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It is a different story when someone goes into a relationship knowing they are the 'side lover' but what happens if you are in a relationship that you think you are the only one...and you are the only one who doesn't know that you are not the only one?
If you find someone you love dearly in this situation,would you blow the whistle or keep quiet for fear of being tagged Jealous?telling could save your friend from a broken heart but could also break whatever ties you have with that person.
the choice is yours...what would you do?How would you break the news?what if you are made to look like a liar?
Hi Stellla,i am a regular reader of your blog and would love for fellow SDK readers to help out with this ish......................................................
I am a young (soon to graduate ) medical doctor in OOU. i actually have this female friend who isn't my girlfriend but we are quite close (people say i have been friend zoned) now this story is all about her.
she has been in and out of relationships,however late last year fortune kinda smiled on her or so i thought .she was now always all smiles and very very happy and according to her this new guy who is based in Lagos was her*eminado*.
Later i noticed she didn't want to talk about it as she claimed he was a private person.that kinda raised a suspicion as i wondered what is the meaning of being private..SSS?C.I.A?...
Another of our classmates actually confided in me that gbemi always calls /chats up the guy that the guy hardly calls as much as she does.
Val's day story is another long thing.i always tried to ask if she was happy and she would always say yes but i kinda had a feeling something was amiss.luckily for me i knew someone who knew the guy in Lagos very very well family wise.so.... i jokingly asked my guy and the revelations i got is unprintable.
however the little i can divulge here is that the guy is actually 34yrs old,was deported from South Africa and has no job at all.in fact he still stays with his mother and feeds off her also....to crown it all the said guy actually has a steady relationship with another babe also based in lag.When i asked my guy about my own friend he was like he had never heard of the guy talk about her that its the other Lagos babe he knows.
I scopingly asked gbemi what she knew about this guy and all she said contradicted what my guy told me.even with all the evidence i had gathered i couldn't bear to face her as i didn't want it to look as an intentional fault finding hunt.
fellow sdkers this is where i need your help and am gonna ensure she gets to read this and your comments thereafter...I am not writing off this guy o but why sweet talk a girl just to get in between her legs?
What happened to coming out clean and being accepted as you are.i pity the so called Lagos main babe sef ,wonder if she knows the guy also but then that one no concern me.
shebi they say if one will eat a toad one should ensure its the one that has eggs..i remember the pain i felt deep down as a guy reading your feb 5 2014 post "the other woman.i think that is what i am ...blog visitor narrative" and am kinda pained because that seems the fate of my dear friend also....
*LMAO @scoopingly...you be real Amebo sha!
am obsessed with one of your blog visitors, a male who broke my heart 3years ago,the stupid boy is hamdsome,as in very handsome,his smiles weakens my heart,he was quite tall and all the ladies wanted to fuck the stupid boy,he was just so sweet,very calm and much more matured than even those in.their thirties; i introduced him to this blog&you all have seemed to love him so much and i hate you all for that,he never asked me out,we were friends&i fell in love,i worshiped this guy,cooked for him, washed his clothes,did practically everything in my powers to make this guy happy but he never toasted me,rather he called me sisi&this tore my heart apart,the most annoying thing is i senior this guy with correct 8years,but he was just different, sweet,humble and huge down there.You guys might think how do i know he is huge?he's a very shy guy and most girls i introduced to him either druged him to fuck him or he just did it,the most annoying thing is that the girls came and were telling me its their best sex ever,that he would take them to.the heavens with his dick and his tongue,&i will be there cleaning his mess.My pain was that everyone loved the guy,it was hurtful that even those in government who are guys liked him because of his smile. i love him till today,am married and i still love him so much.After service all he could live me with is a hug&peck on the chick, even though he still kept intouch till he heard i wanted to get married&all of a sudden he stopped calling.You blog visitor you think you can just use your Aunty&dump her ba?i will fight you with my feelings,my heart which you hurt still bleeds, i will so deal with you,the tears you made me shed i will make sure you shed yours,i will make sure your projects seize until you find a pastor to reveal to you that you hurt a ladies heart,you this stupid small boy,i don't know if what's wrong with me is an obsession because obsession doesn't come with pain,you brought me so much pain and you will regret,don't ask what happened to your car when you loose it,don't ask what happened to your house because i will use my guys and connection to seize anything that involves you my love, i call you butternut,i call you my sweetest,i love you my obsessed sugar,but i can't forgive you, with tears i type this,because i don't care for my husband as i have loved you, i reserve the best sex for you&i will get it by force or with love;if anyone frustrates you,just know its me because you to sweet to have any,i love you and as you always tell me then ,BEST FRIENDS OF AYE,i tell you I LOVE YOU TILL AYE DO US PART,don't be scared love does not hurt my love but you are still hurting me,seeing and knowing that you get better love than mine; Am obsessed with your blog visitor
ReplyDeleteYou need to see a psychologist. Get help fast.
