Ever since I read Hollywood Actor Paul Walker died and left his $25million fortune to his daughter, I've been kind of worried because I'm almost in the same situation.
Paul didn't even leave a single dollar to the parents-who raised him up, his siblings-who helped look after his daughter when he was on set, and his girlfriend of 11 years-since she was a teenager. I mean, even if you leave $1 million each for them, the girl would still be left with $20 million.
Now my story, I'm currently dating a very rich divorcee with 2 kids for almost 3 yrs now and I love him and if he asks me, I'll marry him. I'm a corper so I earn around 50k (19k from Govt and about 30k from the school I teach). ....he gives me everything.My question is, should I be worried about dating and marrying guys with kids (some as much as 6 kids) knowing that his kids would always come first and take everything, or should I start going for the younger guys without baggage?
*Go for a guy who loves you and treats you right...Paul Walker probably didn't amend his will....who knows?
he must have really loved his child,you cannot compete with your spouse' love for their kids.
Abeg forget oyibo, 9ja men no dey too write will. Just make sure he marries you in court and everything he owns automatically becomes yours.
ReplyDeleteAnty Stella has said it all!
DeletePs. Don't go around looking for the perfect man. In due time, he would find you. Just keep an open mind about it, kids or not divorced or not. When a man wants to be evil to a lady, his status is immaterial.
ignorance at naija man no dey write will. for the poor ones correct. the rich ones write them wella.
DeleteYeah..i agree wit u stella..he will always put his kids first no matter what
ReplyDeleteI think u shldnt eat wif ur 10 fingers, start saving up... Don't depend on dis man's money, if he leaves some of his wealth for u, fine, if he doesn't, u r secured...#bewise#
DeleteGoodwill thingz.........
ReplyDeleteWell, madame poster. I wouldn't as much as worry about my parents will even though am entitled to it, now or in the future. So also. I wouldn't shrug over my partner's properties. Because they are His and our kid's, not mine to worry. Rather, I would concern myself with what I can personally accrue to make my life worthwhile now, and to also leave my kids in the future. If after all is said and done, my hubby and folks decide to leave me their stuffs no matter how little, I would consider it a bonus ...but not my entitlement. After all...My kids will inherit it at some point later.
DeleteWell, maybe I speak this way because no material stuff ever appeals to me as such. That is why I work hard to afford whatever I wish. You''ll be shocked to know that some men pay attention to the ways their wives handle their financial affairs, so that they can know how she'll manage their if they left all behind.
So dear...if I were you I'll concentrate on NOW, and not bother about somebody else's properties. And who says he'll die before you anyway? I don't wish u dead o,but it's a fact that we must admit. Godspeed
Stella this will thing is a huge issue.
ReplyDeleteHow do I even get my hubby to write a will without him thinking I wish him death.
I've asked that we insure our lives before n he said so u can be blessed with millions of pounds at my demise?
I just quit asking cos it's so delicate an issue considering we are both young.
You have succeeded in fooling us about your true identity.
DeleteHeheheehe!
DeleteIs stella dimoko korkus ur solicitor?
Nsogbu dikwa!
Please ask Dr Nnenna or better still
Ask barr. emeka.
Wat da heck 're u up to now ?
Life insurance for a self-proclaimed "Immortal" like U?
Doesn't make sense!
Ur husby don smell foul play..
hence his dissaproval
Ochi atogbuo m,
see as u tek fall below dat ur self-imposed standard!
Again, Ask Dr. Nnenna !
M-amie AKA Mrs-my-marriage-is-so-perfect-my-husband-married-me-the-very-day-he-saw-me. Isn't everything perfect anymore?
DeleteOoops!!
Lmao @ "millions of pounds at his demise"
DeleteM-amie, You are jonzing yourself.
Quit telling your hubby that. No need instilling the fear of death in him.
DeleteAs for Paul Walker, he never knew his parents would outlive him and like Stella said, he never bothered to amend his will.
Dear poster, truth is your hubby's kids will always be his priority. When you start having kids, then yours will also join in his priority. All you can do is empower yourself financially and be positively minded.
M-amie, I don't like u, buh I think u deserve a good advise, Start saving up, don't eat all he gives u....I think everyone shld know dat, der r times ur hubby may go broke n he ll need u to support him, start saving peeps...Insurance companies r not as bad as we think....#plsbewise#
DeleteHow about you writing your own will too. Is it only men that can write wills? work hard for your money and stop relying of inheritance.
