I don't understand some ladies..he's been dating you for almost ten years and you still don't know your place in his life and he hasn't even put a ring on it...are you his ancestor?
To make matters worse as soon as your visit is over,the things you deliberately forget,he hides it so that no one else sees it......isn't that a handwriting on the wall?
you complain and he says you are nagging....isnt that a handwriting?
How does one know when the cookie is crumbling ?
Hi Stella..I must commend you...you are really doing a great job and what I like most about your blog is reading the true life comments from people
I have an issue bothering and hurting me deeply and I will beg you to please post this so I can read people's view on this issue
I have been dating this man for nine years now,we met in school and I can say we lived those 9years practically together
Long history but let me bring out the problem,we were both in the same town before I decided to relocate to Lagos to do business.
He rented an apartment after my decision...prior to that time he was staying at my place
The issue now is anytime I come visiting,I find out he would have hidden or moved my stuffs,my shoes would be at the back of the wardrobe in a very horrible condition!,
my handbags kept inside the travelling boxes..toiletries moved from the dressing table
I have complained to the extent of turning to a nag,He keeps giving me excuses
Please am I really over reacting?
Does having your woman's items in your house make you less than a MAN?
This is a man we have gone through a LOT together
Waiting to read people's opinion
Thanks.
*you have given him nine years?he hasn't given you his name and he hides your stuff when you leave his house?
You said you have been through a lot together?he fell into the red sea and you dived in and rescued him? #yinmu
Relax on my stool and read comments...hopefully no one will cuss you out cos your mail is really annoying.
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Are you a learner? The guy dey pin tins!
ReplyDeleteI can relate to that_U've been with him for so long,u can't imagine ur life without him,u've been through good n hard times together,he's someone who ur very free n urself wif,he understands u n all these have kept u stuck wif him even after catching him cheating on u severally,u've even started accepting d fact that all guys cheat n all that matters is being d main shareholder because of him. I get it_ur not alone. There are many gurls stuck in such r/ships where itz so obvious the guy is cheating buh they choose to live in denial buh d choice is urs. Do u wanna continue being stuck in an unhappy n unhealthy r/ship cos ur afraid that the next dude may be worse? Or are u ready to do what u need to do? Anyone u choose,always remember women are like flowers,dude can still settle down @40 sef buh itz not so easy for a woman cos I can bet u've been shutting d door against several dudes coming ur way cos u think u are in a "serious r/ship". #shine ur eyes
Deleteds one pass learner sef
DeleteDs one na DunDee Utd
@Galore
Hmmm, women! Dear poster i am angry with you, that said, you did not tell us how old you are. He hide's the things you leave behind because other ladies visit once you turn your back, a single lady wasting a whole 9 years with one man? What if he doesn't marry you? Oh, i see, you will now look for another man to waste another 9 years with? I think say i mumu but with ladies like you still alive i now know there are still ladies i am more intelligent than. Wait another ten years you hear. MUMU.
ReplyDeleteMoi........hahahah confirm mumu na b d babe.
DeleteLWKMD, Stella you are a case eh.
ReplyDeleteNne biko shine your eyes well well.
Don't be in water and allow soap to enter your eyes.
I'm sure your instincts have told you some home truths...
Stop allowing yourself to be messed up by that man cos sooner or later, he will dump you.
To avoid stories that touch,make hay while the sun shines.
Ogwucha ka oram n'onu.
Dalukwanu.
Must we insult people before we make our point!!!!! Ha! For her to even ask for help means that she has had second thoughts. It's better she realised herself now than later. Auntie Poster, walk away! That's all. The man is tired. Take it in good faith and walk away. Thank God sef u two aren't married yet. Thank God you don't even have kids to tie you down. Just breathe and break it off before he does it. The lady he's dating Atm, he will. Marry her cos she's fresh. Leave now with dignity. There is no solution. Don't go and start asking him to carry you every morning with hope for intimacy to return oo according to one of stellas post. Hehehe
DeleteI hope you are not the side chick sha
ReplyDeleteLmao. This!
DeleteThe lady might just find out after 9 years that she was just a side piece.
Hmmmm, 9 Long yrs, wow, my sister you get time O! Let me ask you sef, didn't u meet any oda potential bf material within those 9Long yrs? Or You jst felt he Wass d one becos u were always saving his life or wht? Welll, all I v to tell u is, pls leave d relationship abeg,no time for iranu! Fuck wat uve being thru togeda! Some one has to be a scape goat for sumone else to enjoy, dats hw I see life,it's not to late to be in a new relationship, becos is obvious ur guy doesn't c u as a wifey,guess he is only pitying you becos uve being dere For him all dis yrs ,u re choking him up,he nids space to taste d waters and make his evaluation, and u also nid space to meet other guys mehn! Fuck odaa P*ni#!. Becos d bitter truth is, he may or may not take u down d aisle and d "MAY NOT" tendency is very high and d "MAY" tendency wud most likely be out of PITY! Think with ur Brain not ur heart! Face reality GF &wake up from ur own fairy tales. Becos u re more like his MAGA!. Dump dat ingrate nw! B4 he dumps ya ass! Honestly, u deserve berra!