DeleteAbgaya, Aunty Ode. Face ya husband and leave capable pricks for the people that want to fuck it. E be like sey na dat Kehinde bobo you dey yarn about. So dem dey rape am sef. Hehehehe. Kehinde watch out. I must taste too. This ya correct prick
DeleteOMG! Take it easy, you need help seriously! This guy didn't ask you out! This hate is eating deep into you. My God! Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill you enemy. After dealing with him what will you achieve? You need help dear
DeleteCould you be talking about Yomslaw?
DeleteWow u sound really bitter n scorned....I hope its not mr Ake that did all this to you tho cos d description fits him.....then again it could just be mr Ake trying to get attention ;;)
DeleteHmmm..... this one pass me o! Anon, you are married but still obsessing over a guy that you never dated 3 years ago?
DeleteAll l can say is give your heart to Jesus to release this pain in your heart. This bitterness is really unhealthy o
Mr Ake where are you oooo. Lol!
DeleteAunty,
DeleteShey ko si?
O dikwa mma?
I di okay???
@ anon 12:59 u need help like seriously. U don't strike me like someone in luv but one with a mental ish. So qo qet some help b4 u start roaminq d street. That beinq said don't qeneralised ish aqain here pls I don't kn ur lover boy n don't want to kn him. I am sure there r a lot like me here too.
DeleteMy dear face ur husband oh. Ur obsessed for notin, u couldn't pin point anytyn wrong d guy did. Ur just obsessed wit his dick n needs to be fucked. Hw do u expect him to ve affection for u, when ur 8yrs older dan him, nt all guys do sugar mummy. Chill joor. Ur evil plans won't work. Amen
DeleteStory of your life leleyi o
DeleteHei chim oo
DeleteDis one is very serious
Abeg Mr blog visitor...go and apologize to dis person cos she is really in pain
And dis person can go to any length to hurt u back
Run for ur life now
Are you for real? What's all this epistle for?
DeleteWonders shall never end, you better leave the innocent guy alone
Who is this iskanci? Please Sterra stop posting idiotic comments because this is an educative blog
DeleteWhich kain Yomslaw,hes too unserious to commit such serious' emotional offence.lol!
DeleteI am guessing it will be amongst;
Ake,Kaycee,Bitchpls and Dat champagne sipper(moyD),....for Memphis#(thinking#i doubt cos he seem very born again dou I know d dick knows no Jesus'.!
E fit be Kaycee oh. Blog visitors no too like Yomslaw. Kaycee come talk o. You get 'aunty' wey fit this description?
DeleteWhat is she on about? This one no well o! Musings of a busybody on omalichaspeaks.blogspot.com
DeleteBlog visitors this Chick is talking about Kaycee,yes Kaycee,she's been looking for how to hurt him back&get back to him,she's also the one who wrote that shit about his father,we served together and she's dying to get him back,even her husband knows about Kaycee, but the guy loves her too much,she's a top banker,very rich, gentle but deadly, Anty Y,you see your life,since you saw his pic here your stupid obsession started again,face your job and family spoilt brat,the guy sef don born again,yes kaycee is cute and chicks loved him,but does he?he took as a sister because he doesnt have,this is how you disgrace him,and the worst part is you are so pretty but you lack self esteem when you here k;leave this guy alone,you keep sharing stories and talking about him to everyone,Kaycee sef,you did hurt alot of people back then and you will run to the governors lounge,you know who wrote this,call her and make amends, before she goes to far,fine boy kaybaba i know you wella and you can't deny this story,the girl no lie oh,Kaycee smile its enough for you to open yarsh,runs away from my Linda's hurt to my husband, gossip sweet walahi.written by one of your crush but as so moved on.
DeleteI call people like u "coperate housemaid". Please get a life
DeleteDiary of a black insane woman.did he ask u out.aunty sukesuke osi.no go face ur husband.see ur ramblings sef.simpleton osi
Delete@Blingz u'r very koret o,......anon speak 4 urself n face ur husband. Jeeeez ppl like u give ppl bad names.... If na him dick dey hungry u,look 4 him n beg him or beta still drug him like ur cohorts did.