DeleteThanks @Tinu, help me tell her again Ooooooo
DeleteOluyomi hunn-- see y I love u. I quit already!
DeleteLuskii--you shlda known I'm d last person begging to be loved on a blog filled with faceless n nameless pipo like u.
This is d only place I can express my ignorance,shame,grace n fears cos we r all anonymous.
Quit being on my case already cos I'd never bend.
I still remain pretty,silky skinned Mamie
That Will was too unfair to many people, meaning his Daughter was his world,
ReplyDeletePoster, since he's going to Marry you and u would probably have kids for him, your kids will be part of his will too if u get exempted.
But wait o, why are u bothering about will when u haven't married him yet? Are u planning something eveil after marriage? He takes care of you, u earn little too, why are u bothered about the unknown when the present is perfect? Unless you have ulterior motives focus on his love and live your life to the fullest, forget about will and inheritance, just because he's older doesn't mean he must go 1st. Live your life each day as it comes.
Paul walker's will must have been very old, he probably didn't know he will die so soon hence no recent ammendments to include other people.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, u need to find out if you love this man cos I can see you keep stressing on how he gives you everything.
If you are just content with him being your financial blanket, then also be ready for any slight change that comes with marriage. What if the money doesn't appear again as usual wen you tie the knots?
Marriage is different from boy friend-girlfriend
Stellastika! U r on fire today with posts ohh...Keep it up babe.
ReplyDeleteU must have kids for him to partake of his wealth or else u're on ur own, No man wld give a wife his fortune knowing full well he has kids. Don't be deceived o only in cases of juju...Lol
ReplyDeletePaul walker didn't give his parent a penny? Are u going to include your parents name in your will? Ok I see,u hope to die before them. MtchwwWww nonsense
ReplyDeleteI love it that you are proud of ur profession.
DeleteA Very Very intelligent comment i must say
DeleteBest comment ever!....#firstprostitutewithsense#....lol
DeleteBest comment ever!....#firstprostitutewithsense#....lol
DeleteOne of the most intelligent comments ever on this blog
DeleteEvery girl here is saying give birth for him dont u know its not compulsory to add ur child in your will
DeleteThe parents were doing their duty, the siblings should have their own money so the only person he owes is his daughter and wife if he was married......girlfriend is at ur risk
ReplyDeleteI agree with stella. Why not concentrate on building your own little egg nest instead of getting worried about a man's inheritance.
ReplyDeleteI don't like men with bags and baggages sha o! From the outside, it looks like it ain't gonna be so bad. But when you get in, woohoo! you begin to fight for attention. The man at some point gets fed up of trying to please step mum(you) and his kids equally, not to talk of when you have your own kids. You begin to fault why he bought your child only 1 dress and his children 2 each.
ReplyDeleteIssokay! Experience is the best teacher, but try to learn from others experience, don't experiment with yourself.
#okbye
Ode!so u tink paul walker wanted 2 die b4 his parents?bawo l'eyin eyan shey maa nronu?
ReplyDeleteHaha
DeleteLmao! As in! Who are you that he should include you in his will? His siblings should work hard for their own money, I'm sure somewhere along the line he woud have given them cash and gifts along the line. Same goes for the girlfriend. Save up the money he's giving joor. Rubbish
DeleteStella is ryt @ poster. Besides he is a divorcee not a widower so d x-wife will fyt u wif everythinq she has.
ReplyDeleteIs it money you want or love?
ReplyDeleteyou sound like u are in the relationship for money that is why u are thinking of what u can get if he dies and not how to work and make it for yourself.....long hiss
ReplyDeleteAnty stella not all stories are worthy to be posted on your blog.
ReplyDeletecos this chick don't have a story to tell.
next plsssssssss
The main reason why it's good for Ladies to establish themselves instead of looking and hoping to get something off the man they are with...I'm sure if u start saving and have something that brings in more income, you wouldn't be worried about a man's will. That doesn't mean the man do not love you...my two cent
ReplyDeleteFrom a fellow woman
I don't really blame Paul Walker cos his death was sudden unlike Mandela who I learnt left half of his estate for d 3rd wife. Someone might sit there n say he started dating his gf when she was a teenager bla bla bla,let's be realistic,no1 would want his/her bro to bequeath his properties to a gurl he isn't married to. If I were a dude sef,there'd be a limited amt I'd spend on a gurl unless am married to her. Besides,how are we sure there weren't properties he may have gotten for d babe during d time dey were together?