ReplyDeleteOro-agba
DeleteNice one @Irene!!!
You may be in a rship with yourself o poster
ReplyDeleteNine good whole years still nothing,and he is not even proud of you and cheats on you like mad if not while will he be hiding your stuffs .Biaa what are you still doing in that relationship,please leave that relationship before you cry had i know.
ReplyDeleteIhekire Tony
ReplyDeleteDear poster, after spending 9years of ur life with him, he still takes u as a stranger in his life. Have u heard of the word, "menopause" before, don't worry, when it comes, the devil will be waiting for at the next prayer house. I didn't date my gf upto 2months before we started talking about marriage.
poster!!! are u okay?
ReplyDeleteare u a baby that needs to be spoon fed?
isn't it so so glaring?
isn't it so visible and clear enough that this guy is so not into you anymore.
you are just wasting your precious time hanging on to that relationship.
if he hasn't ditched you out rightly, its because he is still hanging on based on pity. but love? that one is dead!
sorry for yourself and call it quits. it doesn't all end like toke and maje all the time.
9 years is too much pls and he is cheating trust me.If he has respect for you,he won't be hiding ur stuffs.a guy was askin me out and I really liked him,the day I went to his house,his girlfrnd's pic was framed all over.I just knew I would be a side chic,I find my way o.he is married to the girl now.so,if you are important to him,he won't be doing that and come on,he should ve proposed by now.I met my fiance in school too,we dated for a year n broke up,we got back after 5 years and he proposed within 4 months n we prep for our wedding now.so my dear,wake up!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear do u need a soothsayer to tell u wasap? He is obviously doing some *back runz* behind ur sweet back. I cant even waste my time with such mean. lailai! You can either sit him down and trash things out with him or u kindly talk to ur legs. you will definitely find someone else dat deserves you.
ReplyDeleteDear poster.u re on a very long tinnnn.no player is ever perfect to his game..u will always see d F.. ups,but most girls re so dumb.hiding Ur things saves him unnecessary explanation from his numerous side kicks.sorry#sipsMoetnChandon#
ReplyDeletePoster, you're not over reacting infact he's current atittude is a sign for you to see that he is tired of the relationship. 9 years him no give you ring, no change of status & now you've given him space he's showing his real self. Shine your eyes dear sis'.
ReplyDeleteThe handwriting is clear on the wall. Poster, am afraid you are wasting your time with that guy. He is either cheating on you, not proud of you or he has no intention of marrying you. He is simply stringing you along hoping you will get the drift and move on. I may be wrong o. All the best.
ReplyDeleteGod ....i hate cussin pple bt ur attitude, u r such a dumb, dummy is even beta off.....heavens, u v been datin someone for 9yrs...he moves ur stuffs n hide dem n u r nt seein d handwrittin on d wall. Wat happened 2common sense cos ur r lackin it, do u need kickin so ur brain can start functionin. Ur type is d one men refers to as uche okuko.let me spell it out.....ur wateva is in a serious r/ship......d lady might even be preg 4him, wake up .......Chyqueen
ReplyDeleteDear poster!!! Honestly speaking... Are u a learner?
ReplyDeleteDear poster!!! Honestly speaking... Are u a learner?
ReplyDeleteMy dear stop acting like a learner. For you to have dated a man for 9years, it means you are no longer a child. The thing is, we women know the truth about our relationship but we hang on hoping things would change.
ReplyDeleteThere's no way YOUR man will hide your stuff if he doesn't have someobe else. Stop waiting for things to change. Leave now with your pride intact before he dumps you officially.
Always know your place in people's lives and act accordingly.
My dear u want him to tell u its over b4 u knw, ur nt important in his life, y he hasn't said anytyn is bcos he knws u ve bin der for him n he doesn't knw how to tell u to leave, but he wud be praying inside of him u shld. Abeg pack ur bag n baggages n look for d next man dt is serious b4 u get old n wrinkled waitn for him to pop the question.
ReplyDeleteHehehehe!!! Amazing! Don't worry, give him another five years, he would change ok? O ge me gi vuum n'ánya very soon!! My girl, there is no advise to give you here, you know what to do so why ask for advise?
ReplyDeleteSDK,LET ME GRAB MY SEAT AND WAIT FOR COMMENTS OOOO!!!!!.BCOS IF I COMMENT,IT WILL BE A LONG STORY.
ReplyDeleteOnly girls with low self esteem.
ReplyDeleteOnly girls who don't see themselves doing better.
Only girls who think they can't move on.
Only girls who aren't as vain as m-amie
If only u loved urself like I do
No murrafuka wld ride on u.
