In love..?
Planning the wedding already?
shocked out of your bone marrow when the first slap landed your cheeks?
what you should do?
thinking if you should walk and find love again after so many heartaches or stay and pray the next slap will never come?
I call this situation ''between the devil and the deep blue sea''
''Am 24 years and I have had dated 3 guys previously. They are all married with kids now, it makes me very unhappy cos am always the one who walks away. I was so in love with my last, but he did so many wrongs which I always forgave him till it got to a point when I couldn't take it anymore. I had to leave him immediately I was posted to Abuja for NYSC.
Some months later he begged for us to get back but I refused. I cried the day he was getting married cos I was stil in love with him..... but I have already put everything behind me, and I so regret all my actions
The problem now is I just broke up with my current boyfriend cos he hit me. I still love him though, but am sick and tired of everything. He has been begging me for over a month and all my friends are begging on his behalf to forgive him. Am just so confused.....
Should I move on or forgive him????
Will I regret leaving him as I regretted leaving my ex??? I know for sure he loves me, we where already planning to get married next year and am so used to his family.... but dating a woman beater scares the hell out of me.
Have you had an ex you wished you forgave and you are still together? ''
*DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ALERT.
My bf jus dumped me
ReplyDeleteAwww sorry. Take hug
DeleteWhat really happened?Why did he dump u?Am sorry about that but u can throw more details..SDKers are here for u...
Delete**********I so love this Blog*********
Haa! Valentine gone bad!...sorry o....take hug
DeleteSorry anon10.6 but dats so funny and I tik ure not serious haba two days to val he dumped u?
DeleteHaa! Valentine gone bad!...sorry o....take hug
DeleteMy dear,
DeleteUr BF is a broke ass nigger!
U sef try and upgrade n live all dese chewing gum boys.
Don't give him face wen e coms calling rite after the val is over.
Cry if u av to, but MOVE ON n do so quickly.
Anon !0:06, he dumped u cos maybe his main chick asked him to spend the Val with him and he decided to come clean. Sorry dear but, you were the side chick, oops
DeleteNa because of valentine. No mind am. E go return after 14th.
DeleteBroke nigga. Oshisco.....Lol
Don't ruin your mascara darlyn...wipe your tears. Maybe he wasnt good enough..or was of your fault?
Tell us, what actually happened?
Copy the BB pin and chat @ your own peril. .who leaves their PINs on blogs biko? Hiann!
Deleteawww i am sure he will be back after valentine
DeleteBroke up with mine or should I say he indirectly broke up with me after saying marriage is not on his agenda for now...
DeleteAku wetin u dey talk na.
DeleteHmm I had 1 dat was a choker, an arm twister, slapper etc dis guy adored d ground I walked on but once a male calls me n dat male is not my bro na war. I found it hard to leave cos dere r very few guys dat can wash n cook d sex OMG a guy who can use his tongue 2 work wonders etc n he was even telling me I can't get any1 lyk him which is true I can't n won't. Who needs a psycho? Once I left I've never looked back. Pick race oo!
DeleteDo u really wanna walk away cos he hit u? Is that wot u really want?is there sth else he did ur not telling us? Sha u gotta stop being too choosy,maybe u fink age is still on ur side so every lil thing a dude does is enof reason to walk away. Shine ur eyes oh,there are 1001gurls out there willing to replace ya. There's no perfect r/ship anywhere oh,u knw d grass is always greener on d other side. Sha...
ReplyDeleteDomestic Violence can best be described wif Newton's 3rd Law of motion:For every action there's a reaction. This is mostly d case except for those whose partners are mentally deranged n would hit 'em for no reason @all. There must be things u aint doing right. The prob maybe within. Work on ur character,how u talk,how u express ur anger,etc n u'll avoid being hit.
Am not saying domestic violence is nice,buh we women know how to make d men in our lives go so far wif our mouths we push 'em beyond their limits. They r humanbeings as well n are bound to react esp when he's pushed to d wall so many times.
Then men,learn to respect d difference btw both sexes,learn to overlook all d horrible things we say when we r so mad @u,we are born to be d talkative sex n that's y ur there to listen to us,overlook us when there's need to n then try talk some sense into us afterwards. *dropsmic**
Poster, IGNORE this comment. You are NOT married yet, so run like Bolt o.
