Hello Stella,
I have an issue at hand and it's tearing me apart and i want to share it with you and your blog family for advice
I got married about 7 years ago after dating for 4 years,I have 4 kids (boys) and I'm 31 years,I'm a lawyer while my hubby is a businessman.
I married a good man,affectionate and loving (so I tot) until .....
when I was pregnant with my 1st child.A woman came to our home and said he had promised to marry her,he denied and brought a bible out and cursed the woman of trying to break his marriage.
During my second pregnancy,he befriended a certain lady,whose friend later called me on phone to tell me her friend had taken my husband to juju in Cotonou,the woman (the friend to my husband) never came to our house again,she later lost her house,car and business,she now begs in order to eat.
When I was pregnant with my third son a very POPULAR NIGERIAN ACTRESS said she was pregnant for him,he confessed that it was one night of drunkenness which led to that,the actress went to almost everyone my husband respected to beg them to talk to him to marry her as a second wife,that phase also passed......*EYES WIDE IN SHOCK*
Let me chip in that my mother in law whom I love like my own mother seems to blame satan for almost everything bad,anytime I complain to her she tells me it was satan who was trying to bring confusion into my marriage,at a time I even thought the woman didn't like me.
When I met my husband he had nothing,we built everything we have by ourselves,when he had money to build a house I convinced him to build a house in the east so his parents could live in it without thinking about my own comfort.
I recently delivered my last boy and both of his parents came to omuguo and just last Sunday we went to church and afterwards, my mum in law and i went to see our pastor and immediately he saw us he told us to tell my hubby to come for deliverance on behalf of the family and he said he had to come to the house to pray in the house.
We went home and not long afterwards my house helps auntie called me that she was not well and wanted my house help to come and stay with her to help her,I immediately became alert,this is a girl who had stayed with me for 5 years and I can't begin to tell you what I have done for her.
I called the girl and asked her if she preferred going to and fro or she would rather go and stay there permanently and she said she would go and stay there permanently.i was shocked to the bone but I drove her to her aunt"s place the following day Monday only to be called by her aunt later in the day that my girl said my husband wants to sleep with her and considering how good I was to her she was better off leaving the house....
You can imagine my shock!!
I confronted my husband and lo and behold he denied flatly and said that the girl was a witch and asked why she told me that and she had to leave on the pretext that her aunt was sick on the day the pastor said he would come to the house to pray!!!
The pastor eventually came and prayed and warned my hubby and i that we had a problem between us and that we had to settle and make peace before any good thing could happen in our home.
1. With the track record of my husband I don't believe him one bit,but he swears he never did that.
2. Why would the girl say that kind of thing whien she could have said any other thing.
3. Why say her aunt is not well and leave the day the pastor says he has to come to the house to pray?
4.how can a man I thought was the best husband even think of sleeping with a house help?
I want a divorce,but I'm afraid if I leave and it later turns out the allegations were not true then my kids will blame me for not being patient enough.
My father in law collapsed and had to be rushed to the hospital,his blood pressure was 220/140, and he could easily have gotten a stroke,I am confused about all this,is it the devil trying to cause problem in my family???
Or is the devil himself is the one I married???
Thanks and please don't cuss me out cos I don't want to descend into being suicidal,it has crossed my mind to end it all....
OMG...see gist...make i siddon ..poster name the actress before i go give you advice.mail me who the actress is please..i siddon dey wait for your mail..thank you.
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Hmmmm. It's wah o
ReplyDeleteReal wa! There's a lot that needs to be addressed in that home, both spiritually and otherwise.
DeleteMeanwhile,
Click my name for all your celebration cakes n cupcakes, Cheers
Please,Name the actress so we'd know if some Celebrities are worth Celebrating.
DeleteLove is about giving and not receiving.
DeleteFor God so loved the world that He gave...
Love forgives all things and bears all things. 1 cor 13:7
your actions with prayer will definitely convict him.
