When do you draw the line when your friends spouse begins to push towards you?
Stella,
my friend's wife is always secretly asking me for money. so i called my friend and wisely asked him to be taking care of his wife but he said he wont since he feeds her, clothes her and pays the house rent and children's fees.
but she is not working so she comes to me for money for little things like toiletries, soap,perfume, shoes, cream and so on. so i put her in my budget for each month.. some how my friend found out and asked be not to give her money again. so i stopped but she kept calling and calling me and pleading so i started again.
now she asked me to buy her a phone and i said i want to buy my wife a phone she just got angry and shouted that how many phones will i buy for my wife.
Please how do i handle this situation?
*Avoid her with a long pole....this doesn't sound healthy...sounds like she's into you,the asking for money might be a decoy,after the phone she might ask you to buy her lingerie...lol
Lol...sure u haven't entree the place before?
ReplyDeleteFor the woman to have such courage.
This story never complete.
Come back n give us details jhor
Men can like to speak half truths...........
DeleteThis man is fucking his friend's wife or has fucked her before. How can a woman be that bold if there are absolutely no strings attached? If I hear......
Abeg, sort your ish with her or return her TOTO wey u don use and stop sending stupid storied to blogs.
I hope you are not a Delta man sha cus that's their specialty, fucking friends wives, fucking wives friends, fucking house helps, office assistants, shop attendants and just any hole they can find
M-amie you are right . Why did he continue giving in to her demands after his friend ask him not to. Oga poster pls complete your story.
DeleteHian u an idiot 4 your shitty stereotypes. Your dad been funking ur goats m dogs
DeleteMy people, forget some women ooo ,its possible the guy has not slept with her.its actually the series of gifting tht has given her the boldness.she now over confortable with him and this is the snacthing zone if wify isnt vigilant.I know because there is this lady i always meet when i vist my boo in his office.A married nice looking lady ,always coming to ask for one thing or another,one day i was there and he wanted to discharge her and gave her 10k and the lady was like " aww oga ,its too small pls add extra 5 nah" .later tht day i asked him if he bot anything from her and he said no tht the lady had come to him to beg for money so she can go for a church programme in ghana.I kept quiet.abt a month latter i saw her again in his office ,this time she was telling him tht she just got discharged from a hospital and she needed to off set her bill,i cldnt hold it any longer .I asked the woman if her hubby is dead.She got embarassed.I accused my boo of having an affair with her but he swore he had never.he said he just felt pity for the lady as her hubby is so irresponsible but his kindness gave her undue boldness.
DeleteLol the gist is not complete oga. Are you afraid of telling her you don't have any money to give her?
DeleteWhen you are ready to open up you can come back for advice.
Some women are just dogs. There's a married mother of 2named Tosin that's been trying to get my husband sleep with her. She sleeps around for money cos her husband is abroad and not taking care of her n her children. He told her to stop and promised rendering little assistances. I will soon post her phone numbers online. I pray MFM prayers onbd Shameless idiot daily.
DeleteAnonymous 1:24pm you might be right. I remember a neighbour of mine that I used to give a lift every morning but this particular morning I couldn't because my cousins came over and we were all going out 2geda the following morning, na so she no greet me again o. Morale of the story: she felt it was her right and I must always carry her
DeleteIt's confirmed that married women are the heaviest runs babes lately esp housewives some of them have become desperate housewives'!
DeleteOne was caught by the hubby sleeping with a much wealthy neighbour right in their matrimonial home,hmmm,come and see flinging of her belongings(d husb too harsh sha o)dou I don't blame him.......married women why?#title of a home video#
Tell your wife to always pick her calls..
ReplyDeleteWhenever she calls and you are not around your wife, simply ignore the call!
She is just a shameless greedy woman who is probably doing same with her hubby's other friends!!
And lastly warn her and also warn her husband to warn his wife well well!
