The boy is already dead, however he is dead, he is dead. And who here calling out hell fire on anybody, you sure about your own spiritual destiny? Stop worrying about the hell you cannot see, and worry about the hell we have right here on earth. Some of you acting like there is not enough going on this earth that is worse than any lake of fire.mtchewww