See urself as a Demi-god
Flirt and be girly
And have dem begging to suck ur big toes
Then u can choose which to tie the nuptials with.
It's well!!!
Exactlly LOW SELF ESTEEM,thts the problem alot of Nigerian women have.Why have most young ladies given these men undue power over them.I spoke to my neice last week and she was complaining bitterly abt what her fiance had done to her,i asked her if she talked sense into him and all she said was " sister i just say make i leave the matter make e die ,you no say our wedding is coming up soon ,after everything then i go have power to tell am my mined" ahhh chim ooo.i just felt like slapping her through the phone.So sad people still see marriage as a crown.Back to you poster ,you know in your heart the guy is cheating on you no one has to tell you ,the signs are clear.Its hurtful tht youve given him 9 years of your life but let me be sincere with you if you marry tht guy you may find out tht you never really knew him. a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage .Be strong,give ursleves a break...you guys shld go mingle and see life beyond just the two of you ,he wld come back eventually if his urs or he might. fly away if his not thats if by then you havnt met a better man.Goodluck my dear..Mrs D
DeleteSome guys are sha wicked, and they wld be the first to cry out when they suspect their wives/gf's
ReplyDeleteIts indeed annyoing jare. What rubbish. Am beginning to think all dis una matter wey una dey carry come here sef na drama,real super story. Dosent sound real jor. Which mumu advise u still dey find. Ok ooo madam,keep managing d situation and keep enduring ok don't worry in 10yrs time u'll still b in dsame situation ode like u. So angry
ReplyDeleteWas of the same opinion until I recently met a lady who is into a relationship whose signs of 'learnership' are even more glaring than these posted here,I marvelled at the level of 'shit' a lady would take all in the name of being in a relationship! Such stories do happen o...
DeleteAwaiting other people's comment.
ReplyDeleteBut madam how old are you? After dating a man for 6 months, you should know which direction your relationship is going. After 2 years, the relationship should be solidified and altar-bound or you guys should be married sef, you are now here talking 9 years. Madam abeg in my "akata voice" keep it moving gurl to the next nigga. Are you freaking kidding me, if you don born sef, the pickin sef go don finish primary school.
If a man is moving and shuffling your stuff around the house, another trick is visiting when you leave the place (that's the handwriting on the wall you are not seeing home girl).
I don't know why you think your destiny is tied to that man because you've been dating him for 9 years. Hiss
Has it occur to you that this guy might be having an affair and hiding your stuff always to show that he is unattached.
ReplyDeleteYou need to speak to him to find out his rational. Good luck.
Madam that dude is cheating on you.... I remember a guy I knew b4 I got into the university... He kept telling me he loved me despite d fact that he had a woman he was dating for 12yrs. I told him I can't date him moreso cos of d lady.... The fool then told me that he's been with her too long and there'll be nothing to explore in marriage with her again...... Pls walk out!
ReplyDelete9 fucking years.
ReplyDeleteAunty pls be wise. A child would have finished secondary school by now.
Borrow some self-respect and esteem and move on
Why do some people act loopy?
9 fucking years.
ReplyDeleteAunty pls be wise. A child would have finished secondary school by now.
Borrow some self-respect and esteem and move on
Why do some people act loopy?
Lmaoooo, of cuz people will cuss her out nowx_x. Cause the truth is you know the answer to the questions, so u waiting 4 people's opinion is BS. I can't not advice u cause u know what 2 do, most importantly be prayerful #enoughSaid. Butterfly
ReplyDeleteStellastica thanks 4 offering her that stool! Now @ poster, WTF is wrong with u? Nine years and nothing has come outta it and u still asking 4 the handwriting on the wall? Like hell no! Ok I get it, u are Toke Makinwa and Annie inspired huh! Their stories are giving u hope I guess... let me tell u sometin, men respect standards. Get some! Give him ur requirements, if he wants u in his life he'll stick to them. Gosh!! Don't get the rings outtta pity, but outta love and respect... I can go on and on bout this but hey, I gotta stop here. Nuff said already!!
ReplyDeleteMMMCCHHWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!! Shior!
ReplyDeleteVery annoying,d guy d**k dey print money? Come on gal mk gud use of ur tym, dnt let any body use u all in d name of luv
ReplyDeleteAunty stellz don't talk like that o. Sometimes being in love blinds us so much so that we don't see d hand writing even in 5D. Dear poster dude has been cheating on u big time. Mayb u should stop counting d years u have invested and rather count the years ahead of u... Meaning move on already. He isnt serious. 2014 is still fresh. He is d type that will wake up tomorrow and marry someone who is half your age with the silliest excuse ever.
ReplyDeleteMadam u be mumu,9yrs without nothing no ring or a child so what are u doing dere the guy is tired of u so leave him alone.Abeg
ReplyDeletePoster,you be serious mumu oo...how can a girl date a guy for 9 good years without nothing to show for it.....2years is enough to know your position in his life....poster,stop putting all your eggs in one basket....he has other girls that come around when you are away....and don't be surprise that he tells them you are his sister....