No give her shishi again henceforth!! Imagine asking how many phones you will buy for your wife...
Epic!! @ truthteller!
DeleteI agree,if poster is not hiding anything,he should warn her and stop giving her things.
DeleteIf she continues,tell her husband to put a leash on his dog!what nonsense?!(˘̯˘ )
Can u imagine. This is how they start. Poster, she will soon put u into trouble o. And no matter what, you'll be guilty as charged because ur friend has warned u. Face ur own marriage abeg.
DeleteMeanwhile I have a situation but the reverse. I have a senior friend whom I call uncle. Known him for many years but he introduced his friend to me a while back, he said so many nice things about me to him and vice versa. Let's just say he match made us. Honestly we've been having a good relationship till date. Its been 5years. Thought we fight sometimes like everyone else. I am the type that will never speak to anyone about my relationship, whether good or bad. So throughout I never called this so called uncle to report anything to him.
But recently the person I call uncle started making passes at me. I was shocked one day when he said he regrets that he ever hooked me up with his friend o. At first I thot it was a joke, then he asked me to introduce any friend I have that is exactly like me in looks and character. I said I didn't like the idea of bringing friends to date around me, that it causes issues most times.
>>>But there was a day that he saw a friend he liked with me, and they hooked themselves up without me. That was fine by me but soon they broke up and he came back to me again. I said ah Broda what do u want na? He now said the girl wasn't good enough. That he's always jealous of my man and I. I became weary.
One day he opened up to me that he wished it was him I was dating and not his friend. SDKers let me tell u, this my man loves this uncle so much ehn. In fact, he's the most loyal friend he has. Yet he was trying to do this to him.
I was troubled for a while because I felt sorry for my man. I wondered that so if I obliged that's how he'll be fucking his friend's babe? This man said we should do it coded and no one would know. Even if no one will know, what about my conscience? This is a man that loves, respects, and gives me all. I started thinking of telling my man, couldn't tell a single soul. But again I was like, what if my man doesn't handle it well and yawa gas, no one will know what really happened. They'll just say a babe has caused two close friends to fight. Na my head e for dey. But after a while I decided to face it, I told my man. Tho he was shocked, he's still shocked, buy he's been handling it so well. So the joker is on this idiot.
Anytime he calls me to ask that I date him, I would come up with demands ehn. Like money for ipad, bb, tkt to travel, etc. He would give me, hoping that I would be enticed. And my man is by far richer than him in anything. Sometimes he would even joke and say, ah, but ur man is rich na, why don't u ask him for money for all these. ....I'll say ehn, u know am trying to stay away from him because of u na. He will say ok and give me the money or whatever I asked.
But after collecting money me will just blank him out again. Lmaoo. I was enjoying this ehn. So one day again the foolish man said we should travel out to anywhere I like in Europe or America. I now said I didn't have money, he said he would pay for all I should just book tkt. I told my man, he now said tell him to give u the money for everything in naija before u both leave, plus the money for shopping. So we calculated like 5,000£. Na so me sef tell the man, he now said oh yea that no wahala. But that we should first spend the night together that day, and before I leave he'll give me the money. Ahahah see gobe... one chance tinz.
Na so till today he never gree call me about it again o. And we see almost every time when am with my man. Am happy I told my man o, I showed him proof of our chats sef. So am not afraid of any setup if he wants to be vindictive. I have cleared my conscience. But I await his next move, if he asks anything again I will ask for money again. Na so na lol.
No b small sometin. Lol
DeleteNo b small sometin. Lol
DeleteFather Christmas, kuku b generous to d end n marry her abi why wud u b shouldering ur friend's responsibility??
ReplyDeleteLol Didi I agree with you o jare.
DeleteIs she handicapped? Why can't she work?? Stop entertaining her requests.
ReplyDeleteOluyomi Odukoya
Some women are shameless, VERY at that! Her beggar still has a choice, msheww. Mr nice guy continue o, till she asks you for something more intimate.