When you feel overwhelmed, get on ur knees. You have so much power when you are on your knees. God bless you
Buh why did ds ur househelp run away after d deliverance was conducted?
DeleteDo u know itz vewi possible,ur husband is clean ds time around buh u know once trust is lost nuffin d person says matters anymore? And we tend to take everything he says as lies.
He made passes @her abi? Since when kwanu? U've been wif her for 5yrs abi? And he's still @d making a pass stage? Abi she suddenly turned to "Beyonce" overnight?
I'd say overlook this one,let's pretend it didn't haPpen,keep investigating,look inwards too n make sure d prob isn't from u and if u find out he's cheating again,u can then move out! I sha hope u guys had court wedding oh so he'll pay tru his nose when u divorce him(if he got some good money)
*hopeImadesense**
@ poster suicide won't end it alll. Haba u hv 4 beautiful boiz dat shud make u wanna live till u c their kids n possibly kids-kids. If u kill ursellf naw who will take care of dem? Pls don't commit suicide let God in2 ur family n c how He turns thinqz around 4u.
Delete@cool nma wat a dumb comment. I hope no bi man go kill u last last cos d way u r ready to believe any lie dat comes from a man's mouth n condole him even when he beats u baffles me.
DeleteSorry o? Pele.
Abeg go submit the man name to powerful prophet o jare. Turn him to gbewudani as he cannot control himself. You have to tame him before he sends you to an early grave.
DeleteAunty stella pls post d name of d actress biko.
DeleteStella I follow u siddon 2 o....
ReplyDeleteYaron Allah
@poster,pls I beg u in the name of God,don't act based on anybody's advice.there are adviser from d pit of hell here.most of d so-called are unmarried or unhappy in their relationships/marriage. Continue to pray n God will guide u to take d right step...the steps of d righteous are ordered by the Lord
DeleteMy dear I believe the maid isn't lying going by your husband's history.
DeleteDon't divorce him yet just make him ur maga.
Stop seeing the liar as the husband u married.
Concentrate on being happy n giving ur kids the best.
Lastly get urself a correct guy who can make up the bedmatics part.
Bring ur testimony on SDK n thank me.
Dis girl abi na woman m-amie ur comments can be misleading sometyms oh,,so she shud frolick around since her husband is frolicking too? Smh .poster its obvious d devil wanna rip ur family apart,u just have to kip praying,suicide aint an option neither is devorce since u're nt certain,wen u feel downcast look @ ur lil boys trust me u'd see a reason to live,it is well.
DeleteThis is a personal decision and you can get him to tell you the truth by the way you pray, there are prayers your partner listens to and become so unbalanced,there are prayers your partner listens to and confesses to you,its a personal decision and a personal battle, don't leave until you are convinced and don't even leave until you have a very good proof.
ReplyDeleteLet him know your anger,your pain and the decision you almost took, and please please go for family and household deliverance, there are things we do not know or see,there are things we do not believe that is happening but in reality they are happening; it could probably be a curse, a fight from the enemies camp and don't take it lightly;God bless.
Seconded....
DeleteCheers!
The idea of living happily ever after in a marriage is almost impossible, poster dont divorce ur hubby, u can relocate abroad with ur kids or move to a different state, dat way u ll be married but living single which is actually the best for u.
DeleteDid you say she should relocate abroad with her kids? Which abraod?? Walahi that will make the husband go worst, freedom of Infidelity gone from bad to worst. Gaskiya she should sit her self here in Nigeria and fight for her marriage physically and spiriitually. If she's relocating, husband,wife and kids will relocate together. shikena!
DeleteGod save us from wicked and unfaithful men,you have to make this decision yourself.
DeleteKaycee you have spoken well. Imagine what happened with the second lady he cheated on her with who now begs to feed. deliverance is highly recommended.