ReplyDeleteHehehehe, this poster cracked me up big time. How can you even date a guy for 9yrs? U have strenght sha.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, Is it that you are blind, dumb or just plain stupid? Your guy doesn't want you in his life anymore, so he's showing you signs and hoping you get the message. Perhaps, he doesn't want to come out straight bcos of the things u have passed thru wt him.
Read the handwritings already, stoop jonzing and I wish you goodluck.
Are you 10?? If yes then no one should cuss you out. E pele o
ReplyDeleteThis is one of d most annoying mails I've ever read in my entire life. Jeez girl r u desperate? D signs r boldly written on d wall. U hav given him 9yrs, n in return u got nothing. U leave ur things behind n he hides dem. Hisssss. I wish I could "slap" sum sense in2 u. Its pretty obvious he's dating sum1 else. Doesn't know hw 2 tell u cos he doesn't hav the guts 2 do so. He's prolly hoping u'll get d message (even tho ur bin toooo slow abt it.) U don't deserve 2 b treated like dat. But u tink otherwise. Why else would u b in dis kind of relationship??? My dear its not by force o.
ReplyDelete9 years, u must be under a spell created by you, some couples meet d first time in their lives and in 8 months they are married..
ReplyDeleteU've seen d signs and u close your eyes to dis signs. I wonder how many abortions u've gone through together with him.
U've spent 9 years with him and u can't read him like an open book. DON'T DULL...
9 years, u must be under a spell created by you, some couples meet d first time in their lives and in 8 months they are married..
ReplyDeleteU've seen d signs and u close your eyes to dis signs. I wonder how many abortions u've gone through together with him.
U've spent 9 years with him and u can't read him like an open book. DON'T DULL...
My dear poster, na u go advise urself o! 9yrs! How come he even allowed u to relocate if he had plans for 2 of u been 2geda? My dear sincerely ask urself if u have a place in his life! My advice, move on, u are very likely been played with!
ReplyDeleteLemme put myself in d guy's shoes; I've been dating u for a long time,u r outta town n i wanto cut shows...I'l hide ur things when I'm expecting other ladies so it doesn't seem like I have a live-in-lover...but that doesn't mean I'l still not marry u. U get? That could be d case,except he's acting up already den suggest u count ur losses(including free totoh of 9years) n run
ReplyDeletekai! Stella u jst wasted ur hope o coz me i go curse dis babe out no b smal!
ReplyDeletePoster,r u blind? Or is dat u ve bin placed on a curse 2 b impavious 2 reasoning? 9 bloddy years! U want 2 act lyk Toke n u ve 4goten dat ur fada's name is not Makinwa! Kai! U must b cursed!
Wait u hia,jst stay in his house,inshrt kip goin out with him o! Lemme goan call Prophet Sunday Balogun so dat he ll tel u weda u r supposed 2 remain with ur so called boyfriend or leave him!
Yeye dey smell!
My dear d fact is that ur Man is seeing anoda person. Go get ur self another Man fast bcos I'm sure tym is nt on ur side. You re Lucky he didn't even Make You Lord of the Ring sef
ReplyDeleteRICK KiD "SDK LoRD"
Nna mehn
ReplyDeleteHow do people fornicate consecutively for 2,3,4.....and then 9YEARS!!!!!
Is it dat for 9 years u no pray
My fiancé proposed after 8 months of dating, finalizing d marriage tingy dis Easter.
But mehn dis is somehow my worst 1 year spiritually.
I feel so far away from God I can't wait to sincerely get back to him :(
Even tho we keep agreeing nt to do again
Buh....
Each time I go down on my knees I feel lik am mocking God
Well since he paid my bride price I don't feel dat guilty again after polash
Buh I just can't wait for church wedding.
I miss u God :(
Jesus Christ! U hit the chisel on the right spot, honey! Fornicating for 9 years. I just had to comment. Poster how u take do am? I must applaud God cuz Je is mighty merciful. Girl, just find ur way back to God. You are darn lucky ur bride price got paid. God's blessings on ur marriage!
DeleteMy dear anony, congrats on ur forthcoming wedding. you are a sensible babe. Let's hope this poster wisens up. 9 years of fornication. Tufia.. The guy is not adding anythingto the girl's life, ratherhe is making her a persistent sinner. OLORI
DeleteNna mehn
ReplyDeleteHow do people fornicate consecutively for 2,3,4.....and then 9YEARS!!!!!
Is it dat for 9 years u no pray
My fiancé proposed after 8 months of dating, finalizing d marriage tingy dis Easter.
But mehn dis is somehow my worst 1 year spiritually.
I feel so far away from God I can't wait to sincerely get back to him :(
Even tho we keep agreeing nt to do again
Buh....