DeleteYimu
r u for real???u nid help o!walai serious one sef
DeleteAunti mi
DeleteSho wa ok
Anh anh hurting when person no hurt it
You auint even a nice person, the guy dint even use you he respected you and this is what you want to do to him
You aint alright
I'l hail ur hubby as a hero if he did d same thing arowolo did to his wife to u cos of ur stupidity.u need to be stabbed 76 times
DeleteKehinde, could this be you? Hmm
DeleteSee yansh opening! Hian
DeleteNa wa oooo... Could she be talking about Kaycee? Cos I know ppl here are obsessed with kaycee... Hehehe Kayce show ya face ooooh. Am suspecting its you. So you are huge down there? Wow!! Am just trying to imagine it. Hehe
Deletethot it was a joke till felt d venom
DeleteGba mu Okpa na eze,Kaycee love come talk biko,i love this blog lmao
DeleteNa wa oooo... Could she be talking about Kaycee? Cos I know ppl here are obsessed with kaycee... Hehehe Kayce show ya face ooooh. Am suspecting its you. So you are huge down there? Wow!! Am just trying to imagine it. Hehe
Delete@Poster, why then did get married to ur hubby? Don't u think you are punishing ur husband? U were dying in silence, why didn't u approach him? U want an innocent guy to suffer for ur stupidity yet u open ur mouth and say u love him! Are u alright? Mtscheeew! U no serious walahi!
Delete@Queen bee, Memphis is a lady not a guy.
See yarsh opening, Anty leave Kaycee na,thought you were married, human beings though;kaycee go and apologise before something happens oh;my advise.
DeleteLol...how is it ake ooo @mamie.
DeleteLmao.... omg! there is no other blog like this I swear. Lol. They yaff abused this Aunty Taya, enough for her to start a company.
DeleteWait Aunty, did u skip puberty? U sound so stupid. Since how many years... u are still killing yourself when you are 8 years older.
You are the wicked one!
Whoever the guy is, please dont ket this Aunty Agbaya intimidate u o. Start from sending that post to her husband as she no like her marriage. Fool
Steph: Memphis is a guy
DeleteFirst of all she should go for HIV test.
ReplyDeleteAnybody/anything South African is hazardous.
#m-amiesaysso
U dnt need to say it sef, u r in friend zone level 99.amebo iranu.mr she, face ur work ooo.
ReplyDeletesometimes.we ladies are the cause of our own emotional traumas.u date a guy for a month and you dont even know much about his background.u dont go all "FBI" on him.puhleeeze!...when dating a guy u claim to be serious with...spare me d crap about curiousity killing the cat...try to find out everything u need to know before showing him off as le boo.trust?...dont trust guys...only give dem benefits of doubt. when a girl hides things about her guy to her friends,she either has something to hide about the guy/relationhip....maybe something she isn't proud of...or a secret....or her friends are bad.
ReplyDeleteExactly + love doesn't cost a thing,it pats to be yourself. Your friend isn't herself in the relationship, she's just being ruled probably by the sex and what the guy says. You'll only be a bad to keep the information from her. Ciao
DeleteIf i am close to the girl i will tell her. If i am in a situation like that i will LOVE LOVE to be told.
ReplyDeleteMy one cent is dt u call her, sit her down let her know all dt u know about d guy... save her from d heartbreak now than later cuz it might weigh heavier on her later
ReplyDeleteThis one is not a problem jor. Scopingly also show her this post with the plenty comments it will generate, then you have done your own.
ReplyDeleteBut wait o, why do i have this feeling that you are not just madly in love with the girl, but also obsessed? Seems like you don't know what it means to be friend-zoned abi? Use your brain
I will tell my friend but in a diplomatic way.
ReplyDeleteTell her ASAP because tomorrow she will blame you. She would have noticed the signs already cos a smart girl will know a man who is not 100% faithful. But some chose to ignore and still hang on hoping and blaming amebos.
ReplyDeleteGirls likes bad boys...they like men that treats them like trash....Poster,your friend knows she is the side chick and she is ashamed of telling you....advise her to leave the guy and move on...its not a must that she will have a bf...can u imagine,dating a broke ass nigga that even treats her like shit...some girls sha...
ReplyDeleteAs in eh I know the gbemi otush babe.she deserves better despite all the codings.
DeleteRule number one of friendship,never tell a friend directly that her man is cheating on her... You would be tagged as jealous,wicked,bad and all sorts.. If you think you can not butt off that case,leave the message indirectly by using other means to drop it anonymously..