DeleteVery shameless...she's even taking part in a mans salary she dint work for
DeleteBut wait a min how come she has the right to shout on you and she cnt shout on her hubby to provide for her...is there something I am missing
And why can't u tell your friend about it
@xo,actually d something intimate' u are talking abt will not be asked for,but she will present hers' on a platter of gold in d name of showing appreciation for his kindness and afterward use it to blackmail him for more goodies'lol!
DeleteSuch a woman is just a 'femme fatale',@poster beware of her manipulation.
U must b a weakling of a man. Fleeeeeeee frm dat woman else u wnt only loose d frendship u enjoy wt her hubby (cos wt time ur frend might think u r dating his wife), u kud also end up breaking dier marriage. U dnt owe ur frend's spouse anything as u r nt under any obligation t cater f her need or buy her a phone. Shine ur eyes!
ReplyDeleteStella has sais it all. He who wants to dine with the devil should remember to use a long spoon. She can set you up and say you are eyeing her. Abo oro laman sofun omoluabi, toba denu a di odindin
ReplyDeleteOmo egun so yoruba, oya clap for yourself, lol
Deleteshe might even accuse you of sleeping with her sef.....pls stay off
ReplyDeleteshe flared up cos u told her you wanted to get your own wife a phone?
ReplyDeleteshe has titled herself "your side chiq"
runnnnnnnnn! you owe her nothing.! don't let your kindness be taken for stupidity and ultimately lead you into a deep pit with no ladder to bring you out.
runnnnnn!
Bloglord, abeg reason the thing well, the guy don dey cane the friend wife tay tay otherwise what kinda effrontery be dat?
DeleteExactly!!!....Poster,RUN RUN RUN....that's how e dey start....sonnest,she will start begging you for SEX.
Delete@Linda Poster is Mr Nicey, he will defo give in... My people go say ohun ti o ni je, ma fi run mu. Wetin u no go chop, better make u no smell am.
DeleteI hv a similar case on my hands, when i stoped hubby frm sendin cash to her, she started fighting me, lookin for trouble by calling at midnite
DeleteCalling my huuby at midnite
Delete@ Anon 2.10 and what are u going to do about it or what have u done?
DeleteMy advise, be sure ur husband is not hiding anything from u,then collectively ignore her, she'll get tired when she sees she's not getting the reaction she's trying to provoke!
Na wa sha
Iv called her n gvn her a piece of my mind n hv told hubby to stop pickin her calls or callin her (her fada is my fada inlawd frnd) dats whr d relationshp started frm
DeleteWhat right does the wife have to be angry at you for wanting to buy your wife a phone? Could it be that you both are doing coded things behind and she has come to place herself on d same pedestal with your wife? If that isn't the case and she's taking advantage of ur niceness (or maybe naivety/softness), it would do you a world of good to detach from her before she puts you into trouble. It doesn't sound like she's going to stop at this.
ReplyDeleteE no get werrin person no go hear_so ur doing all that for her n she got mad when u said u wanna get ur wifey a phone? Or is there sth u ain't telling us? Does ur wife know u've been helping this ur friend's wife?
ReplyDeleteAnyway,just stop already haba! In d first place,u shouldn't have started this. Buh if u did all that for her "free of charge",then she's an ingrate,avoid her like "obirinaajiocha". Tell her husband to caution his wife too except if they are in it together.
Look collect money from him me I don't pity men.... if he wants to do just give me more than his wife and see he will increase your monthly allowance but be careful not to be caught
ReplyDeleteWarriz dissssss?
DeleteAnon 10:35am have you taken your drugs?
DeleteWhat trash are u vomiting?
DeleteAre you asking us? #oshisco
ReplyDeleteHahahaha some women are funny sha, I cant even ask my hubby's bro for money let alone his friend...advise to look foe something and be doing to get money, like work or trade...