Delete@ nma, u can't say d maid is lying, I have been married for 6 yrs now and my hus cheats alot, d only one dat pained and changed my life for good, is dat of my maid, I have a maid dat have stayed with me for 5yrs and 7months, late last yrs, she came to meet me in my room and told me, aunty whenever I am sleeping somebody keep's on touching my body, u know us nigerian women, I told her is spiritual husband, dat she should do prayers, after like 2days, she told me dat d touching keeps happening, I didn't know dat d poor girl was trying to pass a massage to me, and she confronted my hubby, dat if he continues she will be force to tell me d aunty, it got to a stage when my husband come's to touch her, she will stand up and work out of the room and go and sit in d stairs, until day break, do u know why she didn't want to tell, she didn't want to break my home and she know it will hurt my feeling so bad, finally she could not take it anymore, she surmmoned courage and told me dat it was my husband, my heart broke into piece, I need evidence fast, I told her to call with her phone when my hubby is around, dat is how I caught my husband red handed and he deny it immediately and I went crazy, it almost broken my marriage, but it changed my life and affection toward my husband, [1] i love my children d more and I kept in one corner, 2] I stop praying and fasting for him, becos he is not worthy d prayers, I can't kill myself over any man, right now I am happy and relax with my self, my sis life is sweet if u can put d man in one corner. Right he want my love and affection, but now it is too late. So my dear writer do commit sucide, he is not worth dying for. I rest my case.
DeleteNote to women:
ReplyDeleteTrust your instinct as a woman. They never lie. If your instinct tell you your husband is dirty, he sure as hell is.
About getting divorced, if you can cope being a single parent, go ahead.
Also, there's nothing wrong in thinking the man you're marrying is this best. That's how you're meant to think of him anyway until his traits decide to show and it will shock you because no one wants ugly!
That deliverance might just be the solution to it all. Try God!
Exactly! @ Julit
DeleteJulit i stand by u
Deletesometimes u see things in ur marriage dat make u wonder n wish its possible to turn back the hand of time but watever it is PRAYER is d only decent solution unless u want to go the vodoo way which can backfire
so just pray my dear
I agree with you @ julit
Delete@julit,your comment is so on point. A woman must always trust her instinct, it is a special gift from God to women
DeleteMe sef siddon dey wait.... name dropping please. ....
ReplyDeleteMs
Patiently waiting Ooooo
ReplyDeleteMe too dey wait oooohhhh.!!!!
DeleteMe too oooooooo
DeleteWaiters club association of SDK!!!
DeleteBad marriages everywhere. We need to really imbibe divorce and child support in our culture, that way the men ll be better behaved. So long as d men continue to getaway with all these, marriages shall continue to be a house of sorrow.
ReplyDeleteThey will never pass such laws in Nigeria...its against our culture. we are already allowing yu pipo to wear trouser. What more do u want? All of una gather pot belly like say una dey compete with chief of defense staff.
DeleteEven if they pass such a silly law, u guys will know the meaning of prenup...it aint pretty
Fool of our generation!
DeleteSee the way u are talking about trouser as if its a big deal...na ur mama and all the women in ur family get pot belly!
The yab pain you die Oo. Go hug transformer Na. Bring any stupid Oyinbo and d guys go just panji. After all before you even wink at any babe she go don begin teleguide you towards marriage. Dem marry finish now and e no work dem go begin talk rubbish.
DeleteSome frustrated women here! There is an eraser for a pencil, right? Divorce and child support laws? What are you people smoking? In a country where polygamy is legit? And you can sign prenup before marrying any woman or man?
DeletePlease look for sane alternatives before you import some cultures that will cause more problems in our land. Afterall, OJ's story is still fresh in our minds.
We all deserve to be treated well, men and women. Find that perfect partner is the challenge, may God help us all.
Wow....this is rather a dicey situation. Dear Poster, Please what you need right now is to get closer to God personally because only then can you get a personal conviction on what is going on in your home.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, you are the owner of your home and it is in your hands. The fastest journey to getting to God is the distance between your knees and the floor. Hit your maker with your request sincerely and you will definitely be victorious.