Each time I go down on my knees I feel lik am mocking God
Well since he paid my bride price I don't feel dat guilty again after polash
Buh I just can't wait for church wedding.
I miss u God :(
Nna mehn
ReplyDeleteHow do people fornicate consecutively for 2,3,4.....and then 9YEARS!!!!!
Is it dat for 9 years u no pray
My fiancé proposed after 8 months of dating, finalizing d marriage tingy dis Easter.
But mehn dis is somehow my worst 1 year spiritually.
I feel so far away from God I can't wait to sincerely get back to him :(
Even tho we keep agreeing nt to do again
Buh....
Each time I go down on my knees I feel lik am mocking God
Well since he paid my bride price I don't feel dat guilty again after polash
Buh I just can't wait for church wedding.
I miss u God :(
Holier than thou. Oponu
Deletenwa ekwensu, na u be d oponu. U r calling someone who expressed herself oponu! Nshiko!
DeleteRenee anuofia. Kitipa dogbwo gi. Fornicator Na fornicator weda 1yr or 9yrs.
DeleteAnonymous you're missing the whole point. She didn't say 1year is better than the 9years. She only expressed how terrible and far from God she feels in just 1year how much more 9
DeleteFornication is fornication......poster's case is even beta sef cos she probably fornicated with just one person in all d 9yrs.....wat about some other people who would have fornicated with 4/5 people in 9yrs in d process of moving from one relationship to d other......Anon 11:24am.....if u have had sex with another guy before ur fiance,,then u are no better than d poster but even worst than her........so stop forming *i miss God levels* for here.......
DeleteLiving in Bondage indeed.. Pls, veer ASAP.............
ReplyDelete@i_ChoPtas_Not
My dear...a stitch in tym saves 9. Its a pity uv bn sleeping on toothpick...the truth is d earlier u leave him the better for u. Amen!!
ReplyDeleteFoolish idiot, u have really stupid self esteem. Dnt u ve respect for yourself, so u knw pple wil curse..dat shows u stil tink right. What u stil Doin wit d Guy? D penis neva tire u ba, stay der wen u reach menopause den u can quit d relationship.. Tomorrow u go dey blame God.
ReplyDeleteLol Stella your response is hilarious.
ReplyDeleteAre you blind that you can't read the freaking hand writing on the wall. At this rate if he starts beating you I'm not sure you will leave him.
Please take what's left of your dignity and self respect and go. Hope that was clear enough for you.
U re a dumbfuck....dat guy isn't takin u serious cos a serious man won't hide ur stuff rather he wuld leave dem so oda visitin ladies wil knw he is nt single.
ReplyDeletePoster, u be learner? u better get up, dust yourself off and move on, otherwise u might have d same story to tell in 29 years time.
ReplyDeleteClick my name for all your celebration cakes and cupcakes, cheers
Hahahahahhaha....Stella don kill me with laff oo. Of cause u know they will cuss her die. Make I take sit dey wait
ReplyDeleteLadies amaze me, how wil u date a guy 4 9yrs, is der somtin wrong wit ur brain? R u hv use ur brain 2 fry yam 4 him!!! Y did u need advice? Pls u hav anoder 9yr more 2 date him 2 kn ur true place!!! If u kn watin gd 4 u pack ur tinz, stop calling him and move on with ur life. D free tinz u hav given him as per doing wify duty don DO
ReplyDeleteNa wa o, u wan to die ontop rotten penis...ashewo kobokobo. I dnt blame him, I blame u cos na u give am toto to fuck for 9yrs free of charge . Haba
ReplyDeletemy dear you must be a big learner. you don't need to be told that another woman or women are in his life. stay there dey ask if there a handwriting on d wall. oshiko!
ReplyDeleteNo introduction...traditional marriage...registry...white wedding. Yet u lived wit him for 9yrs, simply means u re nt from a gud home n dnt hav family value. Some Guyz wnt settle wit u. U alredy gav ursef cheap
ReplyDeleteAnon 11:44am....well said.....so yr family allowed u to live with a man u're not married to for 9YRS????....
DeleteBully Stella, cut d babe some slack na. U sef...this one na wordless comment. SDKers would finish u 2day *eats ewa agoin*
ReplyDeleteY dnt u folow d footsteps of ur fellow live in lovers....d guys hardly do d right step for dem, jst end up heron pregnant n cal deirselves mr n mrs doing mummy n daddy. So u stil want marriage wen u hav alredy married ursef to him for 9yrs livin in d same house. Opkonu oshi
ReplyDeleteDear sister can you move ahead PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEE?