ReplyDeleteToo much of familiarity! avoid her like a plague before she destroys ur home. She's getting attracted to u maybe cos u are giving her money, soon she'll want u to solve her emotion needs.
ReplyDeleteI'll suggest u also speak to ur wife to discontinue the friendship.
When next she ask for anything again be rude to her because she is up to no good. Imagine asking how many phone you will buy for your own wife mtcheeew . Does your wife know about her and how you have been buying things for her? she isn't your responsibility biko. Moreover her husband said you should stop, pls stop before she break your home.
ReplyDeleteyes o~!...unless there is something you are not telling us.
ReplyDelete...cos I am trying to figure what will give her such guts
You need to put a firm stop to this now. Since her husband is aware, call both of them and warn her away in d presrnce of her husband to avoid any long talk. She even had the effontary to get angry with you! Or is there something u're not telling?
ReplyDeleteClick my name for all your celebration cakes n cupcakes, Cheers
Tell her to get a job, get a life and be contented with whatever her husband gives her since she has decided to sit her ass at home instead of making herself productive. beggy beggy rubbish
ReplyDeletei just dislike lazy women (in most cases) who sit at home forming housewives, that's why their husbands intentionally punish and disrespect them.
Y do I hv ds feeling dt ds poster s skipping d juicy prt of d whole gist. EVE E UME
ReplyDeleteStupid couple, they deserve each other. Lazy greedy woman who feels her role on earth is to have a vagina open it and do nothing else. Silly man who must have wanted someone to control, he didnt see decent hardworking woman to marry?
ReplyDeleteBetter stay out of their madness else they put you for police case
Hian! What will bunny not read on dis blog!! Ok man, come and suck bobbie since ur an infant!! Mtchewwww!
ReplyDeleteThe woman is sn ingrate if ure nt sleeping with her behind her hubbys back. Meanwhile if ure just being nice and she s taking it for granted, pls run away very far frm her.
ReplyDeleteI see no reason why you should consistently be giving this woman money since her husby is capable. She's getting too close for comfort, kindly respect the friiendship u have wt ur friend and back off pls. If she needs extra money, she can get herself a job or ask her hubby to place her on a salary.
ReplyDeleteSwerve.
I am suspecting this poster, are you sleeping with her? Why should she scream at you just because you said you want to buy your wife a phone? What right dose she have to do that? SDK please this story is incomplete. Mtcheeew.
ReplyDelete@Moi poster is chooking her ni koro and is now bringing fake gist ni gbangba...
DeleteYou did it once, twice. Fine, and it became a routine. You don't really owe her anything. Unless, of course you don collect 'oke'(share) for 'freedom square' and you feel obliged to meet her every demands. If not, she dsnt have any right to question what you get for your wife. Are you marrying both of them? Tell her off and stop giving her money. She should cut her coat according to her husband's size and pocket.
ReplyDeleteHian! Our ppl say when handshake don dey pass the elbow, another thing don enter the matter be dat oo. Guy, becareful before you get burnt. Enuf said. *Taxi, next bus stop plz*
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You now have two wives Jo. May God rest your soul. I hope you are not going to get into the biggest trouble of your life with the woman. Flee!!!!!!!! that is my advise to you my friend, Flee!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,are you trying to make US(intelligent readers) feel STUPID or what???Your friend's wife had the AUDACITY to shout at you because she was informed you want to buy YOUR WIFE a phone??? Even when you were told by your friend(HER HUSBAND) not to give her money any longer,you continued because she kept calling and calling???Mtscheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!!!
ReplyDeleteThe woman is wrong, agreed! But why on earth won't a husband buy toiletries for his wife just cos he's paying rent, education bills and for food when he knows she is not working? Is that a domestic abuse? Why are we all so caught up wit the woman's mistake and ignore the root of it? Na wa o, women dey suffer for marriage o.