I wish you all the best.
Cheers!
Speechless!! What in God's Name is happening to marriages nowadays?!!
ReplyDeletewow, this is deep, well, like Dr. Chris wrote in the Daily Manna of the 9th of this month it was titled "A LETTER FROM GOD TO A WOMAN AND A MAN", the first point reads thus, "Don't try to fix him, if he develops a fault, I'm his manufacturer and you will need to talk to Me about him, you are his wife, not his God, I don't particularly like it when you think you can change him and you attempt to take My place" I hope this helps
ReplyDeleteThis passage just gave me the chills
DeleteEh.... Coughs..... Poster o, u trust ur husband??? Human being can lie sha!
ReplyDeleteDo u trust him?
@ Galore hope u r still on dis blog? I miss u!
Poster I understabd your situation perfectly, not knowing who or what to believe, asking yourself why they would do it over and over againm
ReplyDeletemy dear, cross suicide out of your mind completely, you've got 4 boys to take care of, live your life for them, concentrate on positive things only, blank out all negative Energy.
As for your houselelp and your hubby, even if she travels out of Nigeria and the reason she left was because she was afraid of being called out; if ur pastor is really spirit filled you will still know if she's a witch or not, but I wouldn't put it past your hubby to have made passes at her.
Don't leave your marriage, work things out with him, give him another chance(s) but if you feel you can't take it anymore just take a walk, but if there's still a little chance that you still want him,since you started with I married a Good Man. then fight for your marriage.
And you are supposed to be a lawyer?
ReplyDeleteCheck out your reasoning, satan causing problem in your marriage? Lmaoo!!!
Wait until your so called pastor wrecks your marriage. Why would anyone allow herself/himself to be manipulated by a pastor?
The problem I see in your marriage is that your husband seems to be a serial womanizer and please don't blame satan for that. Many men are like that, some women also cheat. There is cross to carry in every marriage, unfortunately for you, this is your own. You want a divorce for an allegation you cannot produce any shred of evidence on? Your House girl said, it could possibly be true but you don't have any proof. Go ahead with your divorce, another woman will be praying very hard that you leave.
Gbam gbam gbamest. And it's true, your husband wanted to sleep with the house help and I know you know.
DeleteAnd this one dey follow anon.10:39 do gbamest!!! Na wa o! So bcos that's how life is, she should accept her husband's cheating. If she contract HIV from him now, na una go first call her stupid for staying when she knew about his cheating ways. All men who cheat are dogs, if you like defend yourselves with any type of reason to support your stupid act!
DeleteJust go to God in prayer. That's all I can say
ReplyDeleteNa wa o. Thingsss are happening. Lord see us through this journey called marriage. But what is wrong with men of this generation? I dnt get it. Everyday we here of Infidelity coming from the men. @poster, you're indeed a strong woman I commend your effort. Just take things easy so you won't develop Hbp. As for your house girl, you can set a trap for her to validate your claim. Apologize to her, assuring her your husband confess to you and he has changed. Plead with her to come back to your house. If she agrees, plant a camera in your house; your bedroom, sitting room, her room, and the kitchen to monitor their activities. Don't allow your husband know about this. Why am saying this is to clear the doubt if she's truely running away due to the deliverance being conducted or your husband wanting to sleep with her. Then talk to your paster to come conduct the deliverance then watch her reaction. If everything goes on smootly after that, then your husband is not being truthful. As for the foolish actress wanting to reap where she did not sow a dime, dnt give her a breathing space. @poster, I hope you're not the quit type, hmm you better fight for your marriage. Go as far as publicly disgracing that idiotic actress. She wants to be a second wife by all means just imagine that. Fight for your marriage with all you've got. May God give you the wisdom to handle things in your home.
ReplyDelete.....and always go to God in prayer.