ReplyDeleteIt takes a whole lotta courage nt let go of issues like that especially if you don't have so much that occupy ur mind...so let go of d idiot, count those yrs as wasted invesment...fix ur mind in more stuffs, join a group, start a make up or catering class or jst anyfin to keep u real busy nd trust me, u wldnt knw when u wldnt care about d idiot anymore
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha aunty stella don wound me with laff! Into the Red Sea n dive for rescue lolz titanic2. My sister run abeg he is a big cheat
ReplyDeletePoster why? Why are you doing this to yourself? 9yrs? What for? What other signs are you waiting for before you move on? He hides your things and you still think he's the one
ReplyDeleteplease leave that relationship,its going no where
SDK.......u're wonderful,,,,lol@are u his ancestor???
ReplyDeletePoster,,,pls sit on that stool for another decade and wait for the time he will put ur shoes on his bed,,,ur toiletries on the roofing sheets,,and hang ur bags on the ceiling fan.....maybe by then u will know how old u are and how serious he is.....those whose fingers have been turned to a key holder by a man who gave them an engagement ring for years but refused to marry them are still better than you sef......you are not existing in his life,,,and you can see the signs but you choose to ignore....and he still dey chop ur didundin for free anytime u visit.....congratulations for ur long service award,,poster.......mtcheeewwwww
Stellastica yes she's blind.... lmao!!
ReplyDeleteabeg abeg!!! the guy has only succeeded in wasting your time. Advise, move on with your life and forget the guy.I wonder why you can see the handwriting on the wall and you cant read. Stella on to the next
ReplyDeleteFoolish girl! If you like continue being stupid! Just in case you don't get it, ITS TIME FOR YOU TO MOVE ON AND FORGET THIS LOSER!
ReplyDeleteHe's hiding your things in his place to make the main woman in his life comfortable.
ReplyDeleteRespect yourself and move on, he clearly has, but you probably still nack him, so no need to fire you completely.
This doesn't require cursing. He is cheating on you. That is guaranteed. So the issue is are you the main chick or side chick? Pay him unannounced visit and see what happen. If he let you in and deny the other girl, he might still have feelings for you otherwise, am sorry to say that your 9 years is wasted.
ReplyDeleteMtcheeeeeew!
ReplyDeleteSo wetin make we do?
Shld Stella set up a 7 man c'tee to probe ur boyfriend?
Maybe u need a hot slap to reset ur brain.
Arrant nonsense!
Haney
U sef y u leavin things behind u wan spoil in paroles? Nawa 4 u'ooo! Loool 9years ov dating I'm sorry to say buh I think ur really foolish wth mehn some ladies r just retarded be there looking for advice when you know the truth deep within you. U better shine your eye and move ahead. 9years Chai. 1yr is enough to find out if your compatible and move to the next level.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad SDK offered you a seat because you have been standing in one place for too long.
ReplyDeleteTake that seat - THINK, REFLECT, SEARCH YOUR MIND THOROUGHLY, PRAY, MAKE A DECISION.
Allow me to help with the last...
You decision....?
This is what accountants call a bad debt written off.
WRITE HIM OFF.
Bobo, dey enjoy o show free. Im dey play away match too and you still dey ask question...
Kai! Women!
Is he your identical twin? 10year yet he's not even proud of you. Even if two of you joined hand to Bomb create this world. Dump him now and run for your life. You are Ŋo̶̷̩̥̊͡ longer a Kid.
ReplyDeleteMadam.no nod to cuss u out but I beg u to park ur dusty stuffs frm hs apartment nd run as fast as u can cos d boy s nt ready yet to b a man.ur destined man wl find u nd help u arrange ur shoes nd stuffs in hs house.bt until then close ds chapter of ur life b4 its too late.i cn imagine addin 9yrs to ur age nd hw old u wld b now.its nt worth it dear
ReplyDeleteYoung Forever
Dear Poster, is I that you don't have sense or you have but don't know how to use it? Let me borrow you mine small. My sincere advice for you is Run! Run!! Run!!!
ReplyDeleteAbeg SDK give her more of ur beautiful seats to siddon to read curse nd blows frm left nd write,OSHISKOLOGY
ReplyDeleteWetin u want us to advice u on biko, u wan turn methusela for dis yinmu relationship of urs
Abeg Datz a clear indication dat he has no room for u in his life,sista run for ur life jare.9yrs nd he hides ur stuff each time u leave him for bizness in lagos
Sister use ur tongue to count ya teeth ooo biko
By d way how old r u or do I sense desperation all over u,my dear marriage isn't d last busstop ooo.
Park well nd think
"I can say we lived those 9yrs practically together" like seriously???
ReplyDeleteE jor oh, kilonje practically? The simple truth is that U sold urself short ngwanu. There is nothing left to the imagination nah? And the guy has probably had enough. And to think he was even living in ur place oh!!! Chai
Please move on as fast as your legs can carry you. Beht errrrm, U no try.
My dear you are not the only woman in his life, for your sanity dont ask him if he is seeing someone else, gently bring to his notice that you've been togethe for nine years and you'd want to know his plans for you. Plus you better start building your own life cause the reason he hides your stuffs is because there is anoda woman.