DeleteNma seriously? Like really? ....and age is not on her side? She's just 24. She's a child. Hmmmm. It's better to have a broken relationship than a broken head, limbs and marriage. Let me advice you my dear, if you're not married, watch out for the signs. They are always there. Watch out! That's not being choosy. It might take you another 6 years to find love but it will be worth the wait. A real man will leave his talkative wife, take a walk and come back when he has cooled off instead of hitting her, give her the silent treatment, starve her if axe or leave her half way. There r too many things to make her come correct biko. Which one be slap, hit! Nahhhhhh
DeleteORIGINAL CEECEE Cool whatever ... You are the singe handedly the most sick and brainwashed female I have ever come across. Tufiakwa... Gbu pu aso... There is no reason on earth for a man to put hands on anyone NONE! When his mother runs her mouth at him does he beat her? Does he beat his boss? Does he beat his friends?? Of course not! Because he is a bully. I'm so disgusted by this comment it gave me goosebumps. Because you have low self esteem doesn't mean everyone else will! Now run away and find a woman bitter
Delete@cool-nma. I reason with you a little. @poster needs to check herself. You can't condole a gf/wife beater but it seems there's something wrong you re doing cos why will her all 3 ex's and current bf always raising their hands on her? Reason am now! You need to check yourself, your character, behaviour; attitude etc probably there's something wrong your doing, theyve cautioned you cos you don't do same thing expecting to get different result. @poster, forgive your current boyfriend then work on yourself.
Delete*of sex
DeleteI am shocked @ ur comment Nma. How den do we get a society free from domestic violence? Hitting is a no no no matter wot she did. Wot happened 2 walking away? Dat means she shld always expect dat reaction any time she does wot she did n am guessing she ran her mouth that's wot girls do. Avoid being hit? That's walking on egg shells arnd d 1 u r supposed 2 be most comfy wit. My dear, decide wot u want 2 do n live wit d outcome. N 2 young mothers, soon to be mothers, pls teach ur boys hitting girls is a very bad thing that way they grow with it.
DeleteI am shocked @ ur comment Nma. How den do we get a society free from domestic violence? Hitting is a no no no matter wot she did. Wot happened 2 walking away? Dat means she shld always expect dat reaction any time she does wot she did n am guessing she ran her mouth that's wot girls do. Avoid being hit? That's walking on egg shells arnd d 1 u r supposed 2 be most comfy wit. My dear, decide wot u want 2 do n live wit d outcome. N 2 young mothers, soon to be mothers, pls teach ur boys hitting girls is a very bad thing that way they grow with it.
DeleteHian, onwere ka comment a di o
DeleteThank you Julit. Imagine a fellow woman telling another woman to work on herself. That's how my ex kept making it look like my fault each time we quarreled though he wasn't violent but he used my past against me saying that's why I had bad relationships in the past and that I needed to see a counselor which I did oh. According to him, I was a broken person and I needed mending but he was the perfect man who was always saying the right things. Smh. Fast forward to last Dec, I met someone who accepted me as broken as I was and we have had only one major disagreement, I can do no wrong in his eyes. I'm so happy! Stop blaming women abeg, a real man would take a walk and come back to the house later. Better waka now o if u don't want to come back to this blog with ur story after a few years of marriage. Nothing like a battered woman, it affects ur job and ur kids...look before you leap. From a DV survivor.
Delete@cool nma,marry me! Lol... Many people don't face reality. No sane guy will just wake up one day n start beating his gf/wife...many ladies bring out d beast in their guys n dey start playing victim n screaming dv.
Delete@cool nma,marry me! Lol... Many people don't face reality. No sane guy will just wake up one day n start beating his gf/wife...many ladies bring out d beast in their guys n dey start playing victim n screaming dv.
Delete@cool nma, d girl doesn't necessarily need to provoke d man bfore he hits u...I once had a bf who was so abusive and wen u ask him y he acts dat way, he will say "it is bcos of d luv he has for me"...one thing I know abt abusive men is dat dey ar always sorry...dey can hit u n d next minute start apologising profusely..so dear cool nma, bfore u start blaming d poster...think deeply...@poster, kindly pack ur load n leave
DeleteNma u really tried,buh 2 sm xtent u got it wrong; as 4 me I cnt b a man's punching bag cos gals re nt smilin,rada ℓ̊ wil simply adopt dis Craig David's song walking away cos body nob fire wood. My fellow ladies no mata ur age,wait 4 d best cos God knws u unless u deny him dat. All d same we re df ppl wit df xteristics,sm gals prefers bin beaten jst 2 make sure dia re sm1s MRS (too bad,hmmm)
Delete@ Nma, no matter what she said or did, once she didn't hit him, he has NO RIGHT WHATSOEVER to hit her. A real man will know when and how to walk away when his spouse/ partner hurts him and will not resort to his fists, NO MATTER WHAT. If she insulted him verbally, worse case, he should do same and insult her too. Let's stop condoning domestic violence IN ANY FORM. It is very worn for a man to hit a woman for whatever reason.