Delete...too dramatic a solution
DeleteSome men need this level of drama to reset their stupid brains!!!
DeleteHmmm....this Institute called Marriage sha, today the man go wan fuck house girl, tomorrow wife go they suck her oga dick for office! O sun mi o
ReplyDeleteMe sef follow u siddon.....
ReplyDeleteStella hope u gonna tell us d name of the actress when she tells you?
As I'm not married, and I don't knw what it means to be married and I don't knw the level of patience you've got to have. But one thing I know for sure is that God stiLl answers prayer. Prayer is the key and it is the medicine/tablet to every sick marriage.
Too many bad marriages this days! My dear commit suicide because of one man? What of your children? You want them to grow up with a wicked step mother who will destroy their future? ( most step mothers are wicked ) Your husband is the devil himself. If you have a good job and you are financially strong then for the sake of peace move with your children. No man is worth dying for. This is one of the reasons i always say women should have their own money.
ReplyDeleteJust passing by,,,Take it to God..
ReplyDeleteAm dear don't tk of divorce yet. There is nothing God can't do. Is possible his unfaithful to u but for the sake of ur boys and what u have buit together just keep praying there is nothing God can't do
ReplyDeletePics of ur husband and d actress or I don't believe u
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaa!!!! Nairalanders are here too....
DeleteYour husband is the devil and he should take a decision on what he wants. If he wants his family intact, he should stop the nonsense he is doing. If he does not stop, then you have to flee for your life and that of your children. He obviously has been trying to sleep with the housemaid. They dont fabricate such things without the man making the move. Also, what will she gain from saying such a thing if it is not correct. Your husband should seek for forgiveness properly.
ReplyDeletePoster,what you need is prayers...don't leave your man....PRAY....MEN...when money is not there,they will be the best husband you can ever think of....But when money is there,they will automatically grow wings and fly away....mtcheeeww...
ReplyDeleteI REFUSE TO FINISH DIS STORY!
ReplyDeleteAv bin warned by my loved 1s to stop reading tales lik dis.
Its not helping me at all.
Abeg I wld pass biko.
Madam I hope u sort ur probs oo!
Kpele!
This your situation is rather deep. I don't think any of us here are in a position to advise you. Only God can fix this for you. Carry your problems to him so that we don't mislead you.
ReplyDeleteI find it rather suspicious that your husband will wait 5 years to start chasing the househelp sha. But if he did do it, he'd NEVER admit it to you, so just try to move past this.
The househelp issue has passed, and you'd never really know the truth. Just let sleeping dogs lie, and pray that God gives you a discerning spirit, and reveals everything you need to know to you.
I've heard of worse cases that had happy endings, and lesser cases that ended up really tragic.
Only you can decide what's best for you. Just consider your kids well before you make any decision, and whatever you decide, always remember to be happy. Nobody except yourself can take away your happiness.
Anon 11:54, yes d husband can't wait, if d girl is still small, assume d girl was 12yrs when she is brought to d hosue, then u add 5yrs to her age and what is d result, men can be very foolish, very little things move then and they don't think b4 they act, if it comes to sex. So forget dat thing
DeleteAbeg give us d actress name!!! We all know dat most of dem are dogsssss.................OKIJA WIFE
ReplyDeleteMy Dear,Please Never you leave your marital home for such reason please... Just ignore all that you have heard provided he still gives you all the required attention needed, its okay please.. Then get down on your knees in prayers, fasting also and let God direct and equip you with more wisdom and maturity that will make your home better and stronger. Its well. God Bless you
ReplyDelete@i_ChoPtas_Not
I know this story o, or is it a similar one? There's also an actress involved in the one I know too. Anyway, to tell you the truth Poster, your husband is the devil and there's so much you still don't know.
ReplyDeleteYou may forgive him if you like sha cus they say marriage and love is all about forgiveness but know this " Your husband is never gonna change lailai". Just grow a thick skin and live your life for you and your kids afterall there are so many women living under such conditions.