ReplyDeleteU think u r in love? Wake up! U hv bn a host in a parasitic relationship. He doesn't love u n will never marry u. For chrissake there r millions of well to do responsible men seeking for ur hand in marriage but u think u hv Invested in this relationship. U will come back to his house n see his wife there. U r strong n hardworking. U need a better man to make u atain the height God has mapped out for u. Leave that looser. God! Girl move on. U surrond urself wt depressed ladies that is y u think u can't do better than this loser u r wt now. See that quiet good guy beside u, asking u out? Give him a chance n u will see u hv wasted nine years of ur life wt an irresponsible ballless walking mass of testosterone.
ReplyDelete/Chilli
Jeez,insult of life,ball less walking mass of testosterone
DeleteMy dear dont bother asking us for advise, he is seeing someone else. Girls take note him spending a longer time dating u doesn't mean u havent become the side chick. Y is it taking him too long to make u his Mrs. God give u wisdom. Mrs O
ReplyDeleteMadam u be mumu, Nine years wow!!! The moment u present urself cheap to a man he will treat u as such. The handwriting is on the wall, I had a similar experience, in my case he didn't bother hiding it. All he said was he had friends who stayed over, yet the lady marked the whole place with a clothes. Long story short, I ended a four years relationship over what I won't have seen as a big deal before.
ReplyDeleteNa dis kind talk dey provoke me o. Ah ah dey no born u were dem born oda ppl ni?
ReplyDeleteAm sure this poster join mouth yab Toke Makinwa on this blog. Toke head go catch u. Gal he has lived with you for so long without marrying you, 4get it even if he keeps ur stuffs on display in his room he won't marry you. Oya as I dey talk so make u move on to d nxt man.
ReplyDeleteI also dated my woman long b4 marriage. Poster the issue here is not that he doesn't love you or wouldn't marry you, the thing is men sometimes would wanna test some other food before they finally get married to their woman. I did same to my wife not bcuz I didn't love her but bcuz she was far and I felt that was an opportunity for me to eat some free food b4 marrying her. I was always hidding her clothes in my guest room each time she left hahahahhahaha. And on many occassions, she cought me because i forgot to bring back her clothes to the room before her usual visit. Poster if he dated you 9yrs, obviously he loves you and most definitely will marry you. In these days that we don't have good women around for marriage, it will be a big mistake for any man to throw away precious jewel who has stayed with him for nine years. Who will he marry if he throws away such a woman?? The one he dated for 6months ?? Nay. Poster in my opinion, he will marry you, he just wanna play around a little before getting married to you.
ReplyDeleteAnon 1:11pm,I had earlier typed an epistle to reply the RUBBISH you just typed here but changed my mind(guess am in a good mood today...lol) You saying 'he just wanna play around a little before getting married to you' goes a long way to show the kind of ?man you are...All the best to your precious jewel(wife) who you love(d) so much...she sure would need the good wishes!!!
Deleteu r a bloody bastard. U r a bunkum! Ur wife will cheat on u n u will be left dumbfounded. Ogbenye onu ntu
DeleteRenee you are a bloody bastard. Why are you insulting him for speaking his mind? Bunkum oshi
DeleteRenee you are a bloody bastard. Why are you insulting him for speaking his mind? Bunkum Oshi
DeleteRenee you are a bloody bastard. Why are you insulting him for speaking his mind? Bunkum oshi
DeleteI guess you are ignoring the signs cos you have invested (wasted) 9yrs of your life with the moron.
ReplyDeleteMy ex boyfriend sat me down about 10months into our dating to tell me he had another girlfriend and he hides my stuff when the oda girl comes around and puts them back before I come. I dumped the fool without second tots and the idiot was angry that I dint cry during the breakup (he was crying, ode!) But at least he even had the respect for me to put my things back in place so I dont suspect what is going on. Your boyfriend is cheating on you and rubbing it in your face.
Better give yourself brain and walk
Jen
What about if the lady is cheating on his boyfriend.most of the comments here points to the guy.na wa oh.
ReplyDelete@Haney, LMAO, u funny wella. Poster pls do urself good and think twice ok.
ReplyDeleteBabe your muguism no get part 2 I swear! Oh you think after 9 years your man can't stray? Some married men with 30 years under their belt stray like dogs not to talk of a bf.
ReplyDeleteIn case you are yet to figure it out, your bf is straying like a lost sheep! (but in his own case, am sure he knows where he is going :D). He hides your stuff? why won't he? you want his other babes to find out & spoil show?
I will advise you to move on (with your belongings scattered all over his apartment)...people still dey date for 9 years? you must be the biggest learner ever. Let me tell you, if a man wants to make you his wife, 6 months is enough for him to know so for that man to waste 9 good years of your life hum, You sef check am.