ReplyDelete#thenextbestthing#
What's my business with the root of her problem?there are people in worse situations and they are not beggy beggy
DeleteShe's just bleh!
I just don't think d story starts or ends here. Mr poster do ur self good and disengage whatever u have with her,sexually, finacially and otherwise.
ReplyDeletedubbiyu dubbiyu dubbiyu dot dasall!
DeleteThere is fire on the mountain, Run! Run!! Run!!!
ReplyDelete@i_ChoPtas_Not
Unless you are sleeping with her which is very disgusting then you don't owe her anything.. Why should a woman ask money from another person that isn't your relation that's if you must..
ReplyDeleteOh well,please FLEE
Mr man are you sure you have not touchlighted her? & she is collecting the dividends of una trysts? You can't tell me that you are catering for a sane woman with a husband who provides for her with no string attached? Lolz...you sound like my cheating colleague. No be only phone, you go soon buy pant join.
ReplyDeleteYour friend is cool oh, if am in his shoes, you & my wife get case to answer.
Hahahaa, lwkmooo, this poster even said he has planned his monthly expenditure to involve the woman's upkeep. Dis blog Ehn, lol. Men and their cunning ways, this one get soft spot for him friend wife.
ReplyDeleteThe 2 of them done fuck before.fulstop.
ReplyDeleteOga dis ur story get kleg and bow leg. Are u sure u haven't romanced dis woman before??? Why wld she have such guts to shout on u abi she don dy do ur wife duty for bed? Cos to me na see finish or are u d type that doesn't no his left from right?wey dy sabi mumu. Better face ur family and stop giving d greedy woman money,ur friend knows why he doesn't give his wife moni(no b everytin friend dy tell friend). My dear no b today nyansh dy back,abeg give us d real tory. Forgive my typos,my dota and attention. Lol
ReplyDeleteThe 2 of them bin dey fuck,nw POSTER don tire for her excessive demands u com come here dey tell us story.u better flee frm adultery oo,life is too short to b this complicated.
ReplyDeleteThe woman's reaction about buying his wife phone made me laugh she is psycho. You have entered one chance better change all means of communications with her. You might soon be accused of rape or others by her if care is not taken but some guys shaa . Should i call it wickedness or selfishness,does paying house rent and feeding make a woman complete. I think the guy is just out of this world he should seat up or allow the lady to start working. Men should allow their wives/girlfriends to work and earn their own money,if this lady is working she won't result to begging husband's friend.
ReplyDeleteSame thing happened to me n my hubby. A lady who's from my hubby's village n who's hubby is my hubby's friend always asked my husband to buy her bags n perfumes weneva my hubby travels to d U.S. The 1st time it happened I didn't see it as a big deal, I was even d 1 dat took d 2 bags n perf my hubby bought to her house. Then it happened again, I still kpt quiet. After dat I didn't know dat she was always asking my hubby to buy her gifts, to d extent dat she started asking my hubby to talk her abroad 4 shopping with him. So 1 night she called my hubby he was so angry dat he shouted at her, den I heard his voice n entered d kitchen to ask him y he was shouting, dats how my hubby opened up oh, n started telling me how d lady has Bn disturbing him. 1st of all I told him to tell me d whole truth if he had slpt with her, he swore he had never n I believed him. Then the next day I swung into action. I invited d lady to lunch at nkoyo kitchen in ceddi plaza, wen she came she ordered for what she wanted, we gisted n all, den I quietly asked her to lv my hubby alone, even with smiles on my face. I told her that if she ever messes with my husband again, or even think of it, she'll disappear quickly. I told her if she needs anything she shld come to me. That was it oh, dat was how I settled d issue, n today every1 is happy. We women are really our own enemies!
ReplyDeleteNice one!!!...I likie...