Sad for you sha......
Men!!! I knew my father was cheating on my mum since I was in jss2.. My mum knew too and was always praying 4 him to change..During that time, I can't remember my mum eating complete meals a week! Always fasting.. @ a point when I was in uni, I asked her why she wanted to kill herself.. She started focusing on herself and her children and the focus of prayer was for us to succeed in life.. Till now, my father hasn't changed.
DeleteI married my husband a virgin and just before our wedding we were talking and I told him " if you ever cheat on me, I will cheat on you with one of your friends after that, I will leave the marriage" he was shocked and asked if it was a threat, I said NO, I'm just telling you what I will do so you will know how it feels to be cheated on! He knows when I set my mind to do something, I do it..
I have seen what my mum went tru with my father and I don't want to ever expreience it. Is it the emotional and psychological pains she went through? Always having high BP. My mums excuse was that she can't just leave my dad.. What will people say??
The men too are unrepentenat and lie their way through accusations.. I'm tired of all these stories of men sleeping around like dogs.. No more value for marriage.. I wonder what advice these men will have for their daughters when they come home complaining about their cheating husbands!!!
Name names naa
DeleteNigerians are just too religious, must u blame satan for everything? You are a lawyer nd shld knw when one is telling lies, How do u expect dat little girl to tell u abt d advances oga has been making on her? Nd if truly she was d problem even in her absence ur pastor cld had said it, My dear, You need a seperation for now not all marriages re meant to work , Even in d time of our parents not all marriages Worked , Don't kill ursef!
ReplyDeleteI don't get it , a man is simply cheating on you and u are saying spiritual what is spiritual about d fact that a man just feels he s too good to be had by only you so he has to make u share him with many others and now it's ur house help , my dear he has simply been doing it so much he s now used to it he has no shame or feeling of remorse well u keep believing the whole spiritual thing if u wish but left for me there is nothing spiritual about it. In as much as I don't subscribe to jazz sometimes that seems to be the only solution especially if he s rich and good looking u need to make sure his attention is on you and your children and remains there.
ReplyDeleteD lord is ur strength lady!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMarriage dis days na waoh! Dats how a particular lady called my husband dis morning and picked she quickly cut d fone,i told my husband dat i have noticed dat each time d lady calls n i pick she always cut d fone. And guess what my husband said 'what if she cut d fone' i was shocked to my bone. Men are nt to be trusted
ReplyDeleteI am tired of reading complains about marriages daily here because most of you saw writing on the wall during courtship before you jump into marriage,you dated him for years so you should know better. You know he is no good you had 1st child,2rd child,3rd child. why didn't you close you leg? you did not stop you went further to have the 4th child with him for what? Now you want poor kids to be fatherless. You don't need advice you already know what to do,you can continue to live with him and have more babies or find the exit door. We should stop discouraging relationships and marriages with long epistle about men daily we re not that bad, this thing about cheating is general thing all over the world even America,Canada,Uk is not a Nigerian thing even the oyibo's do worst our women are no better too because men do not write their sorry tale does not mean all is well with women.
ReplyDeleteFollow ur instinct and stop all this devil things. Ur hubby like most men is a dog simple. Thank God u were good to ur house girl. U are a lawyer use ur brain but pls dont leave o. Women going thru worse are still in their husbands house.
ReplyDeleteGod! Should I give up on men already? Or kip hoping there's a decent man 4 me out there? Can't deal! @ poster, pls seek God's face in ur home. May God see u thru this trying period. Life!!
ReplyDeleteLol. Abeg when she tell you the actress name, feel free to 'confide' in me. I swear I no be olofofo.
ReplyDelete@ Poster
This is when I simply say, PRAY... PRAY AGAIN... THEN PRAY SOME MORE.
God is the only ALL-KNOWING ONE. He will guide you.