Ah ah the same people plus the men that advocate a cheating husband are insulting this woman. Lady, advise yourself. Obviously,you sense issues. When will women be strong and sensible enough to use their God given brain. Stop seeking advice from these people that will just push you into fire. You know this man is not ready, please find your way and stop lying to yourself. And when you find a husband or vice versa, please have some self respect. You are not to be treated any how inugo? Unfortunately, you will dump this one and run into the hands of men similar to what we have on here as some of the spouses of commenters and the commenters themselves. Get your self worth together and understand that a man does not complete you...husband or not. Love yourself before jumping into something else. Work on yourself first please. Or you will end up here living the life of tolerating nonsense.
ReplyDeleteWhat a wasted 9yrs of ur life!i I knw of a guy who had a girlfriend like u... They practically did things 2geda including investing heavily in business... one day he secretly engaged another woman, went through 6 months marriage counseling... Wen his live in girlfriend found out, she was spiting fire...she reported him to the church marriage counselors and guess what the mofo said? He told them that he's now a born again Christian, d@ old things have passed away and Now he's a new creature...To cut the long story short, he finally married d lady he got engaged to. Funny world huh?! Shine ya eyes and walk out NOW! Don't ask him if he's cheating on u blah blah blah... Just leave d mudafucker! (Forgive my french) 9yrs nor b beans... I know... but for ur own good, leave and purge him outta ur system...God will send u your OWN man in less than 3months. I know ur heart is bleeding right as u read all of our thoughts(comments)... Not to worry bae, u will bubble soonest and we will all gather to celebrate with you. I love u but God loves you most! #hugs#.
ReplyDeleteZinny's_mebor.
I really want to be sincere with. you,you dated someone for 9years and both of you stayed in different cities,if he's not a genuine believer of his religion, he will cheat on you,either with a lady or in his mind,no matter his level of discipline, no one can tell you who your man really is except you, he might seem to have changed because he has left you but you know him for who he is,marriage is a decision you don't force, did you catch him.cheating NO,do you think he's cheating? your answer but if its YES,please, please don't go,its temptation and it mostly comes not because you should walk away but knowing there are bigger problems when the relationship gets older,if you love him,bring out the truth in him.God bless you but use your head this time.
ReplyDeleteº°˚˚˚°ºнaĦaнaº°˚˚˚°º Aunty stella where do Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ get ur stools from! @poster jus like stella, I hope SDKers dnt cuss Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ out but its inevitable #yimu#AreŸ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ ALearner
ReplyDeleteMy dear, you are not overreacting. And yeah, when your things are around the house, he begins to feel less as a man. In fact, he actually begins to feel emasculated. He also begins to feel like a woman and may even try on some of your clothes and your shoes. He might want to try on your bras too.
ReplyDeleteSo you see, he doesn't want to be a cross dresser. That why he hides your things, to avoid that temptation.
Besides, considering all you both have been through, he will definitely marry you. Patience is a virtue. Please patiently wait for 5 more years and i'm sure he will commit.
Lol..your sarcasm no get part 2
DeleteBabes biko take loooonnng walk. I love that old saying that "if you love a bird, let it fly if it's yours it will always find it's way back home" I know it's very hard to get over someone you care about. But sometimes you just need to be FIRM!
ReplyDeletePack your stuffs and leave his house, drop his keys on your way out. Don't pick his calls or reply messages.
You can start by editing his name to oloshi on your fone. That way each time you see the call it's oloshi calling. I'm sure no one wants to answer oloshi. Lol always work for me when I need to ignore someone.
I'm sure this guy would come begging if you can truly ignore him. And if he doesn't, then join a gym, or exercise at home whatever you need to do. Groom yourself and look out for the right man abeg.
Did I hear you murmur but men are scarce? No way! Good women are scarce. So make yourself a "good thing" and your man will locate you.
There are too many fishes in the sea, why die for one that maybe nothing but bones. Isssshhhh
This poster na chairlady of LEARNERS COMMUNITY, 9 freaking yrs???. Honestly I don't no wat to say, 9yrs pikin don dy write common entrance na,e don even dy report d mama to d papa sef. Women we are d cause of our wahala,dis guy is obviously cheating on u and he knows u can't dump his ass. I met my hubby june ,we did our intro NOV,trad. DEC and white APRIL(less dan a year). U don't need to date a guy for yrs to be sure,u need to go on ur knees and ask God for direction. Hope say u never pursue ur MR RIGHT cos of this ur unserious boyfriend o cos if he wants to get married now he will look for one oshelenge marry dat is wen he will start counting the abortions u have had for him(MEN MEN MEN). Pls nobody shld s me out o,na my opinion
ReplyDelete*Cuss me out*
DeleteIt is true that every single lady wants to get married,Poster,I know you can read the handwriting on the wall but you are scared that if you leave him, it may be tough getting another man. I share your fears but I have this to say to you...
ReplyDeleteIt is better to stay single, than have a man disrespect you, insult your intelligence, milk you and even at that, still not marry you, if he eventually marries you, it is even worse for you.