DeleteMy dear poster, move on with life and forget his sorry ass. You will eventually meet that man of your dreams who will respect you and cherish you. Remember the saying, once a hitter, always a hitter. You are still too young for all this drama.
@ Nma, no matter what she said or did, once she didn't hit him, he has NO RIGHT WHATSOEVER to hit her. A real man will know when and how to walk away when his spouse/ partner hurts him and will not resort to his fists, NO MATTER WHAT. If she insulted him verbally, worse case, he should do same and insult her too. Let's stop condoning domestic violence IN ANY FORM. It is very worn for a man to hit a woman for whatever reason.
DeleteMy dear poster, move on with life and forget his sorry ass. You will eventually meet that man of your dreams who will respect you and cherish you. Remember the saying, once a hitter, always a hitter. You are still too young for all this drama.
@coolmma: U made so much sense, I like! May God help us/May we be better beings, Amen
DeleteAbeg borrow leg join urs nd start singing craig davis"walking away" inugo?
ReplyDeleteSpot on!
DeleteI agree with toyo, dating in a relationship is usually d lovey-dovey, so if he's already hitting u what is he going to do when d reality and stress of marriage sets In?
DeleteMoving on,
Click my name for all your celebration cakes n cupcakes, Cheers
we need a like button..well said
DeleteGbam! He hits you once, await the second,...and the third....and it keeps counting......
DeleteMy dear...morteinnnnn.......run for your lifeeeeeeee........
You are 24, run now, so that you can meet the next best one of all on time. Oya...there is fire on the mountain....run run run...
Hmm.... A woman beater will never change. Unless u r ready to receive more slaps n kicks, u can go ahead.
ReplyDeleteIt's not easy to do away with d one u love but mehn I refuse to be a punching bag to one modafucker all in d name of love. @ poster think well n know wat u want. Only u can tell urself d truth! My own two cent
Rough diamond where hv you been? Welcome back.
DeleteHuman actions are very unpredictable...we've heard many stories about 'very sweet' guys who turn to wife beaters n cheats after marriage...fela didn't drink,smoke or womanize in the first few years of his marriage according to yeni kuti,u can see what happened to him later...people change,dat's d fact...
DeleteYou have a big heart. If anyone I intend to marry hits me, I HATE instantly. If he's done it once, he will do it a million times over. Trust me, there are men out there shit scared of putting their hands on a woman. Find yourself one of those if you must.
ReplyDeleteGbam!!!...seconded....Poster,RUN...don't say we didn't warn you...but some women enjoys the beating sha
Deletegbamest! Some women actually enjoy sex after the beating...God forbid bad thing. With one red eye?
Delete4rm a domestic violence point of view, I wud say walk away cos dia is at least 99% chance dat he will do it again. He may not do it nw, maybe til after d wedding wen he knows u r hooked n have limited choices. Dis is d onli view 4rm which am seeing it sha. I may also suggest u work on ur self 2. 4rm ur narration it seems u r not a very patient person or u gat som ish abt ur self. U didn't tel us y u broke up wit 3 diff guys hu r all nw married. D last 1 u luvd wat happened? My dear it's a 2 way tin o. Work on ur self eh! Som ladies r quite unbearable. Dey cn bring out d deadliest beast out of d most gentle of men. Dat is not enuf reason 2 hit a woman sha (actually dias no reason at all as my father will always tell me). If u knw u r dat type of person den pls work on ur self bikonu
ReplyDeleteYaron Allah
Spot on Godpikin, I have nothing else to add.
DeleteDear Poster,if you read this blog well you should have read about little things been taking for granted, when a guy raises his hand to hit a woman he is not married to,that's a wrong sign.
ReplyDeleteAs they say,love concerns the both couples and you are the right person to take this decision but don't be mad if tomorrow you endup with him and he beats you again,be careful and do it right.
Have u checked urself, there is no excuse for dv but some people are really annoying dat they can mk you hit em. Same way we spank our kids wen they misbehave. Poster u can extend d wedding further, watch urself and watch him too. He might not be an abuser.