All these marriage tales sef, na wah o. Every day, new story. God, na Your hand I dey o. Who is the actress? Hmmm, things are happening.
ReplyDeleteA lot of men are not ready to give up their love for different pussies.
ReplyDeleteYou knew this before you married him, but still went ahead hoping for a change.
Well, marriage is supposed to be for lifetime (an idea which sounds almost impossible), so carry your cross with prayers or file for divorce
The choice is yours.
If this was a few years ago, I'd have said it was Liz Benson and Greg Eriyamremu.. but then again, Greg's wife wouldn't have had any moral ground to talk cos she too was chasing people's husbands shamelessly around town
ReplyDeleteYou are a big fool
DeleteSapele babe,spill some gists now,y u dey do like dis?anyway all our so called actresses r so desperate to outshine d other.@poster there is nothing to hard for God,it might seem God isn't listening or he is taking too much time in changing ur husband,but be steadfast.if all our parents left their husbands/wives,so many homes wouldn't ve been here,but our generation,we r too quick to quit.mind u,am not saying its easy,but God has promised n he won't fail.
ReplyDeletePOSTER can you go into 7days white fasting and prayers with prayer point that God should reveal all that isnt clear to you about this issue,that for what the pastor say,belive it the truth will unveil itself ,
ReplyDeleteNow you urself u need to be very prayerful and mindful now, are u working if u are please concentrate well on your work and absorb urself in it,takia of ur kids DONT EVER THINK OF DIVORCE AGAIN,OR SUCIDE,rember ur kids will suffer if u consider any of it,dont even mind ur husband again or his randy attitude.if he like let him marry all the woman on earth ,they will come and be slave to ur childeren so forget all this luv and tot he was a perfect man. am telling you this cuz ur case is similar to my mum case so tey my dad befriend my mum bestfriends , u know wat my grand mum will say ,she will tell my mum to face her work dat we children are her husband my mum is still in my father house oo and where are all the women now they are no where to be found after they chop money finsih,is it the house he built or the car he bought for them ,abeg carry husband matter comot ur head and leave happy , YOUR CHILDREN ARE UR JOY just -perform ur duty as a wife and mother , the lord will uplift u himself.he never fails.just forget forcus more on ur work and pray it will sort itself out. maybe cuz i be muslim o and islam permit polygamy dat why am not expectinh much from men , av told my husband to be abeg marry as much as u want and bring them home why i will kill u young is wen u ask me to stop working ,u wont live to see ur childern doing good ,and he was suprise as anytin . dont care woman if u can u will be happy be strong.
This na real wah !
ReplyDeletePoster, may God help u see d truf!
Every. Marriage has its cross,d'wife is the person directly involved.Dont leave ur husband bcos of an allegation,whether u relocate or pack out,there are others waiting to take over and you didnt do any wrong,why should u make it easy for d'man by giving up.Pls cheer up and watch out while praying for guidance!i tell u GOD answers prayer
ReplyDeleteHmmm, my dear sis, go on your knees and pray. Not ice-cream prayers as my pastor would say. There is definitely something behind your problems. Pray that God should reveal it.
ReplyDeleteNa wa for all these marriage issues. 3yrs of marriage, cheating issues right from day one. I no do again, I want a divorce and am not interested love again 2. No man is worth the stress o jare. Those of you saying another will come n take over, let her come and take o. I no do again. @poster, its not enough to commit suicide. Its just enough to decide the way forward. Make hay while the sun shines. Make I go find handwork cos I aint leaving my baby behind for anybori.