ReplyDeleteon the other note,some gals already know they are the side chick but want to believe they would be moved to the level of been the main chick
True that! Abegi stella so many side chics know they are side chics. They shamelessly remain there & device all distasteful means to be raised to main chic. Some of them marry & later start crying everywhere when karma sets in & other girls do the same to them. I have stopped sympathising with every girl/woman who complains about being cheated on cos some of them did same to others. Sarah ike ojo is a good example of such cheap, low lives who think they can bulldoze their way into an established relationship of many years. Chasing a man up and down who has a fiance she knows well. Madam you will get yours in multiple folds, as long as God lives. You can never build your happiness on another person's tears. You will be judged.
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DeleteI was in this kind of situation before, my ex cheated on me with a girl for about one yr. What was very surprising was that the girl knew very much that mr ex had a steady gf that they were even planning to get married. This shit just shows you how much girls are willing to take just to have a guy. Did i mention that immediately i found out, i quickly left the guy, till today the only thing i regret is actually crying infront of the boy when i found out. I wish i had found this blog then, i would have handled them both better. What the girl normally do then was, when she finds out i am going to be around, she will start calling and sending prayers to the so called bf, i had to leave, people say i shld not have, i was the main chick and all, but i have never cheated on any man in my life and i dont deserve a cheat, i am already going through a lot in life, i dont need man trouble. And about 6months after i made that decision to walk away, God in his infinite mercies blessed me with a good man. We re less than 2yrs and we re engaged, please dont ask me if he cheats, i dont think he does, and i dont go out of my way to prove whether he does or does not, this young man treats me like an egg and God does not give half and half. I believe he is not. Until the day i am proven otherwise. #hopefullynot.
ReplyDeleteSounds like T and W
DeleteAmebo poster face your work. Whats your biz in her matter. Just leave her alone at the right time things will become clear to her.
ReplyDeleteCeeCee
Borrow some sense abeg
DeleteDon't say ntin, cos she won't only tell d dude, dey wl use ur matter to av good sex, I av bn dere n d outcome wasn't pretty
ReplyDeletebeen there too!
DeleteSometimes its better to let sleeping dogs lie, telling her your mind would seem like you want her desperately hence you are trying to paint the other guy black. Just let her be; unsoliscited advise could earn you insult!
ReplyDeleteI know the babe.am in the same class.gbemisola osuteso...chai see your life
ReplyDeletewho are these children abeg?!!
DeleteEminado things indeed.....
ReplyDelete@gbemi-otush...most of us in class know already.na u call am like craze...desperado things.
ReplyDeleteWhy do i ve a feeling some mischief makers are trying to run gbemi down, poster myt actually be a frenemy.
Delete@anon 4.05 y do I have a funny feeling that you are gbemi speaking.please just go and sleep dont lemme open your can of worms.so all those calls are to a jobless mugu.
Delete@anon 4.05 gbemi welcome o, you took time be4 replying.
DeleteDumb lot, am not gbemi, am an Abuja resident very far away frm thr
DeleteEven the so called main babe sef should run abeg...stupid guy
ReplyDeleteThe main babe sef no try abi dem glue her eyes ni
ReplyDeleteMe ke sharp walking away things.i just cant deal.
ReplyDeleteshes obviously deep in love.love his days isnt this blind
ReplyDeleteThat first comment though..... Psychotic much?
ReplyDeleteTo the poster, thread with caution before they use you to settle their quarrel and you become the enemy. Btw you should learn to mind your own business instead of turning CIA agent over someone else's matter.
Anonymous February 22, 2014 at 2:07 PM . I pray God bless the relationship you have with this guy. I pray that he will never have the courage to cheat on you IJN. You need to be a prayer warrior yourself. Stay Blessed.
ReplyDeletePoster d lady in quex is ur friend n if u care abt her let her knd truth irrespective of weda she accepts it or not. @ least u wud hv done ur part. N let her decide wat she wanna do with d in4.
ReplyDelete1000likes. Did such nd regretted ever telling. So my dear face ur book nd let her be
DeleteStella u not posting my comment
ReplyDeleteBoth main babe and side chick should take a walk please...this is 2014 for christs sakes
ReplyDeleteIf you can find a way to anonymously tell her,pls do instead of watching her waste her time on that piece of horse shit... And you sef express ur love jare and leave the friend zone sector
ReplyDeleteGbemisola gbemisola face your books
ReplyDeleteOn top all the posing you pose in class.na another woman babe you dey screw
ReplyDeleteIts not gbemisola osuteso,its otuseso.stop forming like you know her.oversabi things
ReplyDeletegirls are their greatest enemies ,u know a guy has a girlfriend and u still wanna die there.