DeleteCorrect. I like your style jor
DeleteMr Poster,,,,,u story is so not complete....i put it straight at you that you have some kind of intimacy with ur friend's wife,,for her to have the guts to question what you do for your wife,,,its like she already sees herself as ur wife's rival and she thinks she has the right to get everything you get for ur wife.....how come u know all her details like her hubby not taking good care of her??? is ur wife aware of this ur "nice" gestures???if not,,,it further confirms my point.......the deed has been done,,,whether you have entered her holies of holy before or not....RUNNNNNN before she breaks ur home and let ur wife know EVERYTHING that happened so she join forces with you to fight dis foolish home wrecker......
ReplyDeletel don't have advice for u, abeg try give us the full gist then l go knw wetin l go talk u. U don dey sleep with d woman since, the thing don reach the stage she dey compete with ur wife
ReplyDeletethis guy might not have any sexual relationship with the woman,some women cash can locate a weak man even if he's a million miles away...she knows he's weak and is cashing in on it seriously...I'm so sure no woman will try this with me!
ReplyDeleteA Lot of inconsistencies in this story. Why will u meet her financial needs, even when her husband tell u to stop? What kind of discussion should lead u to even mention u are getting a phone for ur wife? Because u don't owe her an explanation on how u intend to spend ur money. Even if u sleep with her, it is not enough for her to be that bold. In any case the bible is clear on " sleeping with another man's wife". I will advise u discontinue all forms of relationship u have with her, if ur wife is not aware, tell her so she will be in d know. It is better she hears from u, such a woman can make any form of allegation about u to ur wife, then u will have yourself to blame
ReplyDeleteThere is more to this story! You put her in your monthly budget? Another man's wife? Seriously? Your wife knows about this?
ReplyDeleteIt is women like this that gives other housewives a bad name, that is why a working wife called housewives MAGGOTS in another blog!And here I was defending working wives in an older post when they were accused of laziness for having house helps! And whosoever wrote that comment in that blog, I know you visit this blog and I restrained myself from cussing you out, rather leave you unto God, because He is the one you cussed, for calling what he created in His own image a MAGGOT! A human being, flesh and blood like you a MAGGOT? See why they say women are their own worst enemy?
My husband earns #550K/month and i manage the #150K he gives me every month for housekeeping! So why would this woman not live within the income of her husband than be begging about if not long throat? There are cheaper alternative of everything in the market.
Please post this comment Stella.
Abi o. I bet the 150k he gives u, u save from it again. That's how it should be. Perhaps her wasteful ways and greed is y her hubby is depriving her. Who knows
DeleteI hope u are wise enough not to fritter the whole 150 away sha. Be WISE
DeleteGod I kneel down beg u,bless my hubby for me. I manage 30k a mnth althoughh he buys d major stuff lik bag of rice,yam,oil. I use d 30k to buy stuffs too and its not always enof,I won't blame my hubby cos he can't kill himself for me and my dota,I had to maintain my size so dat I can continue wearing my old clothes,d man dy try.my bizness is so dull dat av devised another means of sales so dat I don't bother him. I just have to hide under anonymous. Av been doing my midnite prayers since last year and I no my God won't forsake me. My sister use ur 150k well o. Pls nobody shld cuss me out abeg cos una mouth na knockout
DeleteDump her like a bad habit, she's out to wreck your home as well as hers. Musings of a busybody on
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@Nina disappear quickly got me scared am 100% sure the lady got the message
ReplyDeleteMr man I put it to u that u re not ur friends friend for doing things that u knw he ll not approve
you are a very irresponsible man....i hate men who cannot set boundaries in their marriages.....how can you be giving your friends wife money every month? is your friend aware of this? and am sure all these while your wife is not aware? i have had two friends who asked my husband for money behind my back....when hubby told me i told him not to indulge them again and of course i warned those friends.....i do not do what i don't preach....i will never go behind a friends back to ask their hubby for me out of respect so no body should do same with me.......pls stop giving her money ASAP and if she persist tell your wife so she warns her......and I hope in all you have said all the truth......
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