ReplyDeleteLife is too short to commit suicide
ReplyDeletedear poster,hw can u b tinkin of divorce rite now?wat wud happen 2 d kids?..do u want d devil 2 hv d upper hand?...my dear,pls work on ur marriage -2ru prayers & fasting!...ladies shud stop wasting precious time by comin 2 blogs 4 a solution 2 dier problems,especially when dey know dat God gave dem a brain.dis is d end time dear,& if @ dis time u"re not spiritually alert,den am truly sorry 4 u.my dear,u wont lose ur husband & ur home until u quit(both physically &spiritually). My dear,d devil destroys societies by attackin & destroyn HOMES.pls,dont give up on ur marriage,no matter wat!...even if ur husband impregnates d whole of nollywood,pls STAY & FIGHT 2ru prayers & fasting.pls,keep takin ur husband 4 deliverance until he is finally delivered...lolzzz.Remember,if u leave,some1 out dere is willing 2 come in & dont blame God wen dat happens.LIFE is a battle,be willing 2 fight if u want 2 live!....pls buy Our daily manna(ODM) &war against Haman(WAH).peace.
ReplyDelete'Sighs'
DeleteUntil I hear people encouraging men to pray and fast for their marriages and loose wives I will not read these sob stories any more.
What is this?
It take TWO to make it work!
Why must women age prematurely fasting year in and year out for unrepentant men?!
When will people advice men to "work on themselves" when their partners are dissatisfied ?
When???!
These are grown ass men with free will!!
Let them take responsibility Abeg
Women should fast for what matters - your betterment! Work, children, promotion!
Abeg
YR- the disgruntled babe.
Hmmm divorce ke? Pls stay put !!! More over we're u re going to might even be worst. Don't walk out on ur marriage for any reasons dear rather work on it... And remember the devil is out there looking for whom to destroy and homes to wreck down.. Remember God dnt support a broken home pray like never before and God will ve his way . Shalom...
ReplyDeletePls go on ur knees n pray.Don't leave ur husband.Pray for him n focus more on ur kids n career.Married men do a lot of silly things, its not new.Pray n watch God intervene for u..
ReplyDeleteFor u to contemplate suicide has really enraged me.Firstly you are a lawyer I thought law is mostly connected with objective reasoning.Why should u not use that as a weapon to forge your way through life? Even in law witchcraft and Satan is not recognized am I lying? I clearly see that u want to let emotions block the truth u see .You still love your husband and you want to forcefully convince yourself that he has to be telling u the truth about the house help issue.Judging from his track record he is a serial womanizer plain and simple. I mightily believe he made passes at the house help period! That made her run away because she couldn't just bite the hand that fed her also she couldn't just get up the courage to face u and tell u what is going on face to face.U should understand that that is a heavy accusation from a young girl.U should have set ur husband up using the house help before confronting him with no evidence.U should have given the girl a recorder or video them with a hidden camera or even a CC Tv without his knowledge. On the other hand your husband had already prepared a good excuse to cover up and u bought it hook,line and sinker u can't beat us men when it comes to damage control. We should stop blaming satan for everything not even u a lawyer should do that. Your husband is a cheat if u can no longer bear it tear it.Deliverance, I dey laugh is it not the same pastors that conduct prayers and deliverance that sleeps with other people's wives without any punishment for them. More so marriage is not a do or die affair if it is not working it is not working.Our African women believe that the bad part of marriage is always meant for them by tradition so they are supposed to bear it,suck it up and not be happy in life.U deserve to be happy in life that is what every human strive for knowingly or unknowingly,happiness! If he can't give u that but the opposite u sure know what to do not kill yourself for him. Lastly know one is what dyeing for ur life is unique live it! Trust me u only live once so would u rather die bcos of ur husband so that he will mourn u for a month and continue womanizing for rest of his live.Trust me ur death won't stop his womanizing.Pls u deserve to enjoy this beautiful thing called life for u and ur kids.
ReplyDeleteGood luck!
Romeo.
Anon 4:30pm and Romeo gbamest gbam! Poster u be lawyer, whr is ur evidence? Don't brk ur marriage till u are double sure and convinced u have reached ur elastic limit. I don't subscribe to living in a marriage full of sadness and having a HBP or even contacting diseases cos of his philandering acts. Commit all to God. Nothin is beyond him. #Belle
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