ReplyDeletetwo mumus in love with a foolish guy.
ReplyDeleteGirls...
ReplyDeletere.read the post again,i feel the guy isnt worth the pain sef,the lagos babe should dump him for gbemi.she deserves trash like that.by the way gbemi am not hating you o but what with what you showed me,i guess i will always have the last laugh. lady t
ReplyDeleteGuys lie a lot sometimes women find out they are the side chick after thinking they were the main chick,but because they have invested a lot emotionally it becomes.an issue to leave the guy,sometimes things aren't always black and white.
ReplyDeleteTruth is if u r a side chic u will c the signs
ReplyDeleteDts y pre marital sex is bad
U become emotional and blind
Me I have a similar story....I have this bf that lives with two of his colleagues who are both married..The colleagues stay wf him during work days and then go back to their families for the weekend...One of the colleague who is married wf 3kids is serzly dating a babe in my school...I'm not really friends wf d girl buh for d fact he comes to my bf's house sometimes to visit his supposedly bf and we exchanged greetings has made her somewhat of a friend..I really feel for the girl cos she doesn't know she's wasting her time wf a married man
ReplyDeleteSometimes I feel like opening up to her and den I just feel its not my business
Buh seriously I feel for her cos she don use d guy get hope ....Meanwhile me no use my so called bf get hope..he's actually past tense buh doesn't even know
Your friend needs to go for HIV test ASAP... Any dude from South Africa, carry your sense coupled with your pus*sy run from them..
ReplyDeletedis one pass frenemy,dis one is enemy... pple are wicked o... u know sumfin abt her and u sent it to sdk and u put her name... see d embarrassment she is facing.... and all you classmates mentioning her name... sheer wickedness... everyone makes mistakes,everyone has been a fool of at one point or the oda... im sure even d person dat sent it has worse problems... advise her,pray for her and for d love of God,be a true frnd. i hope ure not close to me o... God help us.... Gbemi darl,it is well wt u...
ReplyDeleteMy dear for ur own good,don't tell her,cos ur friendship wld definitely end.it happened to me,dis onw,d guy called me beggin me to tel my friend to leave him alone since I introduced dem,dat she is too clingy,initially I didn't want to interfere bt my conscience cdnt let me be whenever I hear my friend talk of d bobo wit luv.na so I open my basket mouth,d babe confronted d guy and d fool denied it,na so my friend cal me enemy of progress.oo,d funny tin is dat I am married wit kids so I wonder y I shld envy her.till today we no dey talk bt d guy has left her sha.
ReplyDeleteIs ds d same gbemi Otuseso, tope otush lil sis?
ReplyDeleteShe seems like a cool girl. Know her brodas, pls poster tell her biko. Dt uuna oou med sch we pple dey use 15 yrs study medicine! Pls dnt let her waste her time
If all of u are not gonna c d light,I will put u thru. Which sincere friend Would put up a post like this and include her friend's name? D post was put up by a bitter girl who can't handle rejection. Whoever u r,if this is your plan to get him back,babe u v failed But only succeeded in pusing him further,because as of this moment,He is reason this and e too confirms and knows u sent this post to spite d innocent girl. For all the people that commented anonymously but claim to know the girl in question Even helping to spell her name,What's your issue? Please Don't b anonymous now she can thank u properly for helping to spread her name.
ReplyDeleteEnemies everywhere!! Why mention her name and all if u are truly a friend of hers,I call this sheer wickedness! You are no friend and if I were the Gbemi girl and I get to see or hear about this I'll never talk to you again. And to d jealous classmates,from all your comments I can deduce that Gbemi is very tush and on a high level than y'all,so y'all should please stop the hate and jealousy cos it kills faster than any disease. Everybody has been through hurt at least once in their lifetime so let's not make it sound like it's meant for a particular group of people. By the way I am not Gbemi ,I am not yoruba neither do I know her from adam,I stay in phc which is very far from there. I believe in ONE LOVE!!! Monica
ReplyDeleteStupid wicked friend
ReplyDelete@Anon 1:O4,stop lying,it is no longer abuja na PH,GTFOH
ReplyDeleteI suggest you tell her. The worst thing she can do is hate you. But on the long run, she'll apreciate the fact you watched out for her.
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