ReplyDeleteThis just brings us to my point_a woman should be able to make something outta her life,not necessarily depending on wot a man is gonna leave behind when he dies. If ur lucky n d dude is a celeb or wotever,u can as well use his status to improve ur brand n increase ur market value n make an impact,if like u said he's rich,start using part of his wealth at ur disposal to make useful investments am not talking abt getting urself designer shoes,bra,bla bla bla oh rather than sitting there waiting for wot u'll get when he dies cos u can't keep a man from loving n wanting to secure his children's future by leaving 'em wot he acquired. *dropsmic**
Mandela didn't leave half his Estate to his 3rd wife, its d Law, according to their marriage Act dat the current wife ll inherit half of his estate!
DeleteAjuju uwa!
ReplyDeletePlz go for the guy who loves you...so ur concern is what you will gain from your husbands death?
ReplyDeleteInstead of thinking of what you will gain when your husband passes away, you should think of building yourself a very good future, so you don't have to bother wen your husband passes away..
plus how are you sure you won't die before your hubby??
I agree with Stella. Go for the one that loves and treats you right. Some young guys without baggage would make you regret the day you were born. Some older men with baggage would make you thank God for your life. But in all things be wise.
ReplyDeleteNaija gehls like better ti, better collect all u can now, u don't know 2morrow, as paul walker Babe
ReplyDeleteHOT GIST HERE
Some ladies sef, do what makes you happy, marry him if he proposes if that will make you happy. Why do women think men will die first? What if you marry him and die before him nko? Free your mind and dont worry your head about how he will share his money. That reminds me, do you know you can make your own money and leave it to your own kids when you die? Dont have eyes for a man's money, make your own money. YES YOU CAN.
ReplyDeleteThat is the world's greatest dad, Only God come's before my children. That is exactly what i have done for my children, i have even bought them homes. I have the world's greatest children.
ReplyDeleteHmm....biko. let him marry you first then you can discuss Will. But make sure you have a court wedding.
ReplyDeleteBreezy
Is only a lazy man that fights or wait for inheritance. Why not work so that others can depend on ur inheritance
ReplyDeletedickon will be joining the cast of days of our lives dickon will be playing as Nicholas alamain in days of our lives dickon will be replacing actor cody longo in days of our lives
ReplyDeleteLazy girl
ReplyDeleteshould I be worried about...... with kids (some as much as 6 kids)
ReplyDelete?????
Taaah! Gbafuo hia! Who does dat?
@ Poster, u 'r obviously not dating him
bcos u love him as u claimed but for
the benefits.
He hasnt popped d'big question
yet & u v already said yes (aiming for his pocket)
Y u de panik sef? shey he's divorced, he has no second hand value.
Jst kiddin
So, wat do u want? Marriage (@all cost), Love,or money.
Get ur priority straight!
As for me, the house is full already,
wetin i de go find dia.
I am a strong believer of 'let divorcees marry themselves'. you are too young for this. You are not even financially independent so how do you know if you can handle all these baggage when he stops giving you money?
ReplyDeleteWorking in d insurance industry has exposed me to d way "a lot" of Nigeria men think. Several of the men I've had to do business with, no matter how old they are, list their kids as their next of kin.
ReplyDeleteWhen I suggest their wives, some of them are lyk, "so dat wen I die, she'll squander my money with anoda man?" I've heard dis more tyms dan I can remember. Some list their siblings.
I am all for ladies working and earning their living, husband nor not. Cos u'll neva see dat will until he's dead and buried. Forget "his money is our money mentality o", women if u r married and u aint seriously saving up, d sooner u start, d beta. To avoid stories that touch d heart.
Emem
Shameful! Interesting how his money is"his" money and not our money. So I guess a wife is simply there to serve the purpose of making babies and tending to their physical needs to these men.
DeleteA single woman who has no children has no business taking on a man with six children, especially if she has youth on her side. It is better for a young woman to go make like with a man together as one, building their own legacy together. Marriage is not all about love, and love alone is not enough to make a marriage work, you must be practical and sensible and make sure your choices are beneficial to YOU. Ask yourself, what is there for me to gain by marrying a man with multiple children?
DeleteIf you want to marry this rich divorcee then you make sure that there is a prenuptial agreement in place that clearly states what you will get in the event of a divorce. Make sure he buys you a property of your own, or put your name on the title of the house you will be living in together. Nobody wants to talk about these practical things when they are in love, but they must be addressed.