ReplyDeleteI JUST FOUND OUT THE PERSON WHO MAILED ME THIS HAD ALSO MAILED IT TO OTHER BLOGS..........THIS IS A MEMO TO ANYONE SENDING IN AGONY AUNT MAILS,IF YOU HAVE SENT TO ANOTHER BLOG,DONT SEND IT HERE PLS,WE ONLY TREAT EXCLUSIVE CASES HERE...FROM NOW ON I WILL USE GOOGLE BEFORE I PUBLISH ANYONES MAIL......
ReplyDeleteATTENTION SEEKER!
Stellastica!
DeleteHahahahahahahah...Stellastica egbugom....LMAO
DeleteWell said SDK.
DeleteThe things some girls will do for attention! Smh
DeleteAhhahahahhahahahhahahha........God! I just love dis Stella! Iya weyrey!
DeleteTell them dear, let them take this memo as a warning. That's what all these posters do, they will circulate their story and later, people will say Stella lifts other people's stories from diff blogs.
DeleteHahahah. Before them come use all our heads for here. This one na blog trotter. Lol
DeleteMay it not get to the d stage of tying you up and flogging you with wire.
Lol... Don't mind her Stella am sure she is 1 of those that use stew to eat jollof rice.
DeleteS to D K!!!!! Igi ya!
DeleteAbeg make una note o! We treat only exclusives here. No copies. Lol
You are not married yet you said? And he is already hitting you? DON'T MARRY HIM!
ReplyDeleteWise decision Aunty Stella. I read the story also on Laila's blog.
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ReplyDeleteAn attempt to hit alone will definitely put me on the run, not to talk of hitting me; Hmmmm Mehn, na disappearing things for me, don't actually know about you
ReplyDelete@i_ChoPtas_Not
Berra run for ur dear life or else u wld b turned to a punching bag
ReplyDeleteStella I love u so much # no homo please# I ve learnt so much from your blog. I am so addicted I dreamt I saw 800 comments on one post. You are going places. we are all like family here. Shout out to Ezewanyi, Irene , Wide d eye and mich love ur comments
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DeleteMy ex bf hit me out of the blues one day. I forgave him. By the 3rd time he did it i left him. I cried o but i realised once he starts he will never stop. Im now married to a nice guy. Been married 12 yrs and he has never hit me. As for my ex hes married to a sweet girl but he hits the shit out of her. Hear she wants to leave him after 4 kids. Poster pls leave. Once he starts he will never stop
ReplyDeleteI believe in second chances after all God gives us second chances when we misbehave.
ReplyDeleteIf he is genuinely repentant, why not give him a second chance. We all make mistakes.
ReplyDeleteHmm, na wa . U r ddamn funny 2 alwas walk ot of a relationship, I jst pray dat u marry early o. Shikena
ReplyDeleteRun for dear life my friend!!!! SLAPPERS NEVER CHANGE!! They get worse after marriage as you are then seen as a property they can kick about!
ReplyDeleteI don't see the big deal in walking out of relationships. Only a fool will walk out of something good often. Babe pls don't marry the dude cuz he will beat u well later. Leave this 1 again n while @ it pray, work on your act, learn to respect and be patient. The right dude wil locate you and you'll see why it never worked out with the rest.
ReplyDeleteI don't see the big deal in walking out of relationships. Only a fool will walk out of something good often. Babe pls don't marry the dude cuz he will beat u well later. Leave this 1 again n while @ it pray, work on your act, learn to respect and be patient. The right dude wil locate you and you'll see why it never worked out with the rest.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster please stay. You love him and he loves you too and it won't happen again. Pls don't leave him o! Stay with him, get engaged, plan a life with him, make wedding plans and if not too bad get pregnant after all you are ready to live the rest of your life with him like I did. But please holla at us here when he still hits u when u are a step away from ur third trimester carrying his baby. He will cry his eyes out each time o! But the next will be worse than the last one. So my dear Pls stay n enjoy all I did before giving myself brain to walk away.
ReplyDeleteOmo! Dear poster if u no get brain abeg borrow one n run, nt even walk.
DeleteRun run run away. Don't be a desperate chic. A broken rel/ship is better than a broken marriage. Stop jumping into rel/ships. Give urself a break. Understand who u are, work on urself. U sound like d type who's afraid of being single hence u jump @ wrong guys First/second dates I'd know if u r a material 4 me or not. Relax nwanne no rush in life. #Belle
ReplyDeleteWalk away my dear,av been a victim of domestic violence,dated a Guy who is crazy in love with mi but beats d sh** out of mi wen he is angry, he will con me back b n apologise n I will accept him back until d last one wen he almost killed mi, a man who lays his hands on a woman can Neva change I repeat can Neva change only with d grace of God he changes so pls walk away God will lead u 2ru
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